January 28, 2025 • 10 mins
Jennie shares her wonderful mantra "we'll see" and how it has become powerful in her everyday life, and how you can implement it in yours.
Plus, an update on the rescheduled date for the "I Choose Me" Live event and an announcement on the incredible panelists involved!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hi, everyone,
welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is all about
the choices we make and where they lead us. Something
I love about this podcast is like, I feel like
we're creating such a beautiful community, and I really feel
(00:25):
good about that, and I feel good that I really
get to share all of myself with all of you.
Through the years, I've really spent a lot of time
learning and growing and evolving into the me that I
am now, a me that I've learned to love better,
and a me that aligns more with what I want
(00:45):
for my life. And you may know this about me already,
but I love to share insights with people who are
curious like I am, and maybe people that are searching
for meaning and purpose like I was. And I know
as a mom, my role has been and is to
(01:06):
guide and teach my girls, and that's always been priority
number one for me. Today, I want to share a
little nugget of gold with all of you, something that
has helped me a lot over the years. Let's talk
about the wheel sea theory. Have you ever heard the
(01:26):
Chinese proverb about the farmer who had a son and
they had a beloved stallion who helped on the farm,
you know, to earn a living for them. One day,
the horse ran away, and their neighbors exclaimed, your horse
ran away, What terrible luck. The farmer replied, maybe so,
(01:49):
maybe not. We'll see then. A few days later, the
horse came back, and it had a few like wild
mayors with it, and the neighbors shower, Your horse came back.
It came back, and it brought several horses home with him.
What great luck. The farmer thought for a moment and
calmly said, maybe so, maybe not, we'll see. Later that week,
(02:14):
the farmer's son was trying to train one of the
new horses, and she threw him to the ground, breaking
his leg. The villagers all came around again, crying, your
son broke his leg, What terrible luck. The farmer just
calmly replied, maybe so, maybe not. We'll see then. A
(02:37):
few weeks later, soldiers from the National Army marched through
their village, demanding all the able bodied young men to
come out and fight for their army. And the farmer's
son wasn't taken because he was still recovering from his injury.
His neighbor shouted, your boy is spared. What tremendous luck,
(03:00):
which the farmer calmly replied, maybe so, maybe not. Well, see,
there's something about that story. It just stuck with me
and it calmed me. I don't know why. Then, about
eleven years ago, I was working with a therapist that
I really loved, and he really helped me during a
(03:20):
very difficult transition stage in my life after my divorce.
I was having a lot of trouble getting those feelings
of rejection and that huge disappointmant of losing my family
what I had worked so hard to create. I was
vehemently again stating I thought that seemed like ludicrous to me.
I always told him I would rather lick Hollywood Boulevard
(03:44):
than open up myself to the possibility of ever getting
my heart broken again. Wade, that was my therapist's name.
He told me to just slow my role because I
was just going on a date here and there. I
didn't mean I had no way anything or decide anything.
I was just practicing. He told me to stop overthinking it,
(04:06):
and I was like, uh, hello, do you even know
me at all? Overthinking is what I do. He suggested
I go on a few dates and stop my brain
from wrapping all around and attaching to whatever I thought
the outcome would be, and try saying we'll see. We'll
(04:28):
see how it feels, we'll see if I even like
this guy at all, We'll see what ends up coming
from this. Those two words made a world of difference
for me as I move forward in all aspects of
my life. Using the will see theory creates a mindset
where instead of making a definitive choice before you even
(04:49):
try something, we can opt for a more open ended approach,
creating space so that time or future events will reveal
the answer. Maybe you don't have enough information to make
a firm decision, you might say we'll see as a
way to avoid committing to a specific choice or an outcome.
Saying we'll see can give you that extra time if
(05:13):
you need it, allowing circumstances to unfold in a way
that a decision will become clear later on, rather than
forcing an immediate choice. The approach is to wait and observe.
It's just a way of saying you're not sure, but
you're okay with not knowing yet. And this can work
(05:36):
in relationships too. Someone might say we'll see if they're
not sure about a future together, or they're uncertain about
how they feel it can work. In business, a person
might use it to suggest that future performances or outcomes
will determine whether something works or not. And yeah, write
it down over and over if you have to say
(05:57):
it out loud to yourself to stop your mind from
swirling down the drain of those ruminating thoughts that just
don't seem to end. It's really about managing your expectations
and not getting your hopes up. And that's really important
just for our mental well being. Too much thinking is
(06:18):
too much stress. I've used this theory not just in
my life, but I have taught it to my girls
over and over and over, hoping that sometime in the
near future will stick and they'll be able to use
it and believe it and know that that's an option
for them always to just stop and say we'll see.
(06:41):
For me, it's a really comforting and freeing way to
handle things. I don't get wrapped up in the outcome.
I'm open to whatever happens. I trust and I say,
we'll see. I use this all the time with my family.
