July 4, 2024 • 40 mins
This week we are going on a ride… a scooter ride, of course. We meet our main dater, loveable Sonia, who runs with a pack of free-wheelin’ lesbians every Sunday, taking over the streets on their scooters and calling themselves the lesbian little rascals. She has that “old school spirit” – opening doors, paying for dates – that Abuelita Liliana can appreciate, and she considers herself a gentlewoman. Sonia is defying lesbian stereotypes – she wants to take things slow (no U-hauls here!) and is honing her ability to notice red flags as they pop up. We meet three contestants, a heartthrob jewelry maker, a Long Beach Baby who likes to be wined and dined, and a well traveled physician looking for companionship. The contestants play a game of “Ride or Die” and “Chivalry isn’t Dead” in honor of our gentlewoman main dater. Will Abuelita Liliana find someone who can go slow with Sonia?
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Well, yeah, Wlita.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Have you ever heard of a motto honey, or a
motto mummy or a moto puppy?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
You know, like, have you ever been a thrill chaser?
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Totally?
Speaker 4 (00:17):
It started when I was three years old with my daddy.
Oh my god, you would take me in the front
of his motorcycle.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
I was so thrilled.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
Of course, Then when men came around, yeah, I would
a little leather hear, a little spanky there, I mean
on the chair, and oh, if.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
You can picture it, I'm good.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I feel like I want to say, unfortunately I can
picture it.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
But but have you been a biker boy.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
No, I'm more of a scooter sized guy, a little cutie,
a little noodle cutie, more scooter, you know, razor scooter.
I was like my left leg in there and just
like zoom through the neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
But that's where I stayed.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
After that, I didn't graduate to a much more thrill
seeking adventure. I scream a little bit when I'm gon vespa, but.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
That's still exciting on two wheels.
Speaker 5 (01:02):
You know.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I actually love vespas. Yeah, they're they're.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Great welcome listeners. This is date my a Wilita.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
First, I am your host the Vico or Thiefs, joined
by the multi talented A Wilita Liliana Monte. She's gonna
sort through three lovelorn contestants before sending one of them
off on a one on one date with our star dater.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Oh I'm so excited. Let's meet our main dater this week.
What do you think? I think she will be my favorite?
Are you always say that, Liliana? It sounds good because
they are all perfect.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
That's right, that's me.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Who am I helping with love today?
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Our main dater this week is Sonia. Sonia is truly
young at heart, she says. All the younger lesbians hit
on her at the bars. Sonia lives in Long Beach
and loves riding her bike and even meets up with
a group of lesbians who ride on Sundays and call
themselves the Lesbian Little Rascals.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Oh wow, wow, I want to meet these little rascals.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Sonia is looking for her forever and is trying to
really take her time to acknowledge red flags. Oh, that
is a tough one to go through.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
There's always a few of them out there always.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
She is looking for emotionally mature women and sees meditation,
spirituality in being able to communicate when something is not
going well as an indicator of emotional maturity.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Hells, yes, we love to hear that she is.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Old school and the way that she will pay for
the date will open the door.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
And considers herself a gentle woman.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Sonia's love language is quality time and for someone to
woo Sonia, they should notice the little things.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Absolutely, pay attention out there.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
All right, So what do you say?
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Should we find Sonya someone who can pay attention to
the details and go on a ride with her.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Absolutely, let's do it.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
So yes, welcome Sonya, come on, hello, Hello, Hi? Are
you doing so good to see you? We're so excited
to get to know you.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Now.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
You said you're looking for your forever.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Right, I am and really trying to make time to
acknowledge red flags.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
What does that look like for you?
Speaker 6 (03:19):
You know what? I'm just gonna be honest.
Speaker 7 (03:20):
I no longer like try and be intimate with anyone
immediately because that can blind me.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
To to yes, little blinder song, they come on immediately.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
I've never been married. I would like to be married.
Speaker 7 (03:34):
So I'm really taking my time in building a friendship
and finding someone who's compatible with me and emotionally mature.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Mm mmmmm mmm mmm what you're going to know now?
Speaker 4 (03:44):
You said you're looking for an emotionally mature woman, So
please tell me what are the characteristics for you that
make up an emotionally mature woman.
Speaker 7 (03:54):
You know one of my favorite sayings that I'm a
lady of many sayings, is a relationship success isn't determined
on how well you get along. I actually get along
well with a lot of people. It's how well you disagree,
and that, for me, is an indicator if we can
go the next step. Once you have that disagreement, how
(04:15):
do you process what you're feeling?
Speaker 6 (04:17):
Do you emotionally shut down?
Speaker 7 (04:19):
Which you know some people need their time to process
what they're going through.
Speaker 6 (04:22):
But explain that to me.
Speaker 7 (04:24):
You know, I need some time to think and then
I can come back to you and conversate. But to
shut down and then never discuss it again, which I
find so many women do. They talk, and then no
one talks about the actual issue until it comes up again.
So I'm no longer going to deal with that type
of madness. I want to see how people process when
(04:45):
they're angry. You know, I'm not the type that's going
to tolerate any type of drama, so to speak. That's
why I think spirituality is important. Someone who knows about meditation,
who really has done some healing, who's really explored themselves,
then I don't have to worry that they may not
(05:05):
know how to have a difficult conversation with me, because
they're going to be aware of where they're coming from.
All I can do is be aware of where I'm
coming from and be honest with my feelings and take
into consideration their feelings.
Speaker 6 (05:20):
And work through it.
Speaker 7 (05:21):
It's not always about being right, it's about coming to
an agreement, a solution, so to speak.
Speaker 6 (05:28):
So that's why to me, spirituality.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
However that looks to them because that's such a broad term,
But I need to know they know how to do
the work when they're angry, when they're emotional.
Speaker 6 (05:40):
You know, I need someone mature.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Now, Sonia us old school gals have to stick together.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
So what does chivalry mean to you?
Speaker 7 (05:50):
Chivalry means to me, And it doesn't have to be
a male or female.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
It obviously can be both.
Speaker 7 (05:59):
It's opening the door or it's you know, I pay
for most of the dates, but you know, on the flip.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Wait, when are we going to dinner?
Speaker 5 (06:06):
Wait?
Speaker 7 (06:06):
Wait on the flip with my partner to maybe cook
for me or take me out sometimes. But I am
that one that's gonna be thoughtful. I'm gonna make the
coffee for you in the morning. I'm gonna, you know,
make sure your towels warm when you get out of
the shower. I'm really dorky that way, and I just
want to take care of my person a warm towel.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Would you say acts of service is one of your
love languages?
Speaker 6 (06:31):
I absolutely am acts of service.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
What other love language do you like to receive?
Speaker 7 (06:36):
I love quality time, and that's another thing with dating
at my age. My son is an adult now, so
I do help take care of my mom, my elderly mom,
but I still have quite a bit of time. And
of course I have a lot of friends, but I
don't want to spend all my time with my friends
no more. I love my friends are always going to
be there. I want my person and I want someone
(06:57):
that ask time to be there, live life together.
Speaker 6 (07:01):
That's what I'm looking for. So I'm going to go
on this journey with me.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Now.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
I know that you grew up in the LA Area, correct, yes,
and that you have a lot of friends from childhood.
That that was the hardest people to come out to
explain that to me.
Speaker 7 (07:14):
Why even harder than my parents was coming out to
my best friends. Because they're a couple, a man and
a woman. I introduced them in high school. They have
been together thirty million years together. He is my friend
since we were like three and four years old. And
he's a macho construction man, old school I mean, but
(07:35):
he's a good guy. He's my best friend. Of course,
his heart is amazing. But they knew and told me
before I came out to them. So I was living
with my first partner, my baby mama. To them, she
was my best friend roommate, and we went out one
night and me and her were having a discussion of
where we left the money or the wallet or something,
(07:58):
and I guess she overheard it and she wrote me
a letter. My best friend wrote me a letter and
basically said that she knew I was gay and that
you know, it's okay, and and part of it was
she's very funny. Part of it was how come you
never hit on me? But that it was all good.
And I remember thinking, how dumb was I? You know
(08:20):
how dumb was I.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Of course they loved me for who I am.
Speaker 7 (08:23):
And at work, it too was a little difficult because
so many people knew me as straight. And then the
woman I came out with, she also was straight from work,
so that was challenging.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Sonia.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
Of course they knew you from a lifetime, so of
course they knew they were just waiting for you.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
But what was that fear of telling them?
Speaker 7 (08:42):
I guess I thought they may not be part of
my life anymore, or that they would judge me.
Speaker 6 (08:47):
I guess I knew that they wouldn't.
Speaker 7 (08:49):
It's just I was just gonna play dumb because I
was out everywhere else. I just wasn't out with them.
And to this day I have that letter. It's pretty funny.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Oh, I love that. I want to know about more
about your relationships. What have you learned from your long
term relationships? What are some things that you are like? Oh,
I love that, and I want to see that in
a future partnership. And what are some things that you're like?
Speaker 8 (09:10):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I see this as a pattern, and I don't want
to see that anymore.
Speaker 6 (09:13):
I'm pretty good with most of my exes.
Speaker 7 (09:16):
I consider myself to really only have three three nine
year relationships. That's kind of my point, but I no
longer want it to be my point. I'm going to
say two of them I probably should have left after
year three, but we want to talk about that. What
I did learn is I'm no longer accepting really bad
behavior just because.
Speaker 6 (09:37):
I love them.
