February 22, 2023 • 11 mins
Another day, another dilemma... ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma says, Oh, Delilah,
do I have a doozy of a dilemma? Who? Yes,
(00:45):
she does. I'm a twenty six year old woman who
is in love with my stepbrother. Our parents married when
I was ten and he was twelve, so we've known
each other for years through most of our childhood, and
most of our childhood was spent resenting one another. Then
(01:06):
once we were grown, we realized we really liked each other,
in fact, so much so that we're in love. We've
not told our parents as it just seemed too awkward.
But then I became pregnant. I was terrified, but he
assured me it would be okay. We were so happy
and so excited, but sadly, I'm miscarried. I'm beyond devastated,
(01:30):
but he is confessed. He is relieved now, he says,
he thinks we need to spend some wartime apart. Help me.
He's the love of my life. Losing the baby was terrible,
and now losing him is just beyond bearable. How do
I get him to stay? How do I show him
(01:50):
that I am what he needs? I want to build
a future and a family with this man. Please help me?
From anonymous sort of glad you are anonymous and didn't
give me your name? There who? I don't know that
I have any words for this, but I'm going to
attempt it. Okay, my response is as lame as it
(02:11):
might be. Is coming up next Tonight's Delillah's Dilemma is
from a twenty six year old woman who has fallen
in love with her stepbrother. They've been a part of
each other's lives most of their lives. They were ten
and twelve, they got pregnant together, and she lost the baby.
(02:33):
Now she thinks she's losing him. She says, how do
I get him to stay? How do I show him
that I am what he needs? You don't doesn't matter
If this is your stepbrother or a school friend you
fell in love with, or the love of your life
that you met on a plane flying to Jamaica, doesn't matter.
You never ever grovel to get someone to stay with you, period,
(02:58):
end of story. When somebody loves you and wants to
be committed to you, they stay. When somebody loves you
and cherishes you and wants to be with you, come
hell or high water, they stay. They don't turn and
walk away. They don't say I need space, they don't
(03:21):
say who I'm glad that happened and your heart is broken,
so that I am not obligated to be here. They stay.
The fact that he's your stepbrother is really weird, honey,
and I don't know how you would explain that to
your family. But that's not the sad part. The sad
(03:42):
part is after going through what you guys went through,
he wants to exit stage right. The one who is
meant to be with you would never walk away, especially
after you miscarried. That's my best advice to you, my friend,
And I'm sorry you're going with this. I wish I
could give you a big hug. Tonight's Delilah's Dilima is
(04:06):
from a listener who says, I'm going through a terrible
time in my life right now. My husband is left
and says he isn't coming home. I feel lost. I
keep thinking it's all a dream and it will go away,
but then reality hits. We've been through some rough times
in the last year, but this time he's refusing to
(04:27):
see me or to come home. We don't have children,
but we have fur babies. We even got married at
the Humane Society, coming up on five years this September.
When I ask him to come and visit, he claims
he wants peace. I don't have very many friends to
(04:48):
talk to. Delilah. Is there any hope of fixing this?
I look forward to hearing your advice. I will share
my advice. Well, I don't know that I have any advice,
but we'll share my words of love with you. Coming
up next Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a listener whose
(05:15):
husband walked away. Has walked away from all of his responsibilities,
from his wife, from his home, and from the pets
that they have adopted from the Humane Society. So it's
one of two things. Either he does not love you
and does not want to be married any longer, or
(05:36):
he is having a mental health crisis. I don't know
which it is. Your letter doesn't indicate that you know
which it is. If he is having a mental health crisis, hopefully, prayerfully,
his family and friends will come alongside him and help
him to get some help. If he simply doesn't love
you anymore, there's nothing you can do but take a
(05:57):
deep breath, claim your dignity, blame your voice, and move
on with your head held high. Don't grovel. That's not
going to help anything. Don't go begging him back. If
he no longer cares for you, you can't fix that.
Good luck, and I hope that things work out. I
(06:18):
hope that if he is having a mental health issue,
that he gets the help that he needs. And if
he has simply decided he doesn't love you and he's
moving on, I hope you get counseling and you are
able to heal your heart and love again. Good luck,
God bless you. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is a heartbreaker. No,
(06:48):
it's a lot of a heartbreaker. But I just love
how protective this big sister is. Young listener named Savannah
says I don't usually write mine, but I'm in a
bit of a pickle and I don't really know how
to feel or what to do. I'm fifteen and I
have a little sister who is the love of my life.
