Welcome to a new episode of Dear Chiquis! Today, Stephanie’s future mother-in-law is upset because she’s not having a Catholic wedding; Maria wants to get in touch with her soul and needs tips to start meditating and Cassie is wondering what my mom would think about the rise of regional Mexican music around the world.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
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Remember these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're
(00:40):
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Speaker 2 (00:49):
Heye Cheeky's.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
So, me and my boyfriend of two and a half
years recently got engaged about a month ago, so of
course we started planning our wedding, what kind of ceremony, recept,
where we're going to have it, all that fun stuff,
and we decided that we did not want to get
married in the Catholic Church, even though me and him
(01:12):
grew up very into the Catholic Church, really received our
religious sacraments and stuff. And he was talking to his
mom the other day about like the venues that we've
already seen. She asked him if we were going to
get married in the Catholic Church and he told her no,
we were not going to get married in the Catholic Church.
(01:34):
And she said, well, if y'all don't get married in
the Catholic Church, I will not be attending your wedding.
And I feel like that is the ugliest thing you
can ever say. So I just need your advice, your
words of wisdom to help me figure out this situation.
I really need your help.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Oh, Stephanie, girl, girl, this is a tough one. This
is tough. Okay. You guys know that I was raised
in a Christian Church, so I know it's tough. You
have to respect your elders and what they believe, you know.
(02:17):
But and I know a lot of people might give
me some backlash and a little bit of hate, and
that's okay. These are my beliefs. You can take this
advice if you'd like, Stephanie, or you could just you know,
throw it away. I don't agree with your mother in law.
I think that is very selfish. I think that she
(02:38):
needs to respect you and respect her son's decisions, and
I know that that could be very difficult for a mother,
because again she sounds like a religious mom, a religious woman,
which is nothing wrong with that, but this is not
about her. This is about you, guys, and you guys
are old enough to make your own decisions and as parents.
(02:59):
Although I'm not a parent yet, but I have parented
my siblings. I've been like a second mother to them.
I have learned that I need to respect their decisions,
even if it's something that I didn't necessarily teach them.
They are their own person there. They are individuals, and
as much as it's gonna hurt me and they piss
me off, I love them so much that I'm going say, okay, cool.
(03:22):
I mean unless they murder someone or do something like
where I completely don't agree with, and I'm like, all right,
I'm taking your assagl you know myself. But with this,
this is tough because of course you want your mother
in law there. Of course he wants his mom there,
but that's her decision, and you guys are gonna have
to be okay with her not being there and you
not holding that resentment towards her. If she really is
(03:44):
not there the day of the wedding, that would really
suck for her. That would be really sad. But if
you guys don't want to have your wedding in a
Catholic church and you all want more of a spiritual setting,
that is your prerogative. That is your decision and everyone
should respect it. And and that's it. And see her
the next day and if or I don't know what's
(04:04):
going to happen after, but don't hold resentment, don't be
upset at her. Accept her decision. Like you guys, expect
her to respect your decision, if that makes sense. But
this is a tough one because that does suck, and
I don't agree with her, but maybe she'll come around.
I think maybe she'll choose she's just saying that to
scare you guys, and then she'll end up being there,
(04:26):
God willing. But I don't advise you guys to have
your wedding in a Catholic church just to please her,
because that's also not fair to you. So just be
okay with your decision and that's it, and just pray
that she's there, and don't hold resentment either one of you.
Just respect her decision. But I hope she goes, oh
my gosh, have your swether I call me or something.
(04:49):
I'll let her know what's up. Oh it makes me sad,
all right, wishing you the best, Stephanie. Okay, guys, so
our next question is from Maria.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Hi Jiki's I just want to start off by saying, Hi,
I am a huge fan of you, and I was
a huge fan of your mom. I am about ten
years younger than you are, but I look up to
you in so many ways. I think you're so inspirational,
You're so badassed, and it makes me so proud that
(05:20):
you are proud to be Mexican. I am one hundred
percent Mexican, not raised, but born in Mexico from Hale School.
