July 24, 2024 • 36 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” Kathy and Susan are here with “Bachelor in Paradise” star Kylee Russell! She is kicking off this episode hot as we dive right into all things Kylee, including some dating updates. Then, we ask Kylee to help answer some of your questions. Plus, we find out what’s next for her.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for
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Golden Hour. We have some great questions today that we'll
get into with our very very special guests today.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Only today our Bachelor Nation star Kylie Rustless here. Hi, Kylie,
thanks so much for joining us. We're so excited to
be chatting with you. I have so many questions, we
don't know where to begin.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
You're adorable.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Thank you, Thanks, ladies. I am so excited. I have
been dying to meet you, so just get to talk
to you today. I am kind of freaking out inside
a lots to cover, but I'm so excited to be
talking about it with you and then hopefully get some
advice from my big sisters.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Oh big sister, you hear that, Susan, big sister. Okay, First, Kylie,
I want to tell you the three of us have
something in common. So I listened to your podcast with
Serena and Joe and we'll get into that a bit.
But Susan, the three of us have a lot in common.
She loves Christmas. When I was on the Golden Bachelor,
that one of the things I said. I was obsessed
(02:01):
with Christmas. But more importantly, more importantly, she loves tequila,
my favorite drink. Am I right? And Susan? Are you ready?
And guess what else? Susan? She loves all things Italian,
loves Italian food. Are we sisters? Or are we? Then?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I was about to say I need to try your meatball, Susan,
and then think her sister is definitely separated at birth,
so let's get together.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Are you Italian?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
I'm not Italian? I think always the first question someone
asks you when they meet me is like, Okay, Kylie,
what are you? Because my look is so ambiguous. But
my mom is fully white, and then my dad is
half black, half Cherokee Indians. So I'm a little bit
of a mutt.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
You're beautiful, You are gorgeous. You are, but.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
It's always a good conversation starter.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
All right, we live in San Diego.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Yes, I live in San Diego. I moved there back
in February with Jess from the show. I'm actually in
North Carolina. I'm visiting my family right now.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
But are you in Charlotte? Are you in Charlotte.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
I'm in Charlotte. Yes, born and raised here.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
I did my research.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
My ex husbands from Charlotte.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Oh no, if I see him, I'll give him the
evil eye if that's which.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Oh no, No, we're good friends here, but that's where
we love them.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
But yeah, no, definitely going to settle back in Charlotte
one day.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
All right, tell me about life in San Diego. That's
like the best climate on the universe.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Oh, my god, it is literally paradise on earth. The
only thing that kind of would not allow me to
stay there forever is because my family is back in Charlotte.
But San Diego has been great to me thus far.
I enjoy my work so much there. I'm still a
post part nurse, so I take care of all the
new mamas and babies.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I was impressed you got on the day shift. When
you move there, can.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
You tell me about that. I want to say I'm
a unicorn because you are.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
You are unicorn one, so I know I know you
loved taking my daughter had a baby in the nick
you for and and the post part of nurses. Let
me just hats off to all of you out there.
You guys are amazing. You don't you know? You know
what a new mother is like, and you guys do
(04:17):
an admirable job. So the next time I have the baby,
which will be the twelfth Comember, I'm coming to you
in her next life.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
I will take such good care of you.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Pay Okay, we got to get to the big tea
here though, because we got a lot to come up.
I want to be caught upon your day with I
know because I listened that you told Joe and Serena
that the door was still open for you, and is it.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
This information is still very new and raw, and this
has been something This has been the first platform, or
even really the first big conversation I've had about this.
So I might get a little emotional. So we're here
for you.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
We're here for you.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yeah, it's just a lot. It has been a six
month period post show too unpacked, and I don't even
know if mentally I'm fully like kind of subttled with it,
but I'm want to do the best I can today.
So recently, even and I decided to part ways. So
we'll start by saying the door is closed. There's a
(05:27):
lot he'd gone forever, and that's something I'm still coping. Like.
That's a big reason why I'm here with my family,
just because, like I said, it's been a year of
him and I but the six months post me finding
out of his infidelity has just been so hard. And
although everyone, especially on the internet, has told me, Kylie
(05:51):
like you deserve better, it's time to walk away, that's
still a lot easier said than done, especially when you
love someone so much like I did. Even and so
I think right now I'm just in my healing era
and trying to find the ability just to kind of
(06:12):
have my own life in San Diego, which is Kylie
her being single, and just kind of settling with myself
and being by myself.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
I want to say, when I listened to you talking
on Serena and Joe's podcast, a couple of things I
just want to say. And I said this before. I
said it to Susan because she listened to most of
it but missed this part. You said that you know
the drawer, if you could do the work. You said
(06:43):
all these things, And I said to Susan, she doesn't
know it yet, but the door is closed, did I not? Susan?
You said, you said, and you you could, You just
didn't know it yet. But we are happy for you
that you are a sure beautiful lady, and the fact
that you've made a decision that works for you is
(07:07):
I mean, what else can you say? Yeah, it's going
to take time to heal.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Yeah, I wish like that. I think what I've been
saying to everyone. I wish I could close my eyes
and blinked. A couple of months ago, a month, a
couple of months from now. Excuse me, because I just
want to I want to be healed already. I'm tired
of being sad, but I know that just takes time.
This is my first ever heartbreak. I've never been in
love before or honestly had a real relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
How old are you again, Kylie?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Twenty six, twenty six, twenty six, Kylie, would you mind
sharing what happened?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Yeah? So, after finding about the infidelity, I was like, Okay,
I don't think I can beat with this man any longer.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I don't just a one time flinger. Was it a relationship?
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Like so, post finding out, it was a period of
She's trying to mend that trust back and to kind
of get back to where we once were. And I
will say in the beginning, he was doing the work,
he was going to therapy, he was ensuring that my
(08:14):
move to San Diego went smoothly, and he was there
for me and he was providing for me. And it
was great. But I will be one hundred percent honest,
I'm human, and there was still a small part of
me that was holding back. I wanted yeah, yeah, yeah,
And so I was hoping. I was like, hey, please
(08:35):
just give him grace, Like I know I can get
to where I was before. I just need time. And
then also too, I was in this mental battle of
moving to a new place. I want to say that
I moved for myself and for the new experience, but
a big part of my reasoning behind them was for him,
of course, And so I was trying to cope with
(08:58):
the fact that I was my I was away from
my family, not knowing anyone, I was starting a completely
new job. I was just simply trying to get my footing,
plus battling with minding a relationship that was so broken.