Speaker 7 (09:38):
You know what I learned. I want to date someone
that really doesn't heavily drink. That's what I've learned out
of most of my relationships. Someone that heavily drinks. I
think that that's okay. You know, you go out and
party here and there, but some of the drinks a lot.
You know, when you argue, it gets different, it's challenging.
I'm past all that, So that's one thing that I've learned,
(09:59):
and just really take my time and build a friendship.
Because the one relationship that I speak of, you know,
we took our time. Before we became girlfriends. We were
seeing each other for quite some time. In fact, we
were both not wanting a relationship, so we were just
kind of seeing each other and then kind of fell
in love.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
So, you know what, I love my friends.
Speaker 7 (10:19):
I wish I could find someone like all my friendships
but that extra step and being my partner.
Speaker 6 (10:26):
You know, that's what I'm looking looking for a best friend.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Beautiful, And now tell us about these little rascals. What's
up with this biker dyke group. I'm so interned.
Speaker 6 (10:37):
I see you're a youngin.
Speaker 7 (10:42):
I know that are actually a little group of It
was a TV show.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
It was a little group of friends.
Speaker 7 (10:49):
A little group of friends, and there was no adults
in that show. It was like in the eighties or seventies.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Seventies, seventies, right, and.
Speaker 7 (10:56):
They had no adults in the show. And these kids
just had fun. There were brown ones, black ones, fat ones.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Guray or beautiful, funky.
Speaker 7 (11:05):
Lucky ones and they were the best of friends with
their dog and they go on adventures. But when I
joined this group of local lesbians just to be more active,
they started doing a Sunday morning bike group and it
tended to be kind of the same women that would join.
So we built a friendship. We actually have a strong friendship.
(11:26):
There's probably about six or seven of us.
Speaker 6 (11:29):
Some people show up here and there. But we decided to.
Speaker 7 (11:31):
Call ourselves the Little Rascals because we talk about when
we ride our bicycles, not motorcycles, bicycles.
Speaker 6 (11:38):
We feel like we're twelve years old. There's nothing like
that feeling.
Speaker 9 (11:42):
You know.
Speaker 7 (11:42):
I ride my bike a lot out here in Long
Beach and I just feel so young, so happy. There's
not a care in the world when I'm riding out
there and we go on adventures like we found a
hidden tunnels near the Queen Mary.
Speaker 6 (11:55):
They were lesbian little rascals.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
That's amazing, gorgeous.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Anything else you want to know, I know exactly what
you want. And let's hope that we can find someone
as special as you are.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Sonia.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Oh yeah, we are very very excited. Honestly, this is
gonna be so much fun.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
So for now, just sit back, relax, and we will
bring you back after we play some games with these contestants.
So now let's bring in these gorgeous contestants.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, Malani
the first.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
Well, hello, darning.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Let's meet all of you.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
First up, we have Onyx onx is looking for the
homey lover friend.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
To go eat Taco's web.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
Okay, that's a perfect day.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Onyx is what we like to call a top in
the streets, a bottom in the sheets. She likes to
be warned and dined a little bit and wants someone
to pursue her.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 10 (13:07):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
She works as a stripper, actress, burlesque dancer, oh my gosh,
almost the.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Same, and organizes four twenty pop up markets. She's also
founded Artists Revolts, an organization that focuses on mutual aid
and harm reduction efforts in marginalized LA communities.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Fuck Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Onyx is California sober and loves the ocean, going to
the k Spot, eating Ethiopian food, and trying different restaurants.
She was born and raised in Long Beach and is
a true Long Beach baby, loving.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Sublime Snoop Dog, West Coast Hip Hop. Hello, welcome Onyx,
Bye y'all.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
Next, we have a Dana, Dana You're gonna love.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
This is a terrible pisces a sital the pis CC's placements.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Dana works as a jeweler metalsmither Hot and centers her
jewelry making practice around the metaphysical properties of the crystals.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
She works with. Oh my gosh, mysterious.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Dana came to LA because of more opportunities in opening
her business and then met someone and while they broke up.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Eight years later, she is still here in LA.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
In a perfect world, Dana would date someone who is
a bit edgy or alternative playful, but can also go
deep and talk spirituality. Dana likes to play pickleball, Yeah,
go to comedy shows, attend queer events in LA and
enjoy quality chill time. Welcome Dana. Finally we have Nico.
(14:46):
Oh my gosh, today's episode must be the Revenge of
the Pisces because.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
Nico is a pizy star.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Nico grew up in south central LA.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
She is well traveled, living in Philadelphia for Underground, the
Philippines on a scholarship after college and the training for
her doctorate in Australia and New Orleans.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Oh my god, that passport is a stamp.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Nko is passionate about adapting to life and different situations.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
She works as a family doctor.
Speaker 5 (15:16):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
She is looking for good companionship and always learns a
lot from partnership. Honestly, that is a good takeaway. She
is ready to date again after a year since her
last serious relationship and likes to be romanced by thoughtfulness,
share time, and surprises along the way.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
That is so wow. It's incredibles, a lot of Pisces.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I am here for it.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Well, they're multi talented and creative, and it's a great lineup.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Is a great lineup is truly one of hard times.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
We don't see a pisces for months.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
That's true. That's true.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
So we're gonna let you in on a little secret
right off the bat, our main dater loves to ride
her bicycles, multiple bikes, and her scooter, so we need
to know if you can ride with her. Right we're
calling this game ride or die, playing.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Off the expression I'll ride or die for you.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
We're going to present different scenarios that might cause some
rent flags to pop up, and you'll let.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Us know if you're still down to ride with your
boo even given the situation.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
So, for example, Leana, would you ride or die if
your boo calls you babe on the first date?
Speaker 3 (16:36):
Absolutely?
Speaker 4 (16:38):
I will prefer it as a matter of fact, just
in case we die together, I go with someone's baby.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Duly noted. Anyway, that's the game.
Speaker 10 (16:48):
So let's start off with would you ride or die
if your boo only wants you to be a passenger
and insists on driving everyone and I am including if
she wants to drive your own car, would you ride
or die on X talk to me?
Speaker 11 (17:08):
I would ride for sure, because this is La. I
don't like driving anyway, so.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
That's what's up.
Speaker 11 (17:13):
If I could sit back because I am California, sober right,
sit back.
Speaker 6 (17:17):
Smoke a joint. They can take me everywhere. That's fine.
I hope pay for gas. That's good. We can cooperate.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
That's the soup. Yes, passenger Princess, I'm into it. Nico,
what about you?
Speaker 12 (17:28):
Oh man?
Speaker 5 (17:29):
I think I'd have to explore it somemore and kind
of get a better feel of why I like to participate.
And I really liked your riving sometimes, so it could
be a little tipid. We'll have to see. It'll be
like a TVD.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Here here here, absolutely, yes, Dano, what about you?
Speaker 12 (17:47):
You know I kind of agree with Nico. I think
it's maybe a red flag.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
I would say, a bit possessive.
Speaker 12 (17:56):
I think in the beginning I'd be cool with.
Speaker 9 (17:57):
It, and then maybe later on in the relationship, I'd
be like, all right, come on, I need to turn
to Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
I feel that I feel like for me, I don't
mind being driven, Like if someone is like in their
car and they want to drive me around. Absolutely, I
get it, but I do love driving everywhere. And if
someone is like, I'll take the keys of your car,
I'd be like, no, bitch, I'm the same way.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
No, no, I'm such a terrible backseat driver. You do
not want me as a passenger.
Speaker 4 (18:21):
No, no, no, no Noita is going to tell you exactly
where to go.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Ohh, which free were you're going to take?
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Noted? Okay, what's your writer guy situation?
Speaker 4 (18:31):
Here's the next one, and it's a classic Would you
ride or die if your partner wants to you haul
within the first month?
Speaker 6 (18:41):
Die?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
I die?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
I did it once? Never again?
Speaker 3 (18:46):
How about it? Dana?
Speaker 9 (18:47):
Yeah, from past experience, I'm gonna have to say no, no, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
It's a big die. Yeah, thank you Dana. What about
you and Nico?
Speaker 8 (18:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (18:55):
I just have to retort with another question, why explore
some more and a little on the tef in side,
It wouldn't be enthused because you know, there's a lot
of things about our personalities that might need to just
like flesh out more than a month can provide, so a.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Little more friendship and less moving in onis.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
So what about you? You write or die?
Speaker 11 (19:16):
Can I just say, see, maybe it just depends because
some people, you know what I mean, you meet them
right away and you have that passion and you could
be with that person forever. I have heard of those stories.
And then there's some people that know you should never
move with them.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
So agreed.
Speaker 11 (19:31):
Yeah, I'm gonna say maybe, depending on the person, depending
on the passion level.
Speaker 4 (19:36):
Maybe you're here, Yeah, here of couples that move in
right away and they're totally happy.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
For the rest of their lives. And uh, I don't know.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
I didn't happened to me, so I know it's just
seldom far and few in between.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Another writer die, Would you write or die? If they
are besties with their ex?
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Start us off, Dana? Are you are you down to
write or die with the ex?
Speaker 9 (20:01):
I cannot pass judgment because I am so Yeah, let's
do it.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Yeah, right to the sunset with our axes.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
And we can all grab dinner together. Absolutely exactly. Hell yeah,
honest pain.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
The exit on X.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
What are your thoughts?
Speaker 11 (20:19):
I mean literally what Dana just said, It's like being
sophig in La is kind of like, who are you
not going to date that's not friends with their exes.
Speaker 12 (20:28):
It's kind of par for the course.
