Hit Me Manel One More Time

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Rad and I
Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
Hello everybody, I have it's some exciting news. Talk to
me about that exciting. Where you going to San Francisco
this weekend? Yeah, we are. We are popping our live

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Cherry this weekend in San Francisco, first live show ever
for Scrubbing In with Beccallian Tanya Rad. That's right. We're
staying in the Vice Roy Hotels. Y'all should be booking
your hotel room. You should be buying your tickets to
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tickets left. And we actually just found out that we
are releasing a couple more VIP tickets for Saturday, so

(00:44):
you guys can get your hands on those. That's exciting,
very exciting. And just so you guys know if you
are coming to the show, we're gonna have like a
little booth when you walk in where you can write
in your questions for truth or drink, So make sure
you make them really hard hitting for Becca and I, um,
so we can get we don't want to get drunk.
We want to answer the questions. We're so excited. Have
you guys picked the truth or drink games yet? Have

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we got some questions. We're in the process of doing
that right now. Actually, okay, yeah, and there's some good
there's some good questions that I'm gonna be very uncomfortable
asking you. Well, if you have a good one that
you can think of, send it into scrubbing in at
iHeartMedia dot com. And Mark posted a thing on the
Facebook group to so you can leave a comment there,
okay and say who the question is for, because you

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know the questions that I'll answer well or everything everything. Yeah,
it's we gotta find questions that Becco will answer and
questions that Tanya will not know because then I'm super
sober and she's like wasted at the end of it,
and we're we're going to be answering them from the
Marines Memorial Um Theater in San Francisco. So it is

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going to be a freaking blast. Oh, another high five.
Tanya is full of Okay, you know it's gonna be
a good show when we started off with that many
high fives. So we have a really fun show today
because we have by back by popular demand. We have
a mantle and let me tell you, these guys are

(02:06):
here to help you out. Yeah. So basically on our
on this podcast, Beck and I really um, we answer
a lot of listener emails and things like that. But
it's almost like the blind leading the blind. They're all
they're all questions about guys. And I mean, I'm super single.
Becca is not, but I'm not. But we're not guys.
So like, we don't think like men, so we answer,

(02:27):
I try to answer for I also think. I think
I think the opposite of men. You do, I think? So. Yeah,
so our advice is like a little Sanzi, so this
is this is good. Also, just so you know, when
Tanya says Sanzi, that really means whatever you wanted to me.
We have no definition for it. Um. So we have

(02:47):
Hunter March, who is a host on Nightly Pop. You've
seen him on Tanya's Instagram story multiple times. Tried to
set her up, but they're not romantically compatible, but they
love each other dearly us am I right? I mean
it's really up to Tanya. We can go ahead and
figure this out. I mean, if we try hard enough.
I know that there's some obvious gaps, but um, we could.

(03:10):
We could. It's just I don't know if she's into it.
Hunter and I actually worked together for the first time
this weekend at the Grammys. Um, and I really like
you a lot. Okay, I like where this is. I
don't like where the tone is going to be a
butt coming. No, I think you're so great and I
love working with you. Sure, but it would be would
we be better as friends? Because if so, no, need
to finish that sentence and let me live in my fantasy.

(03:33):
I don't think we've been better friends. I just think
we want different things currently. Okay, Well, I want to
fall in love with someone I respect in, someone who
respects me and impowers amazing human beings. So I guess
whatever you're looking for, let me is looking for. Yeah,
someone's being a little sanzy. Okay, we can table this. Yeah,

(03:54):
we'll get back to um. You're you also do a
lot more than just nightly pop, but I know that
that's where we know you from Tanya. This year, you
do a lot of hosting for Netflix as well. Yeah.
I have a show called sugar Rush. We've done two seasons.
It's a baking competition show in which I am secretly
gluten intolerant, so it is just very interesting. And then

(04:16):
on E, I don't really like celebrities. This is all locked.
I mean, I am really cornered myself into a bad spot.
But I love I love both shows with all my heart,
Like they are so fun to do. And uh, I
actually really appreciate your take um on E because like,
I don't know, you just have this very refreshing Nobody
I don't know, nobody has the same take as you,

(04:37):
and I find it to be very refreshing. I think
I'm the only one who's really not afraid to get fired,
Like I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna say it no matter what.
It's kind of like I always really looked up to
Chelsea Handler in that way. We're it's kind of like, oh,
you don't give what's the adrene of this podcast? It's
better not to curse a cluck. I don't give a cluck. No,

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But I really do love. I mean, I did not
think I would ever be on E, and I have
fallen in love with my co hosts and my producers
and the whole team, and I guess would just be funny,
which is like my dream job. Awesome, great, so Hunter
is gonna be representing the single male, single male perspective
for as long as Tanya holds out, Yeah, which might

(05:19):
just be this podcast. We don't know. Um. Her other
mantel guest is Jack's Taylor, you know him from Bander
Pump Rolls. We also found out that he was in
a Britney Spears music video. I was, I Was, I Was,
I said. We would trying to remember it as I
was walking in here, I was like trying to remember it.
I was. It was two thousand three, I was twenty three.

(05:40):
It was in Miami. It was the Onyx Hotel tour.
It was with David la Chappelle. Was my first time
working with him, which is pretty cool. And I remember
I don't remember the date, but I just remember the
next day she got married to this guy named Jason,
which is her friend apparently. Do you remember this again? Again,
I'm four years old. This is when I was twenty three,
but she literally married best friends. Is that the one,

(06:02):
isn't it? Yeah? In Vegas? What was it? Not my
friend Jason Trey? This is another we're not trying to
go back. Yeah. So it's a really coming full circle
because if you guys obviously, we actually didn't say that
we were at the Britney Spears experience here. Apparently we
are not in our studio, so it might sound a
little bit different. But we're at Britney Spears the Zone

(06:24):
and it's just like pop up um that they're doing
uh in l A on Third Street, and it's basically
gonna be it's like a Britney Spears experience. It's the
coolest thing. I love these experiences and I hold Britney
Spears very close to my heart. I grew up with her.
I'm upset that I'm not in my schoolgirl me too,

(06:44):
or my red Spandex leather. Yeah, opportunity for you guys.
Well um yeah, So it's really cool. We're actually in
what is her dressing room and it's so cute because
it's the signed like how her dressing room is designed
when for her shows. Am I right on that. It's

(07:04):
like walking into ross. It's so cute. It's like so um,
it's like Southern chic Um. It's it's really cute. They've
got her writer Chip and Joanne Gaines came in here.
Ye southern girl's dream and you are married to a
Southern girl. So you can appreciate some southern roots. Yes, yeah,

(07:25):
I'm You're married to Brittany and she's just the sweetest
human ever. I got married this past summer Newly. Yeah,
we get married. How's married life is? It's awesome. It's
everything that I you know, I I wasn't sure I was.
I'm the I'm the guy. I'm the guy that did
not want pets, did not want to get married. I
wanted to live the bachelor life my whole life. But

(07:46):
it just happened. Okay, my soul mate, want to say,
what changed? The girl? It was the girl? It was
the girl. Oh yeah, it was a girl. Definitely the girl.
I didn't care. I was. I don't know if my
past is how much time we have, but I don't
have passed when it comes to females and leaving like
a good record behind. So um, yeah, it definitely changed.

(08:07):
It had to be the girl because I would have
never I've ever changed. So I was in My situation
was a little different. I was on a date in
Vegas when I've met Brittany. I tell this story a lot.
I was literally flew into Vegas. I was there for
my friend's birthday party, came in a day early. It
was an old Vegas I was on a date with
this girl, um and Brittany walked by and I said,
I want that. So I waited till she went to

(08:27):
the bathroom, got her number, and that's all that happened.
Never never left and then left. Your left each other side.
The girl you left on that date has a very
different story. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Well it was interesting.
Well you maybe you could try and set her up
with somebody, Hunter. It's funny this conversation came up like

(08:48):
a month ago. I yeah, I could set her up.
I look for her. I don't know. It's probably still
at the restaurant she is. I think she works in
the Cosmo at Vegas. I just feel like it would
be good karma for you to like set her up. Maybe,
I don't know. There goes That's what my brain goes to. Yeah,
Tanya is a hopeless romantic. Just you coming on the show.

(09:10):
I'm sure Hunter, you've quickly realized that I can get married.
Anybody can get married if I can fall in love,
but anybody can fall off. It's kind of one of
those things, are looking for a partner. Yeah, I like
a hopeless romantic and I like people who make up
words and try and get them to catch on. I
don't know. Let me know if you know someone laid
it on thick not though, just wait till the middle

(09:31):
of the episode. Well, we need both of your advice,
because Tanya and I were saying earlier, we get a
lot of questions for girls who are in the dating
world or they're even in relationships where they're married, and
they need advice on things, and we try to answer.
But we are females, so our answers are different than
what we don't think like men because we are not men.

