RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

RecoverU is a podcast where we talk about sex addiction, betrayal trauma, mental, emotional and physical health, faith, and anything and everything needed to RecoverU to your most authentic self that God created you to be.

Episodes

September 9, 2026 26 mins
Today Patrick discusses the importance of connection through recovery. It's not just going to group, it's being proactive in reaching out. Your recovery is your responsibility which means that in order to build these relationships, you also need to initiate, be consistent, and utilize the connection and friendships before an emergency arises.   Patrick shares some of his personal experiences and the benefits&nbs...
  • Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In this week's episode Kylene is discussing why a betrayed partner may not want to be touched after discovery. There are many reasons a betrayed partner may struggle with touch or physical intimacy after discovering infidelity in their relationship - Kylene walks through several reasons and highlights the importance of safety as the foundation of moving forward.   Check out these previous episodes about sexand intinm...
  • Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    Today's episode is about modesty - should we focus on it? Should we even have "modesty standards?"    We discuss how focusing on this is focusing on the wrong thing and actually keeps people stuck. When we focus on a micro point instead of a macro value and then try to project it onto others as their responsibility to follow it in order for me to be healthy, we are missing the mark.   Alternatively - what d...
    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss the strategy of crowding out the "bad" with the good. Whenever you want to change habits or patterns they recommend using 3 steps:   1) Identify the change that needs to be made (what are you temping, adding in or changing?)   2) Take some time to identify what that current thing or pattern offers you (Is it stability? Comfort? Distraction?)   3) Replace the old hab...
    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In today's episode, Kylene has guest Tyler Patrick on as he discusses what the recovery process for sex and pornography addicts looks like. He takes a principle based approach that moves individuals beyond focusing on sobriety and into a deeper focus on transforming their lives into people of integrity and authenticity so they can live lives of true freedom.   We hope you will check out his great work with the links below...
  • Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In this week's episode Kylene and Patrick walk through 4 things important for a betrayed partner to focus on shortly after discovering their partner has been unfaithful. Then they walk through 4 things that we often *want* to focus on or feel obligated to focus on, but may not be beneficial to your healing early on.  

    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a f...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In this week's episode Kylene is discussing several areas where the end of a spectrum can be unhealthy when we sit there too long in our recovery journey. She explores the opposite sides of unhealth and shares how truth, healing and freedom is usually in the nuanced middle.   See visual summary notes from todays episode: https://canva.link/ntp2ynqpk2dkuir  

    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coa...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In this week's episode Kylene and Patrick discuss how important having a vision, plan and goal is. When you hit relational roadblocks along the way, how do you know when it's time to push through vs when to change plans?   The recovery journey will be hard. There will be roadblocks, hurdles, emotional triggers along the way... how do you know when it's healthy to push to through? When do you know it's ...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In this weeks episode Kylene and Patrick are talking about 7 phrases used through healing and recovery that are beneficial and true, AND can be misapplied or misinterpreted to hinder healing.   See how these statements...
    1. You can’t control your partners recovery 
    2. Healing isn't linear turns into 
    3. Boundaries are about how you respond- 
    4. Addiction is a trauma response 
    5. Forgiveness is good for the pe...
    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick are answering a listener's question regarding male brains. Are they really that different from female brains? Can they really not help themselves? Can they CHANGE?    They share how no, male female brains are not really different, however, societal shaping HAS treated men differently than women. When we are taught that this is just "normal" and "boys will be boys" they...
    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    Marcy Middleton is currently working on her undergraduate degree in Applied Psychology with a minor in Biblical Studies. She serves as the Sexual Formation Deacon along with her husband at her home church in Bend, Oregon. She has led in-person groups at her home church for 3 years and also loves helping lead worship as a volunteer.   In today's episode Marcy shares talks about mid recovery. That place after discovery, after sa...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In today's episode Kylene and Patrick discuss the idea of choosing the life you live. So much of our choices are made subconsciously by programs running in the background that have been created in our life through family systems, painful moments, and our brains trying to make sense out of life...   Healing means identifying the patterns and consciously choosing the patterns we want to keep or release and making decis...
  • Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    This week Patrick takes some time to reflect on recovery, parenting, and Keegan's graduation. There are so many gifts that deep recovery work gives you including better relationships with yourself, with your children and with others. Kylene and Patrick are so appreciative of the work they have done that has increased emotional maturity, communication, and safety within relationships. We wish that same gift for you though this ...
    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In todays episode Kylene answers listener submitted questions and discusses things like:  
    • What's the role of the betrayed partner?
    • What level of guardrails should we set up- should the betrayed partner have access to all the passwords?
    • What are the empathy and restitution letters? 
    • What if the addict is doing the "right things" but feels resentful? 

