January 7, 2025 • 63 mins
Originally published August 8th, 2023
On this week’s episode, Craig talks to his friend of many years - Kathie Lee Gifford - an American legend who needs no introduction. Kathie shares the emotionally compelling story of her run-ins with Howard Stern, expresses her love for Craig and Ricky Gervais (her two favorite comedians), and highlights her views on Jesus, faith, and science (along with how each comes together in her everyday life). This is part 1 of a two-part interview - look for part 2 to be released in a future upcoming episode. enJOY!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, mydeas. The Joy podcast will be taking the holidays off.
I hope you can too and have a lovely time
however you like to spend it, and with whomever you
like to spend it with. We'll be back on January
the fourteenth with the lovely Lisa Lobe. That's more alliteration
than I thought I was going to have when I
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started talking today. But there you are, the lovely Lisa
Lobe on the fourteenth of January, and have a lovely
holiday time, my friends. Be careful, stay safe, see you soon.
My name is Craig Ferguson. This podcast is called Joy.
It's not Rocket Science. I talk to people I like
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about their pursuit of happiness. Here's Kathy Lee Gifford, an
American legend. She loves Jesus' TV country music Enjoy.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
I'm so happy less I with the biggest smaller said,
I can just see my my Howard.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yeah tomorrow. Yeah we're ready to go. Yeah, Yeah, we
will just go. Can I be a little more, a
little louder in here because I'm going it was a
little more of himself. I want a little more of
you too. Yeah. I like to you know, only you
did it.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Just because of that slot. So this is called joy.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
It's called joy.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Lord, please bless this time together with Craig can help
us not to be too naughty. And Jesus name man.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Okay, I don't look, I am not want to scoff
about prayer. No, no, I am not. I am not
a I wouldn't describe myself as a person of faith,
but I am a person of doubt, which is on
the way to faith. Right.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Yes, and some people's journeys are quite long, yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
Taking a while. But I I feel like that prayer
you sent up there about Lord help us not be naughty.
I think that in a hurtful way.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Yeah, I just think I I'd love to be naughty
with you anytime you're ready and you get rid of
that you know woman, that's why is she still there?
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Wait? Wait a minute. You know sometimes I think she
asked herself the same question. So listen.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
She's a type of woman you want to hate because
she's so beautiful, she's so smart, she's so everything, and
then you meet her and she's you. You love her.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
You're talking about my wife, no, the.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Other one you have.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
But listen, I know I know that you're very private
and I respect and listen. You know what, Let me
just say at the start of this because because this
this is an unusual set of conversations for me. Yes,
that we are going to talk about joy and we
are going to talk about that, and I wanted to
talk to you about it because you and I have
a friendship, yes, which I love you, I adore you,
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and I don't agree.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
With you in a lot of things, and I think
that the most important things.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah, I think that's true. But but I think that
I see so much of like people can't be friends
unless they all think along.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Yeah, the cancel the cancel thing.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, that seems a little I don't know, that's stupid.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yeah, we can learn from everybody we sit down and
have a conversation with Why would we want to block off?
First of all, it's the antithesis of my faith, which
is I don't say that my Christian faith because I'm
I was born to a Jewish father and a shicks
some mother, you know, which is a gentile mother, and
we didn't grow up with any organized religion in my
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life at all until all of us came to an
understanding of faith in the person of Jesus who in
the in the Hebrew is called Yeshua, and all of
my family did. And so when they say, what do
you believe, I said, I'm a I'm a follower of Jesus.
And even you and I have conversations quite a bit
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when we are on set for our movie Than Came You,
which is available on Netflix now if you want to know.
But but you talked. I said, you said that to me,
And I've told this story on a couple of occasions
because we had a break in shooting, as you always
do in a movie. Sure, and you said, and I
can't do you without doing you. But because I have
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your head, I used to be in my head, I
had you down perfectly. So I won't do it today.
I will avoid it.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Can I give you permission? It's really all right now.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Because I just you know, I'm sitting across from you,
and it's been a couple of years and I've just
been too long. It's and they put you too far
away from me. I can't even reach you under the table.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I think, well, then somebody's reached me.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
You got you got your channel change and stick down there.
