November 20, 2024 • 17 mins
One of our listeners met a guy on a trip to the Carribbean, and now she needs our help tracking him down for an INTERNATIONAL SECOND DATE UPDATE!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Second date up date. Occasionally, we have return listeners friends
of the show who come back multiple times to this
segment for whatever reason.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I call them people that like punishment.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Yeah, and they'll sometimes get nicknames like matt Man or Rufer.
Haven't heard from either of those guys in a while, though,
so hopefully they both found love and Ruffer. Isn't like
living in a religious compound in the woods or something.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I can't both be true, Jeffrey.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Yeah, maybe that's what he wants. That's fair compound, That's true.
A lot of romance there. The thing is, it's rare
for us to have a woman come back to the
show after we failed to get her a date.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Is usually the smarter one.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Women learn their lessons much much quicker than we do.
But today is different because we have the return of
someone I'm nicknaming miscrustworthy. Julia the pie le.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Oh, oh my god, you're the pie woman who remember
then she did the cakes on the date.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
First she tried all the pies, and then she was
doing the cakes and it was all about pastry.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Okay, I'll try and explain it less frantically than booked.
Did she took a dude to some random house to
eat homemade pies there and it was.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
Just a house with.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
And they sat in the car and they ate the
whole pie.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
And then he was upset because he realized that she
had taken somebody on a cake date and done the same.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Thing with Okay, we don't have to recap the whole thing.
Get she's the pielot. I'm upset for a Miss crust.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Worthy and when it comes to pastries this woman.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So that ended up not working out, but now she's
back on the line again with a new guy who
is welcome. Welcome back, Miss Crustworthy. Hi Butterworth.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Yeah, I have to know before anything. Was there a
theme to this date?
Speaker 5 (01:53):
No, I mean there was going to be.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
But so it's been a few months since we last
talked to you. What's happened in the time I've.
Speaker 5 (02:01):
Been dating around? I found this wonderful guy. His name
is Ben Okay, and it's been going so well.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
So far, and it's been I got it to got
it too, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:16):
The same.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
To find it? But sure, Okay, So what's Ben like?
Speaker 5 (02:21):
He's great, he's really funny, and we went to some
happy hours and it was really fun.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
You went on multiple dates.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Have Ben does he like Pie?
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (02:28):
And he even invited me out with his friends.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Okay, well, I asked a very important question. Is he
into Pie?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
That's the old her?
Speaker 5 (02:36):
He is?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Okay, it's still her, But that's crazy. He brought you
out to meet all his friends and stuff. Already it
sounds like things were going, like how many dates hasn't
been spent?
Speaker 5 (02:48):
Two dates?
Speaker 4 (02:49):
Too?
Speaker 5 (02:50):
Happy hours?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Too happy hours?
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Quick to bring the friends in. But I guess it's
happy hours, so maybe everybody's there, you know, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah, you don't have to be stock like facing each other. Okay.
Speaker 5 (02:59):
Yeah, and he was taking pictures and like, I feel
like if you're taking pictures, that means it's serious.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Pictures of what?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Yeah, like are we talking clothes on or close off
these or like?
Speaker 5 (03:12):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Like with this friends with his friends? Wait? You with
his friends?
Speaker 5 (03:17):
Yeah? It was me and a couple of his guy friends.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Oh that sounds like a big deal.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Actually is I don't know if I've ever had a
girl go I could take a photo not being it
like you're gonna put everybody in.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
The absolutely exclude people.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
From I'm with Jeff actually on that one, I think
you can totally say, all right, guys, photo.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Can you take this for us?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
They know we totally we're like good friends, only best
friends now number one friend.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
I think a guy taking a photo period is that's
a good point their friends anyways?
Speaker 5 (03:50):
Yeah, and then next morning he's like snapping me from
the airport.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Oh oh, did you did you know he was flying out? No? No,
but that's a good sign, Like he's continuing this communication.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
It's awesome, I guess so, but like, why wouldn't you
tell me we only went on two dates.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
It's not like you're gonna know.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I still mention it, like, by the way I flying.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Maybe he's having so much fun asking her questions, getting.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
To know her.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Did you find out where he was going the Caribbean?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (04:27):
I know. And so he's like snapping me on the
beach and it's beautiful. And then later that day after that,
he stops on communication, Like and now I've been texting
him and sending him pictures or whatever, and he's not
answering me. It's been two weeks.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Two weeks.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Va I was saying, yeah, he was on a beach
on the phone, very dangerous place to you to be
a lot of water, say, and who knows.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
I'm looking up shark attacks in the Caribbean.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
That's kind of weird.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
I'm thinking I hate to think this way, but I'm
thinking that maybe he met someone on this trip and
then he's like not texting or he I mean, like
you just said, did he get eaten by a shark?
