The Long Bus

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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to Jay dot m a production of I Heart Radio. Hi. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome,
Welcome to Jay dot Ilda Podcasts. I'm sitting here. You
know who I'm with. I'm with Agea Graydon, Dan's luck. Hey, Hey, Elahs. St. Clair,

(00:23):
you already here, a saint, a saint, a saint. Let's
just stas St. Center has and the looks the love
sending down. Listen, we all in here. We're all in here.
We don't we've learned some things, Okay, this is what

(00:43):
this is what we game is there with you? We
didn't learn some things. I know we've been you know,
at some point we've been talking about the Generation Z
and how fantastic you know you all are much love
to you, but there's still some ship did You're gonna
need to know. Maybe you don't know, but hey, baby,

(01:04):
here we go. And for anybody else and all the
other generations that may not have been paying attention, this
is your feelings. You you'll feel this, yo. This is
gonna be a health edition. Okay, so prepare Number one,
you're good. Knees are not guaranteed, Okay, Okay, years and

(01:27):
years of high heel shoes o prince, working in the
high heel shoes, dancing in the high hills shoes, working
all day, then going to a party after so cute,
which half months is just popping ling all strong and stuff. Listen, um,

(01:50):
whenever you get an opportunity to take those shoes off,
I'm talking about for longevity's sake, you can look and
juice off. Okay, take them off in the car, take
them off under the under the table, take them off
in the seat at the Grammys, wherever you are. Get
those shoes off, because those wis, those good knees are
not guaranteed. They're not. I'm trying to figure out what

(02:13):
happened with them with the men, Like why they need
so bad? I mean from sports, not only being played sports,
what is that? What's what is it? Because you don't
not a lot a lot of maybe being weight and
being inactive. Yeah, like the needs can't really take that
extra weight that you're putting on them. But the belly

(02:33):
is out to this way. Then the knees is like,
come on, need to help help help, you know, I think, wow,
I think my knees are I don't have a penis,
but my knees are mad because I call myself putting
on this mahell your weight, getting ready to play Mahalia
Jackson now, and uh it's not it's not working now.

(02:54):
I don't. I can't. I can't keep this up. I
can't do it. I mean patting, that's what, because it's
supposed to be to me. I mean you certain level
of suffering that goes alone at this thing, the commitment
of it all. I was care for it, but I
died handing them for it. No more. My niece said, listen, Jill,

(03:18):
you are not hellier today. You're gonna have to get
your life together because I can't. I can't do it.
I will figure something else out, because age can't just
be getting weight just for I'm sorry, but you can't.
I can't make it. I can't make it like in
between having you know, in between the hell you're coming,

(03:39):
I've got two other things to shoot, you know, you know? Yeah,
ah well, I think I think I'm I'm getting a
little bit weirded out, just because every you know, every
five six years, a new something comes out that tells
you what is healthy, how you lose weight, how you

(04:00):
maintain your health. Just to say the other I mean,
we we talked about generation. We didn't watch things progressed
from Bahamian diet to slim Fast, the first thing with
all where you eliminate your carbs and it's all a
meat you eat atkins Atkins to herbal Life and then

(04:23):
Keto now and you got Now they're ditching Keto for
something else. Don't get about paleo. Then we got then
then at one point it's like, okay, then you be
a vegetarian, but there's like, well no, then you want
to be a vaga. But then it's like if you're vegan,
then you still don't want to eat process food. And
then we get all the way back to the beginning

(04:44):
where it's like, okay, just eat greens and vegetables. Then
some people say it's no doctor Saby didn't know, not
doctor Saby. Then now it's whomever. And I will have
to say that even though I feel like I have
a strong sense of basic health, I have in the
past gotten a little bit turned around in terms of like, okay,

(05:04):
so what is the right thing to do? Like what
are we supposed to do? And for me, I just
can't lie to you. Some things are just tried and true,
gonna slow me down sugar, processed food, my my baby,
my love fry food. I thought you're going to say bread,

(05:26):
Oh bread, it's so cool. Potatoes potatoes, goodness. See, we
we ate yams primarily. You know, if we can we
can find the love for a yam. My sister mixed
together a yam and a potato mash, and you know,

(05:47):
it's it's less potato, but you know, it feels like
you're getting all the potatoes you want. And then of
course the next egg we have to, you know, make
a potato pancake out of the yam and the potato mixed.
But you know, here we go, sugar telling us a

(06:11):
message and the song I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you this.
This is what worked for me in the past. It
was not the easiest thing to do, but it definitely worked.
I lost a lot of weight. I lost like sixty
pounds one. I was working out a lot. I lived
in California and I rode my bike upwards. I would

(06:32):
say up to twelve miles a day. I wrote a
lot with with Scott Parker. Shout out to Scott park
I love you yo. Um. That was that was a
lot of fun. I realized I have to have fun
things to do, like playing football or you know, I'm
not really a runner, but I do love riding my
bike like I do so much. That's a good thing

(06:53):
for me. Dr Diadamo's eat right for your blood type.
Oh see, I've heard about this heart this okay, which
is is sitting there in my library. It's it's an
app damn it on your deli. You know how hard
it is. Are you serious? It's hard to promise you.

