September 7, 2020 • 63 mins
We’ve got more questions and answers from Becca & Tanya’s significant others and we saved the JUICIEST for last!
Find out what Becca and 95P’s stupidest fight was over and we hear Red Star’s HONEST thoughts about the “Dear Future Husband” journal.
Plus, Olivia Holt opens up about a guy she’s seeing while in quarantine and secrets get REVEALED
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Spreading In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I
Heart Radio, and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast
Your book He Love Everybody. I haven't seen you in
a whole week. Sometimes a week feels like seven days,
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and sometimes a week feels like seven minutes, and sometimes
a week feels like seventeen years. Oh wow, those were
a lot of extremes. One would say, those are the
extremes I feel during quarantine, highs and lows, ebbs and flows.
I mean, I think we I think we've all experienced
those moments. Although it's so strange because this lately I've
(00:45):
been going out to dinner more so I'm I feel
a little bit more normal like, and I kind of
love the outdoor seating, so I too. You know, I'm
just trying. I think mentally, the only way to like
maintain normal C is to pretend that it's normal and just,
you know, go do things that I normally would do. Yeah.
(01:07):
I went to the nail salon the other day. So
I've gone twice now to the nail salon. And the
first time I went, it was like during the heat wave,
so it was like a hundred something outside and they're outside,
so you're outside and they have like a little canopy
out there and they put like, um, you know, like
you know the doctor's office, and they have that like
paper that they put on your bed or whatever. They
have those on all the chairs. And mind you, it's
(01:29):
like a hundred and whatever degrees, so I'm like sticking
to it. It's like flapping on like my sweat and
like sticking everywhere. It was not a pleasant experience. But
I just went back again and it was like eighty degrees,
so it's actually quite nice out there. And the there
was a was a woman to the right of me
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getting her eyebrows wax outside and I was just like,
this is so like the fact that we're all watching
her get her eyebrows wax. Like I was like, what's next,
every We're gonna get a bikini? Don't know you're speaking of.
I had my second laser hair removing appointment. Um, and
so the first time I went, it was painless, Like
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I felt nothing. I was like, this is basically like
a massage where I'm getting like that's intense. Um. It
wasn't a massage, but it had no pain. I go
back and it was a different girl and I don't
know if she didn't put enough, like so you put
like um ultrasound gel. That's where it's It's horribly uncomfortable.
(02:33):
I hate it. It's like, well, the whole point of
the laser hair wibbles each time. It gets paint more
painful as you go. So like the first few times
its not was hurt at all, and then like once
you get to seven and eight, it's like fire on
your crotch. Okay, well I'm it. I was at a
thirteen and so the girl started. That was the highest
I did on my first one, and I was like,
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I didn't feel any pain. So she started on the thirteen.
I don't think she put enough gel or something, because
I was like getting zapped on my you. I was like, this,
ain't it? Like yeah, I would have to like jerk away.
I don't know. I don't I don't totally sympathize because
I feel like you can't even get a Brazilian wax.
Those are like a walk in the park. Okay, hey,
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y'all will have to go about this on the Facebook page,
because there's no way everyone thinks it was a walk
in the park. Getting a Brazilian wax is like is
like get giving blood at your doctor. Okay, well, first,
it's just like it is what it is like, it's
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not it's not enjoyable, like it's not like I'm eating
a Starburst, but it's not dreadful like I'm going to
the dentist. Oh I hate pidentists too. Okay, Yeah, the
bikini lacs and the dentist are the same level. For
the bikini wax is like going to the grocery store,
(04:01):
like you just gotta get it done. Basically, Tany is
just admitting to you all that she's numb below her waist.
She has no feeling. Let me tell you she's got
feeling down there. Yeah, well we know that because of
your pelvic floor exercises. That's right. Um. So last week
we talked about we answered some questions or our significant others.
(04:22):
Red Star answered questions that y'all had for them, Um,
kind of just getting to know them a little bit more,
and we answered a few and then we're going to
answer some more today. Do you feel like you know
them better? What do you mean? Not you? I know,
you know like Mark Easton? Do you feel like you
know them better? Yeah? I think this has actually been
(04:45):
pretty darn insightful. I think this is great. I think
we're also getting a feel a little bit for the personalities. Yeah, yeah,
I mean I haven't. I don't think I was shocked
by anything last week. Were you the winky face through me? Yeah?
I do. I do think it's funny though. That answers
(05:06):
a lot with ha Hawes. I'm not getting many hot
haws from Yeah, they do different ways? Does and then
red stores in L O L person I actually use
both when I texted what. I also think Red Star
is a politician in the sense that he knows that
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it's important to win over the scrubbing constituency, Yes, to
make sure they like him. You think playing it safe?
I think I don't think he's being brutally honest, and
I'll tell that to his face. I'm being really honest here.
(05:51):
Well let's be again, Becca, you're off tiny went left?
Oh wow, wow wow. Okay. Well, first up, we have
Julia Rose O'Hara, and this is funny. What's the stupidest
fight the two of you have had? Why? Why don't
you answer that first and see if there's a match.
We have so many stupid fights that I don't even
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know where to begin, I would say, like, in my
opinion of our fights are stupid. So I'm always like,
why are we fighting about this? This is so dumb
because you know, when it's my personality, if it's not
a big deal to me, then it's not a big deal,
which is not correct because there's two people in relationships,
so if it's a big, big deal to the other person,
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you have to respect that. But in my head, I'm like,
this is so dumb. Like every time we're arguing, I'm like,
this is so dumb. Pick one because I think you
may match if you pick it. I know which one,
which one was chosen, and it has to be the biggest.
The dumbest, biggest fight we've gotten in two is ever
Mario kar Because I did not say congratulate stions one
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because I always win and I never get congratulated, so
I didn't know that. I'm too competitive to congratulate my enemies,
my competitors. Now I'm interested to here here's the response.
What is the stupidest fight the two of you had
too many? Probably the time we played Mario Kart. As
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you know, Becca is beyond competitive, so if you win,
she will congratulate you at all. So she always beats
me and absolutely everything, and I finally beat her and
Mario and she refused to congratulate me. Refused it was
a monumental moment for me. So I got picked and
she couldn't be happy for me. Ha ha ha. So
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Tanya looks over when I said, I don't need to
congratulate my competitors, and she said, that's not a good thing.
It's not that's not a great quality or anything to
honestly be proud of that in like in actual sports
or something where there's competition, Like when I played tennis,
I'll be oh, good game. If I lose, that's fine, right, sure,
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But Mario Kart, anything anything, not being able to congratulate somebody, Well,
I got so mad that it was a fight that
I did not lost congratulate. No, it wasn't even mad
that I lost. I like literally didn't even care that
I lost. Uh huh, looks like it. I mean to
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defend you back. I play a lot of Mario Kart.
They give you a gigantic animated trophy. I mean like,
I feel like no external congratulations are required. The congratulations
that you need. It gives you a full ceremony with
a huge trophy. And it wasn't one race. This was
a full cup. It was a full yeah. Oh yeah,
(08:54):
it was a full race. And so I um, so
we we have these this other couple that we play
with virtually because you can play, uh like over WiFi
or whatever on the switch. And every time the three
of them, one of them beats me, they all congratulate
each other like it's like ganged up on me. And
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so then when I win, I never get congratulated. No
one ever tells me good jobs. So I'm like, why
do I have to overcompensate for y'all's inability to and
eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. You
should rise above them, not in Mario Kart. I rise
above in other ways. But Mario Kart feels it just was.
(09:37):
It was a dumb fight. Mario Karts where it starts.
You know, niare similar and it's very stressful for me.
Um Tina skip hides. Let's come back to that one.
Give me Katie Kray hang on, hang um okay. Katie
Kresky says, Red Star does the weight of the Dear
(09:58):
Future Husband Journal, intimidate, slash, scare you, or just make
you curious slash excited. That's a good question. That is
a good question. I'm interested to see what he is.
And he is aware of the Dear Future Husband Journal, Yes,
And is he aware that you've written to him in
the Dear Future Husband Journal? Up. I don't know. Actually probably, Well,
(10:22):
here's the red star right to say, honestly, I don't
know much about it. I know it exists, but maybe
intentionally don't know why, anything specific about it or what's
in it. It doesn't scare me. And it's another thing
I love about Tania, how intentional and vision oriented she is.
But I def don't think she wants me to know
the details. L O L. Yeah. I mean he definitely
(10:44):
knows I have it. He doesn't know as I have it,
and then I like right in it and I'm talking
to my dear future husband, But I don't think he
knows like what's in it? If that makes sense. Yeah,
but he does. He does say that he likes that
about me, that I like the stuff we did on
my birthday and the fact that I make vision boards
(11:04):
like he likes that. So if that's what he thinks,
the Dear Future Husband Journalist, then great win win M. M. Um. So.
The next one is from Reagan Graham and the question
is do you share Becca's eating habits? What are your
thoughts on buttered pop tarts and Dr Pepper? What do
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you think the response will be? I I feel like
I'm gonna get some blame put on me, But the
thing is, we all have the ability to say no.
I do know that it's harder to eat healthy if
the person you're with eats really poorly, so that probably
doesn't help the situation. But I mean nine if I
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ate a lot healthier before before I came into the picture. Yeah,
I mean if anybody doesn't like a buttered pop tart
I don't, I don't know, then they are an alien. Alright,
Well here's the response, So do you share Becca's eating habits?
What are your thoughts on buttered poppouts and Dr Pepper?
Absolutely not, But since dating her, she has completely attacked
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my eating habits. I never had sugary foods or fast
food growing up, ever, and she has introduced me to
every kind and definitely gotten me hooked on soda, which
I'm upset about. I think pop tarts really fall flat
for me personally, but butter makes everything better. Well, that
was a great response. Yeah, the soda thing has been
(12:33):
a little bit of like a battle, but I've kind
of cut back, so I feel like, you know, we're
at a we have a good balance now pop tarts,
when when it was but butter makes everything better? Which
is it's true? Um, yeah, I definitely am not. I'm
(12:54):
not a good influence for anyone who wants. I mean,
I even remember in with Robert eats so clean and
he it's true, you would be like, are you kidding me? Like,
can we just eat something like go somewhere that has
something decent that I can eat? That was even worse
(13:14):
back then to start small? Why can't they get over
that line? That's so funny? Alright, true, No, it's not.
They are not as good unless there's butter on them.
I mean I do agree that I think they're fantastic
under all circumstances. Alright, Faith Ferris, Yeah, Faith Farris said,
what do you wish Tanya believed about herself? I have
(13:38):
no idea. I'm going to go right to the answer.
Tanya is an extremely intentional and self aware of person.
She is incredibly strong, but I'm not sure she realizes
exactly how strong she is. So that's probably one thing
I wish she realized. I also wish she realized how
deserved she is of everything she has achieved and will achieve.
She always talks about feeling like an impostor because she
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didn't come up through the ranks that we others in
her industry do. But I think that shows how deserved
she is because she blazed her own path based on
her talent, faith, energy, and vision and mostly the way
she makes others feel emotional. This is a really great answer,
yea answer. He tells me that all the time, he
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like doesn't understand what an imposter SYNTRM is. He's just like,
I don't know if he doesn't understand it. I think
he understands it, but he doesn't understand why I have
it so much. I mean, I think a lot of
people will probably feel that way about you. Um. Yeah,
so he's definitely said that to me before. UM, but
it's nice hearing it. Yeah. I'd say he knows you're
(14:43):
pretty well all right back to you, Um, love minds
about pop tarts and you're um. Lindsay Anne says, how
do you feel about Becket keeping your relationship so private?