Speaker 11 (20:29):
So it would definitely be a ride because they all
are they're all friends with their exes.
Speaker 6 (20:34):
Indeed, every single one of them.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Indeed, indeed, indeed, what about you, Nigo.
Speaker 5 (20:38):
Yeah, I echo the room if you like them for
the reason. So it didn't work out, but I'm still
down with my exes, So that's what's up. It's actually
like a plus if they still have a really relationship
with the X.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
I know how sweet is so different generations altogether.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
I mean I had an ex that came to this
episode of My Phone them like cutie. So you know
that's how it rolls, you know, it's how the cookie
crumbles in this new generation.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Yes, absolutely, I was like.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
What's up, X, Let's find you a contestant that's gonna
align with you since we've known each other were quite
a bit.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Well, we should all get on those scooters and go
to the beach.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Then absolutely absolutely should we play our next game?
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Yes, let's do it. Are you ready, ladies?
Speaker 1 (21:20):
So our next.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Game is inspired by a little bit of old school romance,
you know, doors being opened, dad's being paid for.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
I am talking about chivalry.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
A little chivalry goes a long way.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
I agree, I agree, And you know, chivalry doesn't have
to look like opening doors or paying for the dates.
Sometimes chivery can be like, hey, you're tired, don't worry
about it, I'll top you tonight.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
You know what I mean? Like it can look you
know different.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
So for this game of chivalry is alive and thriving,
I'm going to ask you all to give us the
top three things that are chivalrous to you, and the
more specific, the better.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
NKO. How you feeling, Do you have your top three?
Speaker 6 (22:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (22:05):
So, I guess I like to receive chivalrous gestures if
they kind of anticipated some needs, if there was some
thought on, like where we can get some nibbles and
some SIPs, or just something to kind of qualm those
things that might make one kind of you know, frazzled
or unlike themselves to kind of ground and center would
be nice.
Speaker 11 (22:23):
I like something.
Speaker 5 (22:24):
I mean, they can curate like a nice like song
or a vibe when we like hang out that always
kind of aligns as well. That's quite nice. And I
love to take pause for like any changes of I
don't know, like a good sunset or a sunrise. So
I think just like change you up the sky because
like pause for that too.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Ooh, I love that word, like pause for just witnessing
nature and it's beauty into it.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Dana, what are your top three chivalrous acts.
Speaker 9 (22:49):
I'm gonna echo a few of them, but I do
not like to cook. So if anyone is going to
step up and just take care of that, I am
all about it.
Speaker 10 (23:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (23:00):
In the past, I've had someone who has like planned,
you know, after like a long day of work or
you know, had going through a rough time or whatever,
it would be just take a day and they've had
everything planned out for it. Oh, then the last one
would be I mean I'm a piscey, so yeah, a
(23:22):
nice evening of like massage and raking and.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
No do you hear raking in there? That was cute?
Speaker 3 (23:35):
Yes, I did. Adorable.
Speaker 12 (23:37):
It is essential, you know.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Yes, like somatic practices. Absolutely listen here for that. Absolutely
on what about you?
Speaker 11 (23:45):
I really like fresh flowers, so that's always nice. And
also something like thought provoking, like anything like, oh, I
just planned this little insignificant picnic, you know what I
mean at the park, or I just made this peanut
butter jelly saliches and we have joints and we're looking
at the sunset at the beach.
Speaker 6 (24:03):
It doesn't even have to be that big, but or
it could be really expensive too. Whatever.
Speaker 11 (24:07):
But then, last but not least, I like it when
people have a backbone, which means that there's some weird
altercation or something.
Speaker 6 (24:15):
You know, because we do.
Speaker 11 (24:15):
Live in la if somebody tries to mess with us,
we both try to get the person instead of one
person being scared like so it's really sexy to me
if somebody stands up and actually tries to protect me
because I'm gonna protect them too.
Speaker 6 (24:27):
We both don't do it, but that's hot to me.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
Yes, Oh my gosh, I'm obsessed.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Yeah, we definitely have hope that chivalry is alive and thriving.
But speaking of chivalry, unfortunately we have to do something.
Speaker 8 (24:44):
Less polite, which is that we need to say goodbye
to one person before the next round.
Speaker 3 (24:51):
So with that said, yes, take it away, don't hate
me for it.
Speaker 4 (24:55):
You are all great, beautiful, talented individual but we do
have to match a little bit more of the people
who our main data has things in common with. For
that reason, today, the person that is not moving forward.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Isonics thank you so much for being with us.
Speaker 6 (25:14):
Yeah, thank you for having me.
Speaker 13 (25:15):
Bye, y'all, bye, We'll be back after the break. Welcome
back today, my Hourily the first.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Well, congratulations to our final two contestants.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
This is a time where we would.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Like to give you an opportunity to dive deeper, be
more intimate with one on one's caf that I'm gonna
step out so that hourly then you have that deep
dive into much more intimate questions. So Nico, I'm gonna
hand you over for a little cafes lead that holy.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Lead, that empty How are you, my love?
Speaker 6 (25:58):
Oh good?
Speaker 4 (25:59):
Let's talk a little bit about Nico's love life? What
is that about these days?
Speaker 3 (26:03):
My love life?
Speaker 1 (26:04):
These days?
Speaker 5 (26:05):
Well, just move back to Los Angeles after I think
twenty years or so and only been here for two
months so far, so kind of just living presently and
having fun and hoping to meet people like to spend
time with along the way.
Speaker 4 (26:17):
Well, talk to me about two months prior, where were
you and did you have a relationship during that time
and what happened before that?
Speaker 5 (26:24):
I was actually living in Bosa, Montana. Now I was
spending some time with my sister for a while just
quite nice, and then before that was living in Savannah, Georgia.
There I had a relationship for a while and we
just have like different versions of what we imagine life
to be like in our coming future. So we're both
on our different journeys.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
What was your version? What did you want in that
relationship that you were not getting?
Speaker 5 (26:46):
I'm a bit on like thinking about fertility as that
kind of comes up in like being thirty nine years old,
so it's like something I want to grapple with and
kind of want a partner that's down with juggling that
at some point.
Speaker 12 (26:56):
But also I know, like.
Speaker 5 (26:58):
Fertility timeline and like real relationship timeline sometimes like fall
on different in paces. So currently just also down to
connect and you know, meet people along the way and
see if that's a shared path or there's different versions
of having really great connections and like intimacy too.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
Would you like to get married?
Speaker 5 (27:15):
I mean, if it works out, great, but I don't
think it's my end all be all.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
I guess now, do you have a specific communication style
that you would like your partner to share with you.
Speaker 5 (27:23):
I'm like more of a monerable communicator, but that's something
I've definitely been honing in and doing a lot better
these days, that's for sure.
Speaker 4 (27:30):
And so it would be nice if your partner communicates
a little bit more and then you'd be joining in.
Speaker 5 (27:35):
Yeah, communication, but also like with the era of some
like intuitive communication too, and sometimes like things always don't
come out well with the words, so you know, that's
like one of the ways, but not to discount other
ways of communicating to So.
Speaker 4 (27:48):
You have a day off and you're both free, how
do you spend that wonderful day?
Speaker 3 (27:53):
Do you just get up and go and say, let's
do something? What do you do? What do you do?
Speaker 5 (27:57):
I think it depends on how the context has been.
Like if it's a day we just need to chill,
it would be really nice just to sleep in because
it is such a luxury.
Speaker 3 (28:04):
To not rush too much.
Speaker 5 (28:06):
Right, I think current situation of having the best day
ever would be to have no set plan, the lots
of creations of like literally delightful things, and probably like
pack a little bag with all the with all the
tricks in the treats so we can kind of just
see where heart takes us.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Sorry to interrupt, but there is another piping cup of
guff see the waiting for you. Thank you so much, Nico, Dana, Dana,
I'm gonna hand.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
You over for a little hot cup of guff.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
Take it away. Oh let me Dana. How are you good?
Speaker 12 (28:48):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (28:49):
I am doing really well. Thank you for being with us.
But I'm going to ask you a little personal question.
Speaker 3 (28:54):
Now. Talk to me about your love life in the
past year or two.
Speaker 9 (28:57):
So I actually have been single for the last year,
which is the longest I've been single. It was kind
of intentional. I have been doing the last year a
lot of self discovery, self work, which has been great,
like a lot of therapy. For some reason, I have
like this three year mark, so the last few relationships,
it's been like three three and a half years.
Speaker 3 (29:19):
Is that something you would doing intentionally?
Speaker 9 (29:21):
I think my problem is when I do kind of
see red flags, I really really want to make it work,
so I put in the effort.
Speaker 12 (29:28):
I think it's kind of coincidental that it just kind
of seems to be three years now.
Speaker 4 (29:33):
You mentioned you would see those red flags and then
you would try harder to work on the relationship.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
What do you think that is and how have you
handled that?
Speaker 9 (29:42):
Probably just from growing up in any household where you know,
my parents that are not together, and it wasn't always
the greatest, but I've always wanted, you know, a relationship.
I want partnership, and I really wanted to work. So
I feel like, I don't know, you know, it's like
seeing those signs, it's I kind of give people full
the benefit of the doubt, right and it's like, we're.
Speaker 12 (30:02):
Going to work through this.
Speaker 9 (30:04):
And then I think that has been a lot of
the work too, just realizing that you can't make excuses
for other people, Like people will show you who they
truly are and you have to take it for what
it is, and that's okay. You know, forcing something is
eventually it's gonna come out in the end. You know,
you can't fake it until you make it. You know,
in a relationship, a.
