June 13, 2024 • 41 mins
It’s time for the Big Show where we talk about some big things! Erin and Charissa catch up about Charissa’s time at the Belmont Stakes and the challenges of postgame interviews during the celebration of a win. Erin admits she was making a mistake with her recent Korean skincare routine obsession. They also get real with a discussion about marriage, and if it’s time for Charissa to change her opinion on the matter.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I am very overt about the fact that I never
want to get married again.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Why why are you so overt about it? Why are
you so vocal and like dead set on it? Why?
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Speaker 1 (00:20):
Hello everybody, Hello to the latest installment of the Calm
Down Podcast. Aaron and I are so far yet so
close together. The countdown is on for our trip to
Taylor Swift. Thank you guys so much for all of
the feedback on so much beware all the things.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
So we're excited about that. We have a lot going on.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
What are we going to talk about today's sister, We
are going to talk about how is the Bellmont incredible?
We will get into that. I have a great opportunity
to work that for Fox. Aaron also has an update
for everybody on her Korean skincare For those of you
that are new to the program, look what happened in
my face? Or get into that. Who has been singing
(01:04):
the praises? But now it sounds like that's not the
case anymore, So stay tuned for that. Also, our gal
is playing a little hurt today. She was up all night,
not on a bender, but boo being a.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Mom And if you want to call sailing spray a bender,
then I am wasted. We'll get to that.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Welcome more to Okay, Aaron's been doing this move for
those of you that can't see her. She takes her
stack of papers and like keeps organizing them, like she's
got like so many documents that she's going through with
over there. And it makes me laugh every time. Aaron's
very organized and always has her shit together. What is
all we have to question his papers? Did you print
out the like what.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
My cute assistant did? Hold on? Can I can I ask?
I've seen a lot of people instagram this kind of stuff.
I am a three beverage gal. I got the coffee,
I got the water, and I got the green. Are
you the same? I cannot just have one drink? Am
I the same? I feel like you know this about me.
I'm surprised I only have one beverage in my hand
(02:08):
right now. Anyone that has known me.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Knows that, for the longest time, a brunch consists of water, coffee,
green juice, mimosa yea.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
And then we'll get into the apparel sprint s portion.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I mean, at any given time, there could be five
beverages right in front of me.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
It's excessive. And I also have two different lip glasses,
a pen. Yeah, what's in you on your dass? Not
what's in your purse? Well, what's in my wallet is
not a lot of concealers for my zips that I'm hiding.
Really yeah, that right in front of you.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
That's adorable and also very organized. That you have your
concealers in a zip block bag.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Well, because they were in my nasty purse with the gross,
dirty bottom, Like it's insane. So what aren't we doing
for a purse at tailor's Way? Because I feel like
venues see through. I don't know what to do and
I only need like credit card, lip gloss, gum, phone, phone,
hotel key, Jery can hold that, yeah, mince Oh you
(03:16):
say gum gum?
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I panicked, Oh my gosh, we'll get to all the
things actually here, No, this is going to take us
right to it. So I had the great privilege of
being one of the individuals that got to cover the
Belmont for Fox, which is very exciting for a guy
like me who's currently at the ranch and has always
loved horse racing because I used to go to the
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track with my grandpa when I was a little girl,
and he'd give me twenty dollars and he would tell
my grandma, don't tell her that we're at the track,
and I'll give you money, because he didn't want knowing
that he was gambling, because there may or may not
have been a problem if you have a problem called
one eight hundred gambling, oh not in your respective state.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
But he just gave me some hush money.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
And by the way, as a seven year old getting
twenty bucks, mama was ready rich.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
I'd go right up to that.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Window and I learned how to make the beds and
win play show, the whole thing. So imagine my enthusiasm
when Fox comes to me last year and they're like,
we got the Belmont like and we'd love you to
work it. We know your affinity for horse racing, the ponies.
I talked about this last week. For those of you
that listened to the podcast, thank you. So I was
in Saratoga all week now, first time in Saratoga. I
went to the Gap a lot of times. I bought
(04:28):
many outfits from the Gap, which.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I gotta say, Gap kids, unbelievable for my child.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
I was going to buy a bunch of stuff for
Maxtell at Gap Kids. But then I had to carry on,
so that was I going to make it back. But anyways,
that was that was fun learning new restaurants. Shout up
to the canteen and Saratoga got a lot of mark.
Every time Aaron called me, she goes.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
You back to the Mexican restaurant Ram Sureram had a
great taco salad, Yes, taco salad and margarita frozen margarita.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
So to the kind people in Saratoga, thank you for
being so welcoming.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Wish.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
I know I've mentioned this before on the podcast and
I sound like we're so arrogant for saying this. I
just have to think anyone that comes up to me
or to Aaron or when we're together or not together,
and says that they love the podcast, it makes me
so nice. This happened multiple times while I was there,
and I just I hope you guys know that it
actually really makes me happy, because sometimes Erin and I
(05:21):
are like, who's listening?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
But it's adorable and I love all of you guys. Okay,
And so face timed me with a couple of fans yes,
because I was like, well, let's They're like, I love you,
and Aaron I was like, well, let's just call her
right now. So it really makes my heart happy.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
So thank you guys for being so generous and giving
up a little bit of your time every week to
listen if you do so sweet. So backdrop of Saratoga,
the oldest racetrack in the country, incredible.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
I had never been there before, which bummed me out.
But you're gorgeous.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Oh you're very sweet, but so so fun And was
there and I have this fear, like you do, of
having bad breath or bo or just not being frushers.
Aaron I like to say, like, we love the freshness.
So I am going to a dinner and I realize
as I've gone down the elevator and I'm in the lobby,
(06:11):
I'm like, shit, I don't have any gum in my purse.
I I so then go to the little area in
the front of the hotel where they're selling you know,
the concessions things like that they don't have any gum.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I'm like, we have no gum, and I don't want.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
To go all the way back up, just around waiting, waiting,
and I'm there right, I'm there for work and anyone
like we do not get in that car.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Be on time. Don't be that person that's late. Sure,
So what is it?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
The little concession area is a toothbrush and a toothpaste.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
So what do I do. I buy the toothbrush and toothpaste.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
I throw away the toothbrush because I don't need the
toothbrush and I'm eating toothpaste throughout the evening. That's what
I did. Instead of having gum, I just squeezed the
cress little mini into my mouth while I was out
and about. Sorry, I'm not gonna risk and maybe that's
gross and maybe that's bad for me. Just a full
douse in the mouth, freshness and ready to go.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Yeah, I mean it's one of the worst things, you know.
I appreciate the effort. Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
So I was in Saratoga all week, fresh as a daisy,
and just got back and got to my ranch.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
And I have learned so many tips and tricks with
the ponies.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I can't wait to get I'm looking at my horse
right now out this window, and yeah, well he was
very inexpensive. He's not a thoroughbred race horse, okay, And
I know that this poor guy out there. I thought
that horses just sleep standing up. Well, I was informed
from my time in Saratoga with these Thoroughbred horse races
(07:45):
that they would love to sit down and sleep if
you give them a bed to lay down on.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
And I'm like, when.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Meat a bed, Well, that's what I'm thinking. So of
course I'm like, well, let's get the horse the best
bed that you can get. It's like, no, it's like
straw or like something that's just saw for the horse
to lay down. I feel like such a dick because
all I have are these little shavings in my sweet
Oz's house out there. So guess who's about to get
a full on like set up with a bed.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
This guy, I'm going to be out.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
There shoving some straw into his little stall, and he
is going to be a happy camper. I know his
life's about to change. His life already has changed. He's
loving it out there.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Where where are you when they the horses go? Like
when the race begins, were you there? Were you? Or sat?
Where were you? Adorable? Thank you for asking.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
I was in the winter circle because I had the
great privilege of presenting the trophy with the Governor of
New York, Kathy Hokel and so I'm in the winter
circle and it goes by like that, and Dornick, who
is one of the owners is Jason Worth who used
to cool for the Phillies, and he's won a World
(08:50):
Series and it was so fun to see he wasn't
the favorite and no one, not a lot of people
thought he was going to win.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
He wasn't projected to win.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
So, as Dissa pointing, as it was because I lost
money betting on the favorite. It was cool to see
sort of the long shot, not.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Sort of the long shot. He was mid mid range
long shot win the race.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
And to have Jason win and I love like asking
him afterwards like where this ranked compared to winning a
World Series and he was like it beats it, which
is cool, Like I mean really like the pinnacle of
his profession.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
But then to be an owner.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Of a horse's school, so yeah, it's credit for the
sport too.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
I was thinking about this earlier. I want to talk
about trophy presentation interviews or interviews in the winner's circle.
I've had the opportunity to do a few at the
World Series. You were phenomenal doing yours there. I was
getting a big kick. People have no idea, They have
no clue how difficult those are. They are so hard.
