DJ Envy and Gia Casey stop by the show to discuss their newest book, 'Real Life, Real Family' and the parenting lessons they've learned along the way!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is Elvis Duran and the morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
You know, right down the hallway from where we work
every day is this incredible show called the Breakfast Club
with DJ V and DJ Vy's here today with his
incredible wife and mother of his incredible kids, Gia Casey.
Welcome to the show. Let's talk about your new book. Yes,
this is great.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Thanks for having us real life, real family. It's all
about family. It's all about our kids.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Okay. But here's what I love and I want you
both to address this. You have six children, six kids. Yes,
so you have six different screenplays going on going on here, right?
I mean each each child, each one of your kids
has unique personalities. They have their own issues, their own strengths, weaknesses.
You know, I have two schnauzers. I don't have kids.
(00:47):
I cannot imagine what it's like to have six different
entire universes running around your house.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Elvis, Yes, you can. You work with so many different
people with different personalities, and you know, this one might
be mad, this this wi might be upset, this one
might come in a little moody. So it's it's just
having different personalities in learning how to deal with each
one of those personalities.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Well, I agree with that, but these people you see
in this room, they don't live out of my ass pocket.
They have so Gia, you guys, this is your second book,
and so what was it that told you I think
we have enough and we're ready to put a book
(01:29):
out to talk about the ups and downs and the
triumphs of having kids in a family.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
Well, we have over two decades of experience. We have
children that range from three to twenty three, so twenty three,
twenty one, eleven, ten, eight, and three. So we've encountered
more than most families because we have so many children,
so many different issues, so many different things that come up.
(01:54):
So it was very easy to draw from all of
that experience. Actually, we had more content to put in
the book, but you know, we had a limited page count.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
I can imagine.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
Yes, yes, yes, you usually no, go ahead, Okay.
Speaker 6 (02:10):
So you have a twenty three year old and you
have a three year old. Yes, is it completely different
how you have to raise this three year old now
versus how you had to raise a twenty three year old.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
That was my question because this is this is I'm
because I'm the youngest of three brothers. By the time
I came out of the womb. They're like, just you know,
you can eat off the floor. We don't care.
Speaker 5 (02:30):
That might happen.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
But they were much more strict with my older brothers.
I guess that's where you were going with that, right, Gandhi.
Speaker 6 (02:35):
Well, I'm even talking about just the difference in technology
and life and how much stuff has changed in the
last twenty years. That twenty three year old versus a.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Three year old, And it was no social media with
our twenty three year old, so she didn't grow up
in that age. But our three year old and our eleven, ten,
and eight have to grow up with social media. So
we have to raise them differently. We have to raise
them that they don't go for outside validation.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Right.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
When you look for outside validation, that's when the internet
and social media can really hurt you, right, So we
try to create it that everything comes home. You get
validation from home, you get love from home. If there's
something wrong, if there's a problem, we fix it at home.
When you start reaching out to social media for validation,
we all know social media is an evil place at
times and can really hurt people. And people are talking
(03:17):
suicide and people are talking anxiety, and so many of these,
you know, quote unquote clinical terms, because people can't deal
with it, and we try to raise our kids outside
of that.
Speaker 6 (03:27):
But now to Elvis's question, is three year old allowed
to eat off the floor?
Speaker 4 (03:32):
You know, I have to say, when you become a
first time parent, you want to do everything as closely
to perfect as you can. I was a super mom
my kids. My first two were in six activities at
a time. I wanted to be everything. I wanted them
to do everything. And that's the mentality that a lot
(03:52):
of us moms and some dads go into parenting with.
By the time that you have a couple of more,
let alone six, you realize it's not that serious. It's
now you're not getting graded on being a parent. Ultimately,
what you want to do is raise good people, and
that is the focus of our parenting.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
That's the focus of our book. Just kiss it up
to God.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
I don't know why you're so strict about that. You
used to let that go, but so so being a
single parent or two parents, a two parent family. This
is only about the growth of your kids. This is
about your growth as parents and as people. And at
the same time you're still growing as people. I mean,
and so we get to see all this play out. So, Danielle,
(04:41):
you've got two kids, Yeah, so talk about it.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
I want to know.
