March 7, 2025 • 20 mins
We’re back with another IRL #TakeAways. The in-between audio-only podcast where Angie and special guests reflect on episode responses, takeaways, and highlights.
On this week’s #TakeAways Angie , Executive producer Brittany, and Nyla discuss the best moments from Ashanti's comeback episode. They discuss lessons from motherhood about selflessness and protection, how one can find happiness in unexpected places and how they all plan to use use Ashanti's manifestation technique.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
All right, we come take away Comfy Takeaways.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Comfy Takeaways. Today, we're doing our takeaway on camera.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Yeah yeah, y'all.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
We finally convinced Angie to do this on camera.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Understand what we have to do it on camera. That
means we have to put like hair and makeup. I
wasn't giving y'all no makeup today. I'm giving you glasses.
I'm giving you glasses because this is the thing I
wish sometimes if we were guys with a podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Please I do it in my boxers.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
They think they don't even brush their teeth.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Oh my god, but we didn't.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
You know, to do a video podcast usually requires pulling
yourself together a tiny bit.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
But this isn't too much.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
This is no this was I gave you glasses in
a sweatsuit.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
And that's perfect. I can't write from the gym.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Hello, Hi work, thank you.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
And this is real life for real Hello. Anyway, it's
another takeaway episode. We are back Brittany of course, executive
producers here with me. We got a young Nyla back
in the building with us. Nyla's like an associate producer
slash friends, slash family to the podcast.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Fact you are early.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Uh just I don't know, fans, supporter, contributor, all the things.
Always yeah, so always team in at any point and
now I could just be on the show with us, just.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
So everybody's Claire, Yes for sure.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
What was the was it in real life with them?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Info Former podcast?
Speaker 1 (01:34):
Version the Former?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
That's a fun fact.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
That's my origin story. Okay, that was my first pod.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Did you like that pod? I did?
Speaker 4 (01:40):
That was when we started. So when I first started
in real life, I had a co host. It was
miss Info, my sister still my friend. She's just very
busy and it was challenging to schedule and we had
no format. It was just like, we like each other
and we're gonna make a podcast. This was like earlier on.
It wasn't when there was a podcast every on every
single every single inch of the world, you know what
(02:03):
I mean. So I was kind of like, cool, let's
do it, and we did it and it was fun.
We did a few episodes and then it kind of
just drifted away. But I always loved the name. I
always felt like that is the nature and the root
of my conversations is trying to get to the real
life of everything. And so we kept it going and
now we're here and now we're on I don't know
what episode, but we're on our first time interviewing somebody
(02:25):
for two times having a reoccurring guest. This was our
Ashanti was our first reoccurring guest. I thought it was perfect.
I thought it's funny because people always when I would
see the comments, when like people would post like Ashanti
and Nellie announced their pregnancy, I would get comments.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Like when are you going to have her back on?
Speaker 4 (02:43):
You know, because the last time she was on, you know,
it was a different conversation, and yo.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Your life changed a lot in two years, Like i'd not.
She's a great example of like how much you she
could turn upside down?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Yeah quick? She wasn't like but I told you.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
I did see hair of like she didn't hate Nelly anymore.
And I was like, okay, that's different. Maybe there is.
I thought, I don't know. I just thought that's interesting.
I didn't go too far. But then a couple months later,
that net little versus thing just kept spiraling and now
her life is changed and now she's in love with
her brand new baby. That was one of my favorite
things is watching her. When I said, well, so what's
(03:22):
he's like, and she was.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Like, he's my best friend. I know.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
That was so cute.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I really believed her.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
I believe her that she just like stares at him
all day and is obsessed with him.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
By the way, off camera, she showed me about seventy.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Five different pictures and five videos and they're all cute.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
He has her eyebrows.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
He has those big, full eyebrows, and he's really a
cute baby. And she says in the episode that she
wants to try to keep you know, the photos and
stuff limited for right now. She just wants to keep
them to herself, which I understand as a mom, you
want to do that. Yeah, But what are some of
our takeaways for this episode? Obviously, this is a takeaway
episode where we talk about what we learned from our
conversations on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
It's for anybody who's now.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
I think the first one is the when it's okay
to spend the block?
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Boom, Why the black girl? You've never spun the block.
Speaker 5 (04:09):
I've spun the block several times and never really tried
to make it work, but i've you bot.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Your head on the curb. Yes, what did you do
the things that she said?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
You're supposed to do before spending the block, which is
like you have to grow and you have to be
what was the other ones?
Speaker 1 (04:24):
What did she say? You have to let's play that clip.
Speaker 6 (04:27):
What I've learned is to never say never. That's number one,
And what's meant to be will be regardless of how
you feel, what you think the timing, what's in the
universe for you will be there regardless, you know what
I mean. And I feel like we both kind of
knew each other's heart, and I feel like we both
got hurt and we both were in our stances and
(04:49):
then I mean not to sound fairy talish, but I
feel like God kind of just strings you with who
you're supposed to be with at the time, you know
what I mean. I think it's okay when it's genuine
and and the feelings are sincere, you know, and you've grown.