Do you wish she would share more or do you
feel hidden? Yeah, I'm curious to hear this answer because
(15:13):
we've had so many conversations about it and I'm curious
to know, like what the response is right now? All right,
here is the response. Definitely in the beginning, I've always
wanted to have a relationship I could share, mainly because
it's spent so much of my personal time having private relationships,
so I was ready for something new. But I am
very content with the life we have and I love
(15:35):
it because it's ours. Whenever she wants to share more,
I'll be down for that too. Oh, it is really sweet. Yeah,
at the beginning, it was like there was a lot
of conversations about it, but I totally under I understand
both of our like I understand and the perspective, and
(16:01):
I also appreciate the respect of how I'm doing as well. Yeah, well,
those two were a little heavier. Kara Rutherford has a
lighter one for u. Tania. Okay, Carol Rutherford, what are
your actual thoughts Antania's almond pulp cookies. So my almond
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pulp crackers are my almond cookies because those are different
the cookies. He likes. The crackers not so much. I
was gonna say, I think this questioned all the crackers.
The crackers, Yeah, he hates them. He says they taste
like tree bark. It's funny because you've predicted his answer
almost to the word. He said, l O L the
almond pulp crackers chewy tree bark. But she really put
(16:44):
in a good fight before giving up on them. It's
so true. I kept putting different things on top of them,
like more nutritional yeas to make them taste like cheese.
It's like I was trying everything under the sun. Then
I was trying the air fryer to make them spear,
like I tried everything to make them taste All he
said was tree bark. Yeah, well, at least his were crunchy.
(17:08):
Mine were much I like them better moist um. That's
so funny, he said, it is chewy tree bark um. Okay,
meg Lynn says, when did you know that you were
in love with Becca? I bet the answer is um.
(17:29):
I feel like, okay, I'm gonna just I want to
hear the response and then we can discuss after. I
knew from the moment I met her. Oh my god,
I knew from the moment I met her, but it
(17:54):
really solidified on our first date, like two days after meeting.
We talked for like four hour worse, and I didn't
want the night to end. It was amazing. That is
so we were both so drunk, so I knew the
first night, No, that is not We both kissed other
(18:17):
people that night, so yeah, yeah, drunkenly, you dog, But
that's really nice. But that our first date was not
actually a date. Actually, we just went to have a
drink um like as friends. I guess we had just met, right,
(18:37):
but you're you weren't. It wasn't even a date, like
you were going to hang out a group and then
everybody was like, all right, we'll go, and um, yeah,
that's exactly what happened. We had had like a huge
group thing and then everyone bailed and I thought, well,
I don't want to bail, and so we we went
and got drinks and it was true. We did talk
for four hours, and I left being like that was
(18:59):
different and I felt something too. I don't know if
I mean, we talked about it now because we're in
love and we're like we were in love then, but realistically,
but that's that's really set, you know what. I talked
to you after that night and there was something different.
So whether you do I turned different or love tomato tomato? Yeah,
(19:23):
it was quick though. I mean we said I love
you within two weeks of knowing each other. All right, Tanya,
this is from Taylor right. An interesting question, Taylor right? Um,
does okay, does it intimidate you? How invested all of
the Scrub sisters are in your relationship. I think it's
(19:44):
a good question because I don't think a lot of
people can relate to that being in a relationship the
thousands of people are interested in and invested in. Yeah,
I'm sure, I'm sure. I don't know if intimidates the
right word. I don't think it intimidates him, but I
think it's definitely like, yeah, it's definitely a situation. Okay,
(20:07):
Well here's what he said, not at all. It's so special.
How much you all care about and love Tanya and
they're invested in her happiness. That's true. It is a
beautiful thing to see, especially in a world that is
often so negative on social media, etcetera. You guys are
a rare community and your positivity, love and encouragement for
each other is truly inspiring. She is lucky to have you. Also,
(20:29):
your comments about me, my hands, my fish slicing techniques
are hilarious. That is true. It is true because I
try to show them all of these things because I'm
like it it's so different, you know what I mean.
Like I'm like, they're not coming at you. They don't
want to be negative or mean, like they're like, yeah,
I want to know. They just want to know, and
(20:50):
like they're just like they're funny too, Like the comments
about his hands are so whenever, like they put in
the Facebook group, you know how, like there's some videos
of people cutting the fish or whatever, and they're like
is this red star? I like screenshot and send it
to him and stuff, because I'm just like it's not
as heavy, you know what i mean, Like I think
people's at least his perception is that, like it's just
(21:11):
so heavy. People are so like invested in everything. Um,
and I try to like lighten it up. Yeah. I
always I that you bring up a good point, because, um,
I noticed one time in the in the scrubbing in
groups and I was like, why won't beck A share
Like are we that scary or something? And it literally
has nothing to do with the scrub like the scrubbing
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in group makes me want to be more open because
the support that they show constantly. Yeah, it's not. It
has nothing to do It's like, literally, it's a totally
different situation. It has nothing to do with me thinking
that there that they're gonna harm my relationship or say
mean things like I feel more support from them than
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I do really anywhere else, you know. All right, last
question becap from Rachel Messic. What is it like to
date Tanya rads BFF? Does it ever feel overwhelming or invasive?
I'm scared of this one. I literally have no idea
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what this answer could be like. Isn't funny, I'm just
gonna read it. I've always felt so much support from
Tania regarding our relationships, so I love it. She was
so happy for Becca and I when we met, and
she has been our cheerleader from the start. I'm so
happy Becca has such a supportive friend like Tanya. Smiley face. Oh,
(22:35):
it's because we are so alike, so it's almost like I,
UM relate. I relate, not only relate, but I also
do think. I think that Um in the beginning, when
everything was like new, UM and I saw you in
such a different way than i'd seen you before. It
was so exciting for me. Yeah, I think it was
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more exciting for you than it was for me. It
was like every day I would come in and with
my eyes wide open and be like, do you still
feel the same way? Do you still feel the same way?
And like every still till this day and I probably
still will till we're like ninety years old. Scared her there,
but um, I just think it's I just think it's
so beautiful to see because I really kind of gone
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that that wavelength of Becco when she was just like
maybe maybe I just can't feel the same way that
you feel, or like maybe I'll never feel that way
for somebody, like I'm just not capable. And then all
that changed came in your life. So it's been, Uh,
it's been fun to see and special cute answer, right answer?
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All right? One more for Tanya, And this is when
we could tease again if you wanted to, Tanya, go
back to the one that we skipped. Oh yeah, I
thought I was wondering why you skipped that. Girolamo, Heidi, Girolamo,
what are the best what are you best at? And
what can you improve on dot dot in bed? There's
(24:02):
no way he answered that. I would like to tease it.
Did he answer he answered it. I'm not going to
say he wrote something down, he didn't just skip it.
I'm wondering if he answered the first part what are
you best at and can improve on period and skip
(24:24):
the in bed? All right, he really doesn't need to
improve on anything in bed. Let's get to Olivia Holt
and then we'll answer this question. Okay, I'm so excited
to talk to Olivia Holt. Um. We'll be right back
to chat with her. And we have a very special
(24:53):
guest into o R today scrubbing in. Please welcome Olivia. Hold. Okay,
I'm trying to decide how to describe your set up
right now, um, because it feels like so she's further back,
she's got a mike, mike like she's about to perform
for us. You literally do like you look like you're
(25:16):
set up like, um, like we're having like an MTV
unplug situation. Totally is it's like a little chill acoustic vibe. Um.
You said you've been singing today. Are you singing your
new single? What's going on? I am I'm singing my
new single. I'm very excited about it. It's crazy because obviously,
(25:37):
in you know, COVID times, I feel like we all
kind of have to adapt to a new way of
doing promo and doing the meet and greets and everything,
and so now it's just like all over the internet,
and so I've just been in one space today doing
all of that. Is that nice though? Do you like that? Like?
Is it easier because I feel like, let's say this
(25:58):
was a year ago, you would literally be on like
a tour of the United States, like on a plane
every other day, like not sleeping. Yeah, I think in
some ways it's easier, like you said, not the not
sleeping portion is, you know, definitely. Now I get sleep.
I can just like I literally my house is ten
minutes away from here, so I just like pop up,
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get ready, come here, and then I'm just here and
cannot get all out in one day, Whereas if this
was you know, BC before COVID, I would be struggling
to get up because I would have a plane to
catch its sixth day m and then coming from one
place to the next. But the energy is just a
little different, you know, because we're not in person and
(26:40):
it's hard because you can't get that immediate feedback because
there's always going to be some sort of delay or
you know that people are talking over each other, like
there's not like there's not like that. Let's fill the
space and feel the vibe in the room. You know.
I'm so happy to hear you say that, because I
think that so many people are like seeing the benefit
it's of this time in terms of just like no
(27:03):
travel expenses and no you know what I mean, Like
it's just easier everybody just doing things remotely. But there's
something that you just really can't grasp on the digital medium,
do you know what I mean? Like you really I
think we are losing something. And I think I really
realized it because, um, the other day it was like
National Radio Day or whatever, and so I was like
(27:24):
going back and they were asking me to send like
videos and photos just from like my favorite memories in
the studio, and I was watching all these things, and
it made me realize how much more energy and like
vibrant our show is when we're together in the same place,
you know, Like it's kind of wild. Yeah, And I
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was gonna say, like coming out with new art and
what you're creating. There's this so much excitement about it
because it's something you've been working so hard on and
you don't even get to feel that like excitement of
seeing someone else's reaction in real life or in per sin,
which I think, God we have technology because we do
get um. I mean, Tanya and I have started out
(28:09):
doing the podcast separately and we finally were able to
quarantine and now we're together, and it's the energy so
much different getting to be with each other, and it's
so much different, right, So you're right, it doesn't miss
a huge difference. This song is amazing. Tanya played it
for me and that's right. It's so fun, Like the
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vibe makes you want to be like on a boat
in the middle of the water, just like dancing with
your friend. That's what I was thinking I wanted to do. Well.
I love that chol I'm so here for that visual.
That's amazing. And you really do though. I feel like
you're this like Bob Queen, like you kind of just
put out these songs that are like they're kind of
earwarmy good. That's good. I love Rehab too. Is he
(28:53):
just like so fun and easy to work with? So
fun so easy to work with. What's wild Actually we've
never actually met person. Um. Every time that I've worked
with him has just we've been over like he's over
Sees and I'm here in l A. So we've just
our paths have never crossed um in person before, so
(29:13):
we've just had the opportunity, luckily through technology, to to
to work together. But he's so awesome. I'm such a
fan of all of his work and all of his
music and um, everything that we collaborate on. I I
feel just super proud of and really lucky because You're
right like they're they're definitely earwormy, and I feel like, um.
(29:35):
I also for some reason, it's like he lives in
my brain because I feel like there's like points in
my life, like in my music career where I'm like, God,
like I'm really like feeling like I want a song
like this, and then like I hear like his production
on stuff, and I'm like, yeah, That's what I wanted.
He's also like very I mean, I've never met him either.
I've only like like talked to him through instant or
(29:56):
instance and Messenger TV, through a show Instagram, but I
feel like he's just super humble because he's massive, like
massive massive, and he's so super super humble, which I
find to be very refreshing, crazy down to earth. Well,
your song is um kind of it's this really fun,
(30:19):
boppy song, but it's it's kind of about the feeling
of unreciprocated love, which it's not a fun feeling. I know.
We just sort of snuck that in there, I know.
And I always think there's so many songs I always
relate to Taylor Swife when I think about these, but
she has so many that have this great sound. It's
like you're bobbing your head and then lys's sad the world.
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Have you felt that before, like you were like in
love with somebody and they didn't love you back? Of course, yeah,
And and I think and I think everyone has sort
of felt that, and to a certain extent, you know,
I think we've all sort of felt like maybe we
weren't getting enough, or maybe we were getting too much,
and in this case, it wasn't at all. So I think,
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you know, it definitely is very relatable in that sense.
