July 5, 2024 • 37 mins
Today on Golden Hour, we have another round of Friday Fan Questions! We kick off today's episode with the question of the day; is it okay to have a serious celebrity hall pass when you're in a relationship? Then, we get into some of your questions for Kathy and Susan! Plus, we surprise Kathy with a question written just for her and you won't wanna miss it! Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
We're back. Thanks again for joining us.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
If you have not listened to our episode from Wednesday yet,
you really missed out and you should go check it out.
We had Demi Burnette on with us, and oh my gosh,
Susan is she the most fun? She's Barbie, You're right, Barby.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
I love that kid, and I know, but she was
very open about everything.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
You know, you know her and I only had talked
with her on the phone a few times. But first
of all, I got to say it again. I said
it about.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Uh Kelsey, there you go.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
The gorgeous hair they have.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Is this generation?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
I'm telling you, I'm telling you, I don't know what's
in the water, but anyway, but no, she's so open about,
you know, talking about being celibate and not dating and
not any and sober. Any one of those things would
be incredibly life changing. But the fact that she has
so much energy and is so open to talking about
those things. What a great interesting person.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
She is a twenty nine year old that went through
a lot and came out on top. And she knows
herself now, she knows her limits, you know, and really
she's not really open to exploring anybody else right now,
she's just doing her and yeah, she knows her.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
And I was, I was amazed. She talked. I don't
know the background. I don't need to, but you know,
just rolled off her tongue. You know, well, my relationship
with my mother, now she got out of prison this time.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Just she's so she won't take advice for her.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
That was funny. What did she says? She's just married.
She's been married four times and you know this guy
and that size just gets.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Been bad places when she's with us. Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Well, today we're answering more of our fan questions and
we're so excited to get into these.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Yes, and don't forget if you have a question for
Susan and may please send them in. All you have
to do is go to bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour.
We love answering these questions and we always have thought
or two, don't we, Susan?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Oh indeed we do, all right, Kathy.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Before we get into those questions, let's get started with
today's question of the day.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
All right, So today's topic for discussion.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Do you think it's okay to have a serious celebrity
hall pass in a relationship.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
What No, no, wow, I don't think you get a
hall pass in any relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
What does that even mean?
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Oh? Okay, go have a ball today and I'll see
tomorrow and we'll go right back to normal. I don't
think so, I know, I don't mean, I don't I
really think hall past means what I think it means, right, well,
I think it means any behavior is okay, not just
sexual behavior. I think it means any kind of behavior
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is okay because you get a haul past because you're
a celebrity.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
And I'm like, no, I'm.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Not absolutely not deep bother, Wait.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
A minute, is it scaring the scaring you that you
and I agree so much?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
No, I don't get scared of that I like them
and you agree with me.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Oh gosh. All right, well, let's let's get onto our
fan questions, because we have some great ones here. Let's
start with Sydney. Sydney asks, Hi, Susan and Kathy absolutely
loving the podcast. Thank you for sharing your beautiful friendship
with all of us. I was wondering, when do you
think it is the appropriate time to discuss your dating
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history with someone you are seeing, or do you have
to say anything at all. I'm in my mid twenties
and have had very limited dating experience because of personal
choices and putting my education first. There have been multiple
occasions where I share this with someone and the response
is not positive. It feels like looking for a first
time job. Any advice is appreciated, Thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
What do you think people judged him because he put
his education first?
Speaker 2 (04:18):
That would attract me even more.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
You have a good hole on your shoulders.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Yeah, Sydney Cidy the city may be a girl. I
don't know that. I think that may be a girl.
But well, I don't know. It could be. It could
be either, actually, but I just assumed.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
But I think, well that would make a difference, wouldn't it, Kathy.
I think because men would appreciate a woman that chose,
but women would judge men.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Right, Oh, thank god? I think who Sydney was?
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Sydney let a female or for me? We need pronouns
now you know them? They We need a grown out here.
Here's what I think, though I have known people like
my sister. She'll kill me if she hears this. Was
she was married to a guy. They're now divorced and
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she wanted to know about his dating history, and he
did not want to tell her, and he said life
starts today with us. He didn't want to hear her
dating past. She really wanted to know his dating past.
So I kind of think it depends on the couple.
I'm not exactly sure why it matters. That's I guess
(05:36):
that's my question. Why does your dating history matter?
Speaker 1 (05:40):
So I don't know that we need details of anyone's backstory,
but maybe you're having a conversation like when was your
last relationship? Like, I don't want to be somebody's rebound person,
so I would kind of want to know, did you
just jump out last week and here I am.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
You know, I wish i'd asked that that's a lesson? Well, well,
but I but this almost sounds like the person is
you know, I don't want to get in this relationship
if you haven't had a like, is there something wrong
with you that you ever had a lot of that
back which I don't like that. I don't like that.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
The reason that they just told us was because they
were educated.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
They were following their education.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Susan, I don't if they were sitting in a corner
sucking their thumb. What does it matter what they're doing.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
They're you know that saying it's a red flag. Oh
there's a guy, he's sixty, he's never been married.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Red flag. They go, yeah, but this girl's twenty, she's
twenty three, or this guy, they're twenty three, twenty four.
I mean, honestly, I think that is absurd that anyone
would say, well, you know, you're twenty four and you
haven't had five boyfriends and you know, six six deep
relationships by the time he's prayed for. I don't get that.
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But maybe it's because we're old, she said.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
The response is not positive. It feels like looking for
her first time job. Tell them it's none of your
damn business what I've done.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
But I wonder, why don't you want to know? Why
they're asking? I don't like it, And that's what I'm saying.
It's like, you know, if you're a member of this club,
I don't want you know who wants to be a
member of the club you're a member of kind of
thing like who cares? But I think I think I
think women want to know more than men. Do you
agree with that? I think women want to know men's
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pasts more than men want to know women's past.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Yeah, because men just want to pretend nothing happen.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Yeah. Men want to believe they're the first one you've
got in bed with age. You're a virgin. You're a
virgin at fifty. That's right. I've never dated anyone. I'm
so glad I met you. Please get a life, honey,
don't worry about it.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Be you, Be you, and the right person isn't going
to worry about that, right, Yeah, I think Okay, this
one's probing Anonymous.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Hi.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
I am sixty six years old.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
I'm a widow and I met a seventy year old
widower and we have been together for the last ten years.
We met when I was fifty five, and I felt
so lucky to find love at that age.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
You are, and.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
I'm happy for you.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
I was a lot thinner than I have been trying
to lose weight, but found out I have a fatty
liver and nodules on my thighroid. So I have been
eating clean and working out, but I haven't been able
to lose weight enough weight, and I feel like he
is no longer attracted to me since I have put
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on this weight. I am so disappointed in this relationship,
and I think I may need to end it. I
hate the thought of starting over with someone new, and
I do feel like I am still attracted to him
and I do care for him, but I want to
go back to the way it was, and it just
isn't getting there. Whenever I say I'm not happy, he says, well,
(08:59):
find someone else. So I guess I need to do
just that. He also developed throat cancer and is getting
treatment for it, and I also don't feel right about
leaving him while he is going through this.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
I'm in a tough spot. What would you do? Thanks?