You can't be spinning the block and hitting your head
and on the same curve, you know what I'm saying,
Like you have to grow from whatever the problem was earlier.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You have to grow from.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
That and mature and understand each other, have a mutual respect.
And I think that's what made it special for us.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Yeah, I definitely. I tried to apply those things, but
to be fair, she also.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
Said it ain't for everybody, and that's the part I
gravitated to, like heard you says, but I'm happy for her.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Also, never say never. You say that now, and you
never know. Somebody from your past could be the one
ten years from now. Might not even be now, It
could be ten years from now.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I don't even think the time matters so much as
the like conversation that happens when you guys reconnect, because
my favorite thing about that whole thing is her saying, like,
the first couple of conversations were rough, right, and they
were like, it's like.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
Remember you did this, well, you did this, That's what I imagined.
She didn't say what I was imagining what you were
saying that, Well, how about.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
The time you and then you went in, oh, and
then you.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
And then after they got over that hump, it was like, oh,
that's all it was that we passed. Now that we've
passed it now, granted we are completely making up this scenario.
We don't know what those conversations was like, but they
did have to get past something before they got to
this happy place that they're in, right, now, which is
so nice to see.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
I definitely like when she said, God strings you with
who you're supposed to be with at that time, so
you know, like the relationships between soulmates can be tricky,
like you might meet at one point, but it's just
not the right time.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
No, that timing is everything. Timing is everything.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
I really appreciate too, what she said about getting married,
because not only did they come back together right, they
had a baby and they got married. It was boom
boom boom, boom boom. And what she said about you know,
you think you're in your twenties and you think you're
twenty one, you want.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
To be married and have a baby.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
You're like, oh no, thank god that didn't happen. I
wasn't I was not ready.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
It was not ready.
Speaker 4 (06:51):
And also what I took away was that she doesn't
take marriage lightly because in some of the conversations she
was saying, like just how much effort and conversation go
and how much they've clearly had a lot of conversations
about what's expected out of a marriage. It's not you know,
some people are just like I love you, I love
you too, let's get married, Okay. I don't think that
(07:14):
that's the case here. I think that there was a
lot of conversation about what does that mean to you?
What does that mean to me? What do I expect?
Speaker 1 (07:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
That was just a sense that I got from it, like, oh,
this is, you know, a serious thing.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I also just googled this is both of their first marriage.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, for some reason, I guess because Nelly has kids
from previous.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
No, they don't have in the mud for not Marion
miss Jackson's Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
How could you drag somebody you don't know what the
relationship like?
Speaker 3 (07:44):
You know, people get drags. But let's out here, all right,
what are some of our clips?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
What were some of our other takeaways? Go ahead?
Speaker 5 (07:55):
No, no, no, please, Okay, I was gonna say I really
I guess admired the part where she was saying, like,
could you asked her, what's something nobody could prepare you
for that you're like experiencing And she was like just
the feelings, like all the feelings that I feel trying
to protect my baby and just like like I'm just
like in awe of that because I haven't had the
(08:17):
chance to have that. But it's like, dang, man, is
it that serious, like you never get good sleep again?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Is it that deep?
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Yes?
Speaker 6 (08:26):
What kind of surprised me is are those feelings? You
don't know that until you feel it, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 2 (08:31):
So, the the.
Speaker 6 (08:34):
Feeling when your baby is crying and you know we're
in the hospital that I don't want nobody to touch them,
the doctors. I was in pain. I was standing up
with the wires and shit, nah, I.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Don't touch it.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
That's too hard.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Don't do that. Wait, it's too cold.
Speaker 6 (08:48):
Now, you need a blanket, you know, Like you're protective immediately,
selfless immediately. I remember like going to doctor appointments, and
like there was one time I had to go to
the hospital. I got sick and I would take no antibiotics,
no medicine, and it got really bad, like I got
really sick, I got the flu and all of that,
and I was just like, oh, I don't care about me.
(09:08):
I don't care about my lungs.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Is my baby okay?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
You know?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
And the doctor's like, well, we care about you. You
have to be okay for your baby to be okay,
you know.
Speaker 6 (09:17):
So I don't think you can become prepared for that
until you feel it, really feel it.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
You don't know it until you really feel it.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Well, you think that's like kids, all right, both of them?
Speaker 4 (09:28):
Okay, as two women who do not have kids. Does
that sound real to you or does that sound like
just a thing people say?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
I think it's the type of thing where like I'm
not gonna I can anticipate as much as possible, but
I'm not gonna know until I know.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
No, You're impossible to know until you know. But like,
what is something that has like worried you in your life?
Something that happened and you're like, oh god, I can't
sleep because this thing is going on.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
Maybe like the day before an event or something a
day before God. We're like, bab mean yeah yeah, super
equal equal because she's like, yeah, as soon as I
had the baby, it's like instantly selfless, like who cares
about my rib And I'm like, I don't feel like
that about nothing?