And my question for you is I recently lost my
brother about a month ago, and this is my first
time experiencing grief, and I completely get it now you
have so many ups and downs. But now that I
(05:43):
am experiencing and I'm going through grief, I grew up Catholic.
You can say I'm religious, but I'm not spiritual. And
now I feel spiritual. I feel a connection with my brother,
and I want to meet and I want to, you know,
do all these kinds of different stuff. And my question
(06:05):
is how can I get into meditating? I want to
be more spiritual and be more in tune with my soul.
I'm in tune with my body, but I'm not in
tune with my soul.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Maria.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I really like your question, and thank you so much
for all those beautiful things that you said. I think
with that's that's great that you're religious and you're wanting
to tap into the spiritual side of it. It goes
hand in hand in reality. I as far as meditating,
I would suggest starting with guided meditation. That's how I started.
(06:42):
Someone just speaking to you and telling you exactly what
to do. And then if you're hearing someone or listening
to someone, it kind of just takes your mind away
from everything else. Also, remind yourself to be patient because
it's gonna take some time. Don't feel like, oh, the
first time you meditate, you got to do it for
ten minutes, Like no, start a little by li, you know,
a minute, two minutes, gradually like go you know, up
(07:04):
in the time. But I think for sure what meditation
is supposed to do is just supposed to really quiet
your mind and then just center you. And and in
that moment, I personally start with like I'm grateful, I'm grateful.
I keep just saying, not even out loud, it's in
my mind. I just say, like, I'm grateful. I'm grateful,
Like to me that there's the attitude of gratitude goes
(07:26):
a long way. So I just go and I say
that over and over. I repeat it until like I'm
in this like just peace. I don't even know how
to explain it. It's hard to explain what it is
that you're feeling. But you get so connected. And when
I meditate, I feel so calm throughout the day. It
just centers you. And it's very different from being religious,
(07:48):
because when you're religious, you go to church, which is great.
You know, you sing alabanzas, so you worship and you're
you're reading the Bible and all that's great, and then
meditation just helps you just I feel like just anything
that comes your wake like it doesn't affect you as much.
And that's what meditation does for me. It's like I'm
(08:10):
giving this moment of silence to myself, a gift of
just quieting down my mind and the world, and I
give it to like the universe and to God, and
it just it's still very spiritual and it's very connected.
But yes, try guided meditation and that'll help you. And
then little by little just listen to like music and
then remove the music and then it's just you. You know,
(08:31):
take baby steps. There's no reason to run. Walk and
be patient. Be patient because it is going to be
a little hard. Don't give up on it right away.
It's gonna take a little bit. You know, practice makes perfect.
I hope that helped Maria, and I hope that meditation
saves your life the way it saved my life, because
it really did. Okay, so next question comes from Cassie
(08:56):
Hi Cheeky's.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I started watching your families reality show called I Love Jenny,
and it was at the episode where your mom talked
about performing at the Latin Grammys and talking about how
Mexican regional music isn't as popular as other genres during
that time. How would your mom feel about Latin music
(09:18):
in general becoming so popular around the world, but also
having Mexican regional music blowing up currently as it is. Thanks,
and I just want to say I'm a big fan
and I love you and many blessings to you.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Ooh, Cassie, thank you so much. Many blessings to you too.
It's a little difficult to answer that question because obviously
I can't really speak for my mom, but knowing what
I know about her and being in the genre, I
think she'd be very proud to see that our music,
(09:57):
you know, is reaching different heights and different and you know,
it's international.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
Now.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
I think that's awesome. That makes me very proud, and
I'm sure it would make her very, very very proud.
I do understand her now more than ever, that there
are certain places and certain television networks that don't respect
our music as much. I mean as like regional music.
I do see it. She would tell me that a lot,
and there were certain award shows that she didn't like
going to because she's like, they just put us to
(10:24):
the side and they treat us differently. I have experienced it.
