Ep. 58 All In with Teddi Mellencamp and Ben Higgins

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Reth and I
Heart Radio and People's Choice Award nominated podcast. Hello Teddy,
can't hear? Did you get it? After a rocky start? Hello, everybody,
We are scrubbing in and I mean, let's just get
right to it. We have Teddy Mellencamp into building. Thank

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you guys for having me. You brought us a special guest.
Well you know, I had to bring around my my
honey husband for the workout. It's important. Yeah, thanks for
having him. Having you guys, I'm obsessed with the two
of you, really. Yeah, because Teddy, you are on the

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Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, you have amazing children, you
have your own accountability program that I am a part of.
And Edwin you started your company from the ground up.
You have an amazing story and also you have such
a great marriage. But you're so good individually. Like I
just truly admire both of you individually, and I think

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it's really cool when two powerhouse people come together, because
you build an empire. Thank you. I think the biggest
thing for us is we are constantly telling each other
it's one foot in front of the other and something
good is going to come of it if we just
keep going. We don't know what it's going to be
all the time. We're not always we don't have our
finger right on the polls like this is where we're going.

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But every single day we wake up early, we set
our intentions, and we do our best to complete them.
You just described Tony's dream relationship. It's something to aspire to. Yeah,
there's an edwin out there for me. There is, But
I want you to know it's not always perfect. It's
not always perfect. You have to work on it, and
you have to constantly be in communication because the second

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that communication is lost, you'll start to lose intimacy. You
start to lose what it is that you love about
each other. And if you can't laugh and you can't
cry together, then you lose part of what it is
that you love about that person. I have a question,
what if he What if I can tell by looking
at him that he enjoys working out and eats clean.
I'm assuming Sometimes No, he really doesn't. Really, he's just

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one of those hashtag blasted Do you get onto him? No?
I ate well of the time, and then of the
time I'm I'm sort of a mess. He's like fully
off the rails. But while he's doing it, he's constantly
comment like, hell, look at me, and he'll be like, well,
it's just for today. I'm like, yeah, I'm sure, buddy,
But at this point, I don't even think about it.

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But he'll be on his fifth bag of chips and
he's like, well, it's just you know, it's because it's
an afternoon. I'm like, okay, yeah, because it's chips. I
scream and cheesecake are the three things I can't live without.
That's a solid food group right there. He's all in, Well,
it's funny because like obviously, when the last time we

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did the podcast, we kind of talked about the program
and like Tony doing that with you and how it
totally changed her life and I mean it totally changed
her body, but it really changed your life, like your
life and the way that you view working out and
eating healthy and being healthy. And now Teddy follows me
and if I talk about getting food or a snack,

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she'll be like, what snacks And I'm like, listen, I'm
not doing the program right now, but you did reach
out once, so I've reached out of it, I think twice. No,
this is what Teddy does. Like you'll like dip your
toe in and you'll kind of like have interest, but
she won't like you, I won't ask, but I'm just
subliminately there just reminding like your tweet. I can't even

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remember what you tweeted, but you did this like mass
tweet and I just wrote back. I didn't even know
you followed me on Twitter at that point, so that
kind of scared me. It was like, it's just a
very eerie like I'm watching you. You know, I would
have never said that had you not reached out once
wanted to. I'm not one of those people trolling the

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internet like I wonder if they want to change their lifestyle,
but you won't. You won't take anybody on unles. They're
un percent committed. No, Because I did the same thing.
I dipped my toe and I was like, boo boo boo,
but I can't do this, and she was like, okay,
come back to me. I was like, okay, She's like,
but there's she's set up all these different expectations for
herself for me to have from the beginning. I was like,
well that's neat. Well, when you're ready to come back,

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not really, this isn't your program, Tanya. You're not doing
your program but on my program. But I mean you've
completely embraced it. You've changed your life. I've seen a
difference in your attitude and your confidence, and you know,
you start asking for things that you didn't ask for before,
and you start expecting things that you didn't think you expected.
But I think the thing that and I've told Teddy

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this too, is like it did. It definitely did change
me physically, but I think mentally too, because I think
when you're kind of at this place and you don't
really think you have you think you need the most
expensive trainers, and you need like a chef to cook
you all this like food, and like that's really not
what you need it. And I did the program. I
lost sixteen pounds. It's not like a small chunk of change,

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Like that's like a significant amount of weight. And I
didn't have to hire a chef or crazy. It's not
like you're doing this huge expense that you have to
spend for the rest of your life to be able
to maintain your lifestyle change. And I think you know,
when you live in a place like l A where
everything is like so extravagant, like you have to do
everything to the tens, like not only do you need
the personal trainer, you need the personal chef, but you

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also need to buy these sets of classes at all
of these different locations, and all of a sudden you're
out thousands and thousands of thousands of dollars, and yet
you haven't changed. I have a question, though, because I
feel like I've talked to some of my friends who
have done your program and they say, I'm like, well,
can because they're like, I'm gonna I'm gonna get back
on Teddy like I got off, I like went off
the rails, And I'm like, are you not at a
point where you can do it? Like you know how

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to do it or what to do? And they're like,
there's something about, like can you explain what it is
that you do, because it's it's not just because you
would think, oh, I could say like hey, Tony, let's
hold each other accountable, but there's some thing that you
do that the difference is so and why sometimes you'll
have returning clients and sometimes you won't. And you know,
it really depends. I feel like some people start because

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they want to change their physical appearance, they see a
big change and then they're like, oh, I'm good to go.
But then they don't realize all the work that you
have to continue putting into it to make that a
complete lifestyle change. And at first you can get away
with it. At first you can get away with sliding,
and then you realize, uh, I got myself and over
my head again, and now I need a little bit

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of help to get back. My goal isn't that somebody
is a client forever. But my goal is for you
to be able to get to a place where you
know when you're starting to slip, and to be able
to pull yourself back in without me. But if you
continue on with me, I will make this such a
habit for you that ultimately you won't need me or
one of my coaches or whomever. It is like, at

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this point, I don't every day wake up motivated and
wanting to do this, but I do it because it's
a habit and I've changed my life, and I don't
give myself it's a non negotiable at this point, so
you're not be motivated or inspired. It's the habits and
routines that will get you through those days where you
don't feel like doing things, and that's really what separates,

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you know, the the what what makes people great is
when you can do things on those days that you
don't want to do them. And that's when those habits
and routines come in. So we're huge on that stuff.
Habits and routines. Do y'all, do you feel like as
a partnership that you'll hold each other accountable, Like if
she's having a down, they are like, come on, let's
go do the same thing. But truthfully, at this point,

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you know, we we kind of will make a joke
in the morning, you know, one of us will always
be a little like groggy or we you know, we
get up and we we you know, I do my
five minute journal. He reads the Bible like we do
our things. And then if we see that as a person,
not like moving to that next step, I'm like, we're
gonna get after it today. Let's do this. You know,
you've give them each other that little push, But we're
also aware that that doesn't happen for everybody. Everybody doesn't

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have and until you put it in yourself, it's not
gonna matter. I mean, I was telling my girlfriends who
were just here about when I first wanted to change
and Edwin had always worked out, and I would just
I would fly by the wind whatever I felt like
doing and how comfortable I felt my own skin at
that time. Um, and he would he would say, let's
go work out, and I'd be like, give him this

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look like what I need to work out? What are
you trying to say? You know? So it's just it's
really within you. Yeah, I think that's a lot of
people will like come to me and I'm like, you
work out every day? How do you do that? And
I'm like, it's not like I'm doing a ten every day.
I'm not like running a million miles every single day.
Some days I'm tired, some days I'm on my period
and I'm like gonna go out of two. But I'm

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going for myself. But I feel like for you, it's
all like it's gotten to a point where it's like
therapy for you because you're just like, also, sorry, this
is off subject, but I just it came to my
mind and I wanted to bring it up. Is that
trainer that we just worked out with? Single he is?
Oh my god, wait, Tanya. People were texting me while

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you were working out. I'm not kidding. Hey, what about
that guy with Tony? Why not? Well, the text said
Tanya before we started, I actually don't get anybody in
trouble in here. And I said I think both of
these girls are single, and you're single, and he said, yes,
so and he's a really good guy. He's a really
nice guy. I'm going over to Tania telling how great

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her form was. Speaking up, I have a question for
Teddy's I'm changing the subject. You're welcome. So I know
that you guys, you guys worked together in the program,
but your friends also. And I noticed in the workout
that you had your girlfriends here. I saw Kyle and
Lisa because I know them too, And is it weird
if you're working with friends? Do you know what I'm

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saying advising them whether it's on their workout or like
their diet or making sure they're sticking to what they're
supposed to be doing well in regards to like Lisa
and Kyle and Denise in jury, who are who are
here today? I I'm not their lifestyle coach, and I
keep it very clear if one of them wanted to
join the program and do the entire program, it wouldn't

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be weird because I keep it very separate. This is
it's business. It's not personal, even though it's a very
personal thing to share when you're feeling vulnerable or when
you're feeling scared about making a lifestyle change. It I
don't cross that line. And so but you know, in
this case, they came to support the workout, and it
was a different story. But if ever they were to

