January 15, 2025 • 22 mins
Jess got so many holiday stories that she decided to double back and help 2 more people before moving on with the New Year. The holidays might be over, but they always come back around. Tap in!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio
and The Black Effect. And just like that, we're back
with yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl. Just hilarious.
(00:21):
What I be doing, I'll be fixing mess now. I'm
sorry I couldn't get to everybody's story for the holidays.
For Christmas, I know y'all got Hello Christmas stories, and
y'all y'all want me to give y'all advice. A lot
of y'all had a lot of the same stories, the
same types of stories. So I'm sorry if I didn't
read yours specifically, but maybe you heard me read one
(00:41):
similar to yours, almost identical even. And then hopefully that
advice that I gave to that person last week you
applied it to your mess. You understand what I'm saying,
But if not, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. So it looks
like I'm gonna be reading holiday stories for a while
and well into the new year.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
All right, So listen started off like this.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Okay, first, I hope everything is well with you and
your new baby, but I need your help, girl. So
me and my girl upen dating for a little over
a year. It's holiday season, clearly, and quite frankly, I
don't like her family DM. Okay, but wait, it's not
like I just don't like them. I can feel the tension.
Jes like motherfucker's taking the funk with me. I can't
(01:21):
stand that. So I told her, And I also told
her I wanted to stay home for the holidays instead
of traveling two hours to see them.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Oh shit, and you would have to go far.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
I told her she didn't have to stay at home
with me, and that just made her even more mad.
But I'm not understanding if I'm wrong because I was
being honest, or maybe I should have never said anything.
I love this girl, and I know her family means
everything to her, but I just can't kick it with
people that clearly aren't fucking with me.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
For real.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I totally get it, truthfully, I don't feel comfortable. It's
just always something. They always get quiet and then resume
their conversations like I'm not there or like we were
their topic. Hold on, let me read that again, y'all,
because if y'all heard it like I just read it,
I don't get it all right.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Hold on, Wait a minute, wait a minute.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
They always get quiet and then resume their conversations like
I'm not there or like we were their topic.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Okay, I get it. I get it.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Then when talking to her mom, it's just like I'm
being tolerated. I cannot stand that shit, and that's from
previous experience. I cannot under. I cannot stand feeling like
I'm being tolerated, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
I do get it.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Continuing the only people who like me are her sisters
and her nephew. But it's different when the mother and
father of the girl you love don't like you or
not vibing with you.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
It's fucked up. Honestly, it hurts, but it's just so weird.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Like I know I'm not crazy, but I don't want
to tell my girl she overreacted because I don't want
to go. But it's like a comfort thing. I should
feel comfortable, right, not just going because she wants me to.
I should want to be there, right Or should I
have just went and kept it cool?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Should I even still go? Like I'm stuck? Help?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Okay, So you must have wrote this on actual Christmas,
because because you're talking as if she already went and
you can still go, So maybe it's like a holiday
thing where Okay, I totally get it, but no, I'm
totally with you, sir, I do get Actually, let me
not even just place a gender on your ass, because
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you ain't let me know whether you were a woman
or a man, right, But either way, you're totally right.
If I would hate to be in the presence of
somebody who I know, don't fuck with me, you know
what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
And then it's kind of tricky.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
That's kind of sticky when you're dealing with somebody, you're
in a relationship with someone and you love them, you
see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person,
but their family don't fuck with.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
You, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
And now this is the thing, further more than it
just being a thing, you not the damn fuck with you.
Have you talked to her about talking to them about it?
You get what I'm saying. Because she's in the middle.
Imagine how she feels, first of all, at you. How
she feels first of all, it's like fuck, like I
know that she It has to be some type of
dreading feeling that comes over her during the holidays when
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she feels like, h I got a drag, my man
or my woman here to be with my family, and
my family don't even fuck with this person, like you
don't fuck with my partner, you don't fuck with my lover,
you feel me, So it has to be a sticky
situation for all, well for both of y'all. I don't
know what the family got against you. I can't speak
on them. I want to know because this is this
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what can also happen. Have y'all had any previous situations
where you may have cheated on her, You've done something
that she don't like, and then she goes back and
tells her family and now y'all are good. You know,
y'all got past that bump in the road or whatever
y'all were going through. And then now she has to
take you around for Christmas and for holidays and shit
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like that. And they still looking at you judge you
from the situation that she to them when y'all were
fucking up or where y'all were going through something. It
could be that it could be a fact of she
had an ex that they fucked with more than you.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
It could be a number of things.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
So I can't really speak on the family, but that
could be, like that's just one of the main reasons
as to why somebody's whole family don't fuck with you.