So I was just on the outside, I was like, Okay,
I'm good, it's fine. But on the inside, I was
(09:19):
really battling with a lot and I didn't think it
was noticeable, but unfortunately it kind of took a toll
on him in a sense of putting it. He felt
as though he was putting in all of this work,
but a lot of what I was doing wasn't like
reciprocating all the luck that he was giving me.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
If that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Yeah, So about a month ago we had a big
tough conversation, him kind of expressing to me, Hey, I'm
doing all this, I want this to work, but I
still feel like you're holding back. I don't know if
this is going to work anymore. I think that was
kind of my like punching the like, oh, my good call,
(10:02):
Like if you want to be with him, you need
to be with him. You need to really put things
into gear and try to make this work and give
him one hundred percent like he's been giving you. And
so that was actually our one year or one year
from meeting from Paradise with that week, and we had
already planned like a little yeah, we had already planned
(10:24):
like a little getaway to Malibu, and so I was like, even,
I know you're pretty close off right now, but please
just give it some time. Let's go to Malibu. Let's
see if we can kind of rekindle what we've lost.
We had a great time in Malibu. I honestly feel
as though I felt like I did when I was
first meeting him three weeks after that, like it was
(10:45):
really really good. I was so excited, like I almost
had that gidea feeling back. And another thing that I
was mentally kind of going back and forth with is
at some point I have to make this relationship public again.
And what was hording me back from that? It was like,
I know the public scrutiny that's going to come from
doing that, and so before I do that, I need
(11:08):
to know for a fact he's my man, and I'm
sticking beside him.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
You're saying this is it's either in or out because
we can't go back and do this. Yeah, yeah, right right, Siam.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
And so I what that three weeks I was thinking, sorry, no, no,
it's it's just it's not because you're old.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
No, I just mouth everyone is lead, I said. She
called me, ma'am, I mouth that, and she said, exactly
what all beautiful young and trust me, this girl is
gorgeous by the way, I just say just I don't
want to interrupt, but I just want to say, if
this is what you look like grieving a relationship and
in your healing error, I want to find a guide
(11:46):
just to break up with him, because you are glowing,
You are beautiful, You are no truly, you are gorgeous.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I do have a personal question, though sometimes you can,
you can forgive somebody the trust, right was it in
your head you were thinking I couldn't handle him making
a fool out of me again and doing it a
second time.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
Are you talking in regards to like making the relationship
public again, why I was kind of weary.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
It's different dating in public. It's a whole different thing.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Certainly.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Well, I will say I do have a little bit
of PTSD because the last time I went public with him,
my world literally shattered in front of me. I definitely
trust trusted him, and still trust him now, just because
I saw the shift and energy that he was giving,
and I honestly think his world was rocked so badly
(12:48):
with everything that he would ever do that, not only
to me, but to anyone else. So I so the
three weeks went great. I was like, Okay, I'm about
to go public with him. I need to prove to him,
even though like I feel like I didn't it wasn't
really my responsibility to prove to him. But I was like,
I want to make this work. And so right it
(13:11):
was fourth of July week, so this is really fresh,
and I was so excited because Jess was going home
back to Florida, and so I was going to be
in San Diego basically by myself, and I was like,
we're gonna have the best week together, like it's going
to feel like normal. And I went to Austin Texas
with some of the Bachelor girls. So I get back
from Austin, Texas, and I could just feel like this
(13:34):
like energy ship, this nership. He was acting very try,
he just wasn't himself. So I get home. We have
a big, long conversation and he chose to end thinks
he said.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Okay, we're both sitting there with our mouths hanging open.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Yeah, no, I'm going to get a little emotional. I
know it's okay.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
So he just OK, it's okay, yeah, crime for you.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
I just it's still so fresh, but he's yeah. I honestly,
I honestly was so. Yes, I was a little shocked,
just because we had this com We had the same
conversation about him month ago, but then we were doing
so good, and he kept emphasizing in the month that
we were doing so well, Like, honestly, Kylie, like I
(14:23):
see things going far with us. It started it feels
like it did back then. So I was shocked. I yeah,
it was definitely a tough conversation. I don't really want
to speak for him for him, but basically what he
had to say was some days he felt he would
(14:44):
wake up and he would think he had such great
hope for us, think that we could get to where
we needed to be to have a friend future together.
And then other days he woke up and he was
just like, there's so much damage that I have done personally.
I don't think our relationship will ever recover from that.
And he said that I didn't deserve someone who was
unsure about me, and that's why he was taking a
(15:08):
step back. So I was screaming, crying, throwing up. I
booked a flight to North Carolina to see my mom
because when you're sad the person, and so a couple
of days later, I am still in the healing process.
But I will say there were days where I was like,
(15:29):
I don't know how I'm going to survive this, Like
this pain and his hurt is so heavy. But just
looking back at those days and how I'm feeling currently,
I'm like, I can do this.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Yes, that's what I want to hear.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
You can. You can.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
You can look at us. We just said in Unis
and Kylie, you can and you will.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
See time time heals, it does heal, and you've learned.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
Have you learned? Let me ask you this, I can
see the hurt as beautiful as you are. I can
see you're hurting, and I'm so sorry you're hurting, and
it's easy to say, it's easy to say, time will heal.
I look at you and my daughter and her heart
broken almost very identical, almost identical to you, So you know,
it makes me almost start crying because I remember what
(16:14):
she went through and she's happily, very nice. You know,
But you you do you feel like you learned enough
that you can move on in a way that made
it all valuable. Because I hope that's the case.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Oh absolutely. I think there is a reason and a
purpose for everything. Like I said, this was, I think
I learned how to love. I've never really been with
someone who I've given my everything to, and I was
always scared because in my past, like situationships of things,
I felt as though I was constantly looking for something
(16:52):
or someone a little bit better. So I was like,
am I always going to have that feeling? Like? Am
I ever just not going to settle down like that
scares me? And I said, I'm in time again with Avan.
It was like justin Bieber, the love of my life,
who I've loved since I was a child, if he
came up to me and I was with Avan At
that time, I probably would have been like, no, Justin Bieber,
(17:13):
I don't want you. I'm with Evan Jels.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
So so you felt real love. That's what it is.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yes, you know. I hope that you settle on the
I hope you think about all the positives, the you know,
the family you have that loves you, the people who
love you, the future you have. I know that all
probably sounds trit right now.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
It does, yeah, right when you're nothing.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
So yeah, nothing makes it easier, I will say, but
like my god, it well he's OK, Dad, so someone else.
But I find a strength in knowing that just a
couple of days ago, I was barely able to get
out of bed and don't want to talk to anyone,
like I just wanted to be by myself and my thoughts.
