April 19, 2023 • 9 mins
Everyone's got something. Can you relate to any of these dilemmas? ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from Amy, who says, my husband and I have two boys,
(00:44):
ages six and three. My mom has always been in
and out of my life, never really being there for
me or for my kids. Finally, I decided to give
her another chance at becoming a part of our lives.
Everything was going great for a while until I invited
her to be a part of some special occasions and holidays,
and then all communication suddenly stopped. It's been a year
(01:08):
now since we've seen her. My oldest child has mentioned
her in question where she is. I don't know what
to say except the truth, Delilah. It's very hard for
me to deal with her not being in my life
and in the lives of my children as well. Other
than my husband and children, I have no family to
look up to when I need a helping hand. Sometimes
(01:30):
I just don't know what to do. Amy, I will
have my mother Delilah words for you coming up next.
Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from an adult who is feeling
very abandoned and orphaned by her mom. Amy, here is
(01:53):
what I would say. Your mom is a broken unit.
It's not your fault. You didn't cause it, but you
can't fix it either. And for whatever reason, your mother
cannot stay connected to the people in her life. Maybe
she's a drug addict, maybe she's an alcoholic, maybe she's
addicted to porn, maybe she's mentally ill, or maybe she's
(02:14):
just not a nice person. But for whatever reason, she
does not want to be connected to or involved in
your life, in the lives of her grandkids. And that's unfortunate.
But you longing for that and chasing after it is
going to break your heart. Accept it, deal with it.
(02:34):
Recognize that unless God does a miracle and turns her around,
she's not going to be emotionally available to you and
your kids on a consistent basis. And that's okay, because
right down the street, around the corner. I know there
is a woman who would love to be a mother
figure to you. There is somebody that goes to your church,
(02:58):
or somebody who's grandkids go to your kid's school. There
is somebody in your immediate vicinity who would love to
be a mother figure to you and would welcome being
included in your family's special activities. Sometimes families are made
through blood connections, but in my case, most of my
(03:22):
family are people that God has woven together like a tapestry.
We're not blood related. Most of my children are not
blood related to me. Nine of them did not come
to me because of blood relation. But they're my family.
So create a family from people that do love you
(03:45):
and accept you. Diane wrote to us and shared her dilemma.
She says, where do I begin? I met the most
wonderful man over a year ago. We started out as
just friends, and as things moved along, the relationship seemed
to grow stronger. We were having so much fun together.
(04:06):
He is my world. I'm just not sure i'm his.
The last time we were together, we were enjoying some
sports on TV, some great food, a few drinks. As
luck would have it, he said, those three little words
I had been longing to hear from him. I told
him that I loved him too. It was the first
time I had told him that, and then he said yeah,
(04:28):
but that dreaded Butt. Since that night he seems to
be very withdrawn. We used to text every day, every morning,
but now nothing. I text him, no reply. He had
said he was not ready for a relationship. But he's
the one that said I love you first. Did I
(04:49):
run him off when I responded with and I love
you too. I lay in bed at night, Delilah, and
every love song you play reminds me of him, the
happy ones and of our times together. The sad songs
reminds me of the lonely nights I'm now spending alone.
I sleep with my phone next to me, praying for
a simple hello from him. Help me from Diane. Diane,
(05:13):
I will have my response to your Delilah's dilemma coming
up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma came from Diane, who was
dating a guy. They were hanging out. He said I
love you, She said I love you back, and he
(05:33):
said yeah, Butt. And she hasn't heard from him since,
and now she's sleeping with the phone, begging for it
to have a text, a phone message, anything, Diane, stop
this silliness. Put the phone down, turn the phone off.
(05:54):
He's a grown man. You didn't chase him away by
telling him you love him. If he is emotionally crippled,
broken and behaving this unhealthily, you don't need this. You
don't need this, You don't deserve this. If he wants
(06:16):
the joys that come with a wonderful relationship with you,
then he needs to man up to whatever his problems
are and talk it through. This torturing you thing he's
doing not good. His silence is breaking your heart. You
(06:39):
don't say how old you are or how old he is,
but he's old enough to know better. He's old enough
to know this is not the way you treat somebody.
