October 9, 2023 • 47 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You know, sometimes we get these we get the question
we just had where it's like, yeah, you're fine, You're
everything's good, you don't need a girl, and then you
get Jenna who's fifteen, and I just say, man, Joe,
I'm so sorry. It's not supposed to be like this.
(00:28):
Welcome back to the show, Guys, episode number two hundred
and nine and special guest. Well he's not special, he's
normal guest. Tyler, my brother, you are special, just not
to this podcast. You are my middle brother because everyone knows,
personal manager, co owner of ye with me and also
(00:53):
the guy, the first guy in the line of all
the people maybe besides Amber alone, that I go to
for advice in my life. Probably Amber's number one, and
you're a close second, even though before Amber it was
always you. So it's dude, I trust you with every
(01:14):
issue I've gone through my entire life. And so we
have people on this podcast trusting us with some really
serious questions, sometimes serious and sometimes just a life a
practical life decision that they're needing advice for. And that's
(01:34):
why I have you on here.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Man.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Thanks.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
I like how when we get in front of the camera,
that's when you tell me how you really feel.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Okay, let's walk through this. Do I not.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
I'm just kidding. You were just business a lot. You
are definitely man, You're a word of affirmation. Guy, I
don't think I am. I think I'm a access service.
That's why I go to Mom so she can cook
me maails and stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I mean, maybe I have to also say physical touches
kind of your thing it used to be. I don't
you're getting away from that?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Well, I mean I love hugging the kids and loving
on them too, So maybe I got three. I don't know,
but I know that I love acts of service.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Okay. Well, so Maverick is asleep right now taking a
nap as we record this podcast, and he doesn't know
that when he wakes up, he's going to see ty
Ty's red truck in the driveway and go crazy because
he loves your truck. Man, He loves you, but he
loves you also because of your truck.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Yeah, he yeah, I'm trying to learn if he really
likes me. I think he does. But he loves the
trucks like your Earl's truck, your truck, Uncle Johnny's truck,
my truck. He loves Parkers and for a while, I
thought it was just because of the gum, because I
have gum in there. But sometimes I don't have gum
(02:55):
in there. He doesn't. He just lots to just honk
the horn and pressed the buttons and set in my lap.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Well, what we do on this podcast is we answer
your questions like we're sitting in the cab of Tyler's
truck and eating gum driving down the road. You ask
a question, could be about anything in life. Email me
Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. And we've done this
two hundred and eight times, and today is two hundred
and nine that we have done this. And I'm going
(03:21):
to start here just randomly going through your emails, and
the first one subject line says cancer and the question says,
Hey Grainger, MO. Name is Jack. I'm sixteen from northeast Ohio.
We recently found out that my grandpa has cancer like
cyst in his lungs and testines and possibly heart. It's
truly hard to deal with and comprehend. Do you have
(03:43):
any advice on how to deal with this? All right? Jack,
thanks for emailing. Buddy sixteen. Shout out to Ohio one
of my favorite places, some of my favorite people. In Ohio.
So I appreciate you, buddy. There's nothing easy about going
(04:04):
through what you're going through. And I'm so sorry. Is
the first thing that Tyler and I would say is
so sorry that you're dealing with this. And this is
I'm assuming your first experience with some kind of tragedy
or anxiety that will end up being your first experience
(04:26):
with grief and loss. And this is the thing. And
it sounds like a country song when I say this,
but grandpa's are going to die. You know, There's there's
a couple of things in life that we know, and
one of them is that grandpa's are going to die. Man,
(04:47):
it even is it's even hard for me to say it.
I've lost too. Tyler's lost the same two. My kids
have lost one, and there is there are some things
in life that we have to understand. It's hard at
sixteen to know this. But when you say you're surprised
(05:10):
that this is happening, right, you're surprised. And I'm telling
you that you are now part of a club that
none of us want to be in, but we're all
a part of it. I lost my granddad at eight, right, Papa.
I lost them at eight, and then I lost Paul
at No, you lost Papaul when you're ten, because I
(05:31):
think I was six okay ten? And then Paul I
lost when we were I was like nineteen, were you
like seventeen? At sixteen? I was sixteen sixteen. So we've booked. Man,
we've been there in the same time, the same age
as you. And when I lost my dad, that was
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crushing because I wanted my kids to be able to
go fishing with them, and I wanted dad to teach
them how to drive a truck, and I want a
dad to do that special grandpa stuff and he couldn't.
And so, you know, to to answer your question, how
do you deal with this? I think the first step
and how do you deal with losing grandpa? Besides me
(06:15):
saying I'm sorry, is understanding that this is this is
not crazy, that it's happening, even though it might seem
like it. It's a part of the flow of life.
And if you don't lose him at sixteen, which you
might not, you mean, he might recover from this, but
then you're going to lose him at twenty or twenty four,
or at the latest twenty eight or thirty. But at
(06:38):
some point you're going to lose grandpa. And it's easier
for me to say that because I don't love him
like you do. But it's a part of life. And
what do you say to Jack Tyler?
Speaker 2 (06:50):
First thing I would say to Jack would be, we
graindeer and I don't understand your relationship with your granddad,
So it's we can only speak on our experiences, you know,
for me and you, we would see our granddads a
couple times a year, right, you know, kind of a
tipock during the holidays and stuff, because we're in different cities.
(07:12):
So that's the relationship that we had with them. Very loving,
obviously very sad when we lost them. But we don't
know Jack's He could see him every day. I don't
know if he said in the email, but so his
level is going to be different than ours. The second
thing I would say that my mind these days automatically
goes to is, man, what a blessing to have a granddad? Like,
(07:37):
what a blessing to have one? What a blessing to
have him for sixteen years. Again, we don't know the
relationship that he has, but let's assume that it's good gratefulness. Man,
you know, that's the way that I quickly framed my
mind when we lost dad. It was thirty years, thirty
great years with the great dad, and focus on that.
(07:57):
That would be my recommendation, is just a focus on
the good time and the good memories. So good man, Man,
I cannot say it any better than that, Jack, you
have at least sixteen years with a granddad that's so
good that you are emailing me essentially a stranger to say,
(08:20):
how you said, it's truly hard to deal with and
comprehend this. So your granddad is so good in your
life that you're emailing a stranger a podcast to learn
how to deal with the possibility of losing him. And
so Tyler would say, dude, you got sixteen years. A
(08:40):
lot of people like my kids, for example, my kids
didn't get any My daughter got two years and Lincoln
was a baby when we lost my dad, who would
have been a great granddad. He would have been a
really good granddad, I should say. And they didn't get
to experience what you did, Jack. And so the first
that the first thing is buddy, I'm sorry. The second
(09:02):
thing is your people are gonna lose granddads. It's a
part of life. And the third thing is just be grateful.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Man. It's it will devastate you when you lose them,
but if you can just continue to lean into that, man,
I'm so grateful I had him. I'm so grateful I
had him. I'm so grateful. Then I promise you, after
you lose him, which you will eventually as time goes by,
that gratefulness practice that you're putting in now will pay
(09:31):
off down the road, because then those memories will start,
the sad memories will start becoming happy memories in the
way that say you're sixteen. How so when you're thirty,
you'll go, man, You'll catch a fish, for example, and
you'll go, man, Granddad, would you would love this lake? Man,
I'm catching him like crazy. It's it's seven o'clock in
(09:53):
the morning. The water's like glass, there's a lot, there's
smoke coming off the water. And every time I throw
this lure in under that one oak tree over there,
basso hit it is splashes, and you'll go You'll think
to yourself, Granddad could be standing right next to me
loving this, and you'll smile about it instead of being
sad about it. It takes a while, but if you
(10:15):
do this gratefulness that Tyler's talking about. If you lay
into that, that's where you're going to end up. Right.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yeah, And just to the gratefulness is you know there's
different kinds of kinds of deaths and spend time with them.
Now it sounds like you still have time to be
with them. Tell tell him that you love him if
you haven't already. Tell other people. You know, we always
kind of hear the cliche, you know, tell people you
love them. What's like, sometimes it takes a wake up
call like this for you to tell your brothers or
(10:46):
your sisters, or your mom or you know, your dad
that you love them and you care for them, and
don't just say it, but show them with your actions.
And one cool thing perspective switch that we all should
try to try to implement is, you know, say that
your mom. Say our mom is sixty years old. We
(11:08):
have a great relationship, we see her all the time.
But let's say that she's sixty and let's say she
lives in another city or a state, and you hope
that she lives to ninety. Right, So you're like, I
got thirty more years with mom. Well that's not the case.