Love you, gals. Oh good, A.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Lot to unpack there, you think again? You know so
many questions? I I mean a fat you know all
her health issues? I don't know. I know that you
can't and you shouldn't. No one should be fat shaming her.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
So wait before we even get there.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
He met, they love each other, and she put on weight,
so that's going to make him not love her anymore.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
I have dated guys, Susan. I have dated men who
say they like dating me because I'm thin. They don't
want to date fat women. I've had a man tell
me that.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Well, that's funny. You're saying that it wasn't too long ago.
And I quote, you can never be too rich, too
tan or too thin.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Who said that.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
I won't say a name, but yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Okay, since I just had four things burned off my face,
trust me, you can be too tan. I don't know.
I think I think that she's got some issues here.
I you know, forgive me anonymous, but I feel like
I get to weigh in on this. No pun intended,
because I used to weigh two hundred pounds, so I
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know that I struggled with how I felt and other
people saw me. And I think you are struggling a
little bit with your weight yourself. And all I can
tell you is forget the guy for a minute. If
you are uncomfortable the way you look, if it bothers
just you.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
I don't see here what he has done. She's assuming
he is. No, That's why I said I practed.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I said, it's I think it's more about her, and
we don't know if their sex life has deteriorated, if
it was ever there. But having been in her shoes
for a different reason, I'm guessing that she she is
attracted to him, but she probably feels she is not attractive,
she's not herself. She's not happy with herself.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
She says, whenever I say I'm not happy, he said,
well find someone else, So I guess I need to
do that. That was odd think, you know, well goes
find somebody else, but went around going I'm not happy.
I'm just not. You're not happy with yourself. That's what
I need to do. I self check because if you're
not one hundred percent, then you can't give an that's right.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
And if you're unhappy with yourself, you know you can't
blame it on the other person. And I and I
feel for you that you've gained the weight and you've
lost some of your confidence. But deal with the issue
at hand. Make yourself feel better about who you are.
Because Anonymous, if you are looking for him to make
you happy, I don't care if you're five, fifteen or
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fifty five. You got to be happy with yourself. Okay,
let's move on to our last question here. Susan and
Kathy loved the show and love all of your great advice.
(12:30):
It got me thinking about my own situation, and I
thought it would pop in to see what you have
for me. A lot of context for you, My dad
and I haven't always had the closest relationship, but have
gotten closer over the last decade since having my own kids. Recently,
he got married for a third time without telling me
or my sister and expected us to be happy for him.
(12:52):
While we expressed our congratulations, we both followed that with
the question did you get a preen up? When he
scoffed and told us, of course not, we almost lost
our minds. My dad has always worked very hard for
what he has and when through two divorces in his life,
including from my own mom. His late father, my dear Papa,
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always taught him what it meant to leave a legacy
for the next generation. The entire family is on the
same page about his second wife having taken advantage of him,
but he claims this time it's different. Soon after the
surprise wedding, he presented my sister and me with his will.
It basically states that if he dies before his now wife,
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we are to make sure she gets everything. We only
found out he was dating this woman the day of
my papa's funeral less than three years ago. She claims
she is not with my dad for his money, but
has liberally redecorated my entire childhood home and has made
some large purchases and she doesn't work either. I have
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done my best to come to terms with the situation
to give myself some peace. My question is do I
have any right or am I crazy for feeling betrayed
and backhanded by my dad for his decision. I don't
want to come off as entitled, but my papa would
be rolling in his grave if he knew what my
dad did to his granddaughters. She's got kids of her
own that everything would be passed down to, and from
(14:17):
what I know, they don't have a very good relationship
at all. Thanks for bearing with my long winded question.
What do you think? Isan?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Oh my god, that's a lot.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Well. I mean, it's happening for.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
A man to want to take care of his wife,
the woman he loves, but that's your family, I mean
there is Yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
Wait, see you're agreed that there should have been a prenup. Yeah, okay,
So I have a different difference take on this. I
think he may there is. I think he may that that.
No one's arguing that he can do whatever he wants
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to do. He earned the money, he can burn it,
he can give it away. I think he's clearly dated
this woman three years, so you know, if she's a
gold digger, she's waited three years.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
And I think she redecorated. That's her home now, why, yeah,
it's her hot. I don't fault that.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
I think I think the deal is. I don't blame
you for being upset Anonymous, that he didn't tell you.
I think that's sad for the family connection that you
know you and your sister were not told about the wedding. Clearly,
your dad, you know, moves from woman to woman because
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he's been read wet three times three times.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Well, I don't judge him for that.
Speaker 3 (15:47):
I don't know. No, No, I'm saying he hasn't found
what he wanted. So it but but the but the
but the bottom line here is it's his money. He
earned it. And I think that the daughter who's writing this, Anonymous,
I think that if your dad had no money, you
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wouldn't be having the issue that. I think the issue
would be centered around that you didn't get a chance
to meet or go to the wedding whatever you didn't know.
But for you, it's centered around the money because you
want it. And I'm not her girls, but you know what,
go earn your own money. He earned it, he can do.
(16:30):
I know that's not a popular thought. And in my
own case, you know, with my husband passing away, and
and he worked very hard for his money, and so
I want to leave our children some money. But I
have and but I have to live right and and
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but this guy, Anonymous, his dad. This is a different
situation his He divorced your mom and that's really sad.
But he is met this woman and says it's different.
And I say, whether it's different or not different, it's
his money, his choice. And I'll tell you something else.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
She's got to say, maybe have a conversation with your dad,
Like what are you going to say, especially if there's
a lot of money, like dad, what about my kids?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
What about Well?
Speaker 3 (17:23):
I think she could do that. She did. The question
I had was she says something about the will. It
makes it sound like the kids are the executor or something,
and and they want her to make he wants the
kids to make sure his wife gets taken care of
for life. I would say, Anonymous, but he doesn't have
it in He said that. She said that, Uh, he
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wants to make sure that she is taken care of.
That's and so I'm thinking, well, if well, then that's fair.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
And that's his wife. Make sure you take care of
her too.
Speaker 3 (18:04):
Well, that's the question, not you, but.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Her as well. That's what it sounds like, right.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Yeah, well you know money, money has.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Whether or not is none of her business.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
Yeah, money is broken apart more than one family.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Oh yes, it has, God bless.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
But wouldn't you like to have a lot of it?
So we could have?
Speaker 2 (18:22):
And she's worried that her kids are going to get
it all. He's not.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
I don't see here that she's getting everything and your
family isn't. Oh no, no, no, he comes making sure she's
getting I don't.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
That's not the way I read it. I read it
that since it's not a pre.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Nup to make no, he did say and make sure
his now wife, we are to make sure she gets everything.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
Is and that's what That's what I'm saying, Susan. If
it's not in the will that she gets everything, she's
not going anonymous. You can do whatever the hell you want.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Oh that's sticky, good luck, honey. I don't know if
we help that one cat.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
It's hard money. I do want to play moral quandary
because I'm tired of talking about money. If I don't
have the money, I'm tired of talking about it. Let's
do it, all right, here we go, So we're.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Gonna take turns ring the quandary and given our thoughts
on what we would do.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Kathy, okay, start us off.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
All right, But Susan, listen, sometimes you get mixed up
on this one. You're gonna guess. Oh God, here we
go guessing. You are going to guess what I would do,
and then I'm going to guess what you would do.
I always say, you always say what you would do.