Speaker 4 (30:23):
Lot of people do, Now, what are these beautiful green
flags that are coming your way with a new relationship?
Speaker 3 (30:29):
What are they? What do you want to.
Speaker 9 (30:31):
See someone who is I think emotionally mature. I have
big feelings and I have a lot of emotions, and
I love, love, love, love to connect with people who
are the same and can go deep. But there's a
difference between having a lot of emotions and feelings and
feeling them and then not being able to like regulate
(30:53):
and you know self sooth. I think that's really important
to me, is like you can have all that, but
you need to know how you don't just dun't on
your partner.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
Right, How do you handle conflict? I know we don't
want it, but if it happens, what do you do?
Speaker 9 (31:07):
A lot of the times I'll take a bet. I
have learned from the past, and the way that I
can react is if you just react immediately to your
emotion when something comes up, it's usually not the.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
Best reaction or response, right, So.
Speaker 9 (31:23):
Taking a minute to sit with it. And also like
if it's something like bigger that feels treadering, taking a moment,
why is it?
Speaker 12 (31:30):
Is it this situation that is really triggering me?
Speaker 6 (31:33):
Or is there.
Speaker 3 (31:33):
Right something else behind the memory of another one? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (31:37):
Yeah, yeah, where you've been which is very hard to
leave just everything behind. Well, I really hope that by
the end of the show we are able to connect
that main data with one of you two.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
And thank you for your answers.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
Absolutely, thank you so much, Dana Elena. These were very
successful one on one Facto they are you feeling closer
to knowing?
Speaker 9 (31:59):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (31:59):
You Yeah, beautiful, beautiful Nico, welcome back, a wilda.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
I think we might have to share one more secret.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
Oh is that time again?
Speaker 2 (32:09):
So our main dater has actually been undercover this whole time,
listening in since the very beginning.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
Checking.
Speaker 2 (32:17):
Indeed, Alida might have an idea of who she likes.
But let's see if we have a unanimous decision. So
muchis Grasies. We're gonna ask you for a quick exit
and we'll bring back our main contestant.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
Well, amazing Alida.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
I think we might have a unanimous decision on this one.
So we're all leaning on Dana.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
We're all leaning on you.
Speaker 4 (32:45):
Yeah, and I think my Sonia is also leaning Yeah,
is that correct?
Speaker 6 (32:49):
You know what?
Speaker 7 (32:50):
I was definitely fifty to fifty pretty much. Maybe a
little bit more tournis Dana, but that Nico is thinking
about children when there's no way that I want a
baby in my life other than a grand baby.
Speaker 6 (33:02):
Ye, and she said that was a deal breaker for
her last relationship.
Speaker 3 (33:05):
So god, you know what.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
Also, I don't know if you've been taking notes, but
if you heard the bios that Vico is reading at
the beginning.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
She really does have a lot of things in common
with you.
Speaker 7 (33:16):
The spirituality she's done, the therapy. She seems mature. My
only thing is she is she wild enough for me?
Or can she have my wildness?
Speaker 3 (33:25):
Well, hey, you can share and teach. But also remember
Dana does not cook.
Speaker 6 (33:32):
I don't cook either. I guess we eat out all
the time.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Nico is such a cutie.
Speaker 2 (33:37):
I can just see Nico wearing elf ears and being
a doctor.
Speaker 1 (33:44):
Nymph.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
Uh, very smart, such a such a cutie is so smart,
so intellectual, very thoughtful.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
As well with her words.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
But yeah, I think ultimately that emotional attunement that Dana
gave was the one that like won.
Speaker 3 (34:00):
All of our hearts.
Speaker 4 (34:01):
Yes, so, I think at one point though, Nico is
just such an amazing individual and would be a great
friend to our main data. Eventually they would go in
different ways correct, Yes, so different paths.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
But I think we have made our decision and we
sure we're gonna enjoy it.
Speaker 8 (34:17):
All right, let's bring in the contestants. Welcome back, Welcome back.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
The jury has a verdict, Yes, we do, and I
will leave that are ready, Yeah, go for it?
Speaker 4 (34:34):
Well, you are both incredible ladies. But the one who
actually was a little bit closer to our main data
and how they see live, and for that reason, the
one meeting our main dat today is Dana.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
Congratulations Dana and Nico, my goodness, you are so sweet,
so kind. I don't know if you're fantasy nerd, but
if you ever wear el fears, let me know, because
I think that will look so great on you, because
I also wear el fears, like.
Speaker 5 (35:08):
I skipted some once upon a time.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
I think I still have them and I'm back.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
Yeah, yeah, well, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Welcome back to LA. I know you mentioned you just
moved here, so welcome. Congrats on the move and hopefully
we'll see you soon.
Speaker 3 (35:21):
Yes, and much success and all you do here.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
Absolutely, thank you, Thank you. Dana. Congratulations. How are you feeling?
Speaker 12 (35:32):
I feel wonderful, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Beautiful, amazing.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Well, I mean, without further Ado, let's go ahead and
meet the main dater, Sonia, come.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
Ahead and turn on your camera and meet Dana. Sonia.
First impressions on Dana.
Speaker 3 (35:52):
I think she's cute, Yes, I love it.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Dana. First impressions on Sonia same same, Yes, Oh, God's amazing.
Speaker 7 (36:02):
I think Dana, you are an attractive lady, but I
have to tell you, in being a spy and listening,
you're a lot of what I'm looking for. I love
how you speak about emotional maturity and how you're doing
work on yourself and how you purposely took time to
be single.
Speaker 6 (36:19):
That's exactly what I've been doing.
Speaker 7 (36:21):
So I think we have a lot of common in that,
and I'm excited to get to know anymore.
Speaker 4 (36:25):
Yes, amazing each of you, and please enjoy the ride.
Speaker 3 (36:32):
Have fun. Oh I love it beautiful.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Now we're going to send our condescens away for a
little virtual day to have fun.
Speaker 7 (36:40):
Yeah, Coyotes, I know probably more about you than you
know about me.
Speaker 6 (36:46):
So is there anything that you want to ask me?
Speaker 12 (36:49):
Yeah? Like what do you do and where are you from? Originally?
Speaker 7 (36:53):
I'm born and raised in La in a little city
called Alhambra.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (36:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (36:58):
I like to ride bi, I love to ride my bikey.
Speaker 12 (37:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (37:01):
I love sports. Have you heard of Angels City Football Club? Yes?
Speaker 7 (37:04):
Absolutely, I'm a season ticket holder there, so I was
just there on Sunday.
Speaker 6 (37:09):
I just picked up pick a ball.
Speaker 12 (37:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (37:12):
I like to try new things. I'm really looking for
someone that's emotionally mature. I think that's why you got selected.
Some of your answers were almost I could have said
the exact same thing. I take my time in dating.
I want to get to know people as friends. I
want a friendship. I'm not a ue hauler, not at
all good. What about you?
Speaker 6 (37:34):
What do you like to do?
Speaker 3 (37:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 12 (37:37):
Pick a ball. I love that you're started.
Speaker 6 (37:39):
I'm a newbie. You got to teach me.
Speaker 12 (37:41):
Yes, I would love to. I try to get everyone
into it. It's kind of so get ready.
Speaker 7 (37:46):
Oh yeah, I only I only started like a week ago,
and already I'm going on Saturday.
Speaker 12 (37:50):
Oh yeah, it's so good.
Speaker 9 (37:51):
It's such a like anyone can play and you see
no joke, like your improvement, and if it gets exciting,
you're like, this is amazing.
Speaker 6 (38:00):
I already fell my first time I went. You know
my mind.
Speaker 7 (38:02):
I don't know if you've heard of my bio, but
I think I'm twelve years old.
Speaker 6 (38:06):
I'm a little older. How old are you?
Speaker 7 (38:09):
I'm forty three, all right, I'm fifty five, okay, so
but in my head, i'm twelve. Like I'm the youngest
fifty five person you'll ever meet. Like I'm young at heart.
I have friends all different ages, so same.
Speaker 5 (38:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (38:23):
And I love that you're into spirituality and meditation and
all of that, because I told the ladies that that's
that's important to me. I don't mind introducing people that
I meet into that kind of stuff, but it's so much.
Speaker 6 (38:37):
Better when they already know about it and.
Speaker 7 (38:40):
Practice it, and you know, I think it makes a
difference in how you handle things.
Speaker 12 (38:43):
Yes, agreed totally.
Speaker 7 (38:45):
How you talked about working on yourself just really hit
with me, and I thought, Hi, I can go to
sound bath with her, you know, and then we can
go to pick a ball and then we have a
pretty pool, you know, like you know. The only thing
that I have to say was a negative for you, Dana. Right,
we're gonna have an issue. I don't cook either, No, No,
(39:08):
we won't. I am very good at going out to eat.
And there's a million wonderful restaurants.
Speaker 5 (39:13):
In Long Beat.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Well.
Speaker 1 (39:21):
Wow, wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
I hope those sweeties headed off. Find us back here
next week as Leanna and I make some more matches.
Speaker 3 (39:31):
Good work today, Oh, we did good. I like what
I'm looking at date my ali.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
The first is a production from WV Sound and iHeart
Media's Michaultura podcast network hosted by me Vico Ortiz, joined
by the fabulous Lenna Montenegro bait My Auri. The first
is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel and Sophie Spencer Zavos.
Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama, Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel.