(07:15):
You would think that your doctor just has it on.
No no, no no no. If you gotta go through
your primary care doctor and you gotta go ask. But
it's a whole process. It's not just are you serious.
To this day, I still don't know. I'm gonna find
out dogs. This is the year. Well, you know, I
was at the time when I guess, yeah, when I
found my mother knew my blood type. But I was
dealing with Dr Frederick Burton in Philadelphia. Dr Burton is

(07:40):
a m D. But he's also a holistic doctor, and
he focuses his his practice on holistic medicine. So you know,
if you're if you're going to Dr Burton in Philadelphia
on City Line Avenue, you'll get a blood test, and
he's gonna go through everything, everything and whatever you think,

(08:01):
you know, any anything you could think of, he's gonna
go look for it. And that's the difference between holistic
searching and your regular m d s. They're looking for
specific things and not everything. They're looking for rabies. You
might have got bit by a dog, by a kid
like my mom, Yeah you told me, but you told
us about this that he yes found in her system.

(08:22):
She was in her late forties and she was bit
by a dog when she was six, you know. So
there's that the suppression business that happens with modern medicine,
not necessarily healing. So you know he's going through find yourself,
a holistic doctor, where is anything you can share with us?
Because I'm so interested and like what he found out
about you, about me weight, you're supposed to remember, well,

(08:49):
that is not specifically what we were looking for at
the time. Um, I was trying to find out how
to regulate my cycle because I just it would disappear
for months or months, you know, sometimes a year or two,
Like I just was like what do I do? We
never actually came to a It was like get on
birth control pills, which was the initial reaction, not from him,

(09:13):
the from other doctors. It was like, we'll just get
on birth control pills to regulate your cycle with him. God,
let's see, um, there was babies in my system? How
about that? Because I was yeah, yeah, I was like,
oh wow, that's what I'm not sure it just might

(09:34):
be present, it's just there. But it makes sense because obviously,
even as we all know that there are some things
that are genetic that you can't get from you know,
your parents, you know things and you're you know certain
I like to call them switches. Uh. You know, there's
certain switches you get born with, and depending on how
you live your life and what happens to you, something

(09:56):
can flip that switch on, you know what I'm saying.
So there's something you know, so you can it's good
to have some sort of sense of what those switches
might be. I mean, that's that's pretty amazing. You know.
I'm curious, like um, and not not to get like
too deep in your binnass, but like, is that something
that's that's expensive or is that something that that people

(10:17):
might be able to like wrap their minds around in
terms of like the average person be able to go
do an afford. It was years ago when I was
looking for was cancer. We have a history of cancer
in my family, so I was like trying to see
was there any any glimpse hint idea so that I
could attack it rather than it attacked me. And at

(10:38):
the time, he didn't find any cancer my system. Praise God.
I'm so grateful for that. Um. But it's time to
visit him again and go through the whole thing. It's
been years and it's it's definitely time to see him again.
You know, insurance covered it. It was a hundred and
seventy eight dollars. Yes, yes, it was very good. I

(10:59):
wouldn't I wouldn't even assume that insurance will cover anything
that he's doing holistically. You know, anything that your holistic
doctors doing. They're not covering anything like that, you know. Yeah, yeah,
As you know, modern medicines is there to suppress symptoms,
not to heal them or deal with them in any way,
shape or form, because sometimes suppression is the answer, because

(11:23):
you don't want something that's sitting around in your body
to pop up, Like you said, something that's old in there,
you don't want it to pop up, or whatever the case.
May be. But yeah, yo, have you guys, either of
you guys, because you are artists and whatnot, have any
of y'all done like the body sculpting detoxifying stuff? I
would like to I heard that the ice thing, this

(11:45):
is all you know. I heard that the cool sculpting
hurts like it's painful. Yeah, I will try. I heard
it was slightly painful. Shoutouts to the homie our brobs.
You don't care. She did like at least three sessions
of it. She is like, it might have hurt, this
is slightly but she she did see the results. But
you just have to be consistent. Now, what is this though,

(12:06):
Because I'm just a regular negro, I don't know what
y'all even talking about. What it's about sculpting the way,
it's a lot of different. So cool sculpting is when
they they to my now you even made me look
us up officially, but they should freeze. We freeze the fact.
Oh and then you have to guess they have to
drink a lot of water to to push it out

(12:26):
of your system. Yeah, a lot of places, it's a
it's a lot of centers across the country that just
coool sculpting I'm just gonna tell you real quick how
it works. The proven science is FDA clear non invasive
body contouring technology eliminates up to treated fat cells for

(12:48):
good in nine different areas targets stufforn fat freeze is
twice stubborn fat at once. So that's what it does.
It freezes back. There are many ways, so there's also
a heat way. I hate that my references. Y'all these
show stuff and you saw. Of course, you're learn about
it when you learned about it from you, kind of