Something's happening.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Yeah, you said basically to me, Kathy, why do you
love me and Ricky meaning ger vas right, we were
not great guys? Is the way you said it? And
I thought, that's so not true.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Well, Ricky's a great guy, you think that, I think.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
No, you continue to say, we don't believe like you,
We don't believe in your faith, we don't probably don't
vote the way you do. But why do you love
us so much? Because you knew I did? And I said, well,
first of all, you're unbelievably lovable, and you're aging like
a fine wine that you no longer drink. But anyway,
you are created in the image of God, both you
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and Ricky. And plus you're the funniest, smartest, dearest people.
There's so many good things to love about you. Why
wouldn't I love you? To which here's the thing. Yeah,
you said, no person of faith has ever told us
before that they love us, And I said to you, well,
then you've never met one before.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Yeah, but I don't to be fair, I don't know
about Ricky. I mean, he probably gets told people love
them all the time. But when I was well, I mean,
we're going to see people of faith. That was what
that was about. He gets told he's what's not to
love about him?
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Except maybe I can't think of something right, But you
know you love what your love.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
But let but let me just say, let me let
me talk to you a little bit about joy. We
will talk to you about your about your faith and
about Jesus. Yeah, all right, good, all right, So we're
done with that. Now. I want to talk to you
a little bit about joy because the reason why I
wanted to do to have discussions with people about it
is because you, to me, are an example of someone
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who has gone through, particularly recently with Frank and all
that that You've gone through a lot of stuff. And
I saw you. I remember seeing you. I think the
Today Show wasn't long after Frank had passed, and you
had that kind of quite speedy vibe of someone who
was in grief and in shock, which is but but
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you also had something else, which is I suppose is
your faith. And you'll tell me, but you are someone
to me who seems to be an adversity able to
learn to a joy of some kind or maybe maybe
it's wrong to say, but manufacture it in yourself or
procure or find it from somewhere. Would that be accurate.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
No, I'm sure it seems like that to some people.
It was actually a week after Frank had passed. Now
I had found just for people who don't know the story,
and it's been almost eight years now since he passed. Wow,
he had been sick. He had a lot of CTE,
chronic traumatic and cephalop I can't say the last word,
and cephalopathy, which is brain damage concussion after concussion after.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
From the football.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
It was a Sunday morning, a beautiful Sunday morning. It
was hod Hiss birthday, August ninth, and I remember it's
the things you remember crazy. But this is why, this
is in answer to why I was the way I
was during this quite would have been traumatic experience for
somebody that didn't already cling to God the way I have.
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For so many years. I've always said, you know, there's
no bad time to find God, but the worst times,
you're grateful you already cling to him. He just cling
tighter at a time like that. And so I heard
him get on his scale. The man was one week
shy of eighty five, and he naked. He looked from
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the back. The man was thirty. You know, he worked
out still he's he exercised his brain. What was left
of it, We didn't know, because you don't know about
CTE until you do an autopsy, and we weren't going
to do that on him. Before he was gone.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I thought that would have been It's just not people
fring on it. It might even be legal in some states.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I don't know, not anymore. Eugenics. Baby, bye bye. You're
breathing air and leaving a carbon footprint. Bye bye. No
more so anyway, No, he was. He was an extraordinary
man to the day that he did pass. But I
heard him get on his scale, which he did every day,
and it said your weight is one hundred and seventy
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eight pounds, and I remember thinking, oh, it's going to
be a good day. That was his playing weight for
all those years, and that was his favorite weight. So
he was extremely disciplined in lots of week now. He
enjoyed life like crazy, and God knows he made mistakes.
Nobody knows that like I do. But he was a good, good,
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solid man of a different era, cramp, a different generation.
He grew up during the Depression, ate dog food as
a child and was grateful to have it. His father
was an itinerant oil worker. I mean they lived. I
think I don't even remember thirty different places while he
was growing up. So he never was able to put
down roots anywhere. But the one thing that could he
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could stand out at every time he moved to a
different place was his athleticism, and so that came to
be the thing. He was a terrible student. Later when
he when he got a scholarship to USC to play football,
he became their their finest scholar athlete. He was so
grateful to have an education.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I was going to ask you about that one was
fran Was Frank a grateful man? Was he a joyful man?
