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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast do Hey, it's Delilah.
How is your day going thus far? Do you ever
(00:24):
feel like picking up the phone and calling an X
or worse yet, texting.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
An X, especially if it's late at night and you're
a little drug and you're.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Missing them, Ask yourself this, are you missing the reality
of them.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Or the memory of them? There's a big difference.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
And in just a moment, I'm going to have this
very tough conversation with a young lady who wants to
text the X. That's coming up next on Hey it's Delilah. Hi,
good evening, Thank you for your patience. This is Delilah.
(01:08):
Who's with me on the phone line?
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (01:11):
This is Sarah and I am from Faith Well, Arkansas, Tara.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
What can I play for you?
Speaker 3 (01:19):
I need a love song?
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Who are you in love with?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Well?
Speaker 3 (01:24):
I'm in love with an X, So maybe it's not
an I love song, but it's a are you thinking
about me? Songs? Because I'm thinking about you.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
So first off, tell me why he's an EX, and
then I'll tell you if i'll play such a song
or not. If he's an ex because he's a liar,
liar of pants on fire, or if he's your ex
because he's a cheater, cheater, where'd you meet her?
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Then no, no, I'm not going to encourage this.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
But if he's an ex because you know, you guys
had different paths in life you had to go down,
or his career took him away, or he enjoined the military,
or you got foolish for a moment, man, then I'll
pick out a good h It's two am, and I
can't stop thinking about your song.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Okay, No, he's an amazing guy. We were young and
he was emotionally unavailable, and I was anxious and had
some own things to work on. So we've been apart
for about a year, and I'm wondering if I'm still
thinking about him because I'm still in love and that's
a reason I should reach out, or maybe I'm just
(02:28):
thinking about him because he was a good guy.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
So are you in love with him or are you
in love with the potential of him or the memory
of him.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
I'm in love with the potential of him.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Not good, not good, not good?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Do they ever change? Delilah.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
They do, but they never ever change because somebody else
wants them to.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Nobody does.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Nobody that I've ever met changes because of pressure from
someone else. We only when the pain of our decisions
is greater than the joy that it brings, then we change.
But so long as our decisions, even when they're dumb ones.
(03:12):
And I had a lot of dumb decisions when I
was young, until the pain of those dumb decisions is
greater than the joy the pleasure that those dumb things bring,
we don't change. We never reach our potential, and we
sure as heck don't reach our potential by somebody telling us.
(03:33):
Do you know if you got off the couch and
put the xbox down and quit playing games and like
went in looked for a job, and contributed to this household,
we'd be okay.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
That would help you know.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
If you would go mow the lawn instead of sit
there expecting me to pay somebody to mow it, or
that you want me to go.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Mow it, that would help you know.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
If you would come home at night instead of staying
out late at the bar with your friends, then we
could talk about and have a relation that never changes.
Somebody I nagged so much in past relationships that I'm
sure I could have just recorded my nagging and put
it on repeat and played it over and over.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
It would have been just as effective.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
You're so right. I think that I am the nagger,
and I'm the one constantly moving or was moving the
relationship along and wanting it to happen. And I think
me wanting to reach out would just be the same
thing as me reaching out again.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah, now, you cannot. You cannot.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
You cannot have a relationship with someone's potential. You can
only have a relationship with somebody's truth. I was awesome
at planning relationships with somebody's potential. I had weddings with
two people's potential.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I did I. I saw their potential. I saw their goodness.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I saw things nobody else saw because everybody else can
see that they were dead bates. Everybody else saw their truth.
I saw their potential.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
My friends, it's because your friends love you.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Here's the thing I would guess if I were one
of your closest friends, somebody that knew you in high
school or college, somebody that grew up with you, somebody
that knows the best of you and the worst of
you and loves you. I would probably tell you you
deserve someone who is so good to you, so in
(05:40):
love with you, that feels so good in a relationship
with you that it blows your mind. I would guess
I would say something like that, unless unless you're a
good actress and you're really a jerk and one of
those mean girls. But I think you're a good person.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
I'm a good person.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Yeah, and you deserve a good partner, somebody who wants
to give you one hundred and ten percent of what
they've got inside. I heard this preacher the other day say,
some people are gallon people, ten gallon people. They love
ten gallons worth. They got ten gallons worth of goodness
(06:21):
in their soul, and they fall in love with somebody
who's only a pint person. And that pint person might
be giving you all they've got, but all they got
is a pint's worth of love, and you got ten
gallons worth.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
I know, I just need to find me a gallon worth.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Boy, I get that's what you got to find.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
You got to find somebody that you can love their reality,
not their potential.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Leave the ones with potential to home with their mama,
because they're not grown up yet.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
But it's so hard, especially when they're cute. When they're cute.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
And he's sexy and funny, all we can see is
potential if they if back in the day, if a
guy could make me laugh, if you could make me
double over pee myself laughing.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
And you were cute to boot, that's all that's all
I needed.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
It didn't matter if you were a bank robber, didn't
matter if you were a serial killer.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I would fall in love with you.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Are you with someone now?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I am sixteen years Oh?