(13:08):
like I learned that you can also get which she
did a procedure which they melt atatich was equal to
like ten thousand sit ups. However, what I was asking
about was a more holistic thing that I've been watching
Melissa Ford do on Instagram where she goes to like
a detoxifying center. And I've actually heard about this years ago,
where you go declassifying tents and you go through a

(13:29):
series of massages, progressive massages of them, like moving the
stuff around. Yeah, like I know what that is. I'm interested.
I want to Can you imagine I just would like
to have a month of just doing stuff, yeah, on
a daily basis, Like, oh, it's time. Like I've always

(13:51):
seen that in the movies where people go to some
svive somewhere and then oh man, it's time for your
spatial Oh cool, you know you're gonna get a facial Oh,
I have assigned for your massage. Okay, you can get
a massage like Jju in Atlanta. They have the Yoni
Jju in Atlanta. Let's talk Yoni. Yeah, the Yoni steam

(14:15):
is pretty awesome. I've done it a couple of times
and I felt wonderful, like and for them, I felt wonderful.
I was like so fashion locally, it was wonderful. Put
in the egg inside right, well, no, that you don't
have to put anything inside yourself. It's uh, it's t
basically and you're yeah, you're sitting towel or something. You

(14:40):
can do these things from home as well. I believe
they sell them in um in Whole Foods, you know.
But you can also look it up and buy the
tea and put it together yourself so that you can
have a whole bunch of it for whenever you'd like to.
But it was actually a really really pleasant experience and
I would like to do that again. That was not

(15:00):
loved it yeah, I've I've never tried it. I have
a ton of friends who have done it. They love it,
they swear by it. Vaginal care is super important, and
so having the basics down are really important. But this
is something that's clearly not a new practice, but it's
something that now we're starting to talk a lot about
more often. And then obviously what black women having issues

(15:23):
with fire boys and things of all kinsitive and and
and and very very difficult periods. Because I have a
girlfriend who was having heavy bleeding and a lot of
pain and sometimes she was having her period was making
her go to the hospital for the pain. So she
started doing the vaginal steaming in order to um among

(15:47):
other things. Among other things, so changing diet, no longer
eating I want to say, she wasn't eating chicken or
anything anymore. She was like, not is the root of
all physical evils. I'm gonna tell you that too, because
reducing sugar house with fibraries, sugar feet ahead say more

(16:08):
real talk after the break. So so as we're talking
about these things, it's like, Okay, clearly sugar is an issue.
You and I all know that that the sugar is
flooded through the hood in every possible way all through

(16:32):
it the most powerful drug. Oh it is, it is.
It's it's flooded. All the sodas and the hugs, those
little it used to be probably a dollar fifty. Now
you know, all of those little drinks and things are
just so much sugar. And it's a setup. It's a
set up, as somebody who was overweight right now it is.

(16:55):
It's a set up to tom to slow you down
and to to a fringe of fund your health because
health really is wealth. Friends, doesn't matter how much money
you have, it doesn't matter how many cars or houses
or whatever. If you're not healthy, man, it changes everything
for you. So people just get on a regular basis

(17:19):
something some things that are too about access too, because
such absolutely yeah, it's like I think what happens is
that a lot of people want to be healthy, like
they want the benefits of being healthy, but there's the
education about it. But then it's also access because you know,
I live in the in the city and in Phillies
and when one grocery store you can go into, especially

(17:42):
the ones in the black neighborhoods or in the black
and brown neighborhoods, and it's just like none of the
produce look good. You know what I'm saying, ain't nothing
on sale, you know what I mean? Everything, and then
and and then you know, access to healthcare and people
who we're gonna, you know, tell you what's going on
with you. It's just like so much of that is

(18:06):
just hard to to to get around, you know, the
stuff that's in your way. I don't you think sometimes
it's mental work too that you don't feel like doing,
Like you don't feel like doing the research and find
out the alternative to this. This is what I know.
I know this price point. I mean, it's a lot
of gray in there. I feel like two Asia. It's like, yeah,
I have six kids, and I make pretty decent money.

(18:26):
I have six kids, I make decent money, Okay. When
I go into the grocery store, okay, and I'm buying food,
I have to think about how quickly that my family
is gonna go through that food, you know what I'm saying,
and when I'm gonna be able to replenish that. So
I think a lot about how much things cost, you

(18:47):
know what I'm saying. And obviously fresh you know, fruit
and vegetables, of course, that's a no brainer. But then
also too, you have to think about the way that
people work, the way they go to school. Will those
things go bad it? Will they be able to come
home on time to cook every night? All these different
things are all things I have dealt with. These are
things that I have been faced with. When I'll even

(19:09):
say things like vitamins vitamin supplements, if I'm gonna how
do I look only being the only person in the
house taking supplements? But then I don't want to give
the B S supplements to my kids. So then what
might cost you twenty dollars for a bottle of this
or that, I gotta buy four times that much. So

(19:31):
then you're telling me I got to spend two hundred
dollars a month on supplements, two hundred dollars on supplements,
when I got to spend at least four hundred dollars
every week, every week and a half to two weeks
just on groceries alone. Now, mind you, everybody doesn't have
a house with six kids in it. But what I'm
saying is that I make decent money and I have
six kids. When I think about people who are making

(19:54):
not very decent money, and then thet's say they have
three kids, but this is the state. It's the same
kind of thing, if not first. And I just think
sometimes we just gotta remember in terms of health, to
remember the access is an issue. So people don't feel
like they're failing themselves because they can't eliminate sugar or
they if they want their kids to have something to
drink in the house, or whatever the case may be.