You cherish that you love, that you've been in a
relationship with, and you are old enough to know you
don't allow yourself to be treated like this. You don't
text somebody or try to communicate with somebody who is
(06:59):
brush you off and not being emotionally available. So put
the phone down, go hang out with your girlfriends, talk
it through with them, and realize that you deserve so
much better than that. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma comes from Angela
(07:22):
and Chris. We have a real dilemma that we need
help with. My fiance and I are getting married in
exactly two years, and we do not know how to
tell my parents. My mom has been under a lot
of stress since my dad was laid off from work.
I really do not want to hear the griping and
the moaning of can we afford it? And all that?
How do we tell my parents without everything blowing way
(07:44):
out of proportion? Angela and Chris? Oh, oh, Angela, do
I have words for you? And those will be coming
up next. Tonight's letter comes from a brat, I mean
a bride named Angela. Angela and Chris are planning on
getting married in two years. Angela's father has been laid off,
(08:07):
and she says, I do not want to hear the
griping and moaning of can we really afford it? And
all that? How do we tell my parents without everything
glowing up? Angela? You say, Mom, Dad, Chris and I
are getting married, and Dad, I understand that you've been
laid off and that you and mom are having financial difficulties.
So Chris and I will be paying for our own
(08:27):
wedding because we're adults and we don't want to put
any stress on you. That's what a responsible person would do, Angela.
A brat would expect her parents, who have no means
to provide for her, to go into even further debt
so that she can have her spoiled little wedding. That's
(08:49):
my opinion, as a woman who paid for my own
weddings and who has no respect whatsoever for kids with entitlement.
Attitudes blunt enough for you that what a rude thing
to say, Angela. I can't believe you would write that,
where is your compassion? Where's your hearts? I so hope
(09:12):
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on A It's Delilah
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from Amy, who says, my husband and I have two boys,
(00:44):
ages six and three. My mom has always been in
and out of my life, never really being there for
me or for my kids. Finally, I decided to give
her another chance at becoming a part of our lives.
Everything was going great for a while until I invited
her to be a part of some special occasions and holidays,
and then all communication suddenly stopped. It's been a year
(01:08):
now since we've seen her. My oldest child has mentioned
her in question where she is. I don't know what
to say except the truth, Delilah. It's very hard for
me to deal with her not being in my life
and in the lives of my children as well. Other
than my husband and children, I have no family to
look up to when I need a helping hand. Sometimes
(01:30):
I just don't know what to do. Amy, I will
have my mother Delilah words for you coming up next.
Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from an adult who is feeling
very abandoned and orphaned by her mom. Amy, here is
(01:53):
what I would say. Your mom is a broken unit.
It's not your fault. You didn't cause it, but you
can't fix it either. And for whatever reason, your mother
cannot stay connected to the people in her life. Maybe
she's a drug addict, maybe she's an alcoholic, maybe she's
addicted to porn, maybe she's mentally ill, or maybe she's
(02:14):
just not a nice person. But for whatever reason, she
does not want to be connected to or involved in
your life, in the lives of her grandkids. And that's unfortunate.
But you longing for that and chasing after it is
going to break your heart. Accept it, deal with it.
(02:34):
Recognize that unless God does a miracle and turns her around,
she's not going to be emotionally available to you and
your kids on a consistent basis. And that's okay, because
right down the street, around the corner. I know there
is a woman who would love to be a mother
figure to you. There is somebody that goes to your church,
(02:58):
or somebody who's grandkids go to your kid's school. There
is somebody in your immediate vicinity who would love to
be a mother figure to you and would welcome being
included in your family's special activities. Sometimes families are made
through blood connections, but in my case, most of my
(03:22):
family are people that God has woven together like a tapestry.