If it's the mom, the dad, the cousins, the aunties
that you know, because you said she got about two
or three family members that fuck with you, like her
two siblings and her nephew or something like that. You said, like,
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if everybody else don't fuck with you, that's what it is.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I feel like that's what it is.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
If it ain't a previous exit, they prefer her with
over you, it has to be something that she has
told them. So yeah, like, have y'all had any issues
in the past with infidelity, trust, not keeping it real?
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Did you betray her in any way?
Speaker 1 (05:53):
You know?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Do y'all argue a lot?
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Or were y'all ever at a point where y'all were
arguing a lot? Maybe she took that back to her family.
Maybe she confides in them, you know, about certain things.
And that's when shit gets sticky, because, like I said before,
if you plan to spend the rest of your life
with a person, ugh, and the person put me through
some shit and I ran and I told my parents
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and my my family members, and now y'all looking at
this nigga like, uh, why are you here.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
We're gonna tolerate you.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
But because you said this, you feel that that the
parents tolerate you, you don't like to feel tolerated. Yeah, that's
exactly what happened. Then I'm not gonna I'm not gonna
say that's not what happened. That's what happened. She talked
about something that happened with y'all. Y'all must have been
having problems and she took it back to the fam.
But going back to the initial advice, you need to
have a conversation with your girl about having a conversation
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with her family. Maybe y'all all can sit down, but
I think it needs to be a conversation between her
and her family first, not just bringing you because they're
already they're already a little skeptical of you. If you
love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll
be right back. Anytime you got to tolerate somebody, Yeah,
you ain't really fucking with me. I'm suspecting some type
of way to you, you know, And I don't like
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that feeling.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
And this is the holidays.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
You're not supposed to feel that way during the holidays,
you know, And you're not supposed to be forced to
have to feel that way either. I understand she's your girlfriend, y'all,
in a relationship, but if you feel uncomfortable, I think
there has to be a level of compromise.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
I think if.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
You are if you projected this to her like you're
projecting it to me, like you're telling me you described
the same, the very exact feelings to her, and she
knows about this, I think she should be open to
be like, all right, let me go and spend this
day with my family because it is two hours away.
All right, let me go spend this day with my family,
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and then me and you can spend the rest of
the holiday together.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
At least let me get Christmas even with my family,
and then I'll be home early morning on Christmas, or
I'll be back late that night so I can wake
up on Christmas with you.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Something.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
It should have been a compromising result that you understand
what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Yeah, you have to sit down.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
You have to talk to her, because it just sounds
a little skeptical. I you know, they're skeptical because of
something that was said to them or something that they
don't like that you've done. But they would only know
that or find that out from your girl, you know
what I mean. So just have a conversation. I'm sorry
that you had to go through that, you know, But no,
to answer your question, No, you're not wrong ful feeling
that way, You're not wrong and you're not supposed to
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be forced to be put in situations like that where
you're unsure about the company around you.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
You get what I'm saying. And it's not just one.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Or two people this this girl whole family basically like
a lot of the family, you know, So I totally
get it. Keep me updated and let me know what
happened there, all right, moving the hook owing, Hey, Jess,
happy holidays. Whole parenthood is treating you well. So girl,
let's get into it. I met this boy at my job.
He was tall as fuck, Like all right, hey, he
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was tall as fuck, dark skinned, big lips, funny as hell,
and I don't know, we just hit it off. We
started flirting at the job. He would always come to
my section and bother me.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
On some cute shit. Okay, so you must work at
a club. We ended up we ended up smoking together.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
He would take me home afterward and we would just
be with each other more often. We ended up having sex.
A few days after we had sex, he told me
his baby mom was about to have his baby.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
What the fuck?
Speaker 1 (09:24):
My response was, nigga, have a good life, lol exactly.
I was also on and off with my ex at
the time, so I wasn't really worried about that. Hmm, okay,
you mean a do you fucked him? You wasn't really
worried about it? What the fuck is going on with y'all?
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Girls? Uh?
Speaker 1 (09:39):
I go back to work the next day. This man
comes to my section, like, can I talk to you
real quick? So we talking and he jacks me up
and said he jacks you up?
Speaker 2 (09:47):
The fuck?
Speaker 1 (09:48):
He jecks you up and say you really dumb with me?
And my dumb ass says no. First of all, your
dumb ass, like, yeah, you're dumb.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Why would you say no?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
This nigga jacking you up at your fucking job, Miss
Tike Turner. Really, this is what you It's what you're
saying for yourself. Did you pussy got wet off that
this should not be sexy to you?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Bitch? The fuck? Like?
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Now, what if he dejacked you up and gave you
a gut punch. Then what the fuck? Don't ever that's
not sexy. I wouldn't know where you're from, what you're doing.
You know how old are you?
Speaker 2 (10:16):
That's not cute? All right?
Speaker 1 (10:18):
So continuing, I know, I know, yeah, you better know.
You already knew how I was gonna react to that.
But we ended up being with each other every night.
