We Do Whatever It Takes

We Do Whatever It Takes

We are a Magician & an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and we do whatever it takes to have a thriving marriage. We have tips and tricks to help you do the same! (Disclaimer: this is not therapy and Kimberly is not acting as your therapist on this podcast. If you need therapy, please seek professional help from your mental health provider).

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October 30, 2025 23 mins

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In this episode, Danny and Kimberly unpack the powerful difference between grace and rescuing. Grace means loving with truth—while rescuing means taking responsibility for someone else’s growth. Together they explore what happens when our motivation shifts from love and empathy to fear and control, and how that small shift can quietly lead to resentment and burnout.


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In this special first-ever interview on We Do Whatever It Takes, Danny and Kimberly sit down with longtime friends Joe and Tracy Castañeda to talk about the real, everyday ways grace shows up in marriage. From high school sweethearts to nearly three decades of marriage and ministry, the Castañedas share candidly about the ups and downs of life together, long-distance dating before cell phones, learning to extend “unde...

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Grace isn’t a one-time drop—it’s a daily reload. In this lively, practical, and hope-filled conversation, Danny (magician and pastor) and Kimberly (associate marriage & family therapist) explore how to give and receive fresh grace every day. They unpack why forgiveness is both a process and a choice, bust the “forgive and forget” myth, and share real-life marriage examples—complete with laughter, honesty, and a fe...

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September 25, 2025 20 mins

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Danny Ray (magician & pastor) and Kimberly (AMFT) unpack what real, costly grace looks like in marriage — and why “cheap grace” (Bonhoeffer’s warning) often masquerades as forgiveness while bitterness quietly grows. Drawing on 29 years of marriage (and yes — a very messy paint story), they show how surprising, intentional acts of grace (“grace grenades”) can defuse conflict, invite repentance, and actually transfo...

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September 18, 2025 20 mins

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Welcome back to We Do Whatever It Takes! 🎙️ Danny (magician & pastor) and Kimberly (associate marriage & family therapist) share real-life lessons from 29 years of marriage—plus one very messy paint story—to show how unexpected grace can defuse conflict and build deeper connection.

In this episode you’ll discover:

  • Why Romans 5:8 is the ultimate “grace grenade.”
  • How to break predictable patterns of criticism,...
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September 11, 2025 19 mins

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In this episode of We Do Whatever It Takes, Danny and Kimberly  unpack what it means to practice forgiveness right in the middle of conflict.

Last week we explored how Grace Grenades can disarm fights before they explode. This week, we’re looking at what happens when the hurt runs deeper—and how forgiveness can break the cycle of anger. Using Colossians 3:13 and the Cycle of Anger model, Danny and Kimberly walk through...

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In this episode of We Do Whatever It Takes, Danny Ray and Kimberly dive into the power of Grace Grenades—intentional acts of love and forgiveness that defuse conflict and reset the atmosphere in your marriage.

Theme: You can choose to escalate a fight or disarm it. Grace doesn’t fuel the fire—it smothers it.
Scripture: Proverbs 15:1 — “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
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After a season-long pause, Danny and Kimberly return with fresh energy for Season 5 of We Do Whatever It Takes—and they’re bringing something explosive: Grace Grenades. In this kickoff episode, they unpack the idea of grace as an intentional, disruptive, and powerful choice that diffuses resentment and resets the atmosphere in marriage.

With plenty of laughs (including the  “pants don’t shrink” story and Danny’s improm...

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Discover the secret to a thriving marriage with a twist—imagine your relationship as an iPhone in need of regular updates! Join us, Danny Ray and Kimberly, as we navigate the complexities of wedded bliss with laughter and lessons alike. We promise an enlightening journey that compares the quirks of marital life to the ins and outs of your favorite gadget. From the unique 'apps' each partner offers to the nec...

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Discover the untapped strength within your marriage as we embark on a journey through the rich landscape of marriage metaphors, set to transform the way you view your partnership. Imagine erecting a structure of love and commitment brick by brick, where the mortar of shared values and spirituality cements a bond that can withstand any tempest. Season Four launches with a promise to guide you in crafting a marital...
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April 18, 2024 28 mins

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Ever wonder how  a magic show can teach us about the secrets to a flourishing marriage? Danny Ray, a magician with a twist, and his wife Kimberly, a skilled associate marriage and family therapist, captivate us with their magical formula for marital success. They illuminate the pivotal role of a shared vision in steering a couple through life's unpredictable turns, paralleling the meticulous planning of a magic a...

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Have you ever considered that a successful marriage might just be like perfecting a spellbinding magic act? Allow us to enchant you with our insights as we, Danny Ray, a magician with a knack for the extraordinary, and Kimberly, an insightful associate marriage and family therapist, share our personal 28-year odyssey of love and commitment. Together, we draw astonishing parallels between the awe of a magic show and th...

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Celebrate a milestone with us as we mark our 51st episode by engaging in some of the most transformative questions that can solidify and direct the dreams shared within a marriage. Our conversation unveils how setting aside "dream days" is a crucial strategy for fostering mutual understanding and triumph in each other's aspirations. However, it's not all smooth sailing—I confess to being a "dr...

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Have you ever marveled at the magic of a well-crafted illusion and wondered if that same sense of awe could be infused into your daily life? My partner in crime, Kimberly, and I, Danny Ray, are beyond excited to bring you a very special 50th episode where we reveal the enchanting parallels between the art of magic and the heart-filled journey of marriage. Together, we share insights and playful strategies to brin...
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Have you ever been captivated by the seamless execution of a magic trick, wondering how such a perfect performance came to be? That's the magic of practice and refinement, and my wife Kimberly and I, Danny Ray, are here to reveal how these principles are just as essential in the world of marriage. Join us on a journey through the artistry of trust and forgiveness, as we compare the meticulous practice of a magici...

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Imagine finding joy in the smallest things—like the unexpected gift of rhino socks—just because someone remembered you mentioned rhinos once. That's the kind of magic we, Danny Ray, a magician and pastor, and Kimberly, an associate marriage and family therapist, unwrap in our latest chat. We delve not only into the wonders of magic shows but also into the intimate dance of creating those unforgettable moments in ...

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Waking up groggy and famished, we didn't let our late start stop us from diving into a heart-to-heart about the transformative power of morning rituals in marriage. If crafting the ideal beginning of each day sounds like a puzzle, we're here to help piece it together, sharing how these precious moments can set a harmonious tone for your relationship. Imagine your life as a carefully orchestrated magic show, ...

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Embark on a transformative journey with us as we tackle the enchanting quest of creating magic in our marriages. Imagine a year where every day begins with a shared laugh, a prayer, or a moment that binds; that's the heart of our third season, guiding couples to turn the everyday into extraordinary. We're pulling back the curtain to reveal how intentional goal-setting can lead to profound intimacy and a thri...

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Do you feel a twinge of stress creeping up on you as the holidays approach? We've got your back! Our conversation today is all about managing holiday stress and evolving family dynamics. We share personal experiences and practical tips on how to re-energize old traditions and manifest new ones that reflect the values of your modern family. We also delve into the power of forgiveness and maintaining peace with cha...

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Struggling to keep the joy and peace in your Christmas celebrations amidst all the bustle? We promise to help you navigate the holiday season with tips that will manage stress and expectations. This episode takes you through a journey of 10 significant ideas. We lay emphasis on financial planning, contentment, and joyful giving, not out of obligation, to keep Jesus at the heart of Christmas. 

With the holiday...

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