Stop making about you. Okay, all right, here we are
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the first one here. Your close friend's boyfriend tells you
he is planning to propose, But your friend just told
you they're planning to break up with them. Do you
tell really? Do you tell either of them? You? I
don't know why your friend is breaking up with them,
but they're going to do it very soon. What do
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you do you?
Speaker 1 (20:08):
No, No, Susan, I'm not saying what I'm doing. I
think you would tell them.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
It's your friend.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
You wouldn't tell you stay out of it.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Well, my wait a minute, my friend, there's a lot
of there's a lot of there's a lot of pronouns
in this question. Again, Well, so what I'm saying is
that were you and me and your boyfriend told you
that some guy was going to propose to me, and
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I had just told you I was going to break
up with him, would I tell what would you tell me?
I think you would tell me Kathy or I tell
him go tell that guy don't do it? So who
would you tell me or the guy?
Speaker 2 (20:57):
I'd probably tell the guy when he told me.
Speaker 3 (21:00):
Oh, I see, I wouldn't I'd come to you.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Or either of them. Yeah, I would tell you as well,
probably you know.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Oh see, I guess that you would. I guess that
you would tell me. What did you think I would do?
Speaker 2 (21:10):
I think you would tell me?
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Yeah, I would tell you. I wouldn't go to the guy.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
No brain?
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Yeah, okay?
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Who could keep that in and watch it unfold like
that's well?
Speaker 3 (21:23):
You know what's horrible is what she said. They say
she's going to do it very soon, But think about it.
What if you know the guy decided to propose tonight
to me, and and and and your boyfriend said it
was going to be next week, and I'm sitting there
and you knew it. Oh no boy?
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Oh right, Okay, During a heated argument, your husband admits
he had an emotional affair four years ago.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
It was right.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Around the time you were caring for your youngest when
they were a newborn, and it was with a coworker
that is still on his work team.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
How do you move forward?
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Wait? Can I just go back to the last question? Yeah,
maybe you shouldn't tell me because I'm going to get
the ring and then I'm going to break it off
and I'm going to keep the ring. Okay, that's a
funni area. This one's tough. Okay, I think what do
you think? What do you guys that I would do?
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Well, it's not asking us what we would do though
during a heat.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
How do I move forward? How do you think I
move forward? Well?
Speaker 2 (22:32):
I don't know. It was just an emotional one that
would hurt.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
That was what would I do? Not you, Susan?
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Now would you do?
Speaker 3 (22:42):
You would.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
Not be happy with it at all? You could do it?
Speaker 3 (22:51):
You think I divorce it?
Speaker 1 (22:52):
No, not divorce, but it would cause a strain and
you would have some issues with it as a buddy.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Would I was just going to say you across the strength.
You know what I would do, I would say, thank
you for sharing, but the fact that we're having heated
arguments and you know, we've got a four year old. Now,
I would say we might need to get some counseling
because this is going to be hard for me. You know,
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an emotional affair.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Can be emotional thoughts of somebody else, or you're just
sharing an opening up.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
I don't know, but Susan, emotional scars are much deeper than.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Physical scars, That's right.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
So I think I think you would talk to him,
but I think i'd have to do like some kind
of therapy because there's something wrong in the relationship. I mean,
I hate to say it, but you know, the guy
probably wasn't getting enough attention right when they had a newborn. So,
I mean that.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
Happens a lot every day.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
I know, Come on, God, because mommies are occupied with
the baby.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
I know, don't do what mommies.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
Do, Okay, but there's on dad's I get it.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Men, listen up. It's not that we don't love you.
It's that we birth this child, we're feeding this child.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
We're responsible for it.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Well so's daddy. Daddy's responsible too, but literally that baby
has come from us, and you just gotta put on
your big boy pants for a little bit. Why we're
figuring out how to be a mom because it's new
to us, it's new to you. You can't be number
one all the time, so.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
Let's just do the opposite of this.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
They're having a heated argument and he admits that he
had an emotional affair. They're arguing, is it her that's
making him so unhappy? And he had nowhere else to go?
Speaker 3 (24:47):
So I can't do I just hear that out of
your mouth? Did I just hear on your mouth? Probably
when I say why I do it? But you blame no, no, no,
you just blamed the woman for other side to it,
and the other side. You are going to blows on
this with me. A man, I will never You should
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never excuse a bad behavior by a man. A woman
never makes a man have an affair, physical or emotional.
A man chooses to, as does a You not.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Think there's a difference between a physical affair and an
emotional affair?
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Do you think that that's what I'm running. That's not
what I'm saying. You said, maybe she was this and
that and and so you forced him to have an affair,
argument said, and forced him to have an affair. A
man is never forced to have an affair.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
Forced.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah, like he chose to do it because she was
being a mean bitch, not forced.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
But he had nowhere to go. He needed to talk
to somebody quite possibly great, go get a therapist. But
you don't need to be talking to a coworker. Oh, Susan, jesus.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
I have admitted it. Ever.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
Cheater, cheater, cheater, All right, all right, here's the next one.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
No, this is why we're both single. Okay, You and
your current boyfriend of six months run into his ex.
The interaction doesn't go well, and you find out that
they broke up because your boyfriend was unfaithful during their relationship.
How do you proceed? Do you sit down and talk
about it to get the full picture? Or do you
forget about it? Oh Susan, what you would do? You
(26:31):
know that guy's ask in a chair so fast, asking him, Yeah,
you're gonna we you're gonna have the talk? I wan? Yeah,
she wants details.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
I think I asked the same thing.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
You know what? I have to say? It would depend
how long ago the X was if it was you
know it was AE. Yeah, yeah, I could care less.
But if it was a recent X, I might want
to sit down, you're right, and and talk to him.
And I don't know that I would need the full picture.
But you know you said one time on another podcast,
(27:08):
once unfaithful, always unfaithful, you know, once a cheater, always
a cheater.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Not necessarily.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
Oh no, you said that before.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
I don't know think I said that.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
So so men, you you think that man could cheat
and then never cheat again.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Yes, definitely.
Speaker 3 (27:24):
Okay, So so then you would send him.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Down because he learned from it, hopefully, But yeah, I
would send him there.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
You're right.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
You know I find interesting in these moral quandaries. It's
always the guy having the emotional fair's and we know
that's not the truth. We know that women do it too.
So those of you out there were not mann not
today attacking men.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
Okay, all right?
Speaker 1 (27:48):
You met or you meet your boyfriend's friends for the
first time and realize they all have much livelier and
more fun personalities, and they're all significantly, significantly more attractive
than your boyfriend. It's so obvious that it makes you
a little uncomfortable and a little disappointed.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Wants you to leave the hangout. How do you proceed?
Speaker 3 (28:13):
What would I do? What do you think I would do?
Speaker 2 (28:18):
Nothing? I think you're fine.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
You're hair with him for a reason, and just because
some other ones were more fun, well the fun part.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
It might hurt you, but more attractive.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
I don't know, you know what, you know what I'm
reading when I'm reading this. Yeah, this girl's not that
into him. The other guys are more attractive, They're more fun. There.
She's uncomfortable and disappointed in her boy. Yeah, she clearly. So.