(09:56):
There's so many people, they're all excited. We get that,
but you also have a job to do. They always say,
do not give up your mic, even if someone is
like wrestling it from you. Also, I meant to ask
you about my mic to the governor. I saw that,
but I wasn't critiquing that part. Were you on the
(10:17):
loud speaker? So could you hear yourself too? People also
don't understand how difficult that is. You have to block
that out or hope to god your ifs are so
loud that you can't hear your voice on the loud speaker,
because that is so hard.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Well, it's funny you say that, because it reverberates. And
that's what I always think happens with singers, Like we
know what. It's like a foregone conclusion that a singer
always them out, rip them out of their ears, because
they must be hearing some sort of like whether it's
static or reverse something. Because if you hear yourself and
then you're on a delay, I mean, this is I'm
just we're putting it out there. This is not the
(10:51):
hardest thing in the world. It's just different than any
other part of the job.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
You know what, I'm done saying that because we don't
give ourselves an enough criding. It's fucking hard. It's hard.
Now I'm not we're not performing brain surgery. We're not
you know, in a courtroom trying you know, a case.
Blah blah blah. It's hard. Not everyone can do it.
I'm sick of everyone thinking they can any who. It's hard.
So you have that. Then you got the gentleman in
(11:18):
the back that of the others excitement, But wow, he
wants to get his word in. You don't want to
be a dick, and you want to acknowledge him. But
you got places to go before. And I'm sure in
your ear they're telling you to wrap. And my man
wants to talk about the jockey and the trainer, and
you were, you were so you reminded me of Ellen
(11:40):
from a Christmas story. So anyway, like you handled it,
people have no idea how hard that is. You got
everybody wanting to talk. Well, you're very sweet to say that,
but it is the number one rule.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
And I actually watched Jim Nance do this, and he
talked about it in an interview where that is like
the number one role, like you do not give up
your microphone.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
And there was a time I don't know which super
Bowl he was referencing where you could see my max.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
It's a struggle not taking this thing away because at
that point then you lose all control. But yeah, there's
a lot and especially again I am the horse racing
is not my domain, Like I go into it because
of Fox's right, you can't I go out of it,
like it is not my thing. So when you're again
you don't know who the winner is within that last
(12:29):
few seconds. It's not like you're watching a game and
it's like someone has a ten point lead or they're
up by two touchdowns and you can sit there and
plan out like where's the trainer, where's the owner? Like
it is like and my biggest fear is, which we've
seen this happen in sports, we saw recently, not identifying
the right individual and like especially when for them that's
(12:51):
like the biggest moment, this is their horse that just won,
or a trainer or whatever. So I always want to
just caution that I'm like making sure the right people.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
But yeah, you're very sweet. It is not no, it
hard yep. The coolest one I've ever done was after
the Red Sox one, after the Boston Marathon bombing. I
can Poppy like you shouldn't give up your mic, but
I gave Poppy my mic so he could reenact the
speech of like this is our e fing city. If
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I'm going to give my mic up to anyone, I'd
give it up to that beauty. And then hardest one
I've ever done was the San Francisco Giants won the
World Series. In San Francisco. It was pouring rain and
I was pumped, like you know when you're feeling it.
I was like, I freaking nailed this. I lost all
my notes because it was raining. I like, I couldn't
(13:41):
look down at who I was introducing, who was there.
But finally when it was going on, it was going on.
But the one thing I kept thinking of is like,
I'm looking at Bruce Bochie right now, and I know
all my fake eyelashes are all over my face and
I'm so sorry Boach, but they weren't. But it was
like it was hard. That's so cool though, Like really,
I mean, of course.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
If you get to do any of those, but the
emotion attached to that Boston one.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
I can't imagine. Oh my god, every night during that
World Series, before the first pitch, everybody was crying because
they always had a tribute and they always had the
first responders, so and so that was injured. It was
just like full blown and just what that World Series meant.
It was like a relief and peace for that town.
(14:28):
It was so amazing. My mom and dad came. It
was unbelievable. It was an insane postseason. It was so
fun to be a part of. I was raised a
Red Sox fan. My dad's from Springfield, my mom's from
Rhode Island. It was really really cool. Oh, I can't
imagine how you feel. I got excited to go to
the All Star Game in Seattle with my mom.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
I can't imagine being on the field and like having
your parents see all that.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
They must be like. It was pretty another proud of you.
But I don't remember if it was the round before,
if it was the World Series. I think it was
the World's Series. It was the World Series because my
mom and dad were there. But Poppy was annoyed with
the media. I don't know if he kind of was
not playing well, but something was going on storyline wise,
he wasn't speaking to the media, but he did a
(15:13):
pregame interview with me in the Red Sox tug Out
and that was the media and yeah, only interview he did.
And I remember my parents were standing right there and I.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Was like, my man, I'm so proud of you though,
like and but let's go back to what this talks.
We talk about relationships. Yeah, building those relationships and earning
that because that's so special. And when you actually get
to have it come to fruition where it's like that
reputation or not. You know, yes, the reputation, but also
the the equity that you've built up in the friendship
(15:43):
can pay off in that moment is really special. So
you're there to do your job and if if that
job means that you get access to somebody that's not
given anyone else access, good on you girl. You Carson Belmont,
you degree you're Aaron is like the biggest supporter. She's
so sweet, Like she'll text me throughout a broadcast that
like she's you know, obviously on Sunday she's busy, she's working,
(16:05):
but when she's not working and she always I don't know,
you always make a point to be so supportive, and
I just love you for that.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Thank you. We were out to lunch. We were Mac
was having his first rack of rips and vanilla ice cream,
and I turned on my YouTube TV. Not an ad,
but I'd love it to be, and I had my
girl on. I was like, so worried that your feature
had already played. I was like, Jared, they already ran
the race and it was actually an hour before. They
hadn't even run it yet. But it's like, you're like
(16:31):
the same way. I just kind of have you on,
like I want to know what's going on.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
You know, I love you And shout out to our
girl Carcy Phipps and Harpburq on. Anyone that's a long
time listener of the Calm Down Podcast knows that she's busy.
Carcie is always busy. She's got things going on in
that they're such a great family. Hey, what's not great though,
is Aaron. We alluded to it at the beginning here,
You've got a little situation with the Korean skincare what's happened.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
Got a little I got a little build up going
on on the shin, which is always my issue. That's
always my concern area. Finally went and got a facial today,
and you know, when they are spending more time on
the extraction versus the lifting and tightening, we got an issue.
So basically I came clean and I said, I stopped
(17:17):
using the products you sell here and I started using
Korean skincare. And one thing about Korean skincare, which I
was excited about because I fell for all the ads,
was the dual cleansing. We do our oil cleansing first
and then we do our foaming cleansing. I was doing
that twice twice a day, in the morning and at night.
What I've learned, because I'm a t zone gal, we
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don't need to be putting any more oil on these
pores that we already have. We had a massive blockage.
So what we have going on right now is probably
like I am like a push pad. What do you
call it? Like I was going to say braille, but
that's not appropriate, Like it is the real there's a
lot of there's a lot lot of texture on my skin.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Your chin is just Yeah, we've got elevations that we
don't even know yet.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
We're climbing Everest and wow, wowie wawser since so we're
gonna lay back a little bit on the Korean skincare,
which is good because I was very worried about packing
it for Europe, for Taylor, I was worried about how
I was going to pack it for football guys.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
The fact that she thinks about how she's going to
pack her skincare is bananas to me.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
I'm like a twelve year old girl right now.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
I am so envious that she plans and even thinks
about things like that.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
You're lucky if it's a lot to plan anything. But
I need to go back at this for a second.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
The skincare world is so confusing, and sometimes it feels
like a little bit of a racket. I'm not gonna lie,
and you know what, it's causing congestion well, because it's like, oh,
do this, okay, but don't do this, and then you
do this thing is working. It's like then sometimes be honestly,
I do nothing and it's like the best my face
ever looked.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
I go and get all these faces and then.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
I get break out and it's like I don't know
what I'm supposed to be doing.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Actually said the same thing today. Are these facials are
all these things like causing the zits and we should
just go back to what we were doing. Like I
don't know what to do because I have the oil
cleanser and then I got that little powder that's in
there and it mixes and I love it and it
feels so good, and then it's like it's working, and
then like a week later, it's not working, and then
I break the glass bottle all over the shower. So
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now I'm picking up while naked, shards of glass off
the bottom of the shower. And so I'm like, I
just don't know how I'm for Taylor Swift.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
No, and I'm not consistent with any regiment in my
life because I get bored with it. Or then I'm like,
oh it's running low and I definitely didn't you know,
buy it.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
It's been advanced. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
It's just all overwhelming. And then I think to myself,
like less is more like my mom growing up, she
used like washed her face with like a bar of
soap and used oil of let oil. Volet anyone know that,
Like is it's a white bottle black little?
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Isn't it funny?
Speaker 1 (20:02):
How you like I remember that smell and like watching
her get ready in the morning. By the way, her
ready is like just lotion and spraying Elizabeth Arden sunflower perfume.