(09:54):
So we like to bring in guys to give a
perspective that's different than than what we are able to. Yeah,
and even like what you just said, that's so interesting
because I feel like we do get a lot of
emails from girls that are like, I'm dating this guy
and he like is a bachelor and every wants to
settled down and I'm always like, run girl, but like,
but this is today. People are waiting later. It's not

(10:17):
about the run thing. They're just waiting later. And what
city is you know, are you guys in city or
l A and there is He's still trying to hold
lot of that dream. That's a lot of my friends are.
I'll give you for instance on all a lot of them.
I have a group chat of buddies on my phone
that I hang out with. Some are to get some
are married, some are not, and they're still living on
to that dream. If they hear this right now, they're
gonna kill me. But they are now. They're in they're

(10:38):
mid to late thirties. You know, it's that that time
that you're supposed to start, you know, I mean, you're
not supposed to do anything, but you know, it's that time.
And I think they're just hanging on. They're hanging out,
They're thinking there's something better out there. They're always at
the same bars. They're always the same bars in Hollywood,
always trying to find that next best thing. And to me,

(10:58):
I was that guy. And look and I talked to
my buddies that are married, Tom and always our guys,
and I'm always like, I'm so no offense, I'm so
glad I'm not single. I could never be single again, ever, ever, ever.
And I'm coming from a guy that's literally loved being
single in my whole life. But I just thought of
going back to that world again scares the hell out
of me. I don't, especially with all technology and how

(11:19):
people date nowadays, I don't understand how people date. It's
like an interview, it's not a date. So I don't.
I don't know. Sorry. I love dates I loved, but
my job is also to interview people and to post
and be like a people person. So I've always looked
at dates, even when I've gone on bad dates, which
I have been plenty, because I've gone on many dates.
Um and it stems back to just me missing something

(11:41):
from my childhood and being dependent according to my But
I love dates because it's just a chance to meet
someone I don't. I didn't drink for a long time,
so I was never going to bars or parties to
meet people. So once I ended my long relationship, I
was like, all right, I'm gonna join the dating apps.
And even bad dates, I would the whole I'm in
my head. I'd be like, why are you this way?

(12:03):
Let me just trying to analyze. Yeah, I'm very analytical
that way, and never to an extent where they go,
oh that man just tried to figure me out and
had no interests. It's always like I just don't have
a nice time, give you a nice time, even if
I have no interest in you. Let's have a nice
date and a drink or dinner whatever it is, and
then we don't never have to see each other again,
but at least we'll have a nice interaction with another
human for two hours. Interesting. That's that's interesting. See, I

(12:26):
wish I could have had that. I don't know. This
is a PG show, correct. And when I was dating,
when I went back to my Dannys, I'm gonna tell
you be honest, I was just looking to sleep with them.
That was it, and that's I was never looking for
any substance. And I think that was the problem. I'm sorry.
I was just like, yeah, literally, like how you said,
I think that was the problem. Could have been anything. Well,
I'm just saying I wasn't really looking like you know,

(12:48):
I would go on a date and I'm like, listen,
I just really want to take her home. That's my
only goal here. I'll sit and listen to her spiel
whatever she wants to dish to me. I'm gonna I'm
being honest. Especially living in this town and I I
lived in that I had that Peter Pan syndrome where
I never wanted to grow up, you know, I kind
of wanted to fight it and at the end of
the day, and I think things were a little different

(13:08):
with technology when I was when I was dating um,
there wasn't much of it around, so that was me.
But then again, I'm not the best judge. I'm not
the best guy to be asking about stories like this.
But I'll be honest with you. That's why it's good
to have me on here because I will literally be
honest with me. I have a question for me, and
I'll tell you. I feel like we have too, very
honest and open. Yeah, this man gonna be this is

(13:30):
gonna be good. I found your Britney Spears appearance by
the way here, you're gonna show up here as a statue.
It's it's in the commercial for the Onyx Hotel tour.
So we can press this on the Facebook group. Yeah,
and then like I was, like I said, Rock kissed
me on the cheek and come alive and it's a
whole congraduation. He's naked in it by the way anyway, Yeah,

(13:57):
whopping seven hunducks ac about that? Wait, Okay, so I
want to jump right into some of these because we
do have a lot for the Mantle, um, and this
is the one that we get asked a lot. So
I want to just ask you guys, this is from Ainslie.
How does the Mantle feel about women passing gas in
front of them? It baffles me that women go years
without passing gas in front of a man. Is it
a total turn off or is it more of a

(14:17):
respect thing? Such a bummer. We're starting off with that
question of all questions because it's so awkward to I
think once you're married, it's different. It is a little different.
It's actually cute. But are we talking about like as
being married as my life now or dating? Like if
I was on a date and she did that, how
would I feel compared to now being married? Or like

(14:39):
what's the threshold? Like when is it appropriate? I think
most of the people I could be wrong sending in
questions are not sending in questions because they figured it out.
They're sending in questions because they're at the dating stage,
so they're getting desperate. They're like, listen, I need to know.
It's just going to be a problem. All these women
are like, I've been farting in front of all my
kids at the first date, and for some reason, none

(15:01):
of them are sticking around. What's going on? Maybe change
your diet, change your diet, change your diaper, and then
go on another day and try and be cool. I
So my take was, I I've had besides high school relationships,
I've had one long relationship and that's the only thing
I can really based on because everything else has been
five dates maximum um. Even in the five year relationship,

(15:23):
it took me like a year year and a half
to start, like maybe maybe around a year to start
passing gas in front of my partner, and it was
more of a respect thing. Like I also think the
old factory senses our smell is so important in relationship.
Like I'm I'm the type of person if I'm on
a date and we're next to something that smells, I
will start associating it with that person without any like

(15:45):
or with the date and it's not that person. I
know it's not them, but like I go that I'm
uncomfortable right now. I don't want to be here, so
I don't want to give someone that reason. And it's
also it is like when I was, you know, eighteen,
I'd be like this is hysterical, but as a old
I'm kind of like, I don't. I don't think I can.
I can come up with something funnier. I'm not getting
a stomach ache, so I'm gonna do it. And I

(16:07):
did on the second date. I'm not It's part of life,
it's who we are. We have to do it. I
got to hold it an Would you have a girl
passed gast on a second day in front of because
I wouldn't say anything. I wouldn't say it's part of
If it happens and it's an accident, I have no judge.
And those times too, I just never thought girls did that.
In my head. Girls are too pretty to do that thing,
so I've never really happened. But not being married, you know,

(16:29):
it's very cute. She does it her sleep, and yeah,
I don't mind when something I videoed her because she
denies it. But that's really cute. I feel like if it,
if it happens, like we're all human. But I think

(16:50):
I think both people. Just letting it rip is like
the silent like you just kind of lift if you're
gonna just you know, you know, like a little bit
do one of those Yeah, you know what I'm talking about.
I'm not talking about disgusting bar. But you know, again,
do you want to have a stomach ache or not?
Everyone gets Some people just literally don't fart. It's not

(17:15):
like it goes back up into their stomach and disrupts
the day. Everybody poops, everybody farts, everybody, sure, everybody farts.
We should not get stuck on it. But we're just
saying a deal breaker. No, no, no. If it happens,
if a girl goes, let me show you something and
then does it on the first date, if it's not

(17:35):
so if she does that, I'm kind of a little
bit tepid. But if she makes it really funny, like
what I used to do in my relationship. I used
to be go, what is this karate move called? And
I would throw a big kick and I would fart
at the top of the kick. That was like three
years into the relationship that if a girl did that
on a first date, hysterical, I'm in love with her
about the delivery. Yeah, And it's also like, if a
girl does it, you can either pretend it didn't happen

(17:56):
or be like life, you know, and then it's like
it's like I did that on a date and someone
goes life, I would die, I would die. Great start.
We like that. That was a good Yeah. Okay, this
one is a little more um serious, I guess, but

(18:17):
not that that wasn't now pooping on a date. Um.
So this is from Mary and she wants to know
how can you bring up marriage without your boyfriend boyfriend
feeling pressured, not necessarily getting engaged, but about what marriage
means to them. I feel like this is I think
on the day I you kind of feel that out
in the first handful of dates. That's how I did,

(18:38):
like I needed like as far as when I met Brittany, Um,
I'm not I wasn't in the time to start dating
just a date like I was getting towards. Okay, I
guess we're gonna do this, and we're gonna we're gonna
do this. I need to know these certain things. Um.
And Plus I wouldn't do that to her. She's a Christian,
you know, woman, she gets married and has the kids,
the whole thing. So I knew that's what she was
up to. I asked her right off the bat. She
asked me right off the bat, and I like that.