(07:04):
For instance, one of my daughters, the youngest one, she's
you know, dating here and there, doesn't want to, but
sometimes it'll happen and she'll meet somebody and they last
her out, and she gets so wound up in like
what if this and what if that? And it's not
gonna work and he's not gonna like me, I'm not
gonna like him, and this is there's no point in
(07:26):
doing this. I have to just calmly sit her down
and say, babe, just try it and tell yourself, we'll see.
You don't have to know right now. I have another daughter,
my oldest daughter, Luca, who is kind of in a
phase in her career where she's looking to see what's next,
(07:47):
and she can get wound up tight and sew in
her head about all of the options and what would
be the best fit and who should she go with,
and when should she tell the these persons if she's
leaving her job. You know, she gets very caught up
in the end result, instead of just allowing herself to
(08:09):
be in the flow of whatever is happening for her
and just telling herself, we'll see how this all works out.
Because here's the thing, it always works out, and it
may not feel like that in the moment. It may
not feel like that for a long time, but in
the end, it always works out the way it is
(08:31):
supposed to work out. And I don't really see the
point in fretting about things, or worrying about things, or
compulsively thinking through things over and over and over, every outcome,
every good, every bad. I really feel like it's time
for us to be gentler on ourselves and kinder to
(08:53):
ourselves and allow us that space, that grace to just
let things unravel the way they are supposed to unravel.
And a great way to do that is practicing the
willsee theory. I hope it works for you. It has
(09:15):
worked for me time and time again, and I'm so
excited to be able to share that with you. I'm
also really excited to share with you that we have
rescheduled the I Choose Me LA women's empowerment event that
we have all been working so hard on. All my
friends at iHeart, my daughters are helping me with this event,
(09:39):
and we are very excited to announce our new date
is a February eighth. It's officially happening at the iHeart
Theater in Burbank, California. We've got some incredible panelists Naomi Watts,
Tamsen Fidal, Evet, Nicole Brown, Jackie Tone, Sasha petersa Jen
(10:01):
trand doctor Eve Glacier and so many more. This is
going to be an amazing afternoon. The wildfires, of course
in southern California have been horrific, so we have partnered
with the Dream Center and we'll be making a donation
to their organization that is helping with relief efforts. And
we also are encouraging everybody who comes to the event
(10:24):
to bring an unwrapped stuffed toy that will be donated
to a child in need, families that have lost everything.
So I love that Synergy Tickets around on sale now.
All info is in our show notes. We're going to
talk and connect and learn from each other, have lunch.
It's going to be an incredible day of female empowerment
(10:48):
and bonding and a day I will never forget. I
can't wait to see you guys there.
You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hi, everyone,
welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is all about
the choices we make and where they lead us. Something
I love about this podcast is like, I feel like
we're creating such a beautiful community, and I really feel
(00:25):
good about that, and I feel good that I really
get to share all of myself with all of you.
Through the years, I've really spent a lot of time
learning and growing and evolving into the me that I
am now, a me that I've learned to love better,
and a me that aligns more with what I want
(00:45):
for my life. And you may know this about me already,
but I love to share insights with people who are
curious like I am, and maybe people that are searching
for meaning and purpose like I was. And I know
as a mom, my role has been and is to
(01:06):
guide and teach my girls, and that's always been priority
number one for me. Today, I want to share a
little nugget of gold with all of you, something that
has helped me a lot over the years. Let's talk
about the wheel sea theory. Have you ever heard the
(01:26):
Chinese proverb about the farmer who had a son and
they had a beloved stallion who helped on the farm,
you know, to earn a living for them. One day,
the horse ran away, and their neighbors exclaimed, your horse
ran away, What terrible luck. The farmer replied, maybe so,
(01:49):
maybe not. We'll see then. A few days later, the
horse came back, and it had a few like wild
mayors with it, and the neighbors shower, Your horse came back.
It came back, and it brought several horses home with him.
What great luck. The farmer thought for a moment and
calmly said, maybe so, maybe not, we'll see. Later that week,
(02:14):
the farmer's son was trying to train one of the
new horses, and she threw him to the ground, breaking
his leg. The villagers all came around again, crying, your
son broke his leg, What terrible luck. The farmer just
calmly replied, maybe so, maybe not. We'll see then. A
(02:37):
few weeks later, soldiers from the National Army marched through
their village, demanding all the able bodied young men to
come out and fight for their army. And the farmer's
son wasn't taken because he was still recovering from his injury.
His neighbor shouted, your boy is spared. What tremendous luck,
(03:00):
which the farmer calmly replied, maybe so, maybe not. Well, see,
there's something about that story. It just stuck with me
and it calmed me. I don't know why. Then, about
eleven years ago, I was working with a therapist that
I really loved, and he really helped me during a
(03:20):
very difficult transition stage in my life after my divorce.
I was having a lot of trouble getting those feelings
of rejection and that huge disappointmant of losing my family
what I had worked so hard to create. I was
vehemently again stating I thought that seemed like ludicrous to me.