Speaker 7 (04:45):
Having six kids, do they take sides with each other
like this one will agree with that one always, and
that one will agree with that one, you know what
I mean, and then gang up against everybody else.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
No, they do a little bit. London does, but but
the rest of them don't. And the reason I say
London doesn't. We actually love this so if one of
her siblings are getting in trouble, she will stand up
for them and start, you know, claiming, you know, protecting them,
claiming the case. Well like, well, actually, Dad, you know
that you actually said this, And I'm like, who side
of you on? I love that part of it because
(05:15):
they ride for each other, which you know this sounds corny.
And I always say that we have a mission statement.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yes, I was gonna say, I love your mission state.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
In the back of the book. We have a mission statement.
And it's not a statement where we put up in
the house and every kid has to read it before
they walk in. It's not like that. It's just something
that we live by that the kids always know what
it is, and like it's we are a unit. We
respect each other, we always have each other's backs, We
always uplift each other and point out the good in
one another. We represent each other at all times. The
(05:44):
purpose of our family is family, fun, and faith. And
the last one is we are each other's soft place
to land. And we live by that as a family.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
And we created that mission statement together as a family.
Speaker 5 (05:55):
I love that.
Speaker 7 (05:55):
What do you do if there's an argument in the house, like,
especially with six kids, how do you get a resolution?
Speaker 4 (06:03):
You know something, I don't think that there's ever been
a time where there's been a ginormous family argument, you know.
I think that most times it's one child may have
an issue or a problem and they bring it to
us and we deal with each child individually. But I
really can't remember a time where there's been a family disagreement,
not at all.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
You know, in hearing it, you tell these stories, and
this is not the first time you've been on and
you talked about your family. You know, you make it
sound really really really cool and really really calm. There's
got to be those moments, those edgy, revved up moments
that you were going to share in this book so
people can go Okay, I can relate. I can sometimes
relate with that as well, where yeah, these do get crazy.
(06:44):
How do you combat to crazy?
Speaker 3 (06:46):
Well, I would say this. You know, my dad is
x retired NYPD and ex military, so he raised me
as is his way of the highway, right. I didn't
have an option. It was like, Dad, can I go out?
Speaker 4 (06:56):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:57):
That was it? Gee?
Speaker 3 (06:58):
It raises is the kid and I get it more
from gear is more patience.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Right.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
She explains why you can't go to the mall, Well
why can I? Well, you can't go to the mall
because there's gonna be a lot of teenagers there. It's
a Friday. It's this she explains the kids everything, So
that develops trust. So now when we say no we
don't want them to go, it's no longer why not
They'd be like, well, if my parents don't want them
to go, there is a reason. And to answer your question,
probably one of the craziest things. And I don't know
(07:24):
what I can say on this show based off what
I can say in the breakfast club, But could you
imagine if your eight year old son comes home and says, hey,
we found a bloody prophylactic at my friend's house and
we had to explain that.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Okay, thank god you did.
Speaker 6 (07:43):
That.
Speaker 7 (07:45):
How do you decide that what you tackle and what
gear tackles?
Speaker 2 (07:48):
I ran?
Speaker 5 (07:50):
I was yet behind, so I had no choice. There
was no one else to do it.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
My son came home talking about a bloody.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I love that. Here's the thing that you say, Gia,
you have the patience to explain things. My parents would be.
Their reasoning would be because I told you so. I right, No,
there's got to be explanation. Well, obviously they didn't want
to take the time at that time. But patience, all right,
that's got to push your patience from time to time.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
I'm a patient person. Now, I'm a patient person. That
might be my superpower. So and I'm so accustomed to
giving that time and giving that attention that it's my
second nature. Hell, it might be my first nature. So no,
And to be honest, I'm genuinely interested in my kids.
I'm genuinely interested. It's so easy for me to sit
(08:49):
down and have an hour or two hour long conversation
about their day. Every day that they come home, I
ask them, well, what was the best part of your
day and what was the worst part of your day,
and what's one kind thing that you did for someone else?
And within those three questions, I get a lot of stories.
