August 12, 2024 • 11 mins
Erin and Charissa are here bringing you a Pregame and answering your questions! They tell what some of their favorite shows to binge, how to support a friend during IVF and Charissa responds to an anonymous listener asking about tattoo removal while going through a separation.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Chrisa did that all the time with me, just listen,
give the support. Half the time, she probably didn't even
know the right thing to say, but just the fact
she listened and always encouraged me was the perfect thing
to say. Calm Down with Erin and Crissa is a
production of iHeartRadio. Welcome to the Pregame, Everybody. I just
(00:23):
I was so broke, and we'll see if we're gonna
use this.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I don't know. I was drinking to use this.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
So you're gonna Vita powa And now came deep like
that was it? My dad actually gave me, much to
my mother's disdain.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
My mom.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
My dad would give me a score between one and
ten about how good my burp was and still to
this day if I do it like from the other room,
my mom.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
But I don't know if we're gonna keep No, we
can't keep that. Let me see where you go with this.
What do you mean you didn't?
Speaker 1 (00:52):
It was like, oh my god, Okay, Debbie twelve favorite
mindless show to relax you mine is Real Housewife Friends.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Friends is a favorite. I had it on late last night.
Oh I always tell you something.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Why I started watching Friends? I used to watch like
episode here and there. I was on the plane where
was I was coming back from New York and I'm
just over the movies that are currently on rotation. So
I was like, I'm going to Aaron Love Friends. I
came home and then continue to watch seasons.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
It is ver funny.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
That's a very that's a nice compliment. I'll take that.
It is so funny. I didn't even realize how good
it is, but that that is my new bitch.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I gotta tell you. Step go like this.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
He's like, what are we watching tonight? Murder?
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Date Great Crime?
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Because every night I like watching Dateline? You do. I
love Dateline because I feel like by watching all of
these horrible things that have happened out there, then I
can like arm myself with ways to not have them
happened to me. Where it's like, Okay, that's not mindless,
it is it is. I'm very relaxed when I watch
it because I'm thinking to myself, Okay, just be grateful,
(02:00):
this isn't your life, and you can avoid the pitfalls
of some of these terrible things that have happened by
just focusing on your surroundings and not do not walk
in the street by yourself at four am there igplore that. Okay,
ask from fifteen how to best support a friend going
through IVF infertility struggles?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You had to Andrews, No, you had to do that.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
You have the best way to support you, Oh my god.
I just think that reassuring you that everything you're doing
is a step closer, and that even if it feels
like you have all of these setbacks, your tenacity about it,
your determination, your you wouldn't take no for an answer,
(02:43):
and you were relentless about making sure no matter how
bad it hurt. In all you know, all the different
times that you had disappointment happened, You're like, we're just
going to do it again.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
We're going to do it again.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
And I think the best way to support that is
just to highlight your friends or family member's dedication to it.
And I think that you cannot be overstated how amazing
it is to now see Math here because he would
have never been here if it wasn't for the kind
of person that you are that refused to take no
for an answer. So I would say, just continue to
(03:19):
support the person's determination, Just listen to your friend. Chursa
did that all the time with me and just listen,
give the support.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
She's dead on.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
That's the best way to support a person going through
those struggles. It's not easy, and honestly, half the time
she probably didn't even know the right thing to say,
but just the fact she listened and always encouraged me
was the perfect thing to say. Lowesome' anonymous. We love
being If I just had a close friend nonchalantly mentioned
she's not coming to my wedding during a group convo
(03:51):
and she had never previously said anything about it before
literally broke my heart. Do I need to calm down
and talk it out or should I stop putting effort
into this friendship? No, I would talk about it, don't
ignore it. Especially you need to tell a person that
bothers you that they didn't tell you they weren't coming.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Chain.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I think that's bizarre to put that in a text
chain like right, Yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Think group convo. I don't know if it was like a.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Whatever, whatever the situation was, should have been like a
one on one situation. I had something happened where I
was really excited to go to I'll say it Casey
McDonald now Hosmer's wedding. She and I couldn't go at
the last minute because I was going through something horrible,
and she I just got to say this about her.
