How to Lose the Wait
Welcome to How to Lose the ‘WAIT’—the podcast for women in midlife who are tired of living like their real life starts “later.” If you’ve been waiting for confidence, the perfect timing, the perfect body, the perfect relationship, or a braver version of you to take the wheel… you’re in the right place. Holly Toscanini is the warm, witty, and refreshingly real voice behind How to Lose the ‘Wait’ — the podcast helping women over 40 stop postponing their lives and start living fully, exactly as they are. A bestselling author, empowerment coach, and creator of The Unwaiting Method™, Holly has made it her mission to help women trade perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing for confidence, intuition, and freedom. Through candid storytelling and laugh-out-loud truth-telling, she guides listeners out of the “waiting room” of life — where everything is on hold until things are perfect — and into a life that feels bold, meaningful, and completely their own. Every episode of How to Lose the ‘Wait’ feels like coffee with a best friend who actually gets it. Holly unpacks what it really takes to rebuild confidence in midlife, draw boundaries without guilt, and reconnect with the wisdom women were taught to ignore. With each conversation, she reminds listeners that it’s not too late to reinvent themselves — it’s right on time. If you’re ready to stop waiting for permission and start living the life you were meant for, How to Lose the ‘Wait’ will show you how to do it with humor, heart, and zero apologies. Stop Waiting. Start Living. https://howtolosethewait.riverside.com/
Episodes
We often hear that boundary-setting is an extreme act, but for many high-achieving women, there’s a middle ground that’s practical and effective.
Join me as we explore why those internal negotiations matter and how to reclaim your energy and time. By the end, you’ll know how to hold boundaries without sacrificing your peace!
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If you keep saying, “I don’t know what I want,” but secretly suspect that’s not the whole truth, this episode is for you.
Holly unpacks why so many midlife women feel foggy, stuck, or “blank” when it comes to their own desires—even though they’re sharp, self-aware, and great at knowing what everyone else needs.
You’ll learn why “I don’t know what I want” is usually a protective pattern, not a lack of purpose or intelligence, and how ...
In this episode, Holly Toscanini explores the common struggle many women face in articulating their desires. She discusses how societal pressures and upbringing can lead to confusion about what one truly wants. Through practical exercises, she encourages listeners to reconnect with their desires and emphasizes that not knowing is often a protective response rather than a flaw. By recognizing signals of desire and taking small actio...
In this episode, Holly Toscanini discusses the emotional burden of being the default caretaker in relationships, particularly for women. She explores how this role is often unconsciously adopted and the hidden costs associated with it, such as chronic resentment and emotional burnout. Holly emphasizes the importance of recognizing this pattern and making small, self-honoring shifts to unweight in relationships. Holly provides pract...
If you’ve been feeling invisible in midlife, it might not be because you lack confidence—it might be because you’ve been self-editing. In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini breaks down why smart, capable women often soften their opinions, over-explain their boundaries, and wait for the “perfect wording”… then wonder why they feel unseen.
In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly sits down with Kathy Kwiatkowski—Licensed Mental Health Counselor, multidimensional healer,[...]
Holly Toscanini speaking about Unwaiting: why starting over provides relief but real change comes from one decision and one small action, encouraging listeners to stop living in “draft mode.”
As we step into a new year, the pressure to reinvent ourselves often looms large. But what if the real transformation lies not in starting over, but in cultivating a deeper relationship with ourselves? In this episode of How to Lose the Weight, host Holly Toscanini introduces the self-trust rule for 2026, urging us to stop making decisions that betray our true selves.
New Year’s resolutions often keep smart women stuck because they’re built on the belief that you must “fix yourself” before you’re allowed to feel confident or start living. In this episode, Holly Toscanini explains why waiting mode isn’t laziness—it’s a self-protection strategy—and shares what to do instead: replace resolutions with standards, build self-trust through small decisions, and create real momentum without pressure or p...
How to Make 2026 The Year of Unwaiting: Clarity, Courage, and Self-Trust Year-end reflection for midlife women: close 2025 with compassion and start 2026 with clarity, courage, and self-trust. Includes a guided ritual + confidence quiz.
Feeling stuck in “someday mode” in midlife? Someday you’ll change careers. Someday you’ll feel confident. Someday you’ll finally do the thing you can’t stop thinking about. In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, intuitive living coach Holly Toscanini shows you how to get unstuck in midlife using tiny pivots, simple habits, and micro-actions that build real momentum over time. You don’t need a massive life overhaul. You need mov...
What to Leave Behind: Emotional Decluttering for the New Year Before you set a single New Year’s resolution, it’s time for an emotional declutter. In this episode, Holly guides you through a step-by-step process to release outdated identities, habits, and roles that keep you stuck, so you can create a true midlife reset that actually fits the woman you’re becoming.
Go from Panicked to Poised in Just 3 Minutes Wish you had a confidence reset button for those “Who am[...]
Tired of “working on yourself” and still feeling like a project? This new episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’ is all about why real midlife growth isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about remembering who you are.
Instead of weaponizing gratitude as “it could be worse,” Holly unpacks the difference between genuine appreciation and toxic positivity, and offers grounded, compassionate practices to help midlife women notice joy and meaning without denying their reality.
Cravings, fatigue, and emotions aren’t failures—they’re wisdom. Learn how to reconnect with your body’s intuitive signals in midlife and build trust again.
Every broken promise erodes confidence—but every gentle follow-through stitches trust back together. Learn the science and soul of rebuilding integrity with yourself in midlife.
You’re not stuck—you’re overstimulated. Learn how nervous-system safety unlocks intuitive action and calm confidence in midlife. Calm your mind, regulate your body, and turn overthinking into aligned, confident action.
In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini uses the animated film K-Pop Demon Hunters as a surprisingly profound lens for midlife reinvention. Through themes of performance, hidden identity, sisterhood, perfectionism, and reclaiming your voice, Holly invites women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s to stop performing their lives — and start living them with confidence and authenticity.
Stop waiting for permission. Discover the quiet power of self-approval, intuition, and midlife reinvention in this empowering episode.
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