December 25, 2024 • 26 mins
It's the most wonderful time of the year, and Sophia feels grateful and ready to tackle the new year and a new Q&A!
Yes, Sophia is answering fan questions, including revealing what's on her vision board for next year, her lifelong dream and how she is going to make it a reality in 2025, her Spotify Wrapped playlist, One Tree Hill holiday traditions, how she is practicing hope, and her top Christmas movies, including one film that some might not consider a holiday classic!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, everyone, it's Sophia. Welcome to Work in Progress. Happy holidays, friends,
It's the most wonderful time of the year, as they say,
(00:20):
and we are feeling so grateful for all of you,
for our listeners, for our community, for all these whip
smart humans who care and show up for each other.
Really the global community of folks who are here with
me and with our whole team at Work in Progress.
We just were impressed by you. We cherish you, and
(00:44):
thanks for being here to say thank you and maybe
close out the year or kick off the new year. However,
we want to look at it together. We thought it
might be nice to dive into some of your wonderful
questions and then close out twenty twenty four together. So
(01:04):
let's dig in. Our first question is from Grace. Hello, Hi,
I hope you're having a great day. She asked, what
has brought you the most joy this year? I think
this year for so many people has been filled with
ups and downs, right, And I know because I look
(01:25):
at the inbox and I see the things you all
are thinking about, contemplating, excited about, scared by. I know
there's a lot of trepidation about what's to come in
twenty twenty five. So what I want to say is
I get it. I feel you. It's scary to think
that our democracy might change, that our rights might change.
(01:48):
But here's what I'm going to promise you. What I'm
going to share is that win or lose, I love
fighting for democracy. I loved every single second on the
campaign trail, being out across the country, meeting with so
many of you, knocking on doors, organizing around what it
means to build a country that gets closer and closer
(02:12):
to achieving the promise of its ideals. Campaigning and volunteering is,
without a doubt, a highlight of my life, and it was,
without a doubt a highlight of this entire year for me.
And I also really loved the merch clearly, So there
you go. On the lighthearted side of it. I am
(02:34):
still rocking my custom embroidered camo, and I am still
Coach's biggest fan. Truly, being reminded that so many of
us care about each other and are willing to show
up for each other and yes, we'll vote for each
other really brings me a lot of joy. And even
(02:55):
if we might you know, disagree or want a debate
policy or how best to solve a problem. One of
the things I cherish about this country is that we
are able to do so. We can debate, we can share,
we can talk, we can argue, and we're lucky enough
to live in a place where it's possible to do that.
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So no matter how you're feeling about it, just know
that we're in this together and community is key. Here
we go twenty twenty five, Hayley asks what advice do
you have for Oh, this is related to the last question, certainly,
(03:39):
what advice do you have for dealing with anxiety about
what the new year holds, especially with the new administration.
I've been talking a lot about this with my friends
and my colleagues and fellow advocates, volunteers, friends, even my therapist.
(04:00):
And my therapist told me something that can be hard
to stick to, but I really do believe makes all
the difference, and it certainly has been for me. He said,
start keeping track of when it goes right. We do
so much worrying about what could go wrong, and we
are more connected than ever, which means we also see
(04:20):
what is going wrong in ways that a generation ago
we didn't. But if we can start keeping a list,
keeping track of what goes right, you know, with everything, life, love, politics,
local things happening in your community, good news that you read.
(04:42):
There are actual accounts on Instagram that only post good news.
I suggest following them. They are important for my mental health,
all of it. It feels really important to not just
keep that worry list that we all can't help but keep,
and whether it's in our brains or on payp but
to actually keep a list of when things go well,
(05:05):
when there are winds big and small. Some people call
it a gratitude practice. I actually started a new little
tradition this year that I'll tell you about in a
minute to work on this. But I'm telling you it
does shift something inside of you. It changes how you
how you feel when you wake up in the morning,
(05:27):
how you move throughout your day, how you show up
for your people. I think it really is a way
to practice hope and to be reminded of joy. So
I would recommend that Hayley Sophie asks, what are your
Christmas traditions? I mean, first and foremost, how many years
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in a row do you think is too many years
in a row to watch the holiday? Answer? For me, never,
It is one of my favorite things to do the
minute we get past Thanksgiving here in the US. And
then a tradition that I read about that I actually
have now altered a bit for myself is to start
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I don't know what you want to call it, actually,
I can't remember what the video said. For me, it's
a good things jar kind of relates to Hayley's last question.
