Dear Chiquis: What Would Jenni Think of the Rivera Family Drama?

Hello and welcome to a brand new episode of Dear Chiquis. This week, Petra wants to know what I think my mom Jenni would make of all the legal problems and drama going on with my family; Paty wonders if my husband Emilio speaks Spanish; and Juan wants advice on how to deal with a codependent friend.

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Speaker 1 (00:19):
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Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hi, Teekis, I'm a big fan of your music and
I've been a huge fan of you, your mom, and
your whole family. When someone says something negative about your family,
I get very defensive and want to protect you guys. Anyways,
my question is I wanted to know, since you know
your mom the best, what do you think your mom

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would think of of everything that's going on with you
and your family right now? Would she be surprised by
the actions of some of your family members. Would she
not just wanted to get your input? Love you by
good question?

Speaker 1 (01:25):
You guys always get me. You guys always give me. Okay,
I've thought about this a lot, actually, because there are
a lot of things happening in my family, things that
make me sad because I don't hate my family. I
don't think I hate anybody, to be honest, I don't

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even like the word hate. But I am upset. I
am disappointed with certain things or how things have played out.
And we have been in this situation lawsuit for a while,
and I don't know. I don't know what my mom
would think. I think she definitely would be also disappointed

(02:09):
in some of her family members and certain things that
they've said publicly. Maybe she'd be disappointed in me too,
to be honest, But knowing my mother, all I'm doing
is defending my siblings. That's all I've ever wanted to
do is defend my siblings, show them my support, show
them that they're not alone. It's my first instinct is

(02:30):
to defend them because that's why my mom taught me, like,
you need to keep your siblings united. So it's been
difficult because it makes me sad because I wish this
wasn't happening. But I know that all we're doing is
defending what is ours. At the end of the day,
whether I'm a part of the will or not, it's
still ours, it's still our mother, it's still our mother's legacy.

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So all we're doing is just defending that, and if
people react in a certain way, then that's on them.
So I don't know. Honestly, I don't know. I don't
know what she would think. I think it would make
her sad. I don't think that she would want things
to get as I don't even know if I guess,
as ugly as they are right now. But she also

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would be proud of her kids for defending what she
worked hard for. And that's all we know. And we're
not trying to take away anything that is not ours.
So I don't know. Petra, help me pray because I've
been asking her to come into my dreams and talk
to me, and she hasn't. She's busy, So help me
pray that she comes and tells us something. But I
don't know. I have peace in my heart that I

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will tell you. I have peace in my heart. It
just makes me sad. I always check my heart and
be like, Okay, is this ego?

Speaker 2 (03:41):
Is this?

Speaker 1 (03:41):
Are these emotions like like what am I feeling and why?
So yeah, thank you for your question. All right, guys,
we're gonna move on to the next question, and that
comes from Patty. Patty's asking us a question. Let's see, hi, Cheeky's.

Speaker 3 (03:59):
I have a question, and uh, does does Emilia speak
Spanish l'espaniol because I've never heard him speak Spanish and
I was just wondering does he know Spanish? And also
I feel Johnny swing sue spanolchimo, and I just want

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to say, I admire you, You're the best. I wish
you nothing but the best to you, your marriage, your
whole family. I love you, and I love all your
family and and your mom. I was a big fan.
I love Jenny and all you do, and I love
your chiky sin Phil throws. I wish you the.