But I kind of love the idea of, like lyrically
it being this in a sort of in this like
really um vulnerable, not necessarily dark place, but vulnerable, like
a place where you know you no one really talks
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about like how how how they feel after a break
up other than it just being sad, like no one
actually really goes through like the highs and the lows
and the come over to the rab sack. I'll talk
about it all perfect. Give yourself one toilet paper roll
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to cry. You get one full role, and then once
the role is done, the crying is over. To see
it loved so good. But I love the yeah, like
lyrically being in that space and then you know, sonically
it's feeling maybe a little bit more uplifting because I
want there to feel like there is hope, because there
is you know, they're there, even though there might not
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be the happiest ending of things. I feel like there's
there's always some sort of uh ending to to go
into the next chapter of life, you know, And I
feel like that's what our hope is. So I think
that's like why I love this song so much, because yeah,
like it has this role, it has a space where
it's it's vulnerable and um and and there's this innocence there.
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But then the song on the production side anyway just
lifts you up. A lot of our UM So a
lot of our podcast is kind of based on dating
and finding love and heartbreak and that that same feeling
of liking someone and not having the feelings reciprocated. A
lot of our listeners are going through all of those phases.
Are you dating right now? Is? Are you single? What's
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your don't talk about it. I am dating, um and
it's so interesting doing it in Quarantine. That's why I'm
like dating multiples no no, no, no no, no, just one?
Oh just okay. That makes it. That makes it easier,
makes it way easier. But it's crazy because I'm I
feel like in the last couple of years, I've experienced
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dating just like going on dates and doing that thing
like never actually like spending so much quality time with
one singular human being. And I kind of was forced
to do that. I started dating someone at the beginning
of Quarantine, and then we were sort of like forced
to be in the same space at all times or
like not at all times. Right, we had to choose
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which one we wanted to do, and we were like,
I guess we'll just see this through and it's yeah,
and like you you have the option to Like that's
the thing I think, especially like with your schedule, I
think you can default a lot to Like let's say
you start dating somebody new and you don't really like
you're like kind of like unsure. You could be like, oh,
have a really crazy early shoot tomorrow in like Japan,
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and I gotta get my sleeper, like whatever, do you
know what I mean? Like you can really kind of
use that in a way. Yeah, you're nailing it, of course.
And when now, when quarantine hit, you were like, oh,
so all my things are in my house, so I
can't there's I either want to be with you for
real or like I can't be with you at all.
It's so accurate, it's so trust me, it's wild and
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it's like how do you? But I think I think
that's like now we we are experiencing like full on
brutal honesty when it comes to that, and I'm I'm
super confrontational as it is, so I don't have a
hard time with that, but but it can be tricky
and so I don't know. You're right. You're right though,
either it's either like a yes or no at this
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point in life, like you can't you can't have any
sort of fun excuse, like I couldn't imagine like me
a year ago, I was like in that pursuit of
just like oh, you want to go on a date
on Monday, Sure you want to go out with me today? Sure?
Like you couldn't pay me to do that. Now, Now,
if I were single and I was like trying to
I wouldn't do that. Like, wait, I need to hear
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more about you being confrontational because I could not be
more non confrontational. And most people I know are vocal
about being non confrontational, but a lot of people aren't
just straight up like I'm confrontational and it like you
just did. I need to know more, you know, I
think that I now that I'm actually saying all of
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this out loud, let me let me clarify what I'm
trying to say. I think I think I'm more confrontational
with the people that I love and care about that
are in my life consistently because I feel like there
I could. It's like it's like a space that that's
already very comfortable to where I could just be like
if there's like an issue, I could just it in
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the bud really quickly and there's not any of that
lingering weirdness. I do have a harder time being confrontational
with people that I don't know very Okay, so you're
so basically you're a healthy communicator. You communicate with it,
I mean, honestly, yeah, I want to call it confrontational.
I would say, like you are aware of your emotions
and your vocal. Yeah, that's a real honestly from someone
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who couldn't be more opposite. Something I'm working on right now.
Considered a gift because even with the people that I'm
close to, probably even more so, I have to work
on being direct and communicating because when I get uncomfortable,
I'm just like, well, I'm not going to say anything
because that saves the relationship. But the truth is that
talking about it, like is a healthy relationship. Like I
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think it's I think yes and no. I think, like,
you do make a good point, But at the same time,
it's like sometimes like we need to like wore things
out in our head for a minute, you know, because
then because then if we just start talking, then some
things are said that didn't need to be said. And
so I think I think there's a balance, you know,
Like I feel like maybe sometimes we need to have
the talk and just like really like finesse it and
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dissect it, or we just need to like work it
out on our head and then when we're ready we chat. Yeah,
I'm not I'm no life for you. When the slightest
I have no idea what I mean saying. I just like,
I mean no one. But I like that you were
just straight up like, yeah, I say what I feel. Um.
Is it weird in being in the public eye having
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so many eyes on you. You're an actress, you're singer,
you kind of do it all. Um, is it weird
having that type of life where everyone's kind of watching
everything you do? Do you feel like you have to
be so careful about what you post, what you say,
especially right now, it's like a you know, you need
to make sure you're saying the right thing at all times. Yeah,
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I think that I've I think I've struggled with that
since the beginning of my career. I started working when
I was ten years old, and then I think social
media kind of started hitting hard, mostly on Twitter, I
think when I was like four thirteen or fourteen, and
then Instagram kind of came when I was like fifty
and then it just kind of blew up from there,
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and I think, I think, yeah, like I think I've
definitely like struggled with like what I can say what
I can't say, And a lot of that had to
do with I grew up on UM, a children's network,
and so I had to be very careful about what
I did in life, and not that I was doing
anything that I wasn't supposed to be doing, but I
think even just like the pressure of that was really difficult.
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And then I moved on to a show and a
network that was very secretive and everything. I had to
sign an NDA for almost absolutely everything, and every interview
that I did, I was like like holding back so
much air because I was nervous I was gonna like
have like spill like a spoiler. And so you know,
it's like it's tricky like living in like that life
because you can't just be completely can't did you know,
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just completely like let go and be yourself. Especially with
social media, it's so hard like finding a balance between
like how much you want to share about your personal
life or and then wanting it to be like just
a space for work to like show people what you're
working on and to share with them. So I think
I'm still trying to figure it out. I don't know
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if I'm necessarily completely comfortable with how I handle everything,
but you know, I think I think it's a day
by day kind of feeling and then also trying to
figure out how to express how I feel about what's
happening in the world, whether you know it has everything
to do with the pandemic or what's happening in our
country or or overseas. Like a lot of that is
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like how much do I need to share? How much
do I need to keep to myself? And I think,
you know, it's important to just, like I think, have
a space where we can all sort of have like
an open communication. And that's where it gets difficult though,
because some people feel a little bit more confrontational over
the internet, and then in person they're like, nah, yeah, yeah,
it's true. A lot of people are brave over the internet.
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Is this like something that because you mentioned that you
were you're dating right now, is this like a that
a conversation that you have with somebody that you're dating, Like,
I don't post I'm not going to post anything about
you until X Y Z, or like, is that like
sounds so ridiculous, but these are the conversations I'm having
at the moment, so I'm just curious. No, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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I mean we've had We've definitely had the conversation, and
I think it just really depends on people's opinions and
and there their perspective of what they want to share,
because I have some friends who are in the industry
who don't want to talk about or share their relationship
at all. They want to be completely private, which I
can totally respect, whereas I'm sort of in the middle.
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I'm definitely like Switzerland on this, Like I don't care
either way. I think, um, I think it's cool when
people post about their relationship and show their partner off,
but also if they don't at all, I don't really
have a I don't think I have an opinion either way.
But yeah, my the person I'm dating right now and
I have had the conversation and we're both sort of
just like we don't care either way. So it's like
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anyone's anyone's move. Yeah, so that's like a nice place
to be in. Yeah, totally. Yeah. Um. With during quarantine,
have you found that you've been more creative than ever,
or have you felt like you've you've kind of been
a little almost like I'm gonna give my brain a
break while I have one and then because no one
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knew how long this was gonna last, or have you
been like, I'm gonna just use this time and get
as creative as I can so that the time passes,
Like what's been your method? I mean, I think it's
the beginning of all of this. We really had no
idea what we were getting into. We didn't know the time,
the time frame of how long we were going to
be doing it for, um, how long we were supposed
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to just like completely quarantine. So I think at the beginning,
I was just like, all right, I'm gonna chill because
I don't I don't know what that's like anymore. So, um,
I chilled for us all it like two months, and
then I just was like what am I doing doing? This?
Isn't I I just don't like to chill, Like I
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like to have my chill like nights and then I
like to like decompress and like have a glass of
wine and like watch TV and like that's like my
version of chill. I can't chill for two months straight,
like I like, I like the hustle and bustle of
what I do, and um and and traveling and moving
around and working with people different people almost every other day,
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and so I it was in a really weird funk
for I think that that first, like that first month,
after the month of the first proportion of quarantine, and
then I was like, all right, I need to do
something about this. So I kind of started to just
change my perspective a little bit, and I was like,
I just need to embrace the pause and like enjoy
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this time off, but then also find find ways to
be productive and um, because I felt really uninspired too
because I was just sitting in my house and I
was I was dating, but it wasn't like we were
were we weren't also able to like go and do
anything like normally like when I'm dating somebody I have
so much to like pull from because like we're out
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like experiencing life together. But we were just like chilling
in my house, cooking and watching TV, like literally doing nothing,
so which can also be really great in in in
you know, on its own, but um, yeah, the inspiration
just wasn't there. So I was like, Okay, let's like
mix it up, and so I started going on some
road trips and just like finding like even like if
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it was just like for the day, just like getting
outside of my house and just like seeing like life
in different formats, and you guys started getting a little
bit more inspiration again. And then over the last year,
I've really been just prioritizing music. I've been in sessions
almost every single day writing and so I started listening
back to all of those songs that I that I
wrote and just to put me back in the headspace
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that I was in a year ago, and that sort
of motivated me again, and it helped me and it
helped me gain that inspiration, and so I started writing
again and then got back into the studio and now
I'm working and it feels really good. I had to
twelve hour days this past weekend working on music videos,
so I feel really fresh and ready for anything. Now.
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I love that everyone's getting there, like re re energized
from working there, like needed a little reset, and now
people are like getting their mojo back. And I think
I was feeling because on Saturday was my second day
and i'd wrapped it was like nine pm, and I
was like, I feel the best kind of exhaustion that
I want to feel like, this is like what I've
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been like craving for the last five months is like
this kind of exhaustion. So it's been good. I always
bring up the indiogram. Have you ever taken the indiogram
A two? Oh? I was gonna guess three, because I
feel like you have a lot of three, like the
ambition to like being out there creative. I think I'm
(44:55):
a two with the isn't there like a I think
I'm a wing three? Yeah? I love the Angiograham. I
just feel like, you know, you talk to people, you
kind of understand a little bit more of where where
they come from and why they are, you know the way. Yeah.
It's so funny though, because as you were talking about that,
I like literally feel like I had those exact same
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feelings during quarantine. Like for me, it was like kind
of in the opposite way though, because right when when
like the quarantine hit, my work was crazier than ever
in terms of like I felt like I was just
going NonStop, uh, and like then you're at home, so
people just think you can pop in and do something
at any moment. So it was like I didn't really
have that balance. I was like I didn't have boundaries
(45:38):
or anything. And so I think I was like just
like full speed ahead for the beginning first two months,
and then I hit that wall of like maybe I
just want to embrace the pause and just like enjoy this.
And I also I was feeling very uninspired too, like
you really hit the nail on the head. It's just
like we're literally just and I've been trying to make
it cute like I do like cute, like I did
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like a Paris night the other and I were like
brought Paris home and like cooked French food. You know.
It's like I'm trying to do things with like a
done double double day where we like we made the
same you know, dishes and did it via zoom and
trying to But yeah, it's just like very uninspired. And
now I'm in that place of like the combo bowl,
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like I want to embrace the pause but also like
get my mojo back exactly. Yeah, No, it's definitely tricky,
But I think I think we're all at least from
the conversations that I've had and like what I've been experiencing,
I think like we're all kind of getting back, but
the first the like this was a tricky summer for everybody. Yeah, totally. Um,
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are you so you said you were you had a
bunch of songs that you've been working on since last year.