(04:43):
This wedding was. I mean, I can only imagine how
much the place setting was that I was, you know,
not able to have and for her in the last second.
I mean, it was like two days before the wedding
and I had to cancel and I felt terrible.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
She was so so kind about it.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
She was like, I totally understand, it's okay, don't worry
about it.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
I felt awful.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
I just made this all about me.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
A shocker.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
But what I would say is, if this friend's just
nonchalantly mentioning it in a convo, I think I might
want to readdress and like, Casey and I were perfelly friends,
but like we weren't really good friends. And I felt
awful not going to her wedding and having to tell
her last second. So if this friend is a close friend,
as you've demonstrated here in your description, I'm going to
(05:27):
start to question how close of a friend that is.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
And it hurt, It broke your heart. That's sad.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
So I don't think you should calm down. I think
that if it really bothers. You you should text her
on the side and be like hey, in an effort
to not, you know, stifle my emotions here, Like I
want to say that that really hurt my feelings that
you mentioned it so passively in a group text, and
you mean a lot to me, And it would have
meant a lot that you were going to be at
the wedding. I understand if you can't go for X,
Y or Z reasons, but I would have loved to
(05:53):
get that text from you in a separate message. At
this point in my life, I'm just all about, like
put it out. Don't like then suppress your feelings towards her,
because you're just as bad as she is. I'd be like,
go right to it.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
I agree, I agree, I agree. You got this one.
I got this one?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Uh B twelve B thirty one. Which Olympic sport would
you challenge? The other two?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Which Olympic sport would you challenge the other two?
Speaker 1 (06:21):
I don't know what you mean, Like, would I challenge
you to like do a like pull vault or oh okay,
like got it.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Or routine? I would.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
I just have the utmost respect for gymnasts, Like when
I see those floor routines or that vault or that
balance beam. I try to like walk in a straight
line to see like if I can even like walk
in a straight line. No, I like, oh my god,
no diving or the synchronized crumming diving. Oh my, I
said the same thing, like you have to, I mean god.
(06:56):
I worked with Greg Luganis on a show called Splash
and like to this day, like when he hit his
head on that platform, like I.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Thought the same name. How do you practice that? And
you get so close to.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
The diving board and how they don't hurt themselves?
Speaker 2 (07:07):
It is insane to me?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
So tight and then how about all of a sudden
we become like so critical. I'm like that Splash is
too big like this, like what, like who do you
think you are? It has to be literally like a
little drop in the pool for it to be perfect.
I don't know the discipline and synchronized swimming to have
to be upside down in the ab water polo another
one and wading. You were in the pool today with
(07:30):
mac It's hard to tread water.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
It was chilli.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Okay, Anonymous? How difficult was it for Choris said to
get her tattoo wedding ring removed almost twenty years, married,
three children and considering separating. First of all, that's so sad.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
I'm sorry. I am sorry.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
I would say, I don't know who you are because
you're anonymous, but I'd love to help you through a
difficult time. It was eleven removals for two I had
two black like lines here and there was eleven removals.
It was very difficult, which is why I have not
removed some of my other ridiculous tattoos that had to
do with men, because they're harder. I just covered up
(08:10):
with them up with something else. So but I would say,
especially on the wedding ring, if you do end up splitting,
which if you do, I hope it's for the right
reasons and something that will make you invitable, inevitably happy.
But yeah, it's it's a tough one to get rid of.
But no one needs to see that if you don't
want to see it anymore. Do you do a numbing
(08:31):
cream at all when you try to get it removed,
You know, when you laser like, you laser like your
legs or whatever. Yeah, it's a numbing cream. But I
was shocked how long it takes to.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Remove these bad boys.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
But see, you.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Never want to be.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Chmzy Bockers. It's so sad. Our adult friendship so hard.