I have seen it, and it sucks. But I think
the world finally understood how important our music is. And
maybe it doesn't chart as much as other genres, but
we definitely have loyal fans and people that spend money
(10:45):
and actually go to the shows. Like That's where I'm like, Okay,
now i think they're starting to get it and really
respect regional Mexican music or most kama hikana the way
it deserves now with the whole wave, with you know,
the music changing, which I think is great. I think
music is, you know, a universal language. It's a language
(11:07):
of its own, and I think it's beautiful. I just
don't want the traditional music that's timeless to like get
lost in the sauce, you know, And that's just you know,
we're gonna have to see what happens. But I do,
for one, I feel very very proud of that, and
I think my mom would too. I think she'd agree
(11:28):
with me personally, but I can't really say. I think
she'd be kind of like, Okay, well, I'm still going
to stick to what I do, because that's it's not
a trend. You know. We're not into trends. We're more
into like long term sort of thing. And I'm just
gonna leave it at that. That's what I'm gona leave
it at, because it's a whole all of the conversation
(11:49):
that we have to have, Cassie. But now that you're asking,
I think that's what my mom would say. I think,
I mean, the world we may never know. What would
Jenny do? I asked myself that all the time. Actually,
what would Johnny do? Just got to stick to our
guns and stay focused on our lane. Stay in our lane.
You know I have a lot to say, but I'm
(12:12):
just gonna stay quiet. Cassie, thank you so much for
your question, girl, sending you a big hug. Thank you
guys so much for your questions, and for you guys
out there that want me to answer any questions that
you may have in regards to love finances. Just maybe
you want to ask a question about my personal life.
(12:32):
It could be about anything. You can leave your question
at speakpipe dot com, Slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast. Okay, guys,
les much and I will see you guys on the
next episode of Dear Cheeky's besitos at those. This is
a production of iHeartRadio and Mike Wura podcast Network. Follow
us on Instagram at Mike Wura Podcasts and follow me
(12:55):
Cheeky's That's c h i q u y s. For
more podcasts iHeart visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or
wherever you get your favorite shows.
Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
What are the cases I want to hear from you?
Remember these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're
(00:40):
suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help
from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and
leave your question at the sound of the beeB.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Heye Cheeky's.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
So, me and my boyfriend of two and a half
years recently got engaged about a month ago, so of
course we started planning our wedding, what kind of ceremony, recept,
where we're going to have it, all that fun stuff,
and we decided that we did not want to get
married in the Catholic Church, even though me and him
(01:12):
grew up very into the Catholic Church, really received our
religious sacraments and stuff. And he was talking to his
mom the other day about like the venues that we've
already seen. She asked him if we were going to
get married in the Catholic Church and he told her no,
we were not going to get married in the Catholic Church.
(01:34):
And she said, well, if y'all don't get married in
the Catholic Church, I will not be attending your wedding.
And I feel like that is the ugliest thing you
can ever say. So I just need your advice, your
words of wisdom to help me figure out this situation.
I really need your help.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Oh, Stephanie, girl, girl, this is a tough one. This
is tough. Okay. You guys know that I was raised
in a Christian Church, so I know it's tough. You
have to respect your elders and what they believe, you know.
(02:17):
But and I know a lot of people might give
me some backlash and a little bit of hate, and
that's okay. These are my beliefs. You can take this
advice if you'd like, Stephanie, or you could just you know,
throw it away. I don't agree with your mother in law.
I think that is very selfish. I think that she
(02:38):
needs to respect you and respect her son's decisions, and
I know that that could be very difficult for a mother,
because again she sounds like a religious mom, a religious woman,
which is nothing wrong with that, but this is not
about her. This is about you, guys, and you guys
are old enough to make your own decisions and as parents.
(02:59):
Although I'm not a parent yet, but I have parented
my siblings. I've been like a second mother to them.
I have learned that I need to respect their decisions,
even if it's something that I didn't necessarily teach them.