If this for me, it would be a wake up call,
(28:53):
Like you know, I wasn't. I'm not as into him
as I thought I was. These other guys are more
appealing you you, on the other hand, and would walk
In my opinion, you would walk away and make the
best of the situation and just think whatever. You know,
they're that on this one.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
Night when he wasn't around, I might go hanging up
with the other guys.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Oh, so you're going to have the emotional affair, okay, or.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
I'm there with him.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
You're going to see nice looking, better looking, more fun
people in the world every damn day. You used to
be with him. So she's not or not this isn't
a question.
Speaker 3 (29:31):
This is no, it's not a question, but exactly. But
I'm just saying for me, I would that would be
a wake up call to me, like, oh, maybe I'm
not as invested as I thought. I yeah, all right,
here's our last one. You overhear your You overhear your
mother in law talking to her a fair partner, on
the phone confirming she's going to file for divorce at
(29:54):
the end of the month. When she sees you and
realizes you overheard, she begs you not to say anything
your husband because she wants to tell him in a
few weeks once the process has started. Do you tell
him anyways? Or honor her wishes? Susan Knowles would be
to track to her husband to tell him. Am I right,
(30:14):
it's my mother in law? I just said, Would you
would not tell her tell your husband?
Speaker 4 (30:20):
No?
Speaker 2 (30:21):
She begged me not to say anything.
Speaker 4 (30:24):
No.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
I am not getting in the middle.
Speaker 3 (30:26):
Of that, Okay, would I What would I do?
Speaker 2 (30:33):
It's your mother in law?
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Well, you weren't crazy about your mother in law, forget
she was crazy about you. You know what?
Speaker 3 (30:40):
I had trouble my husband, I swear to God was
hatched from somewhere else, because he really was not anything
like his sisters. I'm just there to tell you.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
To mind your own business.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
No, I'm going to tell my husband because I'm married.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Yes, I realize ID begs you not to say anything
to you your husband.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
I beg your pardon. I heard it as her husband.
Speaker 3 (31:05):
Oh your fellow though, Oh hell yeah, yeah I thought
I When you said you wouldn't, I was like, what yeah,
and I and and yeah and you and you're right.
I would tell my husband if you didn't say it.
I'm standing for you, Mike. That's that's the meaning of
a relationship of a husband. You share everything with them
unless it to you and me, and then we share
(31:26):
everything because we don't have husbands. WHOA.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
That was a lot. That really was a lot.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
Okay, well that's it for this episode. Thank y'all so
much for writing in. And if you have questions for us,
submit them now. Just go to Bachelor's Happy Hour.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
I'm sorry, Kathy. Can I interrupt for a second? There
is one more?
Speaker 3 (31:52):
Where is it?
Speaker 1 (31:54):
I have one? So how about if I just read this? Okay,
I actually have another one for us?
Speaker 3 (32:01):
Is it on here?
Speaker 2 (32:02):
Work with me?
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Hi, Kathy and Susan. This question is mainly for Kathy
for the moment, as she has mentioned on previous podcasts
that no one has taken her up on asking her
for a date. But Papulu, as you're known by Ki
(32:25):
Ki by your grand youngsters, wouldn't mind telling the world
that I'd like to at least try.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
I'll be sixteen nine in September, and I am a
widower since January twenty three. My wife and I were
married for forty three wonderful years and had no children
except for two wonderful pups, of which one passed of
old age at seventeen seventeen and a half years ago
last year as well, and I still have one Schnauzer
(32:57):
mix that's twelve and a half years. I'd be happy
to send current photos and yes they're all on touch.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
It's really me.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
I've slowly gotten back into the dating a little, but
I'm truly rusty at this, but feel confident enough to
get back into this. Oh my god, hugs are a
big thing, as I grew up with my parents doing
that for me.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
I have goosebumps, Oh my god, so do I.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
I am a pianist organist for two churches with attendance
most times between eight and twenty people in a small
town east of where I live, and a third one
fifty miles away. I own my own my home outright
with no debt, but it's just too big for one person.
I'm a huge fan of Barry Manilow and the Letterman
(33:47):
Trio singing group, and I even compos co compose the
score for an Osage ballet from twelve years ago, but
not limited to that.
Speaker 2 (33:57):
Who knows I mean it.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
I might eat and know your favorite songs and play
them for you and your family. I've already accepted an
invitation from someone else. You may gently tell me to
zip it lol, and let your sorority sisters from the
original Golden Bachelor know about me.
Speaker 2 (34:18):
You too, Susan.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
Blessings to you both, and thanks for reading and listening.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
Papolu.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Everything you have read here is true. No lies here.
Don't have time for that.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
Oh my goodness, got me. You just got ans own.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Baby.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Believe you did send your number, Papolu. So I'd love
to hear from you, Love to have you send the pictures,
love to talk with you. I had no idea this
was happening. I feel like I just walked into a
surprise party.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Did you see her trying to say, wait, where's mine?
I don't know. Well I'm looking.
Speaker 3 (34:56):
I'm like, I don't have surprise. Oh Susan, I'm going
to at you for this. Uh yeah, Papoulou. I don't
know anything about you other than what you said. But
I love Barry Manilow. My play them everywhere where does
he live?
Speaker 2 (35:10):
He doesn't say?
Speaker 3 (35:12):
Popolo?
Speaker 2 (35:13):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (35:14):
Populu reached back out.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
And when is this airing? So you're not waiting to.
Speaker 5 (35:25):
Oh, pa, you are adorable your first time. I just say,
so far for your approach. He yeah, really, I'll give
you a ten. He was married forty three or so.
He definitely knows about love. Yes, And and can I
tell you, Papulu, I also had a terrier Schnauzer uh
for years and had to put her down.
Speaker 3 (35:45):
When she was fifteen. Oh very yeah, I mean you
gotta have Okay.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
Well, I want to run with this.
Speaker 3 (35:52):
No, you're not running with it, Susan. He reached out
to me. In case you won't, let's start over here.
Speaker 2 (35:57):
Oh well, and you too, Susan.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
You know what? He could wait a minute, he could
DM me on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
There you go, you're listening. That's the first step.
Speaker 3 (36:08):
How does he find me out?
Speaker 2 (36:09):
Make sure she checks them every day?
Speaker 3 (36:11):
What is my Instagram? KB Swartz? I think it is
KB Swartz.
Speaker 2 (36:16):
My goodness. Exciting.
Speaker 3 (36:18):
It's so exciting. It's like I feel like I just
want a lot of new ticket. There's hope. There's always hope, Popolo.
I love that. Okay, I'm very interested to talk with you, Papulu.
I really am so thank you for reaching out reach
out to me on Instagram and I would love to
chat with you. That is, and you know what, thank you.
It takes a lot of courage to do that. So
(36:39):
thank you, thank you, thank you for reaching out and
I can't wait to talk with you. Wow. Okay, well
that definitely does it for another episode, I know. Thank
y'all so much for writing in, particularly you Populu, And
if you have questions for us, please submit them now.
(37:02):
Just go to Bachelorhappy Hour dot com slash Golden Hour
and ask away. You know, Papolou did it. You guys
can do it too. Send us your questions, your comments,
your reviews, your dating invitations. Were open to it all,
and make sure you subscribe to our podcast We have
(37:23):
new episodes on Wednesdays and Fridays with some really fun
guests coming up that you won't want to miss. Maybe
you Popolou, Yes Buffalo.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
Listen to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio
hat or wherever you listen to your podcast and we'll
see you next time.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
And Paypolu.
