RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

In today's episode, Kylene has guest Tyler Patrick on as he discusses what the recovery process for sex and pornography addicts looks like. He takes a principle based approach that moves individuals beyond focusing on sobriety and into a deeper focus on transforming their lives into people of integrity and authenticity so they can live lives of true freedom.   We hope you will check out his great work with the links below...

In this week's episode Kylene and Patrick walk through 4 things important for a betrayed partner to focus on shortly after discovering their partner has been unfaithful. Then they walk through 4 things that we often *want* to focus on or feel obligated to focus on, but may not be beneficial to your healing early on.  

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In this week's episode Kylene is discussing several areas where the end of a spectrum can be unhealthy when we sit there too long in our recovery journey. She explores the opposite sides of unhealth and shares how truth, healing and freedom is usually in the nuanced middle.   See visual summary notes from todays episode: https://canva.link/ntp2ynqpk2dkuir  

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In this week's episode Kylene and Patrick discuss how important having a vision, plan and goal is. When you hit relational roadblocks along the way, how do you know when it's time to push through vs when to change plans?   The recovery journey will be hard. There will be roadblocks, hurdles, emotional triggers along the way... how do you know when it's healthy to push to through? When do you know it's ...

In this weeks episode Kylene and Patrick are talking about 7 phrases used through healing and recovery that are beneficial and true, AND can be misapplied or misinterpreted to hinder healing.   See how these statements...

1. You can’t control your partners recovery 
2. Healing isn't linear turns into 
3. Boundaries are about how you respond- 
4. Addiction is a trauma response 
5. Forgiveness is good for the pe...

In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick are answering a listener's question regarding male brains. Are they really that different from female brains? Can they really not help themselves? Can they CHANGE?    They share how no, male female brains are not really different, however, societal shaping HAS treated men differently than women. When we are taught that this is just "normal" and "boys will be boys" they...

Marcy Middleton is currently working on her undergraduate degree in Applied Psychology with a minor in Biblical Studies. She serves as the Sexual Formation Deacon along with her husband at her home church in Bend, Oregon. She has led in-person groups at her home church for 3 years and also loves helping lead worship as a volunteer.   In today's episode Marcy shares talks about mid recovery. That place after discovery, after sa...

In today's episode Kylene and Patrick discuss the idea of choosing the life you live. So much of our choices are made subconsciously by programs running in the background that have been created in our life through family systems, painful moments, and our brains trying to make sense out of life...   Healing means identifying the patterns and consciously choosing the patterns we want to keep or release and making decis...

This week Patrick takes some time to reflect on recovery, parenting, and Keegan's graduation. There are so many gifts that deep recovery work gives you including better relationships with yourself, with your children and with others. Kylene and Patrick are so appreciative of the work they have done that has increased emotional maturity, communication, and safety within relationships. We wish that same gift for you though this ...

In todays episode Kylene answers listener submitted questions and discusses things like:  

• What's the role of the betrayed partner?
• What level of guardrails should we set up- should the betrayed partner have access to all the passwords?
• What are the empathy and restitution letters? 
• What if the addict is doing the "right things" but feels resentful? 

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Sheila Gregoire is the author of 11 books including the Great Sex Rescue and The Marriage You Want. She hosts the Bare Marriage podcast and you can connect with her and her resources at https://baremarriage.com   A few things we discuss in todays episode:  

• Sheilas statement in her book "The Marriage you want" - 'The problem with sex in Christian relationships isn't so much the absence of good teachi...

In this episode Kylene shares her history of body image issues, how she has chosen to work towards radically accepting herself at everyone, and what that looks like in terms of her thinking and mindsets around aging. 

Image and comparison is a common trigger for many betrayed partners. We hope this episode is encouraging and reminds you that you are valuable, worthy and beautiful exactly as you are! 

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ADHD may impact you, your partner or your coupleship in the recovery journey. In today's episode Kylene talks about ADHD in general, how ADHD may impact the addict in recovery, how ADHD may impact the betrayed partner through recovery and of course, what are some things to consider that may be supportive for the recovery journey if you have ADHD.    Free ADHD in Recovery PDF based on this episode ...

Recovery resources can range from free to being comparable to the down payment of a home. In today's episode we highlight the recommended steps towards healing and how each can be utilized with various budgets - even FREE!    FREE DOWNLOAD with todays episode: https://canva.link/dfsa8m7g7w0ni3g   What's MORE important than the money you spend, is where your heart and priorities lie in relation to the r...

In today's episode, Patrick discusses why betrayed partners feel so hurt by the betrayal.   

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Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners: 

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Marriage is a (hopefully) lifelong commitment to partnering with another human, sharing space with their nervous system and navigating life's challenges together. In today's episode we share some questions we think are really important to consider when deciding if you are ready to make that commitment.  

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In today’s episode Patrick shares how life feels different since he’s been in recovery. He appreciates the little things, enjoys life, and feels so much more calm navigating the day to day. 

We believe that everyone is capable of achieving recovery and we share episodes like this as encouragement for what a fulfilled life can look like when we put in the work.

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Shame is often discussed in a way that may be easy to label it as "bad". But just like every other emotion, shame isn't inherently wrong and it exists for a purpose. In today's episode, we share some thoughts around the emotion of shame, when it serves a beneficial purpose, and when it can become unhelpful. We also explore what deeper levels of healing may be available beyond simply trying to resist feeling shame. &n...

In this week's episode Kylene talks about the difference between a desire to control vs setting healthy boundaries. She often sees betrayed partners struggle to set boundaries from a fear of being too controlling.    Today she breaks down the difference, offers some examples, and encourages youtube use your voice and reach out for support when you need it!   

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