Thirty more years. The perspective switch that you should have
is how many times a year do you see her Christmas,
(11:31):
maybe a birthday, or a miscellaneous trip. So let's say
two times a year. So if you say thirty years,
you got sixty times that you get to see your
mom forever. Like for me, that just turned the switch.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
What book was that? Remember we read that there was
a book where he was like adding up all the
times that he would see He was like, Man, I'm
going to see my parents twenty four more times if
I stay on the same pattern.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah, I can't remember. Maybe it'll come to me. But right, yeah,
it's wild and say.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Like Jesse, It'sler maybe or somebody like that.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Maybe Jesse or like a Hell or somewhere. But yeah,
I mean say that, Say you know our dad died
at sixty one, so you know again, say you know
I'm forty, say twenty twenty years, two times a year,
that's forty times, or just keep shrinking it. Yeah many
is ninety six? Yeah, each time I go see here,
(12:27):
now it's this could be the last time.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Dude. I think that was the most well rounded answer
to a question, because then I could recap it in
this way. Jack First, I'm sorry. Second, you're going to
lose Granddad's. That's a reality. We need to learn that reality. Three,
be grateful for the sixteen years you had with them,
and then lastly, be present. Now you have a gift
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now of knowing that the time is growing near. We
lost our dad suddenly. We didn't have that kind of opportunity.
So this you could look at this as a gift
that now you have an awareness and acute awareness that
that of his mortality, that you don't have much more
time with them, and you spend that time with them
now as presently as you can. Maybe maybe you take
(13:15):
a voice recorded and record some of his stories on
your phone. Maybe you have some conversations and you write down, like,
what are ten questions that I would love to ask
my grandpa? I did that. I wrote a song called
five More Minutes about my grandpa that questions I didn't
ask him. That's what it was about. So so yeah,
I'm sorry you will lose Granddad's, Be grateful you had them,
(13:36):
and lastly, be present with him because you still have
them today.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
And tell him about Jesus the most important thing. Number five,
Tell him about Jesus.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Man. That was a good. That was a good ten
minutes or so on that, but I think it was
that was a thorough question for a lot of others.
Next question that pops up here says subject line Internet
Bible studies are going to your first off, love your book.
It's amazing. Everyone needs to listen to the audiobook and
the interview with Amber and all the other extras you
added made it well worth a time and purchase. Thank you, buddy.
(14:11):
He says, I have two soon to be three little
ones at home plus work, so most people, like most
people these days, life is busy. However, I'm having a
feeling that I need to join a Bible study because
I do not feel that I get enough out of
reading it on my own. Do you know any online
forum or internet type Bible studies that can be read
(14:34):
or contributed when I find time during the week. And
then he says, I got to see you in Columbus
last time you were there. It was amazing. I wish
I could have made it to more. Yeee, Tyler, it
says Tyler, asking a question to Tyler and dude, it's
a great question. I'm so glad that this came up
(14:54):
because I think this can open up different kinds of
discussions because you're probably very I think you come into
a category of a lot of people that you're like, man,
I don't know if I'm getting enough out of just
reading the Bible alone. And then Tyler and I would say,
you're right, and so let's dive into what that means.
(15:18):
And the first thing I'm going to say, and I'm
pretty sure Tyler will echo this, is that you're not
saying anything in the email about church, and like, man, oh,
grade are you talking about church again? It is such
(15:39):
an underestimated, not talked about any more component to Christian
life that we are commanded in the Bible to gather
with the local body, with the church. Why we're commanded
to do that is for all different reasons. The simplest
reason could be you're going to encourage your brothers and
(16:01):
sisters that see you walking in your Christian brothers and sisters.
Another simple reason is you're singing a song and someone
looks over at you and they see you singing and
they're like, man, Tyler's doing it. And then the more
the bigger reasons for you for your question is it
feels your soul, It spiritually increases your knowledge of God
(16:23):
and it supplements all of this Bible reading. So we
just heard it in our church on Sunday morning, reading
out a second Peter and Marshall's teaching about when Peter
says you need to always be able to supplement your
faith right, and then he goes down the list of
what to supplement with virtue, knowledge, brotherly love, and this
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has done best in a church on a Sunday morning.
So when you're asking me about online Bible study, I'm like, hole,
pump the brakes on that. That's cool. There's nothing wrong
with that. Of course it's great. But I want Sunday
morning teaching to be first in your what you're getting
(17:09):
to add alongside your personal bibble reading Tyler, what you get.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
So did he say that he's not going to church.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
He didn't say anything about it.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Yeah, I would say that. The first thing that comes
to mind is that I'm encouraged that he's asking the
question about Bible study. That's a great sign that he
wants to learn more. Yeah, but I would go back
to the foundation needs to be find your local church
and become a member and start going regularly. And then
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that is just kind of icing on the cake. Sometimes
as I've just became a member and I'm regularly going
to church, sometimes personally for me, certain things can start
not necessarily overwhelming me, but you know, we're both busy guys.
(18:01):
People listening to this are really busy too. Finding time
to go to church is the most important thing on
Sundays and making it a priority. But then personally, what
I'm not struggling or overwhelmed with really, but I'm just
trying to figure it out, is we got Bible study now,
which is I think indefinite at least through the fall,
(18:23):
every Wednesday night. Then we have members meetings the first
of the month on Sunday nights, where we missed the
football game last night, which I'm completely fine with, but
these are priorities that you need to have in place.
And then you have a men's gathering, Like I'm new
to this, so I'm learning all of the things, so
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you get kind of what I'm saying where it's like,
and then I go back and I'm like, I just
need to foundationally make sure that I'm continuing to go
to church and be regular there and meeting the other
members and not beat myself up if I miss a
men's gathering or if I miss a Bible study.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Marshall is the first one to say. He's on the
podcast last week. He's the first one to say that
the Sunday morning gatherings, if you do that, we're called
to do that. But don't worry about anything else. You
don't have to make a single other thing. Don't make
that the priority. Like make the Sunday morning gathering the thing.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Again, I'm coming. You know me better than anybody. I'm
all or nothing. Yeah, So personally I'm struggling with like
I'm all in. Maybe I gotta go do everything or
it's nothing. So I need and with everything else in
my life, I need to be like it's okay to
just make sure you're at Sunday and you can miss this,
but go if you can. I don't mean to take
(19:45):
this away from what his question was.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Yeah, So his question is is there anything online and
online forum for Bible studies? And so yeah, we't. Just
like my brother said, Tyler, there's got two Tyler's going
on here. Just like my brother said, starts with the church.
It's gonna start with the church and then ask ask
members in your pasture. You know, that's what I've learned.
(20:09):
It's like I know basically nothing. You know, I'll read
my Bible.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
Every morning, but the relationships that you build with starting
again with the local church, asking your pastor, Hey, do
you have any Bible studies that you recommend online?
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Yeah? So when you were as you're going through the Bible,
reading your consistent Bible plan, which hopefully Tyler's doing that too,
and you're going through and you're saying, I don't feel
like I'm getting enough. The email says it's so confusing
with two Tyler's. But the email is saying, I'm going
through my reading and I don't feel like it's enough.
(20:42):
Totally get that, totally get it. So then I'm asking you, Tyler,
my brother Tyler, what do you tell him? Maybe when
you're reading and you have a question, do you have
a study Bible, like you recommend study Bibles. Instead of
going into a Bible study, maybe while you're reading your plan,
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you're also going through a study Bible itself. I did
that the first time I read the Bible all the
way through. I read a study Bible. There's an NIV
Study Bible, and as I got to a new chapter
or a new book, I read the whole thing, like
here's who wrote this in what year and why they
wrote it, and who he was writing to, and then
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here's the scenario. And then in little pieces as you
go there's examples and explanations as you're walking through it.
That's what a study Bible does. Is that what you did?
Speaker 2 (21:39):
Other Bibles that don't have that, Yeah, yeah, yeah, that
are just scripture.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Yeah I'm sure there are, but yeah, my Bible now
doesn't have anything, it's just the scriptures. My Bible that
I really like is the John Maxwell and IV Leadership Bible,
and it'll take little it'll take the verse and then
apply it to like, you know, a leadership analogy or
an example. Great. I would say my suggestion would be
the John MacArthur ESV. But there's a lot of things
(22:05):
you could you could do. I would say that route
plus church or let me say it again, church plus
that route. And don't worry about these online Bible studies
if you have further questions. I also recommend the Bible
Project on YouTube. Did you ever watch that? So you
could google say you're reading through Joshua and you're like, man,
(22:29):
this chapter seven and Joshua is confusing to me, I
don't know what's going on. Then you could YouTube just
like this Joshua chapter seven the Bible Project. It literally
pulls up a cartoon drawing, not a cartoon, a drawing
laying out that portion of Joshua in a very easy
(22:52):
to understand way. So, yeah, anything else out of this before.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
We take a break. No, I'm just encouraged that he's asking.
He's he's you put yourself around other believers, ask your pastor,
and just keep asking and you'll find something. God will
show you what works for you.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
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(24:09):
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with my brother Tyler as a guest answering y'all's questions.