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And here I am today, like I put makeupond. I'm
talking to you guys, so.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Like you are a beautiful young woman.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
You are you, and I will tell you before because
I had written all these questions. After listening to your podcast,
I was enthralled by you and your story and you
were so mature and I thought, oh my gosh, I
can't wait to meet this beautiful young lady, and here
you are. And I will say to you, based on
what I have listened to and heard you say, it's
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probably not going to make you feel better. But I
promise you, honey, you are going to be fine. You
are going to be You are going to survive triumphantly.
You're going to move forward in a life you will.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
You go through anger and son, you know, and then
you get stronger. We all have gone through it. That
broken hearts, that is you know.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
And I remember my first love to you, Susan, Yes, absolutely,
and he Aiden was your first love, right, her first
real love. That's your first real love.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
Oh, it was my first real love.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Yeah. You will always carry a piece of them with
you and that it's going to make you a richer,
lovely human being. It's it's it's just you know, you
take these pieces in your life and it fills your heart.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
I hate expression, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
He's going to be a lot strongs.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
At the end of the day. He has caused a
lot of hurt in my life. I was even since
like the beginning when we were in Paradise together and
I so was like longing for him just to make
that commitment to me and he couldn't, and just after
that it's been a ripple effect. But I don't have
any hate in my heart towards him. I know he's
(19:46):
a good person and I know he wants to be
a good person and it he'll be that that person
for someone else, just not me. Uh, And I'm like,
I wish him nothing but the best.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
Do you truly?
Speaker 1 (19:58):
It's a do you truly leave? I know? Today? Is it? Truly?
The door is shut? Like there's no no I just
I just think, I mean, never say never.
Speaker 3 (20:09):
But at this point there has just almost like what
you said, there has been so much damage that's done
and we both in different portions of the relationship have
like given it are all and unfortunately it wasn't reciprocated back.
So I just I don't see a world where that happens.
But like I said, everything happens for a reason. So
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later down the road we find ways back together, then great.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
But I just think right now, if it was meant
to be, some people say it'll be, but right now
you do you?
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Yes? So yeah, I am right, Like I'm a fish.
I'm so excited because I feel like my san Diego
experience so far has been consumed with like our relationship,
but I want to genuinely enjoy San Diego and build
a life for myself out there and my own life. Yeah,
so I decided to kind of hit the ground running
(21:06):
with that.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
So I want to know, did your family like him?
Speaker 3 (21:10):
My family was obsessed with him prior to everything happening,
and then even after the fact, my mom especially obviously
she was kind of over hurt because she saw how
her eye was, but she was still his biggest cheerleader
because she knew at the end of the day how
happy he made me and how much I loved him.
So although she didn't necessarily agree with all of the
(21:34):
things that he had done, she was willing to kind
of move past that if I was willing to move
past it.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
And how is she right this moment?
Speaker 3 (21:44):
She is very sad for me. I feel so bad
for her because I'm like, Mom, I've taken like ten
years off of your life from all the things I've
put you through. Because she felt like when I'm sad,
she feels it so deeply and so yeah, and you
being so far away from her, She's just like, I
can't be there, so She's like, if you want to
(22:06):
come home right this second, we'll figure out a way. Like,
if you it's unbearable for you to live there, you
can come back home. But I don't want. I want
to do this for myself. I don't want to live
into because and.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
You know what that's going to stretch you and Aiden.
I mean, San Diego's a big enough place. You don't
need to run into each other.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
Right exactly exactly?
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Do you have plans? I know you want to make
the most of it, and those are all great catch phrases.
You know, I'm going to live my best life and
all that. Are you actively going to make plans of
things you can do to rebuild your life and tell
me about it?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Taking time?
Speaker 3 (22:52):
Yeah, so I think right now I'm taking it minute
by minute, not even a day at a time. But
I do you want to go back to school and
get my masters? I plan to do that. I was
gonna to become a nurse practitioner, so I'm jumping back
into school to do that. I want to do midwife
three school so where I can actually deliver the damies myself.
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So that's kind of take a toll on my social life.
But I'm very excited to kind of build my career.
I think at some point I'm going to have to
put myself back out their relationship.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Wise, my next question, Yeah, what do you think that
will be.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
On your side?
Speaker 3 (23:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (23:34):
Time on your side. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
I also know the self though, So it's kind of
if you get married early, you have kids early, and
that's just what you do. So I want that.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Now you're but now you're a surfer girl in San
Diego and the rules are different. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
Now I'm on the West coast, so I can later.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
But true, well, would you ever go back on Paradise?
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Oh my god. Okay, so it's all the announcement that
it's coming in twenty twenty five, and.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Now I thought it was going to be a golden one. Geez,
you know.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Okay, you guys can join like you can.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
Oh yeah, Susan, can you see this Kathy with a
one piece? I'll be a you know, a one piece
that has a skirt of taps so no one has
to look at my thighs and this girl adorable bikini.
Oh god, that would be a horror show.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I would.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
I live despite everything, I lived my best life in Paradise,
and if they asked me to go back tomorrow, I
would pack my bags and I would take a flight
to Mexico and live my best life once again. So
I would definitely go back if asked.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
Good. I think this girl, you may feel like you're
living minute to minute, but you know what your answer
just told me. You have a heart and you want
to share it with someone. I like it. I like it.
I like it. Okay, well she's going to paradise, Susan.
You and I. You know, I'm going to be a
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chambermaid and you're going to be like a prep in
the kitchen. And there it is. I said to ask,
did you get a new hairstyle?
Speaker 3 (25:25):
I did so I cut my hair. She is officially
a new woman. Like six inches of baggage that was
weighing down is no longer there. So I think this
is just a fresh start to my new life.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
I love it, absolutely amazing. At any man, any man
is going to be begging to get your attention.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
You are truly beautiful. All right, we do this thing
where we get some questions and then we give some advice.
Will you join us when you give your advice, because
clearly you're a smart woman.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Ladies, and gentleman advice with Kyle.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
There we go, All right, here we go. This first
one is from Tracy. She's forty one from Seattle, Washington. Hello,
Kathy and Susan and Kylie. I recently started dating a
new guy and he's everything I've wanted for so long.
The thing is, he's twenty nine and I'm forty one.
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We have been together for six months and have met
each other's family and friends, and it's all gone better
than all my past relationships have gone. But my concern
is we might be on different timelines for having kids
and getting married. He's a serious guy when it comes
to dating and seems ready to find the one. I
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just would need to move very quickly if kids are
in our future. I've always dreamed about being a mom,
but I'm not sure if it's too early to bring
that up since we've only been together six months. I
also don't want to waste either of our time. Let
me know if you have any thought or advice on
how I should go about this. Thank you so much,
(27:03):
Go Kylie? What do you think?
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Juicy? So? My first thing is age is just a number.
If he makes you happy and checks all of your boxes,
why not, I will say, you don't like you said,
you don't want to waste your time or his time.