I get a lot of stories. And when children feel
paid attention to, they feel loved. Because when you think
(09:10):
about it, it doesn't matter if you're a man, a woman,
or a child. The most addictive thing in this world
is attention. And whether people say it out loud or not,
it's the thing that they crave the most. So when
you give a child attention, the way that they light
up from within, When you lean in and you ask
them questions and you actively listen and you seem enthusiastic
(09:31):
about what they're saying and you laugh at their jokes,
they become confident, they become low stressed. And it's not
just children, you're adult friends the same thing. Sit at
a dinner table across from a friend and when they
tell you a story or they're trying to get an
idea across you actively listen and see how it feeds them.
It's no different with children, but it's more significant with
(09:53):
them because they're just starting to learn themselves and develop
their personalities and develop their confidence. That's what we try
to teach people in this book, I.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Think, and you need your own book, Gia, the Book
of Patience.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I got to tell you, you're calming me down.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Just listen to your voice, that comic voice.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Let me remind everyone. DJ Envy and of course Kia
Casey are here the book. It's Brandon yesterday, it was
born yesterday. It's called real Life, Real Family. That's what
we're talking about. And there you have it. So I
keep saying, Gandhi, let's have a kid, come on, let's
just see what happened.
Speaker 6 (10:28):
It would be a great way to secure the bag.
But I don't think I can do it because I'm
not so patient. I feel like there would be a
moment at Target where I like this kid up and
just scream at them about something, and.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Then we're all screwed. Elsa's baby mama is a horrible person.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
I will say this. I will say this when it
comes to kids. Of course, it's not all sunshine and rainbows,
and there will be times where your child may try
to test you. And if we've had a couple of situations,
Rae Sean has had one outside of a Modell's once
where our oldest daughter Addison, when she was about ten,
tried to show off in front of one of her friends,
and it didn't end very well with her. So what
(11:06):
you said about Target, If I'm in a public place
with my child and they are even teetering on anything disrespectful,
I will reprimand them right there in Target, in front
of whoever is watching, whoever is listening. You're going to
understand that you're going to get it no matter what
the audience is, because you're never going to feel as
though you're in a safe space to disrespect me because
(11:28):
people are around. I don't work, I don't suffer embarrassment. Yes,
I don't suffer from embarrassment.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
It's amazing. What we just said is a very powerful thing.
You just said. I'm paraphrasing. I will never ever be
in a space where you will feel safe making me
feel like crap. Yes, yeah, I'm gonna use it with
these guys here.
Speaker 5 (11:52):
Disrespect.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I did the opposite. Well, my kid was acting up
in Target.
Speaker 7 (11:55):
I remember going, okay, I'm just gonna I took them.
I threw them over my shoulder. I was very calm.
I walked out. I'm sure they had that on camera,
me walking out with them over my shoulder, and then
as soon as I put him in the car and
I closed the door, I'm.
Speaker 5 (12:06):
Like, no, they would have gotten that.
Speaker 4 (12:10):
What the blah blah blah right in aisle thirteen, because
I'm going to turn that embarrassment around on you, and
you are going to know that should you dare to
speak to me in a tone or be disrespectful, you
are going to be thoroughly embarrassed.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
And Mommy doesn't give a bleep.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I feel like, if you do on.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Behalf of yeah, on, behalf of all of us shopping
at Target, well you appreciate the show.
Speaker 7 (12:34):
I just feel like if you do it the way
she does it, like they get it right away, they're
like that to happen again.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
And it always starts with the we do not do this,
We don't do this. My oldest Madison, she got it
at two years old. The first time that she threw
a tantrum. I picked her up, I shook her and
I said, we do not do this. She never threw
another tantrum. And now my three year old, it's taking
a couple more, you know, times to pick her up,
(13:02):
but she's starting to get it. And it's always spoken
in a we, not you. This is our family.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
We are a unit.
Speaker 4 (13:10):
We represent each other, so everything refers back to this
meaningful family that you come from.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
That's right, a scary head of question. The very last
on this team that will ever be a fault. And
I just want to know the grocery shopping look like
for you guys, and you guys have to make compromises.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
Baby, and how much is your bill? Just straight out
as us.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Don't be shy, I'll be honest. Is not allowed to
go grocery shopping.