I know, but like those things like remind me of
her and has perfect skin, has never had a ZiT
in their whole life.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
So I just don't know what to do.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
I mean, we're going left, we're going right, we're going up,
we're going down with skincare. Somebody make it simple for me.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Can I you know, I probably need a blood transfusion
after all the blood I lost today with those extractions,
But can I talk to you about I was talking
to Ash about this. There's always that one or two
area that you know will have a black head or
need like a little bit of extraction. I have one
that I always can go to every two weeks. Wait
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then I'm like a jew machin. Yeah, I just know
it's like a white like not a white head, but
it's got a little bit of what I like to
call it.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
I get real excited about those black heads because I
know they're coming out, and they're coming out without any
kind of repercussion. And when I go and I get
those little maybe we've talked about this safety pins that's not.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Always the cleanesto.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
But then I'm like, I'm excited when I find a
safety pin in the bottom of the dingebag and I'm like, ooh,
this is going to prevent scarring.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Go right into the poor get her out.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
There's such satisfaction when it just pops right out.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Now, I did that last week, but still came to
the facial with like a red bomb and she goes, Now,
what you did was you pushed it down farther. There's
more in there. Now I'm bleating again, and you can't win. Now.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I can't win in a predicament that I'm in, and
I might get in trouble from my significant other for
bringing this up, but I feel like this is a
safe space here the Calm Down podcast platform. So I'm
going to present this question based off of a little
bit of and it's not been identified this situation I'm
in and has not been diagnosed. I'm just seeing some
(22:02):
signs that might make me believe that that's where we're headed.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I saw this sign and it opened up my eyes.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
So I have talked at nauseum about my divorces and
my last divorce. Yes, I know this just and I
got robbed and I got divorced. You hadline you can
always count on with me, But I have made it.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
Did anyone know that? Anyways? And it there we go.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
We live to tell the tale, but I make it
very overt. I am very overt about the fact that
I never want to get married again.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Don't Why Why are you so overt about it? Why
are you so vocal and like dead said on it? Why?
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Because the first time I got married, I was very young,
and I chalked up the first time to getting married
to just being young and dumb and okay. Then I said,
I don't I don't like losing. You don't like losing,
And I was like, ooh, that really sucks. Like took,
I got it. I got an l in that calling
right now. So the second time around, the individual had
never been married before, and I didn't feel that it
(23:08):
was fair to be so full stop on marriage when
that person wanted to get married. It was important to
that person, and I didn't want to take away something
from them that they wanted just because of my past.
So I was like, okay, I also didn't get to
know that person right right. There's any other subplots to
(23:29):
that headline, but the headline there is that person wanted
to get married, and I didn't want to take that
away from them, So, against my better judgment, for a
lot of reasons, but also just in general, I was like, fine,
I'll get married again. Get married again.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
It's not what really you wanted. It wasn't what I
wanted at all. I didn't want to get married.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Again after the first loss, because who wants to keep
doing that. I was totally fine, and even I even
got married the first time, honestly, not kind of on
like I don't want to say a bet. So I
was like, I went there to break up with the guy,
because this is a whole therapy session. I went there
to break up with him because the minute I start
getting attached, I like retreat because I don't want to
get too close because then I might be dependent on
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someone else for happiness and I want to control my
own happiness. So this is twenty four year old me,
still thirty three year old me, the same, but sure
start to get too close, so gonna back away. I'll
try to be succinct with this explanation to get us
to where we are in the current day. So I
go to break up with him. He says, we're not
breaking up, We're getting married. We I go, okay, we
(24:31):
go to Hollywood and get tattoo rings. I've never had
a tattoo. He had never had a tattoo, get ring tattoos.
And then four days later I was like, well, if
I'm gonna get married, we're gonna get married on a
beach in Laguna Beach, because I want to get married
on a beach. He said, Okay, I pull out a
Forever twenty one white dress out of my closet.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
I wear that. I get flowers on the side of
the road, and polaroids were our pictures.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
That was the wedding, so I was thinking, this is great.
I never really wanted the big wedding, so I didn't
have to have it. We crashed somebody else's wedding because
it's in June in Laguna at the hotel. We're staying out,
I'm cutting someone else's cake. Like I mean, it was great.
It was all very like ran am on the dance
floor with the bride. I'm like, I got married to yeah,
(25:13):
so fine, that all happens. And then second time around,
I'm like, okay, I'll do it the right way. I
actually want my parents at this wedding because I never
had my dad walk me down the aisle. So I
get to make up for some of the things I
never thought I wanted but have. Okay, now we got
two strikes. I don't know about you, but I'm in
the batter's box and I look into strike out for
the third and final time, and I just don't want
(25:36):
to make this fail to make this commitment again when
the first two times I was like, not really into
it anyways, to then do it again. Not the relationships
per se, but this idea of marriage, like, oh, we're
gonna be so much stronger or so much better if
we get married, like my Goldie Han Kurt Russell mentality
(25:58):
is if we're not married, every single day, I get
to wake up and decide I want to be with you,
Like I don't have to be with you, but I
get to be with you.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
I want to be with you. Is that okay for him? Correct?
So this is you, guys. This is where I'm at
right now. Now.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
Steve has not said this. He has not come out
and said I want to get married. He hasn't said that.
But I'm feeling a little bit guilty that I'm so
and this is I just need to have the conversation
with him, is what's happening. But instead you guys are
letting me have and you never have no because I
just have never put it as an option on the table.
It's kind of like when your parents said, like, we're
(26:34):
not getting a dog. You can't We're not having a dog.
You're never getting a dog. Get over a kid, or
we're never having a cat. Your dad's allergic. So just
you think, Okay, I'm never going to get that. I
never have given Steve the option like we're going to
get married, because I just took it off the table
before it could even be a conversation.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
So right now you're Joe in the Tortured Poets Society
Like you're Joe. You took everything off like the table.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
All roads lead back to Taylor. We are ever getting
back together?
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Back come.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
So I bring all this up to get your guys's
advice too. Do I approach him and say like, hey,
are you feeling so, because maybe he'd be like, Noah,
I'm good, but I've already taken having a baby off
the table, which he agrees with. He says he doesn't
want to have a baby, so that part, but I
haven't really heard him ever say like I don't want
(27:32):
to marry you.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
I've never heard him say that. I just I've always
heard you say it. I've never heard him say it.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
I know.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
So, And then I willing a little bit over you
and said I don't like that, and I want you
to get married, But.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Why do you want me to get married when you
know it's caused me so much pain? Because these aren't
the same people.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
But I do agree with in this day and age,
does it really even matter anymore? Like you bring up
you know, Kurt Russlong, Goldie Han, they're adorable. There's actually
a lot of other people that do it too. But
I do think you should find out if that's okay
with him.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I know, And it could be a really simple question.
I mean like I could just walk outside and be like, hey,
did you ever want to get married? And I just
didn't present that to you, Or it could be like.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Can we talk? Can we talk? I don't know.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
I'm just having her so hard because there's like certain
things like he's just acting in a different way that
I'm used to, not in a bad way, just different,
And so I'm like, now this is what you and
I do. It's what we do at work. We all
of a sudden are not getting found in a rabbit
hole and we're getting fired. And the boss said call
me because he wanted me to go work another event.
So I fired myself before I even give the person
(28:44):
an opportunity to maybe promote me.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
I don't know, lost all feeling in my extremities, like
feeling like my chest is tightening, definitely going to have
some sort of stroke. Oh hey, I was just checking
to see if he could make it to dinner next week.
Well I can't because I'm actually had cedars on an
IV because they're checking my heart rate because I just
convinced myself I'm off the A crew.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
And it's honestly the missing this year context. Somebody, if
you're a boss, is hey, why don't you give me
a call and to get a chance or just call
me or you have a minute.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
He just tried you. Hey, just tried you. That's also
about that's a bad one. Hey, just ties you.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I know, I just saw the miss Paul, and that's
why I didn't answer, because they're already assuming the words. Hey,
quick question when you get a minute? No, no, no,
like how quick, Like you're fired or we're going in
a different direction.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Going in a different direction sounds a little longer. That's
not quick.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
So yeah, So I would love your thoughts, comments and concerns, questions,
comments and concerns on how I.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Should approach this situation with Steve.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Do I just go because he's so like, maybe that's
my problem just like he's awesome, which, by the way,
like I have intel, I have intel that basically one
of my family members, your family member, Ogden Phipps, loves him,
Like well that that's like, that's like my you know,
that's like the end all be all. If he is
an endorser of anything, I'm in on it. But I'm
(30:18):
let me just put a bow on this conversation before
we continue. Once I really get answers, why is it
that you what's the thing with marriage? Like why did
you like growing up? Did you want to get married?
Like what is it about marriage for you that like
feels like the right thing to have done with Jared?
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Like because I don't get it. You know what's crazy
is that I felt like a lot of pressure was
off us once we got married. I felt like I
put so much pressure on our relationship until we got
engaged or married, because I knew I was in it
for the long haul. I knew this is the person
(31:00):
I wanted to be with. I knew that, you know,
this was like it for me, but I and I
guess i'd known that from him. But also, like, let's
be honest, we work in this world. We have a
lot of guy friends. It's like, are we doing this?
