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March 12, 2025 16 mins

I got a nice variety of questions for this episode of Dear Chiquis. This week, an anonymous listener asks for my advice on whether she should sign up for OnlyFans to make some extra money – despite the risk; another anonymous listener is trying to come up with the best way to tell her parents she's pregnant; a third anonymous listener is debating whether she should meet up with an abusive ex-boyfriend for closure; and lastly, Rosie is stuck in a tricky situation with her sisters-in-law.

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Speaker 1 (00:18):
Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached
my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here
to give you advice on anything and everything you need
help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having
issues with your family, or maybe you have a question
about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want
to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in

(00:39):
my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue
or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.
All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at
the sound of the.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
beeB, Hi Cheeky's, I would really love your opinion on something.
So I recently came up with the idea of creating
and only fans but completely anonymous, and I would want
it to be completely anonymous because I am currently working
on my doctor program and I know that there could
be risk if I am on a platform like that.

(01:12):
And I also just became a mom year ago, and
after having my baby, I felt super self conscious and
I feel like creating my only Fans page can definitely
help me be more confident, but I don't know if
it's worth the risk I've thought about it a lot,
and I really really want to do it. My husband

(01:34):
is super supportive about it. I am thinking if I
can just do it for a little bit and then
stop if I think that it's not a good choice
for me. I am also in a lot of student
debts and we're one household income, so that extra cash
would definitely help. But I know that it could still

(01:56):
be risky, So I just wanted to know your opinion.
You're definitely in the public eye. I wanted to see
your perspective. Should it be something that I just try
out or should I just wait until I'm done with
my program and think of a different way to embrace
my artistic side.

Speaker 1 (02:16):
Hello, my beautiful anonymous listener. I love your voice. You
have a very pretty voice, by the way. Okay, look,
that was going to be my first question. Do you
have a partner? Are you married? Are they going to
be okay with it? If you have the green light
from your husband and you are in debt and you
want to try this out, why the heck not crazy enough?

(02:37):
I had brought this up to my husband. He's not
okay with it. But I know people that have made
a lot of money on OnlyFans, and I support it.
I'm like, dude, more power do you, especially if you're
not hiding it from you know, your husband, and he's
totally fine with it. I understand that you're in this program,

(02:59):
but you know what, like what you do in your
personal life is your business, mind you. I don't think
you should put it out there or whatever. But I've
always had this idea of having in OnlyFans, although I wouldn't,
but I'm saying when I thought about it, of like
doing like a mask type of thing. I have tattoos,
so I would cover up my tattoos. I've thought about it.

(03:20):
I've even thought about, like, oh, what if I'm like
a stripper? This is before right, but people know me.
So I was like, I would have to like definitely
cover up my tattoos, and I would like to wear
like a mask and change my name. It's like a
whole other persona. You know, like I have Cheeky's and
I have Janee. You know that you can have you,
and then you can have I don't know, we'll name
her diamond Girl or something, and you just put on

(03:43):
a mask and you do your thing and no one
ever has to know what you look like, and yeah,
I think it'll be fun. And if it doesn't work
out then okay, at least you tried it. And if
it works out, then a freaking amazing for you and
your husband. You know, it might make him really excited
and you know, and your relationship, your marriage will benefit

(04:03):
from it. So I definitely say go for it again.
No one needs to know. It's your own little personal thing.
It's that other persona that you have and do it, girl. Yes,
your child doesn't even have to know in the future.
No one needs to know. This is your own little thing.
You and your husband. Let me know what you decide. Okay,

(04:24):
and good luck because there is a lot of money
to be made there for sure, and you don't even
have to have sex with anyone. You just got to
be sexy. Oh my gosh, girl, do it? Okay, guys,
So we're gonna move on to the next question, also
from an anonymous listener. Let's see, Hi.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
Cheekys, I really really really love your podcast. I listen
to it like every time a new episode comes out.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
I just love it.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
So I'm coming to you now because it's something really
important and I really need your help on. So me
and my boyfriend been almost together for a year, and
a couple of days ago we found out we're pregnant.
I don't know how many weeks I am. I just
took a test and now I have to figure out