So it's important to have these conversations because they're big
conversations and they could set the trajectory of your relationship.
So kind of just rip the band aid off, girlfriend,
(27:28):
ask him those questions, even though it's going to be
a little bit nerve racking.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Months six months while you get to know Wody in
six months. Yeah, why are your future pla right?
Speaker 3 (27:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
Susan, who who married my son and his wife back
in March, officiated it. They talked about everything on the
first date, first date.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
First date.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Yeah, a lot.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
That's a lot.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Six months and they're married and they should have that conversation.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
She doesn't want to waste six more months with him,
and that's not something he's wanting, so I.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Say, have it, yeah, because I guess if he doesn't
want kids.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
We're all in agreement. Big see Tracy communicate all right.
The next one's from Nora. She's thirty two from Switzerland,
San Diego. Do you know where that is?
Speaker 1 (28:22):
I don't think I think she's dual. I think she
lives in Switzerland part time in San Diego, part time.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
Oh make sense?
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Okay, High Golden Gals. My husband and I have been
together since twenty seventeen and we got married in twenty nineteen.
I am originally from Switzerland and we live in San
Diego now, which is where we met. I was here
for university when we first met got married. I thought
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I would be okay living in the US with him
for the rest of my life, but now I'm feeling
really called to move back to be close to my family.
My sister just had her first baby, and I feel
like I'm missing everything. I also can't imagine not having
kids near them. My husband has always said he can't
(29:10):
move overseas due to his work, and now we are
in a real bind. We love each other very much,
but we can't seem to come to an agreement on
where to live. I know people say to talk about
this before getting married, but I was younger then and
have just changed my mind about being so close to
my family. Do you have any advice on what I
(29:32):
should do. No one has technically given an ultimatum, but
if I move that will likely be the end of
our marriage. Any thoughts are appreciated. Wow, that's hard, that's
your person. I love with him.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Yeah, I know there is once.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
In a while.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Yeah, yeah, but I know of her experiences and because
even and I had this battle because I wanted to
live in Charlotte and he never saw him lif moving
from the West Coast, and so I just kept thinking that, Okay,
we're going to be together. He's going to love me
enough to want to do that, And so I did.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
That's what you were thinking deep down?
Speaker 3 (30:15):
Yeah, I was like, yeah, if he loves me enough,
he would. And she already made that sacrifice to live
in San Diego and moved to the States with him
for a little bit. Why can't help me that?
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Oh no, no, no, they met No, no, no, he's from city.
They met there. She sorts and went to school there. Now,
her daughters had, her sisters had a baby. She was
she's it's kind of like.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
You really can't go because of his career.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
This this is the Kylie Show, except that she's married
to this guy and he doesn't want to So you
know what I say, I think I think they got
married young and they didn't really think it through.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
That's passed. Like, what does she do now? That's what
she's asking, Well, Kylie, go home and if you love
him enough, I stay right by his side, right.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
Yeah. I don't have any advice for her because I
was literally her and I am moved, and I moved,
but I was struggling with the fact in a couple
of years when I started a family with my own,
I want to be near my family. I want my
parents to help raising my kids.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
So I think you guys are both living I think
you're both living in a dream world. I think many
marriages have broken up because the wife or you know,
one or the other is like I love this, you know,
like you just said, Kylie, you've lived in San Diego
for a time, but you want to be back in Charlotte.
(31:41):
And there's nothing wrong with that. I just don't think
she gave it enough. Thought she was young, she was nineteen. Uh,
she's now thirty two. She got married very young, and
people change. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
I was away with Dickie when he was playing ball.
We had our children in Texas.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
And you moved back to Hilly and you moved and
she got divorced three years later. Though, Well she's thirty two.
She met this guy when she was nineteen, and now
they're divorced. You know, I don't know. You know what
my husband and I did, Kylie. We didn't live in
We didn't live in either place. My husband was from
New York State. I was from Massachusetts. He was a
(32:26):
military officer initially, so we moved around and that's how
we got to Texas. He went to grad school in Boston,
and we picked a place that neither of us had
ever lived. And can I tell you it was fair?
But I missed so much of my family. I missed
out on so many things I did.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
But life, that's a choice.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
Yeah, and I made that choice. But I'm just saying,
you missed. You know, you can't have it all.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
Do you regret it?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
No? No, I don't. But I'm being honest. It's you know,
we're not living in you know, Disneyland here. I did.
I did miss him. I mean I did miss my
Palma one.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
I don't wish.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Look at you, Kylie. You made that move mostly for him,
because of him. But now you're standing on your own
two feet. You're getting more of your career off the ground. Yes,
to be a nurse practitioner, go to school, figure out out.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Yeah, I want you because you know Susan and I
are the czars here. We want you to focus on building.
You're already beautiful. You don't have to work on that.
You're beautiful inside and out. Build your life, go to school,
live your life. I'm getting goosebumps because I know what
your future is. I know what your future is, so
(33:57):
it's going to be amazing. And I want you to
come back when Susan and I are in wheelchairs still
doing this podcast and tell us I want you to
name your first child Kathy and your second one Susan.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
You guys are going to be annoy the wedding, so
I don't know do the wedding.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
I don't appreciate the wedding.
Speaker 3 (34:15):
Is officiating and Kathy, you're going to be one of
our dreds.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
Okay, So I have one more question for you.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
Is there anything that you'd like to say from here
to bachclination before we go? Yes?
Speaker 3 (34:28):
I know, yeah, So first off, I just want to
think bacheloration because they have stuck by my side through
everything and they've kind of given me that tough advice
that I needed to hear. Even though sometimes I don't
necessarily want to hear it, I know I can sometimes
be annoying on television with all of the tears and
the back and forth, but they've stuck beside me, and
(34:51):
for that I'm forever grateful. I hope this is not
the last of what you see of me Vachlination, and
I hope that one day good to see that happy,
ever love story that I think I deserve, You do deserve.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
Can I just say you deserve happiness, you deserve love.
On the Golden Bachelor, that was the whole thing. Everyone
deserves love, do you hear me? Kylie? Everyone deserves love
and to be loved. So we're rooting for you, and
unfortunately that's gonna do it for this episode. Now.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
I love welcome with you, We.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Love talking to you, but that does it for this
episode of Bachelor, Happy Hours, Golden Hour, and Kylie, really
thank you so much. You gave great advice, and really
thank you for sharing your story and letting being so
truthful and honest. It's just you're a lovely, lovely person.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
We love getting the chat with you, and you know what,
we're very proud of you. Thank you.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
I'm I'm yourself some of you, and thank you for
all of the advice as well.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
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Speaker 1 (01:11):
Only today our Bachelor Nation star Kylie Rustless here. Hi, Kylie,
thanks so much for joining us. We're so excited to
be chatting with you. I have so many questions, we
don't know where to begin.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
You're adorable.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Thank you, Thanks, ladies. I am so excited. I have
been dying to meet you, so just get to talk
to you today. I am kind of freaking out inside
a lots to cover, but I'm so excited to be
talking about it with you and then hopefully get some
advice from my big sisters.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Oh big sister, you hear that, Susan, big sister. Okay, First, Kylie,
I want to tell you the three of us have
something in common. So I listened to your podcast with
Serena and Joe and we'll get into that a bit.
