Getting After It

Episode 201 feels like the beginning of a new season for Getting After It.

After 200 episodes, I've been thinking a lot about what growth actually costs. We spend so much time talking about becoming stronger, healthier, more disciplined, better spouses, better parents, and better people. But we don't talk enough about what has to be left behind.

In this episode, I share some lessons I've learned from marriage, running, moving to Utah...

Episode 200. I started this show with one microphone, a laptop, and no real idea what I was doing.

This one is harder to record than a race recap. My testosterone is back down to 136, and I feel it. Workouts that used to be warm-ups wipe me out now. On the hard days, my mind whispers things I'd rather not hear. Underneath all of it: I'd been treating my output as my identity.

I walk through five lessons from the last hundred episodes...

Ally likes to do hard things in hard seasons. Which is why she competed in a Hyrox while being 26 weeks pregnant.

She went in without a watch, without a time goal, and without a plan. Her only job was to finish. Running had been wrecking her pelvis for months. The week before the race she ran eight miles and could barely walk for three days after. She taped up her belly with KT tape, asked a stranger in the warm-up area what weights...

In this episode, I talk about the story of ultrarunner, firefighter, father, and author Andy Glaze.

Andy's book, Smile, or You're Doing It Wrong, is about far more than running. It's a story of addiction, trauma, recovery, fatherhood, and rebuilding a life after hitting rock bottom.

What stood out to me wasn't the miles he has run. It was the mindset he developed along the way.

I talk about why movement can help people heal, the diffe...

Last week at Pattern Accelerate, I snuck into a talk from James Lawrence because I wanted to hear what drives someone to complete 101 Ironmans in 101 days.

I expected another motivational speech.

Instead, I walked away thinking hard about human potential, suffering, discipline, and the stories we tell ourselves when things get uncomfortable.

In this episode, I break down a few lessons that stayed with me:

• Why most limits are mental b...

"This is no time for ease and comfort. It is the time to dare and endure."

Winston Churchill said that in January of 1940. I've been thinking about it for three days, and it isn't about World War II for me. It's about a 5 a.m. alarm I let slip. It's about a race I keep almost signing up for.

This episode is what happens when one line from a Churchill biography exposes the gap between the version of you that you say you are, and the v...

Most people think discipline is about pain tolerance. I don't think that's entirely true anymore.

You don't quit the things you want because they hurt. You quit because they got boring. After my last ultra in October, I pulled the next race off my calendar and dropped into six months of pure maintenance mode. 

No countdown. No target. Shoes on the couch and the version of me who didn't want to lace them up. This episode is what ...

Most people treat fear like a stop sign. They call it wisdom. They call it patience. It's usually neither.

Fear shows up before everything worth doing.

The race you've been avoiding, the conversation you keep postponing, the thing you've been circling for years. The problem isn't the fear. It's that you've never learned to read it. 

Fear comes in two forms, and if you can't tell them apart, you'll spend your life retreating from ...

I set out to run a half marathon this weekend. I made it ten miles. My leg told me to stop. And for once, I listened. That didn’t sit well with me.

I’m doing everything right right now. I’m running my miles. I’m lifting. I’m stretching. I’m eating well. I ended the week at forty seven miles. And still, something feels off.

That’s what this episode is about.

What do you do when you’re put...

I trained for a sub-three marathon, hit it, and spent the next several weeks barely able to walk without my hips locking up. I did everything right. Trained hard, stayed consistent, crossed the finish line. My body broke down anyway.

This episode is about what I got wrong, what the research says about training volume and long-term durability, and why most runners are one bad training block away from learning this the hard way.

You'll...

Most people quit their habits right before they start working.

I recorded this episode after watching a close friend pull himself out of a year of isolation. He started with small inputs. A walk outside. A phone call. A real meal. He stacked them day after day, and slowly, he's coming back.

That experience forced me to confront something I have lived through myself. The habits that keep you steady rarely feel like progress. They feel...

Most people never make the choice. They tell themselves they're being patient, being strategic. But if you get honest, it's fear wearing a responsible disguise.

In this episode, I walk through the myth of Achilles and why his story maps almost perfectly onto the war most of us are fighting right now. The choice he made. The rage that pulled him off the battlefield. The friend he lost that finally moved him. And the heel he knew abou...

January 2023. Start line. Wrong shoes. One unofficial training run to my name. I ran the half marathon anyway and it taught me more than any race I was actually prepared for.

This episode is about the lie of readiness. The way "I'm not ready yet" becomes the most sophisticated excuse high achievers use to avoid starting the things that matter. 

I share three stories: a race I ran before I understood how racing worked, a job I qu...

I spent most of my life trying to outrun suffering. A brutal 24-mile training run, months of unexplained illness in my early twenties, and a long fight with depression taught me I had it backwards.

Suffering is not the obstacle. It is the work.

In this episode I break down what suffering is actually for; why most people either avoid it entirely or grind through it without collecting what it owes them, and what changes...

I crossed the finish line at 2:56 and couldn't walk right for weeks. Sub-three marathon, shot hip flexors, and a lesson I should have learned a long time before that parking lot.

Going fast has a price tag. You just don't see it at the finish line.

In this episode I'm getting honest about three places I went out too hard too early: a race, a training block, and this podcast, and what each of them cost me. This is about learning to te...

You're not stuck. You know exactly what you need to do, you just haven't decided to do it yet. And that's costing you more than you think.

In this episode, I take you inside one of the most pivotal moments of my life: a hotel room in Hollywood, California, where the weight of months of avoidance brought me to my knees. What happened next changed everything, because I finally made the decision I'd been walking past for months.

I dig i...

There is a version of you that already knows what it needs to do. 

It knows the race to sign up for, the conversation you've been avoiding, the thing you keep circling. It's waiting on the other side of something uncomfortable.

The hard things are coming whether you're ready or not. The only question is whether you've been training for them — or hiding from them. 

In this episode, I'm getting into something I think abo...

The reason you can't do the hard thing isn't motivation. You can't sit still, and that reflex is quietly eroding your capacity to do anything that matters.

In this episode, I break down why distraction is pain management, not a focus problem, and what it actually costs you to keep reaching for the escape hatch. 

From a long training run at mile 10 where the boredom hit hard, to walking through New York and watching hundreds of p...

You haven't lost your discipline. You've lost your energy. And those are two completely different problems that require two completely different solutions.

In this episode, I'm getting honest about where I am right now — mentally drained from work, fighting to hold on to the habits that used to come easy — and what I'm learning about why discipline actually breaks down. Not the surface-level stuff. The real reason. The o...