Speaker 3 (37:41):
You're the best, the best. Take care guys by
Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
We're back. Thanks again for joining us.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
If you have not listened to our episode from Wednesday yet,
you really missed out and you should go check it out.
We had Demi Burnette on with us, and oh my gosh,
Susan is she the most fun? She's Barbie, You're right, Barby.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
I love that kid, and I know, but she was
very open about everything.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
You know, you know her and I only had talked
with her on the phone a few times. But first
of all, I got to say it again. I said
it about.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Uh Kelsey, there you go.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
The gorgeous hair they have.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Is this generation?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
I'm telling you, I'm telling you, I don't know what's
in the water, but anyway, but no, she's so open about,
you know, talking about being celibate and not dating and
not any and sober. Any one of those things would
be incredibly life changing. But the fact that she has
so much energy and is so open to talking about
those things. What a great interesting person.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
She is a twenty nine year old that went through
a lot and came out on top. And she knows
herself now, she knows her limits, you know, and really
she's not really open to exploring anybody else right now,
she's just doing her and yeah, she knows her.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
And I was, I was amazed. She talked. I don't
know the background. I don't need to, but you know,
just rolled off her tongue. You know, well, my relationship
with my mother, now she got out of prison this time.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Just she's so she won't take advice for her.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
That was funny. What did she says? She's just married.
She's been married four times and you know this guy
and that size just gets.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Been bad places when she's with us. Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Well, today we're answering more of our fan questions and
we're so excited to get into these.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Yes, and don't forget if you have a question for
Susan and may please send them in. All you have
to do is go to bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour.
We love answering these questions and we always have thought
or two, don't we, Susan?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Oh indeed we do, all right, Kathy.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Before we get into those questions, let's get started with
today's question of the day.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
All right, So today's topic for discussion.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Do you think it's okay to have a serious celebrity
hall pass in a relationship.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
What No, no, wow, I don't think you get a
hall pass in any relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
What does that even mean?
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Oh? Okay, go have a ball today and I'll see
tomorrow and we'll go right back to normal. I don't
think so, I know, I don't mean, I don't I
really think hall past means what I think it means, right, well,
I think it means any behavior is okay, not just
sexual behavior. I think it means any kind of behavior
(03:10):
is okay because you get a haul past because you're
a celebrity.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
And I'm like, no, I'm.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Not absolutely not deep bother, Wait.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
A minute, is it scaring the scaring you that you
and I agree so much?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
No, I don't get scared of that I like them
and you agree with me.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Oh gosh. All right, well, let's let's get onto our
fan questions, because we have some great ones here. Let's
start with Sydney. Sydney asks, Hi, Susan and Kathy absolutely
loving the podcast. Thank you for sharing your beautiful friendship
with all of us. I was wondering, when do you
think it is the appropriate time to discuss your dating
(03:49):
history with someone you are seeing, or do you have
to say anything at all. I'm in my mid twenties
and have had very limited dating experience because of personal
choices and putting my education first. There have been multiple
occasions where I share this with someone and the response
is not positive. It feels like looking for a first
time job. Any advice is appreciated, Thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
What do you think people judged him because he put
his education first?
Speaker 2 (04:18):
That would attract me even more.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
You have a good hole on your shoulders.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Yeah, Sydney Cidy the city may be a girl. I
don't know that. I think that may be a girl.
But well, I don't know. It could be. It could
be either, actually, but I just assumed.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
But I think, well that would make a difference, wouldn't it, Kathy.
I think because men would appreciate a woman that chose,
but women would judge men.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Right, Oh, thank god? I think who Sydney was?
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Sydney let a female or for me? We need pronouns
now you know them? They We need a grown out here.
Here's what I think, though I have known people like
my sister. She'll kill me if she hears this. Was
she was married to a guy. They're now divorced and
(05:14):
she wanted to know about his dating history, and he
did not want to tell her, and he said life
starts today with us. He didn't want to hear her
dating past. She really wanted to know his dating past.
So I kind of think it depends on the couple.
I'm not exactly sure why it matters. That's I guess
(05:36):
that's my question. Why does your dating history matter?
Speaker 1 (05:40):
So I don't know that we need details of anyone's backstory,
but maybe you're having a conversation like when was your
last relationship? Like, I don't want to be somebody's rebound person,
so I would kind of want to know, did you
just jump out last week and here I am.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
You know, I wish i'd asked that that's a lesson? Well, well,
but I but this almost sounds like the person is
you know, I don't want to get in this relationship
if you haven't had a like, is there something wrong
with you that you ever had a lot of that
back which I don't like that. I don't like that.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
The reason that they just told us was because they
were educated.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
They were following their education.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Susan, I don't if they were sitting in a corner
sucking their thumb. What does it matter what they're doing.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
They're you know that saying it's a red flag. Oh
there's a guy, he's sixty, he's never been married.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Red flag. They go, yeah, but this girl's twenty, she's
twenty three, or this guy, they're twenty three, twenty four.
I mean, honestly, I think that is absurd that anyone
would say, well, you know, you're twenty four and you
haven't had five boyfriends and you know, six six deep
relationships by the time he's prayed for. I don't get that.
(06:54):
But maybe it's because we're old, she said.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
The response is not positive. It feels like looking for
her first time job. Tell them it's none of your
damn business what I've done.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
But I wonder, why don't you want to know? Why
they're asking? I don't like it, And that's what I'm saying.
It's like, you know, if you're a member of this club,
I don't want you know who wants to be a
member of the club you're a member of kind of
thing like who cares? But I think I think I
think women want to know more than men. Do you
agree with that? I think women want to know men's
(07:29):
pasts more than men want to know women's past.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Yeah, because men just want to pretend nothing happen.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Yeah. Men want to believe they're the first one you've
got in bed with age. You're a virgin. You're a
virgin at fifty. That's right. I've never dated anyone. I'm
so glad I met you. Please get a life, honey,
don't worry about it.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Be you, Be you, and the right person isn't going
to worry about that, right, Yeah, I think Okay, this
one's probing Anonymous.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Hi.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
I am sixty six years old.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
I'm a widow and I met a seventy year old
widower and we have been together for the last ten years.
We met when I was fifty five, and I felt
so lucky to find love at that age.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
You are, and.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
I'm happy for you.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
I was a lot thinner than I have been trying
to lose weight, but found out I have a fatty
liver and nodules on my thighroid. So I have been
eating clean and working out, but I haven't been able
to lose weight enough weight, and I feel like he
is no longer attracted to me since I have put
(08:35):
on this weight. I am so disappointed in this relationship,
and I think I may need to end it. I
hate the thought of starting over with someone new, and
I do feel like I am still attracted to him
and I do care for him, but I want to
go back to the way it was, and it just
isn't getting there. Whenever I say I'm not happy, he says, well,
(08:59):
find someone else. So I guess I need to do
just that. He also developed throat cancer and is getting
treatment for it, and I also don't feel right about
leaving him while he is going through this.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
I'm in a tough spot. What would you do? Thanks?
Love you, gals. Oh good, A.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Lot to unpack there, you think again? You know so
many questions? I I mean a fat you know all
her health issues? I don't know. I know that you
can't and you shouldn't. No one should be fat shaming her.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
So wait before we even get there.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
He met, they love each other, and she put on weight,
so that's going to make him not love her anymore.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
I have dated guys, Susan. I have dated men who
say they like dating me because I'm thin. They don't
want to date fat women. I've had a man tell
me that.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Well, that's funny. You're saying that it wasn't too long ago.