You know how that go? No, I don't know how
to go. I ain't even gonna try to act like
I know how this go. But I just had this
gut feeling that he was still messing around with his
baby mom. Well, I die, bitch, the baby was fresh
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out the coach, stupid, and just messing around in general. Okay,
so you thought he was just messing around in general
as well, like you ain't the only other woman, because
you are definitely the other woman, not the baby mom
baby you were to begin with. Okay, Continuing, so I
get to lurking on social media to see what's going on,
and he actually was, I mean, showing the fuck out,
buying shoes, paying for hair, giving her money, laughing my
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ass off.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Bitch, You ain't laughing.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
You're distraught and miserable right now, shit, you're devastated. We stopped,
we stopped messing around. But the type of person I am,
I'm really thinking, Okay, this is my nigga. He acting
like it. I'm with No, he not acting like it.
I'm with this person every day. We always on the phone.
I'm giving my body to him, you know what I mean, girl,
(11:24):
and not to see his bullshit ass horn.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
But the sex was good.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
You know, the package was packaging girl, goofy ass ah,
these whole hugs, bitch, Oh my god. And yes, to
answer a question, we did start messing back around. I
wasn't even gonna ask because I already knew. And I
just felt like it's no growth in this connection, like
I'm not getting anything out of it.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
I can't wait to be done with this shit. It's
and that's to me talking, y'all.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I cannot wait to be done with this story because
I'm about to read your ass for filth.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
It's always the same thing with him, like either his
car isn't working, he needs some money. He depressed him
and his BM beefing, and we only having sex. We
ain't together, we only having sex. But I knew that though,
and I was only having sex with him, and we've
been Girl, you're running all of this shit down to
me without one punctuation mark in this shit. This is
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a long run on ass essay, it's one sentence. So
bad with me, y'all.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
We've been messing around with each other for a year
and some change. Now. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
I just feel like I'm on a different level right now.
I'm trying to focus on myself because I truly believe
the love I give out I will get back one day.
But it's like I'm mistaking lust for love.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
I've been there as well, and I was so blind
that I couldn't see how I was being played.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
I wouldn't say I'm gullible, Oh.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Bitch, please, I would say it takes me a little
longer to understand, especially when my feelings are involved. But
I just be wondering to myself, how do you give
this person so much and they give you nothing? When
do you start loving yourself more and saying enough is enough?
Now you're asking the right questions. How many more times
does he have to show me I don't matter for
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me to get it? So my point is, how do
I detach myself from a connection that I truly feel
isn't for me.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Ah. Now I'm about to get in your ways, baby, okay.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Ah, you called the gullible. I call it, for lack
of a better word, dumb. First of all, it's too
much that you allowed at the beginning, you had sex
with this man, and you said the next day, I
think you said whatever shortly after you fucked this man
right without even really getting to know him. That was
the first fucking red flag right there. That was the
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first problem. Right there. You're giving up your pussy too
fucking quick. This man turns around and tell you he
got a baby that could be here any fucking day now,
so you know it gotta be something still going on
with this fucking baby, mom right Hold up, hold up,
I know this shit getting good, but listen to just
a couple seconds of a commercial with you love Me.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
You'll listen. Now.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
You even start fucking with him after that, and your
excuse as to why you did it and it wasn't
really worried about him telling you that he had a
baby on the way that could be here any minute,
was that you were still texting your ex girl.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
You just as toxic as this.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Nigga and you're allowing things and you could be unknowingly
unintentionally toxic.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
But that's very problematic.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
And the reason why it's hard for you right now
is because you kept giving him yourself over and over
and over. And I'm gonna just go ahead and take
the fucking gloves off and get ready to box with you,
because I'm about to tell you you let that man
fuck you raw.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
You didn't even have to tell me that he was.
You didn't even have to tell me it was raw dog.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
It was because you sound way too fucking gone over
somebody else's baby daddy, slash man. He was in a
relationship with the baby mom and the whole time he
was cheating with you and other girls. The proof was
right there. You went on social media. That's the number
one place to fucking go when you're trying to figure
out if a nigga creeping or not. Y'all weren't public.
It's public with his girlfriend slash baby mom. He's been
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cheating on this bitch, so really she should be right
in me. You are a side bitch, and you've been
a side bitch. Okay, that's weird. That's how you break it.
You don't talk to him. You don't anything that reminds
you of him, you burn it, you block that number.
I wish you could burn the damn phone that you got,
but you can't, so block the number. Cut sides with him.
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That's why at the end of the day, you're never
gonna be happy. You're looking for love in the wrong places,
in the wrong men. Like it started off wrong. It
started off wrong, okay, And then I'm not trying to
like judge. This ain't for all women that works at
a club. But this man comes to your job. Obviously
you do work at a club.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
He comes to your club often, he sees you. You
probably a bad lord, joy, nice body. You know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
You look good. You know you probably wear clothes. Who's
you know?
