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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Hey It's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, I have a feature
called Delilah's Dilemmas. Or Folks call me or write me
(00:25):
and share a sticky situation they're in and I try
to help them figure out the best course of action. Today,
We're going to listen to some of those unique situations
right here on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from a listener who says, Dear Delilah, I've been through
(00:48):
many trials, survive cancer, raised a handicapped child who will
need to live with me forever, and have forgiven some
pretty tough things. But I don't have any more to give.
The last fourteen years with my husband, I'm a giver.
He's a taker. I've known this since early in our relationship,
but I thought time would change him. What a waste.
(01:10):
Things came to a peak recently. In the past two years,
I've had to deal with several close and critical ill relatives,
and I worked two jobs. He works as well. But
when he comes home, he sits in front of the
TV or surface for garbage on the web. Recently, I
had an out of town emergency. I hurried to pack
and arrange travel to care for the ones we love.
(01:32):
My husband sat looking at inappropriate sits on his work computer.
I knew I was under stress and hanging on by
a thread. I've never been so disappointed and felt so betrayed.
All I could say was, you've got to be kidding.
I left a few hours later to be by my
family member's side and sat with her until she passed.
(01:53):
I am so angry, it is consuming me. I am
always last on his list. How do I get over this? Disappointed?
Heartbroken and enable to forgive? I will have my words
of advice for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma
(02:16):
is from somebody who lives with a cold, uninvolved, emotionally
unavailable person who continues to take when she continues to give,
and you're asking me what to do, You'll get the
heck away from this situation before you lose your sanity.
You have to forgive, because carrying around this bitterness will
(02:39):
eat you alive. But you don't have to stay and
put up with this kind of nonsense. You're an adult.
You have choices. Start making healthy choices for yourself. Do
not spend one more hour, one more day living in
(03:02):
a situation with somebody who is that hurtful. That would
be my advice. Others will disagree vehemently, but that's my
advice anyway. Good luck and God bless you. Tonight's Delilah's
(03:24):
Dilemma is from Kayla, who says I'm about to be
twenty seven and I still haven't found the one in
capital letters, the one for me. I'm starting to lose
hope that there is anyone out there. I desperately want
to build a family. I want to have a home,
a dog, and all of those normal things. Starting to
(03:46):
feel that maybe I am not worthy of the love
of another. I would do anything for my soulmate. I
know that God is supposed to bring you your person
at the right time, but I can't help but feel
everyone around me gets to be happy with someone, and
yet it's not my turn. I'm really trying not to
(04:09):
give up, but it's so hard. Got any words of
comfort or advice from Kayla? Oh? Yes I do, young lady.
Stay tuned for my words coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's
(04:31):
Dilemma is from Kayla, who is feeling left behind like
everybody else gets to be in love with her. Kayla,
the thing that startles me about your letter is where
you say I'm starting to feel that maybe I'm not
worthy of love from another honey. You are so worthy,
(04:51):
You are so worthy, and that scares me because if
you truly believe that, you will lower your standards desperate
to be loved, you will lower your standards and partner
with somebody who's not good for you. So please don't
do that. Please don't do that. I know you've got
a biological clock that's going TikTok TikTok, and you're thinking,
(05:14):
I've only got ten years to figure this out. Stop that.
Stop thinking that way, and instead get fully involved in
your life. Go do the things you love. If you
love to skate, go skating. If you're a border, go boarding.
(05:36):
If you love to identify birds, join a bird watching group.
If you love to paint, sign up for some paint classes.
If you love to sculpt, go find a studio where
you can throw clay with other people. Go get involved,
Kala with your life and your passions. And when you
do that, guess what you're going to find like minded
(05:59):
people who share similar interest and guess what you might
You just might find love in the process of learning
how to scope a clay pot. I don't know, but
what I do know is that you are worthy of love.
You are worthy of being cherished and being treated like
a queen. So don't settle, don't compromise, and don't be impatient.
(06:25):
Just live your life fully, and in doing so, you
are going to meet a lot of awesome people. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma is from Marquis, who says, my husband and
I have been married for seven years. We've had our
ups and downs, like every marriage, but lately we're at
(06:47):
a real low point and having a hard time getting
out of it. He's been unemployed for the past several months,
and money's been tight. Since we're living on just one income.
We're having a really hard time keeping up with our
bills and such. In fact, we're not we're behind, we're
past do or we're just plain unpaid. I'm very frustrated,
and I know he is as well, but it's been
(07:08):
very hard for me to be supportive and comforting to him.