Speaker 5 (13:39):
This is sue, this is not coming.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
He picks everything that nobody eats. He just wants to
try stuff all the time. So she is not allowed
to go grocery queen.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
That's right.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
I would love that right.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
So she is not allowed.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
So I go grocery shopping, usually with my oldest daughter.
It's like our bonding time. We have certain times with
you know, each individual kids, but that is our bonding time.
And we love to cook, like we are a cooking family.
So when Gia doesn't cook, me and my daughter we
cook together. We cook on Sundays. Gia cooks certain meals.
But we like to cook. But to ask you, we
have to go every week. And the biggest thing is
water and juice.
Speaker 5 (14:13):
Excuse me, you're not answering the question. He said, how much?
Speaker 3 (14:18):
Don't just a question from I would say about nine
hundred to fifteen hundred dollars a week.
Speaker 5 (14:25):
That's a lot of people. It's a lot of people,
and it's a lot of playdates. Yeah, we paste a lot,
a lot of playdates, a lot of If you.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Go to the story, it's twice that much.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
And I don't know about you, but as they get older,
they eat more. Like my two boys. Now, I'm like,
I dont been thing left.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
You ate it all.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
It's crazy.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
Yes, my twenty one year old boy who plays football
at Miami, he eats two entrees, disrespectful.
Speaker 5 (14:51):
Every setting, every sitting, too entrees.
Speaker 4 (14:54):
It's too scary, never grew up.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Well, look, I'm glad you spend time with us. Actually
a response on text is really really positive and awesome.
Obviously we know why because this is a moment with
envy and Gia is always a nice, I feel so calm,
relaxing moment. The book is called Real Life, Real Family.
People are also saying they want to hear it an audible.
It's already produced and it's ready to go.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
You can get it today on Amazon. We narrate it,
and for the audible there is bonus content where, of course,
a friend of ours who's actually our business manager.
Speaker 5 (15:23):
Her name is Mercedes.
Speaker 4 (15:24):
She interviewed our kids without us being there.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Yeah, she interviews all the kids, so you get their perspective.
Truth from the kids, Yes, be true, yes okay, DJ
and Vi Gia, thank you so much real life and
your family such a happy room.
This is Elvis Duran and the morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
You know, right down the hallway from where we work
every day is this incredible show called the Breakfast Club
with DJ V and DJ Vy's here today with his
incredible wife and mother of his incredible kids, Gia Casey.
Welcome to the show. Let's talk about your new book. Yes,
this is great.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Thanks for having us real life, real family. It's all
about family. It's all about our kids.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Okay. But here's what I love and I want you
both to address this. You have six children, six kids. Yes,
so you have six different screenplays going on going on here, right?
I mean each each child, each one of your kids
has unique personalities. They have their own issues, their own strengths, weaknesses.
You know, I have two schnauzers. I don't have kids.
(00:47):
I cannot imagine what it's like to have six different
entire universes running around your house.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Elvis, Yes, you can. You work with so many different
people with different personalities, and you know, this one might
be mad, this this wi might be upset, this one
might come in a little moody. So it's it's just
having different personalities in learning how to deal with each
one of those personalities.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Well, I agree with that, but these people you see
in this room, they don't live out of my ass pocket.
They have so Gia, you guys, this is your second book,
and so what was it that told you I think
we have enough and we're ready to put a book
(01:29):
out to talk about the ups and downs and the
triumphs of having kids in a family.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
Well, we have over two decades of experience. We have
children that range from three to twenty three, so twenty three,
twenty one, eleven, ten, eight, and three. So we've encountered
more than most families because we have so many children,
so many different issues, so many different things that come up.
(01:54):
So it was very easy to draw from all of
that experience. Actually, we had more content to put in
the book, but you know, we had a limited page count.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
I can imagine.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
Yes, yes, yes, you usually no, go ahead, Okay.
Speaker 6 (02:10):
So you have a twenty three year old and you
have a three year old. Yes, is it completely different
how you have to raise this three year old now
versus how you had to raise a twenty three year old.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
That was my question because this is this is I'm
because I'm the youngest of three brothers. By the time
I came out of the womb. They're like, just you know,
you can eat off the floor. We don't care.