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Well, because you don't have a child. I know, I know.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
It's just like you start to you're responsible for a
human life, a person, a human being is your responsibility.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Did that happen to you instantly? Nico?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (10:27):
I was furious, No, dead ass, Like I was mad
because nobody told me. I was like, because I was
so nervous at the beginning that you feel sick and
you're like I always tell a story like I just
go in in the night and go look at the
crib to see if his if he was still breathing,
if his chest was going like this, or I would
see if he had breath, Like I was so nervous.
(10:48):
And then I remember that one day that I said,
when is this gonna stop?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Never? And it was like if it was a movie,
it was like never.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
And then in that moment, I was like, all the
conversations I had about motherhood, all the conversations that have
I've had, nobody had said that to me.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
And I was so angry because I was I felt
like cornered.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
That makes that makes so much sense when my parents
be like when you do something and your mom gets pissed,
like I brought you into this world, I can take
you out. Yeah, like you felt that because you're like
you're so ungrateful. You know those teenage yeers be rough sometimes,
Yeah the apologies.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Yeah, yeah, sorry.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
My mom's been feeling that way her whole life and
it just never stopped.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Maybe if you decide to have kids, some people don't.
I was thinking about Winfrey the other day. She was like, yeah, no,
I'm gonna set that out a.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Lot of people.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Tracy Ellis Rose, I looked at her a lot.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
She don't got know.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
She's like, I have great life. Yes, I have a great, full,
happy life. Without kids. I can be an auntie you
God mom, I don't know. The options are limitless.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
That's true. I'm definitely trying to have a few. A
few heard you.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
Not want to see how that goes first. I don't
want to be sund like answer. I love my kids. Yeah,
I love my kids to death.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
But it's just it's such a heavy thing that it
shouldn't be ever be taken lightly.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
No, I think I definitely think people take it way
too lightly, way too lightly, Like Papa out a kid.
God bless my mom. She had me when she was
eighteen and they figured.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
It the heck out.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
But like what, I can't even my brain's not even
fully developed, the frontal what is it? Low is not
even fully set in. You don't have no business I
don't know having a kid. God bless the people that do.
And you know, it all works out. But I just
that wasn't.
Speaker 5 (12:32):
Mulled over enough in your brain. In your brain, we'll
let you know. I'll do a recap whenever time comes
for me.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
What else you got, nyla?
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Okay? My other one is yo.
Speaker 5 (12:42):
Them talking about living in a suitcase with the baby,
how like they don't have like one solid home.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
I'm like, that's kind of wild. I admire it.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
That doesn't surprise me. They're like artists. They're doing shows
all over the country.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
Yeah, you have a new baby. You don't want to
be away from the baby, so you have like a
traveling circus.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
So y'all just passing the Fatah.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
The baby probably knows no other way.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
Like, the baby is comfortable, you know, it's used to
being moved around, not every not every you know, situation
has to be you know, traditional.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
This is true. I'm not mad at it. I just
thought it was very interesting.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Oh I'm sure it's not going to stay like that
forever either. I just think like Ashanti said her herself too,
she was like, I was not expecting to be traveling
this month this much while having a new born. But yeah,
but she's like, you know, it is what it is.
Where there's options, we make it work. And she's obviously
surrounded by a lot of love and support too, which
she keeps reiterating to like, you.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Know what, there's so many people that he's handling his
damn business. Yeah, in private time. Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
They didn't get there by accident.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
That baby did not come by accident. They've been putting
some practice in that. And I love that moment when
she's like, whoa, she said, I'm so.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Glad I married him.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
Boy, she said something like that. I was like, those
two are having a good old time.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Baby number two on the way five minutes.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Yeah, for sure, we were already cooking. It's a fun episode.
And by the way, we're talking about the Ashanti episode.
Hello everyone.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
If you haven't watched it yet, you definitely should. It's
a fun interview and it's a great insight to like
where she is in her life. She really is the
epitome of happy right now. We asked her where she
was on the skill of one to ten of happiness
and she said a thousand and not only did she
say it, she meant it. You know what I'm saying,
Like the way she said it, she really meant it,
And that's just something to learn from it in itself.
(14:34):
People like spend their whole life trying to figure out
how to get happy. She has figured it out for herself,
and not just that one day Like she seems like
this time in her life is just a happy.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Joyous time in her life.
Speaker 5 (14:48):
Love, she's garage, baby, career, new music.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
New music, new movie, she's close to her family, Like
I don't know, she just has it figured out.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
Kind of beat the matrix.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Yeah, I pray.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
I pray that she stays in this for as long
as she can needs as possible.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
What a beautiful thing.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
My last thing.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Little remark from her to close this out was her
manifestation technique that she left us with because we could
play that little clip.
Speaker 6 (15:18):
I feel like I have absolutely manifested almost everything that
I wanted, you know what I mean? Like I spoke
that into existence at a time where I didn't know
what was gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
What is the key to your manifesting?
Speaker 6 (15:30):
My manifestation?