When I feel like our stress is his fault. I
think it's because it's not just these past few months,
but he's been in and out of jobs throughout our
entire relationship. He can't seem to hold a job or
find something he likes to do. I feel like we've
(07:28):
been through these unemployed periods in the past, and I've
been totally supportive, giving him lots of encouragement. But this
time I'm fed up. I think it's because we now
have a child, our son, Henry, who is one and
a half. Because we have a child, I feel that
now more than ever, my husband needs to step up
and support his family, to help provide for us. Please
(07:51):
help me find the strength to get through this low
point and help me see that there is a light
at the end of the tunnel. Marquis, I will have
my words for you coming up in a moment. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma is from Marquis, married seven years as a
(08:12):
one and a half year old, and her husband is
a deadbeat. There I said it the fact that he
has not been able to hold a job your entire marriage,
and now that he has a baby, he's not stepping
up to the plate and doing whatever it takes to
support his family. Tells me he is not a committed
husband or father. If he were a partner, if he
(08:34):
were a responsible man, he would be stepping up to
the plate and holding a job. He would be going
to any length, he would be doing whatever it takes
to provide for his infant son. Instead, he's sitting on
the couch, or sitting in front of a computer or
doing whatever, playing games and not being an accountable, responsible
(08:58):
husband and father. That's the truth. And you shouldn't have
compassion on that. You shouldn't feel sorry for him or
be supportive because he's not acting like an adult. He's
acting like a twelve year old child that said, what
can you do? Not much. You can either choose to
(09:19):
stay and parent him and provide for him, or you
can say, you know what, here's the deal, there's the door.
Don't let the screen hit you on the backside. And
when you decide to grow up and provide for me
and your son and take care of our family, you
know how to find me and I'll be here waiting.
But until then, I'm not supporting your lazy self. One
(09:41):
more minute and then he will have a choice. If
he is suffering from depression and that's the reason, then
he can go get help. There's plenty of doctors and
specialists out there that can help him. If he is
just lazy, then he needs to grow up and knock
it off. Chooses not to grow up and knock it off.
(10:02):
You should not have to support and be responsible for
a grown adult who's acting like a teenager. That's my thought. Marquis,
good luck, God bless you and your baby, and I
hope this knucklehead comes to his senses soon. I so
(10:24):
hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as
I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with
you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah to
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Hey It's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, I have a feature
called Delilah's Dilemmas. Or Folks call me or write me
(00:25):
and share a sticky situation they're in and I try
to help them figure out the best course of action. Today,
We're going to listen to some of those unique situations
right here on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from a listener who says, Dear Delilah, I've been through
(00:48):
many trials, survive cancer, raised a handicapped child who will
need to live with me forever, and have forgiven some
pretty tough things. But I don't have any more to give.
The last fourteen years with my husband, I'm a giver.
He's a taker. I've known this since early in our relationship,
but I thought time would change him. What a waste.
(01:10):
Things came to a peak recently. In the past two years,
I've had to deal with several close and critical ill relatives,
and I worked two jobs. He works as well. But
when he comes home, he sits in front of the
TV or surface for garbage on the web. Recently, I
had an out of town emergency. I hurried to pack
and arrange travel to care for the ones we love.
(01:32):
My husband sat looking at inappropriate sits on his work computer.
I knew I was under stress and hanging on by
a thread. I've never been so disappointed and felt so betrayed.
All I could say was, you've got to be kidding.
I left a few hours later to be by my
family member's side and sat with her until she passed.
(01:53):
I am so angry, it is consuming me. I am
always last on his list. How do I get over this? Disappointed?
Heartbroken and enable to forgive? I will have my words
of advice for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma
(02:16):
is from somebody who lives with a cold, uninvolved, emotionally
unavailable person who continues to take when she continues to give,
and you're asking me what to do, You'll get the
heck away from this situation before you lose your sanity.
You have to forgive, because carrying around this bitterness will
(02:39):
eat you alive. But you don't have to stay and
put up with this kind of nonsense. You're an adult.
You have choices. Start making healthy choices for yourself. Do
not spend one more hour, one more day living in
(03:02):
a situation with somebody who is that hurtful. That would
be my advice. Others will disagree vehemently, but that's my
advice anyway. Good luck and God bless you. Tonight's Delilah's
(03:24):
Dilemma is from Kayla, who says I'm about to be
twenty seven and I still haven't found the one in
capital letters, the one for me. I'm starting to lose
hope that there is anyone out there. I desperately want
to build a family. I want to have a home,
a dog, and all of those normal things. Starting to
(03:46):
feel that maybe I am not worthy of the love
of another. I would do anything for my soulmate. I
know that God is supposed to bring you your person
at the right time, but I can't help but feel
everyone around me gets to be happy with someone, and
yet it's not my turn. I'm really trying not to
(04:09):
give up, but it's so hard. Got any words of
comfort or advice from Kayla? Oh? Yes I do, young lady.