(20:16):
And let's say, you know, I don't know. I mean,
obviously water is obvious, but they can't afford X y Z.
It's a slow walk. It could be a slow walk.
It's gotta be a walk. Let me say this age
of great and danceler. Just because it's hard doesn't mean
that I don't have to do it. Like I enjoyed

(20:37):
my COVID time. I ate and I enjoyed it. And
when I and when I landed Mahellia, I was like,
I am going to be Mahellia. Okay, I'm gonna eat
this hair and it's off on a character and you know,
and like that was really my mindset, like I'm about
to be great at this. I'm gonna do what best

(20:57):
liked and I'm gonna do it. Look now I'm in
this position and I have to to get healthy because
that I don't feel good. I just don't feel good.
And it doesn't make a difference. You know, I don't
have the options. The options are, but the reality is,
let's just deal with the reality. Reality is, you have

(21:19):
to drink water. It's not a choice. The reality is
you have to cut down on sugar. It's not a choice.
Look if my mother, I'm just saying, I'm just saying,
we went through a very very hard time financially and
when I was growing up, and my mom, you know,
she just caught the long bus. She got on one

(21:39):
of them buses. She had a transpass in Philadelphia. That's
that's a little ticket that takes you to let you
catch bus after bus. They were pretty expensive at the time,
but she had to trans pass and she would go
all the way out to the boonies, you know, to
suburbia to go to the thrift stores to get good clothes,
because the clothes in my community, the you know, they

(22:01):
weren't really working. You know, the pieces of something that
it didn't last very long. Put it in the watch
twice and it's a rap, you know. So she she
went out to the suburbs. This is this is like
a part of the journey when we're talking about like
we have to, you know, care for ourselves. Maybe that
means taking a long trip. Maybe that's the long bus
to the farmer's market. I'm not saying that it's gonna

(22:22):
be easy. Everything ain't easy ship, but it's just it's like,
damn because the sugar water this one saying. I'm not
trying to say that people shouldn't put forth effort. Obviously,
Like I said, I've seen this from a lot of
different angles. I've been overweight. I am in this at

(22:43):
this current moment, but I've lost tons of weight. I've
been on some of these programs worked out. You look
great by the way I saw you in your multi
colored dress, and can I can I just say that
I didn't have on anything underneath of it. There was
no type of apparatus underneath that dress, and you look good.

(23:08):
I've been I've been back and forth between these things
multiple times. So I do I understand there's a certain
there's a certain sensibility that we have to implore no
matter what we're doing. Like for example, yeah, you could
just not buy any juice. Okay, that's actually saves you money.
So there are some things. Yeah, there are some things

(23:29):
that we can do, and some things that are birth
out of poverty that actually are better for us, like
cooking more at home and things like that. But I
think it's important to really kind of stress and understand
that even if you have desire to do better, access
to better things is often linked to money and and
and and privilege, and when those things are not in

(23:52):
the space where you are, it can be very difficult
to make these types of chance ages. It's That's all
I'm saying, is that. And I've been the mother in
the store thinking, oh, well, no, I need to buy this,
or but I needed I needed to last, I needed
to stretch. Uh should I do this? Should I do that?

(24:13):
And and I and I can just I can relate
to that. That's all I'm saying. I'm not saying it
is the counter the counter to that kind of like,
all right, so I feel I feel you on You
don't have to resources. You have this drive, you want
to change, you want to make things short, things are safe, Okay,
so you gotta buy these badass grocries this week. It
is all you can afford. However, I'm gonna make sure
that these kids get outside and at least walk around

(24:35):
the track to that. Yeah, no, I like it, And
I think that's what I'm saying. So, I mean, it's
like it's something there, it's something free you can do,
you know. Oh yeah, you're not confined to everything. And
like I said, I'm saying, I'm just throwing that out
there because I think we're talking about freezing fat and
we're talking about all of this different stuff and I'm
just like, well, for the average woman, how accessible is that? Like,

(24:59):
I mean crazy, But we're talking about different levels of
staying healthy, right, so we also can talk about intermittent fasting,
like we can talk about things that you can do
at home. Like I don't guess what. I'm not a vegan,
but I was trying not to eat dairy during the weekdays,
you know what I'm saying. On the weekends, that's cheaper,
by the way, because dairy is expensive. People. We know

(25:21):
that dairy is back for us when we feel that
mucus and I said that when we wake up there
that today so and not for nothing. I know I
shouldn't be eating dairy when the moment. I watched the
Peter video and at the end of it, they said, well,
if rats drink rat milk and uh, bats drink bat milk,
why is your human as drinking coyle milk? I don't know.
But so interesting about Yeah, But that's that's so interesting