Are we not doing this? I feel like a woman
asking that more than it is the guy. Yeah that
(31:22):
was me. Yeah. But then it was like once we
got engaged, once we got married, I kind of chilled well,
I wanted to chilled out. Uh here Wednesday, I chilled
out at all. I felt less pressure with our relationship.
It was funny. One of my really good friends actually
said that to us, maybe like a month ago. She
(31:43):
was just like, you guys have almost gotten stronger with
all the crap you've been through, versus like, amazing how
much it's hurt you. Because then this is always funny, hear,
there are some times we didn't think you guys would
come back. You know, you have some doozy of a
fights when you're dating and stuff like that, which is
through a lot of stuff together. Yeah, but I feel
(32:04):
like we are just like our friendship, like our commitment
towards each other. I mean that's how I feel about it.
I just hit them, like sorry, Brian, but yeah, I
felt like it took a lot of pressure off. Yeah
that's interesting. Yeah, I think that for me.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
Obviously, my experience with marriage hasn't been great, So why
do you want to jump back into something that hasn't
been good? Like, hey, jump back into that deep end.
The last two times you might be drowned. Maybe have
floaties on this time. It's like, who says floaties?
Speaker 2 (32:31):
But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
I was just curious. So I would love anyone's thoughts
if they've been in similar situations where it's like the
partner just takes things off the table before they're ever
in an option, And then do you get resemble at
one point like we're going to be fifty years old,
like this is.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
My boyfriend state boyfriend? Boyfriend?
Speaker 1 (32:52):
Like boyfriend sounds like so insignificant in the big scheme
of thing, but then what my partner? It's like, I
don't know, that's not weird. So anyway, that's just where
I'm at. We're out of time, unfortunately, because.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
We're actually not. Ryan wants us to have longer podcasts.
Do you have a few minutes or do you have
to seattle?
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (33:11):
No, all I have to do is make Oz's bed
for him. Do you want to go over a couple
of headlines? I would love nothing more than to do that.
I really wanted to hear what you have to say
about this. Okay, we're going threadsheets count? Do thread counts
(33:33):
really matter when buying bad sheets? Experts reveal the truth
thread count has little to do with the actual quality
of your sheets, despite what the industry has put out there. Thoughts.
I'm going to go right back to what we just
talked about with skincare.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
I think it's there's some of these companies that have
like all the ingredients and all these things cost so much,
so the price of the skincare has to go up,
and the sheets same thing, like all these materials that
you're using. That's like, look, get this into the the
buzzword of thread count, so it drives the sheets up.
Or the marketing like a Chanel lip gloss could be
(34:08):
the same as Cover Girl but actual ingredients, but all
the marketing and the packaging and all the stuff of
the Chanelle makes it forty five dollars and Cover Girl
is twenty dollars. I say this to be like, you know,
I'm very honest about my my home design. I never
went to school for interior design. I don't even know
half the terminology for home design. I just know that
if I did a blind test and I felt one
(34:30):
set of sheets and another set of sheets, I wouldn't
equate thread count with the ones that feel better. It's
like what feels better for my personal preference. Like some
people can like that jersey material like T shirt. I'm like,
I like more of a silky like soft sheet. So
I have no idea if that makes the sheets better.
I think it's all personal preference.
Speaker 2 (34:50):
With my side sleeper on my face, I just bought
a silk pillow case. I know that sounds dirty, but
like I feel like we got to do everything we
can at this point to save No, no, no, no,
I don't Why does that sound dirty? That's actually really good,
so you're not smashing your face.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
Yeah, But like like linen, never ever ever be on
linen sheets, like as a woman, because that material is
so rough. Like I love the look of linen, but
not when it comes, because they sell those. I sell
linen sheets, like if you want that, like to loom
look vibe not on this face.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
I don't. I've been looking like the sandy beaches. I'm
sure mine looks like, Yo, you look great. You need not.
I do love. I'm a terrible host, but I should
have transitioned with how many Americans still believe in true love?
After our big talk about your talk you're about to have?
How many Americans still believe in true love? Good news
(35:44):
for anyone seeking a mark of romance this summer. True
love is still alive, as seventy percent of Americans believe
it exists. Who are Oh my god, I love that.
I love love.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
That's why we talked about it on the pregame with
the sweet person that submitted the question of like, how
you okay? You talked about this and Nat You're okay?
They bed bugs, probably more bumps the pregame question that
we got this week. One of them was about how
soon should you start dating after you get a divorce?
(36:17):
And my whole thing has always been like why I
got back? Even if I think marriage isn't.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
For me, I love love like I love it.
Speaker 1 (36:27):
It's part of the reason why, like I'm so happy
in my life right now, which is also why I
don't want to fuck it up with a marriage, because
love is like if you have My dad always would
say this to me, if you have all these things
in your life, all these great things, but you don't
have anyone to share it with, Like then what Like
my first call when anything good would happen in my life,
(36:49):
even when I was in relationships, was always to my
dad because I wanted tom, I wanted him to be
proud of me. It's my dad, my mom and dad
couldn't wait to tell them the news. And now they're
not my first call, second call, and Steve's my first call.
And it's like I want, like everyone to be in
love and I want everyone to be happy because you
think about your life, like how much better it is
(37:10):
with Jared, Like it's it's the reason you like get
excited to do any kidding, I mean, like think about it,
like yeah, yeah, it's not every day now I'm fucking perfect.
But going on a trip, you want to go to
Mexico by yourself or would you rather go with your
best friend. I'll never forget what you said to me.
We were in Montana. I like that. Remember this when
we were in Montana and I did not want to
(37:32):
go home, and I was like, oh, I'm going to
stay a few days, and You're like, I want to
go home. I want to go see my husband because
I really like him. And I was like, ooh that
like and it's It was one of those moments where.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
I was like, fuck, I long for the day to
have that. So yay, love Elle, Yay, you have to
go the way you look at me, I like this one.
I think we both feel the same about this. I
have dealt with this and when I okay, wait. Taylor
Swift defends Lady Gaga. We saw that whole thing. People
(38:03):
were calling Lady Gaga pregnant, ridic and obviously Taylor Wade
in which I thought was magical. But you gotta believe
one of the reasons why she weighed in was the
week before. I remember I was in Mexico and these
people were posting videos of her on tour and they
were like, she's pregnant, she's pregnant, and I just two things.
(38:28):
I get. We were not at her level. I can't
even imagine being at that level. We are in front
of the camera for a living. I have posted a
photo before of myself on Instagram. It was actually from
week eighteen of the season. It was me and my
coworkers and I guess I didn't suck in and somebody were,
you're pregnant, and I just thought, no, can't get pregnant, actually,
(38:52):
but thanks for asking. And I also remember when Jennifer
Aniston came out with her whole thing. I forgot if
it was lilast year where she was like talking about
how many times she went through IVF she couldn't get pregnant.
She was like, and then there were the times I'm
bloated or whatever's going on, and I'm going through IVF
and people thought I were go to hell? Like enough,
(39:14):
are we really still here where we're commenting on women's bodies. Yeah?
I mean this chick, Taylor Swift and what she does
four to five nights a week on tour in high heels,
moving and grooven. She can look however she wants to look.
That chick is in great shape. And to do that
about lady Gagachu, you have no clue what people are
(39:35):
going through in their lives. Maybe they are doing IVF,
maybe they are trying go to hell.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Maybe they have anything else going on. Maybe there's some
something in their body that's making them being weight. There's hormoes,
there's all these things. Put it this way, let's make
it simple. Stop commenting on women's bodies period and vil
like you're too fat, you're too skinny, there's too there's
so I mean, there's a million different ways that people
go out.
Speaker 2 (39:58):
Women like you don't know what they're going through. And
not just women.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
I know that guys can be attacked too, but the
whole pregnancy thing, Like, I'm so glad that you just
said that about your situation, like you no, I would
love to be pregnant, you asshole?
Speaker 2 (40:10):
Is what you want to rank? Get it? But then
it's like, you know what, probably should lay off the
chips and salsa. Actually maybe a little bloated. Yeah you would.
It's wild, And I'm so glad she said something because
obviously it came from a place where I saw what
they were doing to.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
Her the week before. Yeah, stop, everyone, just be kind.
In the words of Cinderella, as I go and clean
the attic and the horses stall, I always love the
expression have courage and.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
Be kind, Have courage, and be kind. I mean, God,
is there any better? Like? I just love that movie
so much, love that movie. My battery is gonna die.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
Okay anyways, no, no, no, I know, I just don't
want it to cut off before Kurt we upload this.
Speaker 2 (40:57):
I love you so much.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
Was fun.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
We should do this more off in another ten minutes.
Ryan loves it great.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
Well.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
I love you guys.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
Thank you for everyone that listens, and I would love
your input so I can stay in a loving, healthy relationship.