And I quote, you can never be too rich, too
tan or too thin.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Who said that.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
I won't say a name, but yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Okay, since I just had four things burned off my face,
trust me, you can be too tan. I don't know.
I think I think that she's got some issues here.
I you know, forgive me anonymous, but I feel like
I get to weigh in on this. No pun intended,
because I used to weigh two hundred pounds, so I
(10:36):
know that I struggled with how I felt and other
people saw me. And I think you are struggling a
little bit with your weight yourself. And all I can
tell you is forget the guy for a minute. If
you are uncomfortable the way you look, if it bothers
just you.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
I don't see here what he has done. She's assuming
he is. No, That's why I said I practed.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I said, it's I think it's more about her, and
we don't know if their sex life has deteriorated, if
it was ever there. But having been in her shoes
for a different reason, I'm guessing that she she is
attracted to him, but she probably feels she is not attractive,
she's not herself. She's not happy with herself.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
She says, whenever I say I'm not happy, he said,
well find someone else, So I guess I need to
do that. That was odd think, you know, well goes
find somebody else, but went around going I'm not happy.
I'm just not. You're not happy with yourself. That's what
I need to do. I self check because if you're
not one hundred percent, then you can't give an that's right.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
And if you're unhappy with yourself, you know you can't
blame it on the other person. And I and I
feel for you that you've gained the weight and you've
lost some of your confidence. But deal with the issue
at hand. Make yourself feel better about who you are.
Because Anonymous, if you are looking for him to make
you happy, I don't care if you're five, fifteen or
(12:09):
fifty five. You got to be happy with yourself. Okay,
let's move on to our last question here. Susan and
Kathy loved the show and love all of your great advice.
(12:30):
It got me thinking about my own situation, and I
thought it would pop in to see what you have
for me. A lot of context for you, My dad
and I haven't always had the closest relationship, but have
gotten closer over the last decade since having my own kids. Recently,
he got married for a third time without telling me
or my sister and expected us to be happy for him.
(12:52):
While we expressed our congratulations, we both followed that with
the question did you get a preen up? When he
scoffed and told us, of course not, we almost lost
our minds. My dad has always worked very hard for
what he has and when through two divorces in his life,
including from my own mom. His late father, my dear Papa,
(13:13):
always taught him what it meant to leave a legacy
for the next generation. The entire family is on the
same page about his second wife having taken advantage of him,
but he claims this time it's different. Soon after the
surprise wedding, he presented my sister and me with his will.
It basically states that if he dies before his now wife,
(13:34):
we are to make sure she gets everything. We only
found out he was dating this woman the day of
my papa's funeral less than three years ago. She claims
she is not with my dad for his money, but
has liberally redecorated my entire childhood home and has made
some large purchases and she doesn't work either. I have
(13:54):
done my best to come to terms with the situation
to give myself some peace. My question is do I
have any right or am I crazy for feeling betrayed
and backhanded by my dad for his decision. I don't
want to come off as entitled, but my papa would
be rolling in his grave if he knew what my
dad did to his granddaughters. She's got kids of her
own that everything would be passed down to, and from
(14:17):
what I know, they don't have a very good relationship
at all. Thanks for bearing with my long winded question.
What do you think? Isan?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Oh my god, that's a lot.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Well. I mean, it's happening for.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
A man to want to take care of his wife,
the woman he loves, but that's your family, I mean
there is Yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
Wait, see you're agreed that there should have been a prenup. Yeah, okay,
So I have a different difference take on this. I
think he may there is. I think he may that that.
No one's arguing that he can do whatever he wants
(15:03):
to do. He earned the money, he can burn it,
he can give it away. I think he's clearly dated
this woman three years, so you know, if she's a
gold digger, she's waited three years.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
And I think she redecorated. That's her home now, why, yeah,
it's her hot. I don't fault that.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
I think I think the deal is. I don't blame
you for being upset Anonymous, that he didn't tell you.
I think that's sad for the family connection that you
know you and your sister were not told about the wedding. Clearly,
your dad, you know, moves from woman to woman because
(15:42):
he's been read wet three times three times.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Well, I don't judge him for that.
Speaker 3 (15:47):
I don't know. No, No, I'm saying he hasn't found
what he wanted. So it but but the but the
but the bottom line here is it's his money. He
earned it. And I think that the daughter who's writing this, Anonymous,
I think that if your dad had no money, you
(16:08):
wouldn't be having the issue that. I think the issue
would be centered around that you didn't get a chance
to meet or go to the wedding whatever you didn't know.
But for you, it's centered around the money because you
want it. And I'm not her girls, but you know what,
go earn your own money. He earned it, he can do.
(16:30):
I know that's not a popular thought. And in my
own case, you know, with my husband passing away, and
and he worked very hard for his money, and so
I want to leave our children some money. But I
have and but I have to live right and and
(16:51):
but this guy, Anonymous, his dad. This is a different
situation his He divorced your mom and that's really sad.
But he is met this woman and says it's different.
And I say, whether it's different or not different, it's
his money, his choice. And I'll tell you something else.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
She's got to say, maybe have a conversation with your dad,
Like what are you going to say, especially if there's
a lot of money, like dad, what about my kids?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
What about Well?
Speaker 3 (17:23):
I think she could do that. She did. The question
I had was she says something about the will. It
makes it sound like the kids are the executor or something,
and and they want her to make he wants the
kids to make sure his wife gets taken care of
for life. I would say, Anonymous, but he doesn't have
it in He said that. She said that, Uh, he
(17:50):
wants to make sure that she is taken care of.
That's and so I'm thinking, well, if well, then that's fair.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
And that's his wife. Make sure you take care of
her too.
Speaker 3 (18:04):
Well, that's the question, not you, but.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Her as well. That's what it sounds like, right.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Yeah, well you know money, money has.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Whether or not is none of her business.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
Yeah, money is broken apart more than one family.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Oh yes, it has, God bless.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
But wouldn't you like to have a lot of it?
So we could have?
Speaker 2 (18:22):
And she's worried that her kids are going to get
it all. He's not.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
I don't see here that she's getting everything and your
family isn't. Oh no, no, no, he comes making sure she's
getting I don't.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
That's not the way I read it. I read it
that since it's not a pre.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Nup to make no, he did say and make sure
his now wife, we are to make sure she gets everything.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
Is and that's what That's what I'm saying, Susan. If
it's not in the will that she gets everything, she's
not going anonymous. You can do whatever the hell you want.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Oh that's sticky, good luck, honey. I don't know if
we help that one cat.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
It's hard money. I do want to play moral quandary
because I'm tired of talking about money. If I don't
have the money, I'm tired of talking about it. Let's
do it, all right, here we go, So we're.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Gonna take turns ring the quandary and given our thoughts
on what we would do.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Kathy, okay, start us off.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
All right, But Susan, listen, sometimes you get mixed up
on this one. You're gonna guess. Oh God, here we
go guessing. You are going to guess what I would do,
and then I'm going to guess what you would do.
I always say, you always say what you would do.
Stop making about you. Okay, all right, here we are
(19:45):
the first one here. Your close friend's boyfriend tells you
he is planning to propose, But your friend just told
you they're planning to break up with them. Do you
tell really? Do you tell either of them? You? I
don't know why your friend is breaking up with them,
but they're going to do it very soon. What do
(20:06):
you do you?
