THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness

Hey, Survivor! Have you ever been told you’re too much?  It’s easy to get caught up in drama and what has happened to you in your narcissistic and toxic relationships; however, it's important to explore other aspects of what’s going on:  the state you’re in; the state they’re in; what’s happening holistically.  In this episode, I’m sharing an exercise, based on psychiatrist Eric Berne’s “Transactional Analysis,” from a trauma heal...

Hey, Survivor! Has your health and well-being taken a hit, after trauma?  In this episode, I’m sharing some things to keep in mind when you’re healing from trauma - whether it’s from narcissistic and toxic relationships or otherwise.  Your healing matters!

If you, or someone you know, need help with healthy expectations on your healing journey, this episode is for you.

Know who you're dealing with.  Know who you are.

💚Lesley

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Hey, Survivor! Ever wonder how narcissistic leaders manage to avoid consequences?  In this episode, I’m sharing 5 shady tactics used to dodge accountability, and what you can do about it - even when the system feels rigged.  Your voice matters!

If you, or someone you know, need help navigating toxic leadership and organizations, this episode is for you.

Know who you're dealing with.  Know who you are.

💚Lesley

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Hey, Survivor! Have you been told not to argue with a narcissist?  In this episode, I’m sharing how you can — but not in the way you may think. I’m flipping the script to give you a framework to respond — not react — after narcissistic abuse.  Protecting your peace is powerful! 

If you, or someone you know, need help with healthy boundaries, this episode is for you.

Know who you're dealing with.  Know who you are.

💚Lesley

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Hey, Survivor! Have you been silenced, shamed, or publicly targeted for telling the truth about narcissistic abuse?  In this episode, I’m sharing breaking down a major reason narcissists try to silence you: your truth. Whether it's a family member, coworker, or local leader—abusers often try to silence those who speak honestly and hold them accountable. I’ll share personal insight and practical strategies to stay grounded, keep sp...

Hey, Survivor! Do you dream of justice, after narcissistic abuse?  In this episode, I’m sharing things to consider before taking legal action, for the sake of your health and well-being.  Justice is important; but often doesn’t play out in the way that you expect or desire.  Making sure that you’re fit for the fight, prioritizing your peace, and setting healthy boundaries are underrated power moves.  I’m with you, and I’m here to ...

Hey, Survivor! How do you know the narcissist still wants control, after you’ve gone low or no contact?  In this episode, I’m breaking down 5 subtle manipulation tactics they may use to control your behavior, emotions, thinking, and other relationships.  You may feel stressed, exhausted, or crazy when the narcissistic or toxic individual goes dark, then deploys these passive-aggressive tactics.  You’re not alone, and this puts you...

Hey, Survivor! How do you rest as a trauma survivor?  In this episode, I’m using an acronym to share 4 ways to R.E.S.T. on your healing journey.  You may have learned that rest is weak, for the lazy, or that stillness is unsafe.  Chronic stress, CPTSD, and hypervigilance will compromise your health and well-being.  But rest is a power move.  And your healing starts with YOU!

If you, or someone you know, need more rest, this episod...

Hey, Survivor! How do you deal with the casualties of narcissistic and toxic relationships?  In this episode, I’ll cover 3 things to know and do, when the narcissist poisons your crew.  Betrayal can be a blessing.  And you’re worthy of healthy relationships and a vibrant life!

If you, or someone you know, need help identifying, navigating and healing from the loss of relationships after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.

Hey, Survivor! How do you navigate traumatic comparisons in narcissistic families and other relationships?  In this episode, I’m sharing my personal experience and insights on what I call “post-traumatic pissing contests.  I’ll cover 3 key points to help you set healthy boundaries and hold space for yourself and others.  Enough of the invalidation and minimization of lived experience!  Your truth matters!

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Hey, Survivor! How do you protect your peace, when narcissistic or toxic people disguise abuse as “teasing?”  In this episode, I’m revisiting the teasing narrative, after hearing from a survivor who was subjected to this behavior at a graduation party.  I’ll share tips and insights on how to identify, navigate and heal, while casting off guilt, shame, and confusion.  You’re worthy of respect!

If you, or someone you know, have been...

Hey, Survivor! How do you navigate accusations of stalking the narcissist in your life?  In this episode, I’m sharing my recent experience, compliments of a social media troll, and offering some insights and tips to help you move through the self-blame, shame, and confusion.  Some people aren’t worth compromising your health and well-being.  And you’re worthy of truth, healing, and peace.

If you, or someone you know, have second-g...

Hey, Survivor! How do you protect your peace, when navigating narcissistic dynamics in relationships - especially with people who are supposed to love you?  In this episode, I’m highlighting 6 tactics (or toxic behaviors), along with 6 tools that you can use to stay grounded in your truth and protect your peace.  Regardless of the relationship or circumstances, your truth matters; and you’re worthy of feeling seen, heard, and safe...

Hey, Survivor! What does a narcissistic defense strategy look like?  In this episode, I’m sharing 5 ways that the truth gets twisted in court.  I’ll share specific examples from the juvenile arson trial that wrapped up last week with a guilty verdict on all 4 counts.  Whether you’re navigating the justice system, or dealing with other toxic relationships, you'll find some trauma-healing gems.

If you, or someone you know, are fight...

Hey, Survivor! What does it feel like, when the narcissist faces consequences?  In this episode, I’m sharing this week’s courtroom victory in my community, when a judge found a juvenile guilty of arson, criminal damage, and 4 counts of endangerment with the threat of imminent death.  In addition, I’m talking about some key takeaways, when it comes to processing justice, as it unfolds.  Wherever you are in navigating the system, it...

Hey, Survivor! What do you do to protect your health, while showing up for justice?  In this episode, I’m following up after the sentencing of one of the defendants in the Preston Lord case, and 6 ways to protect your health, when facing justice-triggered stress.  Whether you’re supporting someone else, or walking out your own journey to justice, your well-being and presence matter!

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Hey, Survivor! How do you practice self-care, when the narcissist faces justice?  In this episode, I’m sharing about the sentencing of one of the defendants in the Preston Lord case, and 5 ways to ground yourself and tend to your health and well-being.  No matter the circumstances or outcome of your situation, you and your healing matter!

If you, or someone you know, need help focusing on what you can control on the road to justic...

Hey, Survivor! How do you rebuild safety, strength and trust after trauma?  In this episode, I’m sharing how connecting with nature can be powerful for healing, including 5 healthy ways to do it.  Whether you’re recovering from a narcissistic or toxic relationship, or other traumatic experience, you are worthy of healing.  And nature can provide a lot of opportunities.

If you, or someone you know, want to tap into the  healing pow...

Hey, Survivor! How do you heal from food trauma?  In this episode, I’m sharing some traumatic experiences around food and healing solutions to improve your life span and health span.  Food should provide nourishment, not cause stress, guilt, shame, or fear.  Saying “no” to toxic relationships should include food! 

If you, or someone you know, need help healing from food trauma, this episode is for you.

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