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Actually call him and he's in the sharks.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
I'm just confused, as like, if it's not that, I'm
really confused because I don't normally click with people like that. Uh,
and I feel like he felt the same way.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yeah, he's giving you all the right signs. I mean,
I think you have every reason to get an explanation
from him.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
You were returning the equal amount of like snaps back
to him. Right, it wasn't all one sided.
Speaker 5 (05:33):
No, not at all. It was half and half.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Okay, this is odd.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
I trust my girl.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
It's miss Crustworthy Brook. Let's say the name right. We're
gonna we're gonna do right by Miss Crustworthy when we
tall worthy know.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
That name makes her sound so old.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Just sound.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Still Miss Crustworthy. Laugh if you like it. Oh God
delayed laugh. I'm taking We're gonna come back. We're gonna
call this guy Ben and figure out what's his deal.
Why isn't he getting back to you after two whole weeks?
Speaker 5 (06:06):
Thank you?
Speaker 3 (06:07):
Like help me reach out to him?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
All right, We'll see if he picks up when we
do your second date update right after this hold on
second date update. We have our theories for why Ben
is in calling back our listener Julia after he went
to the Caribbean two weeks ago. Theory number one, baby
shark in his shark family had a little Ben flavored
(06:31):
feast right off the coast.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
So I should not laugh because.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
We know it's likely not a shark. Guys, that's my
number one. Theory Number twomber Ben dropped his phone in
the ocean after too many breakfast margarite, or theory number three.
The one Julia is most worried about is Ben met
another woman while on one of the islands there.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Why wouldn't you just say, like, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
I know we went on a couple of dates. I've
met someone it was fun Like it.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Feels add for Julia to root for shark in this one.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I think we're all praying for because nobody wants number three, right, Julia.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
I definitely don't want to be rooting for sharks. But
I kind of am.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
I will say, getting eaten by a shark is like
the coolest.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
We took his phone and that's the shark can't text back. Yeah,
he's got built in.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
He doesn't need that phone. Let's at least dial Ben's
phone and see if somebody a water creature or Ben himself.
We're gonna get to the bottom. Y, We're going to
find out.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So dumb, and we just dropped another five podcast, but
we just went, okay, here we go.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Hello, Okay, that's a man.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Is this Ben?
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Yeah? Who's this?
Speaker 1 (08:03):
We're uh, we're a radio show. Oh, good morning. We're
called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Uh huh looking for recommendations on the Caribbean. No, anybody
that was smooth.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
He's still confused.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
What is it like? Did I win like a concert
or something?
Speaker 1 (08:22):
No, we haven't done something like that in a long time.
We're uh, we're doing a segment here called a second
Date Update where we're trying to help one of our
listeners get in touch with you because you two hung
out a while ago and apparently had a really good
time together. Her name is Julia. Oh uh, remember you
guys went to like, yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Yes, no, I know, I know, no, I okay, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yeah apparently you guys went to a couple of happy
hours and.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Yeah, yeah, no, we had a we had a really
good time. I've just been out of town, so I.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
Still Caribbean, right, Yeah, she said you were snapping her, so.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Yeah, yes, yeah, no, I've been in the Caribbean some
but I'm back.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
So I was gonna say, hard to leave.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
I bet I'm not busy trying.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Yeah, I wonder. You don't sound very relaxed right now,
so that okay makes sense.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Why are you getting back to her? That's just you know,
it sounds like you kind of dropped off.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
No, I'm gonna I'm gonna reach out to her. I've
just you know, it's just been crazy, Like my life
has just been crazy, like.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
The beaded dreads on the beach, and now you're just
like kind of like embarrassed, and she's gonna see him
look really cool.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
Yeah that's it. Yeah I have corn rows. Now.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Now, what's been so crazy?
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Well, I just, you know, like I've just been busy
traveling to and from and like her, it's been really busy.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
I just like, yeah, everything is just you know Julia.