(07:11):
Her name is Olivia. She is turning four tomorrow, and
here's our problem. She's had a lump on her left
arm for a while now it's gotten bigger. After Thanksgiving,
Mom and I went with her to get a biopsy
and we found out it is a form of cancer. Luckily,
(07:32):
it is not spread to her body. Not only is
her birthday tomorrow, but she has to go and get
chemotherapy too. This is extremely affecting our family and especially me.
I start to worry when I'm in school. I can't
help but picture bad thoughts of Olivia, and I wish
(07:53):
that I could be happier that it hasn't spread, but
something is holding me back. All I wish is from
my little sissy to be well and alive and out
of all of this and hope for a better future.
But I can't yet. Please help me, Delilah oh Man, Savannah,
I wish I could reach through the airwaves and give
(08:14):
you a big hug instead, I'm going to give you
some Mamma Delilah advice. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's dilemma
is from a young girl, a teenager who's fifteen, whose
baby sister was just diagnosed with cancer and big sister
can't stop worrying and she doesn't know how to feel
(08:38):
joy because she's so concerned for her little sister. Savannah,
in the second sentence of your letter, you said, I
really don't know how to feel or what to do.
And here's what I'm going to say. You get to
feel whatever you feel. Those are your feelings, and nobody
(08:59):
can tell you how to process them. Nobody can tell
you what to feel. I am sure you are feeling
a great deal of trepidation and fear, and fear who
it can paralyze us. What I'm going to suggest is
(09:19):
that you allow yourself to feel the fear as well
as the joy that is in your life. The joy
that it hasn't spread to other parts of her body,
the joy that you have such a precious little sister,
the joy that you have access to medical services that
can save her life. There's a lot of things to
(09:41):
be joyful for, and you can feel more than one
emotion at the same time. You can feel fear, you
can feel the trepidation, you can feel the nervousness and
still feel love and joy and hope. None of us
(10:02):
knows what tomorrow is going to bring. All we have
is this twenty four hour sweetheart. That's all we have,
so lover her. It takes sunshine shining through rainclouds to
make a rainbow. So the rainstorm is happening while the
sun is happening. The two can coexist and creates a
(10:26):
beautiful rainbow. In the same way, the tears you are crying,
the grief you are feeling, the fear you are feeling
for your sister's future, can coexist with hope, with joy,
with love and create a beautiful rainbow. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
(10:49):
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on day, It's Delilah. He
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma says, Oh, Delilah,
do I have a doozy of a dilemma? Who? Yes,
(00:45):
she does. I'm a twenty six year old woman who
is in love with my stepbrother. Our parents married when
I was ten and he was twelve, so we've known
each other for years through most of our childhood, and
most of our childhood was spent resenting one another. Then
(01:06):
once we were grown, we realized we really liked each other,
in fact, so much so that we're in love. We've
not told our parents as it just seemed too awkward.
But then I became pregnant. I was terrified, but he
assured me it would be okay. We were so happy
and so excited, but sadly, I'm miscarried. I'm beyond devastated,
(01:30):
but he is confessed. He is relieved now, he says,
he thinks we need to spend some wartime apart. Help me.
He's the love of my life. Losing the baby was terrible,
and now losing him is just beyond bearable. How do
I get him to stay? How do I show him
(01:50):
that I am what he needs? I want to build
a future and a family with this man. Please help me?
From anonymous sort of glad you are anonymous and didn't
give me your name? There who? I don't know that
I have any words for this, but I'm going to
attempt it. Okay, my response is as lame as it
(02:11):
might be. Is coming up next Tonight's Delillah's Dilemma is
from a twenty six year old woman who has fallen
in love with her stepbrother. They've been a part of
each other's lives most of their lives. They were ten
and twelve, they got pregnant together, and she lost the baby.
(02:33):
Now she thinks she's losing him. She says, how do
I get him to stay? How do I show him
that I am what he needs? You don't doesn't matter
If this is your stepbrother or a school friend you
fell in love with, or the love of your life
that you met on a plane flying to Jamaica, doesn't matter.
You never ever grovel to get someone to stay with you, period,
(02:58):
end of story. When somebody loves you and wants to
be committed to you, they stay. When somebody loves you
and cherishes you and wants to be with you, come
hell or high water, they stay. They don't turn and
walk away. They don't say I need space, they don't
(03:21):
say who I'm glad that happened and your heart is broken,
so that I am not obligated to be here. They stay.