Speaker 5 (02:30):
That might happen.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
But they were much more strict with my older brothers.
I guess that's where you were going with that, right, Gandhi.
Speaker 6 (02:35):
Well, I'm even talking about just the difference in technology
and life and how much stuff has changed in the
last twenty years. That twenty three year old versus a.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Three year old, And it was no social media with
our twenty three year old, so she didn't grow up
in that age. But our three year old and our eleven, ten,
and eight have to grow up with social media. So
we have to raise them differently. We have to raise
them that they don't go for outside validation.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Right.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
When you look for outside validation, that's when the internet
and social media can really hurt you, right, So we
try to create it that everything comes home. You get
validation from home, you get love from home. If there's
something wrong, if there's a problem, we fix it at home.
When you start reaching out to social media for validation,
we all know social media is an evil place at
times and can really hurt people. And people are talking
(03:17):
suicide and people are talking anxiety, and so many of these,
you know, quote unquote clinical terms, because people can't deal
with it, and we try to raise our kids outside
of that.
Speaker 6 (03:27):
But now to Elvis's question, is three year old allowed
to eat off the floor?
Speaker 4 (03:32):
You know, I have to say, when you become a
first time parent, you want to do everything as closely
to perfect as you can. I was a super mom
my kids. My first two were in six activities at
a time. I wanted to be everything. I wanted them
to do everything. And that's the mentality that a lot
(03:52):
of us moms and some dads go into parenting with.
By the time that you have a couple of more,
let alone six, you realize it's not that serious. It's
now you're not getting graded on being a parent. Ultimately,
what you want to do is raise good people, and
that is the focus of our parenting.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
That's the focus of our book. Just kiss it up
to God.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
I don't know why you're so strict about that. You
used to let that go, but so so being a
single parent or two parents, a two parent family. This
is only about the growth of your kids. This is
about your growth as parents and as people. And at
the same time you're still growing as people. I mean,
and so we get to see all this play out. So, Danielle,
(04:41):
you've got two kids, Yeah, so talk about it.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
I want to know.
Speaker 7 (04:45):
Having six kids, do they take sides with each other
like this one will agree with that one always, and
that one will agree with that one, you know what
I mean, and then gang up against everybody else.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
No, they do a little bit. London does, but but
the rest of them don't. And the reason I say
London doesn't. We actually love this so if one of
her siblings are getting in trouble, she will stand up
for them and start, you know, claiming, you know, protecting them,
claiming the case. Well like, well, actually, Dad, you know
that you actually said this, And I'm like, who side
of you on? I love that part of it because
(05:15):
they ride for each other, which you know this sounds corny.
And I always say that we have a mission statement.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yes, I was gonna say, I love your mission state.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
In the back of the book. We have a mission statement.
And it's not a statement where we put up in
the house and every kid has to read it before
they walk in. It's not like that. It's just something
that we live by that the kids always know what
it is, and like it's we are a unit. We
respect each other, we always have each other's backs, We
always uplift each other and point out the good in
one another. We represent each other at all times. The
(05:44):
purpose of our family is family, fun, and faith. And
the last one is we are each other's soft place
to land. And we live by that as a family.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
And we created that mission statement together as a family.
Speaker 5 (05:55):
I love that.
Speaker 7 (05:55):
What do you do if there's an argument in the house, like,
especially with six kids, how do you get a resolution?
Speaker 4 (06:03):
You know something, I don't think that there's ever been
a time where there's been a ginormous family argument, you know.
I think that most times it's one child may have
an issue or a problem and they bring it to
us and we deal with each child individually. But I
really can't remember a time where there's been a family disagreement,
not at all.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
You know, in hearing it, you tell these stories, and
this is not the first time you've been on and
you talked about your family. You know, you make it
sound really really really cool and really really calm. There's
got to be those moments, those edgy, revved up moments
that you were going to share in this book so
people can go Okay, I can relate. I can sometimes
relate with that as well, where yeah, these do get crazy.
(06:44):
How do you combat to crazy?
Speaker 3 (06:46):
Well, I would say this. You know, my dad is
x retired NYPD and ex military, so he raised me
as is his way of the highway, right. I didn't
have an option. It was like, Dad, can I go out?