Julia mentioned that you had a lot going on in
your life even when you two were hanging out, that
you had to like squeeze in happy hour stuff. But
it sounds like you're saying you are still interested.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Well that's good because she, like when we talked to her,
she was worried that it was just like a one
or two night thing.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
But I have a hot tip if you're interested in
a girl, maybe text her, yeah within two weeks, since.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
She's gonna fall off.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
Yeah, you know what, You're right, I should have please
you you guys have her contact or whatever, right, or
she got contacted you. You just tell her that I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Honestly, you can.
Speaker 5 (10:24):
Do Hey, I thought you met somebody else, because like
two weeks is a long talent.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
We didn't tell you that Julia has been listening to
this conversation. So yeah, there you go. You can say
sorry yourself directly to her.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
Oh hey, hi, ah uh, I don't I'm sorry. I
don't really, I don't know what to say this.
Speaker 5 (10:51):
Little I don't know, did you meet somebody?
Speaker 4 (10:57):
No, I didn't meet anyone new. I'm just I've just
been like busy, you.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
Know, it's just good to hear you from. I'm just like,
it's been way too long I haven't heard from you,
and I'm just like so relieved now because like I
felt like this instant chemistry and I don't normally feel
that with everyone.
Speaker 4 (11:13):
Oh yeah, no, I mean I genuinely don't either. I'm
just like, I know everybody always says this, but like
I've just been caught up and I got so busy
and distracted, but like I absolutely like I do want
to hang out.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Okay, well, this is this is awesome, Like this is
this is way easier than these normally go because we
will actually pay for your guys's next date if you
both officially give us the yes.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
Yes, Yeah, I'm totally excited. Cool, but just quick, why
I Julia like, I am technically married, so I just
I hope that's whatever.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Wait wait wait did you say.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Married when yeah, I'm technically married.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
What technically mean? You're either married or you're not married?
Speaker 1 (12:03):
I'm just what you gotta explain? You got to explain
to us the crazy or the honeymoon? Did you get
married there?
Speaker 4 (12:12):
No? No, no, no, nothing crazy like that. It was
our like five year anniversary.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Hold up, are you in like an open relationship. Does
your wife know this stuff?
Speaker 4 (12:24):
Well no, I mean not technically, no, Like I don't know.
Everybody's doing this nowadays.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
No, that's cheating. That's cheating you. What you're doing is cheating.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
Bro.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Did you not hear everybody is doing this now? He's
one of the cool.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Marriage photos of her with his friend.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Yeah, we we heard that. Then you and your friends
got together and you were taking pictures with Julie.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
You wouldn't, yeah, but then you would just claim that
it's your buddy's wife or girlfriend or whatever because it's
he wasn't in the picture with her.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
My wife doesn't know.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I was like totally angry right now.
Speaker 5 (12:59):
I mean then I can't believe you did it to me.
You should have told me this right away.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Well, I know, it's just like kind of an uncomfortable
thing to bring up front.
Speaker 5 (13:06):
It's but you should bring it right away.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
It's a fair uncomfortable thing to bring up front. They
can laugh all they want, but the weird thing to
bring up. And so it's better to do a little
down the road.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
You know now, Yeah, like it does soften the blow just.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
A little bit terrible.
Speaker 5 (13:25):
Then this is not going to work.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
Well, hold on, hold on, how about we just go
out once and then you decide after no.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
You can, you should.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
You have to tell his wife, you have to out,
you have to let her know, you got to find.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
You should listen to this.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
Yes, yeah, no, that's already happened. It's fine, Like it's
happened a couple of times where like girls will contact
her or whatever. She always believes me, it's fine.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Like that is the grossest response.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Well, that's a woman that's willing to believe whatever her
man says. And that's something that's rare in this world.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Reason.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Yeah, I didn't say it was a good thing. I'm
just saying it's rare. Unfortunately, I have seen things like
this when people.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
Just don't care.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
According to Ben, a lot of married couples are doing
this and it's the new norm.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
But not do we feel bad, Jeff, because like we're
involved now, like I don't want to say solicitate cheating.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
We're not. We're not asking them to go on a
date now that we know he's.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
We already asked and they already both said yes.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Take backs, Jeff. We're not giving you a gift card. Ben,
you don't deserve a gift card.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Yeah, we're giving it to your wife.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Yeah, actually like that.
Speaker 5 (14:39):
Yeah, she's gonna take him to dinner, guys, are.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
He's gonna feel guilty the whole time?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Poor Julia?