Speaker 1 (16:02):
You probably wear a shit that you show your body.
So nigga's minds and imaginations is running wild. I mean,
what's left of their imagination because you probably wear clothes
where niggas don't really need to imagine much because they
see a lot of it already. You get what I'm saying.
You're not leaving anything to his imagination. You're not making
them work for shit. But in your in his eyes,
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you're just a fucking bottle girl maybe or a bar tend.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I don't know what you are, but you work at
a club.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
That is the first fucking place that niggas find comfort.
The baby mom she's in her third trimester, so she
getting on his nigga nerves like I got on my
mass nerves the third trimester, every fucking trimester, but by
the third you ready to have that fucking baby. So
you on this nigga's head like about everything. Any little
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thing that he does gets to you, gets on your nerves.
I was there, so I know what the baby mom
was going through, and the fact that I was there,
I know what the nigga was going through too. And
instead of of being faithful and just sticking it out
what a real man should do if he's in a
committed relationship with somebody who's about to have his fucking baby,
he went to seek comfort in the club, and you
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gave him a microwaveable night, basically instant pussy.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Like you gave him like you talk about, we smoked
and we talked and then I fucked him. Yeah, you
didn't get to know him, or you would have known
he had a bit who was pregnant. You know what
I'm saying, So I all the gloves was off. I
had to give it to you straight like that, because
you're smarter than that. You're smarter. I'm gonna say you're
smarter than that, because you This ain't the first time
some shit like this happened. This ain't this, Cabby, the
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first time. I don't know how long you've been working
at that club, but you notice is how that shit go.
The club is a revolving door of niggas who looking
for something real quick.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
You know, unless that nigga was t Pain.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
No, because T Pain made his wife stop stripping, he
went and got her out the fucking club and she
ain't been back since. Okay, I don't know if they
so together now, but yeah, you know what I'm saying.
That's what happened. Neo went to go get Crystal Renee
out the fucking club, married her.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
She ain't been back since. I know that, all right.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Stevie J went to go get Josceling out the motherfucking club.
She's still in the club, and she married and she's
faithful to our fucking man. You get what I'm saying
she makes a living off of doing the cabaret, being
in clubs and shit.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
So yeah, like, if you ain't one of them, and.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
You're mad that that nigga wasn't one of them, then yeah, girl,
you got used and abused. Then you're just a convenient
piece of pussy, which you have been. Yeah, because you
ain't on in social media she is, So get your
shit together. You maybe need to quit that fucking job
and do something where you can actually apply your brain
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to cause that ain't that ain't good for you, That
ain't good for you. I don't know how old you are,
but baby girl, do not take this as me just beating.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Down on you, beating down on you, beating down on you.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
But I need for you to understand play this episode
back for yourself, because sometimes, like I always say in
these episodes, sometimes it takes a person to read you
back your story for you to be like, oh, I
sound crazy as shit. I gots to get up, pack
my bags and run for the fucking hills.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
I gotta stop. But if me reading it.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Back to you is not enough for you to realize
you need to wake the fuck up, then yeah, you yeah,
you just need to quit that job.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
You need to quit that fucking job. But lead that
man alone. Enough is enough.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
And the questions that you ask me toward the end
of your passage, I can see that you are waking up.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
You starting to wait. You ain't fully woke yet, but
you are waking up.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
You detach yourself because he's already detached you holding on.
This is a one way thing. He's never he was
never attached to you in the first place. You attached
yourself to him. And you've been riding on this nigga
coach tail. You've been letting them drag you up and
down the street too. Nah, let that shit go. Let
that shit go, baby girl, and update me. You talkt
the nigga asking you for money, talk about his fucking
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car up, broke down, this car ain't working and all
of that shit.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Me and my baby mother beef.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
And that's because you heat and ran out of money,
and or she probably done went through his phone, found
out that he fucking whatever bitches now she on his head.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
The baby's here.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
He got a lot of shit to do. He got
a new baby, So no, he can't buy you no
bags and shoes and shit. They got a baby goofy ass,
So write me back. I love you, shit'd be having
to give him the tough love tailor shit. Oh lord,
write me back, make sure you do fuck the first story.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Write me back you.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
I'm looking for your response because you're fucking trying it okay,
and I want.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
You to to to like that's uh like you.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
We shouldn't be losing out dignity over these men, these
no good ass MENUO like you gotta wake the fuck
up at some point. And just like that, we've come
to the end of yet another episode of Carefully Reckless
and what I be doing, I'll be fixing messing. I'm
gonna keep on trying, y'all. But y'all got me over here,
judging y'all from a fall.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
I love y'all. Catch y'all next week. Happy New Year
There Peace.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
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What I be doing, I'll be fixing mess now. I'm
sorry I couldn't get to everybody's story for the holidays.