W V Sound This This episode was edited by Sean
(40:01):
Tracy and Sophie Spencer Zavos and features original music.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
By Alva Morello and gave Lopez.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
Special thanks to our team of cubits at WV Entertainment.
Speaker 1 (40:11):
Special Things.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
Also to our hopeful romantics this week, Sonia, Onyx, Dana
and Nico. Additional thanks to Assault and Lime Media. See
you next week and in the meantime, don't do anything
a Wilita wouldn't do.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
Just do it better, okay, Besitos
Well, yeah, Wlita.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Have you ever heard of a motto honey, or a
motto mummy or a moto puppy?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
You know, like, have you ever been a thrill chaser?
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Totally?
Speaker 4 (00:17):
It started when I was three years old with my daddy.
Oh my god, you would take me in the front
of his motorcycle.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
I was so thrilled.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
Of course, Then when men came around, yeah, I would
a little leather hear, a little spanky there, I mean
on the chair, and oh, if.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
You can picture it, I'm good.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I feel like I want to say, unfortunately I can
picture it.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
But but have you been a biker boy.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
No, I'm more of a scooter sized guy, a little cutie,
a little noodle cutie, more scooter, you know, razor scooter.
I was like my left leg in there and just
like zoom through the neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
But that's where I stayed.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
After that, I didn't graduate to a much more thrill
seeking adventure. I scream a little bit when I'm gon vespa, but.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
That's still exciting on two wheels.
Speaker 5 (01:02):
You know.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I actually love vespas. Yeah, they're they're.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Great welcome listeners. This is date my a Wilita.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
First, I am your host the Vico or Thiefs, joined
by the multi talented A Wilita Liliana Monte. She's gonna
sort through three lovelorn contestants before sending one of them
off on a one on one date with our star dater.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Oh I'm so excited. Let's meet our main dater this week.
What do you think? I think she will be my favorite?
Are you always say that, Liliana? It sounds good because
they are all perfect.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
That's right, that's me.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Who am I helping with love today?
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Our main dater this week is Sonia. Sonia is truly
young at heart, she says. All the younger lesbians hit
on her at the bars. Sonia lives in Long Beach
and loves riding her bike and even meets up with
a group of lesbians who ride on Sundays and call
themselves the Lesbian Little Rascals.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Oh wow, wow, I want to meet these little rascals.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Sonia is looking for her forever and is trying to
really take her time to acknowledge red flags. Oh, that
is a tough one to go through.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
There's always a few of them out there always.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
She is looking for emotionally mature women and sees meditation,
spirituality in being able to communicate when something is not
going well as an indicator of emotional maturity.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Hells, yes, we love to hear that she is.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Old school and the way that she will pay for
the date will open the door.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
And considers herself a gentle woman.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Sonia's love language is quality time and for someone to
woo Sonia, they should notice the little things.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Absolutely, pay attention out there.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
All right, So what do you say?
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Should we find Sonya someone who can pay attention to
the details and go on a ride with her.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Absolutely, let's do it.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
So yes, welcome Sonya, come on, hello, Hello, Hi? Are
you doing so good to see you? We're so excited
to get to know you.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Now.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
You said you're looking for your forever.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Right, I am and really trying to make time to
acknowledge red flags.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
What does that look like for you?
Speaker 6 (03:19):
You know what? I'm just gonna be honest.
Speaker 7 (03:20):
I no longer like try and be intimate with anyone
immediately because that can blind me.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
To to yes, little blinder song, they come on immediately.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
I've never been married. I would like to be married.
Speaker 7 (03:34):
So I'm really taking my time in building a friendship
and finding someone who's compatible with me and emotionally mature.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Mm mmmmm mmm mmm what you're going to know now?
Speaker 4 (03:44):
You said you're looking for an emotionally mature woman, So
please tell me what are the characteristics for you that
make up an emotionally mature woman.
Speaker 7 (03:54):
You know one of my favorite sayings that I'm a
lady of many sayings, is a relationship success isn't determined
on how well you get along. I actually get along
well with a lot of people. It's how well you disagree,
and that, for me, is an indicator if we can
go the next step. Once you have that disagreement, how
(04:15):
do you process what you're feeling?
Speaker 6 (04:17):
Do you emotionally shut down?
Speaker 7 (04:19):
Which you know some people need their time to process
what they're going through.
Speaker 6 (04:22):
But explain that to me.
Speaker 7 (04:24):
You know, I need some time to think and then
I can come back to you and conversate. But to
shut down and then never discuss it again, which I
find so many women do. They talk, and then no
one talks about the actual issue until it comes up again.
So I'm no longer going to deal with that type
of madness. I want to see how people process when
(04:45):
they're angry. You know, I'm not the type that's going
to tolerate any type of drama, so to speak. That's
why I think spirituality is important. Someone who knows about meditation,
who really has done some healing, who's really explored themselves,
then I don't have to worry that they may not
(05:05):
know how to have a difficult conversation with me, because
they're going to be aware of where they're coming from.
All I can do is be aware of where I'm
coming from and be honest with my feelings and take
into consideration their feelings.
Speaker 6 (05:20):
And work through it.
Speaker 7 (05:21):
It's not always about being right, it's about coming to
an agreement, a solution, so to speak.
Speaker 6 (05:28):
So that's why to me, spirituality.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
However that looks to them because that's such a broad term,
But I need to know they know how to do
the work when they're angry, when they're emotional.
Speaker 6 (05:40):
You know, I need someone mature.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Now, Sonia us old school gals have to stick together.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
So what does chivalry mean to you?
Speaker 7 (05:50):
Chivalry means to me, And it doesn't have to be
a male or female.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
It obviously can be both.
Speaker 7 (05:59):
It's opening the door or it's you know, I pay
for most of the dates, but you know, on the flip.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Wait, when are we going to dinner?
Speaker 5 (06:06):
Wait?
Speaker 7 (06:06):
Wait on the flip with my partner to maybe cook
for me or take me out sometimes. But I am
that one that's gonna be thoughtful. I'm gonna make the
coffee for you in the morning. I'm gonna, you know,
make sure your towels warm when you get out of
the shower. I'm really dorky that way, and I just
want to take care of my person a warm towel.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Would you say acts of service is one of your
love languages?
Speaker 6 (06:31):
I absolutely am acts of service.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
What other love language do you like to receive?
Speaker 7 (06:36):
I love quality time, and that's another thing with dating
at my age. My son is an adult now, so
I do help take care of my mom, my elderly mom,
but I still have quite a bit of time. And
of course I have a lot of friends, but I
don't want to spend all my time with my friends
no more. I love my friends are always going to
be there. I want my person and I want someone
(06:57):
that ask time to be there, live life together.
Speaker 6 (07:01):
That's what I'm looking for. So I'm going to go
on this journey with me.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Now.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
I know that you grew up in the LA Area, correct, yes,
and that you have a lot of friends from childhood.
That that was the hardest people to come out to
explain that to me.
Speaker 7 (07:14):
Why even harder than my parents was coming out to
my best friends. Because they're a couple, a man and
a woman. I introduced them in high school. They have
been together thirty million years together. He is my friend
since we were like three and four years old. And
he's a macho construction man, old school I mean, but
(07:35):
he's a good guy. He's my best friend. Of course,
his heart is amazing. But they knew and told me
before I came out to them. So I was living
with my first partner, my baby mama. To them, she
was my best friend roommate, and we went out one
night and me and her were having a discussion of
where we left the money or the wallet or something,
(07:58):
and I guess she overheard it and she wrote me
a letter. My best friend wrote me a letter and
basically said that she knew I was gay and that
you know, it's okay, and and part of it was
she's very funny. Part of it was how come you
never hit on me? But that it was all good.
And I remember thinking, how dumb was I? You know
(08:20):
how dumb was I.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Of course they loved me for who I am.
Speaker 7 (08:23):
And at work, it too was a little difficult because
so many people knew me as straight. And then the
woman I came out with, she also was straight from work,
so that was challenging.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Sonia.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
Of course they knew you from a lifetime, so of
course they knew they were just waiting for you.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
But what was that fear of telling them?
Speaker 7 (08:42):
I guess I thought they may not be part of
my life anymore, or that they would judge me.
Speaker 6 (08:47):
I guess I knew that they wouldn't.
Speaker 7 (08:49):
It's just I was just gonna play dumb because I
was out everywhere else. I just wasn't out with them.
And to this day I have that letter. It's pretty funny.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Oh, I love that. I want to know about more
about your relationships. What have you learned from your long
term relationships? What are some things that you are like? Oh,
I love that, and I want to see that in
a future partnership. And what are some things that you're like?
Speaker 8 (09:10):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I see this as a pattern, and I don't want
to see that anymore.
Speaker 6 (09:13):
I'm pretty good with most of my exes.
Speaker 7 (09:16):
I consider myself to really only have three three nine
year relationships. That's kind of my point, but I no
longer want it to be my point. I'm going to
say two of them I probably should have left after
year three, but we want to talk about that. What
I did learn is I'm no longer accepting really bad
behavior just because.
Speaker 6 (09:37):
I love them.
Speaker 7 (09:38):
You know what I learned. I want to date someone
that really doesn't heavily drink. That's what I've learned out
of most of my relationships. Someone that heavily drinks. I
think that that's okay. You know, you go out and
party here and there, but some of the drinks a lot.
You know, when you argue, it gets different, it's challenging.
I'm past all that, So that's one thing that I've learned,
(09:59):
and just really take my time and build a friendship.