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reach out and say, I actually really want to do
the program, I mean, what about if you have to
be tough on Tanya, but you guys are friends. It
is funny. It's funny they say that because sometimes, like
if I do something and I know, like I'm disappointed
to myself, it's almost harder for me to like admit
it to you because I'm like, I messed up, but

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it's myself than like it's not. I'm able to read
kind of Tanya's mood at this point and how she's
feeling and what she needs that So some days I
can tell Tany is like on fire, do you mind me? No? Okay,
some days I know Tanya is on fire and she's
feeling great, And on those days, I'm just like her
number one cheerleader, like, let's do this, and then some

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days she'll get a little down on herself and I'm like, listen, honey,
put your big girl panties on and let's go after
this day because you need to kill it and you
can and you can't be this persona that says you're
killing it and then not feel it inside. So dig deep.
You've got this. I know you do. You had it yesterday,
and just get yourself there. To the other girls, I mean,

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I love Lisenka so much. To do they ever ask
for advice or no? I mean I wouldn't say they
necessarily asked for It's more of like a joke within
our friend group, Like it's like, what do you think
if I eat the muffin? I'm never gonna reach out
and try to give my opinions to somebody who's not
wanting to make that type of change. They all work out,
they like what they're doing, they live healthy lifestyles. I've

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helped a lot of their friends. Actually their friends have
reached out in our clients. So it's more word of
mouth and it's really people that want to make a
big lifestyle chef. I think the name all In is
so perfect for it because you truly have to be
all in like you can't. You really can't have asset
like it's you have to be committed, and it's really

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just committed to yourself. It's committed to yourself and it's committed.
I've noticed so much that people will comment so much
on what you're doing and give you their opinions and
how they feel and how it's not what you're doing
isn't right for them. And as soon as you realize,
I don't really care what's right for you, and and
this is what's right for me. This is what makes
me feel good. I don't care if everybody else is,

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you know, wants to sleep in. I'm gonna get up
and go on a run. Not because I'm trying to
make you feel bad. If you're taking it that way,
that's on you. I'm doing it to make myself feel
good because then I'm gonna be happier. I'm going to
be more fun. And you know, I struggle with anxiety,
you know, pretty bad, and it's what makes me feel good. Yeah. Well,
we have a lot of our listeners actually talk about

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how they struggle with anxiety and depression, Like how do
I get out of that. And I've always heard that
like being in a routine and changing your diet and
in exercising is like a huge natural like antidepressant pretty much.
I mean it's like it's you know, your prozac. Yeah,
if you can get up and you can do something

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every day, you get up, you take a shower, you
go do something for yourself before you go to work
or before you you know, your kids wake up, or
whatever it is that you are doing in your life,
you're gonna feel better than if you lay in bed
on social media looking at it like looking at people
having the perfect life and blah blah blah. You're gonna
get down on yourself. If you get out and do
something for you, You're not They're focusing on what everybody

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else is doing. Yeah, it's true. I think the first
ten minutes of the day set your day. And if
the first thing you do is pick up social media,
it's the worst thing you can do because everyone's living
this fantasy life. Everyone's just putting how great life is,
so you'll automatically get depressed when you when you're seeing
everybody have this great life supposedly, right, So those first
ten minutes the tone um so you gotta be careful

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with that social media as soon as you wake up. Yeah,
I I have a question, what how did you respond
with like all the cameras being in your life all
the time? Ut? Can I tell him the true story?
At first? But no, I think at first I was
so nervous that I had to drink a shot right
before the cameras would come on. But but then I

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filled the to keel up with water and that's when
that was the cutest stop. So that was that was like, listen,
if this is gonna be your life with us filming,
then I'm just not gonna like, I'm not gonna invite
you on these days, like because that's not who you are.
You're not a person that needs to take a shot
before we go do something. So I mean, it's I
don't even notice that any cameras are there, because truthfully,

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it's our real life and nothing scripted. When you hear
anything like that, that's obscene. But he just wasn't used
to having anyone else around, so I mean, but he
doesn't do that anymore. That was a little bit dodgy.
So now I just drink get your level up exactly. Yeah,
I do have to say, your story is very inspiring.

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Thank you. I she was talking about this and I
was like, I don't know her stories. I know, I
wish we had more time to Like, really, I remember
I listened to you on a on a different podcast,
and I had no idea because you guys have built
such a great life for yourselves, and I had no
idea where you came from. And I found it really
really motivating and inspiring. So if you could share with
our listeners, um a little bit about your journey, that

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would be awesome. Yeah. You know, long story short, I
came here when I was six years old. Two weeks
after coming to the US, or home got rated by
law enforcement, and uh that day, both my mom and
dad went to jail. I ended up with my older
sister in a foster home. Mom comes out in three months,
Dad comes out of eight months. However, every year after
that our home would get it would get rated once

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a year, and uh, I finally, when I was ten
years old, they put away my dad for quite They
put him away for about ten years, and then my
mom within a two year span basically lost every thing.
So I sort of went from having whatever I wanted
as a kid to now ended up in UH in
an apartment where we couldn't rent. We didn't have enough

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money for rent, so we had a rent both of
the rooms where we lived, and we basically had fourteen
people living in a three bedroom apartment. So I lived
in this little room with my siblings UM and basically
roaches would be waking me up at night. And UH.
At fifteen years old, I was able to get a job,
and UH basically been taking care of the family since then,

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walking himself to school. As At sixteen, I became a
supervisor of five people. At eighteen, I became a supervisor
of forty people. I was selling long distance over the phone.
And then, but more importantly, when I became when I
was eighteen years old, I became the right hand of
the supervisor of of I mean, the VP of sales.
So then three years later he comes into my office

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and says, hey, I want to start this alarm company,
and I want you to come with me to start
the company. He says, I can't guarantee you the seventy
thousand dollars a year that you may here, but if
you make this work, you can possibly double quadruple your income.
And the first thing I thought was, well, this guy's
making two fifty grand a year, and if he's leaving,
you must be pretty serious about what he's doing. The

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second thing I thought is if he can teach me
how to start a company from the ground up. I'm like,
this is the shortcut to college that I needed. And
the third thing I thought, I was this big dreamer
kid I was at sixteen years old. I would ditch
school to go to Rodeo Drive and I would go
Windows shop, and then I would go look at all
the homes and I would say, one day I'm gonna interfere.

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And you know the rest of his Now, he's got
his security companies all throughout the United States. It's home automation.
It's amazing. It's incredible. You can do everything on your phone,
Like right now, I could pick up my phone and
look at exactly what my kids are doing. So I
lock the door open the garage, like, yeah, looking back
at what I did at that point, because everybody thought
it was crazy. They thought, how are you going to

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leave this this job that's paying you seventy thousand dollars
a year. This is back in which is probably worth
a hundred five The ground now, But um, what I
was doing at sixteen years old, I call it touching
the dream and being exposed to the dream. And there's
this part of your brain that's called the particular activating system,
and it's it's part of your subconscious mind. So your

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conscious mind, it can't get it can't gather everything you see.
It doesn't gather it because if you here see whatever,
it will overwhelm your your brain. And that's where some
conscious comes in because that gathers everything it sees and
gathers everything it touches. And the rearticular activating system is
a filter that feeds your conscience mind what it needs

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to know, and it filters it by three things, which
is what your dreams and goals are, what you need
for survival, and then your belief. So when I was
sixteen years old, that was my dream, that was my goal.
I needed that for survival. I needed to buy my
mom's home, so all these things. So when that opportunity came,

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it was easy for me because I knew that that's
what I needed to do to go after my dreams.
If I wouldn't have gone out of the bubble that
I was in because I grew up in Southeast l A.
Which is basically next to Watson Compton. Um, if I
wouldn't have left that little bubble, seventy thousand dollars a
year would have been Like I mean, I was already

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living the life at that point if I wouldn't have
left that bubble. But because I left that bubble and
I was and I was exposed to that dream and
I was able to touch the dream, it made me
want more. Um So I'm huge on that part and
I always talk about that part of my successes. At
a young age, I put myself in places where, you know,
even though I wasn't making that much money, once a month,

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I'd go treat myself to a nice steak uh and
I'd pay you know, a hundred fifty bucks for that dinner.
Um But it made me want more. Made me out
of your comfort zone because you can't grow inside of
your comfort zone. So you grow the most when you're
put yourself in pressure situations, when going in discomfort. And
that's what I love about the all In brand because

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all In, when you're all in, you put your your
you put yourself in a vulnerable situation, and no one
wants to feel vulnerable. Because everyone you know is afraid
of getting hurt and all that stuff. But that's how
you're going to grow. And whatever you go after, you
have to go all in and be vulnerable. And I
think that's a trait that a lot of successful people have,
is they put themselves in vulnerable situations and if you

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get hurt, you get hurt. But you know that's the
way you're gonna grow. WHOA, It's true. That's like I didn't.
I mean, she just like before we even sort of
the workout, she's like, have you ever heard a story?
I was like no, so I was really interested to hear.
But yeah, it goes like deep too, because I mean,
I know you're really rooted in faith and so I
love that element of it too. But belief, you've got

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to have monster belief. And when we when we are
going to church every Sunday, we are the most connected
that we ever are. It's like we are it's something
we do together as a family. It's something that we
look forward to and when we're not, you can feel it,
and we can feel in our life. I know. I
think we've discussed often about I mean getting into more
like the relationship thing is like having that faith is

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a foundation. Like you know, I think there's a lot
of people who are in relationships where maybe the faith
isn't the same or they you know, aren't um like
don't have the same beliefs or whatever. And I think
it can work, obviously, but I do think there is
something in the strength of being like rooted together in
that having that together. And so, you know, Tanya, when
I first met Edwin, I had never really gone to church.