Thank you for making this a safe space to talk
about my feelings.
Speaker 2 (41:12):
Saves you, don't leave me. Don't leave me, Steve, don't
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I am very overt about the fact that I never
want to get married again.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Why why are you so overt about it? Why are
you so vocal and like dead set on it? Why?
Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Hello everybody, Hello to the latest installment of the Calm
Down Podcast. Aaron and I are so far yet so
close together. The countdown is on for our trip to
Taylor Swift. Thank you guys so much for all of
the feedback on so much beware all the things.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
So we're excited about that. We have a lot going on.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
What are we going to talk about today's sister, We
are going to talk about how is the Bellmont incredible?
We will get into that. I have a great opportunity
to work that for Fox. Aaron also has an update
for everybody on her Korean skincare For those of you
that are new to the program, look what happened in
my face? Or get into that. Who has been singing
(01:04):
the praises? But now it sounds like that's not the
case anymore, So stay tuned for that. Also, our gal
is playing a little hurt today. She was up all night,
not on a bender, but boo being a.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Mom And if you want to call sailing spray a bender,
then I am wasted. We'll get to that.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Welcome more to Okay, Aaron's been doing this move for
those of you that can't see her. She takes her
stack of papers and like keeps organizing them, like she's
got like so many documents that she's going through with
over there. And it makes me laugh every time. Aaron's
very organized and always has her shit together. What is
all we have to question his papers? Did you print
out the like what.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
My cute assistant did? Hold on? Can I can I ask?
I've seen a lot of people instagram this kind of stuff.
I am a three beverage gal. I got the coffee,
I got the water, and I got the green. Are
you the same? I cannot just have one drink? Am
I the same? I feel like you know this about me.
I'm surprised I only have one beverage in my hand
(02:08):
right now. Anyone that has known me.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Knows that, for the longest time, a brunch consists of water, coffee,
green juice, mimosa yea.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
And then we'll get into the apparel sprint s portion.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I mean, at any given time, there could be five
beverages right in front of me.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
It's excessive. And I also have two different lip glasses,
a pen. Yeah, what's in you on your dass? Not
what's in your purse? Well, what's in my wallet is
not a lot of concealers for my zips that I'm hiding.
Really yeah, that right in front of you.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
That's adorable and also very organized. That you have your
concealers in a zip block bag.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Well, because they were in my nasty purse with the gross,
dirty bottom, Like it's insane. So what aren't we doing
for a purse at tailor's Way? Because I feel like
venues see through. I don't know what to do and
I only need like credit card, lip gloss, gum, phone, phone,
hotel key, Jery can hold that, yeah, mince Oh you
(03:16):
say gum gum?
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I panicked, Oh my gosh, we'll get to all the
things actually here, No, this is going to take us
right to it. So I had the great privilege of
being one of the individuals that got to cover the
Belmont for Fox, which is very exciting for a guy
like me who's currently at the ranch and has always
loved horse racing because I used to go to the
(03:39):
track with my grandpa when I was a little girl,
and he'd give me twenty dollars and he would tell
my grandma, don't tell her that we're at the track,
and I'll give you money, because he didn't want knowing
that he was gambling, because there may or may not
have been a problem if you have a problem called
one eight hundred gambling, oh not in your respective state.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
But he just gave me some hush money.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
And by the way, as a seven year old getting
twenty bucks, mama was ready rich.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
I'd go right up to that.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Window and I learned how to make the beds and
win play show, the whole thing. So imagine my enthusiasm
when Fox comes to me last year and they're like,
we got the Belmont like and we'd love you to
work it. We know your affinity for horse racing, the ponies.
I talked about this last week. For those of you
that listened to the podcast, thank you. So I was
in Saratoga all week now, first time in Saratoga. I
went to the Gap a lot of times. I bought
(04:28):
many outfits from the Gap, which.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I gotta say, Gap kids, unbelievable for my child.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
I was going to buy a bunch of stuff for
Maxtell at Gap Kids. But then I had to carry on,
so that was I going to make it back. But anyways,
that was that was fun learning new restaurants. Shout up
to the canteen and Saratoga got a lot of mark.
Every time Aaron called me, she goes.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
You back to the Mexican restaurant Ram Sureram had a
great taco salad, Yes, taco salad and margarita frozen margarita.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
So to the kind people in Saratoga, thank you for
being so welcoming.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Wish.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
I know I've mentioned this before on the podcast and
I sound like we're so arrogant for saying this. I
just have to think anyone that comes up to me
or to Aaron or when we're together or not together,
and says that they love the podcast, it makes me
so nice. This happened multiple times while I was there,
and I just I hope you guys know that it
actually really makes me happy, because sometimes Erin and I
(05:21):
are like, who's listening?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
But it's adorable and I love all of you guys. Okay,
And so face timed me with a couple of fans yes,
because I was like, well, let's They're like, I love you,
and Aaron I was like, well, let's just call her
right now. So it really makes my heart happy.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
So thank you guys for being so generous and giving
up a little bit of your time every week to
listen if you do so sweet. So backdrop of Saratoga,
the oldest racetrack in the country, incredible.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
I had never been there before, which bummed me out.
But you're gorgeous.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Oh you're very sweet, but so so fun And was
there and I have this fear, like you do, of
having bad breath or bo or just not being frushers.
Aaron I like to say, like, we love the freshness.
So I am going to a dinner and I realize
as I've gone down the elevator and I'm in the lobby,
(06:11):
I'm like, shit, I don't have any gum in my purse.
I I so then go to the little area in
the front of the hotel where they're selling you know,
the concessions things like that they don't have any gum.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I'm like, we have no gum, and I don't want.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
To go all the way back up, just around waiting, waiting,
and I'm there right, I'm there for work and anyone
like we do not get in that car.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Be on time. Don't be that person that's late. Sure,
So what is it?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
The little concession area is a toothbrush and a toothpaste.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
So what do I do. I buy the toothbrush and toothpaste.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
I throw away the toothbrush because I don't need the
toothbrush and I'm eating toothpaste throughout the evening. That's what
I did. Instead of having gum, I just squeezed the
cress little mini into my mouth while I was out
and about. Sorry, I'm not gonna risk and maybe that's
gross and maybe that's bad for me. Just a full
douse in the mouth, freshness and ready to go.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Yeah, I mean it's one of the worst things, you know.
I appreciate the effort. Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
So I was in Saratoga all week, fresh as a daisy,
and just got back and got to my ranch.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
And I have learned so many tips and tricks with
the ponies.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I can't wait to get I'm looking at my horse
right now out this window, and yeah, well he was
very inexpensive. He's not a thoroughbred race horse, okay, And
I know that this poor guy out there. I thought
that horses just sleep standing up. Well, I was informed
from my time in Saratoga with these Thoroughbred horse races
(07:45):
that they would love to sit down and sleep if
you give them a bed to lay down on.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
And I'm like, when.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Meat a bed, Well, that's what I'm thinking. So of
course I'm like, well, let's get the horse the best
bed that you can get. It's like, no, it's like
straw or like something that's just saw for the horse
to lay down. I feel like such a dick because
all I have are these little shavings in my sweet
Oz's house out there. So guess who's about to get
a full on like set up with a bed.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
This guy, I'm going to be out.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
There shoving some straw into his little stall, and he
is going to be a happy camper. I know his
life's about to change. His life already has changed. He's
loving it out there.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Where where are you when they the horses go? Like
when the race begins, were you there? Were you? Or sat?
Where were you? Adorable? Thank you for asking.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
I was in the winter circle because I had the
great privilege of presenting the trophy with the Governor of
New York, Kathy Hokel and so I'm in the winter
circle and it goes by like that, and Dornick, who
is one of the owners is Jason Worth who used
to cool for the Phillies, and he's won a World
(08:50):
Series and it was so fun to see he wasn't
the favorite and no one, not a lot of people
thought he was going to win.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
He wasn't projected to win.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
So, as Dissa pointing, as it was because I lost
money betting on the favorite. It was cool to see
sort of the long shot, not.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Sort of the long shot. He was mid mid range
long shot win the race.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
And to have Jason win and I love like asking
him afterwards like where this ranked compared to winning a
World Series and he was like it beats it, which
is cool, Like I mean really like the pinnacle of
his profession.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
But then to be an owner.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Of a horse's school, so yeah, it's credit for the
sport too.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
I was thinking about this earlier. I want to talk
about trophy presentation interviews or interviews in the winner's circle.
I've had the opportunity to do a few at the
World Series. You were phenomenal doing yours there. I was
getting a big kick. People have no idea, They have
no clue how difficult those are. They are so hard.