And the idea is that once a week, you minimum
once a week, by the way, you write on a
little piece of paper something great that happened, and you
put in a jar. And when I read about this,
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the person who suggested it said, you know, and then
we open them up on New Year's and that's how
we mark the new year. And I thought, well, I
think I want to open them up like a week
before New Year's. I want to open my jar at
the start of the last week of the year, in
the midst of the holidays, and really reflect on everything
that went right in the last year and everything that
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brought me enough joy that I stopped I was doing
and wrote it down. And then I can spend that
last week of the year saying thank you, feeling grateful,
relishing in every positive thing, and then that can be
the energy that I take into New Year City of
in New Year's Day. So the holiday is one of
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my oldest traditions and the jar is my newest. Jessica,
why didn't you post your Spotify wrapped? I mean, no
one is surprised. Tovlo is my top artist. I think
she might be forever. I love her both as a person,
which is really wild. You know, it's wild when you're
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a fan of someone and then you get to become
their friend. I love her as a person, I love
her as an artist. I love her as a creative.
I just think she is like a one Sinner generation talent.
So yeah, she's She's my top. We'll be back in
just a minute. But here's a word from our sponsors.
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Claire asks, ooh, oh goodness. I like that you said
she gave me options. She said, what are your goals
or resolutions for next year? I love that. I think
resolutions kind of set us up to fail, but I
do believe that thinking about goals is great. So since
I think it's the season to start getting realistic, Like
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I've learned the hard way that saying oh this is
going to be my new practice, and I'm going to
do this workout five days a week, and I'm going
to start meditating, and I'm going to take these forty
vitamins and I'm going to sleep eight hours. Like, come on,
I'm not a robot. And I'm also old habits die
hard kids, So let's get realistic. What I do want
to do is try to commit not to you know,
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some crazy schedule or whatever, but I would like to
commit to moving my body just for twenty minutes a day.
I'm I'm kind of an all or nothing person. I
hear that that's very common for folks with ADHD. You're
very black or white. You're all in or you're all out.
And it's really hard to be that, especially when health
comes into play, because I will always put my health
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on the back burner because I'll say, well, there's all
these important things happening in the world, and that class
or that hike that's just for me, and I don't
really have time. I don't have time to drive an
hour across town and then do this thing for an
hour and then you know, shower there and then drive
home or race home and try to shower while I'm
you know, on a you know, muted on a conference call.
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Pretending the showers not running like it's it's crazy. Nobody
has enough time. So one of the things I really
want to try to do this year, instead of making
the goals too rigid and specific, is just to say,
for twenty minutes a day could be a walk around
the neighborhood. I could do a call on a walk.
It could be you know, meeting a friend for something.
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It could be whatever. You know. If I'm traveling, like
get on the treadmill at the hotel, just for twenty minutes,
just to move, because it can get really easy for
me to realize I've been hunched in front of a computer,
you know, working and zooming and recording and plotting and
meeting and all the things for five days. I'll realize
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I haven't even gone outside. You know. That's not great.
So I like the idea of a more gentle commitment
that will be good for my physical and mental health.
So that's definitely one I guess in general, less of
the black and white all in all out, let's aim
for a gray, and I mean that in a happy way.
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A gray twenty twenty five. My next one, oh my goodness,
is to really embody melt Robbins I love and her
let them philosophy, And basically what Mel says is, look,
if you've got people in your life that insist on
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acting a certain way, insist you act in a certain way,
you know, demand that you be something that makes you miserable,
act like they're owed every detail of your life, who
show you who they are, and frankly, it's just not
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in line with where you want to be, who you
want to be. Okay, let them who cares? I think
we have to stop letting other people's opinions consume us.
I think we have to stop doing the thing where
we we let other people make us feel smaller. So
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next year, I really want to embrace the let them theory.
I want to let go of expectations that I had
or that i've I might even still have for people.
And I just know that not everyone's for me, And
by the way, I'm not for everyone. I don't need
to worry so much if not everybody likes me. I
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like me and the rest of the noise out there,
I'm I'm really going to try not to let consume me.
I know it's human for us to be affected. How
could we not, but at least for me. Like, let's say,
if I go on Instagram, there's one of me and
there's you know, that number of people following is four
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point six million people. That's not an equation I'm ever
going to win. You know, there's only one of me,
there's millions and millions of folks out there looking this way.
I don't know how some of my you know, favorite
superstars who are in the like hundreds of millions of
people look in their way do it. Truly, I think
I would have a nervous breakdown. But I'm just going
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to remind myself that who cares let them. If it's kind, wonderful,
thank you. I can't let that boost me too much.