    If  would like to connect wi...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    Sheila Gregoire is the author of 11 books including the Great Sex Rescue and The Marriage You Want. She hosts the Bare Marriage podcast and you can connect with her and her resources at https://baremarriage.com   A few things we discuss in todays episode:  
    • Sheilas statement in her book "The Marriage you want" - 'The problem with sex in Christian relationships isn't so much the absence of good teachi...
    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played

    In this episode Kylene shares her history of body image issues, how she has chosen to work towards radically accepting herself at everyone, and what that looks like in terms of her thinking and mindsets around aging. 

    Image and comparison is a common trigger for many betrayed partners. We hope this episode is encouraging and reminds you that you are valuable, worthy and beautiful exactly as you are! 

    If  would...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    ADHD may impact you, your partner or your coupleship in the recovery journey. In today's episode Kylene talks about ADHD in general, how ADHD may impact the addict in recovery, how ADHD may impact the betrayed partner through recovery and of course, what are some things to consider that may be supportive for the recovery journey if you have ADHD.    Free ADHD in Recovery PDF based on this episode ...
    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    Recovery resources can range from free to being comparable to the down payment of a home. In today's episode we highlight the recommended steps towards healing and how each can be utilized with various budgets - even FREE!    FREE DOWNLOAD with todays episode: https://canva.link/dfsa8m7g7w0ni3g   What's MORE important than the money you spend, is where your heart and priorities lie in relation to the r...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    In today's episode, Patrick discusses why betrayed partners feel so hurt by the betrayal.   

    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com

    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners: 

    https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course ...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played
    Marriage is a (hopefully) lifelong commitment to partnering with another human, sharing space with their nervous system and navigating life's challenges together. In today's episode we share some questions we think are really important to consider when deciding if you are ready to make that commitment.  

    If you would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free co...

    Listen
    Watch
    Mark as Played

    Popular Podcasts

      If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.

      Crime Junkie

      Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by Audiochuck Media Company.

      NFL Daily with Gregg Rosenthal

      Gregg Rosenthal and a rotating crew of elite NFL Media co-hosts, including Patrick Claybon, Colleen Wolfe, Steve Wyche, Nick Shook and Jourdan Rodrigue of The Athletic get you caught up daily on all the NFL news and analysis you need to be smarter and funnier than your friends.

      The Breakfast Club

      The World's Most Dangerous Morning Show, The Breakfast Club, With DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, And Charlamagne Tha God!

      The Clay Travis and Buck Sexton Show

      The Clay Travis and Buck Sexton Show. Clay Travis and Buck Sexton tackle the biggest stories in news, politics and current events with intelligence and humor. From the border crisis, to the madness of cancel culture and far-left missteps, Clay and Buck guide listeners through the latest headlines and hot topics with fun and entertaining conversations and opinions.

    Advertise With Us
    Music, radio and podcasts, all free. Listen online or download the iHeart App.

    Connect

    © 2026 iHeartMedia, Inc.

    • Help
    • Privacy Policy
    • Terms of Use
    • AdChoicesAd Choices