(25:43):
is because certain values that we grew up having is
like almost indoctrination, Like we were when we were like, oh,
it's gonna build healthy bones. And I remember the milk
commercials like this is what you was in industry? It
was some bullshit. It was all eyes to build this
fucking milk industry, and we are all living in the

(26:05):
bullshit of what it did to us as kids. And
for milk, they gave us powdered milk, yes, any anything
milky alive, And now folks are raised on all kinds
of nut milk. Like who even knew that we could
just strain the nuts over night and some milk and
call it my weird old neighbors that none of the

(26:27):
neighbors understood who was playing guitar with a whole bunch
of plants all around his window and uh smelling of
some kind of wonderful inset that dude knew that nuting
milk was a real thing. Yeah, the sisters that wore
the guard the gayle as that we didn't understand that
was still wearing that. Those those elders they knew, they

(26:50):
understood when he had That's very true. They were raised
to be vegetarians, that new satan. I was like, what
is it? We Arry Ridz, what is this? I'm in
high school with vegetary d Yeah, yeah, I mean they're
they're some of this stuff is is old, tried and true.

(27:10):
I'm two dollars. I just want to say that I'm
a milk two dollars. My child only drinks almond milk,
so I know would be fancy too. And they just
be like, wait, wait, waiting women where because no, no, no,
I'm sorry because when you go in the hood, see
a lot of y'all talking stuff because you've got time
these women and people who work in nine to five

(27:32):
jobs who coming home immediately have to cook. And the
only store in the neighborhood, if it does have almond milk,
it's five and six dollars. Let's stop, everybody, and you
got spay and you got to help me that. It's
because it's two dollars and not just in traded Joe.
So I didn't know that I didn't know in the
corner store and they mark it up like five times
what it is store. I'll go to the corners to

(27:56):
all the time, but I don't go to the corner
store for my milk. So that's why I didn't know.
I don't pay attention. I go cornasto up at certain things.
So I feel you in the privilege of that. Well,
I'm just saying. I'm just saying, like, even in the
markets that are in some of these communities, then you
want somebody then then we discussed getting on the long bus,
So getting on the long bus also requires time to
get on the long bus. It also requires a lot
of different things, access to a lot of stuff that

(28:19):
are folks. I just think sometimes we don't understand some
of the basic things that folks do not have access to.
I think that's yeah, I just saying. I just think
when it comes to health, like specifically around health, right,
I think that we just have a perception that the
majority of people are living in middle class life, that

(28:40):
a lot of these things are associated with middle class living,
access to things and the affordability to to to get
these certain things. We do live in a country where
the vast majority of the people black, white, and otherwise
don't have access to some of these things. And the
more stuff you pile into the pot, black, poor, whatever,

(29:03):
these things become more and more difficult. So just getting
getting almond milk at two dollars, I'm sorry, I gotta
just jump out there and say that ain't everywhere, and
that's mostly not everywhere. We're gonna take a quick break
and then we'll be right back with education. When you

(29:31):
when you're interested in something, you find out, there is
a drive to find out more. That was That was
my quote in high school. The more I see, the
more I do, the more I do, the more I
want to see, you know, saying it's it's if you're interested.
I don't know. I know about being broke. I definitely
know about that. And I know that My mother got
up at four o'clock in the morning and took the

(29:53):
long bus to the docks and came back with a
bunch of fruits and vegetables and started making smooth these
for my community. This is not myth, this is not bullshit.
This is real. She just started making smoothies. She bought
a book. I can't remember which one it was, but
she bought a book and found out about herbs and
such and started making these smoothies. And next thing I know,

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people are standing around the block waiting for Joycey smoothies
and she was charging ten dollars, which was over ten dollars.
I know. She's also bought the big cups and she's
making I mean big joints. So when I asked people
on my way out, like, y'all really like my mom smoothies,
they were like, oh, whoa you know, um, when we

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have them, we don't have to eat for the rest
of the day. So it's a ten dollar old day
party question. How come after that, everybody on your block
didn't get up at four o'clock in the morning and
make their own smoothies. There has to be a desire
for it. But what I'm saying that has to be
a desire. I can't believe that not a single person

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that had your mother smoothie had no desire to be healthy.
I don't know about everybody. I know that when she
stopped making them, I ain't see them no more until
they were in the stores and everybody was going at
the smoothie mark and the smoothie spot in the smoothies
it's also a matter of convenience, and ain't people probably
don't think that way. When I can get up, I
don't have to get up before the more and I
can just wait from Miss Joyce and I got the

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ten dollar, let me just say my ten bucks and
just sometimes that's the thought too. It's just so many
grades in that that thought process, isn't it. All I'm
saying is that I understand the variables, but if it's
something that you really want to do, like and I'm
speaking really directly to my myself right now, because I
don't I don't want to work up to and I

(31:44):
have to. I don't feel like drinking this green ship
that I'm drinking right now, but I'm gonna drink this
green ship because I know it's better for my body.
I don't want to, but I have to stick to it.
And the more excuses that I make, oh, well, you
know I was trying to. Yeah, I get it, I
get it. It's not gonna work out. They're not we're