The fact that he's your stepbrother is really weird, honey,
and I don't know how you would explain that to
your family. But that's not the sad part. The sad
(03:42):
part is after going through what you guys went through,
he wants to exit stage right. The one who is
meant to be with you would never walk away, especially
after you miscarried. That's my best advice to you, my friend,
And I'm sorry you're going with this. I wish I
could give you a big hug. Tonight's Delilah's Dilima is
(04:06):
from a listener who says, I'm going through a terrible
time in my life right now. My husband is left
and says he isn't coming home. I feel lost. I
keep thinking it's all a dream and it will go away,
but then reality hits. We've been through some rough times
in the last year, but this time he's refusing to
(04:27):
see me or to come home. We don't have children,
but we have fur babies. We even got married at
the Humane Society, coming up on five years this September.
When I ask him to come and visit, he claims
he wants peace. I don't have very many friends to
(04:48):
talk to. Delilah. Is there any hope of fixing this?
I look forward to hearing your advice. I will share
my advice. Well, I don't know that I have any advice,
but we'll share my words of love with you. Coming
up next Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a listener whose
(05:15):
husband walked away. Has walked away from all of his responsibilities,
from his wife, from his home, and from the pets
that they have adopted from the Humane Society. So it's
one of two things. Either he does not love you
and does not want to be married any longer, or
(05:36):
he is having a mental health crisis. I don't know
which it is. Your letter doesn't indicate that you know
which it is. If he is having a mental health crisis, hopefully, prayerfully,
his family and friends will come alongside him and help
him to get some help. If he simply doesn't love
you anymore, there's nothing you can do but take a
(05:57):
deep breath, claim your dignity, blame your voice, and move
on with your head held high. Don't grovel. That's not
going to help anything. Don't go begging him back. If
he no longer cares for you, you can't fix that.
Good luck, and I hope that things work out. I
(06:18):
hope that if he is having a mental health issue,
that he gets the help that he needs. And if
he has simply decided he doesn't love you and he's
moving on, I hope you get counseling and you are
able to heal your heart and love again. Good luck,
God bless you. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is a heartbreaker. No,
(06:48):
it's a lot of a heartbreaker. But I just love
how protective this big sister is. Young listener named Savannah
says I don't usually write mine, but I'm in a
bit of a pickle and I don't really know how
to feel or what to do. I'm fifteen and I
have a little sister who is the love of my life.
(07:11):
Her name is Olivia. She is turning four tomorrow, and
here's our problem. She's had a lump on her left
arm for a while now it's gotten bigger. After Thanksgiving,
Mom and I went with her to get a biopsy
and we found out it is a form of cancer. Luckily,
(07:32):
it is not spread to her body. Not only is
her birthday tomorrow, but she has to go and get
chemotherapy too. This is extremely affecting our family and especially me.
I start to worry when I'm in school. I can't
help but picture bad thoughts of Olivia, and I wish
(07:53):
that I could be happier that it hasn't spread, but
something is holding me back. All I wish is from
my little sissy to be well and alive and out
of all of this and hope for a better future.
But I can't yet. Please help me, Delilah oh Man, Savannah,
I wish I could reach through the airwaves and give
(08:14):
you a big hug instead, I'm going to give you
some Mamma Delilah advice. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's dilemma
is from a young girl, a teenager who's fifteen, whose
baby sister was just diagnosed with cancer and big sister
can't stop worrying and she doesn't know how to feel
(08:38):
joy because she's so concerned for her little sister. Savannah,
in the second sentence of your letter, you said, I
really don't know how to feel or what to do.
And here's what I'm going to say. You get to
feel whatever you feel. Those are your feelings, and nobody
(08:59):
can tell you how to process them. Nobody can tell
you what to feel. I am sure you are feeling
a great deal of trepidation and fear, and fear who
it can paralyze us. What I'm going to suggest is
(09:19):
that you allow yourself to feel the fear as well
as the joy that is in your life. The joy
that it hasn't spread to other parts of her body,
the joy that you have such a precious little sister,
the joy that you have access to medical services that
can save her life. There's a lot of things to
(09:41):
be joyful for, and you can feel more than one
emotion at the same time. You can feel fear, you
can feel the trepidation, you can feel the nervousness and
still feel love and joy and hope. None of us
(10:02):
knows what tomorrow is going to bring. All we have
is this twenty four hour sweetheart. That's all we have,
so lover her. It takes sunshine shining through rainclouds to
make a rainbow. So the rainstorm is happening while the
sun is happening. The two can coexist and creates a
(10:26):
beautiful rainbow. In the same way, the tears you are crying,
the grief you are feeling, the fear you are feeling
for your sister's future, can coexist with hope, with joy,
with love and create a beautiful rainbow. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
(10:49):
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on day, It's Delilah. He
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