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So just because you meet somebody and maybe they don't
have the same faith that you hope that's what we
were talking about with, it doesn't mean anything because truthfully,
at first when I met him, he was like, Okay,
I go to church on Sundays. And I was like, okay,
I go on Christmas. You know, I have never been
exposed to that. And Tany, you need to listen right
now because you sometimes we've gotten ye, I've gotten that. Yeah,

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because I always thought I needed to have somebody that
was like at the same level of faith as me,
and now I feel like it might be me that
is the one that has the stronger faith that leads
somebody else then and it's an opposite thing, And I
mean it comes with time. It comes with time, and
it's not going to happen overnight. You know, I started going.
You know, I used to work Sundays um when I
wrote Horses for a Living, so I, you know, had

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my excuse and why I couldn't go. And then I
started realizing when he was going every Sunday. I was like,
he is such a better person when he goes every Sunday,
like I only for that reason alone. I was like,
all right, I'm starting to go. I switched my work schedule.
I said, can I work this day instead of Sunday.
I started going. I watched how we started connecting more.

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I watched how holding ourselves accountable to doing that together
from the you know, non negotiable for us changed everything.
The first thing I told him when we got married
was you got to make sure I keep going to
church on Sundays, otherwise we might have issues. And she's
there's times I don't want to go and she pushes
me to go. Yeah, and I'm like, okay, great, if

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we really can't go on Sunday, we're going to watch
it on TV. You know, there's there's so many different
avenues to get faith, like, and people have this stigma
that if if you're a Christian you're judgmental, or that
you have to follow these set of guidelines. It's really not.
It's believing in something. It's believing in a higher power
and having faith and connect kind and being kind and
and that's really and you can get it anyway. You

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can get it on your laptop, you can get it
by going somewhere. You can get it by listening to
worship songs, you know, like I listened to like learned Dangle,
and I'm like, Okay, I'm getting it, you know, Like
I just think it's I think it's really cool to
know that, like like y'all met and y'all weren't necessarily
like that was probably very important to you, but you
met her and you're like, whatever, I'm going to do
my thing still, like whether she wants to go or not.

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And then the fact that perfect because I mean the
way we met was not. Yeah, I mean we didn't
meet in like a romantic But that's why I'm saying
that there's no judgment. It's just what you want growth.
And I like that what you found appealing about it
was that he you noticed something different about him when
he went to church, like that kind of what I
feel like faith is supposed to be, that there's something

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that stands out with someone. It's like this goodness that
you do. It holds you accountable. And I think when
you stop going, you start to debrawl yourself, right, because
there's so many things happening that you need to be rooted.
And that's why I've always been big on that. I've
always told Teddy, hey, make sure I'm always heading the church,
and when I stopped getting going, make sure that I
go back to it. So she's been great with that

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and holding me accountable with that. That's awesome, it's amazing. Well,
thank you so much for taking the time. Um, we
want to make sure that everybody, all of our listeners know. Um,
obviously this is your new I mean you've had your
program all in by Teddy, that's like a thing, but
you just launched the workout. Yes, so tell everybody where
they can find out how they can find it. If

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you go into all in by Teddy dot com and
you go down to the workout tab, you can either
do the workout once for or if you do, you
can have the video and you can do it as
often as you want. It's the perfect workout for if
you're in your home, you don't have any gym equipment,
your travel NonStop. There's really absolutely no excuse because you

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can do it anywhere. You don't need a ton of space,
you can do it with friends, you can do it
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(29:15):
I mean you took a deep sigh. I do you
have an intro? Ready? Oh? Well, I was gonna say.
I mean, I loved having Teddy and Edwin here. That
was really I know, I wasn't special last time she
was on the podcast. You're just gonna creep in like, yeah,
my fair introduction, Ben, Yeah, but yeah, thank you to
Teddy and Edwin for being here. They're awesome. They're a
power couple. I mean speaking of awesome and not necessarily

(29:40):
a couple, but a powerful human being. We have Ben
Higgins in the in the scrubbing in O R. How
does it feel to scare this is your first official scrubbing?
This is yeah, this is big. Well, it's kind of
hid because I was sitting over on the side waiting
and I feel like, now, even though I know you

(30:01):
both and respect you dearly, like I was a little
nervous because of your nomination that I feel like I'm
walking into something like really important, like I don't want
to mess it up. That's kind of true, genuine behind. Yes,
you're a fold. I know. I was on a TV
show with him. He walked me dead in the eyes,
said he wasn't going to send me about a warning,

(30:24):
send me about a warning. We don't trust that sweet face.
I'll never I'll never forget worse. On the Na my hometown,
sitting on the park bench in front of the city
hall and Becky goes he told me you would warn me.
I was like, how was I supposed to warn you?
A hand signal, anything to carry your pigeon? And there

(30:44):
could have been away she was the only personally really
get really mad at me when they left the show,
and I was like that out of everybody, like because
I yeah, I was sad. That is still in my phone.
So can we talk about this now? I think it's time?
Is it time? Yeah? I think it's time. Well, what's

(31:05):
what's the worst thing that can happen? Wait? Now you Yeah?
So Becca Um and I actually talked before the show,
and what happened was we had two phone conversations. I
remember that we text said probably not not a ton
and she's like, do you think like we didn't know
each other well, but she's like, do you think it's

(31:26):
worth me at least giving this a shot at this point,
like I was already going to be the Bachelor and
producers have reached out to me about going. Yeah, And
I said, I do. I think it's really I think
it's worth like us exploring if this could be something,
and I don't, like, I'm going to do the show
and so it's not like we can now date off
the side, and I don't know where this is gonna
take me, so please come on the show. But she's
in my phone back then as Virginia till I don't

(31:48):
know why. I forget the Virginia part, because what's a virgin? Like,
like you told me that. It wasn't like I'm hearing
about I forgot that, yeah, because she was a virgin.
So I put Virginia telling my phone. She's still that today.
I had a name for you too, but I can't

(32:09):
remember it. It was like funny or memorable. That is
so funny. So we've never I don't think we've ever
publicly shared that. But I knew. I knew she was
going to be there, or I was expecting her to
be there. She's the only one I knew would be there.
Is that crazy? Wow, that's pretty good. Yeah, But it

(32:31):
was like I was nervous because I'm like, I mean,
he just it was the same thing as me. Everyone's
like it would be great together as like we hadn't met,
like we didn't know, like you know, what the connection
would be. So when I walked in that night, I
still like even walking in, I was like what am I? Yeah?
But how did you know? How did you get each
other's phone numbers? Like this Instagram? Yeah? Like a message?

(32:51):
Were there multiple contapts that reached out to you? No? No,
you know It was a little different with Becca because
she had been on the show. Like I, I didn't
want to put her through a show again if it
wasn't worth it. But I knew that I was interested,
and so I was like, what how else are we
gonna do this? There was no other option other than
for than for her to come on the show. But
then again, it just still was and I think it

(33:14):
worked out like it wasn't a bad decision, right, No, no,
not at all. You know, I love you so but
that was that was it. So nobody has known that
until scrubbing in, and I thought this was a good time. Yeah,
that's great, that's a great teaser. It's weird kind of
the burden that's been lifted off my shoulders that it's
so funny. I've always been like I've never told anyone,

(33:37):
and I don't know why. I thought, like everyone talks
before they go on the show, Like, I don't know why.
In my head, I felt like I'm going to get
put in jail or something. At the time, it was
more protecting both of us because it was like, I
don't want people to think that Becca has an unfair advantage.
Yeah she didn't. I know if anything. I almost felt
like it was kind of a disadvantage because it was
like all these like fresh people, and I was like

(33:59):
old news, you know what I'm saying. No, oh, well,
you are thirty now, so take that jab at me
right a week, just a weekend to my thirties and
you're gonna do that. Where are you thirty, because that's
coming yeah? Two months? Oh no, yeah, three months, three months.
I'm yeah, it is a little exciting. I don't know

(34:21):
how you felt last week, beca but um, I love it. Yeah,
it's kind of just like I'm done with it. This
is the birthday that I feel like everybody is like
scared to get to sporties. Fine, fifties really fine, sixty
you know, is whatever it is. But thirty is that Martha.
You're like, I'm no longer like I no longer have
the option to be immature, and like that's the mark,

(34:41):
is like I can't just mess around anymore. Yeah, then
you've been mature since you're like twelve. I bad, No,
I think. So I've had this there, I don't. I
don't know if I've shared this with you too, but
you know I've I've smoked my tobacco pipe I read,
and I try like I stay very disconnected from technology
on purpose because here's my theory. If I can start
prepping myself to be older younger, than getting older will

(35:05):
never be a disappointment, will just be like the rest
of my life. Yeah, but then it's like that's all
you have, Like you're like wasting time of being useful
and being dumb because you're not going to like you're
entering that whether you want to or not. Is that
you're excuse for not texting people back, like yeah, here
we we do because was ready to go? Is that