I never feel like I have the core group of friends. Okay,
I'm going to speak about Kathy Thompson here because Kathy
Thompson has said this before.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
My mother who.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Had a child at eighteen, my sister, and she never
went to college, and she never got any of those
like experiences in life where you maybe meet some of
your really great core group of girlfriends, because she jumped
right into doing daycare and taking care of us, and
like you know, she has said that she misses having
like a lot of girlfriends, but then at the same
time she's grateful for the very like close ones that
(09:25):
she does have. So I would say this, and I
really feel like this as I've gotten older, I used
to have a lot more friends, but now I have
really good friends, and I there's some that are gonna
get cut off the roster here soon because I just
I'm all about trimming it down. Less is more, because
I want to give the best of myself to the
(09:46):
friends that I have in my life. And I don't
want to be I don't want to be fake I
don't want to be phony, and I don't want to
just give you a little bit of me.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I want to give you all of me.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
And if I can't do that, then it's okay to
have had different chapters with different friends. So I'm sad
that you feel that way, but I would say, don't
think of it as like you've got to have so
many friends.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Just have like a couple good ones.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
And if you're having a hard time meeting those people,
I would say, put yourself in situations where go get involved.
Like I went to a yoga class this morning, where
it's like, if there's a couple people you keep seeing
in that nine thirty sculpt class, like maybe you can
create like a community of like, oh, Cindy, are you
showing up for class tomorrow? Like just maybe sort of
like minded people that are doing things that you also
(10:26):
like to do, and maybe there's some natural friendships that
can spawn from those things. I love that I also
you and I have discussed this a lot recently. If
it's too hard, it's not worth it. I don't have
a lot of time, but for the people that I
want to make time for and the people that it's
easy to jump right back in if I haven't talked
(10:47):
to you in forever.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
By the way, I just haven't.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
It is like three days, but that feels like a
long time.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Yeah, I read it. Yeah, we've had an event after event.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
You've been busy, you have a lot going on, but
it's always so easy to pick back up. And I
just find those are the people you want to have
in your life instead of like the twenty random friends
that what are you wearing?
Speaker 2 (11:07):
What are you know? I just want to I'm good
And with that, you don't have a bart for me.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
I could have such a good one if you give
me more time. Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is
a production of iHeartRadio. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit
the iHeartRadio apps, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Chrisa did that all the time with me, just listen,
give the support. Half the time, she probably didn't even
know the right thing to say, but just the fact
she listened and always encouraged me was the perfect thing
to say. Calm Down with Erin and Crissa is a
production of iHeartRadio. Welcome to the Pregame, Everybody. I just
(00:23):
I was so broke, and we'll see if we're gonna
use this.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I don't know. I was drinking to use this.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
So you're gonna Vita powa And now came deep like
that was it? My dad actually gave me, much to
my mother's disdain.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
My mom.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
My dad would give me a score between one and
ten about how good my burp was and still to
this day if I do it like from the other room,
my mom.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
But I don't know if we're gonna keep No, we
can't keep that. Let me see where you go with this.
What do you mean you didn't?
Speaker 1 (00:52):
It was like, oh my god, Okay, Debbie twelve favorite
mindless show to relax you mine is Real Housewife Friends.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Friends is a favorite. I had it on late last night.
Oh I always tell you something.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Why I started watching Friends? I used to watch like
episode here and there. I was on the plane where
was I was coming back from New York and I'm
just over the movies that are currently on rotation. So
I was like, I'm going to Aaron Love Friends. I
came home and then continue to watch seasons.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
It is ver funny.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
That's a very that's a nice compliment. I'll take that.
It is so funny. I didn't even realize how good
it is, but that that is my new bitch.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I gotta tell you. Step go like this.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
He's like, what are we watching tonight? Murder?
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Date Great Crime?
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Because every night I like watching Dateline? You do. I
love Dateline because I feel like by watching all of
these horrible things that have happened out there, then I
can like arm myself with ways to not have them
happened to me. Where it's like, Okay, that's not mindless,
it is it is. I'm very relaxed when I watch
it because I'm thinking to myself, Okay, just be grateful,
(02:00):
this isn't your life, and you can avoid the pitfalls
of some of these terrible things that have happened by
just focusing on your surroundings and not do not walk
in the street by yourself at four am there igplore that. Okay,
ask from fifteen how to best support a friend going
through IVF infertility struggles?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You had to Andrews, No, you had to do that.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
You have the best way to support you, Oh my god.