If you have one for me, email Grangersmith Podcast at
(24:52):
gmail dot com and the next question here. Subjecline says
lost job. Email says, Hey, Grange, I recently lost my
job because I made a mistake at work. I feel
like I've failed my family. I've been going to school
and working hard to try to better myself and my job.
Any advice about changing career direction, words of encouragement and
(25:15):
prayer would be great. I'm feeling so lost right now.
Thanks Kyle from Indiana. Okay, let me recap my brain here. Kyle,
lost your job from a mistake. I'm sorry about that, brother,
and you feel like you've failed your family. Hey man,
that's a very normal feeling. It would be weird if
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you didn't feel it that right. It would be weird
if you didn't feel like you were failing your family
because you lost your job. Because a man was made
to work. Literally, that's in the Book of Genesis. The
man was made to work, and so you feel this.
There's a connection that we cannot explain in our d
(26:00):
in a that calls us to work, and when we
lose our job, we literally feel like we've lost part
of ourselves. And so it is totally normal that you're thinking,
why do I feel like a failure? And part of
that is you could use that feeling to drive you
into the next thing. It's funny like I tell my
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kids this whenever they whenever they get nervous, Like London
has a basket or volleyball game today and when she
gets nervous, I always will say, use that that those
nerves to fuel the game that you're about to play.
It's gonna focus your eyes, it's gonna tense up your muscles,
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it's gonna increase your blood flow and your oxygen because
you're breathing heavier. So use all of those natural things
that adrenaline and anxiety brings on, and then use it
to play the game better and so that this failure
that you're feeling. I say the same thing to you, Kyle.
Use that when you go to bed at night and
(27:04):
you go, I don't I'm not satisfied with not having
a job. I feel like I'm failing. Instead of instead
of like lying in the mud with that feeling, use
it and go, man, you know what, I'm gonna set
my alarm my alarms set for six. Almost say go
ahead and change it to five, and I'm gonna get
up because I don't like this feeling that I feel
(27:25):
like I'm failing my family. So I'm gonna get up
at five instead of six. I'm gonna start this new
routine of bettering myself and looking for this job. Like
you said, so use that. What do you What do
you say to Kyle Tyler?
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I would tell Kyle that we've all been where you are.
It was the year twenty twenty, right, and we didn't
know what was going on. Everything shut down, touring was gone,
you know, we had to get creative to find new
ways for incoming. But to your point, it's very important,
(27:59):
like Granger said, to not let this become Well, I
don't have a job, so I'm going to sleep in
a little bit and maybe I'll get to it tomorrow afternoon.
You can you have to control what you can control.
You can't control that you lost your job. You made
a mistake. That's in the past. What can you can control.
You can get up early, Like Granger said, I don't
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know what time you're getting up. Let's say, like he said, six,
get up at five. Be the first one up in
your household. Let your wife know and your kids know
that where's dad.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
It's good, he's up.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
What's he doing. They're inspired that you're getting up early,
that you have a plan. You don't have a job
right now. You know there's no income coming in, but
you've got a plan, and they're looking at you as
the leader, saying, I don't know what's going on, but
I trust dad. You know, take care of yourself, watch
your diet, don't drink alcohol, drink water, get in your bible,
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read some books, and on your passions, what interests you.
It's it's hard not knowing what you like, but you know,
there's there's so many opportunities these day. Don't don't watch
the news because it's going to tell you we're in
a recession and everything's bad and everything's down. Don't listen
to that. Problems are just opportunities, and there's the best
opportunity in twenty twenty three with technology and assuming you
(29:14):
have a phone right at your fingertips, ma'n. So just
keep going, Yeah, what do you say about getting something?
In the meantime, taking a job that he feels like
is lesser than what he deserves. Or is qualified for
just to keep the lights on while he's looking for
something else. Yeah, again, not knowing his situation. Man, you
(29:35):
gotta humble yourself. And again, I think it's more important
that you're that you're showing your family that you're you're
gonna make it happen. So maybe it's mowing lawns, or
it's calling your buddy to help him do some some
drywall and some painting, you know stuff, not only not
only to get additional income. You know, granted it won't
(29:57):
be maybe won't be much or what you're used to,
but it's a sign of self respect. Again, it just
goes back to the integrity of getting up and taking
care of your family while on the side early in
the morning or when you get home from painting or
mowing lawns, you're working on what you're passionate about long term.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
It's great. It's great. Next question, the subject line says
wanting a girlfriend but not needing one. Hey, grand dream
eighteen years old. My name is Austin. I'm from Wisconsin.
I'm listening to your old episodes and working my way
to the new ones. I really enjoy listening to them.
So side note, you might not get this for a while.
(30:39):
Oh okay. Then he says, I'll start listening to new
ones to hear your thoughts about my question. Here's my question.
I want a girlfriend, but I don't need one, but
I feel like everyone I know has one, and so
that makes me want one, and I'm afraid I'm never
going to get one if I don't get one soon.
That's literally what he wrote. I don't think he said
(31:01):
it like I said it, though, and then he says parentheses.
I don't have any female friends, so I feel like
if I ever talk to a girl, I'm gonna be scared.
What are your thoughts. I've been leading all these answers.
I'm gonna let you lead this one. Tyler, eighteen years old, Austin.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Okay, well, I'll start with the scared thing. He doesn't
have any girl friends, so he's scared. So if you
do want a girlfriend, my recommendation. That's helped me a lot,
and it's just going to help you and everybody listening
in general. Just you know, human communication is. I don't
care if you are not interested in a girl. Say
(31:40):
you're checking out at the grocery store, or you're pumping
gas or you're walking into the gas station and you
open the door for somebody. Just get good at talking
to people, specifically in this case, get good at talking
to girls. And again, I don't care if they're eighteen
and super beautiful or if they're the mid thirties, if
(32:01):
they're with somebody, if they're not, just be nice, open
up to them. If you're checking out, talk to the person,
say hey, how's your day. Just generic stuff and get
used to talking to the opposite sex and you'll get
good at it. And then when you do see that
eighteen year old girl that you think is beautiful, it's
(32:22):
gonna be a promise. It's gonna be a lot easier
to go up and talk to her because you do
it all the time.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Yeah, that's great. I want to say that you're also
eighteen and you're not in any position right now that
where you need to settle down or have a girlfriend,
even though the world tells you that you do. The
world's gonna be like Austin, You're everyone has a girlfriend.
(32:48):
You should try it. It's awesome. Look at Instagram. Everyone's
got one, all your friends have one. You're the only
one that doesn't. It's just not true. In fact, I
don't have one, Yeah, Tyler doesn't. The guys that are
getting girlfriends earlier and getting serious earlier and then marrying
just because that's the thing to do, are then going
(33:09):
to go through this round of divorces and then you're
gonna still be single at twenty four when the first
rounds of divorce start, and you're gonna be like, wow,
that's what I was missing out on. That's not worth it.
So Austin from Wisconsin man I said that I have
said this for so many episodes, for so many years
(33:32):
on this podcast, that there is just there is no
need to have a significant other just because it feels
like you should. Now the feeling of that you should,
that's normal. That's like, you know, that's in you. You're
gonna want to procreate and have a family. That's in you.
(33:53):
Your purpose in a way, not everybody's, but in a
way that's that's why you're creative, to populate the earth,
and so that's all that feeling is. But it doesn't
mean you have to go find somebody right now. So
just understand that you have a natural desire to be
with somebody because you see everyone else, But don't let
(34:15):
that drive you to the wrong person. Man, I think
and this is I've also said this on the podcast
many times, that feeling that you're like, man, I'm kind
of scared to talk to a girl. I think that's
that girls like that. You know what girls usually don't
like is guys that are over confident, like, man, I'm
so good with girls. I could talk to any girl
(34:36):
just just you know.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
They like that if you talk to them, but if
you don't say anything true, they would never know.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
So my point is, Austin, you could use that. You
could say I'd love to take you out to coffee,
and I'll be honest with you. I get nervous around
pretty girls like you, and so please don't judge me
if I'm if I fumble a few words or Yeah,
the fact that if he gets that far and he
(35:04):
actually says that, that's a win. That's a win win,
and she'll respect that, she'll love that. If she says no,
just move on to the next.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
Yeah. The last thing I'll say with that is to
your point, it's like, yeah, don't get a girlfriend just
to get a girlfriend. You need to date with intention.
And my belief is that you need a date for
the end goal. Of marriage, and when you're eighteen, assuming
you're probably not ready for marriage yet, you probably just
(35:33):
want a girlfriend because your buddy's got one and you
want to hook up. All we've all been there. Work
on you, work on maybe you're in school. Work on
your school, get better grades. Work on your craft and
work on your job. Work on yourself. Yeah, that's awesome.