Because the one relationship that I speak of, you know,
we took our time. Before we became girlfriends. We were
seeing each other for quite some time. In fact, we
were both not wanting a relationship, so we were just
kind of seeing each other and then kind of fell
in love.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
So, you know what, I love my friends.
Speaker 7 (10:19):
I wish I could find someone like all my friendships
but that extra step and being my partner.
Speaker 6 (10:26):
You know, that's what I'm looking looking for a best friend.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Beautiful, And now tell us about these little rascals. What's
up with this biker dyke group. I'm so interned.
Speaker 6 (10:37):
I see you're a youngin.
Speaker 7 (10:42):
I know that are actually a little group of It
was a TV show.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
It was a little group of friends.
Speaker 7 (10:49):
A little group of friends, and there was no adults
in that show. It was like in the eighties or seventies.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Seventies, seventies, right, and.
Speaker 7 (10:56):
They had no adults in the show. And these kids
just had fun. There were brown ones, black ones, fat ones.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Guray or beautiful, funky.
Speaker 7 (11:05):
Lucky ones and they were the best of friends with
their dog and they go on adventures. But when I
joined this group of local lesbians just to be more active,
they started doing a Sunday morning bike group and it
tended to be kind of the same women that would join.
So we built a friendship. We actually have a strong friendship.
(11:26):
There's probably about six or seven of us.
Speaker 6 (11:29):
Some people show up here and there. But we decided to.
Speaker 7 (11:31):
Call ourselves the Little Rascals because we talk about when
we ride our bicycles, not motorcycles, bicycles.
Speaker 6 (11:38):
We feel like we're twelve years old. There's nothing like
that feeling.
Speaker 9 (11:42):
You know.
Speaker 7 (11:42):
I ride my bike a lot out here in Long
Beach and I just feel so young, so happy. There's
not a care in the world when I'm riding out
there and we go on adventures like we found a
hidden tunnels near the Queen Mary.
Speaker 6 (11:55):
They were lesbian little rascals.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
That's amazing, gorgeous.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Anything else you want to know, I know exactly what
you want. And let's hope that we can find someone
as special as you are.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Sonia.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Oh yeah, we are very very excited. Honestly, this is
gonna be so much fun.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
So for now, just sit back, relax, and we will
bring you back after we play some games with these contestants.
So now let's bring in these gorgeous contestants.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, Malani
the first.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
Well, hello, darning.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Let's meet all of you.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
First up, we have Onyx onx is looking for the
homey lover friend.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
To go eat Taco's web.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
Okay, that's a perfect day.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Onyx is what we like to call a top in
the streets, a bottom in the sheets. She likes to
be warned and dined a little bit and wants someone
to pursue her.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 10 (13:07):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
She works as a stripper, actress, burlesque dancer, oh my gosh,
almost the.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Same, and organizes four twenty pop up markets. She's also
founded Artists Revolts, an organization that focuses on mutual aid
and harm reduction efforts in marginalized LA communities.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Fuck Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Onyx is California sober and loves the ocean, going to
the k Spot, eating Ethiopian food, and trying different restaurants.
She was born and raised in Long Beach and is
a true Long Beach baby, loving.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Sublime Snoop Dog, West Coast Hip Hop. Hello, welcome Onyx,
Bye y'all.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
Next, we have a Dana, Dana You're gonna love.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
This is a terrible pisces a sital the pis CC's placements.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Dana works as a jeweler metalsmither Hot and centers her
jewelry making practice around the metaphysical properties of the crystals.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
She works with. Oh my gosh, mysterious.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Dana came to LA because of more opportunities in opening
her business and then met someone and while they broke up.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Eight years later, she is still here in LA.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
In a perfect world, Dana would date someone who is
a bit edgy or alternative playful, but can also go
deep and talk spirituality. Dana likes to play pickleball, Yeah,
go to comedy shows, attend queer events in LA and
enjoy quality chill time. Welcome Dana. Finally we have Nico.
(14:46):
Oh my gosh, today's episode must be the Revenge of
the Pisces because.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
Nico is a pizy star.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Nico grew up in south central LA.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
She is well traveled, living in Philadelphia for Underground, the
Philippines on a scholarship after college and the training for
her doctorate in Australia and New Orleans.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Oh my god, that passport is a stamp.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Nko is passionate about adapting to life and different situations.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
She works as a family doctor.
Speaker 5 (15:16):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
She is looking for good companionship and always learns a
lot from partnership. Honestly, that is a good takeaway. She
is ready to date again after a year since her
last serious relationship and likes to be romanced by thoughtfulness,
share time, and surprises along the way.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
That is so wow. It's incredibles, a lot of Pisces.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I am here for it.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Well, they're multi talented and creative, and it's a great lineup.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Is a great lineup is truly one of hard times.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
We don't see a pisces for months.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
That's true. That's true.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
So we're gonna let you in on a little secret
right off the bat, our main dater loves to ride
her bicycles, multiple bikes, and her scooter, so we need
to know if you can ride with her. Right we're
calling this game ride or die, playing.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Off the expression I'll ride or die for you.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
We're going to present different scenarios that might cause some
rent flags to pop up, and you'll let.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Us know if you're still down to ride with your
boo even given the situation.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
So, for example, Leana, would you ride or die if
your boo calls you babe on the first date?
Speaker 3 (16:36):
Absolutely?
Speaker 4 (16:38):
I will prefer it as a matter of fact, just
in case we die together, I go with someone's baby.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Duly noted. Anyway, that's the game.
Speaker 10 (16:48):
So let's start off with would you ride or die
if your boo only wants you to be a passenger
and insists on driving everyone and I am including if
she wants to drive your own car, would you ride
or die on X talk to me?
Speaker 11 (17:08):
I would ride for sure, because this is La. I
don't like driving anyway, so.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
That's what's up.
Speaker 11 (17:13):
If I could sit back because I am California, sober right,
sit back.
Speaker 6 (17:17):
Smoke a joint. They can take me everywhere. That's fine.
I hope pay for gas. That's good. We can cooperate.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
That's the soup. Yes, passenger Princess, I'm into it. Nico,
what about you?
Speaker 12 (17:28):
Oh man?
Speaker 5 (17:29):
I think I'd have to explore it somemore and kind
of get a better feel of why I like to participate.
And I really liked your riving sometimes, so it could
be a little tipid. We'll have to see. It'll be
like a TVD.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Here here here, absolutely, yes, Dano, what about you?
Speaker 12 (17:47):
You know I kind of agree with Nico. I think
it's maybe a red flag.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
I would say, a bit possessive.
Speaker 12 (17:56):
I think in the beginning I'd be cool with.
Speaker 9 (17:57):
It, and then maybe later on in the relationship, I'd
be like, all right, come on, I need to turn
to Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
I feel that I feel like for me, I don't
mind being driven, Like if someone is like in their
car and they want to drive me around. Absolutely, I
get it, but I do love driving everywhere. And if
someone is like, I'll take the keys of your car,
I'd be like, no, bitch, I'm the same way.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
No, no, I'm such a terrible backseat driver. You do
not want me as a passenger.
Speaker 4 (18:21):
No, no, no, no Noita is going to tell you exactly
where to go.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Ohh, which free were you're going to take?
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Noted? Okay, what's your writer guy situation?
Speaker 4 (18:31):
Here's the next one, and it's a classic Would you
ride or die if your partner wants to you haul
within the first month?
Speaker 6 (18:41):
Die?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
I die?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
I did it once? Never again?
Speaker 3 (18:46):
How about it? Dana?
Speaker 9 (18:47):
Yeah, from past experience, I'm gonna have to say no, no, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
It's a big die. Yeah, thank you Dana. What about
you and Nico?
Speaker 8 (18:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (18:55):
I just have to retort with another question, why explore
some more and a little on the tef in side,
It wouldn't be enthused because you know, there's a lot
of things about our personalities that might need to just
like flesh out more than a month can provide, so a.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Little more friendship and less moving in onis.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
So what about you? You write or die?
Speaker 11 (19:16):
Can I just say, see, maybe it just depends because
some people, you know what I mean, you meet them
right away and you have that passion and you could
be with that person forever. I have heard of those stories.
And then there's some people that know you should never
move with them.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
So agreed.
Speaker 11 (19:31):
Yeah, I'm gonna say maybe, depending on the person, depending
on the passion level.
Speaker 4 (19:36):
Maybe you're here, Yeah, here of couples that move in
right away and they're totally happy.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
For the rest of their lives. And uh, I don't know.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
I didn't happened to me, so I know it's just
seldom far and few in between.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Another writer die, Would you write or die? If they
are besties with their ex?
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Start us off, Dana? Are you are you down to
write or die with the ex?
Speaker 9 (20:01):
I cannot pass judgment because I am so Yeah, let's
do it.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Yeah, right to the sunset with our axes.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
And we can all grab dinner together. Absolutely exactly. Hell yeah,
honest pain.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
The exit on X.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
What are your thoughts?
Speaker 11 (20:19):
I mean literally what Dana just said, It's like being
sophig in La is kind of like, who are you
not going to date that's not friends with their exes.
Speaker 12 (20:28):
It's kind of par for the course.
Speaker 11 (20:29):
So it would definitely be a ride because they all
are they're all friends with their exes.
Speaker 6 (20:34):
Indeed, every single one of them.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Indeed, indeed, indeed, what about you, Nigo.