(19:00):
I like to everything's on the table right up front.
We're not wasting time. Yeah, I think I appreciate that
because I'm not wanting when I went on when I
every time I go on my first dates, I asked
all those questions. Do you want to get married, you
want to have kids? Let's not waste our time. Life
is too short. As we can see how it is.
Let's so let's get it along the table. If you're
dating someone and you're still like, well, I don't know,
she doesn't say like where she is in her relationship.

(19:20):
But if you're in the first few dates and someone
brings up marriage and you're still trying to figure out
if you're into them, would that be a sign like
if you felt scared by that, would that be a
sign of like, maybe this isn't the person, or would
you just I think if you felt scared, I don't know.
I don't feel people feel scared for that. I don't
understand guys feel scared. You have to expect that. That's
a woman's going to ask that. It's just like, Hunter,
how do you feel about marriage? Well, I was really

(19:42):
never a big marriage guy. Um. I think a lot
of it has to do with you know, whatever belief
system you have is a big reason for marriage. I
think that lines up with yeah, and I don't have
that super strong belief system, so I was like, well,
that's out legally. I I don't think like I wouldn't
stay with someone because I'm married. My parents divorced when

(20:04):
I was young, and it was because if they had
stayed together, I would have had a really toxic household,
like my childhood would have been ruined, and they got
divorced so that they could be friends and co parents.
I think having kids is a much stronger reason to
stay together. So I think you have to ask yourself
the reasons why you want to get married. If if
you want to get married because you want to you
want that person to be with you forever, that's the
wrong reason. If you want to get married, I'm saying

(20:27):
because they you don't want them to leave you, and
you think, oh, well this will lock them in. That's
not how to do it. But if you want to
get married because both of you are just so head
over heels in love with each other and one of
you wants it or both of you want it, and
you're like, yeah, I'll concede this thing, Like I would
absolutely do that for the right girl. That's I think
that's kind of what happened to me. I, like I said,
I was with you, I wasn't on board with getting married.
It was because of just like I felt like everybody

(20:48):
got divorced just to get divorced, and I didn't want to.
I don't want that, but it came with me. It
was like, I just I just fell in love with
Brittany and I didn't want her to get away, and
I'm like, I need to lock this down so, you know,
because if I don't, someone else, well, so I I
just had to do it, and I just it went perfectly.
And I was like, I can't believe I just went
against everything that I've always was against. I was never
against animals now I have three dogs. Was never against

(21:10):
find a house. I now I own a home. Like
I just I did everything, And I guess it's just love.
You fall in love and what happens when you Because
you said when you were when you were being into
a girl was mostly so you could sleep with them.
That was at what point when you met when So
when you saw Brittany you were like, oh, I want
to sleep with her, But at what point were you like, oh,
I think I did want to sleep with the right
off the bat that was that was a given, but

(21:32):
there was I don't know what it was with her.
I just had accent and I heard it from a
wrong room. That's what got me first, that Southern accent
and just and like this, there's a lot that goes
into this. That kind of was just kind of like
the sun was like the god I was looking at me.
My friends used to make funny. I used to live
my buddies in Hollywood, and I was obsessed with the
restaurant Hooters. I love, I love going tracking this sense.

(21:55):
So my father took me to was not sixteen. I
love that place. I used to be obsessed with it.
My buddies always like, You're gonna marry Hooters girl. So
when I met Brittany, she was just got out of
out of school and she was bartending at Hooters, and
I was like, you work at Hooters and you're this beautiful.
I love you right now, Like I just fell in love.
And then after that, after you know, just talking to
her and seeing the sweet woman she is and how

(22:15):
beautiful asians, all kind she is, it was just over.
I mean, she's just checked all the boxes. I'm more
of a butt guy myself, seems like you've got a
strong fascination with boobies. I'm more and I don't know
how to I gotta I like the curvier curves. I'm not.
I don't make sure I say everything right. I mean,
just yeah, I like curveyer women. If that's how that's perfect.

(22:37):
What are you saying nowadays? If if you are into
the I think the curvy woman is pect. That's what
I like. That's great. That makes everyone feel good because
there's a lot of pressure to be Like, if my
wife just ate salad, it wouldn't work. Um. Okay, I
have another question, and this I'm gonna make this too

(22:58):
pronged because it's from Jennifer, And she said, why do
you guys leave it to the girl to plan every date?
Do you do what? Yes? Yes, explained I just it's
just takes the It just makes it easier. Hey, you know,
I mean I'm going for the for me. Well yeah, okay, okay,

(23:22):
you're talking to a guy who's married. Okay, I'm married.
I'm setting my ways. I've been with my my wife
now for almost five years, so I mean, I know
what she likes. She's gonna plan and she's gonna know listen,
I'm just gonna plan it because I know what I
like when you were single and dating, so I would Okay,
then I would go the extra mile because again, I'm
just trying to get your pants right, so I would

(23:43):
do what you're asking to be I'm a single. This
is why I think my show was so successful in
the beginning, because it's such a crappy person that I was,
and people were just like, how does this person exist?
But that's how I was. I would figure out who
she was and then I'd be like, you know, what
what can I do to be I was probably more
more more romantic when I was single, just because I
was trying to lack That is a good reason. Yeah.

(24:07):
When I was sorry, if I'm going on dates, I
usually try and set up I like setting up nice dates. Uh.
And when I was with my ex, I think that
was one of the reasons the relationship kind of fell apart,
is because we stopped going on dates. And I think
it was really important. Like, uh. She at one point
had heard a podcast where someone said this, and it

(24:29):
was that every week the man or the woman the
husband wife that she would listen to would ask the
other one on a date in a unique way and
set up the date and was back and forth every week,
and I thought, oh, that's so nice. But we were
so deep into a uh kind of just a pattern
of a little bit of like resentment over things we
couldn't control, a noncommunication, so it was really hard to

(24:50):
remedy by going on dates. So moving forward, I really
love everyone like in the relationship to feel like they've
got this input and this weight on back, to make
the relationship feel like it's theirs and that they've got
their say. So I think if I ended up in
another relationship, I would make it really important. I love
setting updates. I like making it really special for the person.
I need to get better with that, but I would

(25:12):
ask them to do the same for me. I like
if someone wasn't doing it, didn't have that same drive
to make me happy. Um, I think it's okay in
the beginning. It's okay for a while, but then you
fall into a pattern where now one person is always
doing it, and then you build resentment because you're like,
why the freak did I end up in this situation?
It's because you didn't say anything right and I'm not
going down that pad. I'm on that, I'm on that.

(25:34):
You know, it's so easy right now, it's so nice.
She's like, baby, let's go here, Let's go here, because
she knows the place to be like and she just
kind of takes the kind of the reins because she
does all the computers and books of flights and all that.
I'll arrange it all or you know, but she'll arrange
it all. I was about to say everything else. Tell me,
I'd rather just do that a baby. You pick where
you want to go. Here's my credit card. So this

(25:55):
that's what I like to do. That's what I used
to do as well, because I was very lucky, Like
you will, you picked it, so you have to like it. Well.
I I paid for everything because I was in that position.
I was very lucky to be able to provide that
kind of support. But it also if you've been paying
for everything regardless of which is totally fine vice versa
two for everything, that's fine, but there is something really

(26:18):
exciting about you all of a sudden being like by
the way I booked the plane ticket, I booked the hotel,
like for you to do that. Now at this point,
you're even better off because you've established this pattern that
you can outbreak in the most romantic. Yeah, you're in
a good plan, something like super romantic for her, she'd
be like, whoa, yeah, because even if you don't even
know how to turn the computer on, I think you should.