(35:27):
what it is? You just like to like play old
and put your phone technologies too much for it? All right, Tanya,
let's get into this. I don't know, Tanya. I've been
I've had this like and this is this is from
the heart. I think I've always loved Tanya. I think
you know that, Like I just think you are like

(35:50):
a light and you bring a ton of light to
the people around you, and you walked into this world
of entertainment and media and like shine something different than
anybody else does. So Tanya to me is like this
super se precious ball of a person. And then I've
got to know Tanya over the last two years, and
she's gotten increasingly angrier at me as time has gone on,

(36:14):
and it just kind of like, I think it just
kind of came to the surface at I heard Fest
this year was Tanya looked at me, and I think
her exact words were, go ahead, remember when we used
to be friends? Remember when used to be friends? And
I said, I never knew we were not friends anymore.
And your response was, I can't remember. She just feels

(36:37):
like she puts more effort into our relationship than I do.
Sure I do, And I admitted that she definitely does.
Um And I was hurt because it took me off,
like it threw me off where I was like, I
didn't realize that we we had tension. First of all,
it's like not really tension, man, Like you're kind of
making yourself seem more special, Like I see her in
the morning and by the afternoon she's like, do you

(36:58):
even love me anymore? This is a time I don't
get that. So I didn't mean to make myself feel
more special. I don't, You're not she don't care that much.
But I didn't know this. With a Tanya moved, so
I went to Beck, and I was like, that's so sad.
He looked literally like someone had stolen his path. So

(37:18):
that guy, I don't know what happened, but I don't
like this like and she's like, Ben, this is Tanya
was like, oh, so I feel like we're mending because
I communicated my care. So last week, Tanya facetimes me
during my restaurant opening. We had my restaurant opening. Um
and I listened to the podcast last week and I
heard the quote that Tania just likes to FaceTime at

(37:40):
the most inappropriate times, and this is one of those.
So I'm doing this tasting with a bunch of people
in one room. I get a FaceTime from Tania. I'm like, oh, okay,
I'm gonna answer this because it's no longer getting I
ever gonna get criticized for not being a good friend
of Tanya because I do love Tanya. So I answer.
She's in a towel cooking in her kitchen. I thought

(38:03):
it was risk a kicking in the kitchen, big robe,
but I could tell them, you have no shame to
FaceTime anybody anytime. No, my hair was stopping wet, I
had no makeup on and had my giant robe on.
He in his mind thinks that your big puffy robel.
It's really funny. It's like she got this little towel,
how barely hanging on a gigantic bathrobe. But I appreciate that.

(38:29):
But you answered, I didn't. I did. I answered, and
I thought, I thought. After I hung up, I was like, okay,
Like that had to show that I cared. Like I
walked out of the restaurant, stood outside like told everybody like, sorry,
give me a second. Answered and said, hey, Tanya, how
you doing. I'm at a restaurant opening. She's like, I
get it, Okay, have a good one, just wishing you
the best. And I was like, that's freaking Tanya, just

(38:50):
being nice. Did that? Did that? Do you feel like
that mended things for you all? Did that help? It
really helped me on the mend to just be totally fair.
I really never had tension towards you. I always say that.
I always say, like, remember when you used to love
me like tobacco probably probably say weekly, Remember when you
used to love me? I get it bi weekly. Really, yeah,
So just so you know, that is something that I

(39:12):
say andingest. I don't truly, however, I do feel like
I put more into the relationship than you do. I agree.
I feel like that's true all of your relationships. And
I don't mean that in any way that came up
meter than I meant to. I get what you're saying
because I care a lot, Yes, exactly. Yeah, um, I
have some friends that care the exact same way. Back

(39:33):
with me. Okay, how often are you communicating with these people? Then? Daily? Hourly? Yeah?
I mean all I can imagine is if like to
show like your amount of care collided with somebody else's
amount of care would be like, like that gives me
anxiety at just building it with my hands. It could

(39:54):
be something as simple as like showing up for me
for something. Does that make sense? So like I have
a friend who is always there even when I don't
think I need somebody. Does that makes sense? And I
can go a day without speaking to her. Pauline and Sophia, Yeah,
I can go a day or two without speaking them
at all, but I know that there they will show
up no matter what, even when I don't think I

(40:14):
need somebody. So it's not necessarily about being in constant
communication because like, look, I haven't checked my phone and
like I don't know how long we've been doing this.
It's been a few hours and since the five o'clock this,
So I can go a really long time without communicating
with people. But it's the it's the it's um the
sentiment behind it. Do you think that's just a little

(40:36):
more sentiment from you? Yeah? Do guys typically give you
that much sentimate Like, do you know any males in
your life that have given you that much sentiment? Yes,
my dad being one of them, my father being one
of them, your dad, Yeah, but that but that makes
sense that somebody her dad is like that, and so
that's kind of sets up the expectations for the Yeah,

(40:59):
that's true. Yeah, well I've got stuff I need to
work on. I know that. That's my take away on
the Almost Famous podcast. Recently, we've learned that Ben's kind
of losing touch with um society in the world. I
don't know what's going on with him, but like he
hasn't seen any movies. He didn't know there was a
new Halloween movie, Like that was news to him. He
was like, really it was a new one. How cool?
Like he's kind of not involved in the world. I've

(41:22):
like separated somehow and I don't know how I thought.
I thought The Greatest Showman was two thousand. I thought
it was a new movie that really did Okay, do
you yeah? Like, are you happy to be a separate
It's not. But it's not like something I'm ashamed of.
I've gotten ashamed of because it's it's kept me disconnected
from other people, like I don't know what people are

(41:42):
talking about anymore. Like that's when I realized that during
the Almost Famous podcast, people were talking about this stuff,
and I was just like, I don't get it, Like
I didn't like, I wasn't tracking. And so then I realized, Yeah,
I've disconnected myself in the world, which is a bad thing.
I'm writing a book right now. So one of those
reasons that I yeah, so i'ting book, and and so
I've like any time I do have to disconnect, I

(42:03):
purposely disconnect. UM. But I'm realizing I'm doing it better
than I thought I was. I think I and I
don't know if it's just because of um A lot
of the guys. I think you've separated yourself from like
the Bachelor World a lot, and I feel like you
get out of that and it's all it is. Is

(42:23):
about social media and pop culture and like what's going
on in the world. So there has to be an
element where it feels really good to like not have
to worry about that or care about that. Yeah, I
wonder if you you feel like this, and Kina, you
have this, um, this job that is going to sustain
you for a long time because you're really good at it.
But for me, um, you know, almost famous and my

(42:46):
heart have been incredible to me. But I know that
like my time on the show piece is done, you know,
it's it's done, and and it's and so the the
attraction to the me getting pulled back into it, or
those opportunities are getting invited to amas and that kind
of like that's gonna be fleeting and fading. And I've
always been okay with it, I really, but I wonder
now that I see it like tangibly happening, that I'm

(43:07):
actually a little sad, you know, you like to disconnect
myself intentionally from the world because the Bachelor has been
good to me. The people are great. I made amazing friendships.
It's exciting for me. I get super pumped up. When
I went to Vegas. I was giddy, like I had
like anxiety because I was so excited to be there
with everybody, um and I hope that never faces. I
hope I continue to do that stuff, but I have

(43:30):
disconnected because of other stuff happening in my life. And
I wonder now if I'm starting to like get a
little bit emotional of the idea that this is all
closer to being done than it ever has been thirty
Maybe is that signed for me too? I don't know,
I'm I'm dealing with it, Mark, So I almost famous
podcast is brought to light some some things going on
that I need to dig into. And I do find

(43:51):
that interesting, the awareness of the fine nite amount of
time that uh the Bachelor or I knew this kind
of fame might be connect on to be the batch.
Any kind of fame, a lot of it has a
certain shelf life to it, and that awareness, I would
think would be very stressful, but also in your case
seems like it might be a little exciting. It's it's
exciting because the next the next chapter is on the horizon.

(44:12):
And I got to do all this when I was younger,
right like Beck and I both are just turning thirty,
and all this happened in our twenties, which is when
I would, you know, ideally prefer Ashley said something the
other day on the podcast and she said, um, that
every for the first time in a long time, she
had a Saturday with nothing to do. She was Snara
Couch and Jared and hers and she's like, I have
no plans and it's quiet. And she's like, I got

(44:35):
stressed out that that how long that quiet could last?
And I was like, that's actually, like really true. It's
finite for me. So I'm excited for the next chapter.
Generous has been incredible. You may not hope United as
being incredible, and um my heart still will continue to
go this podcast I have a blast with and will
continue to do what we can while the Batchelor still
living and breathing. But it is interesting. I don't know

(44:58):
what the check next chapter is now. Well, I think
you have a lot of things going on. I mean,
I think that's the thing you've established that you want
to do something beyond that and not like rely on this. Um.
I guess you could call it instant fame that happens
when you come off the show. But I also think
like you have to look at it too from a
different lens, like like I think it's a part of life,
and you know what I mean, like take the batchelor,

(45:19):
take the fame part out of it, and like this
is kind of what happens just in life, you know,
when you go through a different seasons. So it's like
when people are gearing up to like you know, get
married or have a baby or switched professions, and it's
like everybody's kind of dealing with this. So it's like
I think you can have comfort and the fact that
everybody deals with this at different parts of their life,
you know what I mean. It's like something coming to it,

(45:40):
like college coming to it in yeah. Yeah, like everybody
deals with it at just different times and in different ways.
So it's like what you're going through a lot of
people go through in their lives. It is just through
different lens that you're experiencing it. Well, yeah, it's it is,
you're right, like that end of college and of high school.
Like there's like in early life there's these like direct

(46:00):
like endings, Right, the chapter is done, let's move on
now there is it's kind of like less clear when
the when it fades and when a new one begins,
Like it all kind of blends together, and I just
have this sense that a chapter is ending. I don't
know what that looks like. They could enhance to a
whole new arena that's a more funding generous. Is incredible,
Like they travel the world and sell coffee for a living.