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Julia, you doing okay?
Speaker 3 (14:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (14:52):
Yeah, I'm gonna be fine. I just gotta keep dating.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
This is an easy answer, right, Like he's married is
a very thing to walk away from. Can you believe
now you have to ask dudes before you go on
a date with them if they're married.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Like, what a ridiculous question you.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Have to ask do you have a girlfriend? And then
have a follow up do you also have a wife? Wait?
Speaker 4 (15:11):
Wait for the guys, they're not going to tell you
the first time.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Wait, that's fair, that's good advice.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Actually, Ben sucks, Ben.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Ben, I gotta say you are the most upstanding sucky
person that we've ever hand on the show. He gave
some good advice. Don't believe men, I no one learned anything.
I certainly didn't. Jeffrey in the morning, Okay, Wow, big
emotional response in the studio from that one, for sure?
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Did you not have an emotional response to that?
Speaker 4 (15:44):
Well?
Speaker 1 (15:44):
The guy kept insisting it's more normal now for married
people to date outside of their relationships.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
So what cheeter says, Jeff, his wife doesn't even know
that he's doing it. Yeah, sure, different if they had
an agreement or something.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
I have to look it up though, to see if
he was right. And according to a twenty twenty three study,
marriage infidelity rates are on the rise and the percentage
of married people who cheat right now is somewhere between
seventy one percent and eleven percent and allow, so science
(16:19):
has to leave a little bit of margin of air there.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
But he's the dumbest study a good website.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
We do know even if the science came back and
proved it, that means he was doing the right thing.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Well, that he's just part of the status quo. The
thing is, we do know. Each person who answered yes,
they are cheating said it's cool. Everybody's doing it. Yeah,
it's the new nineteen eighties marijuana. It's cool, man, everybody's
doing it. Bro So at the end, I guess he's
still a bad guy. But guess I don't want to
(16:51):
offend seventy one to eleven percent of the population broke.
I'm not sure where people lie. Some cheater just text
it in. Oh great, we lost the cheating demo. Darn it,
I am an upstanding cheating but text in to seven, eight, five,
nine to two tell us what you thought about the
second date update great and if you need help with
(17:12):
your dating life, married or single, we'll try and help
you out. We'll call that person hopefully single. We'll call
that person who's not calling you back.
Second date up date. Occasionally, we have return listeners friends
of the show who come back multiple times to this
segment for whatever reason.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I call them people that like punishment.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Yeah, and they'll sometimes get nicknames like matt Man or Rufer.
Haven't heard from either of those guys in a while, though,
so hopefully they both found love and Ruffer. Isn't like
living in a religious compound in the woods or something.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I can't both be true, Jeffrey.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Yeah, maybe that's what he wants. That's fair compound, That's true.
A lot of romance there. The thing is, it's rare
for us to have a woman come back to the
show after we failed to get her a date.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Is usually the smarter one.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Women learn their lessons much much quicker than we do.
But today is different because we have the return of
someone I'm nicknaming miscrustworthy. Julia the pie le.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Oh, oh my god, you're the pie woman who remember
then she did the cakes on the date.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
First she tried all the pies, and then she was
doing the cakes and it was all about pastry.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Okay, I'll try and explain it less frantically than booked.
Did she took a dude to some random house to
eat homemade pies there and it was.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
Just a house with.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
And they sat in the car and they ate the
whole pie.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
And then he was upset because he realized that she
had taken somebody on a cake date and done the same.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Thing with Okay, we don't have to recap the whole thing.
Get she's the pielot. I'm upset for a Miss crust.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Worthy and when it comes to pastries this woman.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So that ended up not working out, but now she's
back on the line again with a new guy who
is welcome. Welcome back, Miss Crustworthy. Hi Butterworth.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Yeah, I have to know before anything. Was there a
theme to this date?
Speaker 5 (01:53):
No, I mean there was going to be.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
But so it's been a few months since we last
talked to you. What's happened in the time I've.
Speaker 5 (02:01):
Been dating around? I found this wonderful guy. His name
is Ben Okay, and it's been going so well.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
So far, and it's been I got it to got
it too, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:16):
The same.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
To find it? But sure, Okay, So what's Ben like?
Speaker 5 (02:21):
He's great, he's really funny, and we went to some
happy hours and it was really fun.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
You went on multiple dates.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Have Ben does he like Pie?