(26:41):
I think you should do that. You don't even need
to do it all yourself. Have you know, if you
have an assistant or something you but you're baby steps.
Pick a restaurant you haven't been to and be like,
I looked at the menu ahead of time. I know
you're gonna like this. I got a special dessert coming.
Little things like that go so far that I do
stuff like that. You're you're reasoning for letting her plan

(27:01):
the dates is because you want you know that she's
gonna be happy if she plans. It takes the pressure
off of you, and whatever she picks, I'm gonna like.
That's another thing about my wife and I, as we
like everything the same. We like the same music, we
like the same furniture, we like the same places to visit,
we like the same food. Everything everything we like the same.
So even we go out to eat and I runner
the bathroom, she'll order my food for me and order

(27:22):
her food for you. We just know we like everything
the same. So I think that's why when she said,
let's go on vacation next week, and we're still trying
to figure out what we're going on her honeymoon. I
haven't decided that yet. I know, well, it's one of
those things where our show was too long, so we
had to wait until afterwards. So it's and we travel
a lot, like every weekend is a freaking honeymoon. So um,
we're still trying to figure that out. And I'm again

(27:43):
she kind of it's like taking the reins on that.
So I probably should be more a little involved because
she's kind of like, where do you want to go out?
What do you want to do? I'm like, whatever you want.
Just surprised her with I think I'm using stuff when
I get there, like I'll do no because if I
do that, and what if She's like, well, wait a minute,
I know you're gonna do that. I thought had this
in man, this in mind, and this in mind because
she's knowing that I'm not going to do that. You

(28:04):
know what I'm saying, Well, then you just tell her, well,
then you plan the next one. But I wanted to
feel my plan, whatever I plan, whatever I do, Like
she sends me the grocery store and she gives me
the Honeydeo list. Do you ever get the Honeydeo list?
I'm single, that's right, that's right, I'm sorry. All right. Well,
when you do move in with your significant other and
you're you'll get the honeydew list of things you gotta
do before. Okay, tonight, I need you to do this stuff.

(28:25):
So I get those lists sometimes and I usually get
up because I'll forget this, I forget that, or I
thought this, and sometimes I like a fly this brand.
So she's just kind of like, I'll just deal with it,
but I don't. I don't know if it bothers her.
But now I'm like thinking about it because she just
she won't show that anything bothers her. She's so sweet,
my wife. It's a Southern thing, take care of people.
She loves. You can't let her do that. That's how

(28:48):
that's how quiet resentment builds. You have to have it,
I promise you, no matter how much she likes anything. Okay,
And this is coming from a girl who likes doing that.
Like I'm the same way, Like I'll start dating somebody
a month in and I'll baking cookie. Yeah, I'll mention
that he loves like this specific cooking. Like I'll show
up like I'm like that type of girl, and I
love doing those things. But after a while, when I'm

(29:09):
always doing those things and I'm not getting any in return,
and I don't do things because I want in return,
but just a little acknowledgement or little thoughtfulness, it starts
to like build. And I wouldn't say anything that being
said now that she does. Britney does do a lot
of things, but her Christmas presents and her and her
Birthday presents, a Valentine's pres on, all her holiday presents
are just that much more because she does so much.

(29:31):
For if she's getting that extra Chanelle handback, she's getting
that extra Louis Louis Baton handbag. What if we're at
the mall and she says, I love those shoes and
it's like it's a Tuesday afternoon and there's no reason.
I'm like, okay, let's get him, like just because I
know she goes that extra mile and she's just like

(29:51):
what really, And I'll be like She's like, yeah, of
course so much that Yeah, I think I think, uh,
I kind of fell into the same thing of like
we would go on vacation. I'd pay for everything, and
I'd be like, isn't this good enough? And at a
certain point it is, but then at another point it isn't.
And I think, like with the honeydew list, if you

(30:13):
went and bought flowers without being asked and then missed butter,
milk and water, she would be so happy that you.
I'd buy her flyers every time. If I go to
the gas station, I buy her flyers. That's perfect. I
have a very cute guy. I do. Every morning I
go to get her coffee. She got her for her place,
and I get her scratch offs every morning. She likes
her scratch offs. She likes to get her daisies. I

(30:35):
get her daisies. I'm sorry, sunflowers every morning. That's great,
I know, but I was just I was getting into
the good stuff because I was like that I do
mess up on that. Yeah, I'm I'm an amazing husband. Wait,
that's really cute, but I do. Okay, so let me okay,
this might win you some points. You should go home
tonight and be like, I really think we should take

(30:56):
the love language test just to see how each of
us receives love and what and what is that there
are five love languages. It's it's literally changes how you
have relationships with people, honestly, truly. So remind you we
are in the process of trying to start a family
right now. Is this a good time? Tell you how
romantic that is? By the way, starting a family. Break

(31:18):
into that real quick. There's some questions, so we'll get
to that. Yeah, I'm glad to know that. Wait, I
just really okay, we're gonna get into that, but really quick,
what's your love language? You know your top love language.
I really like acts of service because I'm most of
the most like gracious person Like to me, there's nothing
more annoying than me doing something or paying for dinner
and not getting a thank you. It's I will never

(31:38):
go on another date with that person. It's very frustrating.
All I wanted to thank you. But if if a
girl buys me, if I'm with someone and I've bought
I've purchased everything for months and months and she buys
me one coffee, I'm literally over the moon. I'm like,
that was so cool of you to do that. Thank you,
Like I'm just it might be a little weird for
some people. No, that's all fashioned. I grew up the
same way. I personally, I never think a girl should

(31:59):
pay for everything. I'm like, I grew up in that
generation where you take a girl out, you pay for
That's how you do things. That's how my dad, my
grandfather was that way. That's I will always be that way.
I don't think a girl should pay when you go
on a date. But I like when they do the
fake on oh hey, I brought you some take out,
I brought you. The stat to me is like, that's
like a million dollars to me. When she comes home

(32:20):
with something that's so little or something something cool that
I would love, like oh, he's your favorite your bagel
sandwich or something like that or whatever, and I'm like,
oh my god. I mean that's like like that's like
the best thing in the world. That's active service. So
yours just probably access service to That's my number one.
I would highly recommend that you say let's take it.
She'll be like, oh my gosh, that she might know
her already have all the girls are coming over my

(32:40):
house sign so maybe we'll all do it. Katie. Yeah,
I'm gonna be the only guy there, but we'll do. Yeah,
it takes like ten minutes. I have some questions about
starting a family and never think. So we're going to
take a break and we'll be by back. And I'm

(33:07):
glad we're back because I almost um busted my question
without being on the air. That makes sense and busted. No,
But it's really cute when you make little mistakes at
that time, Hunter, you are kind of winning me over.
I'm not really flaws, so you're gonna just have to

(33:30):
accept that. Okay, So I want interesting first date. I
would really like to recap that if you guys do it,
I want to be there for the recap. I think
I think we've discovered that I'm a little bit I
don't even know the best word, the opposite of conservative,
Like I'm pretty I'm pretty dark, Like I like trauma
and people's life, I like, I like all that. And

(33:51):
she's very and like bright and light and like not
that I like someone with a bad relationship with their father.
See that's that's what I was always going out with it,
and that's because I'm the dark side. So it took
me to be with Brittany because She's just she finds
the light in everything, and there could be the worst
day in the world and she'll just be chippers can be.
And I'm just like she'said the yng to my yang.
So I if I had it both, if we were

(34:13):
both the same way, it would have never worked, seem looking,
I'm so narcissistic that I want to find me. I
want to find me and then have a little me
and name him Hunter. I don't want that. There was
a girl that was named Hunter, and I thought, how
funny would it be be if I married her had a
kid named Hunter and we could never separate mail because
there would be three Hunter Marches in one house. Weird

(34:34):
fantasies that I have. Yeah, it's sick. Okay after that, well,
she could change her name to Hunter, okay. Um. This
is something that comes up a lot on the podcast.
What are your thoughts on a girl asking you out
first or making the first move? I think it's the
hottest thing ever and and every I've had that happen
a few times, and it's always been the most amazing

(34:54):
dates because that girls into it. It's always the other
way around. It's always the guy asking the girl and
the girls kind of like sometimes you don't know and
she's like okay, yes, and then this one she you know,
she's ready for this date. She came to you, she
asked you, so you're like, okay, you know that takes
kind of like the edge off of like I gotta
win this girl over because she's already asked you, she's
already wants to do you want to date with you,
She's already interested. So you basically got half the date

(35:17):
over with. Really, in my eyes, that's how I looked
at it. I'm like, oh, this is in the bag.
But a p time it was that lines up with
your your core goal, which is sleeping with Again. Well,
well okay, that wasn't the whole question. She said what
how do you feel about it? That's period. She would
say how do you feel about it? And do you
think this is this right? I felt great about it.

