Angry At The Right Things

Forgiveness is a choice not to foster hatred, but it doesn't mean we don't feel it when we think of the person... or ride by their house. The relationship between hate, love and forgiveness is more nuanced than we've been taught, and is designed to give us wisdom.

Bronwyn shares with Katie the profound conversation she had with her mother about parental rejection, exploring the paradox of how children desperately need their parents but don’t know it – as parents are also the source of their pain. Bronwyn offers insights on being a secure base for our children.

Denial is powerful and is fueling worldwide chaos through tyranny. Yet there is a truth provocative enough to break it, causing MAGA followers to be confronted with their own childhood pain. It is a truth that will soon be revealed, and it will break the spell.

OCD develops when we dissociate from our anger and it takes on a life of its own, becoming something that feels scary and out of control. When we finally allow ourselves to connect to the anger and understand it, it’s no longer dangerous or guilt-producing. When we are responsible for our anger, we master it, instead of it mastering us... and making us sick.

No one rescues anyone else, but a true healer helps us rescue ourselves. Any philosophy that teaches otherwise, just isn’t true. Each one of us is more powerful than we know.

Complicated grief stems from never having fully procured the approval of our attachment figures, which creates shame and compulsive behavior. Yet we can give ourselves closure and peace, putting parental ghosts to rest. Bronwyn leads us in an Integration exercise to do just that.

It's imperative to know the difference between a healthy heart and an underdeveloped one. A heart needs to be adequately defended, but not excessively. A healthy human has empathy for both self and other, and learns to surrender false hope for people who refuse to embrace their humanity.

Humans are deep caverns, that should never be taken at face value, but understood, through deep listening. A good therapist is like a home-birth midwife, who knows that healing, like birth, is the natural human trajectory, given the right conditions.

Forget about attachment style -- what truly assesses our emotional maturity is our ability to self-nurture. All we need is a commitment to ourselves that we are worth the work, because we ARE. And the work isn’t laborious or draining, but rejuvenating and delightful. Nurturing ourselves is, well… nurturing.

Triggers are when we find ourselves re-experiencing an unconscious memory from the past, haunting us in the present. Yet we can unlearn our triggers by understanding the context, and integrating with our younger selves. Integration leads to a wholeness far more beautiful than if we'd never been broken, just like Kintsugi pottery. 

Delusions are far more common than we would believe, as many people believe themselves to be a perpetual innocent victim. When we live with such a person, we are likely to develop hallucinations as a response. Bronwyn leads us in an Integration Exercise to rescue ourselves for once and for all.

A lack of attunement from a loved one is not neutral. It is hatred. When someone we love fails to empathize with us, our body suffers. Let’s learn to recognize hate and live a hate-free life, filling the void with love.