Speaker 4 (06:56):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:57):
That was it? Gee?
Speaker 3 (06:58):
It raises is the kid and I get it more
from gear is more patience.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Right.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
She explains why you can't go to the mall, Well
why can I? Well, you can't go to the mall
because there's gonna be a lot of teenagers there. It's
a Friday. It's this she explains the kids everything, So
that develops trust. So now when we say no we
don't want them to go, it's no longer why not
They'd be like, well, if my parents don't want them
to go, there is a reason. And to answer your question,
probably one of the craziest things. And I don't know
(07:24):
what I can say on this show based off what
I can say in the breakfast club, But could you
imagine if your eight year old son comes home and says, hey,
we found a bloody prophylactic at my friend's house and
we had to explain that.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Okay, thank god you did.
Speaker 6 (07:43):
That.
Speaker 7 (07:45):
How do you decide that what you tackle and what
gear tackles?
Speaker 2 (07:48):
I ran?
Speaker 5 (07:50):
I was yet behind, so I had no choice. There
was no one else to do it.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
My son came home talking about a bloody.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I love that. Here's the thing that you say, Gia,
you have the patience to explain things. My parents would be.
Their reasoning would be because I told you so. I right, No,
there's got to be explanation. Well, obviously they didn't want
to take the time at that time. But patience, all right,
that's got to push your patience from time to time.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
I'm a patient person. Now, I'm a patient person. That
might be my superpower. So and I'm so accustomed to
giving that time and giving that attention that it's my
second nature. Hell, it might be my first nature. So no,
And to be honest, I'm genuinely interested in my kids.
I'm genuinely interested. It's so easy for me to sit
(08:49):
down and have an hour or two hour long conversation
about their day. Every day that they come home, I
ask them, well, what was the best part of your
day and what was the worst part of your day,
and what's one kind thing that you did for someone else?
And within those three questions, I get a lot of stories.
I get a lot of stories. And when children feel
paid attention to, they feel loved. Because when you think
(09:10):
about it, it doesn't matter if you're a man, a woman,
or a child. The most addictive thing in this world
is attention. And whether people say it out loud or not,
it's the thing that they crave the most. So when
you give a child attention, the way that they light
up from within, When you lean in and you ask
them questions and you actively listen and you seem enthusiastic
(09:31):
about what they're saying and you laugh at their jokes,
they become confident, they become low stressed. And it's not
just children, you're adult friends the same thing. Sit at
a dinner table across from a friend and when they
tell you a story or they're trying to get an
idea across you actively listen and see how it feeds them.
It's no different with children, but it's more significant with
(09:53):
them because they're just starting to learn themselves and develop
their personalities and develop their confidence. That's what we try
to teach people in this book, I.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Think, and you need your own book, Gia, the Book
of Patience.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I got to tell you, you're calming me down.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Just listen to your voice, that comic voice.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Let me remind everyone. DJ Envy and of course Kia
Casey are here the book. It's Brandon yesterday, it was
born yesterday. It's called real Life, Real Family. That's what
we're talking about. And there you have it. So I
keep saying, Gandhi, let's have a kid, come on, let's
just see what happened.
Speaker 6 (10:28):
It would be a great way to secure the bag.
But I don't think I can do it because I'm
not so patient. I feel like there would be a
moment at Target where I like this kid up and
just scream at them about something, and.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Then we're all screwed. Elsa's baby mama is a horrible person.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
I will say this. I will say this when it
comes to kids. Of course, it's not all sunshine and rainbows,
and there will be times where your child may try
to test you. And if we've had a couple of situations,
Rae Sean has had one outside of a Modell's once
where our oldest daughter Addison, when she was about ten,
tried to show off in front of one of her friends,
and it didn't end very well with her. So what
(11:06):
you said about Target, If I'm in a public place
with my child and they are even teetering on anything disrespectful,
I will reprimand them right there in Target, in front
of whoever is watching, whoever is listening. You're going to
understand that you're going to get it no matter what
the audience is, because you're never going to feel as
though you're in a safe space to disrespect me because
(11:28):
people are around. I don't work, I don't suffer embarrassment. Yes,
I don't suffer from embarrassment.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
It's amazing. What we just said is a very powerful thing.
