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Speaker 1 (00:19):
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Speaker 2 (00:49):
Oh the Cheekys, and I have two funny questions. Two
fun questions I should say for you, La priemera is
what is your favorite dessert? And when you go out
to eat, I mean, yeah, for dinner. If you got
to dinner and you're not gonna drink alcohol, what's your
go to drink? Do you go with water or a
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different type of beverage?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Just want to know.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Have good day. Thank you for all your good vibes.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
You guys. You see why I love this freaking podcast
so much, Crystal, I love these questions. I love them
so much. Okay, so my favorite type of dessert I
oh my gosh, it's crazy, because damn it, I'm not
huge on dessert after I eat only in Mexico. I
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don't know why, but I like. But anyways, I would
probably say there's lettuce cake, which is weird because let
me tell you why, because if you were to ask me, cookies,
ice cream or cake, cake would be at the bottom.
It always cookies ice cream than cake. But when it
comes to desserts, and wants cake, but I don't know
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I can have it. There's let ches any day. Love it, okay,
And if we're not drinking alcohol at a restaurant, I
love these questions. Okay, what do I drink? Water? Always
water with ice. I didn't have ice before because when
I went to China when I was twenty three, they
taught me that anything that's cold, like you shouldn't drink
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anything cold because it's bad for your stomach. And I
stopped doing it for a while, but now I crave
I crave it ice water and that's what I drink.
And if it's not that, it'll be a nice tea
and sweet and nice tea. But mainly all the time
it's water. Oh. I love these questions. Thank you so much, chrisco.
I appreciate you. I love that. Okay, let's go with me, Railey,
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me Ralely, Let's go Hei Tikis.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
My name is Me, RAILEI. I am from Florida, from
the Sunshine State. I just want to say I absolutely
love you and I have two questions. My first question
is if you would ever do a concert here in Florida.
I would love to see you over here. It's kind
of like a dream for me to see you in
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concerts sometime. And my second question is, out of all
of your mom's songs, which is your favorite?
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Thanks? Okay, fun Okay me really I believe hopefully I'm
pronouncing that right. Okay, Okay. So I would love to
do a concert out in Miami or Florida. Should I
say not just Miami every time I think of Florida,
I think Miami. Anyways, in Florida. I would love to.
But you got to tell all your homies out there
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in Florida to listen to my music a little more,
because I've asked, because I love Florida, but not enough
people listen to my music out there. Actually, I guess
regional is not huge. Is not like a big big
thing out there unless you're like freaking the bestl Plumas
of the world. I gets, but I still have a
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little bit more work to do. Maybe I can do
it a little bar. That'd be cool, that would be
actually really fun. As soon as I figure this out,
I will let you know, and hopefully I can I
can meet you. So that's the first part of your question.
The second part of your question, if I had to
choose a favorite song of my mom's, oh, there's so many.
Oh love that song, but the one song when I
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need strain, when I'm having a bad day, when I'm like,
f this, f that I can't anymore. I listened to Singcapitan.
If you haven't heard that song, please listen to it.
It's very underrated. I feel like only people that know know,
but that song is like an anthem for me. I
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put it on and I'm just like, I'm back at it.
I'm like, you know what got this? I got this?
Thank you Jenny Rivera. That's how I feel when I
listen to it. So listen to it if you have it.
But that's my favorite song. Yeah, thank you so much
for your question. Okay, next question comes from Lauda Hi Cheeky's.
Speaker 5 (05:04):
I was just wondering how did you deal with your
first divorce? My husband has recently abandoned me.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
I just don't know how to face the world.
Speaker 5 (05:15):
It's it's just very embarrassing, very humiliating. He is narcissistic.
I have prayed and prayed and prayed for God's will
and I'm hoping for restoration. But I'm just wondering how
did you deal with your first divorce? Because I did
hear you say different interviews get so can you just
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please share how you dealt with your first divorce?
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Thank you? Oh my goodness, Lauda Laura. Okay, it's tough,
and I will say that it was not easy. I
definitely decided to separate and divorce being in love because
now I know what it is to be in love. Really,
I think I was probably in lust. But whatever, it
was painful. I just had to. I told myself, I'm like,
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I prayed for God's will to be done, and I
got a lot of signs, and I asked God for
many signs, signs that I ignored, and I was like, Okay,
well maybe it's not that one, and I would ask
for another sign and it was literally on a billboard,
and I would ignore that one, and I got so
many signs. So finally I said, Okay, I can't anymore,
and I have to allow him to be himself because
it's just not fitting. I can't change him. And I
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just decided, and it was very difficult, and I was
in the worst depression ever. And anyways, I think if
he is narcissistic, this is my opinion, it might be
a blessing in disguise. I know it's not easy. And
I know because you said that you feel embarrassed because
he left you, I understand how that could be embarrassing.
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I was also very embarrassed, especially with how he was
acting after the divorce, and I was just like here,
I am crying and you're out there just having a blast.
And I was very embarrassed. So I get that now,
I thank God, and I'm like, you know what, that
pain it sucked. It was so horrible, and I just
dove into more of my faith and doing anything that
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made me feel good, and going to church and reading
books and anything that made me feel good, not the
fate kind of feel good like drinking and doing things
or trying to, you know, hop on another dude doesn't work.