(46:21):
Like that's pretty great. I'm pretty stoked about it forever.
But you know, but that's a new chapter. Taking over
companies a bit as a new chapter. So yeah, it's
it's a it's a in this book. The book's a
big deal, So like, who knows what that thinks? Ben?
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(48:13):
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me out of it? Who was the best kisser on

(49:39):
your season of the Bachelor? Was there anyone where you're
like outside of you because I just don't think it's
fair to No, I don't even want to be involved.
Pretend I wasn't on the show. Um, I would say
the best kisser. I mean, you know, let's take you
and Lauren out of it. Yeah, let's just do that
for the sake of respect. Um, you know, I uh,

(50:03):
I actually think Joe Joe. Yeah, we had a lot
of chemistry, specifically a right, wait what it was? It
was a promo showing that Ben wasn't joying this on television. Yeah.

(50:29):
A lot of screen grabs of that, a lot of
screen gaps. You can google it. I'm yeah, we'll tease
it with that photo. It was okay, So the funny
part of this, and I'm not ashamed that it happens, right, Like, yeah,
it's like periods. It happens. We're going to get to
at the end of it's not crazy, but it's not

(50:53):
something you like, you know, like my little cousins, my grandma,
my mom, like they're watching it and it's already hard enough.
So ABC chooses is this beautiful scene where Joe Jenner
are kissing in a Jamaican waterfall, and I like, I'm
standing separate from her a little bit. It's very clear,
like what's happening? And they choose as the little like
the scene that the picture that stops and the show

(51:13):
does the bachelor in front of So it's not just
on for like a split second. No no, no, it's
on for thirty seconds. Like you're you get a very
good look at what's happening. Mark, did you find it?
I don't have a good shot of it. I have
something that kind of hint at it. Google. That's the
one word. That's the one am I'm making it bigger.

(51:40):
That's that, don't don't kill my ego? That making it bigger.
Expand the screens. Are you sure? Listen? List? Wow? That
would be weird if a waterfall then, I don't know
if you've heard that. Your chest is my way. I
appreciate it because not many people nowadays appreciate a hairy chest.

(52:04):
I know, and I just don't see the point in
shaving any longer. But before we get to that, here's
a picture of First of all, it's not as bad
it's not as bad. They have to have some center.

(52:25):
It's enough. Fact you can tell this to the side
this issue. I'm glad. I'm glad somebody finally brings it
up to me. So all my buddies send me this picture, right,

(52:45):
and you would be the only one, probably out of
that whole group of girls that I would feel even
a tad a bit comfortable with being like Becco, like
what the hell, Like why would this be a picture?
Like we could joke about it because anybody else said,
I'm not that close with But like, finally somebody it
up to me, because like this has been on my
mind for a long time. You haven't talked about. No,
this is this is the still shot that like is

(53:08):
the promotion of my season. Like it's like it's yeah,
it could be worse. It could be worse. It could
be worse. Thinking, yeah, Ali, from what I saw, it
looks pretty big. So how have that going for you?
Big Ben? Good? You should resume just big Ben, just

(53:39):
Big Ben, And yeah, like underneath, like you know, you
put like the bullet and then the sub bullet like
view promo happens. I mean, yeah, we want to talk.
I want to go into your chest being an oasis.
Because when we were at My Heart, we were at

(54:02):
the pool and all the guys were like, very clean shaven,
no hairless on the chest area, like childlike like I'm like,
I don't want to like touch it, okay, can there.
You've always liked Harry, always talked about that. She likes

(54:24):
Harry men Harry everywhere everywhere. She loves hair, a man
with hair, and so Ben I remember you were like,
what do you like? What do you think? And I
was like, I like it. It's different, and we started.
I don't even know how it came up on the
pot come up, but Tanya really expressed her love for it. Yeah,
that was nice. I appreciate yes, because I I'm not like,

(54:47):
I'm not ashamed of it. Um, I don't. I'm not
insecure about it, like I could fix it if I
needed to write, just like all those other guys do.
For me, it's more of a I don't. I don't
get it on why I would use so much time
and effort in life shaving. It's painful and painful, and
it's just it doesn't throw me off at all, and
the only time it ever bothers me is when I'm

(55:08):
around those guys because there, you know, hairless, they're kin dolls,
and so I'm saying they're like, I feel pretty good
about myself a time, except when I'm on by a
pool in Vegas and then I'm going to keep my
T shirt on. It's so interesting because the reason why
I am very vocal about it is because I have
dated guys in the past that have hairy chest and
I enjoy it, I support it, and there it's something

(55:31):
that they're really insecure about, and like they've been vocal
about that to me. So I'm like, I don't know
why you're so insecure about. I think it's so sexy.
I think it's so hot. I think it's so manly,
and it's something that guys can be insecure about. So
I do like to voice my opinion on that because
I do think that back here be too much for me.
I'm not into it. I'm not like, oh, bring on

(55:55):
the back here, but if it's there, like it's fine, Yeah, okay,
Well I like people like you. It actually happened, you know,
when this open minded you know, yeah, and you know
what all this happened was right before the show. I
was getting ready to groom myself for night one. Um,
one of one of the executive producers came in along
Gail and he said, what are you about to do?

(56:17):
I was like, I'm gonna shave my chest and my body.
And then I asked, how can I do this one
on the road? Like? Am I going to have the
clippers to do this on the road? He goes, yeah,
I guess. He goes, but here's the thing. What if
you just from night one on you set the standard
that like you're not going to shave a chests, like
you have to be okay with that now because you
can't regret this later. But what if you just try
to change the way men groom themselves? And I said,

(56:39):
it sounds like a lot easier to me. So we
just went with it. So from night one on, I
never trimmed. I just just left that oasis ready the
girls just out of curiosity. Do you so you trim it?
You don't shave it? You do trim it? Um? Yeah,
every once in a while. Matter is this scenario? I
mean a four guard? Yeah, like a four it's it's
it's six and I know that, yeah running it's Ryan. Yeah, yeah,

(57:05):
so it's a four. It is a four on a
on a straight like electrical razor um and riveting calm.
I don't know. Maybe they want to hear, maybe they
want their guys to know how to do it the way.
I'm taking some notes over here. There's no grimming whatsoever
on this on this, no, there is. There is this

(57:26):
way too, and that you could do like different um
links to make yourself look like you have abs. I
do know people that do that, like really like really short, yeah,
contouring on the stomach and then a little longer on tops.
It makes your chest like bigger abs look smaller. People
do that. I just go four all the way top,
bob and taking about five seconds, I'm going to go,
you know, a little hair down the drain, move on,

(57:48):
clean the sink, Clean the sink, Clean the sink. I
have some guy questions since spens here, We're just not solicited.
I picked him from the Facebook group that have been
posted Maddie wanted to know and ask it. I question,
and this actually ties in nicely with what we're talking about.
How do guys really feel about being intimate with women
who have not waxed or shaved. I've had men telling
they don't care other mens they prefer a whax. I

(58:09):
need to know. It's a great question. Um, I particularly
don't care. So when you say shaved, I'm assuming like
the pubic region, not like the legs. Right. I think
that's what she means, because I'll be honest in in
today's age, I still would have a hard time with
like harrier legs. It's just not it's evolved as we become.
It's still a yeah, yeah it is. That would still

(58:33):
be that would still be something that throw threw me off,
even though I bet and I you know, I have
been in a loving relationship. You get over it like
it's not that big deal because you love somebody. You're like,
come on, Like I would prefer this, but not a
big deal. But if like you're talking about, I think
that's like a hook up thing, it still would be
an issue with me as far as the bikini area

(58:55):
is whatever, because that's my opinion too, because deep down
and every guy is a fourteen year old boy who
can't imagine that one day he might be able to
be intimate with the woman. That's the most exciting thing
he can even imagine. So when it's happening, we are
so excited to be there and the fact that it's happening.
We don't really worry about other stuff like that, and
we're not judging, we're not grading, we're not critiquing. We're
just so happy to be there. Well, you're welcome. I'm

(59:19):
I think that you can't remember if it was you
or somebody else. But I waxed. I'm like an avid
wax or so every single month I waxed, So for
like two weeks. I'm like, I do it for myself
because I'm clearly not in a relationship right now. But um,
everyone says, what do you do the last two weeks
when you like have hair go back? And I'm like, well,
it's just a little bit of hair and it's fine.
I was like, the person that I'm intimate with doesn't care,