All right, man, we're doing good. We're rolling through this break.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
Question. That's the subject line. It says question, and the
email says, dear Granger, I need your advice on something important.
I was nine years old when my parents got divorced.
I'm fifteen right now. For the past six years, I
feel like life is throwing all it can at me,
that God is giving me too much to handle lowercase
(36:17):
G God. First I lost my mom to the divorce.
Then my stepmother treats me poorly. I moved schools last year.
I lost a lot of friends. Thankfully, I've gained a
couple in their place. And now I've been kicked out
and moved in with my grandmother. My dad never calls me.
My four siblings have nothing to do with me. I'm
(36:38):
the oldest, and I feel tired all the time. I
don't eat, I have no motivation to go on. I
just want to make things right with my family. But
I don't know how can you help me, possibly, Jenna.
You know, sometimes we get these we get the question
we just had where it's like, yeah, you're fine, everything's good,
(37:00):
you don't need a girl, and then you get Jenna
who's fifteen, and I just say, man, Joe, I'm so sorry.
It's not supposed to be like this, reading an email
like this, Man, I just want to I want to
tell you that what you're feeling is Man, that sounds
(37:23):
totally normal for you to feel with no more motivation, tired,
don't want to eat. I'm not gonna say stuck it up, Jenna.
You know, get motivated because you've got a lot going on,
especially for fifteen. You have a lot going on for
(37:43):
a twenty year old, but you're fifteen, and so what's
the difference. Well, the difference is at fifteen, you should
still be under the authority, living under the authority of
an adult. Not because you're not because you're not capable,
but but that's just really that's the cycle of life
(38:06):
is is you should be in in all normal circumstances,
under the under the authority of an adult, and so
hopefully your grandmother is your is that for you, even
it doesn't feel like it. And so here there's so
(38:29):
there's a lot of ways to go about this, and
it's sensitive because you're fifteen and if you're a if
you're a boy, I could probably answer easier. But I've
never been a fifteen year old girl, Jenna, so I
can't and I cannot relate. But I could say this,
you're in desperate need of community, which you could find
(38:55):
at school or church. And some times, if you don't
feel like you have community at school or church, then
it's time to lean in to what you like to do.
So I would I would search your heart and go, okay,
what do I like? Well I like chess? Okay, well
(39:18):
there's probably a chess team, okay, And so that that's
a way to find a community quickly, is to lean
into I mean, if you like Fortnite, like whatever it is,
find a community that you could associate with. And then
on top of that, before I let Tyler handle this,
(39:39):
on top of that, I want to add, if you
start doing the right things, and this is what the
authority of an adult would need to tell you. If
you're living under the roof of a mom and dad,
then this is what we hope they would teach you.
And it's this is gonna sound crazy, but I'm I'm
(40:00):
gonna try to explain it the best I can. In
everything that you do all throughout your day, from when
you wake up to when you go to sleep, you're
gonna have a lot of decisions to make. A lot
of them are immoral or excuse me, non moral decisions
like are you gonna eat pancakes or a muffin? That
(40:22):
is a non moral decision, so whatever. But what you
can do even with those decisions is make try your
best to make a right choice in each of those decisions.
For instance, let's just throw this out there. For instance,
you're gonna look at breakfast in terms of how do
(40:44):
you make a right or wrong decision with breakfast? Well,
you could make a rider wrong decision by how well
does that food fuel you during the day if you're
tired or you're not sleeping, Right, what kind of food
for breakfast? Would it be a muffin or would it
be oatmeal or fruit? You know, what's the better fuel
(41:04):
for my day? So you make that decision to go
to oatmeal instead of the muffin. And then the next
decision you have to make is is do I do
I talk to this do I'm just trying to think
of another immoral decision. Do I talk to this friend
and go and be late to class? Or do I
(41:25):
cut the conversation short and be late. So you make
the first decision right for oatmeal, and then you make
the second decision, and then you mess that decision up
because now you're late to class. But then you make
another decision that's right, and you continue all throughout your
day trying to consciously make a right decision, and you
will mess up a few of those, like you might
(41:46):
choose a muffin or you might be late to class.
But the more right decisions you make, you'll notice that
your days start to make sense. They start to all
of a sudden, now they have meaning, and you're starting
to have have an appropriate amount of control over what's
happening in your day, because, like Tyler said earlier, you
(42:10):
have to control what you can control, and you've got
a lot in your life that's out of control. It's
wild right now. A lot of your dad didn't call you,
You're you know You've got all kinds of things that
you say God is throwing at you. You can't control
all of that, but you could, Okay, what time do
you go to bed? You know, like, are you gonna
be flipping through Instagram at ten thirty? Are you gonna say,
(42:31):
I'm gonna make the decision to put my phone down,
I'm gonna try to get I'm gonna try to make
my room dark about nine thirty and put screens away.
And if I can make my room darker and maybe
try to read a book so that it makes me tired,
I get a better night's sleep. It's amazing what just
a good night's sleep will do for the next day.
(42:51):
These you're gonna have thousands of these kind of decisions
that you can control as opposed to all the ones
that you can't. What you got Teller, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
I would just I would just add to that that,
like you said, community, church or school, being around good people,
good friends, taking care of yourself, nutrition, getting a better
early exercise, controlling what you can control. And third, I
would say, just focus on gratefulness. Again. It's kind of
one of those secret keys to life, you know, it's
(43:28):
and it's so tough to be like, what do I have?
Speaker 1 (43:30):
What did you just.
Speaker 2 (43:32):
Read my email? What are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (43:33):
What do I have to be grateful for?
Speaker 2 (43:34):
Well, it sounds like you got a grandma that's taking
care of you. And I'm talking the little things I'm
talking about. You're not in the streets. Did you sleep
in a bed last night? Did you have a roof
over your head? And again, I know these things are tough,
but if you can just focus and switch that that
mind frame to gratefulness first thing in the morning and
(43:59):
last thing when you go to bed and throughout the
day that you got a grandma that loves you, in
a roof over your head, and hopefully food that she
has in the cabinets. And then and then the last
thing is you don't have to continue that pattern in
your family. You can be the first one in your
family that says, hey, it stops with me. I'm going
to have a healthy relationship, you know, God willing and
(44:19):
a family and not divorce. And I have the ability
to change.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
So we have gratefulness. We have controlling the controllables, making
the little decisions throughout the day consciously You're not going
to make them all right, but consciously make little decisions
that you can control, and then I would challenge you, Jenna.
I'm going to challenge you on something, and I don't
(44:45):
know if you'll take me up on this, but I
promise you if you do, I promise it will have
a positive impact immediately on your life. And that is
for you to do completely away with social media, delete
it all. You're in a position right now when you
need to be as healthy as you can mentally, and
it's proven fact that social media is disruptive to your
(45:09):
well being, and with you going through everything you're going through,
this is not the time, especially for a fifteen year
old girl, This is not the time to deal with
it a comparison game with other people. With everything you
have going on, the weight of the world on your shoulders,
you would be doing yourself such a huge favor to
delete social media completely, stay off of it. You'll be
(45:34):
so much better. Rethink that's tough. He thinks you do it.
Speaker 2 (45:42):
I don't think so if I'm being honest, because I mean,
can you do it? Can I do it? It's I
agree with everything you're saying. I think the first step
in that is do not look at your phone first
thing in the morning and don't look at it thirty
minutes before you go to bed, like, well.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Dude, let me just say this. My kids will not
be on social media at fifteen. They won't. We've already
talked about it. We've already made their own accounts. Yeah,
they won't have they won't have Instagram, Facebook, TikTok. They won't.
They won't. And Amber and I are going to actually
pay them money when they're eighteen. We haven't decided how
(46:19):
much yet, but we're gonna come up with an amount
of money that we're going to actually pay.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
I completely agree with that. I think that's great.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
So when we say, Jenna, I'm not saying I'm not
asking to do something that I wouldn't ask my own
kids to do. Jenna. That's that's my point. Get off
of all of it, delete it all. You laying in
bed at ten forty five eleven PM, heartbroken, feeling like
your dad needing attention that your dad's not giving you,
(46:48):
and instead you're laying on Instagram thumbing through. Oh that
is damaging. Yeah yeah, and with that, that's where we're
going to end this. Yeah, Tyler, dude, thank you so much.
Your advice is amazing and the way that you could
(47:09):
think through things with such a calm manner. I think
everyone probably felt that on this episode. So appreciate you
man and all you guys. Will see you next Monday.
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You know, sometimes we get these we get the question
we just had where it's like, yeah, you're fine, You're
everything's good, you don't need a girl, and then you
get Jenna who's fifteen, and I just say, man, Joe,
I'm so sorry. It's not supposed to be like this.