And if it's cruel, you don't know me, have a
nice life, don't let it affect me. So that's that's
certainly something that I want to work on, which probably
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brings me to my next goal resolution thing. I sort
of hate to say it, but I do think that
a little less time on social media feels important. I
think for me as an individual. I think for me
as a person who was also so active politically this year,
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I think a lot of us are still kind of
coming down from the election and really feeling the effects
of the algorithm. You know, the algorithm really did its thing.
You know it did when you see a seven hundred
percent increase in people saying what is a tariff? And
can I change my vote? The Internet, we spend so
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much time on, is hiding information from us based on
what information we look at, and I don't think that
that's healthy. I have to remind myself a lot that
I get shown things strategically, and sometimes that's good, but
sometimes it's bad. And so for me, I just think
it feels like time for a little less not like
a total break. I'm not leaving, but I think I
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want to spend a little more time in the paper
pages of things and a little less time on the
digital scroll, you know. And then my biggest resolution probably
is to write more in every single form. I find
it so healing. I find that when I write, I'm
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really able to process feelings in ways that I can't
verbally as well, you know, when I'm talking through things
in real time. Sure that can be great, you know,
with your friends, but I've I've definitely also experienced over
the last couple of years with these podcasts, which I love,
but I catch myself having these aha moments, going, oh
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my god, I've just realized in this in this moment,
this thing or this idea or that memory, and that's okay.
But I don't know as a as a person who's
also been in the public eye for two decades, sometimes
I think it's nice to keep some things for me
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and then maybe speak on them when I've processed them
a little bit more or a little bit better. And
I process my best in writing, So that's definitely going
to be a big part of my practice for the
next year. Joyce says, what are you looking forward to
the most in twenty twenty five? Oh, my goodness, other
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than just enjoying this life that I finally really love.
Oh my brain just sort of dropped an image for me.
I don't think we've really ever talked about this. My
friends know this, but I don't think it's come up
on the podcast. I have had a lifelong dream. Since
I was a kid and I would road trip with
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my parents. I have always dreamt of having like one
of those beautiful old airstreams. I think they're the coolest.
I just they're so nostalgic for me. They're like romantic
for me. The classic car lover in me is obsessed
with them. And yeah, my dream is to finally acquire
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and restore an old airstream, Like in my brain, I'm
going to do a full top to bottom rehno, and
do like the kitchen and the bathroom and the whole thing.
Will see how it goes. I'm not bad with a
circular sauce, so honestly, I might crush it. First. I
have to find the airstream, clearly, But if I actually
get to start that project in twenty twenty five, I'm
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really get a feel like I'm winning. We'll be back
in just a minute, but here's a word from our sponsors.
Cleo asks, what are your top three Christmas movies? Well,
obviously The Holiday I'm a huge love actually fan. I
know that there are things about that movie that feel,
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you know, problematic, now I just still love it. It's
very nostalgic to me, and yeah, it's one of those
that I always want to watch. I'm such a fan
of Bill Nye. I think Emma Thompson is so brilliant.
I just really enjoy it and it always makes me
feel like it's the Christmas season. And then I feel
like there should be a no brainer for me because
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John McLean was the reason I like wanted to play
a cop in Anything but die Hard. Bruce Willis is
a hero from Robin. When you were filming Onetreal, did
the cast have any holiday traditions? Oh, this is a
good one. You know. It's funny because when you're filming,
it's usually a few days that you get off for
(18:04):
Thanksgiving and then you're off normally for two weeks from
right before Christmas kind of depends on more Hankah falls
obviously every year, and then to right after New Year's
So we didn't have holiday traditions in terms of this
time of year. Our big holiday traditions were our Halloween parties.
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Hillary was the master party planner, like extraordinariy. She's sort
of like the spooky Martha Stewart of our friend group,
and so Halloween was our big holiday because we were
always in town for that. Alexa asks, how have you
changed and grown as a person in twenty twenty four?
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Ooh wow, I mean one whole year of being fully
in my body, feeling fully in my body, feeling like
myself the first time since I don't know, I was
maybe like eight years old was pretty wild, pretty special.
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Everything has grown and everything has changed, and still I
in some way feel more myself. I feel more at
ease with everything. That feels pretty special. I mean, obviously
more at ease with everything this year, aside from November fifth.
That day sucked, but I feel like I addressed that earlier.