(59:40):
you know what i mean. Like everyone thinks it's like
this big thing to have like a little bit of
hair out on there, and I'm like, really, just just
the thing. It's not. It's not that big a deal.
So yeah, I could. I would say that would be
a very very low, um turn off on my list.
Good to know Danielle is wondering if guys overthink as
much as we do and This is a pretty standard
ask a guy, because girls think they're the only ones

(01:00:01):
who obsessed over texts and what words he sent and
what did he mean by that? And they overrannalyze. Do
guys do that as well? I mean I think so.
I think. I think we like to stereotype each to
be super incredibly different. I don't think guys um hang
on to it maybe as long and so what I mean,
so like a text comes through, it doesn't seem like

(01:00:21):
what you wanted to be. I think you would. I've
met more women that i've dated now in the last
year and a half, and that hasn't been a lot,
but even just texting back and forth that are a
lot more direct than I ever remember six seven years
ago when I was like in college, like where they'll
be like, all right, what's actually going on? Are you
really into me? Are you just like Tanya? Are we friends?
Are we not? No? We're friends, Tanya like I love

(01:00:44):
you dearly. Um no discounts over here. No, But yeah,
I I don't think. I don't think we're that far
off from each other. Kelsey posted an ask a guy. Uh,
he's thirty nine, she's twenty nine, and they just don't
do it. It's been two and a half years and
you can count on two hands the number of times
if the magic has happened. Is low libido with a

(01:01:06):
guy a normal thing? Or if there's something else going
on here? Um? I mean the question they're like, there's
a little bit like morals and values and is there
any religious like reasons or you know. I know it's
been a crazy week the last two weeks where I've
been exposed to a couple and we did this song
almost famous too, where there's been a lot of trauma
and pain when it comes to physical intimacy and sex

(01:01:28):
that has caused people to push back. And I think
we're hearing about it more and more and people are
talking about it, and we're realizing why people aren't entering into, um,
being intimate with their partner. I would say, if you've
been together two and a half years and and you
love that person, there is something going on there. And
if there's no if there's no like conscious choice, where
as partners you said hey, we're not gonna have sex

(01:01:48):
or hey, like this is still a reminder to me.
If you're not just talking, it's like there's no agreement
and you aren't clear on a first talk about it,
and second like there does seem to be an issue.
Her concern is that he's getting it from some one else,
are watching adults videos? I mean, I think that's a
fair concern because but again, maybe I'm crazy. But if
you're in a loving relationship with enough years, talk to

(01:02:10):
him about it, Like, that's a very easy question to say,
I want to be this person for you, Like I'm
missing this part of our relationship. Are you getting it
somewhere else? Or are you doing something to satisfy yourself?
If so, how can I become that? Or how can
we replace that with me? How can we get physical together?
I think that's a very easy and fair converts not
easy con I think it's a fair conversation absolutely, Alicia,

(01:02:34):
what's the best way for a single girl to get
a guy's attention? Maybe it's someone you see in real
life and don't know them. Is it a pickup line,
a smile, sliding into their d M, asking them out,
buying them a drink? She says, help a modern woman
out please? Yeah, well, yeah, we talked about this sliding
into the d M s at the A M A S. Well,
we were just talking about and you're like, I've never

(01:02:56):
done it, and so like, do I try it? Do
I try? Like what's the you're you were like, what
if they don't respond or what if they're not into it?
I'm worried about that because of the document, Like I'm
worried that it will come back to buy me is
like I still something in writing. I still have the
uh just a fear of rejection. I know I do,

(01:03:19):
and so putting myself out there like that seems tough.
But we're at we're at the uh am a S
and it was everybody's talking about how they've met on
d ms or they've talked through d M or that's
how they connect with people today. And I was like,
I've never done it. I even know there's a world
that was acceptable. But they're like, of course it is.
You just d M somebody. If you find him, you
like him, you find him on Instagram and your d
M them. Um. So I think that's one way. I

(01:03:41):
think it goes both ways. I think the second piece
is if you're trying to get a guy's attention, there
is nothing and this is gonna be so cliche, but
I think it actually has truth to it. There's nothing
that is more attractive than you can tell that a
girl is genuinely interested in being authentically themselves. And so
if you're interested and you're infinite, and you're intentional, and

(01:04:02):
you're clear, but then you're you also can see and
know that that that person is is being themselves, are
not trying to impress anything, and the person that you
know in that moment is going to be the person
that you can build a foundation on to get to
know maybe for the next hundred years of your life
or whatever. I think that's what attracted me is when
that first interaction, when you know that that's going to
be the start of something really special for as long

(01:04:22):
as it can last. I think that's great. I think
that's really true. And I've said this before. And I
was at my first day with my wife and the
song Bitch by Meredith Brooks came on the radio, which
was a current song at the time, uh, and she
started singing to it at the top of her longs
on our first day and I thought, Wow, this girl
does not care like she is who she is and
it's a song I'm a bit, but she's singing it

(01:04:43):
like it's her anthem. And she loved that song, and
I thought, I find that so endearing. Yeah, that she
just just herself. That's who she is, and that's what's
so great about Tanya. That's what everyone loves about Tania.
I remember, that's what you asked Dean, because when Dean
took me out that first day we went to this
concert and I was like jim out like my normal self.
I was like rocking out and Marc was like, did
you find that end? And he was like, I was

(01:05:08):
into it. Yeah, that's a great like story to prove
that point right there is like the perfect and story
that is like the base of what I was trying
to say. For all that she did, she denies it
wasn't our first date. Yes it was. I remember very
well that was our first She can't even believe she
did that. I was going to say, though, before you
slide into somebody's d M, make sure you have a

(01:05:28):
friend in common, because that is the That's how I've
actually met and started dating the last guy that I
dated and that ended not great. So from that I
decided that now on, not anybody that I date has
to have one person connected to me so that they
can vouch so interesting that that's our standards day too,
like that you can actually tell if you know one

(01:05:49):
person in common via social media, like ten fifteen years ago,
we would have never known if we had mutual friends.
So we talked about it. Interesting. I was gonna ask
this is I know, this is what a lot of
the listeners are thinking right now, So I'm going to
put it out there. Everyone right now listening is thinking, Wow,
Tanya and Ben just seem perfect for each other. They
both are, they're both very genuine people. They're both very

(01:06:14):
kind people. They really like to give back, they're very
they're very much people of faith. What's happening? How come
this hasn't gone any further than half? Because God darnet,
it sure seems like it should. Goll darn itt bugaboo.
Um My response, well, who do you want to respond? First? Generous?

(01:06:36):
Just giving my middle name? Yeah, yeah, go ahead. Um.
We get that a lot every time I come, Like
every time there's an interaction between Tanya and I, it
pops up and UM, I get why, right, But I
think that Tanya's need and like her effort into relationships
is something that I don't necessarily like. I don't connect

(01:07:01):
on my phone very often, like I do take time
away from myself. Um. I think that would have been
maybe the first sign that, oh, this is a really
good friendship, not romantically. Could I satisfy the needs that
Tanya has and not a bad way, just like I
am a lot more Um, I just have to be

(01:07:21):
alone a lot more like and I think like for
me to isolate myself from the world is really important.
And if I want to be the best version of
myself when I enter into the world, I have to
know that in that time that I have away, I
am away. And so I think that would be one
thing that say that could be an issue if we're
on a date, I'd be like, what do you think
about that? Will that always be the case with you? Like,
I don't know, to find the one maybe you want

(01:07:42):
to get away with her? I don't know, that's a
big that's actually a question that I don't know how
to answer. I mean when I was in when I
was living with Lauren, there would be moments and she
was great about it that I would have to get
away for an afternoon, like driving the mountains and read
or whatever. Um, and she I don't think she took
it offensively Um, but it was really important that I
did that so that when I came back into the

(01:08:04):
household that I was the best person I could be
for her, because I knew that the more and more
that I was around people, I always felt like there
was something I had to satisfy, and so I was
getting tireder and tireder. So for me to get away
it was important. Um but I mean, Lauren and I
went on a couple of vacations and it was like
the best vacations I've ever had. Like to have that
person with you, that partner with you, to explore and

(01:08:25):
to eat out with and to just you know, do
whatever it was. It was awesome. But that was the
first time in my life that that had been the case.
So I think that would be the first thing we'd
have to talk through that. Yeah, that would be a
that would be the first obstacle. Yeah, first challenge. How

(01:08:45):
do we get through this? How do we get through it?
Is interesting though, because a lot of people think because
I am this way that I like I'm always with people,
But I do actually recharge on my own, Like I'm
now living alone and I love it so much. I
never thought I would like be this happy. That's interesting, Yeah,

(01:09:06):
newly okay, but I'm like kind of obsessed with it. Like,
what is your response to the question about okay? My response, Um, Honestly,
I did have a crush on you a while ago,
and I think I feel like I told Becca about it,
but it was like a weird time where you just
like weren't you kind of weren't your eyes weren't really

(01:09:29):
open anything, you were kind of still just like not
in a great place. So I think I just kind
of turn that key off. And this is kind of
what I do with guys like you weren't interested. So
then I just kind of put you in the friend
box and just put you there. And that's it. Chanyas
a hard time switching that, putting that switch back. Once
you put somebody in the friend box, they tend to