But Susan, the three of us have a lot in common.
She loves Christmas. When I was on the Golden Bachelor,
that one of the things I said. I was obsessed
(02:01):
with Christmas. But more importantly, more importantly, she loves tequila,
my favorite drink. Am I right? And Susan? Are you ready?
And guess what else? Susan? She loves all things Italian,
loves Italian food. Are we sisters? Or are we? Then?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I was about to say I need to try your meatball, Susan,
and then think her sister is definitely separated at birth,
so let's get together.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Are you Italian?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
I'm not Italian? I think always the first question someone
asks you when they meet me is like, Okay, Kylie,
what are you? Because my look is so ambiguous. But
my mom is fully white, and then my dad is
half black, half Cherokee Indians. So I'm a little bit
of a mutt.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
You're beautiful, You are gorgeous. You are, but.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
It's always a good conversation starter.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
All right, we live in San Diego.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Yes, I live in San Diego. I moved there back
in February with Jess from the show. I'm actually in
North Carolina. I'm visiting my family right now.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
But are you in Charlotte? Are you in Charlotte.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
I'm in Charlotte. Yes, born and raised here.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
I did my research.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
My ex husbands from Charlotte.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Oh no, if I see him, I'll give him the
evil eye if that's which.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Oh no, No, we're good friends here, but that's where
we love them.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
But yeah, no, definitely going to settle back in Charlotte
one day.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
All right, tell me about life in San Diego. That's
like the best climate on the universe.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Oh, my god, it is literally paradise on earth. The
only thing that kind of would not allow me to
stay there forever is because my family is back in Charlotte.
But San Diego has been great to me thus far.
I enjoy my work so much there. I'm still a
post part nurse, so I take care of all the
new mamas and babies.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I was impressed you got on the day shift. When
you move there, can.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
You tell me about that. I want to say I'm
a unicorn because you are.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
You are unicorn one, so I know I know you
loved taking my daughter had a baby in the nick
you for and and the post part of nurses. Let
me just hats off to all of you out there.
You guys are amazing. You don't you know? You know
what a new mother is like, and you guys do
(04:17):
an admirable job. So the next time I have the baby,
which will be the twelfth Comember, I'm coming to you
in her next life.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
I will take such good care of you.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Pay Okay, we got to get to the big tea
here though, because we got a lot to come up.
I want to be caught upon your day with I
know because I listened that you told Joe and Serena
that the door was still open for you, and is it.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
This information is still very new and raw, and this
has been something This has been the first platform, or
even really the first big conversation I've had about this.
So I might get a little emotional. So we're here
for you.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
We're here for you.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yeah, it's just a lot. It has been a six
month period post show too unpacked, and I don't even
know if mentally I'm fully like kind of subttled with it,
but I'm want to do the best I can today.
So recently, even and I decided to part ways. So
we'll start by saying the door is closed. There's a
(05:27):
lot he'd gone forever, and that's something I'm still coping. Like.
That's a big reason why I'm here with my family,
just because, like I said, it's been a year of
him and I but the six months post me finding
out of his infidelity has just been so hard. And
although everyone, especially on the internet, has told me, Kylie
(05:51):
like you deserve better, it's time to walk away, that's
still a lot easier said than done, especially when you
love someone so much like I did. Even and so
I think right now I'm just in my healing era
and trying to find the ability just to kind of
(06:12):
have my own life in San Diego, which is Kylie
her being single, and just kind of settling with myself
and being by myself.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
I want to say, when I listened to you talking
on Serena and Joe's podcast, a couple of things I
just want to say. And I said this before. I
said it to Susan because she listened to most of
it but missed this part. You said that you know
the drawer, if you could do the work. You said
(06:43):
all these things, And I said to Susan, she doesn't
know it yet, but the door is closed, did I not? Susan?
You said, you said, and you you could, You just
didn't know it yet. But we are happy for you
that you are a sure beautiful lady, and the fact
that you've made a decision that works for you is
(07:07):
I mean, what else can you say? Yeah, it's going
to take time to heal.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Yeah, I wish like that. I think what I've been
saying to everyone. I wish I could close my eyes
and blinked. A couple of months ago, a month, a
couple of months from now. Excuse me, because I just
want to I want to be healed already. I'm tired
of being sad, but I know that just takes time.
This is my first ever heartbreak. I've never been in
love before or honestly had a real relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
How old are you again, Kylie?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Twenty six, twenty six, twenty six, Kylie, would you mind
sharing what happened?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Yeah? So, after finding about the infidelity, I was like, Okay,
I don't think I can beat with this man any longer.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I don't just a one time flinger. Was it a relationship?
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Like so, post finding out, it was a period of
She's trying to mend that trust back and to kind
of get back to where we once were. And I
will say in the beginning, he was doing the work,
he was going to therapy, he was ensuring that my
(08:14):
move to San Diego went smoothly, and he was there
for me and he was providing for me. And it
was great. But I will be one hundred percent honest,
I'm human, and there was still a small part of
me that was holding back. I wanted yeah, yeah, yeah,
And so I was hoping. I was like, hey, please
(08:35):
just give him grace, Like I know I can get
to where I was before. I just need time. And
then also too, I was in this mental battle of
moving to a new place. I want to say that
I moved for myself and for the new experience, but
a big part of my reasoning behind them was for him,
of course, And so I was trying to cope with
(08:58):
the fact that I was my I was away from
my family, not knowing anyone, I was starting a completely
new job. I was just simply trying to get my footing,
plus battling with minding a relationship that was so broken.
So I was just on the outside, I was like, Okay,
I'm good, it's fine. But on the inside, I was
(09:19):
really battling with a lot and I didn't think it
was noticeable, but unfortunately it kind of took a toll
on him in a sense of putting it. He felt
as though he was putting in all of this work,
but a lot of what I was doing wasn't like
reciprocating all the luck that he was giving me.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
If that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Yeah, So about a month ago we had a big
tough conversation, him kind of expressing to me, Hey, I'm
doing all this, I want this to work, but I
still feel like you're holding back. I don't know if
this is going to work anymore. I think that was
kind of my like punching the like, oh, my good call,
(10:02):
Like if you want to be with him, you need
to be with him. You need to really put things
into gear and try to make this work and give
him one hundred percent like he's been giving you. And
so that was actually our one year or one year
from meeting from Paradise with that week, and we had
already planned like a little yeah, we had already planned
(10:24):
like a little getaway to Malibu, and so I was like, even,
I know you're pretty close off right now, but please
just give it some time. Let's go to Malibu. Let's
see if we can kind of rekindle what we've lost.