(32:05):
not shooting down. It's not happening now, is happening a
year from now or or a little sooner than that.
But nonetheless, what I can't hold onto this my knees hurt.
I came there, don't want to be some bread and
the fact that our mother's not for nothing. The seventies, mamas,
there was a little bit of a holistic kind of thing,

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and there wasn't rich mamas, because I don't I don't
think from a middle class refective. I do sometimes have
the tendency to think from a working class perspective. So
I I apologize for that and trying to be more,
but in the sense of, like, I know, my mom
wasn't rich, but there were certain things and books that,
like you said, Jill, she wanted more. So my mother
is still giving me books. I got a stretching book. Okay,
likes she is in this wholistic game. She is not trying.

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She's trying to age gracefully. She listen, she ain't what
she ain't wont off that daughter, You know what I'm saying.
So girl, let me tell you something. My mother, my
mother got up, every got up and did remember that
lady who used to do the work out in the morning,
the twin workout four more, three more, two more. My
mother did that. My mother got up and did her

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fifty My mother got up and did the fifty sit ups,
and I'm saying all of those things, and and again
and again. It's not to be Devil's advocate or anything.
I just was trying to throw out some other aspects
of things we might want to think about. And of course,
anything you want to do, you have to want it.
But also to what I love about what you guys

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are saying ultimately is that it is a life or
death situation and it's also a form of resistance because
at the end of the day, we know what we're
up against, and our health and how we treat our
bodies is so important because there's so many things attacking it,
whether it be what your diet is, how much you
move your body, your mental health because we've talked about

(33:54):
this on this show before, your mental wellness. All these
things are ingredients to, you know, the type of priorities
that we have to make for ourselves because if no
one's coming to check for us, they gotta so we
gotta be able to share this information with each other
and be fully, you know, aware of the challenges that
we have and how to fix, fix and meet those

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challenges because no one else is gonna care. They're just
gonna let us drop off. They're gonna let us have diabetes,
They're gonna letus that sad disease. They're gonna let us
have all of that stuff and have access to the
worst possible health care. So we gotta look out for
each other and being a better friend and help people
be accountable. Shoot, I know, girl, I don't want no

(34:38):
I mean accountability partnership. I'm going right back. I'm going
right back to this long bus. Friends. That's that's what
it seems like. It's like a metaphor for what I
have to do now. I gotta catch the long bus.
I promise you. I could cry right now, but I'm
just I'm I'm too uncomfortable. Oddly I fit my clothes.

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I don't know how. I don't know. This is when
you know you gotta make some changes when you say
I don't know, I don't know how I'm fitting any
of my clothes, but I'm I'm fitting some of it,
most of it. But I don't like how. I feel
like I worked so hard in the past, you know, Scott, Damn.
There there was moments where I had a song. I

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used to be like, Scott hate me, he hate me
so much, and I hate him too. And then he
would show up and I would sing this God hates me.
Oh God, it's terrible. I hated the song. I hated him,
I hated to see his face. But every time we
left each other, I felt a little bit stronger and

(35:43):
I felt a little bit better, and I and he's far.
He's far, and I don't know nobody out here like that.
So what that means is that I gotta do that
for myself. My my girlfriend girlfriend swears by that Peloton. Okay,
she swears Peloton is a thing, and they have an app,

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So you don't actually need the need a Peloton Palestine.
Oh that's fine. Well, don't be waiting and not doing nothing.
Don't be waiting. Don't be one of those equipment we're
talking about. That's what I'm talking about. That's what I'm
talking about. Have YouTube workouts. You're talking about, getting rid
of every excuse not getting on the loan bus right now,

(36:26):
not at this moment, but the metaphors that that I am.
This is about to be the long bus. I gotta
I gotta go walk because the bus stop. I didn't
get to the bus stop yet. Because you gotta get
to the stop and this is the thing too, And
I'm so glad again. I know we talked about the
generational changes and stuff, but I'm so glad that we're
communicating more about what growing older means, right, because things

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that we weren't told, right, Like, we weren't told a
lot of our our elders had neat issues because they
had too much weight on their bodies. Right, we weren't
told that our skin changes over every ten years. And
you can't use the same facial things that you use
because it may be effective. I had to learn that
when I turned thirty and proactive wasn't working anymore. They'll
tell you about adult acne. They don't tell you even
about your period and how that changesn't so. And so

(37:10):
I tell you about your sweat glands and how you
might stink and you might have to do better about
what kind of deodorants you use and all kinds of stuff.
It's like a lot of things, you're right, And that
you lose muscle as you get older. People. So, like
my mother said to me, like ten years ago, she
was like, your cardiore real cute, but I'm gonna need
you to pick up some of them weights because you're

(37:31):
gonna lose You're about to lose muscle, and it's when
the fifties hit. Listen. I girl, I experienced that, that
losing muscle thing. I used to be so strong in
my upper body, and I've always been strong in my
lower body. I still am. It's just a thing. It's genetic.
I think it don't even matter how big I get
is such a weird thing. But my upper body always

(37:53):
had a lot of strength in my upper body. And
the other day I tried to do something simple and
I was like, oh, baby, you you have to work
on this. And because I've always been so super focused
on things like drinking water and I haven't you know,
processed food and stuff like that, and cardio. You do
cardio a lot, your dancing and cardio I dance and

(38:14):
stuff like that. But I never thought about that with
those weights that I'm glad you brought that up because
I have done so much of that other stuff and
felt like, yeah, I feel I feel good, you know, girl.
Till I tried to do something that required strength. I
went to my my girlfriend's party and she's now Quinn quadrainarian.