(09:56):
There's so many people, they're all excited. We get that,
but you also have a job to do. They always say,
do not give up your mic, even if someone is
like wrestling it from you. Also, I meant to ask
you about my mic to the governor. I saw that,
but I wasn't critiquing that part. Were you on the
(10:17):
loud speaker? So could you hear yourself too? People also
don't understand how difficult that is. You have to block
that out or hope to god your ifs are so
loud that you can't hear your voice on the loud speaker,
because that is so hard.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Well, it's funny you say that, because it reverberates. And
that's what I always think happens with singers, Like we
know what. It's like a foregone conclusion that a singer
always them out, rip them out of their ears, because
they must be hearing some sort of like whether it's
static or reverse something. Because if you hear yourself and
then you're on a delay, I mean, this is I'm
just we're putting it out there. This is not the
(10:51):
hardest thing in the world. It's just different than any
other part of the job.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
You know what, I'm done saying that because we don't
give ourselves an enough criding. It's fucking hard. It's hard.
Now I'm not we're not performing brain surgery. We're not
you know, in a courtroom trying you know, a case.
Blah blah blah. It's hard. Not everyone can do it.
I'm sick of everyone thinking they can any who. It's hard.
So you have that. Then you got the gentleman in
(11:18):
the back that of the others excitement, But wow, he
wants to get his word in. You don't want to
be a dick, and you want to acknowledge him. But
you got places to go before. And I'm sure in
your ear they're telling you to wrap. And my man
wants to talk about the jockey and the trainer, and
you were, you were so you reminded me of Ellen
(11:40):
from a Christmas story. So anyway, like you handled it,
people have no idea how hard that is. You got
everybody wanting to talk. Well, you're very sweet to say that,
but it is the number one rule.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
And I actually watched Jim Nance do this, and he
talked about it in an interview where that is like
the number one role, like you do not give up
your microphone.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
And there was a time I don't know which super
Bowl he was referencing where you could see my max.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
It's a struggle not taking this thing away because at
that point then you lose all control. But yeah, there's
a lot and especially again I am the horse racing
is not my domain, Like I go into it because
of Fox's right, you can't I go out of it,
like it is not my thing. So when you're again
you don't know who the winner is within that last
(12:29):
few seconds. It's not like you're watching a game and
it's like someone has a ten point lead or they're
up by two touchdowns and you can sit there and
plan out like where's the trainer, where's the owner? Like
it is like and my biggest fear is, which we've
seen this happen in sports, we saw recently, not identifying
the right individual and like especially when for them that's
(12:51):
like the biggest moment, this is their horse that just won,
or a trainer or whatever. So I always want to
just caution that I'm like making sure the right people.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
But yeah, you're very sweet. It is not no, it
hard yep. The coolest one I've ever done was after
the Red Sox one, after the Boston Marathon bombing. I
can Poppy like you shouldn't give up your mic, but
I gave Poppy my mic so he could reenact the
speech of like this is our e fing city. If
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I'm going to give my mic up to anyone, I'd
give it up to that beauty. And then hardest one
I've ever done was the San Francisco Giants won the
World Series. In San Francisco. It was pouring rain and
I was pumped, like you know when you're feeling it.
I was like, I freaking nailed this. I lost all
my notes because it was raining. I like, I couldn't
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look down at who I was introducing, who was there.
But finally when it was going on, it was going on.
But the one thing I kept thinking of is like,
I'm looking at Bruce Bochie right now, and I know
all my fake eyelashes are all over my face and
I'm so sorry Boach, but they weren't. But it was
like it was hard. That's so cool though, Like really,
I mean, of course.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
If you get to do any of those, but the
emotion attached to that Boston one.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
I can't imagine. Oh my god, every night during that
World Series, before the first pitch, everybody was crying because
they always had a tribute and they always had the
first responders, so and so that was injured. It was
just like full blown and just what that World Series meant.
It was like a relief and peace for that town.
(14:28):
It was so amazing. My mom and dad came. It
was unbelievable. It was an insane postseason. It was so
fun to be a part of. I was raised a
Red Sox fan. My dad's from Springfield, my mom's from
Rhode Island. It was really really cool. Oh, I can't
imagine how you feel. I got excited to go to
the All Star Game in Seattle with my mom.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
I can't imagine being on the field and like having
your parents see all that.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
They must be like. It was pretty another proud of you.
But I don't remember if it was the round before,
if it was the World Series. I think it was
the World's Series. It was the World Series because my
mom and dad were there. But Poppy was annoyed with
the media. I don't know if he kind of was
not playing well, but something was going on storyline wise,
he wasn't speaking to the media, but he did a
(15:13):
pregame interview with me in the Red Sox tug Out
and that was the media and yeah, only interview he did.
And I remember my parents were standing right there and I.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Was like, my man, I'm so proud of you though,
like and but let's go back to what this talks.
We talk about relationships. Yeah, building those relationships and earning
that because that's so special. And when you actually get
to have it come to fruition where it's like that
reputation or not. You know, yes, the reputation, but also
the the equity that you've built up in the friendship
(15:43):
can pay off in that moment is really special. So
you're there to do your job and if if that
job means that you get access to somebody that's not
given anyone else access, good on you girl. You Carson Belmont,
you degree you're Aaron is like the biggest supporter. She's
so sweet, Like she'll text me throughout a broadcast that
like she's you know, obviously on Sunday she's busy, she's working,
(16:05):
but when she's not working and she always I don't know,
you always make a point to be so supportive, and
I just love you for that.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Thank you. We were out to lunch. We were Mac
was having his first rack of rips and vanilla ice cream,
and I turned on my YouTube TV. Not an ad,
but I'd love it to be, and I had my
girl on. I was like, so worried that your feature
had already played. I was like, Jared, they already ran
the race and it was actually an hour before. They
hadn't even run it yet. But it's like, you're like
(16:31):
the same way. I just kind of have you on,
like I want to know what's going on.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
You know, I love you And shout out to our
girl Carcy Phipps and Harpburq on. Anyone that's a long
time listener of the Calm Down Podcast knows that she's busy.
Carcie is always busy. She's got things going on in
that they're such a great family. Hey, what's not great though,
is Aaron. We alluded to it at the beginning here,
You've got a little situation with the Korean skincare what's happened.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
Got a little I got a little build up going
on on the shin, which is always my issue. That's
always my concern area. Finally went and got a facial today,
and you know, when they are spending more time on
the extraction versus the lifting and tightening, we got an issue.
So basically I came clean and I said, I stopped
(17:17):
using the products you sell here and I started using
Korean skincare. And one thing about Korean skincare, which I
was excited about because I fell for all the ads,
was the dual cleansing. We do our oil cleansing first
and then we do our foaming cleansing. I was doing
that twice twice a day, in the morning and at night.
What I've learned, because I'm a t zone gal, we
(17:40):
don't need to be putting any more oil on these
pores that we already have. We had a massive blockage.
So what we have going on right now is probably
like I am like a push pad. What do you
call it? Like I was going to say braille, but
that's not appropriate, Like it is the real there's a
lot of there's a lot lot of texture on my skin.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Your chin is just Yeah, we've got elevations that we
don't even know yet.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
We're climbing Everest and wow, wowie wawser since so we're
gonna lay back a little bit on the Korean skincare,
which is good because I was very worried about packing
it for Europe, for Taylor, I was worried about how
I was going to pack it for football guys.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
The fact that she thinks about how she's going to
pack her skincare is bananas to me.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
I'm like a twelve year old girl right now.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
I am so envious that she plans and even thinks
about things like that.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
You're lucky if it's a lot to plan anything. But
I need to go back at this for a second.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
The skincare world is so confusing, and sometimes it feels
like a little bit of a racket. I'm not gonna lie,
and you know what, it's causing congestion well, because it's like, oh,
do this, okay, but don't do this, and then you
do this thing is working. It's like then sometimes be honestly,
I do nothing and it's like the best my face
ever looked.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
I go and get all these faces and then.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
I get break out and it's like I don't know
what I'm supposed to be doing.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Actually said the same thing today. Are these facials are
all these things like causing the zits and we should
just go back to what we were doing. Like I
don't know what to do because I have the oil
cleanser and then I got that little powder that's in
there and it mixes and I love it and it
feels so good, and then it's like it's working, and
then like a week later, it's not working, and then
I break the glass bottle all over the shower. So
(19:25):
now I'm picking up while naked, shards of glass off
the bottom of the shower. And so I'm like, I
just don't know how I'm for Taylor Swift.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
No, and I'm not consistent with any regiment in my
life because I get bored with it. Or then I'm like,
oh it's running low and I definitely didn't you know,
buy it.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
It's been advanced. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
It's just all overwhelming. And then I think to myself,
like less is more like my mom growing up, she
used like washed her face with like a bar of
soap and used oil of let oil. Volet anyone know that,
Like is it's a white bottle black little?
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Isn't it funny?
Speaker 1 (20:02):
How you like I remember that smell and like watching
her get ready in the morning. By the way, her
ready is like just lotion and spraying Elizabeth Arden sunflower perfume.