I always told him I would rather lick Hollywood Boulevard
(03:44):
than open up myself to the possibility of ever getting
my heart broken again. Wade, that was my therapist's name.
He told me to just slow my role because I
was just going on a date here and there. I
didn't mean I had no way anything or decide anything.
I was just practicing. He told me to stop overthinking it,
(04:06):
and I was like, uh, hello, do you even know
me at all? Overthinking is what I do. He suggested
I go on a few dates and stop my brain
from wrapping all around and attaching to whatever I thought
the outcome would be, and try saying we'll see. We'll
(04:28):
see how it feels, we'll see if I even like
this guy at all, We'll see what ends up coming
from this. Those two words made a world of difference
for me as I move forward in all aspects of
my life. Using the will see theory creates a mindset
where instead of making a definitive choice before you even
(04:49):
try something, we can opt for a more open ended approach,
creating space so that time or future events will reveal
the answer. Maybe you don't have enough information to make
a firm decision, you might say we'll see as a
way to avoid committing to a specific choice or an outcome.
Saying we'll see can give you that extra time if
(05:13):
you need it, allowing circumstances to unfold in a way
that a decision will become clear later on, rather than
forcing an immediate choice. The approach is to wait and observe.
It's just a way of saying you're not sure, but
you're okay with not knowing yet. And this can work
(05:36):
in relationships too. Someone might say we'll see if they're
not sure about a future together, or they're uncertain about
how they feel it can work. In business, a person
might use it to suggest that future performances or outcomes
will determine whether something works or not. And yeah, write
it down over and over if you have to say
(05:57):
it out loud to yourself to stop your mind from
swirling down the drain of those ruminating thoughts that just
don't seem to end. It's really about managing your expectations
and not getting your hopes up. And that's really important
just for our mental well being. Too much thinking is
(06:18):
too much stress. I've used this theory not just in
my life, but I have taught it to my girls
over and over and over, hoping that sometime in the
near future will stick and they'll be able to use
it and believe it and know that that's an option
for them always to just stop and say we'll see.
(06:41):
For me, it's a really comforting and freeing way to
handle things. I don't get wrapped up in the outcome.
I'm open to whatever happens. I trust and I say,
we'll see. I use this all the time with my family.
(07:04):
For instance, one of my daughters, the youngest one, she's
you know, dating here and there, doesn't want to, but
sometimes it'll happen and she'll meet somebody and they last
her out, and she gets so wound up in like
what if this and what if that? And it's not
gonna work and he's not gonna like me, I'm not
gonna like him, and this is there's no point in
(07:26):
doing this. I have to just calmly sit her down
and say, babe, just try it and tell yourself, we'll see.
You don't have to know right now. I have another daughter,
my oldest daughter, Luca, who is kind of in a
phase in her career where she's looking to see what's next,
(07:47):
and she can get wound up tight and sew in
her head about all of the options and what would
be the best fit and who should she go with,
and when should she tell the these persons if she's
leaving her job. You know, she gets very caught up
in the end result, instead of just allowing herself to
(08:09):
be in the flow of whatever is happening for her
and just telling herself, we'll see how this all works out.
Because here's the thing, it always works out, and it
may not feel like that in the moment. It may
not feel like that for a long time, but in
the end, it always works out the way it is
(08:31):
supposed to work out. And I don't really see the
point in fretting about things, or worrying about things, or
compulsively thinking through things over and over and over, every outcome,
every good, every bad. I really feel like it's time
for us to be gentler on ourselves and kinder to
(08:53):
ourselves and allow us that space, that grace to just
let things unravel the way they are supposed to unravel.
And a great way to do that is practicing the
willsee theory. I hope it works for you. It has
(09:15):
worked for me time and time again, and I'm so
excited to be able to share that with you. I'm
also really excited to share with you that we have
rescheduled the I Choose Me LA women's empowerment event that
we have all been working so hard on. All my
friends at iHeart, my daughters are helping me with this event,
(09:39):
and we are very excited to announce our new date
is a February eighth. It's officially happening at the iHeart
Theater in Burbank, California. We've got some incredible panelists Naomi Watts,
Tamsen Fidal, Evet, Nicole Brown, Jackie Tone, Sasha petersa Jen
(10:01):
trand doctor Eve Glacier and so many more. This is
going to be an amazing afternoon. The wildfires, of course
in southern California have been horrific, so we have partnered
with the Dream Center and we'll be making a donation
to their organization that is helping with relief efforts. And
we also are encouraging everybody who comes to the event
(10:24):
to bring an unwrapped stuffed toy that will be donated
to a child in need, families that have lost everything.
So I love that Synergy Tickets around on sale now.
All info is in our show notes. We're going to
talk and connect and learn from each other, have lunch.
It's going to be an incredible day of female empowerment
(10:48):
and bonding and a day I will never forget. I
can't wait to see you guys there.
Host
Jennie Garth
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