(01:09:49):
stay in the friend box. Yeah, yeah, no matter what happens. Yeah,
And I want somebody that like want, like, because I
did have a crush on you, and you I didn't
get that back. I was like, oh, well, I don't
want someone that doesn't want So then I just kind
of was like, man, that makes sense, that does make sense.
And I would fully agree that. I mean, I think
you both were around for a while. Mark and Easton
were around for all that. My eyes were completely shut

(01:10:12):
for a good solid year, like not even interested, not
even like capable of talking, not even desiring to find relationship.
Every you know, every are you moving on? Uka? It
was like, I'm good. I just know that this is
the place I need to be at. Um, So yeah,
I could see that being completely true. Is if you
did find any interest. It was like, but he's just
a walking, talking, uninterested man in anything right now. He's

(01:10:36):
a sad sack. It's a sad sack that you know.
I I'm I listened to the podcast last weekend. Um,
your breakup song. Your lyrics unbelievable. First off, Um, that
is a banger. Um, but I wonder it's just a refresher. Yeah,

(01:11:02):
but I get what you're I get what you're saying,
because I think I was like a mess of a
human for probably a good year after that, Like I
went through like the phase of um, like going crazy
where I was just like hot mass express, and then
I went through the phase of like being sad son.
I think that was like a full year. Well, when

(01:11:23):
a couple of months ago, I said something on the
podcast about how I would like to Tan you did
not date somebody in the bachelor world. I'd like her
to think outside that box and go outside the bachelor.
A bunch of people on the Facebook group said to me,
what about Ben Higgins did have corresting responses? Oh? Yeah,
I mean right, but yeah, that was the thing that
was nice, Mark. But yeah, it makes sense now because

(01:11:44):
it you know, it would have been and I guess
it didn't make sense some we we didn't at least
go on a date, you know, like back in the
day if there was into here, any any interest, and
we both knew it why there wasn't a date back then,
But I just wasn't. I just don't think I was interested.
I still don't know how, man, where I'm at with that.
I'm more and more confident in my singleness than ever before,

(01:12:05):
Like inconfident in that, like feel good about it, not
even ashamed of it, just able to live in it,
excite about what's next, that new chapter, whatever that is,
which makes me, which makes me think, just based on
the life that I've lived so far, that when I
got really confident in my singleness, something's about to explode,
Like singleness will no longer be an option. I don't know,

(01:12:27):
you know how like when you get really comfortable with
something and it's like, no, we're gonna pull you away
from him. So I don't know what well Tanya saw
I had her tarot card reading and she was told
that somebody she already knows is going to be the
person for her, and she's going to realize it. She's
going to realize it in May. So what that's such

(01:12:49):
a long time ago. I was gonna say, what are
you gonna do? Tanya? Until May. No, It's interesting because
like three weeks ago it was like just all this
eaziness because I think like because I have been like
I'm very vocal about being single and dating and the
last guy that I dated, I was like this could
be it, and like you know what I mean, just
this has just been like this roller coaster. So a

(01:13:09):
couple of weeks ago was like just all these guys
like just it was just like really hectic. And Brad,
one of my best friends, was like, Tanya, like all
these guys that you're dealing with right now, they're not
your guys, Like you need to just like it's hectic energy,
Like you need to just like be done. You're moving
like out on your own. You need to just like stop.
And so I think I like mindfully just at that
point kind of like snapped and was like because I

(01:13:31):
haven't really been interested. I haven't not really, no, not
at all. And I think it was funny because I did.
We did this tarot card thing for Halloween, and she
starts flipping everything and everything was career. It was like
all it was like this crazy career card stuff, like
crazy like really spot on with some stuff. And then
there was one card and it had to do with

(01:13:53):
it was a guy that is in my life right now,
not in this city, that was for most of time,
and so um, she flipped it over and she was
like it was like like a living then like of course,
I'm like, no, let's just breathe by it because I
like I wanted to hear about my career because that's

(01:14:14):
like where I'm at right now, you know. So she
flips that one over and then all the girls assisting
in the producers and see her and everyone's like, no, no,
we need to ask about the guy. Asked about the guy.
So then she like does these other things and she
goes it's going to happen. It's somebody that you know
in your life. Um, but he has to figure something out.
And then around May, I swear, I'm not even taking

(01:14:34):
this up. Around May, it's gonna it's gonna come to
a head and you're gonna know, like it's all gonna
make sense in May. But the other element to this
is that she knows the initials of the person. Don't
you are an initial and you won't tell anyone she
would tell anyone what the initial is because I don't know,
because it's just understand that I get that whoa honestly

(01:15:01):
that Tonny. I was thinking about this last week when
I was up all night. I went into this place
of just really deep thinking, and I started thinking, like,
obviously we always talked about like you're going to find
your guy whatever, like that's but you're such a um
I was. I was just thinking about how like much
of an example and like a champion you are for

(01:15:23):
single women who are in their same phase of their
life right now, and how like having someone like you
to like see and think like when they're struggling or
not feeling confident in like not being with someone, to
have someone like you who's successful in her career and
has amazing friends and is doing like really well in
her life. Like that's your purpose right now, because like

(01:15:44):
the people that you're reaching being single right now, you
wouldn't be able to reach them if you were in
a relationship. I totally agree. I've had so many people
like I mean, it's like insane some of the messages
that I can and I just like cry because I'm like,
I think it's weird too, because a lot of people,
a lot of women that are single, they get they're
not it's not insecurity, but it's like they feel like

(01:16:04):
they can't stay in on a Friday night, Like I
love staying in on a Friday night, Like I'm single
and I could care less, Like I love staying home
on a Friday night by myself, cleaning my makeup brushes.
And it's so weird how just little things like that
people can really like cling onto and be like I
love that you're single, and yet you don't have to
be like out at a bar on a Friday trying
to meet someone. And I'm like, because I think that
it's all going to happen when it's supposed to happen.

(01:16:25):
I have a bigger faith and trust and something bigger.
So I'm like, I don't have to go out of
my way to do something that I really don't want
to do, like to force it. Yeah, So thanks Becca,
Yeah you're welcome. Well I was just thinking, I'm like,
that's that's where you're at right now, and you're like
reaching a lot more people than if you're in a relationship.
I think you're like doing a lot of like really

(01:16:47):
cool things for people. That is like what you're doing
right like it's a part of your life. But and
like I thought at this point, I thought I would
be married for four years at this point, Like I
fully was like I was like married with two, but
I would have had four and I've done things and
like even living alone. I never in a million years
that I would live alone. And the fact that I'm
capable of doing that on my own and want to

(01:17:09):
do it on my own is like really crazy. Like
if you would have asked Tanya at twenty four if
she'd be doing this right now, I would be like,
what in a way, I'm gonna have two babies by now,
you know. So it's really weird. It's really weird because
the things that I'm doing that I never even thought, um,
we're in the cards. Well yeah, and this is your story.
You know, it's not going to always go how we predict,

(01:17:30):
but it's a beautiful story that all makes sense in
the end. And it's just crazy to see I was
playing out Tanya, You're you're good, You're you're you really
are a light to everybody. I heart. There is not
one person in here has who has not been affected
in some way by you. The best part about Tanya
to me, and maybe I just see her, you know
once every week when I fly intro whatnot, is that

(01:17:52):
when you enter into a room, people get more joyful
than if you weren't there, Like there is this tangible
like joy that in who's in with you? Um, And
so that's I think that's like a message in us.
I told you you're like human sunshine. That's true. And
you said also earlier that Tania brings something entertainment that
nobody else brings. Yeah, and that's really true. Yeah, and consistently,

(01:18:14):
not just like for the first three months that she worked.
It's like no, no, no, this is Tanya. This is intentional,
this is her purpose, and it's happened consistently for the
time that you've been around. Like, that's that's unique. I
think it is. Yeah, it's so nice. I feel like
I'm like, what's happening. It's your birthday, it's your half birthday.

(01:18:35):
Um wow, well I hope you want to. I hope
you wont our award next week? All right, thank you? Same,
It's it's not so much hope though, Like it's when
we win the award. Thank you for your pre congratulations.
We appreciate. Yeah. Man, they want to talk about periods.
So I'm gonna give you an opportunity. Do you want
to go or stay for this next part? I'm gonna
head out. Yeah, all right, I'll see you guys. Ben.