I know, but like those things like remind me of
her and has perfect skin, has never had a ZiT
in their whole life.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
So I just don't know what to do.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
I mean, we're going left, we're going right, we're going up,
we're going down with skincare. Somebody make it simple for me.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Can I you know, I probably need a blood transfusion
after all the blood I lost today with those extractions,
But can I talk to you about I was talking
to Ash about this. There's always that one or two
area that you know will have a black head or
need like a little bit of extraction. I have one
that I always can go to every two weeks. Wait
(20:45):
then I'm like a jew machin. Yeah, I just know
it's like a white like not a white head, but
it's got a little bit of what I like to
call it.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
I get real excited about those black heads because I
know they're coming out, and they're coming out without any
kind of repercussion. And when I go and I get
those little maybe we've talked about this safety pins that's not.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Always the cleanesto.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
But then I'm like, I'm excited when I find a
safety pin in the bottom of the dingebag and I'm like, ooh,
this is going to prevent scarring.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Go right into the poor get her out.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
There's such satisfaction when it just pops right out.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Now, I did that last week, but still came to
the facial with like a red bomb and she goes, Now,
what you did was you pushed it down farther. There's
more in there. Now I'm bleating again, and you can't win. Now.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I can't win in a predicament that I'm in, and
I might get in trouble from my significant other for
bringing this up, but I feel like this is a
safe space here the Calm Down podcast platform. So I'm
going to present this question based off of a little
bit of and it's not been identified this situation I'm
in and has not been diagnosed. I'm just seeing some
(22:02):
signs that might make me believe that that's where we're headed.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I saw this sign and it opened up my eyes.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
So I have talked at nauseum about my divorces and
my last divorce. Yes, I know this just and I
got robbed and I got divorced. You hadline you can
always count on with me, But I have made it.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
Did anyone know that? Anyways? And it there we go.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
We live to tell the tale, but I make it
very overt. I am very overt about the fact that
I never want to get married again.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Don't Why Why are you so overt about it? Why
are you so vocal and like dead said on it? Why?
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Because the first time I got married, I was very young,
and I chalked up the first time to getting married
to just being young and dumb and okay. Then I said,
I don't I don't like losing. You don't like losing,
And I was like, ooh, that really sucks. Like took,
I got it. I got an l in that calling
right now. So the second time around, the individual had
never been married before, and I didn't feel that it
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was fair to be so full stop on marriage when
that person wanted to get married. It was important to
that person, and I didn't want to take away something
from them that they wanted just because of my past.
So I was like, okay, I also didn't get to
know that person right right. There's any other subplots to
(23:29):
that headline, but the headline there is that person wanted
to get married, and I didn't want to take that
away from them, So, against my better judgment, for a
lot of reasons, but also just in general, I was like, fine,
I'll get married again. Get married again.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
It's not what really you wanted. It wasn't what I
wanted at all. I didn't want to get married.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Again after the first loss, because who wants to keep
doing that. I was totally fine, and even I even
got married the first time, honestly, not kind of on
like I don't want to say a bet. So I
was like, I went there to break up with the guy,
because this is a whole therapy session. I went there
to break up with him because the minute I start
getting attached, I like retreat because I don't want to
get too close because then I might be dependent on
(24:10):
someone else for happiness and I want to control my
own happiness. So this is twenty four year old me,
still thirty three year old me, the same, but sure
start to get too close, so gonna back away. I'll
try to be succinct with this explanation to get us
to where we are in the current day. So I
go to break up with him. He says, we're not
breaking up, We're getting married. We I go, okay, we
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go to Hollywood and get tattoo rings. I've never had
a tattoo. He had never had a tattoo, get ring tattoos.
And then four days later I was like, well, if
I'm gonna get married, we're gonna get married on a
beach in Laguna Beach, because I want to get married
on a beach. He said, Okay, I pull out a
Forever twenty one white dress out of my closet.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
I wear that. I get flowers on the side of
the road, and polaroids were our pictures.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
That was the wedding, so I was thinking, this is great.
I never really wanted the big wedding, so I didn't
have to have it. We crashed somebody else's wedding because
it's in June in Laguna at the hotel. We're staying out,
I'm cutting someone else's cake. Like I mean, it was great.
It was all very like ran am on the dance
floor with the bride. I'm like, I got married to yeah,
(25:13):
so fine, that all happens. And then second time around,
I'm like, okay, I'll do it the right way. I
actually want my parents at this wedding because I never
had my dad walk me down the aisle. So I
get to make up for some of the things I
never thought I wanted but have. Okay, now we got
two strikes. I don't know about you, but I'm in
the batter's box and I look into strike out for
the third and final time, and I just don't want
(25:36):
to make this fail to make this commitment again when
the first two times I was like, not really into
it anyways, to then do it again. Not the relationships
per se, but this idea of marriage, like, oh, we're
gonna be so much stronger or so much better if
we get married, like my Goldie Han Kurt Russell mentality
(25:58):
is if we're not married, every single day, I get
to wake up and decide I want to be with you,
Like I don't have to be with you, but I
get to be with you.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
I want to be with you. Is that okay for him? Correct?
So this is you, guys. This is where I'm at
right now. Now.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
Steve has not said this. He has not come out
and said I want to get married. He hasn't said that.
But I'm feeling a little bit guilty that I'm so
and this is I just need to have the conversation
with him, is what's happening. But instead you guys are
letting me have and you never have no because I
just have never put it as an option on the table.
It's kind of like when your parents said, like, we're
(26:34):
not getting a dog. You can't We're not having a dog.
You're never getting a dog. Get over a kid, or
we're never having a cat. Your dad's allergic. So just
you think, Okay, I'm never going to get that. I
never have given Steve the option like we're going to
get married, because I just took it off the table
before it could even be a conversation.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
So right now you're Joe in the Tortured Poets Society
Like you're Joe. You took everything off like the table.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
All roads lead back to Taylor. We are ever getting
back together?
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Back come.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
So I bring all this up to get your guys's
advice too. Do I approach him and say like, hey,
are you feeling so, because maybe he'd be like, Noah,
I'm good, but I've already taken having a baby off
the table, which he agrees with. He says he doesn't
want to have a baby, so that part, but I
haven't really heard him ever say like I don't want
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to marry you.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
I've never heard him say that. I just I've always
heard you say it. I've never heard him say it.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
I know.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
So, And then I willing a little bit over you
and said I don't like that, and I want you
to get married, But.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Why do you want me to get married when you
know it's caused me so much pain? Because these aren't
the same people.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
But I do agree with in this day and age,
does it really even matter anymore? Like you bring up
you know, Kurt Russlong, Goldie Han, they're adorable. There's actually
a lot of other people that do it too. But
I do think you should find out if that's okay
with him.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I know, And it could be a really simple question.
I mean like I could just walk outside and be like, hey,
did you ever want to get married? And I just
didn't present that to you, Or it could be like.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Can we talk? Can we talk? I don't know.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
I'm just having her so hard because there's like certain
things like he's just acting in a different way that
I'm used to, not in a bad way, just different,
And so I'm like, now this is what you and
I do. It's what we do at work. We all
of a sudden are not getting found in a rabbit
hole and we're getting fired. And the boss said call
me because he wanted me to go work another event.
So I fired myself before I even give the person
(28:44):
an opportunity to maybe promote me.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
I don't know, lost all feeling in my extremities, like
feeling like my chest is tightening, definitely going to have
some sort of stroke. Oh hey, I was just checking
to see if he could make it to dinner next week.
Well I can't because I'm actually had cedars on an
IV because they're checking my heart rate because I just
convinced myself I'm off the A crew.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
And it's honestly the missing this year context. Somebody, if
you're a boss, is hey, why don't you give me
a call and to get a chance or just call
me or you have a minute.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
He just tried you. Hey, just tried you. That's also
about that's a bad one. Hey, just ties you.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I know, I just saw the miss Paul, and that's
why I didn't answer, because they're already assuming the words. Hey,
quick question when you get a minute? No, no, no,
like how quick, Like you're fired or we're going in
a different direction.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Going in a different direction sounds a little longer. That's
not quick.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
So yeah, So I would love your thoughts, comments and concerns, questions,
comments and concerns on how I.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Should approach this situation with Steve.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Do I just go because he's so like, maybe that's
my problem just like he's awesome, which, by the way,
like I have intel, I have intel that basically one
of my family members, your family member, Ogden Phipps, loves him,
Like well that that's like, that's like my you know,
that's like the end all be all. If he is
an endorser of anything, I'm in on it. But I'm
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let me just put a bow on this conversation before
we continue. Once I really get answers, why is it
that you what's the thing with marriage? Like why did
you like growing up? Did you want to get married?
Like what is it about marriage for you that like
feels like the right thing to have done with Jared?
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Like because I don't get it. You know what's crazy
is that I felt like a lot of pressure was
off us once we got married. I felt like I
put so much pressure on our relationship until we got
engaged or married, because I knew I was in it
for the long haul. I knew this is the person
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I wanted to be with. I knew that, you know,
this was like it for me, but I and I
guess i'd known that from him. But also, like, let's
be honest, we work in this world. We have a
lot of guy friends. It's like, are we doing this?
