The Parent Pivot Podcast
We are Steve and Julia Cummings and we are empty nesters who desire to maintain healthy relationship with our adult children. We have found that something needs to change in us, the parent, when our child becomes an adult. We need to ”pivot” from parenting, to partnering. What does that look like? When do I say something and when do I not? Why won’t they listen to me? We address these questions and host more in a real, raw an vulnerable way in real time. Tune in each week as we help you become a partner to your adult children. New podcast weblog
Episodes
Summer is here and family vacations are in full swing!
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia reflect on their week hosting their oldest son and his family of 3 kids and what they learned about themselves during those 7 days.
Resources mentioned on this podcast:
1. Practicing the Way with John Mark Comer.
3. "13 Principles for Building Healthy Relationships with Your Adult Child...
The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent Pivot Podcast.
Okay - but what is the balance between keeping our mouths shut - and dealing with our own emotions and resentment that pops up with our adult kids?
On this "Best of" podcast, Steve and Julia Cummings help you navigate what this looks like to help strengthen yo...
Helping our adult kids out when they are struggling financially "can" bring up additional issues, especially with their siblings.
What is fair when maybe not all of your adult kids have the same struggles? What can you do if your generosity is being taken advantaged of?
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia reflect on this and what they went through as kids, how they managed it when raising their own family, and how t...
We all love family get-togethers where there is laughter and everyone is having a good time remembering stories from the past, right? Nothing wrong with that . . . or is there?
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia use their EQ to let us in on something we may be missing that can be a downer with our adult kids. It's an "awareness check" that we all need to file away and remember to pull it out and use it when the famil...
As we grew up as kids ourselves, we may or may not have good memories of how we were celebrated on our birthday. Then we get married and our spouse's experience plays into how we choose to celebrate our own kids birthday.
Now they are adults. Whether you realize it or not, there "could be" some underlying issues your adult child is facing that aren't known when it comes to their birthday.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podca...
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." Often the season of the empty nest can leave us dealing with a number of issues. How can you make sense of it all?
On this re-air episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia share some raw and vulnerable feelings about their relatively new journey as empty nesters and provide some hope for you to navigate this new s...
There are instances where parents can get stuck making the pivot from raising a child as a parent - to releasing them into the world as an adult and becoming a partner.
Today on The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia - after getting distracted again by the wildlife in their backyard - deliver a major symptom that prevents parents from pivoting well.
Using some current sporting news and T.V. shows to make their point, you will ...
Pivoting from "Mamma parent" to "Mamma partner" can be one of the toughest things you'll ever have to do - especially if you have an adult son.
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia discuss the unique dynamics of the Mother/Son relationship and what you want that to look like as they start their own life without you as the #1 woman in their life. It's not a sad story and doesn't have to be. Find out how to s...
Ever feel like you're walking a difficult road with a wayward adult child?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with author and licensed parent-family educator, Lori Wildenberg, as she offers practical grace- and truth-filled ways of navigating your relationship with a detoured child—whether they are rejecting faith, dabbling in sin, or wholeheartedly embracing sinful behavior.
Steve, Julia and Lo...
Probably THE hardest thing a partner of an adult child faces is when their child goes through some sort of suffering. It never changes because we never stop being Mom and Dad. We all feel deeply it and our knee-jerk reaction is to:
- Step in and fix it
- Make the pain go away
And in the process - we make it worse.
SO - what are we supposed to do? What is the healthy way to deal with our adult child who is struggling in th...
Does it seem like your adult child ignores you, talks down to you, or treats you in a negative way somehow? Maybe it even feels like you're walking on eggshells?
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia provide some insightful wisdom on how we can navigate that path with confidence toward a healthier relationship with our adult kids.
"One" is a song by American singer-songwriter Harry Nilsson that was made famous by Three Dog Night back in the 60's.
You may be parents who have one adult child and may not realize there are some unique dynamics that play into what your pivot looks like.
On today's Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia look at those dynamics after hearing from some adult children who are the only child in their family.
We long for relationships to be joyful and life-giving, right? So why do they often leave us wounded, broken and exhausted?
If you're looking to break the cycles that hurt your relationships with your adult kids and hold you back - you won't want to miss this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast. Steve and Julia sit down with Justin and Trisha Davis about their new book - "One Choice Away from Change."
Resources mentioned on this ...
You pour your heart and soul into raising your family. You kids grow up and become responsible adults and often times find their mate and get married.
That's what we want, right partners of adult kids?
Something that can suddenly impact and throw off your "Disney fairy-tale ending" often begins at the wedding. TWO families coming together and dynamics enter and things can change abruptly! THEN - the grandkids come and grandparent...
Pivoting to healthy relationships with our adult children requires:
1. Diving
2. Reflection
3. Processing
Picture an iceberg. That's ALL we see in a person is what's above the surface. Unbeknownst to us is the other 90% brewing beneath the surface that stirs up our emotions and thoughts as we try to make sense of ANY situation or conversation.
On this episode of The Paren...
Dads: What if you were told that "doing" LESS as a father when your kids turn 20, would actually raise your stock (i.e. respect) i their eyes? Would you listen?
It certainly goes against the grain of what we have been taught, shown and modeled in our culture - even the traditional church.
On this special edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve talks to dads straight from the heart and shares his own pain, struggle and anxiety ...
Let's face it . . . not only is there NOT instructions handed to new parents by the doctor explaining "what to do" when you leave the hospital and take your baby home.
The same can also be said when your adult kids leave home. Where's the "partner manual"? Where do you go to find out how to make the pivot from parent to partner? We got you on this one!
On this edition of the Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia interview Gill Ti...
We recently posted some TikTok short videos on a variety of subjects to see what would stick to the wall. One particular issue touched home with over 11,000 hits! (Huge for us!)
Adult children and parents all chimed in with their hurt and pain seeking healthy answers to this question: "What do you do when relationship between parent and adult child is cutoff?"
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia (Boomers),...
Your son or daughter is heading off to college - or currently in college - and you're finding it extremely hard to let go. It can be painful to not be needed as much as you used to. How do you make sense of this new season of life?
Steve and Julia have a few small steps you can begin to take down this new road and start to make "the pivot" from parent to partner.
Dads: This is for you, too! Join us for another edition of The Pare...
It's easy to keep the focus on "how" our adult children are doing and who they are becoming, right? This podcast is designed to come alongside you as make the pivot to partner and validate, encourage, bring awareness and equip with tools to have healthy Partner/Adult Child relationship.
But there is more to pivoting to partner than this. The sanctification journey for us as partners.
With a humble heart, you can step back and ask...
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