Speaker 1 (15:31):
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (15:31):
Do you really.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Believe everything you say?
Speaker 6 (15:34):
Or is it that you pray on it or is
it that you just absolutely pray on it. I really
do pray on it, and I'm not gonna lie to you.
I wrote some stuff down and I put it in
a Bible years ago.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
I moved.
Speaker 6 (15:45):
I found the Bible, and I was like, oh so
I definitely did that?
Speaker 2 (15:50):
Tell me?
Speaker 1 (15:51):
How disclosed? Because people might want to know how to
do this. No, I'm serious.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
The list.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
You write a list?
Speaker 6 (15:56):
Wrote the list. I wrote everything I.
Speaker 4 (15:57):
Want studio okay owns the building, the building else, everything
that you want that's in your heart.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
I wrote it down.
Speaker 6 (16:09):
I opened up the Bible, the scripture that it landed on.
I put the paper in the Bible.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I closed it.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
I forgot about it.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
You know what I mean. I just let it rock.
Speaker 6 (16:19):
And I feel like when you make yourself vulnerable and
you put it out there, the right stuff comes back.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (16:27):
By the way that was on the spot Idea ad
Irl Studios, Edge Martinez Studios, coffers.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Love that we should write that down immediately.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Go put it in the Bible.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Put it? Did you put it in the Bible yet?
Speaker 5 (16:37):
I have not?
Speaker 3 (16:37):
All right?
Speaker 1 (16:38):
All right, not see I'm playing about my manifestations.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
I'm definitely doing it immediately I get home.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
What are you trying to manifest? Oh?
Speaker 3 (16:46):
A whole lot?
Speaker 1 (16:47):
What I want?
Speaker 5 (16:48):
A coffee shop in New York. I love working out
of a coffee shop. I know it seems random.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Do you drink coffee? I drink tea? Okay, God, she
wants coffee.
Speaker 5 (16:57):
But I drink coffee sometimes. But I'm more of a
tea person. To express us sometimes, it really just depends
on the day. But I want to own a coffee
shop that has like a stage because I do a
lot of.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
Communal events and stuff like that.
Speaker 5 (17:07):
So I want to be able to have a set
shoe shoe content out of the coffee shop. I want
to have events at the coffee shop. I love this
for you from at healthy lifestyle. So that is definitely
going in the Bible.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Maybe I need I need to manifest a little bits.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
Minds.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Was just that I'm trying. I really want to shoot
my first like film, like full featured like film. Yeah
whatever does it not big major motion picture, but I
just want to shoot a full length.
Speaker 5 (17:35):
We're doing that's around the corner for you. I can
see that like we're doing that like October. We share
a goal. Yes, we're both going to shoot a film.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
I'm just happy. I know, y'all.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
Do you want to come beyond set? Be an extra?
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Yeah, make your acting debut with us. Not yeah, hello,
let me know.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
I'm happy that I know y'all for real.
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Right back to it, back to our takeaways.
Speaker 5 (18:01):
Okay, yes, no, I wanted to just give a shout
out to Diana Santiago. She says, I'm a newly wet myself.
I married my ex husband again twenty two years later.
What's meant to be will be. God is always in control.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
I was just like, way, way, way Wait.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
She married after her ex husband twenty two years later.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Again again, I've heard this, they remarried. Never heard that
this happened.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Absolutely, they went through the scandal of divorce years.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
I get it, you get it. I do.
Speaker 4 (18:31):
I elaborate because listen, we all here for one life only,
and you have different seasons of your life, and somebody
could align with you at a very young age and
you and you get along and you're and you have
similar interests. But then you want to go start an empire,
you want to travel the world. This person wants to
go sit in a I don't know, monastery and get
(18:53):
become one with self. I'm just saying you could be
in two different places, but the connection is still there.
So you go off live your life. Kiss a few frogs.
He goes off and does probably the same and then
you then you reconnect that NILA's coffee shop one day
for a show, and you're both older and you and
you're established and you know who you are, and why not.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
I don't I don't see anything wrong with.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
That's gonna be the plot for my feature film.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
It's gonna be that would be good.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
That's gonna be my plot right.
Speaker 5 (19:22):
There, because I feel like it's hard to believe. Really, yes,
at least now, I mean it's it's.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
If somebody was a dirt bag or or or morally
or or some other way was not aligned with you,
then that's different. Then then you're always gonna kind of
have that stain. You may not want to revisit it.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
But if it ended on just peaceful kind of terms,
you know, you can end relationships on peaceful terms. It
is possible.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
One day at a time.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Time is possible. You don't have to wait till something explodes.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
All right, all right, one day at a time.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Anyway.
Speaker 4 (20:00):
I love this episode. There are many great moments. If
you haven't had a chance to watch it, please do that.
Watch the episode of the Ashanti episode. Also subscribe. Also,
we have new episodes coming soon. Go revisit some of
the older episodes and what am I forgetting?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Nope, that's it.
