How to Get What You Want

People can't choose you if you're invisible. And when you're silent, people think you're satisfied.

This is the first episode in my five-part RAISE framework series, and we’re starting with something most people completely overlook: the moment the stakes quietly shift. You can’t advocate for yourself if you don’t even recognize it’s time.

I’ll share the exact moment I learned this the hard way and why recognizing ...

If you’re waiting for someone to hand you the next opportunity, this one’s for you. We don’t always realize how often we hold ourselves back, telling ourselves it’s not our role, we’re not ready, or we don’t want to look pushy. The problem? Silence gets mistaken for satisfaction.

This episode is a wake-up call to notice the invisible rules you’ve absorbed and start challenging the ones that no longer serve you. I’m sharing how to mo...

Most of us hear no and take it personally. We shut down. We see it as the end of the road instead of the beginning of a conversation. But what if no could actually be a place to start? In this episode, I’m sharing how to shift the way you hear and respond to no so you can stop backing down and start getting curious.

This shift will change how you negotiate, how you lead, and how you advocate for what you want. It’s time to get comfo...

You are not meant to do this alone. If you’ve been trying to grow your career by working harder, waiting your turn, or following the standard process, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed.

I’m sharing why the right people in your corner change everything, and how most of us wait too long or choose the wrong ones. It’s time to stop being passive and start building a career leverage sphere that helps you think bigger, see yo...

You don’t need to feel ready to start. You just need to start. That’s exactly what Sarah Barnes-Humphrey did when her life and career imploded overnight. In this conversation, Sarah opens up about what it took to rebuild her confidence from scratch and how she used small steps, side hustles, and her own voice to get there.

We talk about what it really means to be seen, and why self-worth isn’t something you wait to feel. It’s someth...

If confidence were constant, leadership would be easy. But it’s not. One moment you feel solid, the next you’re second-guessing everything. That shift can throw off your presence, your voice, even your ability to ask for what you need.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why that happens, what it means about your leadership (hint: it’s not a flaw), and how to lead yourself through those moments. Confidence isn’t fixed, and the more y...

If your role changed tomorrow, would you have options or just panic?
 Most people assume their company will guide their career. That someone, somewhere, is thinking about their growth. But here's the truth: no one is planning your next move but you.

In this episode, I’m sharing a core negotiator mindset shift: build your BATNA before you need it. You’ll hear what a senior leader told me about how he evaluates his team’s pre...

It’s not just what you ask for. It’s how you ask for it. In this episode, I’m walking through three deceptively simple strategies that have helped countless women shift how they show up, how they’re perceived, and how confidently they navigate their work.

If you’ve ever walked away from a meeting thinking, I could have handled that differently, this is for you. We’re talking about silence, framing, and the ask. These aren’t nice-to-...

Sometimes we know exactly what we want, but we don’t raise our hand.
 We hesitate. We wait. And the opportunity passes us by.

In this episode, I’m talking about what holds us back from stepping up, why hesitation costs more than we think, and how to catch ourselves in the moments we stay small.

Smart women miss out. Not because they’re unqualified. Because they don’t prepare for the moment when opportunity quietly appears. Let’s ...

One day you’re having regular one-on-ones with your boss, and the next? Silence. Fewer meetings. Less context. No feedback. It’s easy to assume it’s personal, but is it?

In this episode, I’m talking about what’s really going on when a leader suddenly gets quiet and how to manage up without spiraling into insecurity. If you’ve ever felt like your boss’s behavior changed overnight, this conversation will help you step back, zoom out, ...

Ever seen someone walk into a room and instantly command it, without saying a word? That’s confidence. Not ego, not arrogance. Just belief. And belief is leverage.

In this episode, I’m talking about the power of calibrated confidence—why it influences others, how it opens up opportunities, and what it actually looks like in a negotiation. You don’t have to fake it. But you do have to find it, own it, and use it.

Whether you're w...

Most people put all their focus on the new job when they leave a role. But if that’s where your attention ends, you’re missing a huge opportunity. I want to show you how to leave well, not just logistically, but strategically.

In this episode, I’m walking you through a real example of how one woman made a career move with intention, influence, and grace. Because how you exit matters just as much as how you show up. Your influence do...

You’re doing well at work, but something changes. A layoff, a canceled meeting, your boss goes quiet. And suddenly, your confidence takes a hit. That’s scarcity creeping in.

In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like when fear takes the wheel, even when your role is secure. I’ll share real client stories, personal reflections, and the ripple effects that happen when scarcity starts showing up in how we lead, communicate, and ...

You don’t need a perfect plan. You need a practiced one. Whether it’s a big presentation, a negotiation, or a quick meeting that could escalate fast, how you prepare can make or break the outcome.

In this episode, I’m talking about the real reason women get sidelined in high-stakes conversations and how to train yourself to stay grounded, focused, and agile no matter what comes up. These aren’t hypothetical tips. This is what top le...

Are you growing as a leader, or just collecting titles? That’s the question I explored with my guest Tinna Jackson, a powerhouse with experience in politics, nonprofits, and corporate leadership. We talk about what happens when your job no longer fits, how to recognize your natural talents, and why emotional intelligence isn’t optional if you want to lead well.

There’s always room for growth if you're willing to look beyond you...

Last week we talked about how to give feedback that actually lands. This week, we’re flipping it. Are you getting the kind of feedback that helps you grow? And more importantly, are you using it?

The higher you go in your career, the harder it gets to hear the truth. People assume you’ve got it figured out. They hold back. And unless you’re actively inviting feedback and knowing what to do with it, you miss critical opportunities to...

Giving feedback isn’t the hard part. Making sure it actually lands is where most leaders fall short. If you’re not checking how your message is received or if you're only speaking up when something goes wrong, your feedback might be doing more harm than good.

In this episode, I’m walking you through what it really means to deliver feedback that builds trust, clarity, and growth. Whether you're managing a team or mentoring ...

Getting what you want isn’t always about asking for more. Sometimes it starts with unlearning everything that told you not to.

Karen Ansen didn’t follow the traditional career path. She became a lawyer in her 40s, built her own firm, and now advises boards and executives across Australia. However, the real transformation occurred when she stopped waiting for permission and began trusting her own voice. In this episode, we discuss ho...

If you think delegation is just about getting things off your plate, I want to challenge that. When done well, it’s a strategy for leadership, trust, and growth. But most of us fall into the habit of doing too much, holding on too long, or checking in so much that we defeat the purpose entirely.

In this episode, I’m sharing what effective delegation really looks like, and how to use it as a tool to develop your team, build trust, an...