Speaker 2 (10:13):
You know, that's such a great question, because you would
think he was grateful. And that's why we didn't bring
a class action suit once we got the results of
his brain scans. You know a lot of people who
had whose loved ones had worked in the NFL joined
this class action suit because the NFL knew about this.
They did and and and Frank was was He said,
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no matter what you find out, Kathy, you know, when
I'm gone, I don't want to be a part of that.
I don't want our family to be He said, I
am so grateful for the life that I have had
that the NFL afforded me. He would have. He was
when he wasn't playing for the Giants, and he went
back to California and sold for fertilizer in Bakersfield. That's
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what the NFL was at that time. No, but he
was a full time football player. They only played it
till the you know, for the season. Everybody else had
jobs other ways. You know, a lot of them came
back from World War Two with half of their life
shot up. You know Connorley, Connerley, who was his best
friend there and was the quarterback, and they became dear,
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dear friends. And he had just just come back from
World War Two, so you know, it's a different world.
I'm twenty three years younger than Frank was to the day,
so I would hear the stories he would tell, and
I would have such respect an admiration for the for
the the kind of human beings that existed. Then we
hear so much today about the entitlement, about the cancel culture,
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all of that stuff which just demeans and diminishes the
human spirit. Everything Frank talked to me about celebrated it.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Yeah, I want to I want to talk to you
a little bit about the council culture thing, because I
I do have a knee jerk reaction a little bit
out of myself. But at the same time, I think,
you know, I look at my you know, my my
oldest boy is twenty two, so he's kind of in
that in that world, that world, and and you you know,
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and I want to I want to have an open
mind about the youth, you know, like you have an
open mind about people who are not Messianic, Jewish Christian.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Which is most of the world, right, which is I
don't want to cut off most of the world because
they don't agree with me.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Right, and I don't want to. I don't want to
cut off the I'm not sure with cancel culture if
it's if it's really like that for most of them,
you know, I think for the kids. I mean when
I say them, I mean I'm talking about young people.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I think, what do you call it? Gen X or
Z g Z. Now what do you do now we've
run out of that, We're going to pick up the
Greek alphabet.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
I don't know. I think that my youngest boy, Liam
is twelve, so he's he's just coming into a generation.
I don't know. What the generation is called. But I think
they're going to be different.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
He's twelve, you know what, can we just say he's twelve.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
He's twelve, and he's adorable, gorgeous.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah, he reminds me of Stewie and family guy.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Yeah. I don't think he would be he would be
insulted by that.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
I think he'd be proud. Word is a badge of honor.
I want to call Dad, call me Snewie.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Yeah. Although I think I'm a little like Peter Griffin
as well, which is a little si. I'm like that.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I'm Brian the Dog.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
You're well, yeah, a little bit. Yeah with the wine.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Hey, this is a this is a latte. I'm about
to graduate though, are you listen?
Speaker 1 (13:40):
There's another thing that I admire about you. You can drink.
I can't drink.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
I know you can't.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
But have you ever had a problem? Do you ever
feel like oh boy?
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Yeah? Times definitely.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Yeah. That makes me feel oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Yeah. Here's the thing. If Jesus is my model and
we go back to Yeshua Jesus, right, people have no
idea you because they don't study rabbinically. The Western Christian
world has no idea of our roots. They don't. I've
had people even say to me through the years, now
Jesus was, Jesus is Catholic. Right, I'll go, do you
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know what year the Catholic Church came to be? I
forget now, it's like five ninety a d or something
like that. Yeah, I said, Jesus had long since died, resurrected,
ascended to heaven. And no, he was not Catholic. He
was a Jew, a rabbinic. It was a rabbi, and
he was a Jew and a perfect Jew.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Was there a moment that kicked this off for you?
Speaker 2 (14:38):
I remember it as I'm going to be seventy years
old this year. I can't even that's not true?
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Good? Do I know? I need to know which moisturizer
you use, because.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
You if only it was more just moisturizer. You know
what it's it's that that's for that's for our lunch afterwards,
where you're not usually talking. Yeah, yeah, no, I do.
I'm actually developing a skin line. And all of the
botanicals they are in the skin line come from the Bible.
What yes, Who was the greatest seductress of all time?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Salomi?