For Christmas, I know y'all got Hello Christmas stories, and
y'all y'all want me to give y'all advice. A lot
of y'all had a lot of the same stories, the
same types of stories. So I'm sorry if I didn't
read yours specifically, but maybe you heard me read one
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similar to yours, almost identical even. And then hopefully that
advice that I gave to that person last week you
applied it to your mess. You understand what I'm saying,
But if not, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. So it looks
like I'm gonna be reading holiday stories for a while
and well into the new year.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
All right, So listen started off like this.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Okay, first, I hope everything is well with you and
your new baby, but I need your help, girl. So
me and my girl upen dating for a little over
a year. It's holiday season, clearly, and quite frankly, I
don't like her family DM. Okay, but wait, it's not
like I just don't like them. I can feel the tension.
Jes like motherfucker's taking the funk with me. I can't
(01:21):
stand that. So I told her, And I also told
her I wanted to stay home for the holidays instead
of traveling two hours to see them.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Oh shit, and you would have to go far.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
I told her she didn't have to stay at home
with me, and that just made her even more mad.
But I'm not understanding if I'm wrong because I was
being honest, or maybe I should have never said anything.
I love this girl, and I know her family means
everything to her, but I just can't kick it with
people that clearly aren't fucking with me.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
For real.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I totally get it, truthfully, I don't feel comfortable. It's
just always something. They always get quiet and then resume
their conversations like I'm not there or like we were
their topic. Hold on, let me read that again, y'all,
because if y'all heard it like I just read it,
I don't get it all right.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Hold on, Wait a minute, wait a minute.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
They always get quiet and then resume their conversations like
I'm not there or like we were their topic.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Okay, I get it. I get it.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Then when talking to her mom, it's just like I'm
being tolerated. I cannot stand that shit, and that's from
previous experience. I cannot under. I cannot stand feeling like
I'm being tolerated, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
I do get it.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Continuing the only people who like me are her sisters
and her nephew. But it's different when the mother and
father of the girl you love don't like you or
not vibing with you.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
It's fucked up. Honestly, it hurts, but it's just so weird.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Like I know I'm not crazy, but I don't want
to tell my girl she overreacted because I don't want
to go. But it's like a comfort thing. I should
feel comfortable, right, not just going because she wants me to.
I should want to be there, right Or should I
have just went and kept it cool?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Should I even still go? Like I'm stuck? Help?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Okay, So you must have wrote this on actual Christmas,
because because you're talking as if she already went and
you can still go, So maybe it's like a holiday
thing where Okay, I totally get it, but no, I'm
totally with you, sir, I do get Actually, let me
not even just place a gender on your ass, because
(03:20):
you ain't let me know whether you were a woman
or a man, right, But either way, you're totally right.
If I would hate to be in the presence of
somebody who I know, don't fuck with me, you know
what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
And then it's kind of tricky.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
That's kind of sticky when you're dealing with somebody, you're
in a relationship with someone and you love them, you
see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person,
but their family don't fuck with.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
You, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
And now this is the thing, further more than it
just being a thing, you not the damn fuck with you.
Have you talked to her about talking to them about it?
You get what I'm saying. Because she's in the middle.
Imagine how she feels, first of all, at you. How
she feels first of all, it's like fuck, like I
know that she It has to be some type of
dreading feeling that comes over her during the holidays when
(04:09):
she feels like, h I got a drag, my man
or my woman here to be with my family, and
my family don't even fuck with this person, like you
don't fuck with my partner, you don't fuck with my lover,
you feel me, So it has to be a sticky
situation for all, well for both of y'all. I don't
know what the family got against you. I can't speak
on them. I want to know because this is this
(04:31):
what can also happen. Have y'all had any previous situations
where you may have cheated on her, You've done something
that she don't like, and then she goes back and
tells her family and now y'all are good. You know,
y'all got past that bump in the road or whatever
y'all were going through. And then now she has to
take you around for Christmas and for holidays and shit
(04:54):
like that. And they still looking at you judge you
from the situation that she to them when y'all were
fucking up or where y'all were going through something. It
could be that it could be a fact of she
had an ex that they fucked with more than you.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
It could be a number of things.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
So I can't really speak on the family, but that
could be, like that's just one of the main reasons
as to why somebody's whole family don't fuck with you.
If it's the mom, the dad, the cousins, the aunties
that you know, because you said she got about two
or three family members that fuck with you, like her
two siblings and her nephew or something like that. You said, like,
(05:34):
if everybody else don't fuck with you, that's what it is.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I feel like that's what it is.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
If it ain't a previous exit, they prefer her with
over you, it has to be something that she has
told them. So yeah, like, have y'all had any issues
in the past with infidelity, trust, not keeping it real?