(38:35):
You know um that come on, qu So I go
to the party and I literally I don't know. I
don't know how long the party was, but I know
that I danced from the time I got there to
the time and I felt great about it. I had
a good ass time too, was nice. The little tacos
was hatting, you know what I mean. And I traveled

(38:58):
across the country to be there a good time. Man.
The next day, I felt like I had been hit
by several busses busses in there, and I was like, okay,
all right, I'm about to be I'm about to hit
this fifty. I'm about to hit this fifty and I
we're talking about this. We're talking about health today because

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you know, I can't even front it is directly impacting
my my life right now, right now, and there's that
there is not a single excuse that I can offer myself.
I'm trying my best not to beat myself up and
call myself about my name. But I have said, if
you don't get up, you know what I mean, you've

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been counting yourself out. You could have been already up.
Listen on my neck it hears you. Let me tell y'all,
I'm gonna call it. Okay, this is my fattest I
didn't laid in the bed and count it jumping jack,
So listen, just counting them in the bed with my eyes.

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This is how many you would be doing right now
if I was saying enough. This is how many I'll
be doing. Like I have planned many many walks. I
don't have planned the walks. I have decided I'm gonna
take the walks. And Lie is so disappointed in us,
but we know that she loves because now I'm not disappointed.

(40:29):
I'm literally thinking like we all do. Like y'all. I
don't know if you notice, but I always have on
a sports braun workout year because I wake up and
put it on because at some point today I'm gonna
work out. Now that it don't happen every day, at
least I can look at myself with shame by the
end of the day. If all day you ain't done nothing,
you just wasted workout. You know what. I appreciate that,
because that's that's the hardest part for me, is that

(40:52):
I'm like, I gotta put on this sports bra. I
got to put on this. The sip up ones are awesome.
They're kind of even fun to put on. You might
to step up in the front. I'm seeing them on
the interweb, but I don't know what that is. We'll
be right back. I'm gonna say this too. I'm gonna

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say this too as you get older. Not everybody, okay,
because some of the saints and they're gonna be like,
not me. But we have to think about some of
the saints and the shake saying, man, they're not gonna
admit to this because they don't do this. But we
gotta talk about the hidden sugar in the libations at

(41:45):
something about But I'm saying, like, let's go out out there,
because what I will do is watch somebody doing something
that I want to do, like some sort of dancing
that I want to do with with grapes of a
certain nature. Yeah, I mean, red is good for you.
Red is good for the heart the owner of us

(42:05):
so much? What is it like? I was mad if
my glasses this big, I'm not for nothing. I get
myself creditor, skip my ice cream for wine. I'm just
I'm not gonna do both. I'm gonna just do one.
That's another thing, keeping one thing for another. Yes, So
the less detrimental to you, the is better, you know,

(42:27):
that's better. The less intri detrimental, like these are the things,
y'all Stoner's. I got a tip for you, Only healthy
things in your refrigerator. So when you go for the
munchy's like, go for the healthy stuff. You know what
I'm saying, like, just feel it. So joining got a choice.
You're like, oh, I gotta eat at least make some chocolate,
cover of almonds as far as you go. But you
know what I'm saying, like some food got to help

(42:47):
with your munkey's. Thank you, yeah, thank you so much.
You're welcome. I just I'm gonna struggle with you. Have
a day. Oh. I didn't want to do this a game.
I didn't. I didn't want to. Can we collectively rebuke
the one or two things that we really just want
to get rid of? First, I would like to rebuke

(43:10):
dear Lord. Mm hmm, come on, dear Lord. I would
like to rebuke the salt inventicar chips, Oh, I would Lord.
I would like to um also rebuke that caramel popcorn
and everybody keeps selling the raised money for kids. I'm

(43:34):
gonna rebuke that because it's very good. It's very very good.
I would also like to rebuke the lemonade iced tea
situation that I have bought for many years, that I
need to just get that out of the refrigerator because
it's not a go to, it's a treat. It's not
a goal to. It's a treat. It's not to rebuke

(43:59):
the gas station fried chicken. I'm trying to tell you
that the gas station fried chicken is the best chicken
I've ever had, and I think about it. I think
about it often, and then I'll just go to the
gas station and say that I was going to get
something else, but I'm really going to get that chicken.