Speaker 1 (04:41):
Best, Oh Patty, thank you big heart, and kiss to you.
Thank you so much for those beautiful words. Yes, Emilio
does speak Spanish. He understands it very well. He actually
writes it pretty good. He's getting better after we did
like in Mexico. We were just when we were in Mexico,
so there was it was nothing but Spanish, so he

(05:02):
was kind of forced to speak Spanish a little more.
I think he just gets shy, but I mean he
speaks to a lot of his family members in Spanish.
I think it's just like like I said, he's just
a little shy. He's getting better at it at not
being shy, I mean, and going to Mexico so frequently
for like three months. It definitely helped. And yes, I agree,

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Johnny's Spanish has gotten so much better. And one thing
I told him, I was like, when if you want
to learn more Spanish, you got to listen to more
Spanish radio, like, watch more Spanish television, read in Spanish.
That's what helped me. So he's, you know, he wants
to pursue his singing career. So I told him, I was, Okay,
if you're going to sing in Spanish, you gotta like
Dennis Cuella fendrelio ma. You know. So thank you. I

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will definitely let Johnny know that you said that. And yes,
a lot of people wonder that about a medio, but
he definitely he understands it very well. Thank you for
your question, Patty. All right, guys, next question comes from Juan.

Speaker 4 (06:03):
Let's see Hi Cheeky, love the show, love your podcast
and everything. I hope you're doing well. I just needed
some advice. My best friend of twelve almost thirteen years,
she kind of depends on me a lot, which I
understand because we have been friends for so long and

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it's always been me and her, But it seems like
she can't move on in her life if I'm not there,
like every day or constantly, if that makes sense. So
I have a boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend have been
together for almost nine months. Love him, he's the best.

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We listen to your show together. But there's some there's
some kind of jealousy that she has, like she She's
told me that she feels like I prioritize him more
than I prioritize her, which is I mean obvious, that's
not me. But I just wanted to see if you
have any advice on how I can deal with that

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or like talk to her about it.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
Thank you so much, oh Juan, thank you, thank you
for watching, for listening, and tell your man I said, Hi,
I'm glad that he's supporting the things that you like. Okay,
So in regards to your friend, there's a lot of
codependency going on there. I know because I've been there.
I had a very unhealthy friendship on both ends. We

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were very co dependent on each other and she would
get jealous if I was dating someone and the whole thing,
and when she started dating someone, she just like, anyways,
it's a whole thing. We're good now, So I get it.
It's not healthy. Though it's not healthy. I'm not saying
you have to like stop being friends with her, but
I do think that a friend that has healthy emotions

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is going to be happy for you, especially if this
guy is a good guy and you say he's wonderful.
Have you brought them together, do you guys hang out together?
But she should be happy for you, and you definitely
have to have this conversation say hey, I love you,
I want the best for you. I need your full
support in this relationship because you should prioritize your relationship.

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If this person is good for you, is making you happy,
there's nothing wrong with you prioritizing your relationship, right, you should.
But also don't forget about your friend because a lot
of people do that as well. They get into relationships
and they forget about their families and their friends and
blah blah blah, And then you need to have a
balance so make sure you have a healthy balance where
you obviously hang out with your man, you know, he

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should be on the top of your priority, but also
people like your friend that have been there for you
for a long time. So make sure you're finding that
balance because it's going to be good for you, it's
going to be good for the relationship in the long run.
I don't know if like, she also has to understand though,
you know, you are not as available as you were before,
and she has to adjust with you. And if she's
not able to adjust with you, then what's going to
happen is you're going to eventually not want to hang

(09:00):
out with her, which is I feel like, what's happening?
So I think, yeah, I think you should definitely talk
to her and tell her, hey, I'm feeling this type
of way. I feel a little I don't know what
the word is suppressed in some way, and I don't
want to feel that way. So let's let's figure this out.
You know, but being co dependent is not good. It

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just it's not it's not good. It's not healthy. I
was co dependent, someone was codependent on me, and it
was It just causes a lot of issues. So you
have that's something you guys have to fix, like in
the friendship. And if that's not fixed, and I don't
know if the friendship will last. So have that conversation
with her and pray that she finds a man or

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a girlfriend or whoever a partner you know as well,
so that she can also understand where you are in
your life. But keep me updated. I want to know
what's going on, Huan, because yes, I must be hard
for you, but if you are happy with this person,
then you need to take care of that.

Speaker 2 (10:09):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (10:10):
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