Speaker 5 (20:16):
Show us some love, let us know who you want
to see next on the show, and a lot can
happen in two years, guys.
Speaker 4 (20:20):
A lot can happening, and get to manifesting. Get to
get manifesting. Bye y'all in real life.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Bye.
All right, we come take away Comfy Takeaways.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Comfy Takeaways. Today, we're doing our takeaway on camera.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Yeah yeah, y'all.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
We finally convinced Angie to do this on camera.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Understand what we have to do it on camera. That
means we have to put like hair and makeup. I
wasn't giving y'all no makeup today. I'm giving you glasses.
I'm giving you glasses because this is the thing I
wish sometimes if we were guys with a podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Please I do it in my boxers.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
They think they don't even brush their teeth.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Oh my god, but we didn't.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
You know, to do a video podcast usually requires pulling
yourself together a tiny bit.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
But this isn't too much.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
This is no this was I gave you glasses in
a sweatsuit.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
And that's perfect. I can't write from the gym.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Hello, Hi work, thank you.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
And this is real life for real Hello. Anyway, it's
another takeaway episode. We are back Brittany of course, executive
producers here with me. We got a young Nyla back
in the building with us. Nyla's like an associate producer
slash friends, slash family to the podcast.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Fact you are early.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Uh just I don't know, fans, supporter, contributor, all the things.
Always yeah, so always team in at any point and
now I could just be on the show with us, just.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
So everybody's Claire, Yes for sure.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
What was the was it in real life with them?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Info Former podcast?
Speaker 1 (01:34):
Version the Former?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
That's a fun fact.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
That's my origin story. Okay, that was my first pod.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Did you like that pod? I did?
Speaker 4 (01:40):
That was when we started. So when I first started
in real life, I had a co host. It was
miss Info, my sister still my friend. She's just very
busy and it was challenging to schedule and we had
no format. It was just like, we like each other
and we're gonna make a podcast. This was like earlier on.
It wasn't when there was a podcast every on every
single every single inch of the world, you know what
(02:03):
I mean. So I was kind of like, cool, let's
do it, and we did it and it was fun.
We did a few episodes and then it kind of
just drifted away. But I always loved the name. I
always felt like that is the nature and the root
of my conversations is trying to get to the real
life of everything. And so we kept it going and
now we're here and now we're on I don't know
what episode, but we're on our first time interviewing somebody
(02:25):
for two times having a reoccurring guest. This was our
Ashanti was our first reoccurring guest. I thought it was perfect.
I thought it's funny because people always when I would
see the comments, when like people would post like Ashanti
and Nellie announced their pregnancy, I would get comments.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Like when are you going to have her back on?
Speaker 4 (02:43):
You know, because the last time she was on, you know,
it was a different conversation, and yo.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Your life changed a lot in two years, Like i'd not.
She's a great example of like how much you she
could turn upside down?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Yeah quick? She wasn't like but I told you.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
I did see hair of like she didn't hate Nelly anymore.
And I was like, okay, that's different. Maybe there is.
I thought, I don't know. I just thought that's interesting.
I didn't go too far. But then a couple months later,
that net little versus thing just kept spiraling and now
her life is changed and now she's in love with
her brand new baby. That was one of my favorite
things is watching her. When I said, well, so what's
(03:22):
he's like, and she was.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Like, he's my best friend. I know.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
That was so cute.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I really believed her.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
I believe her that she just like stares at him
all day and is obsessed with him.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
By the way, off camera, she showed me about seventy.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Five different pictures and five videos and they're all cute.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
He has her eyebrows.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
He has those big, full eyebrows, and he's really a
cute baby. And she says in the episode that she
wants to try to keep you know, the photos and
stuff limited for right now. She just wants to keep
them to herself, which I understand as a mom, you
want to do that. Yeah, But what are some of
our takeaways for this episode? Obviously, this is a takeaway
episode where we talk about what we learned from our
conversations on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
It's for anybody who's now.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
I think the first one is the when it's okay
to spend the block?
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Boom, Why the black girl? You've never spun the block.
Speaker 5 (04:09):
I've spun the block several times and never really tried
to make it work, but i've you bot.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Your head on the curb. Yes, what did you do
the things that she said?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
You're supposed to do before spending the block, which is
like you have to grow and you have to be
what was the other ones?
Speaker 1 (04:24):
What did she say? You have to let's play that clip.
Speaker 6 (04:27):
What I've learned is to never say never. That's number one,
And what's meant to be will be regardless of how
you feel, what you think the timing, what's in the
universe for you will be there regardless, you know what
I mean. And I feel like we both kind of
knew each other's heart, and I feel like we both
got hurt and we both were in our stances and
(04:49):
then I mean not to sound fairy talish, but I
feel like God kind of just strings you with who
you're supposed to be with at the time, you know
what I mean. I think it's okay when it's genuine
and and the feelings are sincere, you know, and you've grown.
You can't be spinning the block and hitting your head
and on the same curve, you know what I'm saying,
Like you have to grow from whatever the problem was earlier.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You have to grow from.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
That and mature and understand each other, have a mutual respect.
