DELILAH DILEMMAS: Folks needing a little support

Maria's husband is out all night and doesn't answer his phone... There's a young overwhelmed mom with a critically ill child... And, an elderly gentleman looking for love.  Can I offer any words of wisdom? ~ Delilah

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Every night on
my radio show, we have Delilah's dilemmas. We love them all.

(00:24):
When you call or you write with a situation that
you're in and you just need a little advice and direction,
we love them all, and today we wanted to share
some of them with you on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's
Delilah's dilemma is just ridiculous. Maria says, I have four children,

(00:45):
I'm on my third marriage together eight years, and I'm
having quote trust issues with my husband. Wait till you
hear this. Are you ready? My biggest problem is that
he loves to go out between midnight and six am.
At first, he would give me a call about three am,
but now he has a tendency to not call or

(01:06):
answer any calls from me. He's given me every excuse
in the book. He has no signal, the phone was
on vibrate. He didn't hear it. I voiced my opinion
that a married man shouldn't be out at these hours.
He says he's out with friends. I just don't know
what to think anymore. Why can't he just answer his phone?
Why can't he go out from a to midnight or one?

(01:29):
He swears there's no one else, But I'm sorry, I
can't help but think there is. Or am I being paranoid?
My husband number two cheated and did similar things to
me that my now husband is doing. I'm feeling lost
from Maria Ah, Maria, Maria, Maria, Maria. We will talk
in a moment, sweetheart, and I will share my words

(01:51):
with you. Coming up next. Delilah's dilemma is from somebody
who really does not want to break through her own denial.
Her husband leaves at night between midnight and six and
won't answer her calls. Maria, That's not the way a

(02:12):
husband or even a friend behaves. That is somebody who
is either out cheating on you, out gambling, out, drugging, out, drinking, out,
doing something that is not conducive to a good life
and a marriage and a father to four children. So
I don't understand why you're saying. I can't help to

(02:33):
think that something's going on. Something's going on. Nobody goes
out between midnight and six a m. And doesn't come
home and doesn't call home. That's ridiculous. And what's really
ridiculous is that you are tolerating this behavior, especially since
you have children. You need to protect yourself and them,

(02:55):
pack this person's bag and move on with life, and
then go find help for yourself. If you've been married
three times to cheaters and liars and losers, you need
to figure out why you are attracted to destructive people. Maria,
you need to figure out why you keep inviting this
element into your life. And don't say I didn't see it,

(03:17):
I didn't know it, because I've used that line. Now
it's time to grow up and figure out why you're
repeating this pattern of behavior and protect yourself and your children.
Good luck and God bless you. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is

(03:38):
from a young mom who is feeling very, very overwhelmed,
and for good reason. She says, Dear Delilah, I've listened
to your show for most of my life. My nine
month old son has been admitted into the ICU for Kids.
He had a seizure four days ago, and we just
got the news that he has a serious disorder and

(04:02):
will have to be closely watched for the rest of
my life and his. My dilemma is this, I don't
know what to tell my other four children. I'm scared
because my three girls just lost their dad, my ex
husband last year. My husband says to stay strong, but
I feel like my world is falling apart, first my

(04:26):
ex husband, who was still a good friend, and now
my baby boy. I don't know what to do, and
all I've been doing for the past four days is praying,
please help me. From Heidi. Heidi, I will have my
words for you coming up in a moment. Tonight's Delilah's

(04:56):
dilemma is from Heidi, a mom with four children and
a nine month old baby that was just diagnosed with
a seizure disorder. And Heidi, there are no words right
now that are going to comfort your heart. As a
mother facing the fact that your son has a serious
illness that's going to be with him for the rest

(05:17):
of his life. That in and of itself is overwhelming.
But to add to that the grief you're still going
through with your daughters having lost their daddy. You, I'm sure,
are so overwhelmed. I will not echo the words of
your husband and say to stay strong because you can't.

(05:38):
But God can, and when we are weakest, he is strongest.
You do need to surround yourself with people who will
help you research the disorder that your son has and
find a support group in your area. Get all the
information you can, and once you're equipped with that information

(06:00):
and you feel strong enough, then tell your girls in
a way that won't scare them, but will be coming
from a point of empowerment. Those are my thoughts, and
keep praying. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma says Delilah, Please help. I'm

(06:22):
an eighty year old man needing to find love. I
was recently separated from my wife of fifty eight years.
She left me because she said she needed more space
and a chance to find herself. Where does a man
my age meet single women? Please help? I am brokenhearted, Peter, Peter,

(06:43):
I will have my words for you coming up next.
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from somebody who's been around the
block to eighty years on this earth, fifty eight of

(07:03):
them with his wife, and she left, and now he
wants to meet someone new. Peter, you are still heartbroken.
You cannot give your heart to someone new because your
heart is shattered into one hundred pieces, and that would
be really unfair to give it to somebody else when
it is so broken. What you need to do right now,
Peter has asked God to heal that heart so that

(07:26):
when you do meet the woman that he wants you
to spend the rest of your life with, say the
next forty to fifty years, that your heart will be
complete and intact, and you won't be finding her or
looking for her out of neediness or loneliness, because if
you do that, you will suffocate her. So ask God

(07:46):
to heal your heart. And when that happens, you will
find a lot of energy, and you'll want to go
do things and see things and integrate with people. And
when you do that, you're going to find somebody who
is going to sweep you off your feet. The more
love you have in your heart to share, the more
impossible it is to hold it inside. You are so

(08:08):
filled with light and energy and passion and enjoy, the
more women are going to be oh so attracted to you. Peter,
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey, It's Delilah to love,