(00:28):
Welcome back to the show, Guys, episode number two hundred
and nine and special guest. Well he's not special, he's
normal guest. Tyler, my brother, you are special, just not
to this podcast. You are my middle brother because everyone knows,
personal manager, co owner of ye with me and also
(00:53):
the guy, the first guy in the line of all
the people maybe besides Amber alone, that I go to
for advice in my life. Probably Amber's number one, and
you're a close second, even though before Amber it was
always you. So it's dude, I trust you with every
(01:14):
issue I've gone through my entire life. And so we
have people on this podcast trusting us with some really
serious questions, sometimes serious and sometimes just a life a
practical life decision that they're needing advice for. And that's
(01:34):
why I have you on here.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Man.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Thanks.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
I like how when we get in front of the camera,
that's when you tell me how you really feel.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Okay, let's walk through this. Do I not.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
I'm just kidding. You were just business a lot. You
are definitely man, You're a word of affirmation. Guy, I
don't think I am. I think I'm a access service.
That's why I go to Mom so she can cook
me maails and stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I mean, maybe I have to also say physical touches
kind of your thing it used to be. I don't
you're getting away from that?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Well, I mean I love hugging the kids and loving
on them too, So maybe I got three. I don't know,
but I know that I love acts of service.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Okay. Well, so Maverick is asleep right now taking a
nap as we record this podcast, and he doesn't know
that when he wakes up, he's going to see ty
Ty's red truck in the driveway and go crazy because
he loves your truck. Man, He loves you, but he
loves you also because of your truck.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Yeah, he yeah, I'm trying to learn if he really
likes me. I think he does. But he loves the
trucks like your Earl's truck, your truck, Uncle Johnny's truck,
my truck. He loves Parkers and for a while, I
thought it was just because of the gum, because I
have gum in there. But sometimes I don't have gum
(02:55):
in there. He doesn't. He just lots to just honk
the horn and pressed the buttons and set in my lap.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Well, what we do on this podcast is we answer
your questions like we're sitting in the cab of Tyler's
truck and eating gum driving down the road. You ask
a question, could be about anything in life. Email me
Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. And we've done this
two hundred and eight times, and today is two hundred
and nine that we have done this. And I'm going
(03:21):
to start here just randomly going through your emails, and
the first one subject line says cancer and the question says,
Hey Grainger, MO. Name is Jack. I'm sixteen from northeast Ohio.
We recently found out that my grandpa has cancer like
cyst in his lungs and testines and possibly heart. It's
truly hard to deal with and comprehend. Do you have
(03:43):
any advice on how to deal with this? All right? Jack,
thanks for emailing. Buddy sixteen. Shout out to Ohio one
of my favorite places, some of my favorite people. In Ohio.
So I appreciate you, buddy. There's nothing easy about going
(04:04):
through what you're going through. And I'm so sorry. Is
the first thing that Tyler and I would say is
so sorry that you're dealing with this. And this is
I'm assuming your first experience with some kind of tragedy
or anxiety that will end up being your first experience
(04:26):
with grief and loss. And this is the thing. And
it sounds like a country song when I say this,
but grandpa's are going to die. You know, There's there's
a couple of things in life that we know, and
one of them is that grandpa's are going to die. Man,
(04:47):
it even is it's even hard for me to say it.
I've lost too. Tyler's lost the same two. My kids
have lost one, and there is there are some things
in life that we have to understand. It's hard at
sixteen to know this. But when you say you're surprised
(05:10):
that this is happening, right, you're surprised. And I'm telling
you that you are now part of a club that
none of us want to be in, but we're all
a part of it. I lost my granddad at eight, right, Papa.
I lost them at eight, and then I lost Paul
at No, you lost Papaul when you're ten, because I
(05:31):
think I was six okay ten? And then Paul I
lost when we were I was like nineteen, were you
like seventeen? At sixteen? I was sixteen sixteen. So we've booked. Man,
we've been there in the same time, the same age
as you. And when I lost my dad, that was
(05:52):
crushing because I wanted my kids to be able to
go fishing with them, and I wanted dad to teach
them how to drive a truck, and I want a
dad to do that special grandpa stuff and he couldn't.
And so, you know, to to answer your question, how
do you deal with this? I think the first step
and how do you deal with losing grandpa? Besides me
(06:15):
saying I'm sorry, is understanding that this is this is
not crazy, that it's happening, even though it might seem
like it. It's a part of the flow of life.
And if you don't lose him at sixteen, which you
might not, you mean, he might recover from this, but
then you're going to lose him at twenty or twenty four,
or at the latest twenty eight or thirty. But at
(06:38):
some point you're going to lose grandpa. And it's easier
for me to say that because I don't love him
like you do. But it's a part of life. And
what do you say to Jack Tyler?
Speaker 2 (06:50):
First thing I would say to Jack would be, we
graindeer and I don't understand your relationship with your granddad,
So it's we can only speak on our experiences, you know,
for me and you, we would see our granddads a
couple times a year, right, you know, kind of a
tipock during the holidays and stuff, because we're in different cities.
(07:12):
So that's the relationship that we had with them. Very loving,
obviously very sad when we lost them. But we don't
know Jack's He could see him every day. I don't
know if he said in the email, but so his
level is going to be different than ours. The second
thing I would say that my mind these days automatically
goes to is, man, what a blessing to have a granddad? Like,
(07:37):
what a blessing to have one? What a blessing to
have him for sixteen years. Again, we don't know the
relationship that he has, but let's assume that it's good gratefulness. Man,
you know, that's the way that I quickly framed my
mind when we lost dad. It was thirty years, thirty
great years with the great dad, and focus on that.
(07:57):
That would be my recommendation, is just a focus on
the good time and the good memories. So good man, Man,
I cannot say it any better than that, Jack, you
have at least sixteen years with a granddad that's so
good that you are emailing me essentially a stranger to say,
(08:20):
how you said, it's truly hard to deal with and
comprehend this. So your granddad is so good in your
life that you're emailing a stranger a podcast to learn
how to deal with the possibility of losing him. And
so Tyler would say, dude, you got sixteen years. A
(08:40):
lot of people like my kids, for example, my kids
didn't get any My daughter got two years and Lincoln
was a baby when we lost my dad, who would
have been a great granddad. He would have been a
really good granddad, I should say. And they didn't get
to experience what you did, Jack. And so the first
that the first thing is buddy, I'm sorry. The second
(09:02):
thing is your people are gonna lose granddads. It's a
part of life. And the third thing is just be grateful.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Man. It's it will devastate you when you lose them,
but if you can just continue to lean into that, man,
I'm so grateful I had him. I'm so grateful I
had him. I'm so grateful. Then I promise you, after
you lose him, which you will eventually as time goes by,
that gratefulness practice that you're putting in now will pay
(09:31):
off down the road, because then those memories will start,
the sad memories will start becoming happy memories in the
way that say you're sixteen. How so when you're thirty,
you'll go, man, You'll catch a fish, for example, and
you'll go, man, Granddad, would you would love this lake? Man,
I'm catching him like crazy. It's it's seven o'clock in
(09:53):
the morning. The water's like glass, there's a lot, there's
smoke coming off the water. And every time I throw
this lure in under that one oak tree over there,
basso hit it is splashes, and you'll go You'll think
to yourself, Granddad could be standing right next to me
loving this, and you'll smile about it instead of being
sad about it. It takes a while, but if you
(10:15):
do this gratefulness that Tyler's talking about. If you lay
into that, that's where you're going to end up. Right.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yeah, And just to the gratefulness is you know there's
different kinds of kinds of deaths and spend time with them.
Now it sounds like you still have time to be
with them. Tell tell him that you love him if
you haven't already. Tell other people. You know, we always
kind of hear the cliche, you know, tell people you
love them. What's like, sometimes it takes a wake up
call like this for you to tell your brothers or
(10:46):
your sisters, or your mom or you know, your dad
that you love them and you care for them, and
don't just say it, but show them with your actions.
And one cool thing perspective switch that we all should
try to try to implement is, you know, say that
your mom. Say our mom is sixty years old. We
(11:08):
have a great relationship, we see her all the time.
But let's say that she's sixty and let's say she
lives in another city or a state, and you hope
that she lives to ninety. Right, So you're like, I
got thirty more years with mom. Well that's not the case.