And I think that's what made it special for us.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Yeah, I definitely. I tried to apply those things, but
to be fair, she also.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
Said it ain't for everybody, and that's the part I
gravitated to, like heard you says, but I'm happy for her.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Also, never say never. You say that now, and you
never know. Somebody from your past could be the one
ten years from now. Might not even be now, It
could be ten years from now.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I don't even think the time matters so much as
the like conversation that happens when you guys reconnect, because
my favorite thing about that whole thing is her saying, like,
the first couple of conversations were rough, right, and they
were like, it's like.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
Remember you did this, well, you did this, That's what I imagined.
She didn't say what I was imagining what you were
saying that, Well, how about.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
The time you and then you went in, oh, and
then you.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
And then after they got over that hump, it was like, oh,
that's all it was that we passed. Now that we've
passed it now, granted we are completely making up this scenario.
We don't know what those conversations was like, but they
did have to get past something before they got to
this happy place that they're in, right, now, which is
so nice to see.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
I definitely like when she said, God strings you with
who you're supposed to be with at that time, so
you know, like the relationships between soulmates can be tricky,
like you might meet at one point, but it's just
not the right time.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
No, that timing is everything. Timing is everything.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
I really appreciate too, what she said about getting married,
because not only did they come back together right, they
had a baby and they got married. It was boom
boom boom, boom boom. And what she said about you know,
you think you're in your twenties and you think you're
twenty one, you want.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
To be married and have a baby.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
You're like, oh no, thank god that didn't happen. I
wasn't I was not ready.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
It was not ready.
Speaker 4 (06:51):
And also what I took away was that she doesn't
take marriage lightly because in some of the conversations she
was saying, like just how much effort and conversation go
and how much they've clearly had a lot of conversations
about what's expected out of a marriage. It's not you know,
some people are just like I love you, I love
you too, let's get married, Okay. I don't think that
(07:14):
that's the case here. I think that there was a
lot of conversation about what does that mean to you?
What does that mean to me? What do I expect?
Speaker 1 (07:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
That was just a sense that I got from it, like, oh,
this is, you know, a serious thing.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I also just googled this is both of their first marriage.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, for some reason, I guess because Nelly has kids
from previous.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
No, they don't have in the mud for not Marion
miss Jackson's Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
How could you drag somebody you don't know what the
relationship like?
Speaker 3 (07:44):
You know, people get drags. But let's out here, all right,
what are some of our clips?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
What were some of our other takeaways? Go ahead?
Speaker 5 (07:55):
No, no, no, please, Okay, I was gonna say I really
I guess admired the part where she was saying, like,
could you asked her, what's something nobody could prepare you
for that you're like experiencing And she was like just
the feelings, like all the feelings that I feel trying
to protect my baby and just like like I'm just
like in awe of that because I haven't had the
(08:17):
chance to have that. But it's like, dang, man, is
it that serious, like you never get good sleep again?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Is it that deep?
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Yes?
Speaker 6 (08:26):
What kind of surprised me is are those feelings? You
don't know that until you feel it, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 2 (08:31):
So, the the.
Speaker 6 (08:34):
Feeling when your baby is crying and you know we're
in the hospital that I don't want nobody to touch them,
the doctors. I was in pain. I was standing up
with the wires and shit, nah, I.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Don't touch it.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
That's too hard.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Don't do that. Wait, it's too cold.
Speaker 6 (08:48):
Now, you need a blanket, you know, Like you're protective immediately,
selfless immediately. I remember like going to doctor appointments, and
like there was one time I had to go to
the hospital. I got sick and I would take no antibiotics,
no medicine, and it got really bad, like I got
really sick, I got the flu and all of that,
and I was just like, oh, I don't care about me.
(09:08):
I don't care about my lungs.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Is my baby okay?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
You know?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
And the doctor's like, well, we care about you. You
have to be okay for your baby to be okay,
you know.
Speaker 6 (09:17):
So I don't think you can become prepared for that
until you feel it, really feel it.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
You don't know it until you really feel it.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Well, you think that's like kids, all right, both of them?
Speaker 4 (09:28):
Okay, as two women who do not have kids. Does
that sound real to you or does that sound like
just a thing people say?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
I think it's the type of thing where like I'm
not gonna I can anticipate as much as possible, but
I'm not gonna know until I know.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
No, You're impossible to know until you know. But like,
what is something that has like worried you in your life?
Something that happened and you're like, oh god, I can't
sleep because this thing is going on.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
Maybe like the day before an event or something a
day before God. We're like, bab mean yeah yeah, super
equal equal because she's like, yeah, as soon as I
had the baby, it's like instantly selfless, like who cares
about my rib And I'm like, I don't feel like
that about nothing?