I just think that reassuring you that everything you're doing
is a step closer, and that even if it feels
like you have all of these setbacks, your tenacity about it,
your determination, your you wouldn't take no for an answer,
(02:43):
and you were relentless about making sure no matter how
bad it hurt. In all you know, all the different
times that you had disappointment happened, You're like, we're just
going to do it again.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
We're going to do it again.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
And I think the best way to support that is
just to highlight your friends or family member's dedication to it.
And I think that you cannot be overstated how amazing
it is to now see Math here because he would
have never been here if it wasn't for the kind
of person that you are that refused to take no
for an answer. So I would say, just continue to
(03:19):
support the person's determination, Just listen to your friend. Chursa
did that all the time with me and just listen,
give the support.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
She's dead on.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
That's the best way to support a person going through
those struggles. It's not easy, and honestly, half the time
she probably didn't even know the right thing to say,
but just the fact she listened and always encouraged me
was the perfect thing to say. Lowesome' anonymous. We love
being If I just had a close friend nonchalantly mentioned
she's not coming to my wedding during a group convo
(03:51):
and she had never previously said anything about it before
literally broke my heart. Do I need to calm down
and talk it out or should I stop putting effort
into this friendship? No, I would talk about it, don't
ignore it. Especially you need to tell a person that
bothers you that they didn't tell you they weren't coming.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Chain.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I think that's bizarre to put that in a text
chain like right, Yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Think group convo. I don't know if it was like a.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Whatever, whatever the situation was, should have been like a
one on one situation. I had something happened where I
was really excited to go to I'll say it Casey
McDonald now Hosmer's wedding. She and I couldn't go at
the last minute because I was going through something horrible,
and she I just got to say this about her.
(04:43):
This wedding was. I mean, I can only imagine how
much the place setting was that I was, you know,
not able to have and for her in the last second.
I mean, it was like two days before the wedding
and I had to cancel and I felt terrible.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
She was so so kind about it.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
She was like, I totally understand, it's okay, don't worry
about it.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
I felt awful.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
I just made this all about me.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
A shocker.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
But what I would say is, if this friend's just
nonchalantly mentioning it in a convo, I think I might
want to readdress and like, Casey and I were perfelly friends,
but like we weren't really good friends. And I felt
awful not going to her wedding and having to tell
her last second. So if this friend is a close friend,
as you've demonstrated here in your description, I'm going to
(05:27):
start to question how close of a friend that is.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
And it hurt, It broke your heart. That's sad.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
So I don't think you should calm down. I think
that if it really bothers. You you should text her
on the side and be like hey, in an effort
to not, you know, stifle my emotions here, Like I
want to say that that really hurt my feelings that
you mentioned it so passively in a group text, and
you mean a lot to me, And it would have
meant a lot that you were going to be at
the wedding. I understand if you can't go for X,
Y or Z reasons, but I would have loved to
(05:53):
get that text from you in a separate message. At
this point in my life, I'm just all about, like
put it out. Don't like then suppress your feelings towards her,
because you're just as bad as she is. I'd be like,
go right to it.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
I agree, I agree, I agree. You got this one.
I got this one?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Uh B twelve B thirty one. Which Olympic sport would
you challenge? The other two?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Which Olympic sport would you challenge the other two?
Speaker 1 (06:21):
I don't know what you mean, Like, would I challenge
you to like do a like pull vault or oh okay,
like got it.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Or routine? I would.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
I just have the utmost respect for gymnasts, Like when
I see those floor routines or that vault or that
balance beam. I try to like walk in a straight
line to see like if I can even like walk
in a straight line. No, I like, oh my god,
no diving or the synchronized crumming diving. Oh my, I
said the same thing, like you have to, I mean god.