Thirty more years. The perspective switch that you should have
is how many times a year do you see her Christmas,
(11:31):
maybe a birthday, or a miscellaneous trip. So let's say
two times a year. So if you say thirty years,
you got sixty times that you get to see your
mom forever. Like for me, that just turned the switch.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
What book was that? Remember we read that there was
a book where he was like adding up all the
times that he would see He was like, Man, I'm
going to see my parents twenty four more times if
I stay on the same pattern.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah, I can't remember. Maybe it'll come to me. But right, yeah,
it's wild and say.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Like Jesse, It'sler maybe or somebody like that.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Maybe Jesse or like a Hell or somewhere. But yeah,
I mean say that, Say you know our dad died
at sixty one, so you know again, say you know
I'm forty, say twenty twenty years, two times a year,
that's forty times, or just keep shrinking it. Yeah many
is ninety six? Yeah, each time I go see here,
(12:27):
now it's this could be the last time.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Dude. I think that was the most well rounded answer
to a question, because then I could recap it in
this way. Jack First, I'm sorry. Second, you're going to
lose Granddad's. That's a reality. We need to learn that reality. Three,
be grateful for the sixteen years you had with them,
and then lastly, be present. Now you have a gift
(12:52):
now of knowing that the time is growing near. We
lost our dad suddenly. We didn't have that kind of opportunity.
So this you could look at this as a gift
that now you have an awareness and acute awareness that
that of his mortality, that you don't have much more
time with them, and you spend that time with them
now as presently as you can. Maybe maybe you take
(13:15):
a voice recorded and record some of his stories on
your phone. Maybe you have some conversations and you write down, like,
what are ten questions that I would love to ask
my grandpa? I did that. I wrote a song called
five More Minutes about my grandpa that questions I didn't
ask him. That's what it was about. So so yeah,
I'm sorry you will lose Granddad's, Be grateful you had them,
(13:36):
and lastly, be present with him because you still have
them today.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
And tell him about Jesus the most important thing. Number five,
Tell him about Jesus.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Man. That was a good. That was a good ten
minutes or so on that, but I think it was
that was a thorough question for a lot of others.
Next question that pops up here says subject line Internet
Bible studies are going to your first off, love your book.
It's amazing. Everyone needs to listen to the audiobook and
the interview with Amber and all the other extras you
added made it well worth a time and purchase. Thank you, buddy.
(14:11):
He says, I have two soon to be three little
ones at home plus work, so most people, like most
people these days, life is busy. However, I'm having a
feeling that I need to join a Bible study because
I do not feel that I get enough out of
reading it on my own. Do you know any online
forum or internet type Bible studies that can be read
(14:34):
or contributed when I find time during the week. And
then he says, I got to see you in Columbus
last time you were there. It was amazing. I wish
I could have made it to more. Yeee, Tyler, it
says Tyler, asking a question to Tyler and dude, it's
a great question. I'm so glad that this came up
(14:54):
because I think this can open up different kinds of
discussions because you're probably very I think you come into
a category of a lot of people that you're like, man,
I don't know if I'm getting enough out of just
reading the Bible alone. And then Tyler and I would say,
you're right, and so let's dive into what that means.
(15:18):
And the first thing I'm going to say, and I'm
pretty sure Tyler will echo this, is that you're not
saying anything in the email about church, and like, man, oh,
grade are you talking about church again? It is such
(15:39):
an underestimated, not talked about any more component to Christian
life that we are commanded in the Bible to gather
with the local body, with the church. Why we're commanded
to do that is for all different reasons. The simplest
reason could be you're going to encourage your brothers and
(16:01):
sisters that see you walking in your Christian brothers and sisters.
Another simple reason is you're singing a song and someone
looks over at you and they see you singing and
they're like, man, Tyler's doing it. And then the more
the bigger reasons for you for your question is it
feels your soul, It spiritually increases your knowledge of God
(16:23):
and it supplements all of this Bible reading. So we
just heard it in our church on Sunday morning, reading
out a second Peter and Marshall's teaching about when Peter
says you need to always be able to supplement your
faith right, and then he goes down the list of
what to supplement with virtue, knowledge, brotherly love, and this
(16:48):
has done best in a church on a Sunday morning.
So when you're asking me about online Bible study, I'm like, hole,
pump the brakes on that. That's cool. There's nothing wrong
with that. Of course it's great. But I want Sunday
morning teaching to be first in your what you're getting
(17:09):
to add alongside your personal bibble reading Tyler, what you get.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
So did he say that he's not going to church.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
He didn't say anything about it.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Yeah, I would say that. The first thing that comes
to mind is that I'm encouraged that he's asking the
question about Bible study. That's a great sign that he
wants to learn more. Yeah, but I would go back
to the foundation needs to be find your local church
and become a member and start going regularly. And then
(17:38):
that is just kind of icing on the cake. Sometimes
as I've just became a member and I'm regularly going
to church, sometimes personally for me, certain things can start
not necessarily overwhelming me, but you know, we're both busy guys.
(18:01):
People listening to this are really busy too. Finding time
to go to church is the most important thing on
Sundays and making it a priority. But then personally, what
I'm not struggling or overwhelmed with really, but I'm just
trying to figure it out, is we got Bible study now,
which is I think indefinite at least through the fall,
(18:23):
every Wednesday night. Then we have members meetings the first
of the month on Sunday nights, where we missed the
football game last night, which I'm completely fine with, but
these are priorities that you need to have in place.
And then you have a men's gathering, Like I'm new
to this, so I'm learning all of the things, so
(18:47):
you get kind of what I'm saying where it's like,
and then I go back and I'm like, I just
need to foundationally make sure that I'm continuing to go
to church and be regular there and meeting the other
members and not beat myself up if I miss a
men's gathering or if I miss a Bible study.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Marshall is the first one to say. He's on the
podcast last week. He's the first one to say that
the Sunday morning gatherings, if you do that, we're called
to do that. But don't worry about anything else. You
don't have to make a single other thing. Don't make
that the priority. Like make the Sunday morning gathering the thing.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Again, I'm coming. You know me better than anybody. I'm
all or nothing. Yeah, So personally I'm struggling with like
I'm all in. Maybe I gotta go do everything or
it's nothing. So I need and with everything else in
my life, I need to be like it's okay to
just make sure you're at Sunday and you can miss this,
but go if you can. I don't mean to take
(19:45):
this away from what his question was.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Yeah, So his question is is there anything online and
online forum for Bible studies? And so yeah, we't. Just
like my brother said, Tyler, there's got two Tyler's going
on here. Just like my brother said, starts with the church.
It's gonna start with the church and then ask ask
members in your pasture. You know, that's what I've learned.
(20:09):
It's like I know basically nothing. You know, I'll read
my Bible.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
Every morning, but the relationships that you build with starting
again with the local church, asking your pastor, Hey, do
you have any Bible studies that you recommend online?
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Yeah? So when you were as you're going through the Bible,
reading your consistent Bible plan, which hopefully Tyler's doing that too,
and you're going through and you're saying, I don't feel
like I'm getting enough. The email says it's so confusing
with two Tyler's. But the email is saying, I'm going
through my reading and I don't feel like it's enough.
(20:42):
Totally get that, totally get it. So then I'm asking you, Tyler,
my brother Tyler, what do you tell him? Maybe when
you're reading and you have a question, do you have
a study Bible, like you recommend study Bibles. Instead of
going into a Bible study, maybe while you're reading your plan,
(21:05):
you're also going through a study Bible itself. I did
that the first time I read the Bible all the
way through. I read a study Bible. There's an NIV
Study Bible, and as I got to a new chapter
or a new book, I read the whole thing, like
here's who wrote this in what year and why they
wrote it, and who he was writing to, and then
(21:28):
here's the scenario. And then in little pieces as you
go there's examples and explanations as you're walking through it.
That's what a study Bible does. Is that what you did?
Speaker 2 (21:39):
Other Bibles that don't have that, Yeah, yeah, yeah, that
are just scripture.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Yeah I'm sure there are, but yeah, my Bible now
doesn't have anything, it's just the scriptures. My Bible that
I really like is the John Maxwell and IV Leadership Bible,
and it'll take little it'll take the verse and then
apply it to like, you know, a leadership analogy or
an example. Great. I would say my suggestion would be
the John MacArthur ESV. But there's a lot of things
(22:05):
you could you could do. I would say that route
plus church or let me say it again, church plus
that route. And don't worry about these online Bible studies
if you have further questions. I also recommend the Bible
Project on YouTube. Did you ever watch that? So you
could google say you're reading through Joshua and you're like, man,
(22:29):
this chapter seven and Joshua is confusing to me, I
don't know what's going on. Then you could YouTube just
like this Joshua chapter seven the Bible Project. It literally
pulls up a cartoon drawing, not a cartoon, a drawing
laying out that portion of Joshua in a very easy
(22:52):
to understand way. So, yeah, anything else out of this before.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
We take a break. No, I'm just encouraged that he's asking.
He's he's you put yourself around other believers, ask your pastor,
and just keep asking and you'll find something. God will
show you what works for you.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Yep, we'll take a break here. Back. A few weeks ago,
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(23:28):
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if you want to get a hold of me, if
you want me to send you a message, I say
this a lot. Cameo dot com slash Granger Smith. It's
a really good way to do it. Or you can
(24:09):
download the cameo app and search for me Granger Smith.