Speaker 2 (15:11):
No? Even before that, Cleopatra Cleopatra. Cleopatra was used all
these things that well, there was no CVS or of
you know, Lord Lord and Taylors. She could go to
Everything came from the earth, and so what never changes truths.
The scriptures are built on truth. So we started looking
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at the Bible and the and the and the botanicals
that existed at the time. Some have have gone.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
You really genuinely are telling me you have a skincare
line based on the reading of the Bible. Yes, I
am both appalled and delighted.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
To hear that. Well, if it weren't two thousand years
ago for the greatest seductress of all time, Cleopatra, why
would it not work for for me and for you.
It's then the beauty of it is. It's called Nila.
It's not out yet. I mean, we've been in a
trust tests, you know, tiles for and my skin has
never been better than it's been in my entire life.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You know, you do it well, I have to say,
but listen now what you say tracked me talking about
the skin, Caroline, I want to talk to you about.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Yeah, that's not even that yet.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
I want to talk about it.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
No interest in.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Talking about that. Your epiphany, your your moment, your your
literal come to Jesus moment.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Okay, the beginning, This is not the moment I'm thinking of.
But I fell asleep. I was a little girl living
in Annapolis, Maryland. I looked up and it was fall,
and my daddy and I were raking leaves. And I
looked up and there was Jesus sitting on a cloud.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
And you actually saw yes in my dream and your
dream in my dream.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
And he looked down at me, Jesus or growing up,
growing up Jesus, and he looked down at me and
he smiled, and I knew it was Jesus.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
That was it, That was the dream.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Years later, now I'm twelve years old, I believe, and
I go to a moon. Not unlike the new movie
Jesus Revolution, which is out right now, that's the time
period that I was growing up in in the early
in the seventies. Okay, I graduated in nineteen seventy one.
That was when the Jesus Revolution was really starting and
I was already a part of it. But when I
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was twelve before that, there was a movie called The
Restless Ones, first movie that the Billy Graham Organization ever
put out, and if you watch it today, it's one
of the most dreadful wrek you know, you just even
my kids looked at it. They looked at it, and
they looked at my mom. This is awful, I said.
At the time, it wasn't. Billy Graham was so so
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criticized for it. You can't make a movie the devil
lives in the movie theaters, The devil lives in the
bass drum, the devil lives in the nightclubs.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
I can't argue that what always attracted me to all
of that stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
I know it, and left to your own devices, it
still would. But here's the thing. Billy Graham knew something
that something deeper because he didn't have a religion. He
had relationship with the living God. You know how anti
religion I am.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Yeah, That's why I'm kind of fascinated by because you're
your faith is unshakable, but but you're it's almost like
a contempt for religion.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Not the contempt I have for religion is not that
people love their churches and love to go and hear
the word of God. All of that is wonderful. I
have contempt, just like Jesus did for the leaders of
the church, that do not feed the flock, that abuse
the privilege of power, that misuse it. So I'm talking
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about organized religion that has gotten so big and so powerful,
not unlike our government, that it thinks that it is God.
Instead of teaching the people, you know, to follow their
their their their good shepherd, they said, no, no, you're
our flock.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
To me, it sounds like you're a little bit Did
you ever in kind or the writings of the Desert Fathers?
Have you ever come across that evagras of Pontus or
origin of this but no? Origin of Alexandria was was
an early Christian theologian from Alexandria in Egypt. I think
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it was like his father was a Christian martyr. He
was origin was I think around two hundred AD, so
pre church.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Well not really pre Catholic Church, yes, quay pre Catholic,
but the original Church with Jesus.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
Yes, so he's pre Catholic Church. And he he got
excommunicated five hundred years after he died. They got very
angry at him because he said God can exist only
in the mind. There can be no physical.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
Manifestation.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Manifestation in the sense of which is not what you
want to hear if you're selling chach because I guess
and can you.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Say it right? It is basically means crap.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Yeah, But I think that I think that to me,
it sounds it sounds to me like you you're Christianity
for want of a bad word, that that you're following
of Jesus has a very early early Christian feel about it,
like first one hundred years after after.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
The Yes, that's actually when when people who don't just
just it's not that they're ignorant people, they just don't know.
