April 2, 2025 • 9 mins
Does your life revolve around your job? 'The Big Show' discusses what meaning our lives have outside the work place.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hey, I will say there is one topic we can
bring up from last night's Broadway musical we saw with
Darren Chris. Yeah, and it has to do with I'm
afraid to say, I don't gonna give anything away.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Okay, you do it, Okay.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
So I mean the whole premise of it is about
retired helper bots and what they're doing with their lives
and you know, all that kind of stuff, and it
really makes you think about your identity in relation to
your career, what you're doing when your job ends, when
your career ends, if you retire, whatever it is you
get laid off, how much of your identity is wrapped
(00:45):
into that? Who are you without your career?
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Right?
Speaker 4 (00:48):
It's a lot to think about, and I think especially
in what we do, and I know it translates to
so many other things, but I only know us with
what we do. I've seen so many spirals after someone
is not doing this specific job anymore because they tied
so much of their identity into what they did every
day for a paycheck.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
And it was just something to think about, Yeah, what
are you without that? So kind of a heady topic.
But yeah, in the entertainment world. Yeah, let's see, you
just live to be on stage with lights on you
and the the applause, and you love the craft and
you love working with other actors, and then all of
a sudden you can't do it anymore.
Speaker 5 (01:26):
Yeah. Well, that's kind of like Sunset Boulevard, the whole
concept of Sunset Bulevard. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, spirally, then you gotta ask Bobby Flay, No, true,
why are you laughing?
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Wait?
Speaker 5 (01:38):
What are we ask?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Let's say let's say you were no longer to step
into a kitchen ever again, you're no longer going to
make a living at doing that, or restaurants or cookbooks
or anything TV shows that have to do with food,
you know. And it has nothing to do with money.
This has to do with satisfaction in life. What's left?
(02:03):
That's why I tell you this isn't only This isn't
only about people who are retiring. It's about people who
are fired or for whatever reason, can't do it anymore.
A lot of people being laid.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Off athletes if they get hurt exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
So, your identity is so so intertwined with what you
do for a living. Yeah, plan exactly. So I tell
the story a lot, and it's about retirement, but it
could be relatable to anyone losing their job for any
reason or leaving it. My mom and dad when they retired,
they really just kind of died on the vine a
little bit. To be perfectly frank with you, They really
(02:37):
just didn't have anything to do in retirement. They always
heard that or retirement sounds great, It wasn't. They just
kind of sat there. And so what happens today? If
you lose this job that you work so hard to
get and you put everything into it, it was your
passion continues to be your passion. You think you're going
to move on with it, and you're not. What happens
(02:58):
to your identity? What happens to you.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
My mom's a really good example with this because she's
the positive end, right, Like my dad passed away, you know,
she moved to a new location, she got all new friends,
you know, and at first it was very tough, and
she lost her identity one hundred percent. She had just
retired and didn't know what to do. Now she's got
more friends than she knows what to do with. She's
always involved with something in you know, the community. Next
(03:24):
week she's going to Ireland with Scotland with friends. Like
she's living her life and I'm so proud of her
and it makes me feel great because you know, you.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Worry about that.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
You know.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Well, let's say a really good friend of yours though,
who is in their twenties. Yeah, everything they wanted in
life they can't have anymore. What do they do?
Speaker 5 (03:42):
That happen with Anthony Ramos? Yeah, he was supposed to
be a baseball player, all his eggs in that basket,
got an injury, couldn't do it. Somebody came to him,
his music teacher, and said, you're very talented, and his
whole life took a turn.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
There you go.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Well, we talk about this all the time. It's so
important to pretty much like diversify your personal portfolio and
do more than just that thing you're getting paid to do.
It's important to have hobbies and have friends and make
good connections with people outside of that thing that gives
you a paycheck. Because we are in this society where
everything is so career driven and focused, and you know,
(04:15):
everything is about who you are, is what you do,
but that's not actually who you are. That's a part
of who you are, and I think we need to
do a way better job of focusing on more parts
to us than.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Just that career aspect. Yeah, give yourself a lot more
credit than you do. Maybe you've got a lot of
stuff in there, but you got to mine it, you
got to go dig in for it. So something to
think about. So that's that's one of the takeaways we
had from Darren Chris last night. And the musical great
music in this thing by the way. Nice, Oh Nate, Nate,
(04:48):
are you still thinking about doing the Alaskan Pipeline?