Are you planning to release some of singles? Are you
working on an album? What You're a little bit of both? Um, Yeah,
I'm gonna release I'm gonna release two songs this year
and then I'm going to release one at the big
ding of the year, and then following that is going
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to be my debut album, which is quite because I've
never had a debut album before. No, and you only
get one debut album. I know, I know. I'm so excited.
So is it done? Like in the cam like you
have it, It's like it's not completely No, it's not
completely finished. Um, but it's getting there. It's it's and
(47:23):
it's definitely been this It's just been a really special
experience because I think in the past I've I've obviously
had a long journey of music, but I've sort of
been what you were saying a little bit ago at
the beginning, just sort of like dropping singles here and there.
But I want, like what I want is I want
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there to be a very clear vision and a clear
body of work, and I wanted to feel like a
cohesive project and so um, which is what I'm used
to working on on the acting side, is like something
that like has a start and has a finish, and
that's that's that's what I want, uh for this album
is for it to feel like this really big piece
of body of work of my life and then I
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can move on to the next chapter. So that's that's
kind of the vision that I have for it. Um.
So it's not completely done, but it's it's getting there.
And I'm really really proud of it. And lots of
people lent their amazing creative minds to this project and
I feel just really lucky and really proud of it. Yeah,
that's so exciting. Mean, how exciting to have a know
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that your debut album is coming up something to look
forward to? Sure, I know. Um. One more question, Um,
because you're you're beautiful, you're talented, you have such a
you've had a successful career, and you're still so young.
What's something to two girls your age that you would
say is advice when they're dealing with social media and
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insecurity and dating and you know, just struggles that we
go through, kind of like growing up and being in
this kind of place in our lives. It's a really
really interesting question. I think I would say, like if
I were to look back, I guess when I was
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a teenager, and I mean even now, I think I
would really just tell myself to not take anything too seriously.
I think I was like so keen on like making
sure that everything was perfect, and I am a perfectionist.
I want everything to be perfect. But I also think
it's really important to just have fun in whatever you're
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doing and to not feel tied or strapped down to
something that doesn't make you happy, whether that's a partner,
or whether that's your work, or whether that's a friend group.
I think it's really important to just thrive off of
whatever you feel most comfortable thriving on. And for me,
I think social media can be a really fun, amazing place,
(49:54):
but it can also be our worst enemy. And I
think again to just let space be a fun one.
Don't don't spend hours and hours and hours of ends
on it because it's it's not fair to yourself. Because
you have a beautiful life that you're out there living
and you don't want to put that time and energy
into something that isn't even necessarily real. And I'm still
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figuring that out, so I don't know if I have
the proper advice for it, but um, I do think that,
you know, life, if anything, if anything has been given
to us this year, it's it's it's that we've have
such little time here, and I think it's so important
and it sounds so repetitive and cheesy. I feel like
everybody says this, but I think now more than ever,
(50:40):
we really need to just appreciate people and love them
and be kind to them, and um, and do the
same to ourselves, be kind to ourselves and love ourselves
the way that we would want other people to do
that for us. Wow, that was great, great advice for everyone,
I think, us, you, all of our listeners. Enjoy life, Yeah,
(51:04):
don't waste it comparing yourself to what's happening on. I
think we've got too much pressure on ourselves. I think
it's really just simple. You know, we're gonna have challenging days,
but I think like pushing through those makes the makes
the other day is so much more worth living, you know,
and more exciting. I love that, Um, thank you for
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your time. This is fun. Um. Everyone stream by. Listen
to love you again, Olivia Holt with rehab. Um. It's
such a bop. It's out now, so let's stream it.
Stream it, stream it, stream it to get those numbers up.
Baby yeah. Um, good luck with everything. Thanks for stopping
(51:48):
by and scrubbing in with us, and we'll hopefully talk
to you again soon. Thanks, love you, love you guys,
appreciate you and your support. Thank you, bye bye. I
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really really like her and her song is what the
kids are calling a bop. The kids are calling what
are the kids? I'm a kid, I call I like bob.
I know it is a bob. It's just she's so
cute and like likable. I remember I was at my
um salon where we well, what used to be the
salon where we got her hair done. It's not open
(52:35):
right now, um, and she was getting her hair washed,
and it was like one of the first like famous
people I saw being in l A. Thought it was
really cool. Did you say hi? No? No, I think
she was like we were both at the shampoo bowl
and we were both like chatting, but somehow one of
us overheard the other, so we were talking to each other,
but not direct, you know, we're like looking up getting
(52:57):
her hair washed. But she's just really sweet and I
feel like everyone I know that knows her loves her.
Just cool. Yeah, she's really sweet. Um Okay, so are
we getting to emails or are we saving the answer
to a red stars question for when I have one
email and then we can answer the question. This is
from Sarah. I'm twenty three years old and I currently
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live in Madison, Wisconsin. That, by the way, is my hometown, Madison, Wisconsin.
Shout out. Should go there if you get a chance.
As a beautiful city, the downtown is surrounded by lakes.
It couldn't be lovelier anyway. I was with my boyfriend
for one year and we met during my last clinical
rotation of nursing school. I had already decided to move
in with my best friend for a year in a
different state, so we did distance for a year. Wait wait, wait, wait,
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wait started over. I was with my boyfriend for a
year and I got a clinical nursing something. She was
in nursing school and she was dating in for a year,
and then she got a place out of state with
her friend for a year, so they were a distance
for a year after that, Okay, then I decided to
get my own apartment in Madison. Since things were going
(53:59):
so well, moving in seemed too quick and I was
excited to have a space I could call my own.
He was excited, as was I, and then a month
after things started to get tense. He's been very unhappy
with his job. He is twenty eight, Sarah's twenty three,
and he has seemed to fall behind keeping up with
his home. On top of all this, his mom was
recently diagnosed with breast cancer. He hides his emotions, and
(54:21):
I feel like I want to be there for him,
but I wasn't doing a great job because I was
focused on moving and starting a new job. He called
it off with me recently, and it seems very abrupt.
He said he needs time to cool down and see's
a future with me. But I also told him I
don't want to wait around. We both did things wrong,
but I feel we just need some time to reset
and figure out how to live in the same city.
He wants to figure his own issues out, but I
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also think if he really loved me, he would want
to be with me, or at least give another shot.
Am I wrong. Do I move on? How long do
I wait? If I even do so? First, I would
like to say, I'm sorry you're going through this, But
second I would say, I think has a lot going
on on his plate, like with his mom being diagnosed
(55:05):
with breast cancer and um struggling in his job or
whatever it is. And I think if he has made
the decision to that you being in his life is
over more overwhelming and doesn't make it better or easier.
I think you need to respect that and also respect yourself.
And I think you're you're twenty three. Like I would say,
(55:27):
date other people, put yourself out there. It doesn't mean
that maybe in the future, when things settle down for him,
that maybe he'll be ready in timing works out for y'all.
But I would I would move on, and I would
see what else is out there, see who else is
out there, and respect um, what what he needs right now. Yeah,
I mean, UM. My advice would be similar in the
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sense I actually have gone through this in the past. Um,
somebody that I was with I think people deal with
and I'm sorry that you're going through that. I'm really
sorry for your boyfriend too, because I think you can't
even imagine what that feels like. Um. But when you
have something like that in your family, and I think
people can react in different ways. Um. And like Becca said,
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if he decided that, like he does not want you
to be involved with that, then like you have to
just like honor that and just you have to just
step aside and move forward. Um. Because I think that
when you're with somebody and you're committed to commitment, um,
you stick it out no matter what's going on going on.
(56:34):
I mean, everybody kind of deals with a lot of
different things in life, and you're going to probably deal
with other tragic and horrible things, you know what I mean.
And so I think if that's his way of that's
how he handled it this time, Like who's to say
he's gonna react the same way if something unfortunately happens
like that again. You know, Like I think, being committed
to commitment is such like a big thing. And um,
(56:56):
so yeah, I think that you do need to kind
of just I don't say walk away, be there for
him and offer your support and love and prayer. Um,
but you do need to kind of start you know,
you have to take care of yourself. Yeah, you need
who because I agree. I think certain people it's like
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I need this person to get through this hard time,
and then someone else is like, the relationship and expectations
are too much on my plate with everything else. And
I think even a person who it does say that,
like the relationship is too much for me right now,
like then communicate that, you know, I mean, you don't
have to break up. You can just say this is
really overwhelming. I don't know how to handle this. I
need your help, but I don't know how, Like, can
you just give me some space? Like you know what
(57:39):
I mean. I think there's a difference. I saw I
saw quote the other day. Everyone comes into your life
for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I don't
think this guy is a lifetime. And I think the
timing is just bad and that's okay. It happens and
it sucks right now. I know that. But um, I
think I think you move on and you guys may
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end up together one day, but that does not mean
you wait for him. It means that he's got his
own stuff to deal with right now, and you give
him space. You let him do that, and you date
other people and you have a good twenty three year
old life and everything's gonna work out the way it
needs to, so it don't stress it is, but it's true.
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Um yeah, that's so hard. Somebody asked that on the
Facebook group. They asked what advice you'd give your younger self?
And I always enjoy those questions, and I said that
everything's gonna work out the way it's supposed to work out.
And also all of your dreams aren't going to come true,
but that's okay because dreams change, and like your desires
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and your want since you think you need are one
at a certain time, is going to change so many
times throughout your life. All right, let's talk about Red
Star in bed? Yeah. Wait, so the question was things
that he needs to improve? All he said, what what
are you Red Star best at? And what can you
approve upon? In bed? We love? But there was a
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dot dot dot. Yeah, so I predict to either ignore
the dot dot dot and just gave ways he can
improve himself, or can you improve on it? Be I
don't even wouldn't even know. Well, he added that dot
dot of his own. He said, l O L I'll
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let Tanya answer this one dot dot dot what a
little you said? There's nothing? Oh yeah, well, what's your
best at then? Is that appropriate for our PG rated? Okay,
well let me tell you something. I can keep a PG.
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Oh no, I can keep a PG. Um. He is
a very thoughtful giver. A thoughtful giver in bed dot
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dot dot and in real life. Okay, we can leave
it at that. I mean, right, yeah, I don't know,
I don't know. Yeah, I agree. It's just it's interesting
because um, like he really just kind of can hit
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every alright, well, just stop talking. I was gonna say
every emotion like it can be very like sweet or
very not sweeter, you know what I mean. Like, I'm
just gonna range range. He's kind a wide range. I
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feel like there's a subtle Doe double meaning there. If
we did this during truth or Drink, my answer would
be very different. It's just so fun to challenge um.
All right, Well, I feel like that would be fun
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to do that regularly, where we get questions and ask
them because it's interesting. It's like insightful, and I always
am curious if our our response or what we think
they're going to say, is what they say. Yeah, I
feel pretty strong about the ones I knew. Oh yeah,
me too. I feel like it's you know, at two
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years together, it's kind of like everything's out there that
you would like. We've talked about our feelings on everything,
like when we met, when we fell in love, when
I took it back, you know, I've we've talked about
all that stuff so much, so it's like we should
we should know the answers and you'all have been together
for like ten months now almost. Yeah. Well, thank them
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both for their candor and the answering those questions. That
was very nice of them. That took him a while
to do. They'd really released it down and think about it.
So thanks. Did you respond to either of them? Red
Star sent me his directly and I did respond to him. Well.
I thanked him. And there were a few places he
didn't want to go and I assured him we would not.
And but I have not talked because those were forwarded
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to me from Becca. Yeah, I'll connect to allay. Um.
That was so much fun. I love Olivia hold and
I love you, I love you all. I love you
all too. Um. We'll be back next week. Wait, yeah,
we're back every week? Are we? Are we not taking
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a break? No? This is this is the Labor Day Show.
Labor Day weekend Show. Okay, so I can say Happy
Labor Day. Oh yeah, then we just celebrate our ten months.
Oh celebrated it. So embarrassing. Alright, Happy Labor Day everybody.