We had a great time in Malibu. I honestly feel
as though I felt like I did when I was
first meeting him three weeks after that, like it was
(10:45):
really really good. I was so excited, like I almost
had that gidea feeling back. And another thing that I
was mentally kind of going back and forth with is
at some point I have to make this relationship public again.
And what was hording me back from that? It was like,
I know the public scrutiny that's going to come from
doing that, and so before I do that, I need
(11:08):
to know for a fact he's my man, and I'm
sticking beside him.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
You're saying this is it's either in or out because
we can't go back and do this. Yeah, yeah, right right, Siam.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
And so I what that three weeks I was thinking, sorry, no, no,
it's it's just it's not because you're old.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
No, I just mouth everyone is lead, I said. She
called me, ma'am, I mouth that, and she said, exactly
what all beautiful young and trust me, this girl is
gorgeous by the way, I just say just I don't
want to interrupt, but I just want to say, if
this is what you look like grieving a relationship and
in your healing error, I want to find a guide
(11:46):
just to break up with him, because you are glowing,
You are beautiful, You are no truly, you are gorgeous.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I do have a personal question, though sometimes you can,
you can forgive somebody the trust, right was it in
your head you were thinking I couldn't handle him making
a fool out of me again and doing it a
second time.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
Are you talking in regards to like making the relationship
public again, why I was kind of weary.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
It's different dating in public. It's a whole different thing.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Certainly.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Well, I will say I do have a little bit
of PTSD because the last time I went public with him,
my world literally shattered in front of me. I definitely
trust trusted him, and still trust him now, just because
I saw the shift and energy that he was giving,
and I honestly think his world was rocked so badly
(12:48):
with everything that he would ever do that, not only
to me, but to anyone else. So I so the
three weeks went great. I was like, Okay, I'm about
to go public with him. I need to prove to him,
even though like I feel like I didn't it wasn't
really my responsibility to prove to him. But I was like,
I want to make this work. And so right it
(13:11):
was fourth of July week, so this is really fresh,
and I was so excited because Jess was going home
back to Florida, and so I was going to be
in San Diego basically by myself, and I was like,
we're gonna have the best week together, like it's going
to feel like normal. And I went to Austin Texas
with some of the Bachelor girls. So I get back
from Austin, Texas, and I could just feel like this
(13:34):
like energy ship, this nership. He was acting very try,
he just wasn't himself. So I get home. We have
a big, long conversation and he chose to end thinks
he said.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Okay, we're both sitting there with our mouths hanging open.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Yeah, no, I'm going to get a little emotional. I
know it's okay.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
So he just OK, it's okay, yeah, crime for you.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
I just it's still so fresh, but he's yeah. I honestly,
I honestly was so. Yes, I was a little shocked,
just because we had this com We had the same
conversation about him month ago, but then we were doing
so good, and he kept emphasizing in the month that
we were doing so well, Like, honestly, Kylie, like I
(14:23):
see things going far with us. It started it feels
like it did back then. So I was shocked. I yeah,
it was definitely a tough conversation. I don't really want
to speak for him for him, but basically what he
had to say was some days he felt he would
(14:44):
wake up and he would think he had such great
hope for us, think that we could get to where
we needed to be to have a friend future together.
And then other days he woke up and he was
just like, there's so much damage that I have done personally.
I don't think our relationship will ever recover from that.
And he said that I didn't deserve someone who was
unsure about me, and that's why he was taking a
(15:08):
step back. So I was screaming, crying, throwing up. I
booked a flight to North Carolina to see my mom
because when you're sad the person, and so a couple
of days later, I am still in the healing process.
But I will say there were days where I was like,
(15:29):
I don't know how I'm going to survive this, Like
this pain and his hurt is so heavy. But just
looking back at those days and how I'm feeling currently,
I'm like, I can do this.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Yes, that's what I want to hear.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
You can. You can.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
You can look at us. We just said in Unis
and Kylie, you can and you will.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
See time time heals, it does heal, and you've learned.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
Have you learned? Let me ask you this, I can
see the hurt as beautiful as you are. I can
see you're hurting, and I'm so sorry you're hurting, and
it's easy to say, it's easy to say, time will heal.
I look at you and my daughter and her heart
broken almost very identical, almost identical to you, So you know,
it makes me almost start crying because I remember what
(16:14):
she went through and she's happily, very nice. You know,
But you you do you feel like you learned enough
that you can move on in a way that made
it all valuable. Because I hope that's the case.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Oh absolutely. I think there is a reason and a
purpose for everything. Like I said, this was, I think
I learned how to love. I've never really been with
someone who I've given my everything to, and I was
always scared because in my past, like situationships of things,
I felt as though I was constantly looking for something
(16:52):
or someone a little bit better. So I was like,
am I always going to have that feeling? Like? Am
I ever just not going to settle down like that
scares me? And I said, I'm in time again with Avan.
It was like justin Bieber, the love of my life,
who I've loved since I was a child, if he
came up to me and I was with Avan At
that time, I probably would have been like, no, Justin Bieber,
(17:13):
I don't want you. I'm with Evan Jels.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
So so you felt real love. That's what it is.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yes, you know. I hope that you settle on the
I hope you think about all the positives, the you know,
the family you have that loves you, the people who
love you, the future you have. I know that all
probably sounds trit right now.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
It does, yeah, right when you're nothing.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
So yeah, nothing makes it easier, I will say, but
like my god, it well he's OK, Dad, so someone else.
But I find a strength in knowing that just a
couple of days ago, I was barely able to get
out of bed and don't want to talk to anyone,
like I just wanted to be by myself and my thoughts.
(17:59):
And here I am today, like I put makeupond. I'm
talking to you guys, so.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Like you are a beautiful young woman.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
You are you, and I will tell you before because
I had written all these questions. After listening to your podcast,
I was enthralled by you and your story and you
were so mature and I thought, oh my gosh, I
can't wait to meet this beautiful young lady, and here
you are. And I will say to you, based on
what I have listened to and heard you say, it's
(18:31):
probably not going to make you feel better. But I
promise you, honey, you are going to be fine. You
are going to be You are going to survive triumphantly.