Speaker 1 (20:08):
No, No, Susan, I'm not saying what I'm doing. I
think you would tell them.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
It's your friend.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
You wouldn't tell you stay out of it.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Well, my wait a minute, my friend, there's a lot
of there's a lot of there's a lot of pronouns
in this question. Again, Well, so what I'm saying is
that were you and me and your boyfriend told you
that some guy was going to propose to me, and
(20:40):
I had just told you I was going to break
up with him, would I tell what would you tell me?
I think you would tell me Kathy or I tell
him go tell that guy don't do it? So who
would you tell me or the guy?
Speaker 2 (20:57):
I'd probably tell the guy when he told me.
Speaker 3 (21:00):
Oh, I see, I wouldn't I'd come to you.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Or either of them. Yeah, I would tell you as well,
probably you know.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Oh see, I guess that you would. I guess that
you would tell me. What did you think I would do?
Speaker 2 (21:10):
I think you would tell me?
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Yeah, I would tell you. I wouldn't go to the guy.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
No brain?
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Yeah, okay?
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Who could keep that in and watch it unfold like
that's well?
Speaker 3 (21:23):
You know what's horrible is what she said. They say
she's going to do it very soon, But think about it.
What if you know the guy decided to propose tonight
to me, and and and and your boyfriend said it
was going to be next week, and I'm sitting there
and you knew it. Oh no boy?
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Oh right, Okay, During a heated argument, your husband admits
he had an emotional affair four years ago.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
It was right.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Around the time you were caring for your youngest when
they were a newborn, and it was with a coworker
that is still on his work team.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
How do you move forward?
Speaker 3 (22:04):
Wait? Can I just go back to the last question? Yeah,
maybe you shouldn't tell me because I'm going to get
the ring and then I'm going to break it off
and I'm going to keep the ring. Okay, that's a
funni area. This one's tough. Okay, I think what do
you think? What do you guys that I would do?
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Well, it's not asking us what we would do though
during a heat.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
How do I move forward? How do you think I
move forward? Well?
Speaker 2 (22:32):
I don't know. It was just an emotional one that
would hurt.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
That was what would I do? Not you, Susan?
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Now would you do?
Speaker 3 (22:42):
You would.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
Not be happy with it at all? You could do it?
Speaker 3 (22:51):
You think I divorce it?
Speaker 1 (22:52):
No, not divorce, but it would cause a strain and
you would have some issues with it as a buddy.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Would I was just going to say you across the strength.
You know what I would do, I would say, thank
you for sharing, but the fact that we're having heated
arguments and you know, we've got a four year old. Now,
I would say we might need to get some counseling
because this is going to be hard for me. You know,
(23:20):
an emotional affair.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Can be emotional thoughts of somebody else, or you're just
sharing an opening up.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
I don't know, but Susan, emotional scars are much deeper than.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Physical scars, That's right.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
So I think I think you would talk to him,
but I think i'd have to do like some kind
of therapy because there's something wrong in the relationship. I mean,
I hate to say it, but you know, the guy
probably wasn't getting enough attention right when they had a newborn. So,
I mean that.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
Happens a lot every day.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
I know, Come on, God, because mommies are occupied with
the baby.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
I know, don't do what mommies.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
Do, Okay, but there's on dad's I get it.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Men, listen up. It's not that we don't love you.
It's that we birth this child, we're feeding this child.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
We're responsible for it.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Well so's daddy. Daddy's responsible too, but literally that baby
has come from us, and you just gotta put on
your big boy pants for a little bit. Why we're
figuring out how to be a mom because it's new
to us, it's new to you. You can't be number
one all the time, so.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
Let's just do the opposite of this.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
They're having a heated argument and he admits that he
had an emotional affair. They're arguing, is it her that's
making him so unhappy? And he had nowhere else to go?
Speaker 3 (24:47):
So I can't do I just hear that out of
your mouth? Did I just hear on your mouth? Probably
when I say why I do it? But you blame no, no, no,
you just blamed the woman for other side to it,
and the other side. You are going to blows on
this with me. A man, I will never You should
(25:09):
never excuse a bad behavior by a man. A woman
never makes a man have an affair, physical or emotional.
A man chooses to, as does a You not.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Think there's a difference between a physical affair and an
emotional affair?
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Do you think that that's what I'm running. That's not
what I'm saying. You said, maybe she was this and
that and and so you forced him to have an affair,
argument said, and forced him to have an affair. A
man is never forced to have an affair.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
Forced.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah, like he chose to do it because she was
being a mean bitch, not forced.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
But he had nowhere to go. He needed to talk
to somebody quite possibly great, go get a therapist. But
you don't need to be talking to a coworker. Oh, Susan, jesus.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
I have admitted it. Ever.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
Cheater, cheater, cheater, All right, all right, here's the next one.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
No, this is why we're both single. Okay, You and
your current boyfriend of six months run into his ex.
The interaction doesn't go well, and you find out that
they broke up because your boyfriend was unfaithful during their relationship.
How do you proceed? Do you sit down and talk
about it to get the full picture? Or do you
forget about it? Oh Susan, what you would do? You
(26:31):
know that guy's ask in a chair so fast, asking him, Yeah,
you're gonna we you're gonna have the talk? I wan? Yeah,
she wants details.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
I think I asked the same thing.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
You know what? I have to say? It would depend
how long ago the X was if it was you
know it was AE. Yeah, yeah, I could care less.
But if it was a recent X, I might want
to sit down, you're right, and and talk to him.
And I don't know that I would need the full picture.
But you know you said one time on another podcast,
(27:08):
once unfaithful, always unfaithful, you know, once a cheater, always
a cheater.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Not necessarily.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
Oh no, you said that before.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
I don't know think I said that.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
So so men, you you think that man could cheat
and then never cheat again.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Yes, definitely.
Speaker 3 (27:24):
Okay, So so then you would send him.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Down because he learned from it, hopefully, But yeah, I
would send him there.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
You're right.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
You know I find interesting in these moral quandaries. It's
always the guy having the emotional fair's and we know
that's not the truth. We know that women do it too.
So those of you out there were not mann not
today attacking men.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
Okay, all right?
Speaker 1 (27:48):
You met or you meet your boyfriend's friends for the
first time and realize they all have much livelier and
more fun personalities, and they're all significantly, significantly more attractive
than your boyfriend. It's so obvious that it makes you
a little uncomfortable and a little disappointed.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Wants you to leave the hangout. How do you proceed?
Speaker 3 (28:13):
What would I do? What do you think I would do?
Speaker 2 (28:18):
Nothing? I think you're fine.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
You're hair with him for a reason, and just because
some other ones were more fun, well the fun part.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
It might hurt you, but more attractive.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
I don't know, you know what, you know what I'm
reading when I'm reading this. Yeah, this girl's not that
into him. The other guys are more attractive, They're more fun. There.
She's uncomfortable and disappointed in her boy. Yeah, she clearly. So.