(06:56):
I worked with Greg Luganis on a show called Splash
and like to this day, like when he hit his
head on that platform, like I.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Thought the same name. How do you practice that? And
you get so close to.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
The diving board and how they don't hurt themselves?
Speaker 2 (07:07):
It is insane to me?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
So tight and then how about all of a sudden
we become like so critical. I'm like that Splash is
too big like this, like what, like who do you
think you are? It has to be literally like a
little drop in the pool for it to be perfect.
I don't know the discipline and synchronized swimming to have
to be upside down in the ab water polo another
one and wading. You were in the pool today with
(07:30):
mac It's hard to tread water.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
It was chilli.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Okay, Anonymous? How difficult was it for Choris said to
get her tattoo wedding ring removed almost twenty years, married,
three children and considering separating. First of all, that's so sad.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
I'm sorry. I am sorry.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
I would say, I don't know who you are because
you're anonymous, but I'd love to help you through a
difficult time. It was eleven removals for two I had
two black like lines here and there was eleven removals.
It was very difficult, which is why I have not
removed some of my other ridiculous tattoos that had to
do with men, because they're harder. I just covered up
(08:10):
with them up with something else. So but I would say,
especially on the wedding ring, if you do end up splitting,
which if you do, I hope it's for the right
reasons and something that will make you invitable, inevitably happy.
But yeah, it's it's a tough one to get rid of.
But no one needs to see that if you don't
want to see it anymore. Do you do a numbing
(08:31):
cream at all when you try to get it removed,
You know, when you laser like, you laser like your
legs or whatever. Yeah, it's a numbing cream. But I
was shocked how long it takes to.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Remove these bad boys.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
But see, you.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Never want to be.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Chmzy Bockers. It's so sad. Our adult friendship so hard.
I never feel like I have the core group of friends. Okay,
I'm going to speak about Kathy Thompson here because Kathy
Thompson has said this before.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
My mother who.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Had a child at eighteen, my sister, and she never
went to college, and she never got any of those
like experiences in life where you maybe meet some of
your really great core group of girlfriends, because she jumped
right into doing daycare and taking care of us, and
like you know, she has said that she misses having
like a lot of girlfriends, but then at the same
time she's grateful for the very like close ones that
(09:25):
she does have. So I would say this, and I
really feel like this as I've gotten older, I used
to have a lot more friends, but now I have
really good friends, and I there's some that are gonna
get cut off the roster here soon because I just
I'm all about trimming it down. Less is more, because
I want to give the best of myself to the
(09:46):
friends that I have in my life. And I don't
want to be I don't want to be fake I
don't want to be phony, and I don't want to
just give you a little bit of me.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I want to give you all of me.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
And if I can't do that, then it's okay to
have had different chapters with different friends. So I'm sad
that you feel that way, but I would say, don't
think of it as like you've got to have so
many friends.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Just have like a couple good ones.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
And if you're having a hard time meeting those people,
I would say, put yourself in situations where go get involved.
Like I went to a yoga class this morning, where
it's like, if there's a couple people you keep seeing
in that nine thirty sculpt class, like maybe you can
create like a community of like, oh, Cindy, are you
showing up for class tomorrow? Like just maybe sort of
like minded people that are doing things that you also
(10:26):
like to do, and maybe there's some natural friendships that
can spawn from those things. I love that I also
you and I have discussed this a lot recently. If
it's too hard, it's not worth it. I don't have
a lot of time, but for the people that I
want to make time for and the people that it's
easy to jump right back in if I haven't talked
(10:47):
to you in forever.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
By the way, I just haven't.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
It is like three days, but that feels like a
long time.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Yeah, I read it. Yeah, we've had an event after event.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
You've been busy, you have a lot going on, but
it's always so easy to pick back up. And I
just find those are the people you want to have
in your life instead of like the twenty random friends
that what are you wearing?
Speaker 2 (11:07):
What are you know? I just want to I'm good
And with that, you don't have a bart for me.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
I could have such a good one if you give
me more time. Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is
a production of iHeartRadio. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit
the iHeartRadio apps, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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