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Maddie asks, where do you think Brook and Peyton would
be in twenty twenty five? Oh my god, I think
about this all the time. You know how Joey and
Chandler lived right across the hall from Monica and Rachel
like that, if we were in New York, we would
live across the hall from each other. And if we're
in Wilmington, our you know fictional tree hill. I feel like,
are we neighbors? Like do we live literally next door
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to each other? Do we live right across the street
from each other? I don't know, but close walking distance,
quick knock on the door. Absolutely. Jenny asks what is
a health habit you want to add your routine in
twenty twenty five? Oh? Well, I talked about wanting to move,
just like, get up, go for a walk, shake it
out twenty minutes a day. That's a big one, and
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I guess if I was going to add anything else
to it. I want to spend a little more time
on mind fullness, you know, really shutting off, focusing on
breathing sleep. And it's not lost on me that I
read sleep stories to kids on the call map Yannie
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mcdonnie is my girl. But I never give myself a
sleep story or like, you know, a ten minute guided
meditation or something. And I want to do that for me.
I want to take care of myself the way I
take care of other people. So, yeah, you just made
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me think about something else. Jenny, thank you. I like
this question from Lucy. My friends and I have a
New Year's Eve tradition of making vision boards. What's on
your vision board for twenty twenty five? Oh, my goodness. Well, health, obviously, movement, clearly,
some mindfulness. I know. I made a joke earlier about
how every time I try to become a vitamin person,
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I try to take you know, forty supplements. I think,
maybe just like three three things that are good for
me a day. You know what do they say? Like
zinc so you don't get sick. COQ ten is supposed
to be really good for women. I don't know something else,
you guys, tell me what you think is great. I
just no more filling up my pantry with like bottles
of supplements that never get used on the vision board
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for twenty twenty five. Okay, these are big goals. I
want to work on a show that fills me with joy,
that pushes me creatively, and where I am surrounded by
amazing women that are in charge on set. I really
want to travel. I mean, you, guys, I don't know.
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If you follow those belm on trains, it looks like
like a Wes Anderson movie or something out of I
don't know, like a vintage chic fever dream. They're like
these these trains, I don't know. I want to take
a train somewhere and feel like a fancy lady from
the nineteen forties with like a little carrying case, you know,
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and go across a continent and see things I've never seen.
So often when we travel, it's you know, jump on
the plane and then go straight to the event, or
go get off the plane and go give a speech
and then go to this meeting and then get back
on the plane so you can make it home for
set the next day. And we don't even pay attention,
and I really want to travel intentionally and actually put
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my eyeballs on more of the world and more of
the countryside flying by a window, and then what else
goes on my vision board? I Oh, so many people
have actually asked me this since I dyed my hair red.
Everyone's like, wait, we love this. Would you ever want
to do a hair campaign? And like, yeah, I'm a
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child of the eighties who grew up in the cultural nineties,
I would love that, Like, you know, the swishy, shiny
hair moment. I just feel like that'd be so fun.
It feels like a real career bucket list, or like
a you're worth it, a little loreal moment, or maybe
she's born with it. Maybe it's mabelne. I remember those
jingles from commercials when I was a teenager and just
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being like WHOA. So I don't know. Maybe that stuff
only exists on social media now, but it feels a
little vintage and chic to me. Oh, this is a
really good question from Sam. You have fifty dollars to
spend in fifteen minutes to shop for a gift. Where
are you going? Ooh, fifty dollars to spend fifteen minutes.
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I would probably want to go somewhere with a really
wide variety of stuff like home goods, because then I
could run up and down the aisles and see, like, Oh,
is there a tray I want to give someone for
holiday hosting? Is it this handle? Is it a pillow?
Is it a throw blanket? Is it I don't know,
whatever other amazing random thing I could find. Likewise, this
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is gonna sound crazy to you about Costco Major, because
at Costco you can get everything from like tech to
giant utility sized boxes of snacks to jewelry. So I
actually feel like I could really win my version of
like a gift giving supermarket sweep at Costco. I think
I would crush. Oh and we have a Samantha, what
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is your favorite Christmas dessert? Oh? Boy, guys, I feel
like I've talked about this just recently. Oh I did.
I was talking to Rob and Joy about this on
the other podcast. I'm not really a sweet person. I
am a savory gal. I would rather have a bowl
of French fries for dessert than a dessert for dessert.
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But if you have some sort of incredible savory baked
good that you do for Christmas. Send the recipe to
us here at Work in Progress, and maybe we'll talk
about it in twenty twenty five. That's the holiday gift
that I wish to get from you all, is your
baked good recipes. You never know, I might become a
baker next year, in addition to becoming a person who
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actually goes on a walk for twenty minutes a day.