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Did you betray her in any way?
Speaker 1 (05:53):
You know?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Do y'all argue a lot?
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Or were y'all ever at a point where y'all were
arguing a lot? Maybe she took that back to her family.
Maybe she confides in them, you know, about certain things.
And that's when shit gets sticky, because, like I said before,
if you plan to spend the rest of your life
with a person, ugh, and the person put me through
some shit and I ran and I told my parents
(06:16):
and my my family members, and now y'all looking at
this nigga like, uh, why are you here.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
We're gonna tolerate you.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
But because you said this, you feel that that the
parents tolerate you, you don't like to feel tolerated. Yeah, that's
exactly what happened. Then I'm not gonna I'm not gonna
say that's not what happened. That's what happened. She talked
about something that happened with y'all. Y'all must have been
having problems and she took it back to the fam.
But going back to the initial advice, you need to
have a conversation with your girl about having a conversation
(06:46):
with her family. Maybe y'all all can sit down, but
I think it needs to be a conversation between her
and her family first, not just bringing you because they're
already they're already a little skeptical of you. If you
love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll
be right back. Anytime you got to tolerate somebody, Yeah,
you ain't really fucking with me. I'm suspecting some type
of way to you, you know, And I don't like
(07:07):
that feeling.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
And this is the holidays.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
You're not supposed to feel that way during the holidays,
you know, And you're not supposed to be forced to
have to feel that way either. I understand she's your girlfriend, y'all,
in a relationship, but if you feel uncomfortable, I think
there has to be a level of compromise.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
I think if.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
You are if you projected this to her like you're
projecting it to me, like you're telling me you described
the same, the very exact feelings to her, and she
knows about this, I think she should be open to
be like, all right, let me go and spend this
day with my family because it is two hours away.
All right, let me go spend this day with my family,
(07:45):
and then me and you can spend the rest of
the holiday together.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
At least let me get Christmas even with my family,
and then I'll be home early morning on Christmas, or
I'll be back late that night so I can wake
up on Christmas with you.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Something.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
It should have been a compromising result that you understand
what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Yeah, you have to sit down.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
You have to talk to her, because it just sounds
a little skeptical. I you know, they're skeptical because of
something that was said to them or something that they
don't like that you've done. But they would only know
that or find that out from your girl, you know
what I mean. So just have a conversation. I'm sorry
that you had to go through that, you know, But no,
to answer your question, No, you're not wrong ful feeling
that way, You're not wrong and you're not supposed to
(08:24):
be forced to be put in situations like that where
you're unsure about the company around you.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
You get what I'm saying. And it's not just one.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Or two people this this girl whole family basically like
a lot of the family, you know, So I totally
get it. Keep me updated and let me know what
happened there, all right, moving the hook owing, Hey, Jess,
happy holidays. Whole parenthood is treating you well. So girl,
let's get into it. I met this boy at my job.
He was tall as fuck, Like all right, hey, he
(08:58):
was tall as fuck, dark skinned, big lips, funny as hell,
and I don't know, we just hit it off. We
started flirting at the job. He would always come to
my section and bother me.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
On some cute shit. Okay, so you must work at
a club. We ended up we ended up smoking together.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
He would take me home afterward and we would just
be with each other more often. We ended up having sex.
A few days after we had sex, he told me
his baby mom was about to have his baby.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
What the fuck?
Speaker 1 (09:24):
My response was, nigga, have a good life, lol exactly.
I was also on and off with my ex at
the time, so I wasn't really worried about that. Hmm, okay,
you mean a do you fucked him? You wasn't really
worried about it? What the fuck is going on with y'all?
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Girls? Uh?
Speaker 1 (09:39):
I go back to work the next day. This man
comes to my section, like, can I talk to you
real quick? So we talking and he jacks me up
and said he jacks you up?
Speaker 2 (09:47):
The fuck?
Speaker 1 (09:48):
He jecks you up and say you really dumb with me?
And my dumb ass says no. First of all, your
dumb ass, like, yeah, you're dumb.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Why would you say no?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
This nigga jacking you up at your fucking job, Miss
Tike Turner. Really, this is what you It's what you're
saying for yourself. Did you pussy got wet off that
this should not be sexy to you?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Bitch? The fuck? Like?
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Now, what if he dejacked you up and gave you
a gut punch. Then what the fuck? Don't ever that's
not sexy. I wouldn't know where you're from, what you're doing.
You know how old are you?
Speaker 2 (10:16):
That's not cute? All right?
Speaker 1 (10:18):
So continuing, I know, I know, yeah, you better know.
You already knew how I was gonna react to that.
But we ended up being with each other every night.