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I really am, I really so. I've been watching the
Pit right, which is excellent. I know it's on your list, Elvis.
And prior to doing what I'm doing now, I wanted
to be a doctor. And I know being a doctor
is not like a TV show. I know that one
million percent, but it makes it is reignited that passion
(05:12):
for me in thinking about what would have happened if
I had chosen that career path. And uh, it's a
great conversation you guys just had. I was raptured by
in raptured.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Raptured. Yeah, okay, so go ahead, Well.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
What would we all do if we weren't here. How
much would that impact?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
No, no, no, I'm going to do it now when
we are okay, okay, you can't guess you can. There's
a character on the show.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
She's a forty two year old divorced woman with a baby.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Oh so are you.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
But you're starting at a square one negative one right, Yeah, okay,
I've seen the show. I was like eight to twelve years. Okay,
you could do it totally.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
You could ride around with the Ambulans be an ems
guy like you do you do that? See, you have
the foundation already there. Do what I don't know. I
don't garden.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
You know what I'm saying, farm.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Man, I don't know. God, I got soybean, I got soybees.
We're raising soy beeees. You'd be a great farmer.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
The guy in Green Acres didn't start until he was
in his forties.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Oliver Douglas.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Wait, this is your green Acres from back in the day. Yeah,
green Acres.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
The guy moved his socialite wife from New York City
to the country to get out of Saint alex he's
a socialite husband. You take him out there, you get
a tractor. I'll buy a tractor from mister Haney, Yeah,
Sam Drunker at the store.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yes, what.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
The thing is though, you spend your entire life, your career,
your education, your time, your resources, and all your energy
going in one direction.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
How the hell are you doing about face? How do
you do's?
Speaker 4 (06:54):
It's important to think about not doing everything in this
one direction and think about the other things that are
good for you. If if you lost this job today,
it's a very likely possibility with what we do. But
you walk in tomorrow and your key card doesn't work,
we all know that. Then who are you?
Speaker 2 (07:08):
What do you do? I gotta figure that out. You
better start figuring that out here out because you know
I'm out of here.
Speaker 5 (07:14):
Some time's a ticken.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
I've gone way too many warnings to make it past
next year.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I know, giving your heads up for years, I've been
quitting this job from over a decade.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Yes, don't scare me.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
I don't even think I work here anymore.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I will.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
I think I resigned, and I don't even think they're
paying me anymore.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Off space, I just shut up.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
I just I'm in the basement work and I don't
think I work here anymore. I really don't mean, you know,
It's like in sixth sense. He was dead all along.
I don't think I'm unemployed the entire time. Penny Penny
is in Madison. How you doing, Penny? What's going on? Hey?
Speaker 1 (07:53):
I love you guys. I'm so glad I get to
talk to you today.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Well, thank you, thank you so much. So how are
you merging into this conversation we're having.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
So? I had a job a few years ago that
I was there for a very very long time, and
it was very similar to you guys. You have it's
a family for you, right the people you work with,
and that was that job for me. It was a
big family and I loved everything about it until I
lost it and I didn't know what to do with myself.
I was like a mess. I'm mourning it every day
(08:20):
because I didn't have that family that was a part
of it. I was really angry with myself because I
didn't take the time to do more outside of work.
And so I took that as a lesson and so
my new role that I'm doing something very similar. I
decided to also take that into my community. So I
joined a local community organization where I can do that
(08:42):
outside of the day job, so that I know that
even if I lose this job, I don't lose who
I am as a person.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
That is exactly what we're talking to.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Job.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Absolutely, that's awesome.
Speaker 4 (08:52):
And I think the concept of work family is so
fascinating because it definitely feels like that when you're in it.
But I'm sure Nate knows this and probably Froggy two.
I have been places where I thought we were all
best friends and we're a family. You work together all
day every day. Yeah, when I move, we're still going
to continue this relationship, and we certainly didn't. I tried,
you know, I thought, oh, we're all besties, and then
(09:12):
you learn, well, no, we all got paid to show
up and do what we did, and we did a
good job of it. But are they going to be
there for the big events of my life later?