We love you and we will be back next week. Nah,
Spreading In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I
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Your book He Love Everybody. I haven't seen you in
a whole week. Sometimes a week feels like seven days,
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and sometimes a week feels like seven minutes, and sometimes
a week feels like seventeen years. Oh wow, those were
a lot of extremes. One would say, those are the
extremes I feel during quarantine, highs and lows, ebbs and flows.
I mean, I think we I think we've all experienced
those moments. Although it's so strange because this lately I've
(00:45):
been going out to dinner more so I'm I feel
a little bit more normal like, and I kind of
love the outdoor seating, so I too. You know, I'm
just trying. I think mentally, the only way to like
maintain normal C is to pretend that it's normal and just,
you know, go do things that I normally would do. Yeah.
(01:07):
I went to the nail salon the other day. So
I've gone twice now to the nail salon. And the
first time I went, it was like during the heat wave,
so it was like a hundred something outside and they're outside,
so you're outside and they have like a little canopy
out there and they put like, um, you know, like
you know the doctor's office, and they have that like
paper that they put on your bed or whatever. They
have those on all the chairs. And mind you, it's
(01:29):
like a hundred and whatever degrees, so I'm like sticking
to it. It's like flapping on like my sweat and
like sticking everywhere. It was not a pleasant experience. But
I just went back again and it was like eighty degrees,
so it's actually quite nice out there. And the there
was a was a woman to the right of me
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getting her eyebrows wax outside and I was just like,
this is so like the fact that we're all watching
her get her eyebrows wax. Like I was like, what's next,
every We're gonna get a bikini? Don't know you're speaking of.
I had my second laser hair removing appointment. Um, and
so the first time I went, it was painless, Like
(02:12):
I felt nothing. I was like, this is basically like
a massage where I'm getting like that's intense. Um. It
wasn't a massage, but it had no pain. I go
back and it was a different girl and I don't
know if she didn't put enough, like so you put
like um ultrasound gel. That's where it's It's horribly uncomfortable.
(02:33):
I hate it. It's like, well, the whole point of
the laser hair wibbles each time. It gets paint more
painful as you go. So like the first few times
its not was hurt at all, and then like once
you get to seven and eight, it's like fire on
your crotch. Okay, well I'm it. I was at a
thirteen and so the girl started. That was the highest
I did on my first one, and I was like,
(02:54):
I didn't feel any pain. So she started on the thirteen.
I don't think she put enough gel or something, because
I was like getting zapped on my you. I was like, this,
ain't it? Like yeah, I would have to like jerk away.
I don't know. I don't I don't totally sympathize because
I feel like you can't even get a Brazilian wax.
Those are like a walk in the park. Okay, hey,
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y'all will have to go about this on the Facebook page,
because there's no way everyone thinks it was a walk
in the park. Getting a Brazilian wax is like is
like get giving blood at your doctor. Okay, well, first,
it's just like it is what it is like, it's
(03:39):
not it's not enjoyable, like it's not like I'm eating
a Starburst, but it's not dreadful like I'm going to
the dentist. Oh I hate pidentists too. Okay, Yeah, the
bikini lacs and the dentist are the same level. For
the bikini wax is like going to the grocery store,
(04:01):
like you just gotta get it done. Basically, Tany is
just admitting to you all that she's numb below her waist.
She has no feeling. Let me tell you she's got
feeling down there. Yeah, well we know that because of
your pelvic floor exercises. That's right. Um. So last week
we talked about we answered some questions or our significant others.
(04:22):
Red Star answered questions that y'all had for them, Um,
kind of just getting to know them a little bit more,
and we answered a few and then we're going to
answer some more today. Do you feel like you know
them better? What do you mean? Not you? I know,
you know like Mark Easton? Do you feel like you
know them better? Yeah? I think this has actually been
(04:45):
pretty darn insightful. I think this is great. I think
we're also getting a feel a little bit for the personalities. Yeah, yeah,
I mean I haven't. I don't think I was shocked
by anything last week. Were you the winky face through me? Yeah?
I do. I do think it's funny though. That answers
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a lot with ha Hawes. I'm not getting many hot
haws from Yeah, they do different ways? Does and then
red stores in L O L person I actually use
both when I texted what. I also think Red Star
is a politician in the sense that he knows that
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it's important to win over the scrubbing constituency, Yes, to
make sure they like him. You think playing it safe?
I think I don't think he's being brutally honest, and
I'll tell that to his face. I'm being really honest here.
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Well let's be again, Becca, you're off tiny went left?
Oh wow, wow wow. Okay. Well, first up, we have
Julia Rose O'Hara, and this is funny. What's the stupidest
fight the two of you have had? Why? Why don't
you answer that first and see if there's a match.
We have so many stupid fights that I don't even
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know where to begin, I would say, like, in my
opinion of our fights are stupid. So I'm always like,
why are we fighting about this? This is so dumb
because you know, when it's my personality, if it's not
a big deal to me, then it's not a big deal,
which is not correct because there's two people in relationships,
so if it's a big, big deal to the other person,
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you have to respect that. But in my head, I'm like,
this is so dumb. Like every time we're arguing, I'm like,
this is so dumb. Pick one because I think you
may match if you pick it. I know which one,
which one was chosen, and it has to be the biggest.
The dumbest, biggest fight we've gotten in two is ever
Mario kar Because I did not say congratulate stions one
(07:02):
because I always win and I never get congratulated, so
I didn't know that. I'm too competitive to congratulate my enemies,
my competitors. Now I'm interested to here here's the response.
What is the stupidest fight the two of you had
too many? Probably the time we played Mario Kart. As
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you know, Becca is beyond competitive, so if you win,
she will congratulate you at all. So she always beats
me and absolutely everything, and I finally beat her and
Mario and she refused to congratulate me. Refused it was
a monumental moment for me. So I got picked and
she couldn't be happy for me. Ha ha ha. So
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Tanya looks over when I said, I don't need to
congratulate my competitors, and she said, that's not a good thing.
It's not that's not a great quality or anything to
honestly be proud of that in like in actual sports
or something where there's competition, Like when I played tennis,
I'll be oh, good game. If I lose, that's fine, right, sure,
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But Mario Kart, anything anything, not being able to congratulate somebody, Well,
I got so mad that it was a fight that
I did not lost congratulate. No, it wasn't even mad
that I lost. I like literally didn't even care that
I lost. Uh huh, looks like it. I mean to
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defend you back. I play a lot of Mario Kart.
They give you a gigantic animated trophy. I mean like,
I feel like no external congratulations are required. The congratulations
that you need. It gives you a full ceremony with
a huge trophy. And it wasn't one race. This was
a full cup. It was a full yeah. Oh yeah,
(08:54):
it was a full race. And so I um, so
we we have these this other couple that we play
with virtually because you can play, uh like over WiFi
or whatever on the switch. And every time the three
of them, one of them beats me, they all congratulate
each other like it's like ganged up on me. And
(09:16):
so then when I win, I never get congratulated. No
one ever tells me good jobs. So I'm like, why
do I have to overcompensate for y'all's inability to and
eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. You
should rise above them, not in Mario Kart. I rise
above in other ways. But Mario Kart feels it just was.
(09:37):
It was a dumb fight. Mario Karts where it starts.
You know, niare similar and it's very stressful for me.
Um Tina skip hides. Let's come back to that one.
Give me Katie Kray hang on, hang um okay. Katie
Kresky says, Red Star does the weight of the Dear
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Future Husband Journal, intimidate, slash, scare you, or just make
you curious slash excited. That's a good question. That is
a good question. I'm interested to see what he is.
And he is aware of the Dear Future Husband Journal, Yes,
And is he aware that you've written to him in
the Dear Future Husband Journal? Up. I don't know. Actually probably, Well,
(10:22):
here's the red star right to say, honestly, I don't
know much about it. I know it exists, but maybe
intentionally don't know why, anything specific about it or what's
in it. It doesn't scare me. And it's another thing
I love about Tania, how intentional and vision oriented she is.
But I def don't think she wants me to know
the details. L O L. Yeah. I mean he definitely
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knows I have it. He doesn't know as I have it,
and then I like right in it and I'm talking
to my dear future husband, But I don't think he
knows like what's in it? If that makes sense. Yeah,
but he does. He does say that he likes that
about me, that I like the stuff we did on
my birthday and the fact that I make vision boards
(11:04):
like he likes that. So if that's what he thinks,
the Dear Future Husband Journalist, then great win win M. M. Um. So.
The next one is from Reagan Graham and the question
is do you share Becca's eating habits? What are your
thoughts on buttered pop tarts and Dr Pepper? What do
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you think the response will be? I I feel like
I'm gonna get some blame put on me, But the
thing is, we all have the ability to say no.
I do know that it's harder to eat healthy if
the person you're with eats really poorly, so that probably
doesn't help the situation. But I mean nine if I
(11:49):
ate a lot healthier before before I came into the picture. Yeah,
I mean if anybody doesn't like a buttered pop tart
I don't, I don't know, then they are an alien. Alright,
Well here's the response, So do you share Becca's eating habits?
What are your thoughts on buttered poppouts and Dr Pepper?
Absolutely not, But since dating her, she has completely attacked
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my eating habits. I never had sugary foods or fast
food growing up, ever, and she has introduced me to
every kind and definitely gotten me hooked on soda, which
I'm upset about. I think pop tarts really fall flat
for me personally, but butter makes everything better. Well, that
was a great response. Yeah, the soda thing has been
(12:33):
a little bit of like a battle, but I've kind
of cut back, so I feel like, you know, we're
at a we have a good balance now pop tarts,
when when it was but butter makes everything better? Which
is it's true? Um, yeah, I definitely am not. I'm
(12:54):
not a good influence for anyone who wants. I mean,
I even remember in with Robert eats so clean and
he it's true, you would be like, are you kidding me? Like,
can we just eat something like go somewhere that has
something decent that I can eat? That was even worse
(13:14):
back then to start small? Why can't they get over
that line? That's so funny? Alright, true, No, it's not.
They are not as good unless there's butter on them.
I mean I do agree that I think they're fantastic
under all circumstances. Alright, Faith Ferris, Yeah, Faith Farris said,
what do you wish Tanya believed about herself? I have
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no idea. I'm going to go right to the answer.
Tanya is an extremely intentional and self aware of person.
She is incredibly strong, but I'm not sure she realizes
exactly how strong she is. So that's probably one thing
I wish she realized. I also wish she realized how
deserved she is of everything she has achieved and will achieve.
She always talks about feeling like an impostor because she
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didn't come up through the ranks that we others in
her industry do. But I think that shows how deserved
she is because she blazed her own path based on
her talent, faith, energy, and vision and mostly the way
she makes others feel emotional. This is a really great answer,
yea answer. He tells me that all the time, he
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like doesn't understand what an imposter SYNTRM is. He's just like,
I don't know if he doesn't understand it. I think
he understands it, but he doesn't understand why I have
it so much. I mean, I think a lot of
people will probably feel that way about you. Um. Yeah,
so he's definitely said that to me before. UM, but
it's nice hearing it. Yeah. I'd say he knows you're
(14:43):
pretty well all right back to you, Um, love minds
about pop tarts and you're um. Lindsay Anne says, how
do you feel about Becket keeping your relationship so private?
Do you wish she would share more or do you
feel hidden? Yeah, I'm curious to hear this answer because
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we've had so many conversations about it and I'm curious
to know, like what the response is right now? All right,
here is the response. Definitely in the beginning, I've always
wanted to have a relationship I could share, mainly because
it's spent so much of my personal time having private relationships,
so I was ready for something new. But I am
very content with the life we have and I love
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it because it's ours. Whenever she wants to share more,
I'll be down for that too. Oh, it is really sweet. Yeah,
at the beginning, it was like there was a lot
of conversations about it, but I totally under I understand
both of our like I understand and the perspective, and
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I also appreciate the respect of how I'm doing as well. Yeah, well,
those two were a little heavier. Kara Rutherford has a
lighter one for u. Tania. Okay, Carol Rutherford, what are
your actual thoughts Antania's almond pulp cookies. So my almond
(16:21):
pulp crackers are my almond cookies because those are different
the cookies. He likes. The crackers not so much. I
was gonna say, I think this questioned all the crackers.