Whatever your traditions are, whatever your goals are. Also, if
you feel comfortable, please send us those. We can keep
them anonymous too. I hope you enjoy them. I hope
you achieve them. I hope you have an amazing end
to your year. Happy holidays everyone, For me and our
whole team here at Work in Progress, we love and
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appreciate you, and we hope you ring in twenty twenty
five feeling wonderful. Have a good one
Hi, everyone, it's Sophia. Welcome to Work in Progress. Happy holidays, friends,
It's the most wonderful time of the year, as they say,
(00:20):
and we are feeling so grateful for all of you,
for our listeners, for our community, for all these whip
smart humans who care and show up for each other.
Really the global community of folks who are here with
me and with our whole team at Work in Progress.
We just were impressed by you. We cherish you, and
(00:44):
thanks for being here to say thank you and maybe
close out the year or kick off the new year. However,
we want to look at it together. We thought it
might be nice to dive into some of your wonderful
questions and then close out twenty twenty four together. So
(01:04):
let's dig in. Our first question is from Grace. Hello, Hi,
I hope you're having a great day. She asked, what
has brought you the most joy this year? I think
this year for so many people has been filled with
ups and downs, right, And I know because I look
(01:25):
at the inbox and I see the things you all
are thinking about, contemplating, excited about, scared by. I know
there's a lot of trepidation about what's to come in
twenty twenty five. So what I want to say is
I get it. I feel you. It's scary to think
that our democracy might change, that our rights might change.
(01:48):
But here's what I'm going to promise you. What I'm
going to share is that win or lose, I love
fighting for democracy. I loved every single second on the
campaign trail, being out across the country, meeting with so
many of you, knocking on doors, organizing around what it
means to build a country that gets closer and closer
(02:12):
to achieving the promise of its ideals. Campaigning and volunteering is,
without a doubt, a highlight of my life, and it was,
without a doubt a highlight of this entire year for me.
And I also really loved the merch clearly, So there
you go. On the lighthearted side of it. I am
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still rocking my custom embroidered camo, and I am still
Coach's biggest fan. Truly, being reminded that so many of
us care about each other and are willing to show
up for each other and yes, we'll vote for each
other really brings me a lot of joy. And even
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if we might you know, disagree or want a debate
policy or how best to solve a problem. One of
the things I cherish about this country is that we
are able to do so. We can debate, we can share,
we can talk, we can argue, and we're lucky enough
to live in a place where it's possible to do that.
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So no matter how you're feeling about it, just know
that we're in this together and community is key. Here
we go twenty twenty five, Hayley asks what advice do
you have for Oh, this is related to the last question, certainly,
(03:39):
what advice do you have for dealing with anxiety about
what the new year holds, especially with the new administration.
I've been talking a lot about this with my friends
and my colleagues and fellow advocates, volunteers, friends, even my therapist.
(04:00):
And my therapist told me something that can be hard
to stick to, but I really do believe makes all
the difference, and it certainly has been for me. He said,
start keeping track of when it goes right. We do
so much worrying about what could go wrong, and we
are more connected than ever, which means we also see
(04:20):
what is going wrong in ways that a generation ago
we didn't. But if we can start keeping a list,
keeping track of what goes right, you know, with everything, life, love, politics,
local things happening in your community, good news that you read.
(04:42):
There are actual accounts on Instagram that only post good news.
I suggest following them. They are important for my mental health,
all of it. It feels really important to not just
keep that worry list that we all can't help but keep,
and whether it's in our brains or on payp but
to actually keep a list of when things go well,
(05:05):
when there are winds big and small. Some people call
it a gratitude practice. I actually started a new little
tradition this year that I'll tell you about in a
minute to work on this. But I'm telling you it
does shift something inside of you. It changes how you
how you feel when you wake up in the morning,
(05:27):
how you move throughout your day, how you show up
for your people. I think it really is a way
to practice hope and to be reminded of joy. So
I would recommend that Hayley Sophie asks, what are your
Christmas traditions? I mean, first and foremost, how many years
(05:49):
in a row do you think is too many years
in a row to watch the holiday? Answer? For me, never,
It is one of my favorite things to do the
minute we get past Thanksgiving here in the US. And
then a tradition that I read about that I actually
have now altered a bit for myself is to start
(06:14):
I don't know what you want to call it, actually,
I can't remember what the video said. For me, it's
a good things jar kind of relates to Hayley's last question.