Speaker 1 (09:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
And that's why it's important to really focus on your
real life.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
There you go, Penny, thank you so much for calling.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Penny for your thoughts.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Yeah, thank you Penny with thoughts. Thank you
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hey, I will say there is one topic we can
bring up from last night's Broadway musical we saw with
Darren Chris. Yeah, and it has to do with I'm
afraid to say, I don't gonna give anything away.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Okay, you do it, Okay.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
So I mean the whole premise of it is about
retired helper bots and what they're doing with their lives
and you know, all that kind of stuff, and it
really makes you think about your identity in relation to
your career, what you're doing when your job ends, when
your career ends, if you retire, whatever it is you
get laid off, how much of your identity is wrapped
(00:45):
into that? Who are you without your career?
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Right?
Speaker 4 (00:48):
It's a lot to think about, and I think especially
in what we do, and I know it translates to
so many other things, but I only know us with
what we do. I've seen so many spirals after someone
is not doing this specific job anymore because they tied
so much of their identity into what they did every
day for a paycheck.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
And it was just something to think about, Yeah, what
are you without that? So kind of a heady topic.
But yeah, in the entertainment world. Yeah, let's see, you
just live to be on stage with lights on you
and the the applause, and you love the craft and
you love working with other actors, and then all of
a sudden you can't do it anymore.
Speaker 5 (01:26):
Yeah. Well, that's kind of like Sunset Boulevard, the whole
concept of Sunset Bulevard. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, spirally, then you gotta ask Bobby Flay, No, true,
why are you laughing?
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Wait?
Speaker 5 (01:38):
What are we ask?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Let's say let's say you were no longer to step
into a kitchen ever again, you're no longer going to
make a living at doing that, or restaurants or cookbooks
or anything TV shows that have to do with food,
you know. And it has nothing to do with money.
This has to do with satisfaction in life. What's left?
(02:03):
That's why I tell you this isn't only This isn't
only about people who are retiring. It's about people who
are fired or for whatever reason, can't do it anymore.
A lot of people being laid.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Off athletes if they get hurt exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
So, your identity is so so intertwined with what you
do for a living. Yeah, plan exactly. So I tell
the story a lot, and it's about retirement, but it
could be relatable to anyone losing their job for any
reason or leaving it. My mom and dad when they retired,
they really just kind of died on the vine a
little bit. To be perfectly frank with you, They really
(02:37):
just didn't have anything to do in retirement. They always
heard that or retirement sounds great, It wasn't. They just
kind of sat there. And so what happens today? If
you lose this job that you work so hard to
get and you put everything into it, it was your
passion continues to be your passion. You think you're going
to move on with it, and you're not. What happens
(02:58):
to your identity? What happens to you.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
My mom's a really good example with this because she's
the positive end, right, Like my dad passed away, you know,
she moved to a new location, she got all new friends,
you know, and at first it was very tough, and
she lost her identity one hundred percent. She had just
retired and didn't know what to do. Now she's got
more friends than she knows what to do with. She's
always involved with something in you know, the community. Next
(03:24):
week she's going to Ireland with Scotland with friends. Like
she's living her life and I'm so proud of her
and it makes me feel great because you know, you.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Worry about that.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
You know.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Well, let's say a really good friend of yours though,
who is in their twenties. Yeah, everything they wanted in
life they can't have anymore. What do they do?
Speaker 5 (03:42):
That happen with Anthony Ramos? Yeah, he was supposed to
be a baseball player, all his eggs in that basket,
got an injury, couldn't do it. Somebody came to him,
his music teacher, and said, you're very talented, and his
whole life took a turn.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
There you go.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Well, we talk about this all the time. It's so
important to pretty much like diversify your personal portfolio and
do more than just that thing you're getting paid to do.
It's important to have hobbies and have friends and make
good connections with people outside of that thing that gives
you a paycheck. Because we are in this society where
everything is so career driven and focused, and you know,
(04:15):
everything is about who you are, is what you do,
but that's not actually who you are. That's a part
of who you are, and I think we need to
do a way better job of focusing on more parts
to us than.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Just that career aspect. Yeah, give yourself a lot more
credit than you do. Maybe you've got a lot of
stuff in there, but you got to mine it, you
got to go dig in for it. So something to
think about. So that's that's one of the takeaways we
had from Darren Chris last night. And the musical great
music in this thing by the way. Nice, Oh Nate, Nate,
(04:48):
are you still thinking about doing the Alaskan Pipeline?