The crackers, Yeah, he hates them. He says they taste
like tree bark. It's funny because you've predicted his answer
almost to the word. He said, l O L the
almond pulp crackers chewy tree bark. But she really put
(16:44):
in a good fight before giving up on them. It's
so true. I kept putting different things on top of them,
like more nutritional yeas to make them taste like cheese.
It's like I was trying everything under the sun. Then
I was trying the air fryer to make them spear,
like I tried everything to make them taste All he
said was tree bark. Yeah, well, at least his were crunchy.
(17:08):
Mine were much I like them better moist um. That's
so funny, he said, it is chewy tree bark um. Okay,
meg Lynn says, when did you know that you were
in love with Becca? I bet the answer is um.
(17:29):
I feel like, okay, I'm gonna just I want to
hear the response and then we can discuss after. I
knew from the moment I met her. Oh my god,
I knew from the moment I met her, but it
(17:54):
really solidified on our first date, like two days after meeting.
We talked for like four hour worse, and I didn't
want the night to end. It was amazing. That is
so we were both so drunk, so I knew the
first night, No, that is not We both kissed other
(18:17):
people that night, so yeah, yeah, drunkenly, you dog, But
that's really nice. But that our first date was not
actually a date. Actually, we just went to have a
drink um like as friends. I guess we had just met, right,
(18:37):
but you're you weren't. It wasn't even a date, like
you were going to hang out a group and then
everybody was like, all right, we'll go, and um, yeah,
that's exactly what happened. We had had like a huge
group thing and then everyone bailed and I thought, well,
I don't want to bail, and so we we went
and got drinks and it was true. We did talk
for four hours, and I left being like that was
(18:59):
different and I felt something too. I don't know if
I mean, we talked about it now because we're in
love and we're like we were in love then, but realistically,
but that's that's really set, you know what. I talked
to you after that night and there was something different.
So whether you do I turned different or love tomato tomato? Yeah,
(19:23):
it was quick though. I mean we said I love
you within two weeks of knowing each other. All right, Tanya,
this is from Taylor right. An interesting question, Taylor right? Um,
does okay, does it intimidate you? How invested all of
the Scrub sisters are in your relationship. I think it's
(19:44):
a good question because I don't think a lot of
people can relate to that being in a relationship the
thousands of people are interested in and invested in. Yeah,
I'm sure, I'm sure. I don't know if intimidates the
right word. I don't think it intimidates him, but I
think it's definitely like, yeah, it's definitely a situation. Okay,
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Well here's what he said, not at all. It's so special.
How much you all care about and love Tanya and
they're invested in her happiness. That's true. It is a
beautiful thing to see, especially in a world that is
often so negative on social media, etcetera. You guys are
a rare community and your positivity, love and encouragement for
each other is truly inspiring. She is lucky to have you. Also,
(20:29):
your comments about me, my hands, my fish slicing techniques
are hilarious. That is true. It is true because I
try to show them all of these things because I'm
like it it's so different, you know what I mean.
Like I'm like, they're not coming at you. They don't
want to be negative or mean, like they're like, yeah,
I want to know. They just want to know, and
(20:50):
like they're just like they're funny too, Like the comments
about his hands are so whenever, like they put in
the Facebook group, you know how, like there's some videos
of people cutting the fish or whatever, and they're like
is this red star? I like screenshot and send it
to him and stuff, because I'm just like it's not
as heavy, you know what i mean, Like I think
people's at least his perception is that, like it's just
(21:11):
so heavy. People are so like invested in everything. Um,
and I try to like lighten it up. Yeah. I
always I that you bring up a good point, because, um,
I noticed one time in the in the scrubbing in
groups and I was like, why won't beck A share
Like are we that scary or something? And it literally
has nothing to do with the scrub like the scrubbing
(21:31):
in group makes me want to be more open because
the support that they show constantly. Yeah, it's not. It
has nothing to do It's like, literally, it's a totally
different situation. It has nothing to do with me thinking
that there that they're gonna harm my relationship or say
mean things like I feel more support from them than
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I do really anywhere else, you know. All right, last
question becap from Rachel Messic. What is it like to
date Tanya rads BFF? Does it ever feel overwhelming or invasive?
I'm scared of this one. I literally have no idea
(22:13):
what this answer could be like. Isn't funny, I'm just
gonna read it. I've always felt so much support from
Tania regarding our relationships, so I love it. She was
so happy for Becca and I when we met, and
she has been our cheerleader from the start. I'm so
happy Becca has such a supportive friend like Tanya. Smiley face. Oh,
(22:35):
it's because we are so alike, so it's almost like I,
UM relate. I relate, not only relate, but I also
do think. I think that Um in the beginning, when
everything was like new, UM and I saw you in
such a different way than i'd seen you before. It
was so exciting for me. Yeah, I think it was
(22:56):
more exciting for you than it was for me. It
was like every day I would come in and with
my eyes wide open and be like, do you still
feel the same way? Do you still feel the same way?
And like every still till this day and I probably
still will till we're like ninety years old. Scared her there,
but um, I just think it's I just think it's
so beautiful to see because I really kind of gone
(23:18):
that that wavelength of Becco when she was just like
maybe maybe I just can't feel the same way that
you feel, or like maybe I'll never feel that way
for somebody, like I'm just not capable. And then all
that changed came in your life. So it's been, Uh,
it's been fun to see and special cute answer, right answer?
(23:39):
All right? One more for Tanya, And this is when
we could tease again if you wanted to, Tanya, go
back to the one that we skipped. Oh yeah, I
thought I was wondering why you skipped that. Girolamo, Heidi, Girolamo,
what are the best what are you best at? And
what can you improve on dot dot in bed? There's
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no way he answered that. I would like to tease it.
Did he answer he answered it. I'm not going to
say he wrote something down, he didn't just skip it.
I'm wondering if he answered the first part what are
you best at and can improve on period and skip
(24:24):
the in bed? All right, he really doesn't need to
improve on anything in bed. Let's get to Olivia Holt
and then we'll answer this question. Okay, I'm so excited
to talk to Olivia Holt. Um. We'll be right back
to chat with her. And we have a very special
(24:53):
guest into o R today scrubbing in. Please welcome Olivia. Hold. Okay,
I'm trying to decide how to describe your set up
right now, um, because it feels like so she's further back,
she's got a mike, mike like she's about to perform
for us. You literally do like you look like you're
(25:16):
set up like, um, like we're having like an MTV
unplug situation. Totally is it's like a little chill acoustic vibe. Um.
You said you've been singing today. Are you singing your
new single? What's going on? I am I'm singing my
new single. I'm very excited about it. It's crazy because obviously,
(25:37):
in you know, COVID times, I feel like we all
kind of have to adapt to a new way of
doing promo and doing the meet and greets and everything,
and so now it's just like all over the internet,
and so I've just been in one space today doing
all of that. Is that nice though? Do you like that? Like?
Is it easier because I feel like, let's say this
(25:58):
was a year ago, you would literally be on like
a tour of the United States, like on a plane
every other day, like not sleeping. Yeah, I think in
some ways it's easier, like you said, not the not
sleeping portion is, you know, definitely. Now I get sleep.
I can just like I literally my house is ten
minutes away from here, so I just like pop up,
(26:19):
get ready, come here, and then I'm just here and
cannot get all out in one day, Whereas if this
was you know, BC before COVID, I would be struggling
to get up because I would have a plane to
catch its sixth day m and then coming from one
place to the next. But the energy is just a
little different, you know, because we're not in person and
(26:40):
it's hard because you can't get that immediate feedback because
there's always going to be some sort of delay or
you know that people are talking over each other, like
there's not like there's not like that. Let's fill the
space and feel the vibe in the room. You know.
I'm so happy to hear you say that, because I
think that so many people are like seeing the benefit
it's of this time in terms of just like no
(27:03):
travel expenses and no you know what I mean, Like
it's just easier everybody just doing things remotely. But there's
something that you just really can't grasp on the digital medium,
do you know what I mean? Like you really I
think we are losing something. And I think I really
realized it because, um, the other day it was like
National Radio Day or whatever, and so I was like
(27:24):
going back and they were asking me to send like
videos and photos just from like my favorite memories in
the studio, and I was watching all these things, and
it made me realize how much more energy and like
vibrant our show is when we're together in the same place,
you know, Like it's kind of wild. Yeah, And I
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was gonna say, like coming out with new art and
what you're creating. There's this so much excitement about it
because it's something you've been working so hard on and
you don't even get to feel that like excitement of
seeing someone else's reaction in real life or in per sin,
which I think, God we have technology because we do
get um. I mean, Tanya and I have started out
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doing the podcast separately and we finally were able to
quarantine and now we're together, and it's the energy so
much different getting to be with each other, and it's
so much different, right, So you're right, it doesn't miss
a huge difference. This song is amazing. Tanya played it
for me and that's right. It's so fun, Like the
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vibe makes you want to be like on a boat
in the middle of the water, just like dancing with
your friend. That's what I was thinking I wanted to do. Well.
I love that chol I'm so here for that visual.
That's amazing. And you really do though. I feel like
you're this like Bob Queen, like you kind of just
put out these songs that are like they're kind of
earwarmy good. That's good. I love Rehab too. Is he
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just like so fun and easy to work with? So
fun so easy to work with. What's wild Actually we've
never actually met person. Um. Every time that I've worked
with him has just we've been over like he's over
Sees and I'm here in l A. So we've just
our paths have never crossed um in person before, so
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we've just had the opportunity, luckily through technology, to to
to work together. But he's so awesome. I'm such a
fan of all of his work and all of his
music and um, everything that we collaborate on. I I
feel just super proud of and really lucky because You're
right like they're they're definitely earwormy, and I feel like, um.
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I also for some reason, it's like he lives in
my brain because I feel like there's like points in
my life, like in my music career where I'm like, God,
like I'm really like feeling like I want a song
like this, and then like I hear like his production
on stuff, and I'm like, yeah, That's what I wanted.
He's also like very I mean, I've never met him either.
I've only like like talked to him through instant or
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instance and Messenger TV, through a show Instagram, but I
feel like he's just super humble because he's massive, like
massive massive, and he's so super super humble, which I
find to be very refreshing, crazy down to earth. Well,
your song is um kind of it's this really fun,
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boppy song, but it's it's kind of about the feeling
of unreciprocated love, which it's not a fun feeling. I know.
We just sort of snuck that in there, I know.
And I always think there's so many songs I always
relate to Taylor Swife when I think about these, but
she has so many that have this great sound. It's
like you're bobbing your head and then lys's sad the world.
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Have you felt that before, like you were like in
love with somebody and they didn't love you back? Of course, yeah,
And and I think and I think everyone has sort
of felt that, and to a certain extent, you know,
I think we've all sort of felt like maybe we
weren't getting enough, or maybe we were getting too much,
and in this case, it wasn't at all. So I think,
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you know, it definitely is very relatable in that sense.
But I kind of love the idea of, like lyrically
it being this in a sort of in this like
really um vulnerable, not necessarily dark place, but vulnerable, like
a place where you know you no one really talks
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about like how how how they feel after a break
up other than it just being sad, like no one
actually really goes through like the highs and the lows
and the come over to the rab sack. I'll talk
about it all perfect. Give yourself one toilet paper roll
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to cry. You get one full role, and then once
the role is done, the crying is over. To see
it loved so good. But I love the yeah, like
lyrically being in that space and then you know, sonically
it's feeling maybe a little bit more uplifting because I
want there to feel like there is hope, because there
is you know, they're there, even though there might not
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be the happiest ending of things. I feel like there's
there's always some sort of uh ending to to go
into the next chapter of life, you know, And I
feel like that's what our hope is. So I think
that's like why I love this song so much, because yeah,
like it has this role, it has a space where
it's it's vulnerable and um and and there's this innocence there.