(05:13):
how I'm gonna tell my parents. Yes, I'm old enough,
I'm about to be twenty seven in a couple of weeks,
and I'm just scared of how I'm ia tell my
parents because years ago, my sister, my older sister, she
was a team mom and she told my parents. I
guess from that moment it traumatized me because of the
reaction and how my sister left the house and she

(05:37):
was my biggest role model. Now that I'm pregnant, I
guess it's the trauma that scares me of telling my parents.
And is there any advice she can give me. I
really do appreciate it.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
I get it. I understand. I remember when my sister
Jackie had to tell my mom. She was really scared.
My sister was like, what nineteen twenty anyways, So just
brought it took me back to that moment. You know,
they might be disappointed, they might not talk to you
for a little bit, but you know what, this is

(06:14):
your life, and once they see the baby, they're going
to fall in love. And how are they not going
to love your baby? You know. I saw how my
mother loved my niece, and you know, it's just the
joy of her life, you know. So I understand that
you're scared, and just do it with fear. And I

(06:36):
always say this because this always helps me when I'm
like I don't have the courage to say things like
confront something or confrontation a letter, you know, hey, and
so that they have time to digest it and it's
not as scary maybe writing them a letter and letting
them know, but also understanding that they might be upset
or disappointed or whatnot, you know, but it's okay. That's

(06:57):
their opinion, and they're probably very traditional. One thing I
hope that they don't do, because I feel like this
ruins relationships is when the parents force their children to
get married. That should be your choice and your partner's choice,
you know. But anyways, that's just a little side note.
But do it with fear. I understand that the trauma
is there. Maybe because your sister already went through it,

(07:19):
maybe they'll like ease up a little bit. But a
baby's a blessing. A baby's a blessing, and they will
love the baby with time, so I'm hoping that they
take it well. And yeah, God bless your baby and
your relationship for sure. Okay, guys, next question comes from

(07:45):
another anonymous listener. All right, let's see.

Speaker 4 (07:48):
Hi, cheekies.

Speaker 5 (07:49):
I wanted to go ahead and keep my name anonymously,
but I just wanted to start off by saying that
I love you, and I love your podcast, your words,
and your advice. So I was wondering if you can
give me some advice. I'm currently going through a little situation.
I got out of a year and a half relationship

(08:10):
with somebody due to domestic violence. He did something that
was very unforgivable. Although he has been contacting me since
the breakup about four or five times, wanting to meet up,
wanting to talk, wanting to apologize for what he did,
I just am confused. I don't know if I should

(08:33):
I don't know if I shouldn't because I'm a very
forgiving person and I don't want to continue to carry
this pain and this resentment and this anger of that
night in my heart and my soul. It's very heavy
for me. So in a way. I want to meet
up with him and hear him out.

Speaker 1 (08:53):
I don't want to go back. I don't plan to.

Speaker 5 (08:56):
I don't want to. I'm very firm on that decision,
although I do want to kind of meet up just
so I could heal for my own healing journey, for
my own peace of mind. And yeah, that's the reason

(09:17):
why I wouldn't want to. But then again, I feel
that he doesn't deserve it, so I stuck between the two.
So if you can go ahead and help me, I
me know what you think, what you would do if
you were in my shoes.

Speaker 1 (09:30):
If I were in your shoes, I would meet it
up with him. Why because I don't know how long
it's been, but I would let a little bit of
time go by. I think also for his healing. I
think being able to apologize face to face will help him.
But it will definitely help you give you closure, especially

(09:54):
if you're telling me that you definitely don't want to
go back. I would tell you if there was a chance,
or you still loved him, or you felt like, oh,
I might go back with him, because I don't know
what he did, but you said it's unforgivable. I think
it's okay, and it's safe for you to meet up
with him in a somewhat public place, give him the time,

(10:15):
especially if this is someone that you loved, just to
close that chapter in your life, to just give your
heart closure, to give him closure, whether he deserves it
or not, you know, but it's also through your healing journey,
you're helping him heal and that's going to just help
you in your future. I'm that type of person, like
I'm like, okay, I'll hear you out, and because then