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I really am, I really so. I've been watching the
Pit right, which is excellent. I know it's on your list, Elvis.
And prior to doing what I'm doing now, I wanted
to be a doctor. And I know being a doctor
is not like a TV show. I know that one
million percent, but it makes it is reignited that passion
(05:12):
for me in thinking about what would have happened if
I had chosen that career path. And uh, it's a
great conversation you guys just had. I was raptured by
in raptured.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Raptured. Yeah, okay, so go ahead, Well.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
What would we all do if we weren't here. How
much would that impact?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
No, no, no, I'm going to do it now when
we are okay, okay, you can't guess you can. There's
a character on the show.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
She's a forty two year old divorced woman with a baby.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Oh so are you.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
But you're starting at a square one negative one right, Yeah, okay,
I've seen the show. I was like eight to twelve years. Okay,
you could do it totally.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
You could ride around with the Ambulans be an ems
guy like you do you do that? See, you have
the foundation already there. Do what I don't know. I
don't garden.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
You know what I'm saying, farm.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Man, I don't know. God, I got soybean, I got soybees.
We're raising soy beeees. You'd be a great farmer.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
The guy in Green Acres didn't start until he was
in his forties.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Oliver Douglas.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Wait, this is your green Acres from back in the day. Yeah,
green Acres.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
The guy moved his socialite wife from New York City
to the country to get out of Saint alex he's
a socialite husband. You take him out there, you get
a tractor. I'll buy a tractor from mister Haney, Yeah,
Sam Drunker at the store.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yes, what.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
The thing is though, you spend your entire life, your career,
your education, your time, your resources, and all your energy
going in one direction.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
How the hell are you doing about face? How do
you do's?
Speaker 4 (06:54):
It's important to think about not doing everything in this
one direction and think about the other things that are
good for you. If if you lost this job today,
it's a very likely possibility with what we do. But
you walk in tomorrow and your key card doesn't work,
we all know that. Then who are you?
Speaker 2 (07:08):
What do you do? I gotta figure that out. You
better start figuring that out here out because you know
I'm out of here.
Speaker 5 (07:14):
Some time's a ticken.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
I've gone way too many warnings to make it past
next year.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I know, giving your heads up for years, I've been
quitting this job from over a decade.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Yes, don't scare me.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
I don't even think I work here anymore.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I will.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
I think I resigned, and I don't even think they're
paying me anymore.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Off space, I just shut up.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
I just I'm in the basement work and I don't
think I work here anymore. I really don't mean, you know,
It's like in sixth sense. He was dead all along.
I don't think I'm unemployed the entire time. Penny Penny
is in Madison. How you doing, Penny? What's going on? Hey?
Speaker 1 (07:53):
I love you guys. I'm so glad I get to
talk to you today.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Well, thank you, thank you so much. So how are
you merging into this conversation we're having.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
So? I had a job a few years ago that
I was there for a very very long time, and
it was very similar to you guys. You have it's
a family for you, right the people you work with,
and that was that job for me. It was a
big family and I loved everything about it until I
lost it and I didn't know what to do with myself.
I was like a mess. I'm mourning it every day
(08:20):
because I didn't have that family that was a part
of it. I was really angry with myself because I
didn't take the time to do more outside of work.
And so I took that as a lesson and so
my new role that I'm doing something very similar. I
decided to also take that into my community. So I
joined a local community organization where I can do that
(08:42):
outside of the day job, so that I know that
even if I lose this job, I don't lose who
I am as a person.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
That is exactly what we're talking to.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Job.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Absolutely, that's awesome.
Speaker 4 (08:52):
And I think the concept of work family is so
fascinating because it definitely feels like that when you're in it.
But I'm sure Nate knows this and probably Froggy two.
I have been places where I thought we were all
best friends and we're a family. You work together all
day every day. Yeah, when I move, we're still going
to continue this relationship, and we certainly didn't. I tried,
you know, I thought, oh, we're all besties, and then
(09:12):
you learn, well, no, we all got paid to show
up and do what we did, and we did a
good job of it. But are they going to be
there for the big events of my life later?
Speaker 1 (09:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
And that's why it's important to really focus on your
real life.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
There you go, Penny, thank you so much for calling.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Penny for your thoughts.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Yeah, thank you Penny with thoughts. Thank you
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