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But then the song on the production side anyway just
lifts you up. A lot of our UM So a
lot of our podcast is kind of based on dating
and finding love and heartbreak and that that same feeling
of liking someone and not having the feelings reciprocated. A
lot of our listeners are going through all of those phases.
Are you dating right now? Is? Are you single? What's
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your don't talk about it. I am dating, um and
it's so interesting doing it in Quarantine. That's why I'm
like dating multiples no no, no, no no, no, just one?
Oh just okay. That makes it. That makes it easier,
makes it way easier. But it's crazy because I'm I
feel like in the last couple of years, I've experienced
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dating just like going on dates and doing that thing
like never actually like spending so much quality time with
one singular human being. And I kind of was forced
to do that. I started dating someone at the beginning
of Quarantine, and then we were sort of like forced
to be in the same space at all times or
like not at all times. Right, we had to choose
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which one we wanted to do, and we were like,
I guess we'll just see this through and it's yeah,
and like you you have the option to Like that's
the thing I think, especially like with your schedule, I
think you can default a lot to Like let's say
you start dating somebody new and you don't really like
you're like kind of like unsure. You could be like, oh,
have a really crazy early shoot tomorrow in like Japan,
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and I gotta get my sleeper, like whatever, do you
know what I mean? Like you can really kind of
use that in a way. Yeah, you're nailing it, of course.
And when now, when quarantine hit, you were like, oh,
so all my things are in my house, so I
can't there's I either want to be with you for
real or like I can't be with you at all.
It's so accurate, it's so trust me, it's wild and
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it's like how do you? But I think I think
that's like now we we are experiencing like full on
brutal honesty when it comes to that, and I'm I'm
super confrontational as it is, so I don't have a
hard time with that, but but it can be tricky
and so I don't know. You're right. You're right though,
either it's either like a yes or no at this
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point in life, like you can't you can't have any
sort of fun excuse, like I couldn't imagine like me
a year ago, I was like in that pursuit of
just like oh, you want to go on a date
on Monday, Sure you want to go out with me today? Sure?
Like you couldn't pay me to do that. Now, Now,
if I were single and I was like trying to
I wouldn't do that. Like, wait, I need to hear
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more about you being confrontational because I could not be
more non confrontational. And most people I know are vocal
about being non confrontational, but a lot of people aren't
just straight up like I'm confrontational and it like you
just did. I need to know more, you know, I
think that I now that I'm actually saying all of
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this out loud, let me let me clarify what I'm
trying to say. I think I think I'm more confrontational
with the people that I love and care about that
are in my life consistently because I feel like there
I could. It's like it's like a space that that's
already very comfortable to where I could just be like
if there's like an issue, I could just it in
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the bud really quickly and there's not any of that
lingering weirdness. I do have a harder time being confrontational
with people that I don't know very Okay, so you're
so basically you're a healthy communicator. You communicate with it,
I mean, honestly, yeah, I want to call it confrontational.
I would say, like you are aware of your emotions
and your vocal. Yeah, that's a real honestly from someone
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who couldn't be more opposite. Something I'm working on right now.
Considered a gift because even with the people that I'm
close to, probably even more so, I have to work
on being direct and communicating because when I get uncomfortable,
I'm just like, well, I'm not going to say anything
because that saves the relationship. But the truth is that
talking about it, like is a healthy relationship. Like I
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think it's I think yes and no. I think, like,
you do make a good point, But at the same time,
it's like sometimes like we need to like wore things
out in our head for a minute, you know, because
then because then if we just start talking, then some
things are said that didn't need to be said. And
so I think I think there's a balance, you know,
Like I feel like maybe sometimes we need to have
the talk and just like really like finesse it and
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dissect it, or we just need to like work it
out on our head and then when we're ready we chat. Yeah,
I'm not I'm no life for you. When the slightest
I have no idea what I mean saying. I just like,
I mean no one. But I like that you were
just straight up like, yeah, I say what I feel. Um.
Is it weird in being in the public eye having
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so many eyes on you. You're an actress, you're singer,
you kind of do it all. Um, is it weird
having that type of life where everyone's kind of watching
everything you do? Do you feel like you have to
be so careful about what you post, what you say,
especially right now, it's like a you know, you need
to make sure you're saying the right thing at all times. Yeah,
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I think that I've I think I've struggled with that
since the beginning of my career. I started working when
I was ten years old, and then I think social
media kind of started hitting hard, mostly on Twitter, I
think when I was like four thirteen or fourteen, and
then Instagram kind of came when I was like fifty
and then it just kind of blew up from there,
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and I think, I think, yeah, like I think I've
definitely like struggled with like what I can say what
I can't say, And a lot of that had to
do with I grew up on UM, a children's network,
and so I had to be very careful about what
I did in life, and not that I was doing
anything that I wasn't supposed to be doing, but I
think even just like the pressure of that was really difficult.
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And then I moved on to a show and a
network that was very secretive and everything. I had to
sign an NDA for almost absolutely everything, and every interview
that I did, I was like like holding back so
much air because I was nervous I was gonna like
have like spill like a spoiler. And so you know,
it's like it's tricky like living in like that life
because you can't just be completely can't did you know,
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just completely like let go and be yourself. Especially with
social media, it's so hard like finding a balance between
like how much you want to share about your personal
life or and then wanting it to be like just
a space for work to like show people what you're
working on and to share with them. So I think
I'm still trying to figure it out. I don't know
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if I'm necessarily completely comfortable with how I handle everything,
but you know, I think I think it's a day
by day kind of feeling and then also trying to
figure out how to express how I feel about what's
happening in the world, whether you know it has everything
to do with the pandemic or what's happening in our
country or or overseas. Like a lot of that is
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like how much do I need to share? How much
do I need to keep to myself? And I think,
you know, it's important to just, like I think, have
a space where we can all sort of have like
an open communication. And that's where it gets difficult though,
because some people feel a little bit more confrontational over
the internet, and then in person they're like, nah, yeah, yeah,
it's true. A lot of people are brave over the internet.
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Is this like something that because you mentioned that you
were you're dating right now, is this like a that
a conversation that you have with somebody that you're dating, Like,
I don't post I'm not going to post anything about
you until X Y Z, or like, is that like
sounds so ridiculous, but these are the conversations I'm having
at the moment, so I'm just curious. No, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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I mean we've had We've definitely had the conversation, and
I think it just really depends on people's opinions and
and there their perspective of what they want to share,
because I have some friends who are in the industry
who don't want to talk about or share their relationship
at all. They want to be completely private, which I
can totally respect, whereas I'm sort of in the middle.
(40:37):
I'm definitely like Switzerland on this, Like I don't care
either way. I think, um, I think it's cool when
people post about their relationship and show their partner off,
but also if they don't at all, I don't really
have a I don't think I have an opinion either way.
But yeah, my the person I'm dating right now and
I have had the conversation and we're both sort of
just like we don't care either way. So it's like
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anyone's anyone's move. Yeah, so that's like a nice place
to be in. Yeah, totally. Yeah. Um. With during quarantine,
have you found that you've been more creative than ever,
or have you felt like you've you've kind of been
a little almost like I'm gonna give my brain a
break while I have one and then because no one
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knew how long this was gonna last, or have you
been like, I'm gonna just use this time and get
as creative as I can so that the time passes,
Like what's been your method? I mean, I think it's
the beginning of all of this. We really had no
idea what we were getting into. We didn't know the time,
the time frame of how long we were going to
be doing it for, um, how long we were supposed
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to just like completely quarantine. So I think at the beginning,
I was just like, all right, I'm gonna chill because
I don't I don't know what that's like anymore. So, um,
I chilled for us all it like two months, and
then I just was like what am I doing doing? This?
Isn't I I just don't like to chill, Like I
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like to have my chill like nights and then I
like to like decompress and like have a glass of
wine and like watch TV and like that's like my
version of chill. I can't chill for two months straight,
like I like, I like the hustle and bustle of
what I do, and um and and traveling and moving
around and working with people different people almost every other day,
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and so I it was in a really weird funk
for I think that that first, like that first month,
after the month of the first proportion of quarantine, and
then I was like, all right, I need to do
something about this. So I kind of started to just
change my perspective a little bit, and I was like,
I just need to embrace the pause and like enjoy
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this time off, but then also find find ways to
be productive and um, because I felt really uninspired too
because I was just sitting in my house and I
was I was dating, but it wasn't like we were
were we weren't also able to like go and do
anything like normally like when I'm dating somebody I have
so much to like pull from because like we're out
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like experiencing life together. But we were just like chilling
in my house, cooking and watching TV, like literally doing nothing,
so which can also be really great in in in
you know, on its own, but um, yeah, the inspiration
just wasn't there. So I was like, Okay, let's like
mix it up, and so I started going on some
road trips and just like finding like even like if
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it was just like for the day, just like getting
outside of my house and just like seeing like life
in different formats, and you guys started getting a little
bit more inspiration again. And then over the last year,
I've really been just prioritizing music. I've been in sessions
almost every single day writing and so I started listening
back to all of those songs that I that I
wrote and just to put me back in the headspace
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that I was in a year ago, and that sort
of motivated me again, and it helped me and it
helped me gain that inspiration, and so I started writing
again and then got back into the studio and now
I'm working and it feels really good. I had to
twelve hour days this past weekend working on music videos,
so I feel really fresh and ready for anything. Now.
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I love that everyone's getting there, like re re energized
from working there, like needed a little reset, and now
people are like getting their mojo back. And I think
I was feeling because on Saturday was my second day
and i'd wrapped it was like nine pm, and I
was like, I feel the best kind of exhaustion that
I want to feel like, this is like what I've
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been like craving for the last five months is like
this kind of exhaustion. So it's been good. I always
bring up the indiogram. Have you ever taken the indiogram
A two? Oh? I was gonna guess three, because I
feel like you have a lot of three, like the
ambition to like being out there creative. I think I'm
(44:55):
a two with the isn't there like a I think
I'm a wing three? Yeah? I love the Angiograham. I
just feel like, you know, you talk to people, you
kind of understand a little bit more of where where
they come from and why they are, you know the way. Yeah.
It's so funny though, because as you were talking about that,
I like literally feel like I had those exact same
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feelings during quarantine. Like for me, it was like kind
of in the opposite way though, because right when when
like the quarantine hit, my work was crazier than ever
in terms of like I felt like I was just
going NonStop, uh, and like then you're at home, so
people just think you can pop in and do something
at any moment. So it was like I didn't really
have that balance. I was like I didn't have boundaries
(45:38):
or anything. And so I think I was like just
like full speed ahead for the beginning first two months,
and then I hit that wall of like maybe I
just want to embrace the pause and just like enjoy this.
And I also I was feeling very uninspired too, like
you really hit the nail on the head. It's just
like we're literally just and I've been trying to make
it cute like I do like cute, like I did
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like a Paris night the other and I were like
brought Paris home and like cooked French food. You know.
It's like I'm trying to do things with like a
done double double day where we like we made the
same you know, dishes and did it via zoom and
trying to But yeah, it's just like very uninspired. And
now I'm in that place of like the combo bowl,
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like I want to embrace the pause but also like
get my mojo back exactly. Yeah, No, it's definitely tricky,
But I think I think we're all at least from
the conversations that I've had and like what I've been experiencing,
I think like we're all kind of getting back, but
the first the like this was a tricky summer for everybody. Yeah, totally. Um,
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are you so you said you were you had a
bunch of songs that you've been working on since last year.
Are you planning to release some of singles? Are you
working on an album? What You're a little bit of both? Um, Yeah,
I'm gonna release I'm gonna release two songs this year
and then I'm going to release one at the big
ding of the year, and then following that is going
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to be my debut album, which is quite because I've
never had a debut album before. No, and you only
get one debut album. I know, I know. I'm so excited.