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Really?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
A good man, a ten gallon man?
Speaker 3 (07:31):
How did you know he was the one?
Speaker 1 (07:33):
I didn't he did, I didn't. When we first met,
we were friends, and he never even saw me with
makeup on. He never saw me with anything but jim
clothes on. Because I met him at the gym working
out and I'm not one of those hot sexy workout girls.
I'm a hot mess workout girl me too, And he
(07:56):
fell in love with me, and he told me, I'm
going to spin the rest of my life life loving you,
and I didn't believe it. I'm like, are you crazy?
He's a ten gallon love, He ain't a little half
pint and you will meet the one that you are
supposed to be with when you least expect it, and
(08:17):
you will realize you don't have to chase after it.
You don't have to convince him, you don't have to
earn it. You're just gonna go whoa, whoa, whoa.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
He loves me for me.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
I heard this quote the other day and it was like, Uh,
I don't go out in search. I attract And I
think that's what I need too, is like be confident
enough that the right person will come find you.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Yep. Well he came and found me. That's a gym.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
I gotta start going to the gym.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
And he said to me the first time he saw
me in street clothes, he said, wow, you do own
something other than black sweats covered in white dog hair.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Like wow. Be patient. So no, no song for the X.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
I'm gonna play a song for you, Okay, okay, all right,
you have a great.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Night, you two.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Thank you so much, Delilah.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah.
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast do Hey, it's Delilah.
How is your day going thus far? Do you ever
(00:24):
feel like picking up the phone and calling an X
or worse yet, texting.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
An X, especially if it's late at night and you're
a little drug and you're.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Missing them, Ask yourself this, are you missing the reality
of them.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Or the memory of them? There's a big difference.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
And in just a moment, I'm going to have this
very tough conversation with a young lady who wants to
text the X. That's coming up next on Hey it's Delilah. Hi,
good evening, Thank you for your patience. This is Delilah.
(01:08):
Who's with me on the phone line?
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (01:11):
This is Sarah and I am from Faith Well, Arkansas, Tara.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
What can I play for you?
Speaker 3 (01:19):
I need a love song?
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Who are you in love with?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Well?
Speaker 3 (01:24):
I'm in love with an X, So maybe it's not
an I love song, but it's a are you thinking
about me? Songs? Because I'm thinking about you.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
So first off, tell me why he's an EX, and
then I'll tell you if i'll play such a song
or not. If he's an ex because he's a liar,
liar of pants on fire, or if he's your ex
because he's a cheater, cheater, where'd you meet her?
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Then no, no, I'm not going to encourage this.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
But if he's an ex because you know, you guys
had different paths in life you had to go down,
or his career took him away, or he enjoined the military,
or you got foolish for a moment, man, then I'll
pick out a good h It's two am, and I
can't stop thinking about your song.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Okay, No, he's an amazing guy. We were young and
he was emotionally unavailable, and I was anxious and had
some own things to work on. So we've been apart
for about a year, and I'm wondering if I'm still
thinking about him because I'm still in love and that's
a reason I should reach out, or maybe I'm just
(02:28):
thinking about him because he was a good guy.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
So are you in love with him or are you
in love with the potential of him or the memory
of him.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
I'm in love with the potential of him.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Not good, not good, not good?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Do they ever change? Delilah.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
They do, but they never ever change because somebody else
wants them to.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Nobody does.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Nobody that I've ever met changes because of pressure from
someone else. We only when the pain of our decisions
is greater than the joy that it brings, then we change.
But so long as our decisions, even when they're dumb ones.