You know how that go? No, I don't know how
to go. I ain't even gonna try to act like
I know how this go. But I just had this
gut feeling that he was still messing around with his
baby mom. Well, I die, bitch, the baby was fresh
(10:38):
out the coach, stupid, and just messing around in general. Okay,
so you thought he was just messing around in general
as well, like you ain't the only other woman, because
you are definitely the other woman, not the baby mom
baby you were to begin with. Okay, Continuing, so I
get to lurking on social media to see what's going on,
and he actually was, I mean, showing the fuck out,
buying shoes, paying for hair, giving her money, laughing my
(11:01):
ass off.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Bitch, You ain't laughing.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
You're distraught and miserable right now, shit, you're devastated. We stopped,
we stopped messing around. But the type of person I am,
I'm really thinking, Okay, this is my nigga. He acting
like it. I'm with No, he not acting like it.
I'm with this person every day. We always on the phone.
I'm giving my body to him, you know what I mean, girl,
(11:24):
and not to see his bullshit ass horn.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
But the sex was good.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
You know, the package was packaging girl, goofy ass ah,
these whole hugs, bitch, Oh my god. And yes, to
answer a question, we did start messing back around. I
wasn't even gonna ask because I already knew. And I
just felt like it's no growth in this connection, like
I'm not getting anything out of it.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
I can't wait to be done with this shit. It's
and that's to me talking, y'all.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I cannot wait to be done with this story because
I'm about to read your ass for filth.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
It's always the same thing with him, like either his
car isn't working, he needs some money. He depressed him
and his BM beefing, and we only having sex. We
ain't together, we only having sex. But I knew that though,
and I was only having sex with him, and we've
been Girl, you're running all of this shit down to
me without one punctuation mark in this shit. This is
(12:17):
a long run on ass essay, it's one sentence. So
bad with me, y'all.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
We've been messing around with each other for a year
and some change. Now. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
I just feel like I'm on a different level right now.
I'm trying to focus on myself because I truly believe
the love I give out I will get back one day.
But it's like I'm mistaking lust for love.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
I've been there as well, and I was so blind
that I couldn't see how I was being played.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
I wouldn't say I'm gullible, Oh.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Bitch, please, I would say it takes me a little
longer to understand, especially when my feelings are involved. But
I just be wondering to myself, how do you give
this person so much and they give you nothing? When
do you start loving yourself more and saying enough is enough?
Now you're asking the right questions. How many more times
does he have to show me I don't matter for
(13:07):
me to get it? So my point is, how do
I detach myself from a connection that I truly feel
isn't for me.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Ah. Now I'm about to get in your ways, baby, okay.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Ah, you called the gullible. I call it, for lack
of a better word, dumb. First of all, it's too
much that you allowed at the beginning, you had sex
with this man, and you said the next day, I
think you said whatever shortly after you fucked this man
right without even really getting to know him. That was
the first fucking red flag right there. That was the
(13:41):
first problem. Right there. You're giving up your pussy too
fucking quick. This man turns around and tell you he
got a baby that could be here any fucking day now,
so you know it gotta be something still going on
with this fucking baby, mom right Hold up, hold up,
I know this shit getting good, but listen to just
a couple seconds of a commercial with you love Me.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
You'll listen. Now.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
You even start fucking with him after that, and your
excuse as to why you did it and it wasn't
really worried about him telling you that he had a
baby on the way that could be here any minute,
was that you were still texting your ex girl.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
You just as toxic as this.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Nigga and you're allowing things and you could be unknowingly
unintentionally toxic.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
But that's very problematic.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
And the reason why it's hard for you right now
is because you kept giving him yourself over and over
and over. And I'm gonna just go ahead and take
the fucking gloves off and get ready to box with you,
because I'm about to tell you you let that man
fuck you raw.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
You didn't even have to tell me that he was.
You didn't even have to tell me it was raw dog.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
It was because you sound way too fucking gone over
somebody else's baby daddy, slash man. He was in a
relationship with the baby mom and the whole time he
was cheating with you and other girls. The proof was
right there. You went on social media. That's the number
one place to fucking go when you're trying to figure
out if a nigga creeping or not. Y'all weren't public.
It's public with his girlfriend slash baby mom. He's been
(15:03):
cheating on this bitch, so really she should be right
in me. You are a side bitch, and you've been
a side bitch. Okay, that's weird. That's how you break it.
You don't talk to him. You don't anything that reminds
you of him, you burn it, you block that number.
I wish you could burn the damn phone that you got,
but you can't, so block the number. Cut sides with him.
(15:25):
That's why at the end of the day, you're never
gonna be happy. You're looking for love in the wrong places,
in the wrong men. Like it started off wrong. It
started off wrong, okay, And then I'm not trying to
like judge. This ain't for all women that works at
a club. But this man comes to your job. Obviously
you do work at a club.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
He comes to your club often, he sees you. You
probably a bad lord, joy, nice body. You know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
You look good. You know you probably wear clothes. Who's
you know?