(35:38):
I was always good. I love when a girl does
it too. But I also think there is something to
the chase, Like I think as a social media person,
as someone who has a presence on TV or whatever
it is people do like through d M. S asked
me out and I have vice versa found when I
was on dating apps. I would ask people out through
social media, so I get back and forth, and I've

(36:02):
gone on dates with girls that have asked me out
through Instagram? And where's that left you? Crazy? Because you like,
I mean that would be the weirdest thing for me
if I was single or go back on the dating world,
like I wouldn't know who to trust. No, I see,
but I'm also the most all over the place. I'm
the most I think, like secure in myself that even

(36:24):
if it's a horrible date, I'm having the best time
because I like a story, Like I've gone on dates
with people where I'm like, this is the craziest thing
I could physically do, and gone into situations I'm like
this is insane and the story is amazing and the
person ends up being like this little light in my
life where I was like, I remember that date so
much more than I remember the boring one. You know, like,

(36:45):
get weird on your dates because even if it doesn't work,
because you're gonna have a really really good memory. Yeah,
I've had some Have you ever asked can I ask you?
Can I ask you a question if you don't wan
to credit like in this day and age again, because
I haven't dated a long time. Is it common now
for girls to ask is out? I think that's so awesome.
I think that's so awesome that girls are now kind
of because, first of all, I'm never the kind of

(37:06):
guy that can go up to a girl anyway. I
just had to have my friend do it work my
way in. But um, I just think that's so awesome.
I just think it's so attractive when just kind of
takes the initiative. I kind of like that, do you
but beyond the for asking, the initial asking of a
first date, do you agree that there's something to the
pursuit of um mystery? And I was I'm glad you

(37:29):
said that, because I was going to say the one
thing that does kind of go away when a girl
asks you out is this question of does she like me?
And for me, I like, if I ask a girl out,
and I am like on my best behavior, I'm like
being like, hey, did you know I paint? You know,
like trying to be like drop little things, little things.
Sorry I dropped little things. And uh, if I know

(37:52):
that they asked me out, At least on social media,
it's usually pretty forward, it's usually like ho, holy hell.
I think you're hilarious, Let's go on a date, and
I'll go on a date with them with this idea
that like, oh, they already are infatuated. There's something so
attractive of not knowing, Like for me, the chase has
always been and for my dad and my brother, we've

(38:12):
all talked about it, this idea of like not knowing
if a girl likes me, mind blowing. I am head
over heels in love, and then it's for the most part,
as soon as she likes me, the chase is over
and I've bent over. But that's exactly what I used
to call me the three week Warrior, because I think
to a girl for three weeks, and as soon as
I stopped with her, I was over it. I was
over and I tried so hard. That's why I was

(38:33):
worried about breeding too when that happened quick, and I
was like, am I going to be over this too quick?
And that's because I was just lost the attraction after
I slept with him, Yeah, and then I like that
it was over. I was nervous that that was gonna
be my like life is person because my dad's still
single and everything. But I had a really really great
five year relationship where I didn't have any interest in
anyone else, Like I was very content, So I know

(38:55):
that it's possible. I've gone on dates since then, and
I'm like, I could totally be with this person regardless
of I they like me. I could be with this
person and for one reason or another didn't work out. See,
my go to is like I dropped the handkerchief so
that they like, no, I'm interested, but then I let
them like pick it up, you know what I mean?
Actually instance, for instance, all like a lot of flirty

(39:16):
d M or like I'll send a flirty text or
something flirty that what no, but it wouldn't be like forward,
like no, it wouldn't be forward, and it wouldn't be
asking them out, but it would be like flirty so
that they could like be like, oh she's said to me,
I'll ask her out. It's like to drop the handkerchief
let them pick it up. I like that. I like
that too, like that because I think if a guy
is ready for it, he'll pick it up. And then

(39:37):
one time, one time I was dropping a lot of
handkerchiefs and this guy was not picking them up, and
then he came. I came on the podcast, and I
was like, I've been talking to this guy for two
weeks and he won't ask me out. I don't know
if we started calling him Dr Woosey and then he
ended up asking me out. How did that work out?
I was gonna say that I was waiting for you.
That was this heavy silence. Oh yeah, it ended up

(39:59):
pretty sanzy. Yeah, sometimes you can try too hard, and
even if eventually you do get that date, there's already
this status difference in terms of infatuation, and that's really
hard to bounce back from. In a way, like I
think it's it's some of the best times when you
meet someone in public and you say, hey, I just
think you're beautiful. I'd love to go on a date

(40:19):
with you sometime, and then it's like you guys are
both here r. You know, you can go on the date.
But when it's like as someone you know and you've
been dropping hint after hint after hint, there's this weird
and balance, you know, good or bad. Um. Such a
cool thing to do is I think it's so cocky
just to go up to a girl and be like,
I think you're gorgeous. I just want you to know
that walk away. The walking away a part, Yeah, why

(40:40):
do you walk away? Well, just like you get seed
just to go out and back. Just want I think
you're gorgeous, and you know, even if you don't ask him,
I just want to let you know that you're beautiful.
It makes a girl's day whether or not you ask
her out or not. Do you want to know something?
Do you wanna know? I've done that plenty of times,
but it's not with maybe the same intention. I will
see like a beautiful person, like I was with my
brother and my dad at one point. We're at Venice
Beach and my dad's the type of guy where he

(41:02):
will go up to a girl with my brother and
I are both were nervous about it, but we would
also do it. And I did that with my That
girlfriend was working at Starbucks and she came in and
I couldn't talk to her because I was a briest
and I was like at the wrong section and it
was busy, and she was in there with her mom
and the girl that I was really attracted to walked away,
but her mom was right in front of me, and
I was like, I'm so sorry to ask you this,
but is your sister single and so good. I started

(41:28):
talking to her for a little bit and I was like, well,
would you mind if I asked your daughter on a date?
And she was like go ahead. I went up to
and I was like, hey, I was talking to your mom.
I got the approval. Can I ask you on a date?
All right? I'd love to go on a date with you. Um,
And we set up the date. I was like blown
away that she was into it. It was at a
coffee being ironically, and she didn't show up and she
texted me like fifteen minutes late. I walked outside at

(41:50):
a parking ticket and we didn't talk to each other
for three years. And then three years later, same day Easter,
she texted me and we got together that night and
we had a five year relations ship after that. That
is a very fascinating story. Yeah. So, but the reason
I say that is I've always liked that. Uh. And
to tail back to what I was saying, Sometimes, if
I see a girl from a far from a distance,

(42:12):
and I go, wow, this little blob I see in
the distance the shape of a human I'm a fan of.
And then you get closer and you got all this
intention to say that you really want to go on
a day, so you think you're beautiful, blah blah, I
think you beau, want to go day, think want to go,
And then you get there and she's not as beautiful
as maybe you envisioned her. Maybe she's not your type.
And then you go, I just want to let you
know you're beautiful, and then you walk away with that

(42:32):
housing on the date. That's a time when that would
have happened to me. That's not horrible. I mean I
know that there was an attraction, like what don't you
want my number? And you're like you're then you're in.
I have a I had a guy asked me out
on will Share Boulevard like we were like in our
cars next to each other. And then I know, and
he got my number and they asked me on a
day and I kept saying like no, no no, no, this
is so weird, like little sketchy, because I was like,

(42:54):
I don't know, I've only saw your face, like I
don't know, you know what I mean, Like, I don't know.
It was like we um. But then he was like,
what would be different if we met on a dating app?
And I was like, you know, you're absolutely right, Like
if I met on a dating app. I would have
no idea either. So I met him for coffee. I
was like, oh, this could be good at intersection. All
at the intersect Will Shure and Will Shore in Fairfax,

(43:16):
right there, intersection. How long have you been seeing him?
That ended fairly quickly, so yeah, we were. We saw
him out with another girl, were actually together, and I
was supposed to go with him that night. So we
had plans to go that night, and beck and I
were having lunch and we were like sitting on this

(43:37):
bench and this guy walks past us, holding hands to
this other girl, and I literally was in so much shock.
I looked up. I couldn't even get words out. Thank
God she knew it was him, because I like literally
was just like I got buddies that do that. They'll
set up dates throughout the whole day. I got breakfast
with Yeah, I got lunch with this girl. I probably
dated one of your friends. The words. So then I

(43:58):
didn't meet him that night, and that that chip sailed quickly. Well,
I've always said, I've always said if someone's into you,
you'll know, And I feel like that shows with just
your relationship, because you were on a date with someone
else and you saw someone walk by and you said,
I want her, and now you're married to her. So
I do think you will know, even if you're the
first one to make the move, the response, you'll know

(44:22):
if they're into you. Um so you were before we
went on break. You were talking about y'all are trying
to have children? My life, I've been a little promiscuous

(44:46):
through my through my my time in l A. And
you know, I never thought that I would be. You know,
my wife's were on trying to have a children. You know,
we just started this whole thing. And let me just
tell you how, Like it's not as romantic as I
thought it was going to be. You know, it's because
she's got the thing under watch that says, okay, it's time,
you know, and I'll be outside working on the outside

