No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

Most men try to quit porn by relying on sheer willpower, white-knuckling it, or living in constant fear of relapse. I know, because I tried that too. The problem is, a fear-based recovery mindset only fuels more cravings and keeps you stuck in the shame cycle.

In this episode of No More Desire, I reveal the 2 recovery mindset elements that almost every man overlooks—but that can completely transform your journey to freedom from porn...

When I was stuck in porn addiction, I kept hearing the same advice: “Just be more positive. Believe in yourself. Visualize your freedom.” But here’s the problem—positive thinking alone doesn’t heal porn addiction. In fact, it often makes things worse.

In this episode, I dive deep into the psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality of why forcing yourself to “just think positive” can actually increase shame, suppress your real emotio...

When I was deep in my porn addiction, I thought the biggest problem I had was desire. But over time, I discovered the real enemy was the constant storm of negative thinking in my own head—shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and a relentless inner critic that kept me trapped in the habit loop.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how negative thinking actively fuels porn addiction, why it’s more than just “background noise,” and ...

When you’re stuck in porn addiction, it often feels like there’s a war going on inside your own mind.

One part of you wants to be strong, productive, loving, and aligned with your values. The other part just wants comfort, ease, and escape. Most recovery programs tell you to kill off the "bad" part. To deny it, starve it, or fight it.

But what if that approach is actually fueling your addiction?

In this episode, I’m going to...

If you’ve ever felt like your porn addiction makes no sense—like you’re a good man, doing your best, yet you keep falling into the same cycle—this episode will hit home.

In today’s conversation, I sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay app, to unpack why it’s not actually pleasure that keeps you stuck in the addiction cycle… it’s pain. Specifically, it’s the pain you haven’t been taught how to face.

We talk about the hid...

This is Part 3 of this series—and today, we’re getting into the best part:

How to actually heal and transform sex in marriage from a painful trigger for porn cravings into a sacred, joyful connection.

If you’ve listened to Parts 1 and 2, you know we’ve covered:

• Why sex in marriage can sometimes feel like a relapse
• How porn rewires your brain’s sexual pathways
• The neuroscience and psychology behind emotional ...

Today we’re heading into the deep end of a conversation most men never get to have—but desperately need.

Why does sex with your wife sometimes feel like a porn relapse instead of the healing, intimate connection you long for?

If you’ve ever felt:

• Triggered by sex with your spouse
• Overwhelmed by cravings for porn after marital intimacy
• Disconnected and guilty about sex even though you’re married
• Spiritually as...

Today, we’re diving into a topic that might just feel like the elephant in the room for countless men trying to stay free from porn:

Why does sex in marriage sometimes trigger porn cravings… instead of satisfying them?

If you’ve ever thought:

• “Shouldn’t sex with my wife help me fight porn cravings—not make them worse?”
• “Why do I feel guilty, disconnected, or even triggered after marital sex?”
• “Am I broken—or...

A raw, redemptive conversation with Tina Huggins about healing religious sexual shame, restoring trust in marriage, and breaking the real roots of porn addiction. 

What if your deepest struggle with porn addiction isn’t about lust—but about unhealed shame?

In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Tina Huggins, a restorative family mediator and certified divorce coach who shares insig...

We often think of a rock bottom story as the moment someone relapses, destroys their marriage, or hits crisis during active addiction. But what if rock bottom doesn’t come at the start of recovery? What if it shows up years after sobriety, long after you’ve quit porn?

In this raw and deeply personal episode, I share the story of my real rock bottom—a collapse that came after I had overcome porn, but before I had truly healed.

This is...

Do you feel sexually broken from years of porn addiction and compulsive masturbation? Like you've damaged your body, your mind, and your marriage—and there’s no way back?

In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, Jake Kastleman explores the reality of self-inflicted sexual trauma and what it truly takes to overcome porn addiction. You’ll learn how to stop watching porn, confront your shame, and begin the process ...

Is your gaming habit quietly fueling your porn addiction? In this episode of No More Desire, Jake Kastleman explores the surprising neurological and psychological overlap between video games and porn use. 

Drawing from real neuroscience, addiction psychology, and philosophical insight, this solo episode breaks down why so many men stuck in compulsive porn cycles also spend hours gaming—and how both behaviors reinforce the same addic...

If your wife seems pissed off and turned off—constantly irritated, emotionally distant, and disinterested in sex—you’re not alone. For many men, this emotional tension fuels the desire to escape into porn. But what if the real issue isn’t her moods... but your missing leadership?

In this episode, Jake Kastleman is joined by men’s coach and author GS Youngblood to help you fix your relationship, overcome porn addiction, and become th...

Why do you keep relapsing with porn—even when you want to quit?

In this episode of the No More Desire addiction recovery podcast, I uncover the hidden mental traps and false beliefs that sabotage your efforts to quit porn and stay sober for good. We’ll dig into the inner critic and inner escapist—two misunderstood parts of your psyche that actually think they’re helping you, but are keeping you stuck in the shame cycle.

You’ll learn ...

In today’s powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers. Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ year journey through recovery — before a radical spiritual awakening changed everything.

Together, Jason and I dive into:

• Why trauma is often the hidden root of addiction.
• How traditional recovery models pathologize normal human responses.
• What it re...

Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who’ve walked the road from addiction and deception to deep connection and true intimacy.

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Struggling to quit porn, control your cravings, or stay sober long-term?

In this episode, I share one of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools for porn addiction recovery: gratitude.

Learn how daily gratitude can:

• Rewire your brain using neuroplasticity
• Reduce porn cravings by activating your prefrontal cortex
• Replace the shame cycle with emotional clarity and purpose
• Build a lasting recovery mindset based on joy, not just dis...

What happens when you're stuck at home, in pain, and totally alone? For most men recovering from porn addiction, that’s the ultimate relapse setup.

But for Steve, a client in my recovery program, this moment of isolation became the most spiritually grounded, mentally focused, and connected time of his life.

In this episode, I share the story of how Steve stayed sober after surgery while his wife and kids were out of the country—...

How can you replace porn addiction? The answer is not a mystery. Essentially, it requires you to build the skills of a porn addiction recovery mindset and lifestyle. It also requires consistency.

If recovery were a car, these recovery skills would be the engine, and consistency would be the fuel. You can rewire your brain and stop watching porn using these skills and this consistency.

You may have achieved a week or two of sobriety a...