Are we not doing this? I feel like a woman
asking that more than it is the guy. Yeah that
(31:22):
was me. Yeah. But then it was like once we
got engaged, once we got married, I kind of chilled well,
I wanted to chilled out. Uh here Wednesday, I chilled
out at all. I felt less pressure with our relationship.
It was funny. One of my really good friends actually
said that to us, maybe like a month ago. She
(31:43):
was just like, you guys have almost gotten stronger with
all the crap you've been through, versus like, amazing how
much it's hurt you. Because then this is always funny, hear,
there are some times we didn't think you guys would
come back. You know, you have some doozy of a
fights when you're dating and stuff like that, which is
through a lot of stuff together. Yeah, but I feel
(32:04):
like we are just like our friendship, like our commitment
towards each other. I mean that's how I feel about it.
I just hit them, like sorry, Brian, but yeah, I
felt like it took a lot of pressure off. Yeah
that's interesting. Yeah, I think that for me.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
Obviously, my experience with marriage hasn't been great, So why
do you want to jump back into something that hasn't
been good? Like, hey, jump back into that deep end.
The last two times you might be drowned. Maybe have
floaties on this time. It's like, who says floaties?
Speaker 2 (32:31):
But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
I was just curious. So I would love anyone's thoughts
if they've been in similar situations where it's like the
partner just takes things off the table before they're ever
in an option, And then do you get resemble at
one point like we're going to be fifty years old,
like this is.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
My boyfriend state boyfriend? Boyfriend?
Speaker 1 (32:52):
Like boyfriend sounds like so insignificant in the big scheme
of thing, but then what my partner? It's like, I
don't know, that's not weird. So anyway, that's just where
I'm at. We're out of time, unfortunately, because.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
We're actually not. Ryan wants us to have longer podcasts.
Do you have a few minutes or do you have
to seattle?
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (33:11):
No, all I have to do is make Oz's bed
for him. Do you want to go over a couple
of headlines? I would love nothing more than to do that.
I really wanted to hear what you have to say
about this. Okay, we're going threadsheets count? Do thread counts
(33:33):
really matter when buying bad sheets? Experts reveal the truth
thread count has little to do with the actual quality
of your sheets, despite what the industry has put out there. Thoughts.
I'm going to go right back to what we just
talked about with skincare.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
I think it's there's some of these companies that have
like all the ingredients and all these things cost so much,
so the price of the skincare has to go up,
and the sheets same thing, like all these materials that
you're using. That's like, look, get this into the the
buzzword of thread count, so it drives the sheets up.
Or the marketing like a Chanel lip gloss could be
(34:08):
the same as Cover Girl but actual ingredients, but all
the marketing and the packaging and all the stuff of
the Chanelle makes it forty five dollars and Cover Girl
is twenty dollars. I say this to be like, you know,
I'm very honest about my my home design. I never
went to school for interior design. I don't even know
half the terminology for home design. I just know that
if I did a blind test and I felt one
(34:30):
set of sheets and another set of sheets, I wouldn't
equate thread count with the ones that feel better. It's
like what feels better for my personal preference. Like some
people can like that jersey material like T shirt. I'm like,
I like more of a silky like soft sheet. So
I have no idea if that makes the sheets better.
I think it's all personal preference.
Speaker 2 (34:50):
With my side sleeper on my face, I just bought
a silk pillow case. I know that sounds dirty, but
like I feel like we got to do everything we
can at this point to save No, no, no, no,
I don't Why does that sound dirty? That's actually really good,
so you're not smashing your face.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
Yeah, But like like linen, never ever ever be on
linen sheets, like as a woman, because that material is
so rough. Like I love the look of linen, but
not when it comes, because they sell those. I sell
linen sheets, like if you want that, like to loom
look vibe not on this face.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
I don't. I've been looking like the sandy beaches. I'm
sure mine looks like, Yo, you look great. You need not.
I do love. I'm a terrible host, but I should
have transitioned with how many Americans still believe in true love?
After our big talk about your talk you're about to have?
How many Americans still believe in true love? Good news
(35:44):
for anyone seeking a mark of romance this summer. True
love is still alive, as seventy percent of Americans believe
it exists. Who are Oh my god, I love that.
I love love.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
That's why we talked about it on the pregame with
the sweet person that submitted the question of like, how
you okay? You talked about this and Nat You're okay?
They bed bugs, probably more bumps the pregame question that
we got this week. One of them was about how
soon should you start dating after you get a divorce?
(36:17):
And my whole thing has always been like why I
got back? Even if I think marriage isn't.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
For me, I love love like I love it.
Speaker 1 (36:27):
It's part of the reason why, like I'm so happy
in my life right now, which is also why I
don't want to fuck it up with a marriage, because
love is like if you have My dad always would
say this to me, if you have all these things
in your life, all these great things, but you don't
have anyone to share it with, Like then what Like
my first call when anything good would happen in my life,
(36:49):
even when I was in relationships, was always to my
dad because I wanted tom, I wanted him to be
proud of me. It's my dad, my mom and dad
couldn't wait to tell them the news. And now they're
not my first call, second call, and Steve's my first call.
And it's like I want, like everyone to be in
love and I want everyone to be happy because you
think about your life, like how much better it is
(37:10):
with Jared, Like it's it's the reason you like get
excited to do any kidding, I mean, like think about it,
like yeah, yeah, it's not every day now I'm fucking perfect.
But going on a trip, you want to go to
Mexico by yourself or would you rather go with your
best friend. I'll never forget what you said to me.
We were in Montana. I like that. Remember this when
we were in Montana and I did not want to
(37:32):
go home, and I was like, oh, I'm going to
stay a few days, and You're like, I want to
go home. I want to go see my husband because
I really like him. And I was like, ooh that
like and it's It was one of those moments where.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
I was like, fuck, I long for the day to
have that. So yay, love Elle, Yay, you have to
go the way you look at me, I like this one.
I think we both feel the same about this. I
have dealt with this and when I okay, wait. Taylor
Swift defends Lady Gaga. We saw that whole thing. People
(38:03):
were calling Lady Gaga pregnant, ridic and obviously Taylor Wade
in which I thought was magical. But you gotta believe
one of the reasons why she weighed in was the
week before. I remember I was in Mexico and these
people were posting videos of her on tour and they
were like, she's pregnant, she's pregnant, and I just two things.
(38:28):
I get. We were not at her level. I can't
even imagine being at that level. We are in front
of the camera for a living. I have posted a
photo before of myself on Instagram. It was actually from
week eighteen of the season. It was me and my
coworkers and I guess I didn't suck in and somebody were,
you're pregnant, and I just thought, no, can't get pregnant, actually,
(38:52):
but thanks for asking. And I also remember when Jennifer
Aniston came out with her whole thing. I forgot if
it was lilast year where she was like talking about
how many times she went through IVF she couldn't get pregnant.
She was like, and then there were the times I'm
bloated or whatever's going on, and I'm going through IVF
and people thought I were go to hell? Like enough,
(39:14):
are we really still here where we're commenting on women's bodies. Yeah?
I mean this chick, Taylor Swift and what she does
four to five nights a week on tour in high heels,
moving and grooven. She can look however she wants to look.
That chick is in great shape. And to do that
about lady Gagachu, you have no clue what people are
(39:35):
going through in their lives. Maybe they are doing IVF,
maybe they are trying go to hell.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Maybe they have anything else going on. Maybe there's some
something in their body that's making them being weight. There's hormoes,
there's all these things. Put it this way, let's make
it simple. Stop commenting on women's bodies period and vil
like you're too fat, you're too skinny, there's too there's
so I mean, there's a million different ways that people
go out.
Speaker 2 (39:58):
Women like you don't know what they're going through. And
not just women.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
I know that guys can be attacked too, but the
whole pregnancy thing, Like, I'm so glad that you just
said that about your situation, like you no, I would
love to be pregnant, you asshole?
Speaker 2 (40:10):
Is what you want to rank? Get it? But then
it's like, you know what, probably should lay off the
chips and salsa. Actually maybe a little bloated. Yeah you would.
It's wild, And I'm so glad she said something because
obviously it came from a place where I saw what
they were doing to.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
Her the week before. Yeah, stop, everyone, just be kind.
In the words of Cinderella, as I go and clean
the attic and the horses stall, I always love the
expression have courage and.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
Be kind, Have courage, and be kind. I mean, God,
is there any better? Like? I just love that movie
so much, love that movie. My battery is gonna die.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
Okay anyways, no, no, no, I know, I just don't
want it to cut off before Kurt we upload this.
Speaker 2 (40:57):
I love you so much.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
Was fun.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
We should do this more off in another ten minutes.
Ryan loves it great.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
Well.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
I love you guys.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
Thank you for everyone that listens, and I would love
your input so I can stay in a loving, healthy relationship.
Thank you for making this a safe space to talk
about my feelings.
Speaker 2 (41:12):
Saves you, don't leave me. Don't leave me, Steve, don't
le me. Calm down with Erin and Carissa is a
production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 1 (41:24):
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