You're going to move forward in a life you will.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
You go through anger and son, you know, and then
you get stronger. We all have gone through it. That
broken hearts, that is you know.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
And I remember my first love to you, Susan, Yes, absolutely,
and he Aiden was your first love, right, her first
real love. That's your first real love.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
Oh, it was my first real love.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Yeah. You will always carry a piece of them with
you and that it's going to make you a richer,
lovely human being. It's it's it's just you know, you
take these pieces in your life and it fills your heart.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
I hate expression, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
He's going to be a lot strongs.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
At the end of the day. He has caused a
lot of hurt in my life. I was even since
like the beginning when we were in Paradise together and
I so was like longing for him just to make
that commitment to me and he couldn't, and just after
that it's been a ripple effect. But I don't have
any hate in my heart towards him. I know he's
(19:46):
a good person and I know he wants to be
a good person and it he'll be that that person
for someone else, just not me. Uh, And I'm like,
I wish him nothing but the best.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
Do you truly?
Speaker 1 (19:58):
It's a do you truly leave? I know? Today? Is it? Truly?
The door is shut? Like there's no no I just
I just think, I mean, never say never.
Speaker 3 (20:09):
But at this point there has just almost like what
you said, there has been so much damage that's done
and we both in different portions of the relationship have
like given it are all and unfortunately it wasn't reciprocated back.
So I just I don't see a world where that happens.
But like I said, everything happens for a reason. So
(20:33):
later down the road we find ways back together, then great.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
But I just think right now, if it was meant
to be, some people say it'll be, but right now
you do you?
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Yes? So yeah, I am right, Like I'm a fish.
I'm so excited because I feel like my san Diego
experience so far has been consumed with like our relationship,
but I want to genuinely enjoy San Diego and build
a life for myself out there and my own life. Yeah,
so I decided to kind of hit the ground running
(21:06):
with that.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
So I want to know, did your family like him?
Speaker 3 (21:10):
My family was obsessed with him prior to everything happening,
and then even after the fact, my mom especially obviously
she was kind of over hurt because she saw how
her eye was, but she was still his biggest cheerleader
because she knew at the end of the day how
happy he made me and how much I loved him.
So although she didn't necessarily agree with all of the
(21:34):
things that he had done, she was willing to kind
of move past that if I was willing to move
past it.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
And how is she right this moment?
Speaker 3 (21:44):
She is very sad for me. I feel so bad
for her because I'm like, Mom, I've taken like ten
years off of your life from all the things I've
put you through. Because she felt like when I'm sad,
she feels it so deeply and so yeah, and you
being so far away from her, She's just like, I
can't be there, so She's like, if you want to
(22:06):
come home right this second, we'll figure out a way. Like,
if you it's unbearable for you to live there, you
can come back home. But I don't want. I want
to do this for myself. I don't want to live
into because and.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
You know what that's going to stretch you and Aiden.
I mean, San Diego's a big enough place. You don't
need to run into each other.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
Right exactly exactly?
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Do you have plans? I know you want to make
the most of it, and those are all great catch phrases.
You know, I'm going to live my best life and
all that. Are you actively going to make plans of
things you can do to rebuild your life and tell
me about it?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Taking time?
Speaker 3 (22:52):
Yeah, so I think right now I'm taking it minute
by minute, not even a day at a time. But
I do you want to go back to school and
get my masters? I plan to do that. I was
gonna to become a nurse practitioner, so I'm jumping back
into school to do that. I want to do midwife
three school so where I can actually deliver the damies myself.
(23:16):
So that's kind of take a toll on my social life.
But I'm very excited to kind of build my career.
I think at some point I'm going to have to
put myself back out their relationship.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Wise, my next question, Yeah, what do you think that
will be.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
On your side?
Speaker 3 (23:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (23:34):
Time on your side. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
I also know the self though, So it's kind of
if you get married early, you have kids early, and
that's just what you do. So I want that.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Now you're but now you're a surfer girl in San
Diego and the rules are different. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
Now I'm on the West coast, so I can later.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
But true, well, would you ever go back on Paradise?
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Oh my god. Okay, so it's all the announcement that
it's coming in twenty twenty five, and.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Now I thought it was going to be a golden one. Geez,
you know.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Okay, you guys can join like you can.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
Oh yeah, Susan, can you see this Kathy with a
one piece? I'll be a you know, a one piece
that has a skirt of taps so no one has
to look at my thighs and this girl adorable bikini.
Oh god, that would be a horror show.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I would.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
I live despite everything, I lived my best life in Paradise,
and if they asked me to go back tomorrow, I
would pack my bags and I would take a flight
to Mexico and live my best life once again. So
I would definitely go back if asked.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
Good. I think this girl, you may feel like you're
living minute to minute, but you know what your answer
just told me. You have a heart and you want
to share it with someone. I like it. I like it.
I like it. Okay, well she's going to paradise, Susan.
You and I. You know, I'm going to be a
(25:17):
chambermaid and you're going to be like a prep in
the kitchen. And there it is. I said to ask,
did you get a new hairstyle?
Speaker 3 (25:25):
I did so I cut my hair. She is officially
a new woman. Like six inches of baggage that was
weighing down is no longer there. So I think this
is just a fresh start to my new life.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
I love it, absolutely amazing. At any man, any man
is going to be begging to get your attention.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
You are truly beautiful. All right, we do this thing
where we get some questions and then we give some advice.
Will you join us when you give your advice, because
clearly you're a smart woman.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Ladies, and gentleman advice with Kyle.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
There we go, All right, here we go. This first
one is from Tracy. She's forty one from Seattle, Washington. Hello,
Kathy and Susan and Kylie. I recently started dating a
new guy and he's everything I've wanted for so long.
The thing is, he's twenty nine and I'm forty one.
(26:22):
We have been together for six months and have met
each other's family and friends, and it's all gone better
than all my past relationships have gone. But my concern
is we might be on different timelines for having kids
and getting married. He's a serious guy when it comes
to dating and seems ready to find the one. I
(26:43):
just would need to move very quickly if kids are
in our future. I've always dreamed about being a mom,
but I'm not sure if it's too early to bring
that up since we've only been together six months. I
also don't want to waste either of our time. Let
me know if you have any thought or advice on
how I should go about this. Thank you so much,
(27:03):
Go Kylie? What do you think?
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Juicy? So? My first thing is age is just a number.
If he makes you happy and checks all of your boxes,
why not, I will say, you don't like you said,
you don't want to waste your time or his time.
So it's important to have these conversations because they're big
conversations and they could set the trajectory of your relationship.
So kind of just rip the band aid off, girlfriend,
(27:28):
ask him those questions, even though it's going to be
a little bit nerve racking.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Months six months while you get to know Wody in
six months. Yeah, why are your future pla right?