Trust me. It was just really soul searching that really
helped me. And I left it in God's hands and
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I said, help me. I cannot wait until the day
I can say I no longer love this person. And
I was like, God, please, and I prayed and I
prayed and I held on to God and I got
through it. It wasn't easy. It will be painful, but if
he's a narcissist, he's probably doing you a favor because
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that's very hard to change. And I think you just
have to let things be unless he completely changed it,
which is very hard to do. But if he's willing
to put in the work, it is possible. I believe
that people can change or modify whatever. But maybe just
start thinking God, thinking the universe, whatever it is, whatever
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faith you have, just thinking because yeah, but it will
be tough, but you got this. I got through it,
and I'm in a much better place now, thank the Lord.
So I'm wishing you the best, Laura. I hope it
works out for you, whatever that means, whatever is best
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for you. So just embrace that pain. You got this.
We got this, girl, I believe in you keep us updated, please, Okay.
Last question comes from Jason.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
Hey, Jeeky's It's Jason. So I got an update on
those two guys I was dating girl. They both didn't
work out. The guy who I didn't like, I told
him and think he understood, and I blocked him right after,
and then the guy was like, Okay, now I can
focus on the other guy who I really like until
we started having like long term conversations where we saw
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that we both weren't compatible because you know, I am
more of a career driven person. I just graduated from
college shout out to Rockers University, and I'm twenty four
and I'm really trying to get into my media career,
media production and really trying to create content creation for latinos.
And so he was just more off of, you know,
wanting to create a family and within the next three
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years and get married. And then he said a comment
that rubbed me the wrong way where he was just like,
you know, if we were going to be exclusive, I
would need you to lower your expectations when it comes
to your career. And that's one thing I was like, well,
that's not going to happen. Literally, I will always put
myself first when it comes to creating my stuff and
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not letting, you know, being beneath somebody. And so my
question is, let's say, when it comes to looking into
a relationship, but you're a career driven person, how do
you how would you say you balance that out?
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Ooh, Jason, Well, first of all, I love updates. Thank
you for updating us. I'm sorry it didn't work out,
but like I just told loud I, it's probably blessing
in disguise. Look, yes, you're young, you're twenty four. I
think right now you're doing exactly what you need to do.
You are reaching for the stars as you should. You
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are trying to accomplish everything and pursuing this career, which
I think is good. This is exactly where you should be.
There will come a point in your life, though, maybe
in your thirties, where in a relationship, if you want
a relationship to work, you need to be willing to compromise.
And no, that does not mean that you need to
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dim your light for anyone, because a person that is
meant to be by your side will be okay. Even
if your light is brighter than theirs. There's nothing wrong
with that like, that person needs to be okay, and
their light will be brighter in other areas and they're
going to shine in their world and what they're doing
and in other ways that you won't. But it's very
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important to know that. Okay, there are certain things that
you need to compromise in. You know, for instance, I
have a husband now. I got married, and in my
past there was a person that I think what I
was doing upset them and they didn't like it, and
blah blah blah. You know, I actually talked about that
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in this episode divorce anyways, and now I'm in a
relationship where there's a person I was very upfront. I
think the best thing you could do is be very
straightforward from the beginning and express your expectations from the
very beginning, because that is what's going to help you
build your foundation. Okay, Hey, this is what I like,
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This is what I don't like? This, what do you like?
What do you It's not just one sided, it's both sides, obviously.
And this is my career and I don't feel like
I'm going to be changing my career anytime soon. Are
you going to be okay with that? Certain things happen
in this career, that person needs to be very confident,
very secure in who they are are you also have
to do your part and making sure that they feel secure.
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So it's like it's a two way straight you know
what I mean? And I think communication is key and
being very straightforward, very respectfully. In the beginning of my
relationship with Emilia, I was very harsh. It was very direct,
but sometimes harsh in the way I delivered my message.
I learned to communicate with him because we need to
learn to communicate with our partners in any relationship, friendship, business, love, relationship,
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et cetera. And I learned how to communicate with him.
So I think I was just very straightforward and I
was like, this is who I am and don't intend
in changing, but if there's something that bothers you, please
bring it to my attention because I love you and
I care enough to change certain things, to adjust, to modify.
And I did that because he's someone that's important to me,
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because I don't want to be a very successful woman
alone and a lot of that happens where it's like
there's a lot of career driven people, which is great,
but then they're alone, they're like, well, I'm alone because
I'm a dependent Yeah, but did you also do the
work in okay, allowing someone into your life, and that
means adjusting and moving and compromising. It's not just one
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one side, you know. So anyways, I feel like I
went all over the place with this freaking answer, But
hopefully that made sense and you will find your perfect fit.
And I think if you are the way you are
and you're very upfront and say, hey, this is what
I want, this is what I would like, but you
also have to be willing to make some changes. And
also because you want to be happy and you want
to be in love. It's beautiful. It's a beautiful thing
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to be in love. But right now you're doing what
you gotta do. You are twenty four, live your life,
enjoy date, be straight up with everyone day, one person
at a time. It's always better, okay to just be
unless you're gonna be honest and be like, look, I'm
boning a lot of people right now. Are you okay
with that? You know? But just be straight up? That's it.
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And I wish you all the very best in your
career and in your journey and keep us updated. Jason,
I love it. You're so I love your energy. I
love it. Wishing you all the best. Okay ta keo
mucho and okay so Crystal Me, Railey, Me, Railey, Laura
and Jason. Thank you guys so much for your questions.
Thank you for tuning in to Dear Cheeky's. All of
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