You ask for whatever you want me to record, and
I pull out my phone and do a video message
specifically to you or to your son, or your boyfriend
or girlfriend or daughter or whatever. It might be a
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with my brother Tyler as a guest answering y'all's questions.
If you have one for me, email Grangersmith Podcast at
(24:52):
gmail dot com and the next question here. Subjecline says
lost job. Email says, Hey, Grange, I recently lost my
job because I made a mistake at work. I feel
like I've failed my family. I've been going to school
and working hard to try to better myself and my job.
Any advice about changing career direction, words of encouragement and
(25:15):
prayer would be great. I'm feeling so lost right now.
Thanks Kyle from Indiana. Okay, let me recap my brain here. Kyle,
lost your job from a mistake. I'm sorry about that, brother,
and you feel like you've failed your family. Hey man,
that's a very normal feeling. It would be weird if
(25:40):
you didn't feel it that right. It would be weird
if you didn't feel like you were failing your family
because you lost your job. Because a man was made
to work. Literally, that's in the Book of Genesis. The
man was made to work, and so you feel this.
There's a connection that we cannot explain in our d
(26:00):
in a that calls us to work, and when we
lose our job, we literally feel like we've lost part
of ourselves. And so it is totally normal that you're thinking,
why do I feel like a failure? And part of
that is you could use that feeling to drive you
into the next thing. It's funny like I tell my
(26:23):
kids this whenever they whenever they get nervous, Like London
has a basket or volleyball game today and when she
gets nervous, I always will say, use that that those
nerves to fuel the game that you're about to play.
It's gonna focus your eyes, it's gonna tense up your muscles,
(26:43):
it's gonna increase your blood flow and your oxygen because
you're breathing heavier. So use all of those natural things
that adrenaline and anxiety brings on, and then use it
to play the game better and so that this failure
that you're feeling. I say the same thing to you, Kyle.
Use that when you go to bed at night and
(27:04):
you go, I don't I'm not satisfied with not having
a job. I feel like I'm failing. Instead of instead
of like lying in the mud with that feeling, use
it and go, man, you know what, I'm gonna set
my alarm my alarms set for six. Almost say go
ahead and change it to five, and I'm gonna get
up because I don't like this feeling that I feel
(27:25):
like I'm failing my family. So I'm gonna get up
at five instead of six. I'm gonna start this new
routine of bettering myself and looking for this job. Like
you said, so use that. What do you What do
you say to Kyle Tyler?
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I would tell Kyle that we've all been where you are.
It was the year twenty twenty, right, and we didn't
know what was going on. Everything shut down, touring was gone,
you know, we had to get creative to find new
ways for incoming. But to your point, it's very important,
(27:59):
like Granger said, to not let this become Well, I
don't have a job, so I'm going to sleep in
a little bit and maybe I'll get to it tomorrow afternoon.
You can you have to control what you can control.
You can't control that you lost your job. You made
a mistake. That's in the past. What can you can control.
You can get up early, Like Granger said, I don't
(28:19):
know what time you're getting up. Let's say, like he said, six,
get up at five. Be the first one up in
your household. Let your wife know and your kids know
that where's dad.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
It's good, he's up.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
What's he doing. They're inspired that you're getting up early,
that you have a plan. You don't have a job
right now. You know there's no income coming in, but
you've got a plan, and they're looking at you as
the leader, saying, I don't know what's going on, but
I trust dad. You know, take care of yourself, watch
your diet, don't drink alcohol, drink water, get in your bible,
(28:51):
read some books, and on your passions, what interests you.
It's it's hard not knowing what you like, but you know,
there's there's so many opportunities these day. Don't don't watch
the news because it's going to tell you we're in
a recession and everything's bad and everything's down. Don't listen
to that. Problems are just opportunities, and there's the best
opportunity in twenty twenty three with technology and assuming you
(29:14):
have a phone right at your fingertips, ma'n. So just
keep going, Yeah, what do you say about getting something?
In the meantime, taking a job that he feels like
is lesser than what he deserves. Or is qualified for
just to keep the lights on while he's looking for
something else. Yeah, again, not knowing his situation. Man, you
(29:35):
gotta humble yourself. And again, I think it's more important
that you're that you're showing your family that you're you're
gonna make it happen. So maybe it's mowing lawns, or
it's calling your buddy to help him do some some
drywall and some painting, you know stuff, not only not
only to get additional income. You know, granted it won't
(29:57):
be maybe won't be much or what you're used to,
but it's a sign of self respect. Again, it just
goes back to the integrity of getting up and taking
care of your family while on the side early in
the morning or when you get home from painting or
mowing lawns, you're working on what you're passionate about long term.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
It's great. It's great. Next question, the subject line says
wanting a girlfriend but not needing one. Hey, grand dream
eighteen years old. My name is Austin. I'm from Wisconsin.
I'm listening to your old episodes and working my way
to the new ones. I really enjoy listening to them.
So side note, you might not get this for a while.
(30:39):
Oh okay. Then he says, I'll start listening to new
ones to hear your thoughts about my question. Here's my question.
I want a girlfriend, but I don't need one, but
I feel like everyone I know has one, and so
that makes me want one, and I'm afraid I'm never
going to get one if I don't get one soon.
That's literally what he wrote. I don't think he said
(31:01):
it like I said it, though, and then he says parentheses.
I don't have any female friends, so I feel like
if I ever talk to a girl, I'm gonna be scared.
What are your thoughts. I've been leading all these answers.
I'm gonna let you lead this one. Tyler, eighteen years old, Austin.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Okay, well, I'll start with the scared thing. He doesn't
have any girl friends, so he's scared. So if you
do want a girlfriend, my recommendation. That's helped me a lot,
and it's just going to help you and everybody listening
in general. Just you know, human communication is. I don't
care if you are not interested in a girl. Say
(31:40):
you're checking out at the grocery store, or you're pumping
gas or you're walking into the gas station and you
open the door for somebody. Just get good at talking
to people, specifically in this case, get good at talking
to girls. And again, I don't care if they're eighteen
and super beautiful or if they're the mid thirties, if
(32:01):
they're with somebody, if they're not, just be nice, open
up to them. If you're checking out, talk to the person,
say hey, how's your day. Just generic stuff and get
used to talking to the opposite sex and you'll get
good at it. And then when you do see that
eighteen year old girl that you think is beautiful, it's
(32:22):
gonna be a promise. It's gonna be a lot easier
to go up and talk to her because you do
it all the time.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Yeah, that's great. I want to say that you're also
eighteen and you're not in any position right now that
where you need to settle down or have a girlfriend,
even though the world tells you that you do. The
world's gonna be like Austin, You're everyone has a girlfriend.
(32:48):
You should try it. It's awesome. Look at Instagram. Everyone's
got one, all your friends have one. You're the only
one that doesn't. It's just not true. In fact, I
don't have one, Yeah, Tyler doesn't. The guys that are
getting girlfriends earlier and getting serious earlier and then marrying
just because that's the thing to do, are then going
(33:09):
to go through this round of divorces and then you're
gonna still be single at twenty four when the first
rounds of divorce start, and you're gonna be like, wow,
that's what I was missing out on. That's not worth it.
So Austin from Wisconsin man I said that I have
said this for so many episodes, for so many years
(33:32):
on this podcast, that there is just there is no
need to have a significant other just because it feels
like you should. Now the feeling of that you should,
that's normal. That's like, you know, that's in you. You're
gonna want to procreate and have a family. That's in you.
(33:53):
Your purpose in a way, not everybody's, but in a
way that's that's why you're creative, to populate the earth,
and so that's all that feeling is. But it doesn't
mean you have to go find somebody right now. So
just understand that you have a natural desire to be
with somebody because you see everyone else, But don't let
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that drive you to the wrong person. Man, I think
and this is I've also said this on the podcast
many times, that feeling that you're like, man, I'm kind
of scared to talk to a girl. I think that's
that girls like that. You know what girls usually don't
like is guys that are over confident, like, man, I'm
so good with girls. I could talk to any girl
(34:36):
just just you know.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
They like that if you talk to them, but if
you don't say anything true, they would never know.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
So my point is, Austin, you could use that. You
could say I'd love to take you out to coffee,
and I'll be honest with you. I get nervous around
pretty girls like you, and so please don't judge me
if I'm if I fumble a few words or Yeah,
the fact that if he gets that far and he
(35:04):
actually says that, that's a win. That's a win win,
and she'll respect that, she'll love that. If she says no,
just move on to the next.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
Yeah. The last thing I'll say with that is to
your point, it's like, yeah, don't get a girlfriend just
to get a girlfriend. You need to date with intention.