They are their own person there. They are individuals, and
as much as it's gonna hurt me and they piss
me off, I love them so much that I'm going say, okay, cool.
(03:22):
I mean unless they murder someone or do something like
where I completely don't agree with, and I'm like, all right,
I'm taking your assagl you know myself. But with this,
this is tough because of course you want your mother
in law there. Of course he wants his mom there,
but that's her decision, and you guys are gonna have
to be okay with her not being there and you
not holding that resentment towards her. If she really is
(03:44):
not there the day of the wedding, that would really
suck for her. That would be really sad. But if
you guys don't want to have your wedding in a
Catholic church and you all want more of a spiritual setting,
that is your prerogative. That is your decision and everyone
should respect it. And and that's it. And see her
the next day and if or I don't know what's
(04:04):
going to happen after, but don't hold resentment, don't be
upset at her. Accept her decision. Like you guys, expect
her to respect your decision, if that makes sense. But
this is a tough one because that does suck, and
I don't agree with her, but maybe she'll come around.
I think maybe she'll choose she's just saying that to
scare you guys, and then she'll end up being there,
(04:26):
God willing. But I don't advise you guys to have
your wedding in a Catholic church just to please her,
because that's also not fair to you. So just be
okay with your decision and that's it, and just pray
that she's there, and don't hold resentment either one of you.
Just respect her decision. But I hope she goes, oh
my gosh, have your swether I call me or something.
(04:49):
I'll let her know what's up. Oh it makes me sad,
all right, wishing you the best, Stephanie. Okay, guys, so
our next question is from Maria.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Hi Jiki's I just want to start off by saying, Hi,
I am a huge fan of you, and I was
a huge fan of your mom. I am about ten
years younger than you are, but I look up to
you in so many ways. I think you're so inspirational,
You're so badassed, and it makes me so proud that
(05:20):
you are proud to be Mexican. I am one hundred
percent Mexican, not raised, but born in Mexico from Hale School.
And my question for you is I recently lost my
brother about a month ago, and this is my first
time experiencing grief, and I completely get it now you
have so many ups and downs. But now that I
(05:43):
am experiencing and I'm going through grief, I grew up Catholic.
You can say I'm religious, but I'm not spiritual. And
now I feel spiritual. I feel a connection with my brother,
and I want to meet and I want to, you know,
do all these kinds of different stuff. And my question
(06:05):
is how can I get into meditating? I want to
be more spiritual and be more in tune with my soul.
I'm in tune with my body, but I'm not in
tune with my soul.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Maria.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I really like your question, and thank you so much
for all those beautiful things that you said. I think
with that's that's great that you're religious and you're wanting
to tap into the spiritual side of it. It goes
hand in hand in reality. I as far as meditating,
I would suggest starting with guided meditation. That's how I started.
(06:42):
Someone just speaking to you and telling you exactly what
to do. And then if you're hearing someone or listening
to someone, it kind of just takes your mind away
from everything else. Also, remind yourself to be patient because
it's gonna take some time. Don't feel like, oh, the
first time you meditate, you got to do it for
ten minutes, Like no, start a little by li, you know,
a minute, two minutes, gradually like go you know, up
(07:04):
in the time. But I think for sure what meditation
is supposed to do is just supposed to really quiet
your mind and then just center you. And and in
that moment, I personally start with like I'm grateful, I'm grateful.
I keep just saying, not even out loud, it's in
my mind. I just say, like, I'm grateful. I'm grateful,
Like to me that there's the attitude of gratitude goes
(07:26):
a long way. So I just go and I say
that over and over. I repeat it until like I'm
in this like just peace. I don't even know how
to explain it. It's hard to explain what it is
that you're feeling. But you get so connected. And when
I meditate, I feel so calm throughout the day. It
just centers you. And it's very different from being religious,
(07:48):
because when you're religious, you go to church, which is great.
You know, you sing alabanzas, so you worship and you're
you're reading the Bible and all that's great, and then
meditation just helps you just I feel like just anything
that comes your wake like it doesn't affect you as much.