And the idea is that once a week, you minimum
once a week, by the way, you write on a
little piece of paper something great that happened, and you
put in a jar. And when I read about this,
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the person who suggested it said, you know, and then
we open them up on New Year's and that's how
we mark the new year. And I thought, well, I
think I want to open them up like a week
before New Year's. I want to open my jar at
the start of the last week of the year, in
the midst of the holidays, and really reflect on everything
that went right in the last year and everything that
(06:58):
brought me enough joy that I stopped I was doing
and wrote it down. And then I can spend that
last week of the year saying thank you, feeling grateful,
relishing in every positive thing, and then that can be
the energy that I take into New Year City of
in New Year's Day. So the holiday is one of
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my oldest traditions and the jar is my newest. Jessica,
why didn't you post your Spotify wrapped? I mean, no
one is surprised. Tovlo is my top artist. I think
she might be forever. I love her both as a person,
which is really wild. You know, it's wild when you're
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a fan of someone and then you get to become
their friend. I love her as a person, I love
her as an artist. I love her as a creative.
I just think she is like a one Sinner generation talent.
So yeah, she's She's my top. We'll be back in
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Claire asks, ooh, oh goodness. I like that you said
she gave me options. She said, what are your goals
or resolutions for next year? I love that. I think
resolutions kind of set us up to fail, but I
do believe that thinking about goals is great. So since
I think it's the season to start getting realistic, Like
(08:28):
I've learned the hard way that saying oh this is
going to be my new practice, and I'm going to
do this workout five days a week, and I'm going
to start meditating, and I'm going to take these forty
vitamins and I'm going to sleep eight hours. Like, come on,
I'm not a robot. And I'm also old habits die
hard kids, So let's get realistic. What I do want
to do is try to commit not to you know,
(08:54):
some crazy schedule or whatever, but I would like to
commit to moving my body just for twenty minutes a day.
I'm I'm kind of an all or nothing person. I
hear that that's very common for folks with ADHD. You're
very black or white. You're all in or you're all out.
And it's really hard to be that, especially when health
comes into play, because I will always put my health
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on the back burner because I'll say, well, there's all
these important things happening in the world, and that class
or that hike that's just for me, and I don't
really have time. I don't have time to drive an
hour across town and then do this thing for an
hour and then you know, shower there and then drive
home or race home and try to shower while I'm
you know, on a you know, muted on a conference call.
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Pretending the showers not running like it's it's crazy. Nobody
has enough time. So one of the things I really
want to try to do this year, instead of making
the goals too rigid and specific, is just to say,
for twenty minutes a day could be a walk around
the neighborhood. I could do a call on a walk.
It could be you know, meeting a friend for something.
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It could be whatever. You know. If I'm traveling, like
get on the treadmill at the hotel, just for twenty minutes,
just to move, because it can get really easy for
me to realize I've been hunched in front of a computer,
you know, working and zooming and recording and plotting and
meeting and all the things for five days. I'll realize
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I haven't even gone outside. You know. That's not great.
So I like the idea of a more gentle commitment
that will be good for my physical and mental health.
So that's definitely one I guess in general, less of
the black and white all in all out, let's aim
for a gray, and I mean that in a happy way.
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A gray twenty twenty five. My next one, oh my goodness,
is to really embody melt Robbins I love and her
let them philosophy, And basically what Mel says is, look,
if you've got people in your life that insist on
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acting a certain way, insist you act in a certain way,
you know, demand that you be something that makes you miserable,
act like they're owed every detail of your life, who
show you who they are, and frankly, it's just not
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in line with where you want to be, who you
want to be. Okay, let them who cares? I think
we have to stop letting other people's opinions consume us.
I think we have to stop doing the thing where
we we let other people make us feel smaller. So
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next year, I really want to embrace the let them theory.
I want to let go of expectations that I had
or that i've I might even still have for people.
And I just know that not everyone's for me, And
by the way, I'm not for everyone. I don't need
to worry so much if not everybody likes me. I
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like me and the rest of the noise out there,
I'm I'm really going to try not to let consume me.
I know it's human for us to be affected. How
could we not, but at least for me. Like, let's say,
if I go on Instagram, there's one of me and
there's you know, that number of people following is four
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point six million people. That's not an equation I'm ever
going to win. You know, there's only one of me,
there's millions and millions of folks out there looking this way.
I don't know how some of my you know, favorite
superstars who are in the like hundreds of millions of
people look in their way do it. Truly, I think
I would have a nervous breakdown. But I'm just going
(12:58):
to remind myself that who cares let them. If it's kind, wonderful,
thank you. I can't let that boost me too much.
And if it's cruel, you don't know me, have a
nice life, don't let it affect me. So that's that's
certainly something that I want to work on, which probably
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brings me to my next goal resolution thing. I sort
of hate to say it, but I do think that
a little less time on social media feels important. I
think for me as an individual. I think for me
as a person who was also so active politically this year,
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I think a lot of us are still kind of
coming down from the election and really feeling the effects
of the algorithm. You know, the algorithm really did its thing.
