NeverNarc

It’s not healthy to live in hiding, isolating from others, or always in a vigilant mode,
in fear of getting involved with a toxic person.

We want you to be proactive about your life - moving forward, building the kind of life you want, feeling hopeful and confident in who you are, having so much to look forward to.

But as you move forward in life you’re going to pass through seasons and stages that by their v...

Being in a significant relationship with a toxic narcissist guarantees you’ve experienced life altering woundedness of the soul. 

Even though it may have been months or even years since you extracted the narcissist from your life, the survival mode mechanisms can remain in the way you live out your days.

You may be functional but you’re not truly free.

This is Part 3 of a 3-part series bringing to light ...

Being in a significant relationship with a toxic narcissist guarantees you’ve experienced life altering woundedness of the soul. 

Even though it may have been months or even years since you extracted the narcissist from your life, the survival mode mechanisms can remain in the way you live out your days.

You may be functional but you’re not truly free.

This is Part 2 of a 3-part series bringing to light ...

Being in a significant relationship with a toxic narcissist guarantees you’ve experienced life altering woundedness of the soul.

It’s great that you’ve disengaged yourself from that narcissistic relationship but just because you don’t have the narc in your face every day doesn’t mean you’re truly free.

There’s been too much water under the bridge to assume you’ll bounce back to who you were before.

Just b...

It’s a really good thing that more and more people in the general population are becoming familiar with the concept of narcissism.

However, the term “narcissist” is being thrown around a bit too loosely and it waters down the understanding of what that really is.  Just because someone can be self-absorbed, insensitive, arrogant or act like a jerk a lot doesn’t make them a narcissist.

It’s important you learn to re...

We view the start of a new year like the start of a new chapter in life.  It’s exciting to think of the possibilities, isn’t it? 

Our tendency is to go straight into making resolutions and setting goals.

But before you get too far into that thought process, wouldn’t it make sense to clarify the big picture foundation so  when you do set goals you know they’re aligned with what you want your life characterized by?...

You invested a whole year of your life into 2023!  It had its ups and downs, successes, failures, joys, and heartbreaks.

Along the way you learned a lot about what to do and what not to do.

You learned more about who you are and who you want to be.

You gained a lot of insights, but may also have gained some unwanted baggage along
that won't serve you well moving forward. 

In today’s ...

In our previous 2 episodes we kicked off the holiday season with a 3-part Christmas series by revisiting the classic Dickens story, A Christmas Carol, and 3 ghosts come to visit Ebeneezer Scrooge throughout the night on Christmas Eve - 

      The Ghost of Christmas Past
      The Ghost of Christmas Present
      The Ghost of Christmas Future

As you might imagine, the appearance of each ghost person was rather unnerv...

In our previous episode we kicked off the holiday season with a 3-part Christmas series by revisiting the classic Dickens story, A Christmas Carol and the 3 ghosts who come to visit Ebeneezer Scrooge throughout the night on Christmas Eve - 

      The Ghost of Christmas Past
      The Ghost of Christmas Present
      The Ghost of Christmas Future

As you might imagine, the appearance of each ghost person was rather un...

In the classic Dickens story, A Christmas Carol, 3 ghosts come to visit Ebeneezer Scrooge throughout the night on Christmas Eve - 
      The Ghost of Christmas Past
      The Ghost of Christmas Present
      The Ghost of Christmas Future

As you might imagine, the appearance of each ghost person was rather unnerving for Ebeneezer.

The most unnerving part though was realizing that each ghost was there to...

Even though stores started putting up Christmas decorations about 2 months ago,     we’re now officially on the other side of Thanksgiving here in the States and the Christmas season is in full swing!

Depending on where you’re at in your healing journey embracing the spirit of the season may come with some mixed emotions - for good reasons.

It’s crucial that you understand how and why the holiday season can impact...

In our previous 2  episodes we shared 10 tactics narcissists use against you to create
 a really twisted version of a carnival Fun House that is meant to keep you off balance, distort your self-concept, and train you not to trust your own judgment.

In Part 3 of this series we’re going to look at another 5 tactics that were used against you:
      Hoovering
      Baiting
      Ghosting
      Intermittent...

In our previous episode we shared with you how narcissists create a really twisted version of a carnival Fun House that is meant to keep you off balance, distort your self-concept, and train you not to trust your own judgment.

We shared 5 head games they play and discussed why they did it, how they did it, and why you may still be living in a reactive posture to what was conditioned into you.

In Part 2 of this 3 p...

Have you ever been in a Fun House at a carnival when you were growing up?

You never knew what to expect as you moved from one section to the next.

There’s mirrors all around that show wildly distorted images and make it hard to tell where to move forward.  

When you look in the mirror you see a bizarrely  distorted image you barely recognize gazing back at you.

In the next section the floor split...

When you’ve lived through narcissistic abuse it’s common to come out of that struggling with issues surrounding boundaries.

Narcissists are skillful at systematically eroding even strong boundaries.  As a matter of fact, especially when it comes to a Category 3 type of narcissist, they look at your boundary and say to themselves, “I’ll take that challenge”.

To them it’s entertaining and a mark of superiority to ma...

If you’re a regular listener to the podcast you know that usually Carol Pavlik and Wendy Ockers join me as cohosts for our conversation.

Today is something a bit different.

I recently recorded an interview featuring Carol for Comfy Conversations, which is one of the features in my membership, Beautiful Life Academy.  

This episode showcases Carol's expertise and experience helping women put their liv...

Sometimes you hear something from the perspective of another person that just jumps out and smacks you between the eyes.

I stumbled across a quote that caught my attention and made me ponder the point the author was making.

Since this marks NeverNarc Podcast’s 50th episode, I thought it would be fun and maybe yield some great insights to gather a few thought provoking quotes and talk about whether we agree or disa...

There’s no doubt that being in a long term relationship with a narcissist is trauma inducing.

Your assumptions about who you are and what’s possible for you have been shattered.

You were robbed of your relational innocence and blissful optimism.

Your total viewpoint has experienced a radical paradigm shift that isn’t pleasant or pretty.

Whether you realize it or not, you’re standing at a crossroa...

It might surprise you to hear that although we haven’t yet met, I already know some things about you.

I’d be willing to bet that no matter what you’ve been through in the past or what kind of day you’re having in the present, you do your best to always think of the wellbeing of others.

You’re a good friend.

You’re respectful to others.

You show kindness to your family and friends when they’re str...