(45:06):
of the grass on the grass, working on the car.
Sometimes she's like, you got to come in here, it's time,
and like it's time for what She's like, you know,
and I'm like, right now, we don't have to kiss
me or anything, just get in and get out, like
and I'm like okay, And like that's how it's been going.
But like during the days because for the time, like
there's a really small window to get pregnant. It's like,

(45:27):
I don't know how some of my drunk friends did it,
Like I really don't. There's really there's a there's two
pink days and there's a red day, and you have
to hit that red day, and if you miss, you
can get pregnant on any of the days. It's just
more unlikely. Yeah, because eight days or something. I'm researching it.
When you go to doctors and make sure everything's were
all both healthy and how like, there's just so much
that goes into it, and like, okay, wait a minute,

(45:49):
it's three o'clock and the sun is at this level.
It's time. You know. It's like it's just been really
bizarre and it's just like I just I don't know
why I thought that, why they came up. It's just
like the most bizarre thing to me. And how we're
going about this right now. If it's not like we're
on a honeymoon and we made love, it might be
that children like a child. If you're cutting grass, I

(46:10):
don't care, get in here. Yeah, if you plan a
romantic date, that might be a case. Maybe that's it.
Maybe you're right, Maybe romantic what kind of dad. Are
you going to be awesome freaking dad? Are you gonna
be strict? I'm gonna be strict, But I just know.
I just know God's gonna give me gorgeous daughters. Just
know it. I just know. And I'm going to be
the best dad either way. Probably gonna have daughters, but

(46:31):
that's okay. But no, I'm from the Midwest. Um, I
can't wait to be a dad. You're excited. You never
thought that you would be like excited to be a
dad in here? You never never. I can't wait to
just live vicariously through my kid. I can't soccer practice
or dance class. Cute. Do you want to be a dad?
I've always wanted checks to be my dad. I just

(46:52):
think you'd be really caring and really cool watch sports, yeah,
like cars or whatever. Um, I do really want to
be a dad. I think, uh, you know again, I
don't know. I'm pretty nihilistic with the whole thing, but
I think having kids is like kind of one of
the only purposes of you know, being alive and sharing

(47:12):
your knowledge with people and stuff. Well, yeah, and so
like my dad had me when he was twenty nine,
and he wanted to have kids by the time he
was thirty, so that he could play sports with us
until we were old enough forty. I'm forty right now.
I'll be sixty by the time they go to college,
so it's time now you'll you'll be able to play

(47:32):
baseball with them forever. Football not so much. But I
you know, with my father, he was so doting, and
you know, it definitely has something to do with my
parents divorced. Like I think he was always afraid that
I would call my stepdad dad. So it became a
huge loving impact in my life, to the point where
like every phone call we would have um because he
was a weekend Dad would be like, all right, I

(47:54):
love you, buddy, I love you more Dad. I love
you most, buddy. I like I love you most Dad.
He goes, I love more than everything you're saying. He'd
hang up the phone, and I just think that when
the one thing you can give to a child is
uh an endless amount of adoration and love and support,
very unlikely that kid is gonna end up at all bad.

(48:16):
Like that kid, as long as he feels like he
has his parents on his side, he never looks to
those bad influences to fill those gaps, and I was
so lucky that even my stepdad, I'm really my stepdad,
of my dad and my mom or all friends, and
they're all huge impacts. So I don't know why I'm
still so messed up. Yeah. No, if I meet the

(48:39):
right girl, if Tanya turns around on this whole thing
and she decides she wants to go with someone who
and then we're set needs therapy. Tanya, you want yourself
a bad boy who looks like a good girl, and
that's me, bad boy who looks like a good girl.

(49:02):
You know what you want, Tanya. You're afraid to admit
it on the podcast, but I know you. I've got
glow in the dark tattoos, baby in the dark tattoos.
But I could tell me what you want, tell me
what you want? Wait, I have I have questions to
people asked this there, it's kind of it's the same.
So um, Brittany said, does sexual experience matter? I'm twenty

(49:24):
four and literally only ever kissed one guy, and I'm
nervous that when I decided to start dating that guys
are going to be freaked out by my lack of experience.
And then Caitlin said, Um, if a guy was seeing
someone who was a virgin and also hadn't kissed anyone before.
Would that be a deterrent? Not even that they were
waiting for marriage or anything, they just haven't had the opportunity.

(49:50):
Was the first one? Again? Would the first one again?
To tell me a little bit of the first one?
The first one says, sexual experience matter. I always found
the Lisa Spirits ones are the best. Actually that's in
my Okay, we have to look over the page. Sorry, Um,
that's in my in my experience, I like it like

(50:13):
that personally, I like it when they don't have much
experience they couldn't tell how bad I was that was. Yeah, Well,
I just you know, you're you're you're kind of it's
like you're dealing with a blank canvas. You're kind of teaching. Yeah,
that's that's probably similar person to have first, But yeah,
I'm the opposite I I personally, I think I'm also

(50:37):
just I've done so many weird things that it's like
I like when someone yes, sexually, like, are you into
weird stuff? Sexually? It's really fun? Yeah, it's like have
we seen it in the video? Literally? What is the
most Just like I don't have that many odd things.
I mean, it depends how much I've had to drink

(50:59):
that night and where we're going on. But everybody thinks,
like my foot fet just like a weird thing. Do
you think that's weird? I don't wait, I want somebody
stuck on my toes? What does I don't know if
you know this, but my favorite drink of all time
is toes. So this is a lining up. I'm not
getting Somebody said that like having somebody stuck on your
feet like the most like pleasurable thing that you know what,

(51:20):
And any girl who says otherwise, because I was Brittany
was really not into that at the beginning. I'm like,
this is going to be a deal breaker if you
don't get into this, like you need to like it.
And now it was yes, that's a huge deal, but
you since feet are just a big deal breaker for me.
You have to have cute little feet. You have to.
So you're saying that it's the most pleasurable thing. I

(51:44):
feel like that might overcome that people are saying it's
better than telling you if you're good at it. I'm
not going to do pad myself on the back, but
I'm pretty damn good at it. Yeah, but you've only
had sex with virgins. It's different. You should try. Like,
I have never had any sort of reservation about the

(52:05):
experience level to the end degree, like in terms of
the most experience. Like I have gone on dates with
adult entertainers because I was like, well, this is like, yeah,
it's just interesting. I didn't end up hooking up with them,
but I was like, because I it was more of
like a respect thing. I didn't want to be like
just another guy who had that fetish, but I just

(52:25):
was like very interested in that. And uh, I think
when you the problem is it's okay to be a virgin,
it's okay to never have kissed a guy. The problem
is it starts to affect your confidence on dates and
you start having this thing in the back of your
mind that inhibits you from allowing yourself to just be comfortable.
I think there's this like, you know, I'm not a father,
but I have heard father's talk about this, this idea

(52:47):
of having a daughter. And I think before back in
the day, it was like, honey, your virginity is sacred.
It's this precious thing. Take care of it, and odds
are she's going to lose it to a dude who's
drinking bud Light and gate boards and he sucks so
and I think you can really scare a girl, especially
if it's your father telling you this, that this is
the most precious thing in the world, when really love

(53:10):
is way more like precious. It's okay, it's your body.
It's a very normal thing to have sex. And I
think the more pressure you put on it for to
be perfect, the more disappointment is going to be. It's
almost better to say, listen, you're probably going to lose
your virginity in a way that's not your partner. Odds
are Let's just look at statistics. The person you lose
your virginity too, you don't spend the rest of your
life with probably ninety something percent at the time. So instead,

(53:32):
really just look at it like, what do you want
as a person, Not other people's voices, not your religion,
not your parents, not anything. Ask yourself. And if you
don't feel comfortable and you want to wait, wait, But
if you want to indulge in that part of your
life and get that kind of like weight off your shoulders,
do it. It's not gonna hurt you. I think it's
a lot more. I think it's a generational thing. I
think it's a lot more pressure. Enough, it wasn't so

(53:54):
much pressure when I was younger. Again, I'm a little
bit older, I think than some of you guys, But
there was a lot more pressure now. I I just
go and talk to my nephews and my nieces and
stuff and the things they do in school nowadays, and
I never we never did any of that in school,
like junior high. I've lost my Virginia extremely late. I
was nineteen, So I was nineteen, and it was like
if you see American Pie, It's it was just like

(54:14):
that exactly. I'm fine, Matthews bands, yes, right, and a
little crash. So it was I was like, I think
there's a lot I don't know, like to be a
kid now without this technology and social media and the
sexual it's it's gotta be tough to be a kid now.