(44:22):
I'm really going to do that. And I have to
stop this foolishness just because the children, the child have
some ice cream, because these children over here like to
believe that they should have deserved every night supposed to. Yeah,
I mean, that's not that's not how I grew up.
I don't know, you know, I'm just saying the dessert
is a treat. It's not. It's not a given. You know,

(44:44):
it's that's because you did something great, you know, it's
not just because Yo. It may be so, but I
the dessert falling into the children's trap of dessert. I
need to just I'm out. I'm I bind you dessert
of every night, maybe maybe Saturday nights is all right,

(45:05):
But the rest is I have to stop because I'm
doing what they're doing. I'm doing what they're doing, and
I can't do what they do because young people. He's
getting longer, he's swimming out. As my mother said, he
the tallest, skinniest. He's in the nineties eight percentile for

(45:27):
height at his age. Yeah, yeah, he's and he's only
getting longer. The same thing happened to my son. I'll
about to say, I remember killing his his opera stage.
He was a little round. He was a little round
in row toun for a second and two seconds later
he shut up. Yep, And that's what's happening. And we're
the size of leven shoe at twelve, and it's I know, see,

(45:51):
he's not gonna have these these problems, you know, but
but I do. Let's talk about men and their metabolism
and no matter what, it's always gonna be fasking us.
We just have to live with what it is. Okay,
even then they cannot work out for months, they go
back and then go you understanding. Meanwhile, I would like
rebuke it. What are we doing buking, binding, re binding.

(46:15):
I would like to review I bind Off. Although I
love so and I have talked to her about her.
On this show, I rebuked a lady named Jenny be
creating in the national Nationwide ice Cream Shop and all
the best flavors in the world. I would like to
review her and her her her homemade uh waffle of
cones that are the best waffle coach. Yes, They're better

(46:36):
than the been in Jerry's. I know because I'm an
ice creamy stuff uh. And I would like to just
rebuke any late night treat evening because it is hard
because even when you do your intermittent fastive like I
try to do, I don't start to eat till twelve,
and I make sure I can go intil eight. I
started smoking some times, and them treating in the fridge

(46:56):
or even calling me betimes. I put them demminiums in
the freeze or you know, the almin eminem. I want
to reduce the almin eminem's as well. You know I'm
gonna just yet. That's what I'm gonna do. That's what
I'm gonna be. Ain't grown and the lights pin packaging
as a light brown packaging eminem so bad one that
guts sick and I don't never want another peanut eminem

(47:16):
in my life. You don't need it. Make so many.
I went too hard, you know what I mean? Dark
chocolatecolate eminem. We like a Coxet ship, by the way,
but dark chocolate for also as well. I would like
to buying donuts of all kinds, especially the special one
now that they got the nice donuts, Shots, Federal Donuts,
all these places. Let's not name these places because they

(47:39):
don't exist. Okay, we're buding you donuts m to to
others and yourself buying you donuts because who told you
to make Gormet donuts? Why would you do that? Why
would you? Why would you do that? Do that? Off?

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Is enough already, Okay, let's focus on what we want to.
Want to drink this water you want to We really
do want to get a holistic test for your blood,
just to find out what's going on. How is your cholesterol.
It's it's it's not the specific While I'll say it's

(48:21):
not the finitely specific thing that the rest of the
doctors are doing. It's a whole They're looking at all
of you, looking at your blood to see what's really
going on in there, so you can catch some things
early if necessary. Okay, that's that's that's one I say.
Please do this. Okay, then please have your eyes checked

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as often as you can. I know, I know that
things are not easy. I know that finances aren't the
way you know that everybody wants them to be on
a consistent basis. But this is a priority. It's more
of a priority than that bag ordumn shoes or even
that bill. Babe. You might have to put a little
bit on that bill and walk away and come back
and you know, you know, tag little chunks out of

(49:05):
it as it is. But your eyes are important. And
you don't forget about the t too, because you do
not have to get a certain age. The mouth, the mouth, mouth.
I know we're throwing stuff in at the end, but
the mouth thing. Another good holistic thing is that is
um oil pulling with that oil, oh yes, baby, and

(49:31):
that that draws out a lot of that bacteria to clean. Okay,
your teeth a bit too, And and don't forget about
bacon solda for your teeth. Bacon solda and peroxide. I'm
not asking you to swallow peroxide I'm just saying, to
make a nice little paste with bacon, solda and peroxide. Um,
it's something that my mother has had me do my

(49:52):
entire life. I never liked the taste of it, but
you can follow it with some kind of mouth wax.
I'm just saying, if you want to have a healthy mouth,
because that's that's like super important to for many reasons. Okay, yeah,
bless you, bless you. We're gonna we're gonna continue to

(50:15):
talk about this randomly because there's so many things friends
that as especially my my young people. You're you're young,
so you don't think that you're going to have to
deal with any of this, But the reality is you're
already dealing with it. That are already You're already in
the process right now. So maybe that's something that I

(50:36):
know for sure, that's something that no one ever told
me that I was in the process of my future
health right now. But you are, you are, and I
don't want you to forget it. Love yourself, work on it. Yeah,
you're welcome. I Yeah, Hi, if you have comments on

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