No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

Do you ever feel like you genuinely want connection, but somehow keep finding yourself disconnected?

You want to be close to your wife. You want deeper relationships. You want to feel connected to God. You want to be emotionally present with your children. You want to overcome pornography addiction and become the man you know you are capable of being.

Yet when life becomes painful, stressful, overwhelming, or emotionally intense, you...

Why does recovery motivation disappear so quickly after a relapse?

Most men know exactly what they don't want. They don't want to watch porn. They don't want to relapse. They don't want to feel shame, anxiety, depression, or disappointment.

But knowing what you don't want is not the same thing as being motivated by what you do want.

In this episode, I break down one of the biggest mistakes men make in porn addiction recovery: trying t...

Do you feel disconnected from your wife, even though you genuinely want to be close to her?

For many men in pornography addiction recovery, one of the most painful parts of the journey is not only stopping porn. It is learning how to rebuild trust, emotional safety, and real connection in marriage. You may want to listen, love, repair, and show up well, but still feel like your wife does not trust you, does not see your efforts, or ...

Many men trying to overcome porn addiction believe recovery is mainly about stopping the behavior. Stop watching porn. Stop relapsing. Stop lying. Stop hurting your wife. And of course, those things matter.

But long-term porn addiction recovery is about more than quitting porn. It is about becoming the kind of man who no longer needs porn to escape pain, feel powerful, avoid responsibility, or find a counterfeit sense of connection.

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In this episode, I sit down with Noah B.E. Church, author of Wack: Addicted to Internet Porn, to talk about how internet porn rewires the male brain, contributes to porn-induced erectile dysfunction, and trains men away from real intimacy.

Noah shares his personal story of early exposure to internet porn, escalation, PIED, and the long road back to healthy sexuality. We discuss why so many men can feel aroused by porn but disconnect...

Most men think porn addiction is only about sexual desire, lust, or lack of discipline. But after working with men for years—and walking through my own recovery—I’ve seen something deeper.

Many men who struggle with porn addiction also struggle with perfectionism, anxiety, overthinking, obsessive thought patterns, and OCD-like symptoms. They replay conversations, worry about what others think, feel responsible for ...

It’s easy to believe the part of us that pulls us toward porn addiction is evil. We condemn it, suppress it, shame it, and try to control it. But often, that inner war only keeps the cycle of porn cravings, relapse, and self-hatred alive.

In this episode, I sit down with Conor McMillen to discuss how IFS for porn addiction can help men understand the addictive part of the mind with more calm, curiosity, and compassion.

IFS, or ...

Porn addiction does not just damage sexual integrity. It damages trust, emotional safety, emotional intimacy, and the ability to be fully known in marriage.

In this episode of No More Desire, I talk about how porn addiction affects marriage, why it creates emotional distance from your wife, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust after porn addiction.

Many men who struggle with porn addiction do not only struggle with cravings. T...

Most men struggling with porn addiction aren’t bad men.

They’re men with values—who care about their families, their faith, and the life they want to live. But somewhere along the way, they learned to stay silent. That silence turns into secrecy… and secrecy turns into a double life.

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Todd Smithson to talk about porn addiction, sexual shame, and what it really takes t...

A lot of men assume their struggle is just about having a high sex drive. But in many cases, the real issue goes deeper. In this episode, I explore the connection between diet and porn addiction, brain health and addiction, and why porn cravings are often intensified by stress, dysregulation, poor nutrition, and a depleted internal environment.

For years, I lived with anxiety, brain fog, overwhelm, and a constant sense that my mind ...

In this episode, I sit down with Jenna Riemersma to talk about something I believe many men in porn addiction recovery need to understand: the role painful emotions play in keeping us stuck.

Most men trying to overcome porn addiction think the answer is more discipline, control, and resistance. But in my own life and in the lives of the men I work with, I’ve seen that the deeper issue is often not just lust. It’s emotion...

Most men think porn addiction is a discipline problem. 

They believe that if they could just be stronger, more focused, more in control… they would finally quit porn and break free from the cycle of relapse.

But what if that’s not the real problem?

What if your cravings for porn aren’t just psychological… but biological?

In this episode, I break down one of the most overlooked drivers of porn addiction re...

Most men think porn addiction is about lust.

Or a lack of discipline.

Or having a “high sex drive” they can’t control.

But after years of working with men—and walking through my own recovery—I’ve come to see something very clearly:

Porn addiction is rarely about sex.

It’s about what’s underneath.

It’s about trauma, emotional pain, conditioning, and the patterns your brain learned long...

Most men trying to quit porn are fighting the wrong battle.

They think the solution is more discipline, more willpower, more control. But if you’ve ever found yourself asking “Why can’t I stop watching porn?” or “Why do I keep relapsing?”—this episode will challenge everything you think you know about porn addiction recovery.

Because the real issue isn’t just behavior.
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Many men who want to overcome porn addiction assume the solution is simple: more discipline, more willpower, more control. If they could just be stronger, they believe they would finally stop watching porn and break free from the cycle of relapse. But pornography addiction is rarely just a battle of discipline. For most men, the deeper struggle is an inner war—a conflict between the man they want to become and the parts of th...

There was a time in my life when I felt like I was living at half capacity.

I had ambition, purpose, and dreams about the man I wanted to become—but my daily reality didn’t match that vision. My focus was scattered. My motivation was unreliable. My mind often felt foggy, restless, and distracted.

For years, I believed the problem was simple: porn addiction.

Pornography seemed like the obvious cause of my lack of discipline...

Most men believe their porn addiction defines them.

They think, Why am I turned on by this? Why does my brain go here? Why can’t I stop watching porn?

Underneath those questions is shame.

But here’s what I want you to understand: you didn’t consciously choose your sexual scripts. Your nervous system learned them. Your brain absorbed them. Your body stored them. And what was conditioned can be retrained.

In this episod...

What if porn addiction isn’t actually about sex?

What if the real issue isn’t lust… or self-control… or willpower?

What if porn is a signal — pointing to something deeper in your unconscious mind?

In this episode, I sit down with Michael Hallett to explore the root causes of porn addiction through the lens of shame, generational trauma, and the often-overlooked mother and father wounds that shape our em...

Most men believe a dangerous lie:

“If I feel aroused, I need release.”

In this episode, I challenge that belief head-on.

If you’ve ever struggled with porn addiction, compulsive masturbation, or overwhelming sexual urges that feel impossible to control, this conversation will change the way you understand your body and your mind.

You don’t “need” release.

What you’re experiencing is nervous syst...