(54:35):
It's got to be extremely tough. And I think the
sexual pressures are definitely there. And and we're dealing with
with the parents now or my age, and you're talking
to them and you're like, well, what did our parents
teach us? But we know it's a different time now,
or what are we supposed to say without making our
kids feel weird? You know, like it's got to be weird,
Like what do you say to your kids. I'm going
to I'm gonna be open to, I'm gonna be on

(54:56):
every other thing on the table. Nothing you say in
this house, whatever I'm gonna be, that house will never
get in trouble with honest and upfront. I'll be honest
with you. I want to have one of those households. Definitely. Yeah.
I I was a virgin for a long long time,
and I was very confident in my decision, so it
never I never had an issue where it deterred a
guy from wanting to date me because I was very

(55:16):
confident in my decision, and so I make it open
in the beginning of the like date like just so
you know, well, when I was on The Bachelor, that
was like my whole storyline is that it was about
a virgin. So I'm sorry, sorry, apologies. Um. So I
always say it has nothing like you said. It's not
even so much you're inexperience, but it's the confidence that

(55:38):
you bring with what you're saying. And it's funny that
you say that because I also feel like I used
to have a lot of unattached sex and it didn't
make me feel good, like it actually made me feel
like a piece sorry and um. And then I made
that conscious decision where I was like, I only want
to have sex in a committed, serious relationship. And it's
almost like once that trigger went off in my head
and I realized that that's where I was most comfortable

(56:00):
and where I was like my confidence almost and I
didn't It wasn't like I'm not having sex with you
because I don't want to. It's more like I'm not
having sex with you because I know what's best for me.
And like that perspective shift, I feel like it was
like it was like it was like, yeah, it was
like my power. I also feel that I've been on
dates where girls have been very clear like I'm not
having sex until I'm in a relationship, and right then

(56:22):
and there, I was able to take sex off the
table and go, well, do I like this person enough
to go on dates? And I love what they did
that because they would be like, oh, this is a game. Now, yes,
I couldn't do that. I know good right now, like
she says no, yeah, we'll see how long that last.
This is actually so good though, because there are a
lot of guys who have that mentality, and I think

(56:43):
it's refreshing to hear these girls here like there are
guys who were just that's what they want, right and then,
and in my twenties, I was that was that guy.
I was that guy walking around Hollywood and you know,
I didn't want a girlfriend and just going to sleep
with as many people as I could. That's was I
That was my thing. Is you a personal question? Sure?
How many girls do you think you've left with her?

(57:03):
My god, my wife's gonna hear this. You can give
me a rage. Is it like triple digits? It's up there? Okay,
Just I'm just curious. I had a very It was
one of those insecurity things because I was out here
doing the acting model. It's insecurity thing. It was never
it made me feel better, and I'll be totally honest

(57:25):
with you, because I had no Once it was over,
it was like go bye, you know. And I it
was an insecurity thing. I need to felt like that
I was good enough that I was, And that's what
another thing not to go in another subject. But when
I got a girlfriend, oh my god, it's been going
really really well. I gotta figure out way to sabotage it.
And I did do that. I sabotaged my relationship with Brittany,
and that's was one of the things because I just
didn't It wasn't ever ever about the other girl. And

(57:46):
I always make that very very clear. It was never
about the other girl. It was a mental thing with
me thinking, am I still attractive enough? Am I still
gonna I have the best girl in the world? But
do I still do people still find me attractive? Am
I still? That's when I was going through, and that's
I was not trying to justify it, and it was
I'm not trying to justify it. But I've been living
in this world where I was in New York and

(58:07):
I was I was traveling, I was doing the modeling thing,
and it was very such a disgusting world of people
just being pretty and and and getting what you want
whenever you want, and just not having a care in
the world. And I grew up with that. And then
you're also your rejection, constant rejection, going on editions, rejection
and time you're rejected in life. So do that for
fifteen years or someone's telling you you're not good enough
so many times, No, you're not good enough for this role. No,

(58:29):
you're not good enough for this role. Well, I need
to make up for that somewhere. So when I go
on a date, I need to make up there with
that with girls or whatever, because if that makes any sense.
I grew out of that, but it took for me
a long time ago out of that because I needed
to find some kind of I wasn't booking jobs. Well
I better go sleep with somebody that likes me for
the night, you know. So it was tough, and that's
that was my flaw. That's what I I never really

(58:50):
explained that to people to think about just like a
slutty guy, which I was, But this is, yeah. I mean,
if someone's promiscuous, or if someone keeps their virginity until
they're you know, thirty, there's a psychological reason that you
are that way. It's not just because you decided that
it is. It's buried in something and it's good for

(59:11):
everyone to kind of. I love therapy. I think you
realize those things. Okay, here's a question. It's a little
more like like lighthearted, but what are some trends that
guys find unattractive in a woman, like hair, makeup, clothes.
Do you like curly hair? I'll stop you. They're not
a fan. Yeah, anything that like, you're like, wow, I

(59:35):
when a girl has this on, or when a girl
has her hair like this, or do you all not?
I'm I'm I'm a very less is more. I'm not
really into the lingerie thing. I like it wouldn'tring me
wears one of my T shirts. I think that's the
hottest thing in the world. I don't like it when
she wears makeup. I like it when she just wakes
up in the morning and that's how she is. I
like it when she when she's all glambed up, don't
get me wrong, and she does get glamed up a lot.

(59:56):
She's absolutely gorgeous, but she's a Kentucky girl. She's got
that farmer girl so you can get out and get
her hands dirty. But then she can also look good
on the red carpet too. So I personally just like
that all natural beauty. I'm not really big into makeup
and las read and all that. Yeah. To me, it
really goes down to what makes her feel super confident.
They're obviously things where um, you know those people men

(01:00:18):
and women who do things because they are insecure. They'll
wear this because they're really insecure. Like whether it's a
you know, a young woman wearing like very provocative clothing.
And it's one thing if you're just trying to be
sexy for it yourself. It's another thing if you're trying
to do it because you're like, I don't know if
guys like me, so let me do this thing. And
same with men. Men who you need the Instagram models

(01:00:39):
who are half naked and then quote like a sonnet. Yeah,
I never understand that. They're like, yeah, they're like in
the book the bed reading and they're like boobs around,
better out, and they're just they're like quoting some kind
of like William Shakespeare there. I'm like, but you also
can't fault to them because they're making money based on
men's desires. It's totally it's empowering to them. Um. I

(01:01:00):
just think that, you know, whatever makes the person happy.
I've been one of the things I'm most attracted to
as a woman who's self aware. I love intelligence, Um,
but intelligence such a wide thing, Like I personally love
literature and art, and if a girl has a knowledge
of that great. But I'm also so attracted to a
girl who if I say, do you like Albert Camba
and she goes, I don't have no idea what language

(01:01:22):
you just spoke? I go, that's really attractive. At least
you're not trying to pretend to know these things, because
everybody's intelligent in their own way. I just want. I
think it comes with confidence to be like, I don't
know that stuff. I'll learn that stuff if you want
me to, you know, or if you you know, maybe
I'll never learn that stuff, but I find that confidence.
That's what I'm That's the trend that it sounds like
I'm hearing here and passion. Be passionate for something besides

(01:01:45):
you know um other people like, be passionate for something
in your own life. That's very attractive to a guy.
Independent woman, you know, does her own thing. I'm not
afraid to speak her mind, even if she's got a
dirty mouth. I like it. You know, if she cusses,
or if she just said she's drinking with the guys
and drinking, I think that's hot. I love it when
my wife goes out and drinks with the guys, like

(01:02:06):
she'll come out, she'll be the only ones some of
the times, just because I just think there's nothing sexier
than I can just sit and watch her talk to
all my buddies and all drinking beer, and I just like,
this is the coolest thing ever. I got a wife
that's my best friend, that's hanging out with my guy friends.
Like I love having her around. You know. The guys
was like, why woulda go out the guys tonight? Britney
is kind of like one of the guys too, So
it's awesome, sweet guye alarm is going off right now, sweetnesses.

(01:02:31):
I mean, the sounds in here have been truly you know,
the zone has so many noises in it. This is
Britney Spears House, after all, the zone in Los Angeles today.
When you're at the Zone, you don't know what kind
of music you're going to get, what kind of sounds
are going to hit you, baby, one more time. They
can be a little toxic on the mic, but we're

(01:02:52):
just lucky to be here. Yeah. Wow. This is from
Lauren and she said, if you are in a position,
shouldn't updating someone you really like non exclusively? When is
it appropriate to say something like hey, I like you,
I'm not seeing anyone else, And I want to know
where you see things going. Did you send this question?