Speaker 1 (16:02):
You probably wear a shit that you show your body.
So nigga's minds and imaginations is running wild. I mean,
what's left of their imagination because you probably wear clothes
where niggas don't really need to imagine much because they
see a lot of it already. You get what I'm saying.
You're not leaving anything to his imagination. You're not making
them work for shit. But in your in his eyes,
(16:22):
you're just a fucking bottle girl maybe or a bar tend.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I don't know what you are, but you work at
a club.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
That is the first fucking place that niggas find comfort.
The baby mom she's in her third trimester, so she
getting on his nigga nerves like I got on my
mass nerves the third trimester, every fucking trimester, but by
the third you ready to have that fucking baby. So
you on this nigga's head like about everything. Any little
(16:49):
thing that he does gets to you, gets on your nerves.
I was there, so I know what the baby mom
was going through, and the fact that I was there,
I know what the nigga was going through too. And
instead of of being faithful and just sticking it out
what a real man should do if he's in a
committed relationship with somebody who's about to have his fucking baby,
he went to seek comfort in the club, and you
(17:12):
gave him a microwaveable night, basically instant pussy.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Like you gave him like you talk about, we smoked
and we talked and then I fucked him. Yeah, you
didn't get to know him, or you would have known
he had a bit who was pregnant. You know what
I'm saying, So I all the gloves was off. I
had to give it to you straight like that, because
you're smarter than that. You're smarter. I'm gonna say you're
smarter than that, because you This ain't the first time
some shit like this happened. This ain't this, Cabby, the
(17:41):
first time. I don't know how long you've been working
at that club, but you notice is how that shit go.
The club is a revolving door of niggas who looking
for something real quick.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
You know, unless that nigga was t Pain.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
No, because T Pain made his wife stop stripping, he
went and got her out the fucking club and she
ain't been back since. Okay, I don't know if they
so together now, but yeah, you know what I'm saying.
That's what happened. Neo went to go get Crystal Renee
out the fucking club, married her.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
She ain't been back since. I know that, all right.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Stevie J went to go get Josceling out the motherfucking club.
She's still in the club, and she married and she's
faithful to our fucking man. You get what I'm saying
she makes a living off of doing the cabaret, being
in clubs and shit.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
So yeah, like, if you ain't one of them, and.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
You're mad that that nigga wasn't one of them, then yeah, girl,
you got used and abused. Then you're just a convenient
piece of pussy, which you have been. Yeah, because you
ain't on in social media she is, So get your
shit together. You maybe need to quit that fucking job
and do something where you can actually apply your brain
(18:44):
to cause that ain't that ain't good for you, That
ain't good for you. I don't know how old you are,
but baby girl, do not take this as me just beating.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Down on you, beating down on you, beating down on you.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
But I need for you to understand play this episode
back for yourself, because sometimes, like I always say in
these episodes, sometimes it takes a person to read you
back your story for you to be like, oh, I
sound crazy as shit. I gots to get up, pack
my bags and run for the fucking hills.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
I gotta stop. But if me reading it.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Back to you is not enough for you to realize
you need to wake the fuck up, then yeah, you yeah,
you just need to quit that job.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
You need to quit that fucking job. But lead that
man alone. Enough is enough.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
And the questions that you ask me toward the end
of your passage, I can see that you are waking up.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
You starting to wait. You ain't fully woke yet, but
you are waking up.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
You detach yourself because he's already detached you holding on.
This is a one way thing. He's never he was
never attached to you in the first place. You attached
yourself to him. And you've been riding on this nigga
coach tail. You've been letting them drag you up and
down the street too. Nah, let that shit go. Let
that shit go, baby girl, and update me. You talkt
the nigga asking you for money, talk about his fucking
(19:56):
car up, broke down, this car ain't working and all
of that shit.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Me and my baby mother beef.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
And that's because you heat and ran out of money,
and or she probably done went through his phone, found
out that he fucking whatever bitches now she on his head.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
The baby's here.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
He got a lot of shit to do. He got
a new baby, So no, he can't buy you no
bags and shoes and shit. They got a baby goofy ass,
So write me back. I love you, shit'd be having
to give him the tough love tailor shit. Oh lord,
write me back, make sure you do fuck the first story.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Write me back you.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
I'm looking for your response because you're fucking trying it okay,
and I want.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
You to to to like that's uh like you.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
We shouldn't be losing out dignity over these men, these
no good ass MENUO like you gotta wake the fuck
up at some point. And just like that, we've come
to the end of yet another episode of Carefully Reckless
and what I be doing, I'll be fixing messing. I'm
gonna keep on trying, y'all. But y'all got me over here,
judging y'all from a fall.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
I love y'all. Catch y'all next week. Happy New Year
There Peace.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
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