Speaker 3 (27:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
Susan, who who married my son and his wife back
in March, officiated it. They talked about everything on the
first date, first date.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
First date.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Yeah, a lot.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
That's a lot.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Six months and they're married and they should have that conversation.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
She doesn't want to waste six more months with him,
and that's not something he's wanting, so I.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Say, have it, yeah, because I guess if he doesn't
want kids.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
We're all in agreement. Big see Tracy communicate all right.
The next one's from Nora. She's thirty two from Switzerland,
San Diego. Do you know where that is?
Speaker 1 (28:22):
I don't think I think she's dual. I think she
lives in Switzerland part time in San Diego, part time.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
Oh make sense?
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Okay, High Golden Gals. My husband and I have been
together since twenty seventeen and we got married in twenty nineteen.
I am originally from Switzerland and we live in San
Diego now, which is where we met. I was here
for university when we first met got married. I thought
(28:49):
I would be okay living in the US with him
for the rest of my life, but now I'm feeling
really called to move back to be close to my family.
My sister just had her first baby, and I feel
like I'm missing everything. I also can't imagine not having
kids near them. My husband has always said he can't
(29:10):
move overseas due to his work, and now we are
in a real bind. We love each other very much,
but we can't seem to come to an agreement on
where to live. I know people say to talk about
this before getting married, but I was younger then and
have just changed my mind about being so close to
my family. Do you have any advice on what I
(29:32):
should do. No one has technically given an ultimatum, but
if I move that will likely be the end of
our marriage. Any thoughts are appreciated. Wow, that's hard, that's
your person. I love with him.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Yeah, I know there is once.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
In a while.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Yeah, yeah, but I know of her experiences and because
even and I had this battle because I wanted to
live in Charlotte and he never saw him lif moving
from the West Coast, and so I just kept thinking that, Okay,
we're going to be together. He's going to love me
enough to want to do that, And so I did.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
That's what you were thinking deep down?
Speaker 3 (30:15):
Yeah, I was like, yeah, if he loves me enough,
he would. And she already made that sacrifice to live
in San Diego and moved to the States with him
for a little bit. Why can't help me that?
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Oh no, no, no, they met No, no, no, he's from city.
They met there. She sorts and went to school there. Now,
her daughters had, her sisters had a baby. She was
she's it's kind of like.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
You really can't go because of his career.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
This this is the Kylie Show, except that she's married
to this guy and he doesn't want to So you
know what I say, I think I think they got
married young and they didn't really think it through.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
That's passed. Like, what does she do now? That's what
she's asking, Well, Kylie, go home and if you love
him enough, I stay right by his side, right.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
Yeah. I don't have any advice for her because I
was literally her and I am moved, and I moved,
but I was struggling with the fact in a couple
of years when I started a family with my own,
I want to be near my family. I want my
parents to help raising my kids.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
So I think you guys are both living I think
you're both living in a dream world. I think many
marriages have broken up because the wife or you know,
one or the other is like I love this, you know,
like you just said, Kylie, you've lived in San Diego
for a time, but you want to be back in Charlotte.
(31:41):
And there's nothing wrong with that. I just don't think
she gave it enough. Thought she was young, she was nineteen. Uh,
she's now thirty two. She got married very young, and
people change. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
I was away with Dickie when he was playing ball.
We had our children in Texas.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
And you moved back to Hilly and you moved and
she got divorced three years later. Though, Well she's thirty two.
She met this guy when she was nineteen, and now
they're divorced. You know, I don't know. You know what
my husband and I did, Kylie. We didn't live in
We didn't live in either place. My husband was from
New York State. I was from Massachusetts. He was a
(32:26):
military officer initially, so we moved around and that's how
we got to Texas. He went to grad school in Boston,
and we picked a place that neither of us had
ever lived. And can I tell you it was fair?
But I missed so much of my family. I missed
out on so many things I did.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
But life, that's a choice.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
Yeah, and I made that choice. But I'm just saying,
you missed. You know, you can't have it all.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
Do you regret it?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
No? No, I don't. But I'm being honest. It's you know,
we're not living in you know, Disneyland here. I did.
I did miss him. I mean I did miss my
Palma one.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
I don't wish.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Look at you, Kylie. You made that move mostly for him,
because of him. But now you're standing on your own
two feet. You're getting more of your career off the ground. Yes,
to be a nurse practitioner, go to school, figure out out.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Yeah, I want you because you know Susan and I
are the czars here. We want you to focus on building.
You're already beautiful. You don't have to work on that.
You're beautiful inside and out. Build your life, go to school,
live your life. I'm getting goosebumps because I know what
your future is. I know what your future is, so
(33:57):
it's going to be amazing. And I want you to
come back when Susan and I are in wheelchairs still
doing this podcast and tell us I want you to
name your first child Kathy and your second one Susan.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
You guys are going to be annoy the wedding, so
I don't know do the wedding.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
I don't appreciate the wedding.
Speaker 3 (34:15):
Is officiating and Kathy, you're going to be one of
our dreds.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
Okay, So I have one more question for you.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
Is there anything that you'd like to say from here
to bachclination before we go? Yes?
Speaker 3 (34:28):
I know, yeah, So first off, I just want to
think bacheloration because they have stuck by my side through
everything and they've kind of given me that tough advice
that I needed to hear. Even though sometimes I don't
necessarily want to hear it, I know I can sometimes
be annoying on television with all of the tears and
the back and forth, but they've stuck beside me, and
(34:51):
for that I'm forever grateful. I hope this is not
the last of what you see of me Vachlination, and
I hope that one day good to see that happy,
ever love story that I think I deserve, You do deserve.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
Can I just say you deserve happiness, you deserve love.
On the Golden Bachelor, that was the whole thing. Everyone
deserves love, do you hear me? Kylie? Everyone deserves love
and to be loved. So we're rooting for you, and
unfortunately that's gonna do it for this episode. Now.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
I love welcome with you, We.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Love talking to you, but that does it for this
episode of Bachelor, Happy Hours, Golden Hour, and Kylie, really
thank you so much. You gave great advice, and really
thank you for sharing your story and letting being so
truthful and honest. It's just you're a lovely, lovely person.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
We love getting the chat with you, and you know what,
we're very proud of you. Thank you.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
I'm I'm yourself some of you, and thank you for
all of the advice as well.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
Absolutely and thank everybody for joining us today, and make
sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new
episodes coming out every week that you might not want
to miss.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Definitely you don't want to miss it. And make sure
you submit your questions to us. It's really easy. It's
really easy. It's easier than getting a date. All you
have to do is come a lot, a lot easier.
All you have to do is go to bachelornation dot com,
slash Golden Hour, or hit us up on social at
(36:25):
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Speaker 2 (36:27):
Send us your questions, your comments, anything you'd like. Listen
to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app
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Speaker 1 (36:39):
We're el see you next time.
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