So is it done? Like in the cam like you
have it, It's like it's not completely No, it's not
completely finished. Um, but it's getting there. It's it's and
(47:23):
it's definitely been this It's just been a really special
experience because I think in the past I've I've obviously
had a long journey of music, but I've sort of
been what you were saying a little bit ago at
the beginning, just sort of like dropping singles here and there.
But I want, like what I want is I want
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there to be a very clear vision and a clear
body of work, and I wanted to feel like a
cohesive project and so um, which is what I'm used
to working on on the acting side, is like something
that like has a start and has a finish, and
that's that's that's what I want, uh for this album
is for it to feel like this really big piece
of body of work of my life and then I
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can move on to the next chapter. So that's that's
kind of the vision that I have for it. Um.
So it's not completely done, but it's it's getting there.
And I'm really really proud of it. And lots of
people lent their amazing creative minds to this project and
I feel just really lucky and really proud of it. Yeah,
that's so exciting. Mean, how exciting to have a know
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that your debut album is coming up something to look
forward to? Sure, I know. Um. One more question, Um,
because you're you're beautiful, you're talented, you have such a
you've had a successful career, and you're still so young.
What's something to two girls your age that you would
say is advice when they're dealing with social media and
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insecurity and dating and you know, just struggles that we
go through, kind of like growing up and being in
this kind of place in our lives. It's a really
really interesting question. I think I would say, like if
I were to look back, I guess when I was
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a teenager, and I mean even now, I think I
would really just tell myself to not take anything too seriously.
I think I was like so keen on like making
sure that everything was perfect, and I am a perfectionist.
I want everything to be perfect. But I also think
it's really important to just have fun in whatever you're
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doing and to not feel tied or strapped down to
something that doesn't make you happy, whether that's a partner,
or whether that's your work, or whether that's a friend group.
I think it's really important to just thrive off of
whatever you feel most comfortable thriving on. And for me,
I think social media can be a really fun, amazing place,
(49:54):
but it can also be our worst enemy. And I
think again to just let space be a fun one.
Don't don't spend hours and hours and hours of ends
on it because it's it's not fair to yourself. Because
you have a beautiful life that you're out there living
and you don't want to put that time and energy
into something that isn't even necessarily real. And I'm still
(50:17):
figuring that out, so I don't know if I have
the proper advice for it, but um, I do think that,
you know, life, if anything, if anything has been given
to us this year, it's it's it's that we've have
such little time here, and I think it's so important
and it sounds so repetitive and cheesy. I feel like
everybody says this, but I think now more than ever,
(50:40):
we really need to just appreciate people and love them
and be kind to them, and um, and do the
same to ourselves, be kind to ourselves and love ourselves
the way that we would want other people to do
that for us. Wow, that was great, great advice for everyone,
I think, us, you, all of our listeners. Enjoy life, Yeah,
(51:04):
don't waste it comparing yourself to what's happening on. I
think we've got too much pressure on ourselves. I think
it's really just simple. You know, we're gonna have challenging days,
but I think like pushing through those makes the makes
the other day is so much more worth living, you know,
and more exciting. I love that, Um, thank you for
(51:26):
your time. This is fun. Um. Everyone stream by. Listen
to love you again, Olivia Holt with rehab. Um. It's
such a bop. It's out now, so let's stream it.
Stream it, stream it, stream it to get those numbers up.
Baby yeah. Um, good luck with everything. Thanks for stopping
(51:48):
by and scrubbing in with us, and we'll hopefully talk
to you again soon. Thanks, love you, love you guys,
appreciate you and your support. Thank you, bye bye. I
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really really like her and her song is what the
kids are calling a bop. The kids are calling what
are the kids? I'm a kid, I call I like bob.
I know it is a bob. It's just she's so
cute and like likable. I remember I was at my
um salon where we well, what used to be the
salon where we got her hair done. It's not open
(52:35):
right now, um, and she was getting her hair washed,
and it was like one of the first like famous
people I saw being in l A. Thought it was
really cool. Did you say hi? No? No, I think
she was like we were both at the shampoo bowl
and we were both like chatting, but somehow one of
us overheard the other, so we were talking to each other,
but not direct, you know, we're like looking up getting
(52:57):
her hair washed. But she's just really sweet and I
feel like everyone I know that knows her loves her.
Just cool. Yeah, she's really sweet. Um Okay, so are
we getting to emails or are we saving the answer
to a red stars question for when I have one
email and then we can answer the question. This is
from Sarah. I'm twenty three years old and I currently
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live in Madison, Wisconsin. That, by the way, is my hometown, Madison, Wisconsin.
Shout out. Should go there if you get a chance.
As a beautiful city, the downtown is surrounded by lakes.
It couldn't be lovelier anyway. I was with my boyfriend
for one year and we met during my last clinical
rotation of nursing school. I had already decided to move
in with my best friend for a year in a
different state, so we did distance for a year. Wait wait, wait, wait,
(53:39):
wait started over. I was with my boyfriend for a
year and I got a clinical nursing something. She was
in nursing school and she was dating in for a year,
and then she got a place out of state with
her friend for a year, so they were a distance
for a year after that, Okay, then I decided to
get my own apartment in Madison. Since things were going
(53:59):
so well, moving in seemed too quick and I was
excited to have a space I could call my own.
He was excited, as was I, and then a month
after things started to get tense. He's been very unhappy
with his job. He is twenty eight, Sarah's twenty three,
and he has seemed to fall behind keeping up with
his home. On top of all this, his mom was
recently diagnosed with breast cancer. He hides his emotions, and
(54:21):
I feel like I want to be there for him,
but I wasn't doing a great job because I was
focused on moving and starting a new job. He called
it off with me recently, and it seems very abrupt.
He said he needs time to cool down and see's
a future with me. But I also told him I
don't want to wait around. We both did things wrong,
but I feel we just need some time to reset
and figure out how to live in the same city.
He wants to figure his own issues out, but I
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also think if he really loved me, he would want
to be with me, or at least give another shot.
Am I wrong. Do I move on? How long do
I wait? If I even do so? First, I would
like to say, I'm sorry you're going through this, But
second I would say, I think has a lot going
on on his plate, like with his mom being diagnosed
(55:05):
with breast cancer and um struggling in his job or
whatever it is. And I think if he has made
the decision to that you being in his life is
over more overwhelming and doesn't make it better or easier.
I think you need to respect that and also respect yourself.
And I think you're you're twenty three. Like I would say,
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date other people, put yourself out there. It doesn't mean
that maybe in the future, when things settle down for him,
that maybe he'll be ready in timing works out for y'all.
But I would I would move on, and I would
see what else is out there, see who else is
out there, and respect um, what what he needs right now. Yeah,
I mean, UM. My advice would be similar in the
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sense I actually have gone through this in the past. Um,
somebody that I was with I think people deal with
and I'm sorry that you're going through that. I'm really
sorry for your boyfriend too, because I think you can't
even imagine what that feels like. Um. But when you
have something like that in your family, and I think
people can react in different ways. Um. And like Becca said,
(56:13):
if he decided that, like he does not want you
to be involved with that, then like you have to
just like honor that and just you have to just
step aside and move forward. Um. Because I think that
when you're with somebody and you're committed to commitment, um,
you stick it out no matter what's going on going on.
(56:34):
I mean, everybody kind of deals with a lot of
different things in life, and you're going to probably deal
with other tragic and horrible things, you know what I mean.
And so I think if that's his way of that's
how he handled it this time, Like who's to say
he's gonna react the same way if something unfortunately happens
like that again. You know, Like I think, being committed
to commitment is such like a big thing. And um,
(56:56):
so yeah, I think that you do need to kind
of just I don't say walk away, be there for
him and offer your support and love and prayer. Um,
but you do need to kind of start you know,
you have to take care of yourself. Yeah, you need
who because I agree. I think certain people it's like
(57:18):
I need this person to get through this hard time,
and then someone else is like, the relationship and expectations
are too much on my plate with everything else. And
I think even a person who it does say that,
like the relationship is too much for me right now,
like then communicate that, you know, I mean, you don't
have to break up. You can just say this is
really overwhelming. I don't know how to handle this. I
need your help, but I don't know how, Like, can
you just give me some space? Like you know what
(57:39):
I mean. I think there's a difference. I saw I
saw quote the other day. Everyone comes into your life
for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I don't
think this guy is a lifetime. And I think the
timing is just bad and that's okay. It happens and
it sucks right now. I know that. But um, I
think I think you move on and you guys may
(58:00):
end up together one day, but that does not mean
you wait for him. It means that he's got his
own stuff to deal with right now, and you give
him space. You let him do that, and you date
other people and you have a good twenty three year
old life and everything's gonna work out the way it
needs to, so it don't stress it is, but it's true.
(58:22):
Um yeah, that's so hard. Somebody asked that on the
Facebook group. They asked what advice you'd give your younger self?
And I always enjoy those questions, and I said that
everything's gonna work out the way it's supposed to work out.
And also all of your dreams aren't going to come true,
but that's okay because dreams change, and like your desires
(58:44):
and your want since you think you need are one
at a certain time, is going to change so many
times throughout your life. All right, let's talk about Red
Star in bed? Yeah. Wait, so the question was things
that he needs to improve? All he said, what what
are you Red Star best at? And what can you
approve upon? In bed? We love? But there was a
(59:08):
dot dot dot. Yeah, so I predict to either ignore
the dot dot dot and just gave ways he can
improve himself, or can you improve on it? Be I
don't even wouldn't even know. Well, he added that dot
dot of his own. He said, l O L I'll
(59:29):
let Tanya answer this one dot dot dot what a
little you said? There's nothing? Oh yeah, well, what's your
best at then? Is that appropriate for our PG rated? Okay,
well let me tell you something. I can keep a PG.
(01:00:00):
Oh no, I can keep a PG. Um. He is
a very thoughtful giver. A thoughtful giver in bed dot
(01:00:21):
dot dot and in real life. Okay, we can leave
it at that. I mean, right, yeah, I don't know,
I don't know. Yeah, I agree. It's just it's interesting
because um, like he really just kind of can hit
(01:00:46):
every alright, well, just stop talking. I was gonna say
every emotion like it can be very like sweet or
very not sweeter, you know what I mean. Like, I'm
just gonna range range. He's kind a wide range. I
(01:01:08):
feel like there's a subtle Doe double meaning there. If
we did this during truth or Drink, my answer would
be very different. It's just so fun to challenge um.
All right, Well, I feel like that would be fun
(01:01:30):
to do that regularly, where we get questions and ask
them because it's interesting. It's like insightful, and I always
am curious if our our response or what we think
they're going to say, is what they say. Yeah, I
feel pretty strong about the ones I knew. Oh yeah,
me too. I feel like it's you know, at two
(01:01:50):
years together, it's kind of like everything's out there that
you would like. We've talked about our feelings on everything,
like when we met, when we fell in love, when
I took it back, you know, I've we've talked about
all that stuff so much, so it's like we should
we should know the answers and you'all have been together
for like ten months now almost. Yeah. Well, thank them
(01:02:14):
both for their candor and the answering those questions. That
was very nice of them. That took him a while
to do. They'd really released it down and think about it.
So thanks. Did you respond to either of them? Red
Star sent me his directly and I did respond to him. Well.
I thanked him. And there were a few places he
didn't want to go and I assured him we would not.
And but I have not talked because those were forwarded
(01:02:36):
to me from Becca. Yeah, I'll connect to allay. Um.
That was so much fun. I love Olivia hold and
I love you, I love you all. I love you
all too. Um. We'll be back next week. Wait, yeah,
we're back every week? Are we? Are we not taking
(01:02:58):
a break? No? This is this is the Labor Day Show.
Labor Day weekend Show. Okay, so I can say Happy
Labor Day. Oh yeah, then we just celebrate our ten months.
Oh celebrated it. So embarrassing. Alright, Happy Labor Day everybody.
We love you and we will be back next week. Nah,
Hosts And Creators
Tanya Rad
Rebecca Tilley
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