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Well, because you don't have a child. I know, I know.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
It's just like you start to you're responsible for a
human life, a person, a human being is your responsibility.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Did that happen to you instantly? Nico?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (10:27):
I was furious, No, dead ass, Like I was mad
because nobody told me. I was like, because I was
so nervous at the beginning that you feel sick and
you're like I always tell a story like I just
go in in the night and go look at the
crib to see if his if he was still breathing,
if his chest was going like this, or I would
see if he had breath, Like I was so nervous.
(10:48):
And then I remember that one day that I said,
when is this gonna stop?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Never? And it was like if it was a movie,
it was like never.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
And then in that moment, I was like, all the
conversations I had about motherhood, all the conversations that have
I've had, nobody had said that to me.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
And I was so angry because I was I felt
like cornered.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
That makes that makes so much sense when my parents
be like when you do something and your mom gets pissed,
like I brought you into this world, I can take
you out. Yeah, like you felt that because you're like
you're so ungrateful. You know those teenage yeers be rough sometimes,
Yeah the apologies.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Yeah, yeah, sorry.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
My mom's been feeling that way her whole life and
it just never stopped.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Maybe if you decide to have kids, some people don't.
I was thinking about Winfrey the other day. She was like, yeah, no,
I'm gonna set that out a.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Lot of people.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Tracy Ellis Rose, I looked at her a lot.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
She don't got know.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
She's like, I have great life. Yes, I have a great, full,
happy life. Without kids. I can be an auntie you
God mom, I don't know. The options are limitless.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
That's true. I'm definitely trying to have a few. A
few heard you.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
Not want to see how that goes first. I don't
want to be sund like answer. I love my kids. Yeah,
I love my kids to death.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
But it's just it's such a heavy thing that it
shouldn't be ever be taken lightly.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
No, I think I definitely think people take it way
too lightly, way too lightly, Like Papa out a kid.
God bless my mom. She had me when she was
eighteen and they figured.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
It the heck out.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
But like what, I can't even my brain's not even
fully developed, the frontal what is it? Low is not
even fully set in. You don't have no business I
don't know having a kid. God bless the people that do.
And you know, it all works out. But I just
that wasn't.
Speaker 5 (12:32):
Mulled over enough in your brain. In your brain, we'll
let you know. I'll do a recap whenever time comes
for me.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
What else you got, nyla?
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Okay? My other one is yo.
Speaker 5 (12:42):
Them talking about living in a suitcase with the baby,
how like they don't have like one solid home.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
I'm like, that's kind of wild. I admire it.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
That doesn't surprise me. They're like artists. They're doing shows
all over the country.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
Yeah, you have a new baby. You don't want to
be away from the baby, so you have like a
traveling circus.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
So y'all just passing the Fatah.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
The baby probably knows no other way.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
Like, the baby is comfortable, you know, it's used to
being moved around, not every not every you know, situation
has to be you know, traditional.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
This is true. I'm not mad at it. I just
thought it was very interesting.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Oh I'm sure it's not going to stay like that
forever either. I just think like Ashanti said her herself too,
she was like, I was not expecting to be traveling
this month this much while having a new born. But yeah,
but she's like, you know, it is what it is.
Where there's options, we make it work. And she's obviously
surrounded by a lot of love and support too, which
she keeps reiterating to like, you.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Know what, there's so many people that he's handling his
damn business. Yeah, in private time. Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
They didn't get there by accident.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
That baby did not come by accident. They've been putting
some practice in that. And I love that moment when
she's like, whoa, she said, I'm so.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Glad I married him.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
Boy, she said something like that. I was like, those
two are having a good old time.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Baby number two on the way five minutes.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Yeah, for sure, we were already cooking. It's a fun episode.
And by the way, we're talking about the Ashanti episode.
Hello everyone.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
If you haven't watched it yet, you definitely should. It's
a fun interview and it's a great insight to like
where she is in her life. She really is the
epitome of happy right now. We asked her where she
was on the skill of one to ten of happiness
and she said a thousand and not only did she
say it, she meant it. You know what I'm saying,
Like the way she said it, she really meant it,
And that's just something to learn from it in itself.
(14:34):
People like spend their whole life trying to figure out
how to get happy. She has figured it out for herself,
and not just that one day Like she seems like
this time in her life is just a happy.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Joyous time in her life.
Speaker 5 (14:48):
Love, she's garage, baby, career, new music.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
New music, new movie, she's close to her family, Like
I don't know, she just has it figured out.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
Kind of beat the matrix.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Yeah, I pray.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
I pray that she stays in this for as long
as she can needs as possible.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
What a beautiful thing.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
My last thing.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Little remark from her to close this out was her
manifestation technique that she left us with because we could
play that little clip.
Speaker 6 (15:18):
I feel like I have absolutely manifested almost everything that
I wanted, you know what I mean? Like I spoke
that into existence at a time where I didn't know
what was gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
What is the key to your manifesting?
Speaker 6 (15:30):
My manifestation?
Speaker 1 (15:31):
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (15:31):
Do you really.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Believe everything you say?
Speaker 6 (15:34):
Or is it that you pray on it or is
it that you just absolutely pray on it. I really
do pray on it, and I'm not gonna lie to you.