You just said. I'm paraphrasing. I will never ever be
in a space where you will feel safe making me
feel like crap. Yes, yeah, I'm gonna use it with
these guys here.
Speaker 5 (11:52):
Disrespect.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I did the opposite. Well, my kid was acting up
in Target.
Speaker 7 (11:55):
I remember going, okay, I'm just gonna I took them.
I threw them over my shoulder. I was very calm.
I walked out. I'm sure they had that on camera,
me walking out with them over my shoulder, and then
as soon as I put him in the car and
I closed the door, I'm.
Speaker 5 (12:06):
Like, no, they would have gotten that.
Speaker 4 (12:10):
What the blah blah blah right in aisle thirteen, because
I'm going to turn that embarrassment around on you, and
you are going to know that should you dare to
speak to me in a tone or be disrespectful, you
are going to be thoroughly embarrassed.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
And Mommy doesn't give a bleep.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I feel like, if you do on.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Behalf of yeah, on, behalf of all of us shopping
at Target, well you appreciate the show.
Speaker 7 (12:34):
I just feel like if you do it the way
she does it, like they get it right away, they're
like that to happen again.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
And it always starts with the we do not do this,
We don't do this. My oldest Madison, she got it
at two years old. The first time that she threw
a tantrum. I picked her up, I shook her and
I said, we do not do this. She never threw
another tantrum. And now my three year old, it's taking
a couple more, you know, times to pick her up,
(13:02):
but she's starting to get it. And it's always spoken
in a we, not you. This is our family.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
We are a unit.
Speaker 4 (13:10):
We represent each other, so everything refers back to this
meaningful family that you come from.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
That's right, a scary head of question. The very last
on this team that will ever be a fault. And
I just want to know the grocery shopping look like
for you guys, and you guys have to make compromises.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
Baby, and how much is your bill? Just straight out
as us.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Don't be shy, I'll be honest. Is not allowed to
go grocery shopping.
Speaker 5 (13:39):
This is sue, this is not coming.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
He picks everything that nobody eats. He just wants to
try stuff all the time. So she is not allowed
to go grocery queen.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
That's right.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
I would love that right.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
So she is not allowed.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
So I go grocery shopping, usually with my oldest daughter.
It's like our bonding time. We have certain times with
you know, each individual kids, but that is our bonding time.
And we love to cook, like we are a cooking family.
So when Gia doesn't cook, me and my daughter we
cook together. We cook on Sundays. Gia cooks certain meals.
But we like to cook. But to ask you, we
have to go every week. And the biggest thing is
water and juice.
Speaker 5 (14:13):
Excuse me, you're not answering the question. He said, how much?
Speaker 3 (14:18):
Don't just a question from I would say about nine
hundred to fifteen hundred dollars a week.
Speaker 5 (14:25):
That's a lot of people. It's a lot of people,
and it's a lot of playdates. Yeah, we paste a lot,
a lot of playdates, a lot of If you.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Go to the story, it's twice that much.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
And I don't know about you, but as they get older,
they eat more. Like my two boys. Now, I'm like,
I dont been thing left.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
You ate it all.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
It's crazy.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
Yes, my twenty one year old boy who plays football
at Miami, he eats two entrees, disrespectful.
Speaker 5 (14:51):
Every setting, every sitting, too entrees.
Speaker 4 (14:54):
It's too scary, never grew up.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Well, look, I'm glad you spend time with us. Actually
a response on text is really really positive and awesome.
Obviously we know why because this is a moment with
envy and Gia is always a nice, I feel so calm,
relaxing moment. The book is called Real Life, Real Family.
People are also saying they want to hear it an audible.
It's already produced and it's ready to go.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
You can get it today on Amazon. We narrate it,
and for the audible there is bonus content where, of course,
a friend of ours who's actually our business manager.
Speaker 5 (15:23):
Her name is Mercedes.
Speaker 4 (15:24):
She interviewed our kids without us being there.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Yeah, she interviews all the kids, so you get their perspective.
Truth from the kids, Yes, be true, yes okay, DJ
and Vi Gia, thank you so much real life and
your family such a happy room.
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