(01:18:56):
Thank you. I'm so glad. We got to talk about
the Virginia thing, we got to talk about the Tony thing,
we got to talk about the Boner thing. It's all
really special. I feel like you, like visibly look lighter.
Yeah I do. It's interesting now that you repeat it,
I felt I feel like a burden has been lifted
from coming on this podcast. But as you say that back,
I'm like, what did we just talk about and how

(01:19:18):
far did we take this? Uh? I gotta go take
Lindsay shopping. We're going to the Palisades and uh again,
Lindsay has donated her money and time for humanity hope
I did, which is awesome. So thanks to my heart
for setting that up. And Lindsey and I are going
to go shop and drop and I don't know, probably
ice cream because Lindsay seems like pretty special. So I'm

(01:19:40):
gonna eat ice cream for for her at the very
end of our time together so that I can be
somewhere safe afterwards. All right, I wonder if, like any
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(01:21:31):
to Ben, they took some selfies and Tanya, who has
taken maybe ten tho selfies in her life just figured
out where to look for the first time ever. I've
never seen you not look at the That was you
were looking like off though, Like, yeah, it was weird.
My eyes about that weird. Something something went arive, something
to go a right. But I've never looked at the
dot before. It was almost like you were looking for

(01:21:56):
like almost like you were looking at me in the camera.
That's how far over your Oh what were you checking out?
What were you interested in? I guess our symmetry. I
don't know, but I don't like being the one to
take the selfie because I feel like I look prettier
when someone else takes the selfie. I just can't get
everybody think about the shape in my face. I don't
like when i'm yeah something yeah, Like when I do it,

(01:22:20):
I can't get everybody in the frame well yeah, because
you're in the middle of that one. And how much
better is that? I did? Okay? On this? Um Ben
is a gem, great guy, white, a catch for somebody.
He doesn't seem like he's not looking really he'll be
ready by me. That is insane. Who else do we

(01:22:41):
know from different cities? Um Like, are there certain or
there some I mean, no Bobby, but like oh Jason Tardy,
Chicago guy. It said that they did say, like, my,
you know, things would for some of those things that

(01:23:02):
have to take a very serious turn in a different direction.
But never know, there's a lot of time in between
now and May. All right, so for weeks time he's
been wanting to talk about periods and we have some time. Now,
what is it the exactly that you would like to
say about periods? So many things, like so many things.
All right, I'm gonna turn my mic off. Well I

(01:23:22):
don't I don't have much to contribute to this. Oh
my gosh. I think periods are wonderful. I look forward
to them everything. I just feel like we need to
like open the conversation because guys get squirmy about like
I always want to talk about periods on the Morning show,
and Marks always like, well, that's an interesting thing because
you're broadcasting to all of Los Angeles, all ages and

(01:23:43):
families and old and young, and we just have to
keep that in mind that some people would not be
enjoying that conversation. This show is different like talking about it.
If there's something to talk about about, it is fine.
But like I don't like getting my period, like it's
not comfortable. I don't like thrive when well my period,
So I don't like to really talk. I mean, I'm
just blackly. But that's the thing, Like we're all not

(01:24:05):
thriving when we're on our period, but we all get them.
But talk about me not talking about it isn't because
I'm scared or embarrassed about it, or it's literally because
I'm already on it. I don't want to talk about
being on it. So I get like really tired around
my period, like the last thing I want to do
is or anything like anything like that, And so it

(01:24:28):
really takes a lot, like I literally have to sit
there and be like, Tanya, you can do this, and
I will literally stand there and just say, Tanya, you
can do this. I I get like the day before mine,
I am so irritable. I almost punted Phoebe off of
the balcony because she is fully potty trained in my
apartment and she looked at me. She got I guess

(01:24:49):
was mad at me and looked at me, and I
impete on my carpet. And when they look you in
the eye and do it. Oh, it was so disrespectful
and like the the I would have been upset anyway,
but I'm normally pretty chill most of the time. The
level of anger I felt, I was like, Oh, I'm
about start my period, and I started my period the

(01:25:09):
next It's true, Becca, can really call it like you have? Really,
you're really in tune with your emotions. Yeah, because when
I start feeling like things are bothering me that shouldn't
bother me, I'm like, I think I can blame this
on my period. Yeah, you get irritable. I get really emotional.
I'm super emotional around my period. You're emotional all the time,

(01:25:31):
that's true, but it's heightened around my period. Do you
all's wives get different? Like? Are they do they act out?
I don't really notice much difference, and that's certainly not
something I would call attention to if I did. That
doesn't seem like a good move. Yeah, is that time? Yeah,
that's not nice and that's not a good thing to say.
Uh No, I don't really notice much of that. Yeah,

(01:25:51):
what how much pain do you experience on a monthly basis?
Because that seems to be a wide range. Some women
it is no big deal, but some women are down
for the count. I minds like the first day, I'm
like uncomfortable and cramping, but if I take my all,
it will go away. I have friends who are literally
can't do like they're like you said, they're down for
the count. Heating pads. Some of them have to go

(01:26:13):
to the hospital sometimes, Like it can get really bad.
I've had days running like a heating pad plus motor
and plus all the things. It sounds horrible. I always
feel so bad because men don't go through this, you know.
And Alison and I she hates them bringing this up.
We used to work at a movie theater together and
she would come in with one of those hot water bottles,

(01:26:33):
like the kind of you see a cartoon like the
big rubber ones. Became one of those just kind of
like by your side, and it was felt like very
like depression era. But she's like, I need this. I
am in so much pain. I felt so bad for
and uh yeah, it's just not come. It's like there's
a lot that about it that's not physically comfortable. And

(01:26:53):
on top of that, you do feel like mentally like
you're just irritable and you feel exhausted and you're like
losing parts of yourself, Like I truly feel like I'm
losing parts of myself and I'm like, I feel like
I'm being drained when I'm on my period. What's happening.
I know that's tough. Nobody wants to have this conversation

(01:27:15):
having it, but it's just it's like if I was
like I really it was like when we talked about
Olive Garden and you're like, why are we talking about
love Garden because it's like when you're there your family,
But it's like, I mean, yeah, we all get them.
For the most part, I would just think that they suck.
I guess unless you are not trying to get pregnant,

(01:27:38):
it's very exciting to get your period. Okay, you know what,
then have you had that when you're like, oh, thank God?
Have you had those moments when I get my period? Oh? Yeah,
like thank you? Like I would, I would do the
deal with God, like if I get my period, I
will blah blah blah blah blah. Um. So we can
table this, we can throw it to a listener to

(01:28:00):
shout us out. If there's anything about periods topics, Yeah,
there's Tampons are the industry standard, right, Pads don't seem
as common, and I'm sorry for my ignorance. Um, No,
that's not ignorant at all. Actually, I know one woman
that we work with that only uses talk. Really. Yes,
I also know people who because of the like chemicals

(01:28:20):
and stuff that tampons are soaked in, won't use them
and we'll only use pads. I could never because that
sounds like torture. What's wrong with paths? Just there's just
like doing in your own films. Do you remember wearing
a diaper as a young child. It feels like that. Yeah,
we at the Diva cup. Where do you stand on that?

(01:28:43):
I've never tried to Oh yeah, if you're our listeners,
if you've tried to wag in here, and we'd like
to know what you wanted? What would you like to
talk about with the period? And we see commercials where
they have wings on the pads. I don't even know
what that is. They like you can hold them and
they stick and stay in place on new I always

(01:29:03):
thought that's what they were. Back back home in Santa Cruz,
I went over to a young lady's house and open
her refrigerator and I saw a mason jar full of
liquid and I understood that some people keep the discharge
and they cook with it. Actually, like I'm going to vomit.
They cook with it, cook with it. This is a
very very hippy dippy thing to do. And I immediately

(01:29:25):
canceled my plans to have spaghetti and meatballs that night.
Hit her house. But that that's crazy, right, Like I mean,
I want to judge it. I did not tell your kidding.
I'm not kidding this. Can I tell you? I have
heard that, Um, this is a thing if you put
some of your period blood, if you put it in
your guy's food and he eats it, um, he'll marry you.

(01:29:50):
Why is that funny? I hope that the guy in
May is. I hope he's not listening. I'm not saying
I'm not saying I I've tried this, but I have
encouraged people to do it. It just became May of
kept getting pushed back. She did. I know, well, Eastern

(01:30:16):
took it to a dark place. But I think we
can wrap it up. I love more Eastern took it.
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(01:32:25):
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(01:33:11):
not enough time, but the all in by Teddy the
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(01:33:32):
that's great, do that every day and thank her later,
thank her later, or if you want to get extra credit,
do it twice. Good call um. Anyways, thank you. We
have had some big shows like I am like so
proud of this podcast. I have been I've been proud

(01:33:52):
of this podcast since stay one, or really I yes,
since day one, but obviously once Tanya came on, it
really became an element of like this could really be something.
And so these past few weeks have made me realize, like,
I know, we have the People's Choice nomination and we're
gonna win. It's gonna be awesome, but like beyond that,

(01:34:14):
we're doing something really cool here Ryan Seacrest, Sarah Drew,
Justin Brunig, James Maslow, The Lady Gang, Pique, Scrubbing It Pek,
and like Ryan seacrests asked to be on ouray, so

(01:34:35):
like now we can be like Ryan seacrests asked to
be on our podcast? Do you want to be on it?
You like to be on it? You know, like we
have some leverage here. Yeah, you should get audio him
asking and he's like send people in boxes. Um. But anyways,
I'm proud to work with y'all and I'm really proud
this podcast. It's really just like something that feels like right,

(01:34:57):
and that we're doing something bigger than just talking about
periods every week and other things. I agree with your
sentiment Back at Tilly and I think that we are
all better people for having you in our lives. Wow,
thank you. I'm really thriving in my thirties. That's that's right.
A weekend, so far, so good. Um, I think we

(01:35:18):
we haven't really gotten to do well. We did a
lot of ask you guys with Ben so that we did. Yeah,
but keep the emails coming, scrubbing in at iHeart media
dot com. We'll get to a bunch of the next week. UM.
I would next week, I'd like to talk more about Grays.
I had some breakthroughs with storylines that I'm interested in.
Me too good. We need to talk to that. Yeah, um,
do you want to call it? I called it last week,
So it's up to you. Fifteen o four Time of

(01:35:42):
Death fifteen o four. Don't get rusty when you don't
do it for a couple of weeks.

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