And that's what meditation does for me. It's like I'm
(08:10):
giving this moment of silence to myself, a gift of
just quieting down my mind and the world, and I
give it to like the universe and to God, and
it just it's still very spiritual and it's very connected.
But yes, try guided meditation and that'll help you. And
then little by little just listen to like music and
then remove the music and then it's just you. You know,
(08:31):
take baby steps. There's no reason to run. Walk and
be patient. Be patient because it is going to be
a little hard. Don't give up on it right away.
It's gonna take a little bit. You know, practice makes perfect.
I hope that helped Maria, and I hope that meditation
saves your life the way it saved my life, because
it really did. Okay, so next question comes from Cassie
(08:56):
Hi Cheeky's.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I started watching your families reality show called I Love Jenny,
and it was at the episode where your mom talked
about performing at the Latin Grammys and talking about how
Mexican regional music isn't as popular as other genres during
that time. How would your mom feel about Latin music
(09:18):
in general becoming so popular around the world, but also
having Mexican regional music blowing up currently as it is. Thanks,
and I just want to say I'm a big fan
and I love you and many blessings to you.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Ooh, Cassie, thank you so much. Many blessings to you too.
It's a little difficult to answer that question because obviously
I can't really speak for my mom, but knowing what
I know about her and being in the genre, I
think she'd be very proud to see that our music,
(09:57):
you know, is reaching different heights and different and you know,
it's international.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
Now.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
I think that's awesome. That makes me very proud, and
I'm sure it would make her very, very very proud.
I do understand her now more than ever, that there
are certain places and certain television networks that don't respect
our music as much. I mean as like regional music.
I do see it. She would tell me that a lot,
and there were certain award shows that she didn't like
going to because she's like, they just put us to
(10:24):
the side and they treat us differently. I have experienced it.
I have seen it, and it sucks. But I think
the world finally understood how important our music is. And
maybe it doesn't chart as much as other genres, but
we definitely have loyal fans and people that spend money
(10:45):
and actually go to the shows. Like That's where I'm like, Okay,
now i think they're starting to get it and really
respect regional Mexican music or most kama hikana the way
it deserves now with the whole wave, with you know,
the music changing, which I think is great. I think
music is, you know, a universal language. It's a language
(11:07):
of its own, and I think it's beautiful. I just
don't want the traditional music that's timeless to like get
lost in the sauce, you know, And that's just you know,
we're gonna have to see what happens. But I do,
for one, I feel very very proud of that, and
I think my mom would too. I think she'd agree
(11:28):
with me personally, but I can't really say. I think
she'd be kind of like, Okay, well, I'm still going
to stick to what I do, because that's it's not
a trend. You know. We're not into trends. We're more
into like long term sort of thing. And I'm just
gonna leave it at that. That's what I'm gona leave
it at, because it's a whole all of the conversation
(11:49):
that we have to have, Cassie. But now that you're asking,
I think that's what my mom would say. I think,
I mean, the world we may never know. What would
Jenny do? I asked myself that all the time. Actually,
what would Johnny do? Just got to stick to our
guns and stay focused on our lane. Stay in our lane.
You know I have a lot to say, but I'm
(12:12):
just gonna stay quiet. Cassie, thank you so much for
your question, girl, sending you a big hug. Thank you
guys so much for your questions, and for you guys
out there that want me to answer any questions that
you may have in regards to love finances. Just maybe
you want to ask a question about my personal life.
(12:32):
It could be about anything. You can leave your question
at speakpipe dot com, Slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast. Okay, guys,
les much and I will see you guys on the
next episode of Dear Cheeky's besitos at those. This is
a production of iHeartRadio and Mike Wura podcast Network. Follow
us on Instagram at Mike Wura Podcasts and follow me
(12:55):
Cheeky's That's c h i q u y s. For
more podcasts iHeart visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or
wherever you get your favorite shows.
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