How to Get What You Want

Seventy percent of people experience imposter syndrome at some point, and it hits hardest in high achievers. The more capable you are, the wider the gap feels between how others see you and how you see yourself. And the sneaky part is it rarely looks like doubt. It looks like stepping back, staying quiet, giving someone else the floor and calling it professional.

That quiet step backward has a cost. In this episode, I'm getting...

Your calendar is full. You're keeping up, moving fast, and honestly proud of what you're getting done. Then you find out there's a major cross-functional initiative in the works and your name wasn't on the list.

It's not a confidence problem. It's not a performance problem. But something is quietly happening to the way you're thinking, and it's costing you visibility at exactly the moment it m...

You picked the day. You thought through exactly what you were going to say. And then your boss pushed the meeting and you felt, if you're honest, a little relieved. So you reset the date. And then something else came up. And then again. And before you know it, you've talked yourself out of it so many times that the ask never happens.

That's not strategy. It's directly connected to getting what you want, and every...

Think about the last time you had something to say in a meeting and didn't say it. Maybe you were waiting for the right moment. Maybe someone else was talking and you thought you'd jump in after. And then the conversation shifted, and the moment passed, and someone else said something close enough to your idea that everyone moved on without you.

That's not just a missed moment. It's directly connected to getting ...

Every time you speak, you're shaping how people receive what you say. And most of the time, you're doing it without realizing it.

It sounds like this: I'm not as technical as everyone here, but... or this may not be helpful, but... It feels polite. It feels humble. But what it's actually doing is telling people exactly how much weight to give your ideas before they've even heard them.

In this episode, I'...

How often do you say “I’m good” and move on?

It sounds harmless, but it’s one of the fastest ways to disappear in your career. I see talented leaders doing this all the time: you’re doing the work, and you’re driving results, but in the moments that actually shape perception, you’re saying nothing.

This isn’t about bragging. It’s about being intentional with how you frame your value. When you start thinking like a negotiator, even ca...

You can be a confident leader and still feel thrown off by feedback. Especially when it points in completely different directions. One person tells you to speak up more. Another says you’re too strong. Suddenly, you’re left wondering which version of you is actually right.

Tune in as I talk about how to think about feedback when it feels confusing or even contradictory. I share how I’ve learned to step back, separate emotion from in...

You walk into a meeting prepared and you think you’ve anticipated the questions + direction of the conversation. Then suddenly the decision goes a different way, and you feel the shift immediately. Your body reacts before your brain catches up.

That reaction isn’t just frustration. When reality doesn’t match what your brain expected, it triggers a response that can make even experienced leaders defensive or reactive. This episode is...

You’ve recognized the moment. You’ve aligned. You’ve inserted value. You’ve supported others. Now it’s time to elevate.

In this final part of the R.A.I.S.E. framework, I’m challenging you to stop leaving your growth up to interpretation. Silence inhibits opportunity. If you don’t anchor your value and raise your hand, someone else will. Elevate is about understanding your differentiator, naming your ROI, and making it easier for oth...

Influence isn’t just built when you speak. It’s built when you choose who and what you reinforce.

In this part of the RAISE framework, I’m talking about SUPPORT and why lifting someone else in the moment is one of the most strategic moves you can make. This isn’t about being agreeable. It’s about being intentional with your voice.

When you consistently support the right ideas and the right people, trust compounds. And so does your in...

You know that moment when you stay quiet even though you had something to add? It feels safe in the moment, but it costs you more than you think. Staying silent doesn’t just slow your momentum. It keeps the room from seeing your value.

This episode is all about what it really means to insert. To speak, contribute, and take up space in the right moments. Not because you want credit. Because the room needs your perspective. I’m sharin...

Being right doesn’t make you influential. If you've ever walked away from a conversation wondering why your idea didn’t land, or worse, why someone went silent, you’re not alone. Today we’re talking about the A in RAISE: Align. This step is all about learning to shift your perspective before you speak so your message actually connects.

This episode gets personal. I’ll share one moment I still cringe about years later and what I...

People can't choose you if you're invisible. And when you're silent, people think you're satisfied.

This is the first episode in my five-part RAISE framework series, and we’re starting with something most people completely overlook: the moment the stakes quietly shift. You can’t advocate for yourself if you don’t even recognize it’s time.

I’ll share the exact moment I learned this the hard way and why recognizing ...

If you’re waiting for someone to hand you the next opportunity, this one’s for you. We don’t always realize how often we hold ourselves back, telling ourselves it’s not our role, we’re not ready, or we don’t want to look pushy. The problem? Silence gets mistaken for satisfaction.

This episode is a wake-up call to notice the invisible rules you’ve absorbed and start challenging the ones that no longer serve you. I’m sharing how to mo...

Most of us hear no and take it personally. We shut down. We see it as the end of the road instead of the beginning of a conversation. But what if no could actually be a place to start? In this episode, I’m sharing how to shift the way you hear and respond to no so you can stop backing down and start getting curious.

This shift will change how you negotiate, how you lead, and how you advocate for what you want. It’s time to get comfo...

You are not meant to do this alone. If you’ve been trying to grow your career by working harder, waiting your turn, or following the standard process, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed.

I’m sharing why the right people in your corner change everything, and how most of us wait too long or choose the wrong ones. It’s time to stop being passive and start building a career leverage sphere that helps you think bigger, see yo...

You don’t need to feel ready to start. You just need to start. That’s exactly what Sarah Barnes-Humphrey did when her life and career imploded overnight. In this conversation, Sarah opens up about what it took to rebuild her confidence from scratch and how she used small steps, side hustles, and her own voice to get there.

We talk about what it really means to be seen, and why self-worth isn’t something you wait to feel. It’s someth...

If confidence were constant, leadership would be easy. But it’s not. One moment you feel solid, the next you’re second-guessing everything. That shift can throw off your presence, your voice, even your ability to ask for what you need.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why that happens, what it means about your leadership (hint: it’s not a flaw), and how to lead yourself through those moments. Confidence isn’t fixed, and the more y...

If your role changed tomorrow, would you have options or just panic?
 Most people assume their company will guide their career. That someone, somewhere, is thinking about their growth. But here's the truth: no one is planning your next move but you.

In this episode, I’m sharing a core negotiator mindset shift: build your BATNA before you need it. You’ll hear what a senior leader told me about how he evaluates his team’s pre...