(01:03:12):
Did shea did Sheina from vander Pump Rules send that
question or she said or do you think the man
would speak up if he felt that way? I wouldn't
rely on a man to really do anything correctly. So
I think it's again, it's a feeling thing out you know,
if you are confident in your position in that part
of the relationship to go, Hey, I just want to

(01:03:34):
know I feel this way. Did you tell me how
you feel? Just understand that you might not get the
response you want, but it's better than living in the
dark and not knowing for sure. Yeah, I agree with you.
I think this whole place is sinking right now. That
sound I know. I'm trying not to. Yeah. Again, what
I was dealing was it was like it was a
sleeping with the person thing. If you slept with them,

(01:03:55):
is like, does that mean that we're official? That's the
girls that I was talking to what I know, because
well they're also a lot younger than I was. So
that's the kind of mentality that the girls that I
would date with are like, well, if you sleep with me,
then it's it's official, and then they would call you
a million times and that would scare you away. Now
some now, Now, if a girl said to me on
a third or fourth date, would like, third or fourth date?

(01:04:16):
Would that be weird to you? Fifth day? Sixth day?
If a girl said, hey, listen, I like okay? For instance, dy,
what of them has joked with me before? Like, so
does that mean we're like? Are we official? Now? You
know how girls can joke with it if you're around
your friends, if your buddy makes you feel uncomfortable, like, oh,
is this your girlfriend? And you're like and you've been
like talking for like five dates and you're like no,
and then that guy walks away and she'll go, so
does that mean we're official? That kind of like breaks

(01:04:38):
the ice. You know what I'm saying. I would give
it more than five dates. I would spend some time
with the person because I also feel like people are
really imp Are you seeing each other? Is that different?
You're dating? Am I dating? Am I dating myself? Back?
When are we seeing each other? Is that the same
thing as dating each other? Dating? Seeing each other to

(01:04:59):
me is more conclusive than dating. To me, seeing each
other seeing each other dating is open. Dating is like, oh,
I'm going on dates with this person, going on dat
but seeing each other is oh we're seeing there's like okay,
so this is the thing. And if you're sleeping with
this person, do you have to be open with all
these I mean you should should well, but like, hey,
are you seeing that person? Doesn't that to tear you though?

(01:05:19):
If you're on a date, like oh, I heard you
want on a date last week, and you know how
you make jokes with somebody like so I know we're open.
I know you want to date last week, but are
you sleeping with that person? Because you know what you
want to ask? Right? They're dark? Am I right? Feeding? Honestly?
But you're right now? I don't know. I think there's
steps there is dating. I didn't really seeing was a difference.
I could be wrong and that's never been wrong before,

(01:05:41):
but I mean there's a difference. When I was exclusive
and then exclusive is like is exclusive? Yeah? We all
know what exclusive is this Britney spears offense exclusive right
the world opening right now, ladies and gentlemen. But these
are the these are the questions that I've had, like
is it like this? Is it like that? Like you know?
And then you're like, I don't know, I was these

(01:06:02):
are the questions you've had because you've dated eighteen year
olds for the past thirte years, which is I want
to say, I do very much appreciate your Honestly, I
know a lot of guys. I mean, you're asking and
I'm telling you, but yeah, I mean they were all
array of them, but yeah, the majority and were in there.
I do think when you're dating someone young who doesn't
know exactly what they want, and they even are open

(01:06:24):
about like, hey, by the way, I don't sleep with everyone.
I am not looking for just f buddy, like I
want something more. You should be honest with that person
about you sleeping with other people. But then again, some
girls that you know are stupid. But I've gone on
dates with the girls who don't care. Just caught onto
what you said. No, I mean the ones I were

(01:06:45):
dating was dating. Yes, they again I can say this
is years ago. They were a little bit flighty, But yes,
I think most girls know the you know, when you're
coming off hard like that, I don't do this. I
don't do that. If you're saying picking the community college
degree they were, I mean, what do you call I
don't want to get in trouble with what I say.
I'm like, they're flighty, they're just a little They moved

(01:07:09):
out to l A. It was it was there time
to be a server out here and and you know,
being an actress and nobody really cares at that time.
And in like two thousand and five, thousand ten, or
we're here, was just you just date, You worked at
a nightclub, you try to be an actor, and you
hooked up with people. It's so funny. It was different.
You're also it's funny eight years old. I'm also forty. No,
but I was dating. I was. I'm dating like in

(01:07:29):
my twenties. There was no social media, there was no Tinder,
there was no date me. This it was you go
to the bar, you find somebody, who go home with
a girl. That's what it was. But we have the
opposite type and that my ultimate type right now is
a girl that puts me in my place, a girl
that goes I'm not gonna fall for any of your
you dumb little boy, dumb a little boy. I'll be

(01:07:50):
your dumb little boy. You know. Like I love a
girl who's just so confident, which is like I think
I definitely um beeticized this idea of like dating created genius,
like a musical person or an artist, because they're so
much more interested in their passion than they are me.
And I go, do you want me to get you
anything while you're painting? And they go get out, and
I go, okay, whatever you like, and yeah, I've also

(01:08:14):
been in a situation I've been my whole life. It's
been like I've been so comfortable with dating that I
haven't been in a lot of situations where I felt uncomfortable.
And so I think I kind of like romanticize this idea.
It seems like you still really enjoy dating, You still
really enjoy I do, but just listen, don't. Don't If
I find the right girl had settled down immediately, just
a girl who keeps me on my toes, preferably blonde.

(01:08:37):
I'm looking for my right hand girl. She's under my
right hand right now. Tanya's that on my on your shoulder,
she's touching me back. Wow, Tanya's kissing on the face
of I get it, okay, okay, we'll do it well
after the shop. Tanya, wow, okay, okay, okay, Oh on

(01:09:00):
my ear? Something with her foot I think my toes
sucked you up to the challenge. You know what, there's
there's a lot of things that was about to be
will you suck my toes? It was about to be.
There's a lot of things I would do after a

(01:09:20):
shower and wouldn't do before a shower, but after a
showers every part of the body's game after a shower.
I see, I'm different. I like a dirty No one
is surprised by that. You sick of. I know there's
a lot of things that are disturbing by me, but
that is definitely one of the other dirty or the better.

(01:09:41):
I'm not that my my smell sense is too strong.
I like, it's gotta be freshly. It's gotta be fresh too.
I'm not talking about a shower like ago. That's fine,
but if it was that way too, I'm not going
to be like, well, can we stop this and you
go clean your feet? No, but it's great because you say, hey,
let's get in the shower right now, and then you
get in the shower, then you get on a bed.
A little moist, little moist, a little moist tony. Thanks

(01:10:05):
for kissing me right there. Yeah, to me, that's that's
more fun. That was an eye opening ending right there.
I think we in there honestly, truly one of my
favorite episodes. I hope I wasn't too discussed. Both of
you were so refreshing. It was like, because there's a

(01:10:26):
lot of different types of guys in the world, and
I think, you know, I will be honest. Easton and
Mark other producer are really like just both married, top
notch husbands, Like they just are, like you know, their
answers are always just perfect book answers, but they're genuinely
they're different type of guy saying it like, I love

(01:10:50):
that you came in and you talked about your truth.
You're married, you were with the girl of your dreams,
you love her feet, and you are searching for the
perfect foot in someone to put you in your place.
Tanya is greatly um so I just like I w
it's so unnecessary. Yeah, a lot of it's unnecessary, but

(01:11:10):
it's worth it anyway. Let us know the send us
a d M. If you guys want us to get together,
we'll do it. If we get enough messages. If you
if the scrubbing and paper views and grab your man,
we'll like scout it out. That's actually you know, we'll
talk see how it's going. So it sat ranch. I'd

(01:11:35):
be so down for a triple date. I would be down.
And just so the audience at home knows, Tanya is
currently pinching my nipples and blowing me kisses. So it's filling, uncomfortable.
Where can everybody again, I know we didn't the top
of the shovel work and everybody follow you watch you listen,
you see you give everybody all the good so that
they can at Mr Jacks Taylor on Instagram and on

(01:11:57):
Twitter and mine just at hunt your march and hopefully
you'll see me on the next season of vander Pump Rules.
Just brother, I got you, I got you, And you'll
be on the nightly pop Yeah, Sugar Rush. Yeah you
gotta be a baker to come on Sugar Rush. But
we'll see what we can do. Oh yeah, yes, we'll

(01:12:17):
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w dot Brittany the Zone dot com and we'll put
that website in the Facebook group for you guys too
so that you can it's so it's so cool here. Yeah, yeah,
all right, thank you guys. Um, we'll see you this
weekend if you're in San Francisco. Love you job, love
you every time at JEB Is that right? I do?

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