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (02:28):
And he even invited me out with his friends.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Okay, well, I asked a very important question. Is he
into Pie?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
That's the old her?
Speaker 5 (02:36):
He is?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Okay, it's still her, But that's crazy. He brought you
out to meet all his friends and stuff. Already it
sounds like things were going, like how many dates hasn't
been spent?
Speaker 5 (02:48):
Two dates?
Speaker 4 (02:49):
Too?
Speaker 5 (02:50):
Happy hours?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Too happy hours?
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Quick to bring the friends in. But I guess it's
happy hours, so maybe everybody's there, you know, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah, you don't have to be stock like facing each other. Okay.
Speaker 5 (02:59):
Yeah, and he was taking pictures and like, I feel
like if you're taking pictures, that means it's serious.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Pictures of what?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Yeah, like are we talking clothes on or close off
these or like?
Speaker 5 (03:12):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Like with this friends with his friends? Wait? You with
his friends?
Speaker 5 (03:17):
Yeah? It was me and a couple of his guy friends.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Oh that sounds like a big deal.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Actually is I don't know if I've ever had a
girl go I could take a photo not being it
like you're gonna put everybody in.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
The absolutely exclude people.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
From I'm with Jeff actually on that one, I think
you can totally say, all right, guys, photo.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Can you take this for us?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
They know we totally we're like good friends, only best
friends now number one friend.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
I think a guy taking a photo period is that's
a good point their friends anyways?
Speaker 5 (03:50):
Yeah, and then next morning he's like snapping me from
the airport.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Oh oh, did you did you know he was flying out? No? No,
but that's a good sign, Like he's continuing this communication.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
It's awesome, I guess so, but like, why wouldn't you
tell me we only went on two dates.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
It's not like you're gonna know.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I still mention it, like, by the way I flying.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Maybe he's having so much fun asking her questions, getting.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
To know her.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Did you find out where he was going the Caribbean?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (04:27):
I know. And so he's like snapping me on the
beach and it's beautiful. And then later that day after that,
he stops on communication, Like and now I've been texting
him and sending him pictures or whatever, and he's not
answering me. It's been two weeks.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Two weeks.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Va I was saying, yeah, he was on a beach
on the phone, very dangerous place to you to be
a lot of water, say, and who knows.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
I'm looking up shark attacks in the Caribbean.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
That's kind of weird.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
I'm thinking I hate to think this way, but I'm
thinking that maybe he met someone on this trip and
then he's like not texting or he I mean, like
you just said, did he get eaten by a shark?
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Actually call him and he's in the sharks.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
I'm just confused, as like, if it's not that, I'm
really confused because I don't normally click with people like that. Uh,
and I feel like he felt the same way.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yeah, he's giving you all the right signs. I mean,
I think you have every reason to get an explanation
from him.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
You were returning the equal amount of like snaps back
to him. Right, it wasn't all one sided.
Speaker 5 (05:33):
No, not at all. It was half and half.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Okay, this is odd.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
I trust my girl.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
It's miss Crustworthy Brook. Let's say the name right. We're
gonna we're gonna do right by Miss Crustworthy when we
tall worthy know.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
That name makes her sound so old.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Just sound.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Still Miss Crustworthy. Laugh if you like it. Oh God
delayed laugh. I'm taking We're gonna come back. We're gonna
call this guy Ben and figure out what's his deal.
Why isn't he getting back to you after two whole weeks?
Speaker 5 (06:06):
Thank you?
Speaker 3 (06:07):
Like help me reach out to him?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
All right, We'll see if he picks up when we
do your second date update right after this hold on
second date update. We have our theories for why Ben
is in calling back our listener Julia after he went
to the Caribbean two weeks ago. Theory number one, baby
shark in his shark family had a little Ben flavored
(06:31):
feast right off the coast.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
So I should not laugh because.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
We know it's likely not a shark. Guys, that's my
number one. Theory Number twomber Ben dropped his phone in
the ocean after too many breakfast margarite, or theory number three.
The one Julia is most worried about is Ben met
another woman while on one of the islands there.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Why wouldn't you just say, like, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
I know we went on a couple of dates. I've
met someone it was fun Like it.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Feels add for Julia to root for shark in this one.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I think we're all praying for because nobody wants number three, right, Julia.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
I definitely don't want to be rooting for sharks. But
I kind of am.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
I will say, getting eaten by a shark is like
the coolest.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
We took his phone and that's the shark can't text back. Yeah,
he's got built in.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
He doesn't need that phone. Let's at least dial Ben's
phone and see if somebody a water creature or Ben himself.