(10:36):
you're going to live with a what if I would
have given him the opportunity, And I don't like to
live with doubt, at least not me. So I think
it's okay again semi public place where there it's not
too crowded, but it's still a public place where you
can have this conversation where he can apologize and make
it very clear like hey, I forgive you. What you

(10:56):
did is not okay. You need to get help or
whatever the case may be. He gets to say what
he has to say, and so do you. And you
just walk away and you're just like, Okay, that chapter
that book in my life boom closed. I think it
will definitely help you for sure, because I can still
hear in your voice that it hurts you, and I'm
sure he did something really, really horrible, but it seems

(11:19):
like you're open to it. So I'm gonna go ahead
and tell you it's okay, giving you the green light.
Just be safe and make sure it's during the day.
That's all I'm gonna say. Okay, all right, last question,
guys comes from Rosie. Hello cheekies.

Speaker 4 (11:39):
As the it's so is the thing no mass can
lesson respeto for disposal? That was amazing movie being difici

(12:05):
as a familia. It was it was I could.

Speaker 1 (12:15):
I've tried to avoid going.

Speaker 4 (12:17):
To like picnics and and get together managed okaras and
not missing directamente pas is like crazy, and so is
the thank you.

Speaker 1 (12:38):
Okay. So Rosie is saying that she is married and
she doesn't necessarily get along very well with her sisters
in law. Sounds like there's a few a couple and
you know, her husband's very close to his family, so
she does her best to go to family gatherings, but they,

(12:58):
you know, give a little face, and she feels very uncomfortable,
and she just kind of wants to know what to do,
like what I suggest, you know, so, I just wanted
to like translate real quick. But Rosie ab it, I
don't know if your husband has had the conversation with
his sisters, but I think that is important to give

(13:20):
you your place as his woman, for him to do
his part and you as a partner to do your part, absolutely,
because I feel like if he's very close to his family,
then you need to also cater to that and love
his family even if they don't love you back. But

(13:41):
if they're just giving you like faces and stuff like that,
like I feel like you could be like, you know,
I'm just going to ignore it. I'm just going to
look the other way. I'm here for my husband, because
if you allow them to push you out, then that's
going to be on you, you know. So, But if
there's a day that you're like, you know what, I
don't feel like going no kioesta, no sino malakara. You

(14:03):
know you're you're you're not going to be happy, and
then it's just going to be an issue all over.
But I think if you can kind of put that
to the side, if they're not necessarily like being rude
to you or belitting you, or like saying things to you.
Then I think les Gadas and all that stuff, like
the little faces that they make to you, like it's
just kind of like, you know what, that's childish, that's
on them. I'm going to be my best self. I'm

(14:25):
going to be the bigger person for my husband. And
then with time, he'll realize that the issue is not you,
it's a sisters, and hopefully he steps up and defends
you and it's like, hey, you guys got to get
your shit together, like this is my girl, this is
the woman I love. Because that's tricky, you know, because
you don't want to be that woman that separates your
man from his family than vocal. You don't want to

(14:47):
do that. So my suggestion is hopefully having a conversation
with him and he has to fix that, or also
saying hey to the sisters, you guys, like we're going
to be family. I'm his wife and I want to
be with you guys, like let's just figure out, like
let's be happy, you know, like let's find a way
because if you if you don't go to the family
gatherings and stuff like that, like you're letting them win,

(15:09):
you know what I mean. So it's kind of like
just knowing like they're being immature. I'm not gonna soup
down to their level. You get me. I know it's
tough because just I'm not gonna say much, but I
feel you. I feel you on that one. So hopefully
it works out. Talk to him. Hopefully he defends you
better when no. All right, guys, So that finalizes this

(15:32):
episode of Dear Cheeky's. Thank you guys so much for
your questions. I hope that I was of some type
of help, God willing, wishing you all the best. And
if you have a question for me, it could be
about anything you guys already know, even about my personal life.
If you want to know some some I got you,
go ahead and leave your question at speakpipe dot com,

(15:52):
slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast. Okay, I catch you on
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