Speaker 5 (20:38):
Yeah, I echo the room if you like them for
the reason. So it didn't work out, but I'm still
down with my exes, So that's what's up. It's actually
like a plus if they still have a really relationship
with the X.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
I know how sweet is so different generations altogether.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
I mean I had an ex that came to this
episode of My Phone them like cutie. So you know
that's how it rolls, you know, it's how the cookie
crumbles in this new generation.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Yes, absolutely, I was like.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
What's up, X, Let's find you a contestant that's gonna
align with you since we've known each other were quite
a bit.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Well, we should all get on those scooters and go
to the beach.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Then absolutely absolutely should we play our next game?
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Yes, let's do it. Are you ready, ladies?
Speaker 1 (21:20):
So our next.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Game is inspired by a little bit of old school romance,
you know, doors being opened, dad's being paid for.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
I am talking about chivalry.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
A little chivalry goes a long way.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
I agree, I agree, And you know, chivalry doesn't have
to look like opening doors or paying for the dates.
Sometimes chivery can be like, hey, you're tired, don't worry
about it, I'll top you tonight.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
You know what I mean? Like it can look you
know different.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
So for this game of chivalry is alive and thriving,
I'm going to ask you all to give us the
top three things that are chivalrous to you, and the
more specific, the better.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
NKO. How you feeling, Do you have your top three?
Speaker 6 (22:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (22:05):
So, I guess I like to receive chivalrous gestures if
they kind of anticipated some needs, if there was some
thought on, like where we can get some nibbles and
some SIPs, or just something to kind of qualm those
things that might make one kind of you know, frazzled
or unlike themselves to kind of ground and center would
be nice.
Speaker 11 (22:23):
I like something.
Speaker 5 (22:24):
I mean, they can curate like a nice like song
or a vibe when we like hang out that always
kind of aligns as well. That's quite nice. And I
love to take pause for like any changes of I
don't know, like a good sunset or a sunrise. So
I think just like change you up the sky because
like pause for that too.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Ooh, I love that word, like pause for just witnessing
nature and it's beauty into it.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Dana, what are your top three chivalrous acts.
Speaker 9 (22:49):
I'm gonna echo a few of them, but I do
not like to cook. So if anyone is going to
step up and just take care of that, I am
all about it.
Speaker 10 (23:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (23:00):
In the past, I've had someone who has like planned,
you know, after like a long day of work or
you know, had going through a rough time or whatever,
it would be just take a day and they've had
everything planned out for it. Oh, then the last one
would be I mean I'm a piscey, so yeah, a
(23:22):
nice evening of like massage and raking and.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
No do you hear raking in there? That was cute?
Speaker 3 (23:35):
Yes, I did. Adorable.
Speaker 12 (23:37):
It is essential, you know.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Yes, like somatic practices. Absolutely listen here for that. Absolutely
on what about you?
Speaker 11 (23:45):
I really like fresh flowers, so that's always nice. And
also something like thought provoking, like anything like, oh, I
just planned this little insignificant picnic, you know what I
mean at the park, or I just made this peanut
butter jelly saliches and we have joints and we're looking
at the sunset at the beach.
Speaker 6 (24:03):
It doesn't even have to be that big, but or
it could be really expensive too. Whatever.
Speaker 11 (24:07):
But then, last but not least, I like it when
people have a backbone, which means that there's some weird
altercation or something.
Speaker 6 (24:15):
You know, because we do.
Speaker 11 (24:15):
Live in la if somebody tries to mess with us,
we both try to get the person instead of one
person being scared like so it's really sexy to me
if somebody stands up and actually tries to protect me
because I'm gonna protect them too.
Speaker 6 (24:27):
We both don't do it, but that's hot to me.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
Yes, Oh my gosh, I'm obsessed.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Yeah, we definitely have hope that chivalry is alive and thriving.
But speaking of chivalry, unfortunately we have to do something.
Speaker 8 (24:44):
Less polite, which is that we need to say goodbye
to one person before the next round.
Speaker 3 (24:51):
So with that said, yes, take it away, don't hate
me for it.
Speaker 4 (24:55):
You are all great, beautiful, talented individual but we do
have to match a little bit more of the people
who our main data has things in common with. For
that reason, today, the person that is not moving forward.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Isonics thank you so much for being with us.
Speaker 6 (25:14):
Yeah, thank you for having me.
Speaker 13 (25:15):
Bye, y'all, bye, We'll be back after the break. Welcome
back today, my Hourily the first.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Well, congratulations to our final two contestants.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
This is a time where we would.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Like to give you an opportunity to dive deeper, be
more intimate with one on one's caf that I'm gonna
step out so that hourly then you have that deep
dive into much more intimate questions. So Nico, I'm gonna
hand you over for a little cafes lead that holy.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Lead, that empty How are you, my love?
Speaker 6 (25:58):
Oh good?
Speaker 4 (25:59):
Let's talk a little bit about Nico's love life? What
is that about these days?
Speaker 3 (26:03):
My love life?
Speaker 1 (26:04):
These days?
Speaker 5 (26:05):
Well, just move back to Los Angeles after I think
twenty years or so and only been here for two
months so far, so kind of just living presently and
having fun and hoping to meet people like to spend
time with along the way.
Speaker 4 (26:17):
Well, talk to me about two months prior, where were
you and did you have a relationship during that time
and what happened before that?
Speaker 5 (26:24):
I was actually living in Bosa, Montana. Now I was
spending some time with my sister for a while just
quite nice, and then before that was living in Savannah, Georgia.
There I had a relationship for a while and we
just have like different versions of what we imagine life
to be like in our coming future. So we're both
on our different journeys.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
What was your version? What did you want in that
relationship that you were not getting?
Speaker 5 (26:46):
I'm a bit on like thinking about fertility as that
kind of comes up in like being thirty nine years old,
so it's like something I want to grapple with and
kind of want a partner that's down with juggling that
at some point.
Speaker 12 (26:56):
But also I know, like.
Speaker 5 (26:58):
Fertility timeline and like real relationship timeline sometimes like fall
on different in paces. So currently just also down to
connect and you know, meet people along the way and
see if that's a shared path or there's different versions
of having really great connections and like intimacy too.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
Would you like to get married?
Speaker 5 (27:15):
I mean, if it works out, great, but I don't
think it's my end all be all.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
I guess now, do you have a specific communication style
that you would like your partner to share with you.
Speaker 5 (27:23):
I'm like more of a monerable communicator, but that's something
I've definitely been honing in and doing a lot better
these days, that's for sure.
Speaker 4 (27:30):
And so it would be nice if your partner communicates
a little bit more and then you'd be joining in.
Speaker 5 (27:35):
Yeah, communication, but also like with the era of some
like intuitive communication too, and sometimes like things always don't
come out well with the words, so you know, that's
like one of the ways, but not to discount other
ways of communicating to So.
Speaker 4 (27:48):
You have a day off and you're both free, how
do you spend that wonderful day?
Speaker 3 (27:53):
Do you just get up and go and say, let's
do something? What do you do? What do you do?
Speaker 5 (27:57):
I think it depends on how the context has been.
Like if it's a day we just need to chill,
it would be really nice just to sleep in because
it is such a luxury.
Speaker 3 (28:04):
To not rush too much.
Speaker 5 (28:06):
Right, I think current situation of having the best day
ever would be to have no set plan, the lots
of creations of like literally delightful things, and probably like
pack a little bag with all the with all the
tricks in the treats so we can kind of just
see where heart takes us.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Sorry to interrupt, but there is another piping cup of
guff see the waiting for you. Thank you so much, Nico, Dana, Dana,
I'm gonna hand.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
You over for a little hot cup of guff.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
Take it away. Oh let me Dana. How are you good?
Speaker 12 (28:48):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (28:49):
I am doing really well. Thank you for being with us.
But I'm going to ask you a little personal question.
Speaker 3 (28:54):
Now. Talk to me about your love life in the
past year or two.
Speaker 9 (28:57):
So I actually have been single for the last year,
which is the longest I've been single. It was kind
of intentional. I have been doing the last year a
lot of self discovery, self work, which has been great,
like a lot of therapy. For some reason, I have
like this three year mark, so the last few relationships,
it's been like three three and a half years.
Speaker 3 (29:19):
Is that something you would doing intentionally?
Speaker 9 (29:21):
I think my problem is when I do kind of
see red flags, I really really want to make it work,
so I put in the effort.
Speaker 12 (29:28):
I think it's kind of coincidental that it just kind
of seems to be three years now.
Speaker 4 (29:33):
You mentioned you would see those red flags and then
you would try harder to work on the relationship.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
What do you think that is and how have you
handled that?
Speaker 9 (29:42):
Probably just from growing up in any household where you know,
my parents that are not together, and it wasn't always
the greatest, but I've always wanted, you know, a relationship.
I want partnership, and I really wanted to work. So
I feel like, I don't know, you know, it's like
seeing those signs, it's I kind of give people full
the benefit of the doubt, right and it's like, we're.
Speaker 12 (30:02):
Going to work through this.
Speaker 9 (30:04):
And then I think that has been a lot of
the work too, just realizing that you can't make excuses
for other people, Like people will show you who they
truly are and you have to take it for what
it is, and that's okay. You know, forcing something is
eventually it's gonna come out in the end. You know,
you can't fake it until you make it. You know,
in a relationship, a.
Speaker 4 (30:23):
Lot of people do, Now, what are these beautiful green
flags that are coming your way with a new relationship?
Speaker 3 (30:29):
What are they? What do you want to.