If this for me, it would be a wake up call,
(28:53):
Like you know, I wasn't. I'm not as into him
as I thought I was. These other guys are more
appealing you you, on the other hand, and would walk
In my opinion, you would walk away and make the
best of the situation and just think whatever. You know,
they're that on this one.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
Night when he wasn't around, I might go hanging up
with the other guys.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Oh, so you're going to have the emotional affair, okay, or.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
I'm there with him.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
You're going to see nice looking, better looking, more fun
people in the world every damn day. You used to
be with him. So she's not or not this isn't
a question.
Speaker 3 (29:31):
This is no, it's not a question, but exactly. But
I'm just saying for me, I would that would be
a wake up call to me, like, oh, maybe I'm
not as invested as I thought. I yeah, all right,
here's our last one. You overhear your You overhear your
mother in law talking to her a fair partner, on
the phone confirming she's going to file for divorce at
(29:54):
the end of the month. When she sees you and
realizes you overheard, she begs you not to say anything
your husband because she wants to tell him in a
few weeks once the process has started. Do you tell
him anyways? Or honor her wishes? Susan Knowles would be
to track to her husband to tell him. Am I right,
(30:14):
it's my mother in law? I just said, Would you
would not tell her tell your husband?
Speaker 4 (30:20):
No?
Speaker 2 (30:21):
She begged me not to say anything.
Speaker 4 (30:24):
No.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
I am not getting in the middle.
Speaker 3 (30:26):
Of that, Okay, would I What would I do?
Speaker 2 (30:33):
It's your mother in law?
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Well, you weren't crazy about your mother in law, forget
she was crazy about you. You know what?
Speaker 3 (30:40):
I had trouble my husband, I swear to God was
hatched from somewhere else, because he really was not anything
like his sisters. I'm just there to tell you.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
To mind your own business.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
No, I'm going to tell my husband because I'm married.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Yes, I realize ID begs you not to say anything
to you your husband.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
I beg your pardon. I heard it as her husband.
Speaker 3 (31:05):
Oh your fellow though, Oh hell yeah, yeah I thought
I When you said you wouldn't, I was like, what yeah,
and I and and yeah and you and you're right.
I would tell my husband if you didn't say it.
I'm standing for you, Mike. That's that's the meaning of
a relationship of a husband. You share everything with them
unless it to you and me, and then we share
(31:26):
everything because we don't have husbands. WHOA.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
That was a lot. That really was a lot.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
Okay, well that's it for this episode. Thank y'all so
much for writing in. And if you have questions for us,
submit them now. Just go to Bachelor's Happy Hour.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
I'm sorry, Kathy. Can I interrupt for a second? There
is one more?
Speaker 3 (31:52):
Where is it?
Speaker 1 (31:54):
I have one? So how about if I just read this? Okay,
I actually have another one for us?
Speaker 3 (32:01):
Is it on here?
Speaker 2 (32:02):
Work with me?
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Hi, Kathy and Susan. This question is mainly for Kathy
for the moment, as she has mentioned on previous podcasts
that no one has taken her up on asking her
for a date. But Papulu, as you're known by Ki
(32:25):
Ki by your grand youngsters, wouldn't mind telling the world
that I'd like to at least try.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
I'll be sixteen nine in September, and I am a
widower since January twenty three. My wife and I were
married for forty three wonderful years and had no children
except for two wonderful pups, of which one passed of
old age at seventeen seventeen and a half years ago
last year as well, and I still have one Schnauzer
(32:57):
mix that's twelve and a half years. I'd be happy
to send current photos and yes they're all on touch.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
It's really me.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
I've slowly gotten back into the dating a little, but
I'm truly rusty at this, but feel confident enough to
get back into this. Oh my god, hugs are a
big thing, as I grew up with my parents doing
that for me.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
I have goosebumps, Oh my god, so do I.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
I am a pianist organist for two churches with attendance
most times between eight and twenty people in a small
town east of where I live, and a third one
fifty miles away. I own my own my home outright
with no debt, but it's just too big for one person.
I'm a huge fan of Barry Manilow and the Letterman
(33:47):
Trio singing group, and I even compos co compose the
score for an Osage ballet from twelve years ago, but
not limited to that.
Speaker 2 (33:57):
Who knows I mean it.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
I might eat and know your favorite songs and play
them for you and your family. I've already accepted an
invitation from someone else. You may gently tell me to
zip it lol, and let your sorority sisters from the
original Golden Bachelor know about me.
Speaker 2 (34:18):
You too, Susan.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
Blessings to you both, and thanks for reading and listening.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
Papolu.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Everything you have read here is true. No lies here.
Don't have time for that.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
Oh my goodness, got me. You just got ans own.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Baby.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Believe you did send your number, Papolu. So I'd love
to hear from you, Love to have you send the pictures,
love to talk with you. I had no idea this
was happening. I feel like I just walked into a
surprise party.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Did you see her trying to say, wait, where's mine?
I don't know. Well I'm looking.
Speaker 3 (34:56):
I'm like, I don't have surprise. Oh Susan, I'm going
to at you for this. Uh yeah, Papoulou. I don't
know anything about you other than what you said. But
I love Barry Manilow. My play them everywhere where does
he live?
Speaker 2 (35:10):
He doesn't say?
Speaker 3 (35:12):
Popolo?
Speaker 2 (35:13):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (35:14):
Populu reached back out.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
And when is this airing? So you're not waiting to.
Speaker 5 (35:25):
Oh, pa, you are adorable your first time. I just say,
so far for your approach. He yeah, really, I'll give
you a ten. He was married forty three or so.
He definitely knows about love. Yes, And and can I
tell you, Papulu, I also had a terrier Schnauzer uh
for years and had to put her down.
Speaker 3 (35:45):
When she was fifteen. Oh very yeah, I mean you
gotta have Okay.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
Well, I want to run with this.
Speaker 3 (35:52):
No, you're not running with it, Susan. He reached out
to me. In case you won't, let's start over here.
Speaker 2 (35:57):
Oh well, and you too, Susan.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
You know what? He could wait a minute, he could
DM me on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
There you go, you're listening. That's the first step.
Speaker 3 (36:08):
How does he find me out?
Speaker 2 (36:09):
Make sure she checks them every day?
Speaker 3 (36:11):
What is my Instagram? KB Swartz? I think it is
KB Swartz.
Speaker 2 (36:16):
My goodness. Exciting.
Speaker 3 (36:18):
It's so exciting. It's like I feel like I just
want a lot of new ticket. There's hope. There's always hope, Popolo.
I love that. Okay, I'm very interested to talk with you, Papulu.
I really am so thank you for reaching out reach
out to me on Instagram and I would love to
chat with you. That is, and you know what, thank you.
It takes a lot of courage to do that. So
(36:39):
thank you, thank you, thank you for reaching out and
I can't wait to talk with you. Wow. Okay, well
that definitely does it for another episode, I know. Thank
y'all so much for writing in, particularly you Populu, And
if you have questions for us, please submit them now.
(37:02):
Just go to Bachelorhappy Hour dot com slash Golden Hour
and ask away. You know, Papolou did it. You guys
can do it too. Send us your questions, your comments,
your reviews, your dating invitations. Were open to it all,
and make sure you subscribe to our podcast We have
(37:23):
new episodes on Wednesdays and Fridays with some really fun
guests coming up that you won't want to miss. Maybe
you Popolou, Yes Buffalo.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
Listen to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio
hat or wherever you listen to your podcast and we'll
see you next time.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
And Paypolu.
Speaker 3 (37:41):
You're the best, the best. Take care guys by
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