You know it did when you see a seven hundred
percent increase in people saying what is a tariff? And
can I change my vote? The Internet, we spend so
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much time on, is hiding information from us based on
what information we look at, and I don't think that
that's healthy. I have to remind myself a lot that
I get shown things strategically, and sometimes that's good, but
sometimes it's bad. And so for me, I just think
it feels like time for a little less not like
a total break. I'm not leaving, but I think I
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want to spend a little more time in the paper
pages of things and a little less time on the
digital scroll, you know. And then my biggest resolution probably
is to write more in every single form. I find
it so healing. I find that when I write, I'm
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really able to process feelings in ways that I can't
verbally as well, you know, when I'm talking through things
in real time. Sure that can be great, you know,
with your friends, but I've I've definitely also experienced over
the last couple of years with these podcasts, which I love,
but I catch myself having these aha moments, going, oh
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my god, I've just realized in this in this moment,
this thing or this idea or that memory, and that's okay.
But I don't know as a as a person who's
also been in the public eye for two decades, sometimes
I think it's nice to keep some things for me
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and then maybe speak on them when I've processed them
a little bit more or a little bit better. And
I process my best in writing, So that's definitely going
to be a big part of my practice for the
next year. Joyce says, what are you looking forward to
the most in twenty twenty five? Oh, my goodness, other
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than just enjoying this life that I finally really love.
Oh my brain just sort of dropped an image for me.
I don't think we've really ever talked about this. My
friends know this, but I don't think it's come up
on the podcast. I have had a lifelong dream. Since
I was a kid and I would road trip with
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my parents. I have always dreamt of having like one
of those beautiful old airstreams. I think they're the coolest.
I just they're so nostalgic for me. They're like romantic
for me. The classic car lover in me is obsessed
with them. And yeah, my dream is to finally acquire
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and restore an old airstream, Like in my brain, I'm
going to do a full top to bottom rehno, and
do like the kitchen and the bathroom and the whole thing.
Will see how it goes. I'm not bad with a
circular sauce, so honestly, I might crush it. First. I
have to find the airstream, clearly, But if I actually
get to start that project in twenty twenty five, I'm
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really get a feel like I'm winning. We'll be back
in just a minute, but here's a word from our sponsors.
Cleo asks, what are your top three Christmas movies? Well,
obviously The Holiday I'm a huge love actually fan. I
know that there are things about that movie that feel,
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you know, problematic, now I just still love it. It's
very nostalgic to me, and yeah, it's one of those
that I always want to watch. I'm such a fan
of Bill Nye. I think Emma Thompson is so brilliant.
I just really enjoy it and it always makes me
feel like it's the Christmas season. And then I feel
like there should be a no brainer for me because
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John McLean was the reason I like wanted to play
a cop in Anything but die Hard. Bruce Willis is
a hero from Robin. When you were filming Onetreal, did
the cast have any holiday traditions? Oh, this is a
good one. You know. It's funny because when you're filming,
it's usually a few days that you get off for
(18:04):
Thanksgiving and then you're off normally for two weeks from
right before Christmas kind of depends on more Hankah falls
obviously every year, and then to right after New Year's
So we didn't have holiday traditions in terms of this
time of year. Our big holiday traditions were our Halloween parties.
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Hillary was the master party planner, like extraordinariy. She's sort
of like the spooky Martha Stewart of our friend group,
and so Halloween was our big holiday because we were
always in town for that. Alexa asks, how have you
changed and grown as a person in twenty twenty four?
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Ooh wow, I mean one whole year of being fully
in my body, feeling fully in my body, feeling like
myself the first time since I don't know, I was
maybe like eight years old was pretty wild, pretty special.
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Everything has grown and everything has changed, and still I
in some way feel more myself. I feel more at
ease with everything. That feels pretty special. I mean, obviously
more at ease with everything this year, aside from November fifth.
That day sucked, but I feel like I addressed that earlier.
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Maddie asks, where do you think Brook and Peyton would
be in twenty twenty five? Oh my god, I think
about this all the time. You know how Joey and
Chandler lived right across the hall from Monica and Rachel
like that, if we were in New York, we would
live across the hall from each other. And if we're
in Wilmington, our you know fictional tree hill. I feel like,
are we neighbors? Like do we live literally next door
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to each other? Do we live right across the street
from each other? I don't know, but close walking distance,
quick knock on the door. Absolutely. Jenny asks what is
a health habit you want to add your routine in
twenty twenty five? Oh? Well, I talked about wanting to move,
just like, get up, go for a walk, shake it
out twenty minutes a day. That's a big one, and
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I guess if I was going to add anything else
to it. I want to spend a little more time
on mind fullness, you know, really shutting off, focusing on
breathing sleep. And it's not lost on me that I
read sleep stories to kids on the call map Yannie
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mcdonnie is my girl. But I never give myself a
sleep story or like, you know, a ten minute guided
meditation or something. And I want to do that for me.