Speaker 9 (30:31):
See someone who is I think emotionally mature. I have
big feelings and I have a lot of emotions, and
I love, love, love, love to connect with people who
are the same and can go deep. But there's a
difference between having a lot of emotions and feelings and
feeling them and then not being able to like regulate
(30:53):
and you know self sooth. I think that's really important
to me, is like you can have all that, but
you need to know how you don't just dun't on
your partner.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
Right, How do you handle conflict? I know we don't
want it, but if it happens, what do you do?
Speaker 9 (31:07):
A lot of the times I'll take a bet. I
have learned from the past, and the way that I
can react is if you just react immediately to your
emotion when something comes up, it's usually not the.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
Best reaction or response, right, So.
Speaker 9 (31:23):
Taking a minute to sit with it. And also like
if it's something like bigger that feels treadering, taking a moment,
why is it?
Speaker 12 (31:30):
Is it this situation that is really triggering me?
Speaker 6 (31:33):
Or is there.
Speaker 3 (31:33):
Right something else behind the memory of another one? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (31:37):
Yeah, yeah, where you've been which is very hard to
leave just everything behind. Well, I really hope that by
the end of the show we are able to connect
that main data with one of you two.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
And thank you for your answers.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
Absolutely, thank you so much, Dana Elena. These were very
successful one on one Facto they are you feeling closer
to knowing?
Speaker 9 (31:59):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (31:59):
You Yeah, beautiful, beautiful Nico, welcome back, a wilda.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
I think we might have to share one more secret.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
Oh is that time again?
Speaker 2 (32:09):
So our main dater has actually been undercover this whole time,
listening in since the very beginning.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
Checking.
Speaker 2 (32:17):
Indeed, Alida might have an idea of who she likes.
But let's see if we have a unanimous decision. So
muchis Grasies. We're gonna ask you for a quick exit
and we'll bring back our main contestant.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
Well, amazing Alida.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
I think we might have a unanimous decision on this one.
So we're all leaning on Dana.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
We're all leaning on you.
Speaker 4 (32:45):
Yeah, and I think my Sonia is also leaning Yeah,
is that correct?
Speaker 6 (32:49):
You know what?
Speaker 7 (32:50):
I was definitely fifty to fifty pretty much. Maybe a
little bit more tournis Dana, but that Nico is thinking
about children when there's no way that I want a
baby in my life other than a grand baby.
Speaker 6 (33:02):
Ye, and she said that was a deal breaker for
her last relationship.
Speaker 3 (33:05):
So god, you know what.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
Also, I don't know if you've been taking notes, but
if you heard the bios that Vico is reading at
the beginning.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
She really does have a lot of things in common
with you.
Speaker 7 (33:16):
The spirituality she's done, the therapy. She seems mature. My
only thing is she is she wild enough for me?
Or can she have my wildness?
Speaker 3 (33:25):
Well, hey, you can share and teach. But also remember
Dana does not cook.
Speaker 6 (33:32):
I don't cook either. I guess we eat out all
the time.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Nico is such a cutie.
Speaker 2 (33:37):
I can just see Nico wearing elf ears and being
a doctor.
Speaker 1 (33:44):
Nymph.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
Uh, very smart, such a such a cutie is so smart,
so intellectual, very thoughtful.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
As well with her words.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
But yeah, I think ultimately that emotional attunement that Dana
gave was the one that like won.
Speaker 3 (34:00):
All of our hearts.
Speaker 4 (34:01):
Yes, so, I think at one point though, Nico is
just such an amazing individual and would be a great
friend to our main data. Eventually they would go in
different ways correct, Yes, so different paths.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
But I think we have made our decision and we
sure we're gonna enjoy it.
Speaker 8 (34:17):
All right, let's bring in the contestants. Welcome back, Welcome back.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
The jury has a verdict, Yes, we do, and I
will leave that are ready, Yeah, go for it?
Speaker 4 (34:34):
Well, you are both incredible ladies. But the one who
actually was a little bit closer to our main data
and how they see live, and for that reason, the
one meeting our main dat today is Dana.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
Congratulations Dana and Nico, my goodness, you are so sweet,
so kind. I don't know if you're fantasy nerd, but
if you ever wear el fears, let me know, because
I think that will look so great on you, because
I also wear el fears, like.
Speaker 5 (35:08):
I skipted some once upon a time.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
I think I still have them and I'm back.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
Yeah, yeah, well, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Welcome back to LA. I know you mentioned you just
moved here, so welcome. Congrats on the move and hopefully
we'll see you soon.
Speaker 3 (35:21):
Yes, and much success and all you do here.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
Absolutely, thank you, Thank you. Dana. Congratulations. How are you feeling?
Speaker 12 (35:32):
I feel wonderful, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Beautiful, amazing.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Well, I mean, without further Ado, let's go ahead and
meet the main dater, Sonia, come.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
Ahead and turn on your camera and meet Dana. Sonia.
First impressions on Dana.
Speaker 3 (35:52):
I think she's cute, Yes, I love it.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Dana. First impressions on Sonia same same, Yes, Oh, God's amazing.
Speaker 7 (36:02):
I think Dana, you are an attractive lady, but I
have to tell you, in being a spy and listening,
you're a lot of what I'm looking for. I love
how you speak about emotional maturity and how you're doing
work on yourself and how you purposely took time to
be single.
Speaker 6 (36:19):
That's exactly what I've been doing.
Speaker 7 (36:21):
So I think we have a lot of common in that,
and I'm excited to get to know anymore.
Speaker 4 (36:25):
Yes, amazing each of you, and please enjoy the ride.
Speaker 3 (36:32):
Have fun. Oh I love it beautiful.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Now we're going to send our condescens away for a
little virtual day to have fun.
Speaker 7 (36:40):
Yeah, Coyotes, I know probably more about you than you
know about me.
Speaker 6 (36:46):
So is there anything that you want to ask me?
Speaker 12 (36:49):
Yeah? Like what do you do and where are you from? Originally?
Speaker 7 (36:53):
I'm born and raised in La in a little city
called Alhambra.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (36:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (36:58):
I like to ride bi, I love to ride my bikey.
Speaker 12 (37:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (37:01):
I love sports. Have you heard of Angels City Football Club? Yes?
Speaker 7 (37:04):
Absolutely, I'm a season ticket holder there, so I was
just there on Sunday.
Speaker 6 (37:09):
I just picked up pick a ball.
Speaker 12 (37:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (37:12):
I like to try new things. I'm really looking for
someone that's emotionally mature. I think that's why you got selected.
Some of your answers were almost I could have said
the exact same thing. I take my time in dating.
I want to get to know people as friends. I
want a friendship. I'm not a ue hauler, not at
all good. What about you?
Speaker 6 (37:34):
What do you like to do?
Speaker 3 (37:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 12 (37:37):
Pick a ball. I love that you're started.
Speaker 6 (37:39):
I'm a newbie. You got to teach me.
Speaker 12 (37:41):
Yes, I would love to. I try to get everyone
into it. It's kind of so get ready.
Speaker 7 (37:46):
Oh yeah, I only I only started like a week ago,
and already I'm going on Saturday.
Speaker 12 (37:50):
Oh yeah, it's so good.
Speaker 9 (37:51):
It's such a like anyone can play and you see
no joke, like your improvement, and if it gets exciting,
you're like, this is amazing.
Speaker 6 (38:00):
I already fell my first time I went. You know
my mind.
Speaker 7 (38:02):
I don't know if you've heard of my bio, but
I think I'm twelve years old.
Speaker 6 (38:06):
I'm a little older. How old are you?
Speaker 7 (38:09):
I'm forty three, all right, I'm fifty five, okay, so
but in my head, i'm twelve. Like I'm the youngest
fifty five person you'll ever meet. Like I'm young at heart.
I have friends all different ages, so same.
Speaker 5 (38:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (38:23):
And I love that you're into spirituality and meditation and
all of that, because I told the ladies that that's
that's important to me. I don't mind introducing people that
I meet into that kind of stuff, but it's so much.
Speaker 6 (38:37):
Better when they already know about it and.
Speaker 7 (38:40):
Practice it, and you know, I think it makes a
difference in how you handle things.
Speaker 12 (38:43):
Yes, agreed totally.
Speaker 7 (38:45):
How you talked about working on yourself just really hit
with me, and I thought, Hi, I can go to
sound bath with her, you know, and then we can
go to pick a ball and then we have a
pretty pool, you know, like you know. The only thing
that I have to say was a negative for you, Dana. Right,
we're gonna have an issue. I don't cook either, No, No,
(39:08):
we won't. I am very good at going out to eat.
And there's a million wonderful restaurants.
Speaker 5 (39:13):
In Long Beat.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Well.
Speaker 1 (39:21):
Wow, wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
I hope those sweeties headed off. Find us back here
next week as Leanna and I make some more matches.
Speaker 3 (39:31):
Good work today, Oh, we did good. I like what
I'm looking at date my ali.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
The first is a production from WV Sound and iHeart
Media's Michaultura podcast network hosted by me Vico Ortiz, joined
by the fabulous Lenna Montenegro bait My Auri. The first
is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel and Sophie Spencer Zavos.
Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama, Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel.
W V Sound This This episode was edited by Sean
(40:01):
Tracy and Sophie Spencer Zavos and features original music.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
By Alva Morello and gave Lopez.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
Special thanks to our team of cubits at WV Entertainment.
Speaker 1 (40:11):
Special Things.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
Also to our hopeful romantics this week, Sonia, Onyx, Dana
and Nico. Additional thanks to Assault and Lime Media. See
you next week and in the meantime, don't do anything
a Wilita wouldn't do.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
Just do it better, okay, Besitos
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