I wrote some stuff down and I put it in
a Bible years ago.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
I moved.
Speaker 6 (15:45):
I found the Bible, and I was like, oh so
I definitely did that?
Speaker 2 (15:50):
Tell me?
Speaker 1 (15:51):
How disclosed? Because people might want to know how to
do this. No, I'm serious.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
The list.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
You write a list?
Speaker 6 (15:56):
Wrote the list. I wrote everything I.
Speaker 4 (15:57):
Want studio okay owns the building, the building else, everything
that you want that's in your heart.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
I wrote it down.
Speaker 6 (16:09):
I opened up the Bible, the scripture that it landed on.
I put the paper in the Bible.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I closed it.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
I forgot about it.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
You know what I mean. I just let it rock.
Speaker 6 (16:19):
And I feel like when you make yourself vulnerable and
you put it out there, the right stuff comes back.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (16:27):
By the way that was on the spot Idea ad
Irl Studios, Edge Martinez Studios, coffers.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Love that we should write that down immediately.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Go put it in the Bible.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Put it? Did you put it in the Bible yet?
Speaker 5 (16:37):
I have not?
Speaker 3 (16:37):
All right?
Speaker 1 (16:38):
All right, not see I'm playing about my manifestations.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
I'm definitely doing it immediately I get home.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
What are you trying to manifest? Oh?
Speaker 3 (16:46):
A whole lot?
Speaker 1 (16:47):
What I want?
Speaker 5 (16:48):
A coffee shop in New York. I love working out
of a coffee shop. I know it seems random.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Do you drink coffee? I drink tea? Okay, God, she
wants coffee.
Speaker 5 (16:57):
But I drink coffee sometimes. But I'm more of a
tea person. To express us sometimes, it really just depends
on the day. But I want to own a coffee
shop that has like a stage because I do a
lot of.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
Communal events and stuff like that.
Speaker 5 (17:07):
So I want to be able to have a set
shoe shoe content out of the coffee shop. I want
to have events at the coffee shop. I love this
for you from at healthy lifestyle. So that is definitely
going in the Bible.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Maybe I need I need to manifest a little bits.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
Minds.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Was just that I'm trying. I really want to shoot
my first like film, like full featured like film. Yeah
whatever does it not big major motion picture, but I
just want to shoot a full length.
Speaker 5 (17:35):
We're doing that's around the corner for you. I can
see that like we're doing that like October. We share
a goal. Yes, we're both going to shoot a film.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
I'm just happy. I know, y'all.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
Do you want to come beyond set? Be an extra?
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Yeah, make your acting debut with us. Not yeah, hello,
let me know.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
I'm happy that I know y'all for real.
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Right back to it, back to our takeaways.
Speaker 5 (18:01):
Okay, yes, no, I wanted to just give a shout
out to Diana Santiago. She says, I'm a newly wet myself.
I married my ex husband again twenty two years later.
What's meant to be will be. God is always in control.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
I was just like, way, way, way Wait.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
She married after her ex husband twenty two years later.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Again again, I've heard this, they remarried. Never heard that
this happened.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Absolutely, they went through the scandal of divorce years.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
I get it, you get it. I do.
Speaker 4 (18:31):
I elaborate because listen, we all here for one life only,
and you have different seasons of your life, and somebody
could align with you at a very young age and
you and you get along and you're and you have
similar interests. But then you want to go start an empire,
you want to travel the world. This person wants to
go sit in a I don't know, monastery and get
(18:53):
become one with self. I'm just saying you could be
in two different places, but the connection is still there.
So you go off live your life. Kiss a few frogs.
He goes off and does probably the same and then
you then you reconnect that NILA's coffee shop one day
for a show, and you're both older and you and
you're established and you know who you are, and why not.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
I don't I don't see anything wrong with.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
That's gonna be the plot for my feature film.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
It's gonna be that would be good.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
That's gonna be my plot right.
Speaker 5 (19:22):
There, because I feel like it's hard to believe. Really, yes,
at least now, I mean it's it's.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
If somebody was a dirt bag or or or morally
or or some other way was not aligned with you,
then that's different. Then then you're always gonna kind of
have that stain. You may not want to revisit it.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
But if it ended on just peaceful kind of terms,
you know, you can end relationships on peaceful terms. It
is possible.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
One day at a time.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Time is possible. You don't have to wait till something explodes.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
All right, all right, one day at a time.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Anyway.
Speaker 4 (20:00):
I love this episode. There are many great moments. If
you haven't had a chance to watch it, please do that.
Watch the episode of the Ashanti episode. Also subscribe. Also,
we have new episodes coming soon. Go revisit some of
the older episodes and what am I forgetting?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Nope, that's it.
Speaker 5 (20:16):
Show us some love, let us know who you want
to see next on the show, and a lot can
happen in two years, guys.
Speaker 4 (20:20):
A lot can happening, and get to manifesting. Get to
get manifesting. Bye y'all in real life.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Bye.
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Angie Martinez
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