We're not blood related. Most of my children are not
blood related to me. Nine of them did not come
to me because of blood relation. But they're my family.
So create a family from people that do love you
(03:45):
and accept you. Diane wrote to us and shared her dilemma.
She says, where do I begin? I met the most
wonderful man over a year ago. We started out as
just friends, and as things moved along, the relationship seemed
to grow stronger. We were having so much fun together.
(04:06):
He is my world. I'm just not sure i'm his.
The last time we were together, we were enjoying some
sports on TV, some great food, a few drinks. As
luck would have it, he said, those three little words
I had been longing to hear from him. I told
him that I loved him too. It was the first
time I had told him that, and then he said yeah,
(04:28):
but that dreaded Butt. Since that night he seems to
be very withdrawn. We used to text every day, every morning,
but now nothing. I text him, no reply. He had
said he was not ready for a relationship. But he's
the one that said I love you first. Did I
(04:49):
run him off when I responded with and I love
you too. I lay in bed at night, Delilah, and
every love song you play reminds me of him, the
happy ones and of our times together. The sad songs
reminds me of the lonely nights I'm now spending alone.
I sleep with my phone next to me, praying for
a simple hello from him. Help me from Diane. Diane,
(05:13):
I will have my response to your Delilah's dilemma coming
up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma came from Diane, who was
dating a guy. They were hanging out. He said I
love you, She said I love you back, and he
(05:33):
said yeah, Butt. And she hasn't heard from him since,
and now she's sleeping with the phone, begging for it
to have a text, a phone message, anything, Diane, stop
this silliness. Put the phone down, turn the phone off.
(05:54):
He's a grown man. You didn't chase him away by
telling him you love him. If he is emotionally crippled,
broken and behaving this unhealthily, you don't need this. You
don't need this, You don't deserve this. If he wants
(06:16):
the joys that come with a wonderful relationship with you,
then he needs to man up to whatever his problems
are and talk it through. This torturing you thing he's
doing not good. His silence is breaking your heart. You
(06:39):
don't say how old you are or how old he is,
but he's old enough to know better. He's old enough
to know this is not the way you treat somebody.
You cherish that you love, that you've been in a
relationship with, and you are old enough to know you
don't allow yourself to be treated like this. You don't
text somebody or try to communicate with somebody who is
(06:59):
brush you off and not being emotionally available. So put
the phone down, go hang out with your girlfriends, talk
it through with them, and realize that you deserve so
much better than that. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma comes from Angela
(07:22):
and Chris. We have a real dilemma that we need
help with. My fiance and I are getting married in
exactly two years, and we do not know how to
tell my parents. My mom has been under a lot
of stress since my dad was laid off from work.
I really do not want to hear the griping and
the moaning of can we afford it? And all that?
How do we tell my parents without everything blowing way
(07:44):
out of proportion? Angela and Chris? Oh, oh, Angela, do
I have words for you? And those will be coming
up next. Tonight's letter comes from a brat, I mean
a bride named Angela. Angela and Chris are planning on
getting married in two years. Angela's father has been laid off,
(08:07):
and she says, I do not want to hear the
griping and moaning of can we really afford it? And
all that? How do we tell my parents without everything
glowing up? Angela? You say, Mom, Dad, Chris and I
are getting married, and Dad, I understand that you've been
laid off and that you and mom are having financial difficulties.
So Chris and I will be paying for our own
(08:27):
wedding because we're adults and we don't want to put
any stress on you. That's what a responsible person would do, Angela.
A brat would expect her parents, who have no means
to provide for her, to go into even further debt
so that she can have her spoiled little wedding. That's
(08:49):
my opinion, as a woman who paid for my own
weddings and who has no respect whatsoever for kids with entitlement.
Attitudes blunt enough for you that what a rude thing
to say, Angela. I can't believe you would write that,
where is your compassion? Where's your hearts? I so hope
(09:12):
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on A It's Delilah
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