Stay tuned for my words coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's
(04:31):
Dilemma is from Kayla, who is feeling left behind like
everybody else gets to be in love with her. Kayla,
the thing that startles me about your letter is where
you say I'm starting to feel that maybe I'm not
worthy of love from another honey. You are so worthy,
(04:51):
You are so worthy, and that scares me because if
you truly believe that, you will lower your standards desperate
to be loved, you will lower your standards and partner
with somebody who's not good for you. So please don't
do that. Please don't do that. I know you've got
a biological clock that's going TikTok TikTok, and you're thinking,
(05:14):
I've only got ten years to figure this out. Stop that.
Stop thinking that way, and instead get fully involved in
your life. Go do the things you love. If you
love to skate, go skating. If you're a border, go boarding.
(05:36):
If you love to identify birds, join a bird watching group.
If you love to paint, sign up for some paint classes.
If you love to sculpt, go find a studio where
you can throw clay with other people. Go get involved,
Kala with your life and your passions. And when you
do that, guess what you're going to find like minded
(05:59):
people who share similar interest and guess what you might
You just might find love in the process of learning
how to scope a clay pot. I don't know, but
what I do know is that you are worthy of love.
You are worthy of being cherished and being treated like
a queen. So don't settle, don't compromise, and don't be impatient.
(06:25):
Just live your life fully, and in doing so, you
are going to meet a lot of awesome people. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma is from Marquis, who says, my husband and
I have been married for seven years. We've had our
ups and downs, like every marriage, but lately we're at
(06:47):
a real low point and having a hard time getting
out of it. He's been unemployed for the past several months,
and money's been tight. Since we're living on just one income.
We're having a really hard time keeping up with our
bills and such. In fact, we're not we're behind, we're
past do or we're just plain unpaid. I'm very frustrated,
and I know he is as well, but it's been
(07:08):
very hard for me to be supportive and comforting to him.
When I feel like our stress is his fault. I
think it's because it's not just these past few months,
but he's been in and out of jobs throughout our
entire relationship. He can't seem to hold a job or
find something he likes to do. I feel like we've
(07:28):
been through these unemployed periods in the past, and I've
been totally supportive, giving him lots of encouragement. But this
time I'm fed up. I think it's because we now
have a child, our son, Henry, who is one and
a half. Because we have a child, I feel that
now more than ever, my husband needs to step up
and support his family, to help provide for us. Please
(07:51):
help me find the strength to get through this low
point and help me see that there is a light
at the end of the tunnel. Marquis, I will have
my words for you coming up in a moment. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma is from Marquis, married seven years as a
(08:12):
one and a half year old, and her husband is
a deadbeat. There I said it the fact that he
has not been able to hold a job your entire marriage,
and now that he has a baby, he's not stepping
up to the plate and doing whatever it takes to
support his family. Tells me he is not a committed
husband or father. If he were a partner, if he
(08:34):
were a responsible man, he would be stepping up to
the plate and holding a job. He would be going
to any length, he would be doing whatever it takes
to provide for his infant son. Instead, he's sitting on
the couch, or sitting in front of a computer or
doing whatever, playing games and not being an accountable, responsible
(08:58):
husband and father. That's the truth. And you shouldn't have
compassion on that. You shouldn't feel sorry for him or
be supportive because he's not acting like an adult. He's
acting like a twelve year old child that said, what
can you do? Not much. You can either choose to
(09:19):
stay and parent him and provide for him, or you
can say, you know what, here's the deal, there's the door.
Don't let the screen hit you on the backside. And
when you decide to grow up and provide for me
and your son and take care of our family, you
know how to find me and I'll be here waiting.
But until then, I'm not supporting your lazy self. One
(09:41):
more minute and then he will have a choice. If
he is suffering from depression and that's the reason, then
he can go get help. There's plenty of doctors and
specialists out there that can help him. If he is
just lazy, then he needs to grow up and knock
it off. Chooses not to grow up and knock it off.
(10:02):
You should not have to support and be responsible for
a grown adult who's acting like a teenager. That's my thought. Marquis,
good luck, God bless you and your baby, and I
hope this knucklehead comes to his senses soon. I so
(10:24):
hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as
I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with
you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah to
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