We're gonna get to the bottom. Y, We're going to
find out.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So dumb, and we just dropped another five podcast, but
we just went, okay, here we go.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Hello, Okay, that's a man.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Is this Ben?
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Yeah? Who's this?
Speaker 1 (08:03):
We're uh, we're a radio show. Oh, good morning. We're
called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Uh huh looking for recommendations on the Caribbean. No, anybody
that was smooth.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
He's still confused.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
What is it like? Did I win like a concert
or something?
Speaker 1 (08:22):
No, we haven't done something like that in a long time.
We're uh, we're doing a segment here called a second
Date Update where we're trying to help one of our
listeners get in touch with you because you two hung
out a while ago and apparently had a really good
time together. Her name is Julia. Oh uh, remember you
guys went to like, yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Yes, no, I know, I know, no, I okay, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yeah apparently you guys went to a couple of happy
hours and.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Yeah, yeah, no, we had a we had a really
good time. I've just been out of town, so I.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
Still Caribbean, right, Yeah, she said you were snapping her, so.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Yeah, yes, yeah, no, I've been in the Caribbean some
but I'm back.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
So I was gonna say, hard to leave.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
I bet I'm not busy trying.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Yeah, I wonder. You don't sound very relaxed right now,
so that okay makes sense.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Why are you getting back to her? That's just you know,
it sounds like you kind of dropped off.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
No, I'm gonna I'm gonna reach out to her. I've
just you know, it's just been crazy, Like my life
has just been crazy, like.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
The beaded dreads on the beach, and now you're just
like kind of like embarrassed, and she's gonna see him
look really cool.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
Yeah that's it. Yeah I have corn rows. Now.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Now, what's been so crazy?
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Well, I just, you know, like I've just been busy
traveling to and from and like her, it's been really busy.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
I just like, yeah, everything is just you know Julia.
Julia mentioned that you had a lot going on in
your life even when you two were hanging out, that
you had to like squeeze in happy hour stuff. But
it sounds like you're saying you are still interested.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Well that's good because she, like when we talked to her,
she was worried that it was just like a one
or two night thing.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
But I have a hot tip if you're interested in
a girl, maybe text her, yeah within two weeks, since.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
She's gonna fall off.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
Yeah, you know what, You're right, I should have please
you you guys have her contact or whatever, right, or
she got contacted you. You just tell her that I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Honestly, you can.
Speaker 5 (10:24):
Do Hey, I thought you met somebody else, because like
two weeks is a long talent.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
We didn't tell you that Julia has been listening to
this conversation. So yeah, there you go. You can say
sorry yourself directly to her.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
Oh hey, hi, ah uh, I don't I'm sorry. I
don't really, I don't know what to say this.
Speaker 5 (10:51):
Little I don't know, did you meet somebody?
Speaker 4 (10:57):
No, I didn't meet anyone new. I'm just I've just
been like busy, you.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
Know, it's just good to hear you from. I'm just like,
it's been way too long I haven't heard from you,
and I'm just like so relieved now because like I
felt like this instant chemistry and I don't normally feel
that with everyone.
Speaker 4 (11:13):
Oh yeah, no, I mean I genuinely don't either. I'm
just like, I know everybody always says this, but like
I've just been caught up and I got so busy
and distracted, but like I absolutely like I do want
to hang out.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Okay, well, this is this is awesome, Like this is
this is way easier than these normally go because we
will actually pay for your guys's next date if you
both officially give us the yes.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
Yes, Yeah, I'm totally excited. Cool, but just quick, why
I Julia like, I am technically married, so I just
I hope that's whatever.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Wait wait wait did you say.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Married when yeah, I'm technically married.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
What technically mean? You're either married or you're not married?
Speaker 1 (12:03):
I'm just what you gotta explain? You got to explain
to us the crazy or the honeymoon? Did you get
married there?
Speaker 4 (12:12):
No? No, no, no, nothing crazy like that. It was
our like five year anniversary.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Hold up, are you in like an open relationship. Does
your wife know this stuff?
Speaker 4 (12:24):
Well no, I mean not technically, no, Like I don't know.