(03:12):
And I had a lot of dumb decisions when I
was young, until the pain of those dumb decisions is
greater than the joy the pleasure that those dumb things bring,
we don't change. We never reach our potential, and we
sure as heck don't reach our potential by somebody telling us.
(03:33):
Do you know if you got off the couch and
put the xbox down and quit playing games and like
went in looked for a job, and contributed to this household,
we'd be okay.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
That would help you know.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
If you would go mow the lawn instead of sit
there expecting me to pay somebody to mow it, or
that you want me to go.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Mow it, that would help you know.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
If you would come home at night instead of staying
out late at the bar with your friends, then we
could talk about and have a relation that never changes.
Somebody I nagged so much in past relationships that I'm
sure I could have just recorded my nagging and put
it on repeat and played it over and over.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
It would have been just as effective.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
You're so right. I think that I am the nagger,
and I'm the one constantly moving or was moving the
relationship along and wanting it to happen. And I think
me wanting to reach out would just be the same
thing as me reaching out again.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah, now, you cannot. You cannot.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
You cannot have a relationship with someone's potential. You can
only have a relationship with somebody's truth. I was awesome
at planning relationships with somebody's potential. I had weddings with
two people's potential.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I did I. I saw their potential. I saw their goodness.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I saw things nobody else saw because everybody else can
see that they were dead bates. Everybody else saw their truth.
I saw their potential.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
My friends, it's because your friends love you.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Here's the thing I would guess if I were one
of your closest friends, somebody that knew you in high
school or college, somebody that grew up with you, somebody
that knows the best of you and the worst of
you and loves you. I would probably tell you you
deserve someone who is so good to you, so in
(05:40):
love with you, that feels so good in a relationship
with you that it blows your mind. I would guess
I would say something like that, unless unless you're a
good actress and you're really a jerk and one of
those mean girls. But I think you're a good person.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
I'm a good person.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Yeah, and you deserve a good partner, somebody who wants
to give you one hundred and ten percent of what
they've got inside. I heard this preacher the other day say,
some people are gallon people, ten gallon people. They love
ten gallons worth. They got ten gallons worth of goodness
(06:21):
in their soul, and they fall in love with somebody
who's only a pint person. And that pint person might
be giving you all they've got, but all they got
is a pint's worth of love, and you got ten
gallons worth.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
I know, I just need to find me a gallon worth.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Boy, I get that's what you got to find.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
You got to find somebody that you can love their reality,
not their potential.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Leave the ones with potential to home with their mama,
because they're not grown up yet.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
But it's so hard, especially when they're cute. When they're cute.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
And he's sexy and funny, all we can see is
potential if they if back in the day, if a
guy could make me laugh, if you could make me
double over pee myself laughing.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
And you were cute to boot, that's all that's all
I needed.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
It didn't matter if you were a bank robber, didn't
matter if you were a serial killer.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I would fall in love with you.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Are you with someone now?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I am sixteen years Oh?
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Really?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
A good man, a ten gallon man?
Speaker 3 (07:31):
How did you know he was the one?
Speaker 1 (07:33):
I didn't he did, I didn't. When we first met,
we were friends, and he never even saw me with
makeup on. He never saw me with anything but jim
clothes on. Because I met him at the gym working
out and I'm not one of those hot sexy workout girls.
I'm a hot mess workout girl me too, And he
(07:56):
fell in love with me, and he told me, I'm
going to spin the rest of my life life loving you,
and I didn't believe it. I'm like, are you crazy?
He's a ten gallon love, He ain't a little half
pint and you will meet the one that you are
supposed to be with when you least expect it, and
(08:17):
you will realize you don't have to chase after it.
You don't have to convince him, you don't have to
earn it. You're just gonna go whoa, whoa, whoa.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
He loves me for me.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
I heard this quote the other day and it was like, Uh,
I don't go out in search. I attract And I
think that's what I need too, is like be confident
enough that the right person will come find you.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Yep. Well he came and found me. That's a gym.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
I gotta start going to the gym.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
And he said to me the first time he saw
me in street clothes, he said, wow, you do own
something other than black sweats covered in white dog hair.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Like wow. Be patient. So no, no song for the X.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
I'm gonna play a song for you, Okay, okay, all right,
you have a great.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Night, you two.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Thank you so much, Delilah.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah.
Host
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