I want to take care of myself the way I
take care of other people. So, yeah, you just made
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me think about something else. Jenny, thank you. I like
this question from Lucy. My friends and I have a
New Year's Eve tradition of making vision boards. What's on
your vision board for twenty twenty five? Oh, my goodness. Well, health, obviously, movement, clearly,
some mindfulness. I know. I made a joke earlier about
how every time I try to become a vitamin person,
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I try to take you know, forty supplements. I think,
maybe just like three three things that are good for
me a day. You know what do they say? Like
zinc so you don't get sick. COQ ten is supposed
to be really good for women. I don't know something else,
you guys, tell me what you think is great. I
just no more filling up my pantry with like bottles
of supplements that never get used on the vision board
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for twenty twenty five. Okay, these are big goals. I
want to work on a show that fills me with joy,
that pushes me creatively, and where I am surrounded by
amazing women that are in charge on set. I really
want to travel. I mean, you, guys, I don't know.
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If you follow those belm on trains, it looks like
like a Wes Anderson movie or something out of I
don't know, like a vintage chic fever dream. They're like
these these trains, I don't know. I want to take
a train somewhere and feel like a fancy lady from
the nineteen forties with like a little carrying case, you know,
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and go across a continent and see things I've never seen.
So often when we travel, it's you know, jump on
the plane and then go straight to the event, or
go get off the plane and go give a speech
and then go to this meeting and then get back
on the plane so you can make it home for
set the next day. And we don't even pay attention,
and I really want to travel intentionally and actually put
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my eyeballs on more of the world and more of
the countryside flying by a window, and then what else
goes on my vision board? I Oh, so many people
have actually asked me this since I dyed my hair red.
Everyone's like, wait, we love this. Would you ever want
to do a hair campaign? And like, yeah, I'm a
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child of the eighties who grew up in the cultural nineties,
I would love that, Like, you know, the swishy, shiny
hair moment. I just feel like that'd be so fun.
It feels like a real career bucket list, or like
a you're worth it, a little loreal moment, or maybe
she's born with it. Maybe it's mabelne. I remember those
jingles from commercials when I was a teenager and just
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being like WHOA. So I don't know. Maybe that stuff
only exists on social media now, but it feels a
little vintage and chic to me. Oh, this is a
really good question from Sam. You have fifty dollars to
spend in fifteen minutes to shop for a gift. Where
are you going? Ooh, fifty dollars to spend fifteen minutes.
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I would probably want to go somewhere with a really
wide variety of stuff like home goods, because then I
could run up and down the aisles and see, like, Oh,
is there a tray I want to give someone for
holiday hosting? Is it this handle? Is it a pillow?
Is it a throw blanket? Is it I don't know,
whatever other amazing random thing I could find. Likewise, this
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is gonna sound crazy to you about Costco Major, because
at Costco you can get everything from like tech to
giant utility sized boxes of snacks to jewelry. So I
actually feel like I could really win my version of
like a gift giving supermarket sweep at Costco. I think
I would crush. Oh and we have a Samantha, what
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is your favorite Christmas dessert? Oh? Boy, guys, I feel
like I've talked about this just recently. Oh I did.
I was talking to Rob and Joy about this on
the other podcast. I'm not really a sweet person. I
am a savory gal. I would rather have a bowl
of French fries for dessert than a dessert for dessert.
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But if you have some sort of incredible savory baked
good that you do for Christmas. Send the recipe to
us here at Work in Progress, and maybe we'll talk
about it in twenty twenty five. That's the holiday gift
that I wish to get from you all, is your
baked good recipes. You never know, I might become a
baker next year, in addition to becoming a person who
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actually goes on a walk for twenty minutes a day.
Whatever your traditions are, whatever your goals are. Also, if
you feel comfortable, please send us those. We can keep
them anonymous too. I hope you enjoy them. I hope
you achieve them. I hope you have an amazing end
to your year. Happy holidays everyone, For me and our
whole team here at Work in Progress, we love and
(25:38):
appreciate you, and we hope you ring in twenty twenty
five feeling wonderful. Have a good one
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