Everybody's doing this nowadays.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
No, that's cheating. That's cheating you. What you're doing is cheating.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
Bro.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Did you not hear everybody is doing this now? He's
one of the cool.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Marriage photos of her with his friend.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Yeah, we we heard that. Then you and your friends
got together and you were taking pictures with Julie.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
You wouldn't, yeah, but then you would just claim that
it's your buddy's wife or girlfriend or whatever because it's
he wasn't in the picture with her.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
My wife doesn't know.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I was like totally angry right now.
Speaker 5 (12:59):
I mean then I can't believe you did it to me.
You should have told me this right away.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Well, I know, it's just like kind of an uncomfortable
thing to bring up front.
Speaker 5 (13:06):
It's but you should bring it right away.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
It's a fair uncomfortable thing to bring up front. They
can laugh all they want, but the weird thing to
bring up. And so it's better to do a little
down the road.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
You know now, Yeah, like it does soften the blow just.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
A little bit terrible.
Speaker 5 (13:25):
Then this is not going to work.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
Well, hold on, hold on, how about we just go
out once and then you decide after no.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
You can, you should.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
You have to tell his wife, you have to out,
you have to let her know, you got to find.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
You should listen to this.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
Yes, yeah, no, that's already happened. It's fine, Like it's
happened a couple of times where like girls will contact
her or whatever. She always believes me, it's fine.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Like that is the grossest response.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Well, that's a woman that's willing to believe whatever her
man says. And that's something that's rare in this world.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Reason.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Yeah, I didn't say it was a good thing. I'm
just saying it's rare. Unfortunately, I have seen things like
this when people.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
Just don't care.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
According to Ben, a lot of married couples are doing
this and it's the new norm.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
But not do we feel bad, Jeff, because like we're
involved now, like I don't want to say solicitate cheating.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
We're not. We're not asking them to go on a
date now that we know he's.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
We already asked and they already both said yes.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Take backs, Jeff. We're not giving you a gift card. Ben,
you don't deserve a gift card.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Yeah, we're giving it to your wife.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Yeah, actually like that.
Speaker 5 (14:39):
Yeah, she's gonna take him to dinner, guys, are.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
He's gonna feel guilty the whole time?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Poor Julia?
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Julia, you doing okay?
Speaker 3 (14:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (14:52):
Yeah, I'm gonna be fine. I just gotta keep dating.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
This is an easy answer, right, Like he's married is
a very thing to walk away from. Can you believe
now you have to ask dudes before you go on
a date with them if they're married.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Like, what a ridiculous question you.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Have to ask do you have a girlfriend? And then
have a follow up do you also have a wife? Wait?
Speaker 4 (15:11):
Wait for the guys, they're not going to tell you
the first time.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Wait, that's fair, that's good advice.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Actually, Ben sucks, Ben.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Ben, I gotta say you are the most upstanding sucky
person that we've ever hand on the show. He gave
some good advice. Don't believe men, I no one learned anything.
I certainly didn't. Jeffrey in the morning, Okay, Wow, big
emotional response in the studio from that one, for sure?
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Did you not have an emotional response to that?
Speaker 4 (15:44):
Well?
Speaker 1 (15:44):
The guy kept insisting it's more normal now for married
people to date outside of their relationships.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
So what cheeter says, Jeff, his wife doesn't even know
that he's doing it. Yeah, sure, different if they had
an agreement or something.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
I have to look it up though, to see if
he was right. And according to a twenty twenty three study,
marriage infidelity rates are on the rise and the percentage
of married people who cheat right now is somewhere between
seventy one percent and eleven percent and allow, so science
(16:19):
has to leave a little bit of margin of air there.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
But he's the dumbest study a good website.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
We do know even if the science came back and
proved it, that means he was doing the right thing.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Well, that he's just part of the status quo. The
thing is, we do know. Each person who answered yes,
they are cheating said it's cool. Everybody's doing it. Yeah,
it's the new nineteen eighties marijuana. It's cool, man, everybody's
doing it. Bro So at the end, I guess he's
still a bad guy. But guess I don't want to
(16:51):
offend seventy one to eleven percent of the population broke.
I'm not sure where people lie. Some cheater just text
it in. Oh great, we lost the cheating demo. Darn it,
I am an upstanding cheating but text in to seven, eight, five,
nine to two tell us what you thought about the
second date update great and if you need help with
(17:12):
your dating life, married or single, we'll try and help
you out. We'll call that person hopefully single. We'll call
that person who's not calling you back.
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