And my belief is that you need a date for
the end goal. Of marriage, and when you're eighteen, assuming
you're probably not ready for marriage yet, you probably just
(35:33):
want a girlfriend because your buddy's got one and you
want to hook up. All we've all been there. Work
on you, work on maybe you're in school. Work on
your school, get better grades. Work on your craft and
work on your job. Work on yourself. Yeah, that's awesome.
All right, man, we're doing good. We're rolling through this break.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
Question. That's the subject line. It says question, and the
email says, dear Granger, I need your advice on something important.
I was nine years old when my parents got divorced.
I'm fifteen right now. For the past six years, I
feel like life is throwing all it can at me,
that God is giving me too much to handle lowercase
(36:17):
G God. First I lost my mom to the divorce.
Then my stepmother treats me poorly. I moved schools last year.
I lost a lot of friends. Thankfully, I've gained a
couple in their place. And now I've been kicked out
and moved in with my grandmother. My dad never calls me.
My four siblings have nothing to do with me. I'm
(36:38):
the oldest, and I feel tired all the time. I
don't eat, I have no motivation to go on. I
just want to make things right with my family. But
I don't know how can you help me, possibly, Jenna.
You know, sometimes we get these we get the question
we just had where it's like, yeah, you're fine, everything's good,
(37:00):
you don't need a girl, and then you get Jenna
who's fifteen, and I just say, man, Joe, I'm so sorry.
It's not supposed to be like this, reading an email
like this, Man, I just want to I want to
tell you that what you're feeling is Man, that sounds
(37:23):
totally normal for you to feel with no more motivation, tired,
don't want to eat. I'm not gonna say stuck it up, Jenna.
You know, get motivated because you've got a lot going on,
especially for fifteen. You have a lot going on for
(37:43):
a twenty year old, but you're fifteen, and so what's
the difference. Well, the difference is at fifteen, you should
still be under the authority, living under the authority of
an adult. Not because you're not because you're not capable,
but but that's just really that's the cycle of life
(38:06):
is is you should be in in all normal circumstances,
under the under the authority of an adult, and so
hopefully your grandmother is your is that for you, even
it doesn't feel like it. And so here there's so
(38:29):
there's a lot of ways to go about this, and
it's sensitive because you're fifteen and if you're a if
you're a boy, I could probably answer easier. But I've
never been a fifteen year old girl, Jenna, so I
can't and I cannot relate. But I could say this,
you're in desperate need of community, which you could find
(38:55):
at school or church. And some times, if you don't
feel like you have community at school or church, then
it's time to lean in to what you like to do.
So I would I would search your heart and go, okay,
what do I like? Well I like chess? Okay, well
(39:18):
there's probably a chess team, okay, And so that that's
a way to find a community quickly, is to lean
into I mean, if you like Fortnite, like whatever it is,
find a community that you could associate with. And then
on top of that, before I let Tyler handle this,
(39:39):
on top of that, I want to add, if you
start doing the right things, and this is what the
authority of an adult would need to tell you. If
you're living under the roof of a mom and dad,
then this is what we hope they would teach you.
And it's this is gonna sound crazy, but I'm I'm
(40:00):
gonna try to explain it the best I can. In
everything that you do all throughout your day, from when
you wake up to when you go to sleep, you're
gonna have a lot of decisions to make. A lot
of them are immoral or excuse me, non moral decisions
like are you gonna eat pancakes or a muffin? That
(40:22):
is a non moral decision, so whatever. But what you
can do even with those decisions is make try your
best to make a right choice in each of those decisions.
For instance, let's just throw this out there. For instance,
you're gonna look at breakfast in terms of how do
(40:44):
you make a right or wrong decision with breakfast? Well,
you could make a rider wrong decision by how well
does that food fuel you during the day if you're
tired or you're not sleeping, Right, what kind of food
for breakfast? Would it be a muffin or would it
be oatmeal or fruit? You know, what's the better fuel
(41:04):
for my day? So you make that decision to go
to oatmeal instead of the muffin. And then the next
decision you have to make is is do I do
I talk to this do I'm just trying to think
of another immoral decision. Do I talk to this friend
and go and be late to class? Or do I
(41:25):
cut the conversation short and be late. So you make
the first decision right for oatmeal, and then you make
the second decision, and then you mess that decision up
because now you're late to class. But then you make
another decision that's right, and you continue all throughout your
day trying to consciously make a right decision, and you
will mess up a few of those, like you might
(41:46):
choose a muffin or you might be late to class.
But the more right decisions you make, you'll notice that
your days start to make sense. They start to all
of a sudden, now they have meaning, and you're starting
to have have an appropriate amount of control over what's
happening in your day, because, like Tyler said earlier, you
(42:10):
have to control what you can control, and you've got
a lot in your life that's out of control. It's
wild right now. A lot of your dad didn't call you,
You're you know You've got all kinds of things that
you say God is throwing at you. You can't control
all of that, but you could, Okay, what time do
you go to bed? You know, like, are you gonna
be flipping through Instagram at ten thirty? Are you gonna say,
(42:31):
I'm gonna make the decision to put my phone down,
I'm gonna try to get I'm gonna try to make
my room dark about nine thirty and put screens away.
And if I can make my room darker and maybe
try to read a book so that it makes me tired,
I get a better night's sleep. It's amazing what just
a good night's sleep will do for the next day.
(42:51):
These you're gonna have thousands of these kind of decisions
that you can control as opposed to all the ones
that you can't. What you got Teller, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
I would just I would just add to that that,
like you said, community, church or school, being around good people,
good friends, taking care of yourself, nutrition, getting a better
early exercise, controlling what you can control. And third, I
would say, just focus on gratefulness. Again. It's kind of
one of those secret keys to life, you know, it's
(43:28):
and it's so tough to be like, what do I have?
Speaker 1 (43:30):
What did you just.
Speaker 2 (43:32):
Read my email? What are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (43:33):
What do I have to be grateful for?
Speaker 2 (43:34):
Well, it sounds like you got a grandma that's taking
care of you. And I'm talking the little things I'm
talking about. You're not in the streets. Did you sleep
in a bed last night? Did you have a roof
over your head? And again, I know these things are tough,
but if you can just focus and switch that that
mind frame to gratefulness first thing in the morning and
(43:59):
last thing when you go to bed and throughout the
day that you got a grandma that loves you, in
a roof over your head, and hopefully food that she
has in the cabinets. And then and then the last
thing is you don't have to continue that pattern in
your family. You can be the first one in your
family that says, hey, it stops with me. I'm going
to have a healthy relationship, you know, God willing and
(44:19):
a family and not divorce. And I have the ability
to change.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
So we have gratefulness. We have controlling the controllables, making
the little decisions throughout the day consciously You're not going
to make them all right, but consciously make little decisions
that you can control, and then I would challenge you, Jenna.
I'm going to challenge you on something, and I don't
(44:45):
know if you'll take me up on this, but I
promise you if you do, I promise it will have
a positive impact immediately on your life. And that is
for you to do completely away with social media, delete
it all. You're in a position right now when you
need to be as healthy as you can mentally, and
it's proven fact that social media is disruptive to your
(45:09):
well being, and with you going through everything you're going through,
this is not the time, especially for a fifteen year
old girl, This is not the time to deal with
it a comparison game with other people. With everything you
have going on, the weight of the world on your shoulders,
you would be doing yourself such a huge favor to
delete social media completely, stay off of it. You'll be
(45:34):
so much better. Rethink that's tough. He thinks you do it.
Speaker 2 (45:42):
I don't think so if I'm being honest, because I mean,
can you do it? Can I do it? It's I
agree with everything you're saying. I think the first step
in that is do not look at your phone first
thing in the morning and don't look at it thirty
minutes before you go to bed, like, well.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Dude, let me just say this. My kids will not
be on social media at fifteen. They won't. We've already
talked about it. We've already made their own accounts. Yeah,
they won't have they won't have Instagram, Facebook, TikTok. They won't.
They won't. And Amber and I are going to actually
pay them money when they're eighteen. We haven't decided how
(46:19):
much yet, but we're gonna come up with an amount
of money that we're going to actually pay.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
I completely agree with that. I think that's great.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
So when we say, Jenna, I'm not saying I'm not
asking to do something that I wouldn't ask my own
kids to do. Jenna. That's that's my point. Get off
of all of it, delete it all. You laying in
bed at ten forty five eleven PM, heartbroken, feeling like
your dad needing attention that your dad's not giving you,
(46:48):
and instead you're laying on Instagram thumbing through. Oh that
is damaging. Yeah yeah, and with that, that's where we're
going to end this. Yeah, Tyler, dude, thank you so much.
Your advice is amazing and the way that you could
(47:09):
think through things with such a calm manner. I think
everyone probably felt that on this episode. So appreciate you
man and all you guys. Will see you next Monday.
You guys, thanks for joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast.
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