There's different kinds of ignorance in the world. There's I
just didn't know that, and then there's willful ignorance. And
I find so much so many Western Christians are are
ignorant about their early history, ignorant about what the Word
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of God actually says, only because they've never been taught.
And that's what I get angry about that that we
we have people graduating from from seminaries all over the
world right now who don't even know that Jesus wasn't
a carpenter. That's a bad trans lady. No, see, there
you go. This is the kind of stuff from studying
rabbinically like I have now for a long time. You
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find out what the word tecton in the New Testament
is the original word for builder slash architect, for what
Joseph and his and Jesus did to make a living
before Jesus became a rabbi. And so when and it
all goes back, always to bad translations of the Word
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of God. The Old Testament was written in Hebrew, ancient Hebrew,
which is still the same Hebrew. Yah, I don't, but
I studied the reading, you know, I study it, But
I don't. I can't sit down and read backwards and
all that stuff. No. I study with the world's greatest
biblical scholars. Many of them are Messianic and otherwise they
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are rabbis, and rabbis are the most learned people in
the world according to scriptures. I mean, they just are.
They go ten layers.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
They don't always agree, Rabbi.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
No, that's the whole point of being a rabbi. They
fight all the time. Because it's not fight. They argue,
and they argue, and by arguing, this is what's wrong
with culture. They learn and they start to ponder another
person's opinion and their take on something. And that's what
good honest discussion should be like respectful disagreement.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I think we could talk about religion for a long time,
and in our friendship we have talked about religion for
a long time. Yes, But there's another part of you.
There's another area of you which I think most people
are aware of. But even if they don't know, you are.
You're a very earthy person. You're funny, you have a
little body, You're a deliciously body sense of humor. You're
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thank you and you are you're funny, and you're naughty,
and you're earthy. And I think, and I mean all
of these things things as compliments because you know, I
love you and and I find that fascinating with the
what I understand of uh trinal holiness.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Yeah, you know what holy actually means set apart for
sacred use. Okay, it doesn't mean perfect, it doesn't mean
you got a halo over your head. It means set
apart for sacred use in the in Hebrew. And that's
what I am. And I think every human being is
wired to be set apart for sacred use. I'm not
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going to stop having the sense of humor I have.
I was woven in my mother's womb before the dawn
of time. So is my mother, so is your mother,
so is Liam and Milo. They just it's that's that's God,
that's Jehovah, God Elohim, the creator of all things. And
so that's not going to change. And the world in
quotes does that it tries to take change us and
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make us cookie cutter Christians or cookie cutter Jews or
Mormon Are you know it's all the same.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
Have you run a conflict? Oh?
Speaker 2 (24:04):
All my life. I was kicked out of the Brownies.
I was kicked when I was I was kicked out
a few years later. I was kicked out of Sunday School.
A few years later, I was kicked out at the
age of seventeen the America's Junior Miss pageant. Why because
I questioned things that were stupid and I knew innately
that that's not true. I'll tell you a perfect example
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of religion and relationship. In Jesus's day, when he walked
on the earth, which he did for thirty three years,
the people who followed Jesus would understand, because they'd grown
up this way, that the trees and there were no
big trees then there was just sort of glorified bushes.
Back then, Israel was a desert. Those trees, the trees
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that you go to Israel and you see now have
been planted since it became a nation in nineteen forty eight.
It was, Oh, my gosh, you and I are going
to go one day and it's going to it'll continue
to blow mine and it's going to your years ago,
flying off your okay, and so it's so so interesting.
So back then, in Jesus's day, certain trees represented certain
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groups of people within the Jewish culture, the Jewish people.
Just one that everybody would know is the olive tree
represented God's people.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
The Jews.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
To them, what what the sycamore fig tree represented? Back
then were the religious leaders of the day, the Pharisees
and the Sadducees. Jesus was cursing them for not caring,
not feeding the people, lying to them, cheating from them,
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misrepresenting themselves, abusing their power. That any of that sounds
just familiar. Y, nothing's changed, because human nature doesn't. That's
why we need the Holy Spirit to to live within us.
That's the only thing that changes are innate nature.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
All right, So you you live with the Holy Spirit.
So that I'm going to say that I.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Think you do too, But that's another discussion.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
We're not talking about me. So the idea of joy
within you, yes, is from that, I think. I think
it's fair to say it.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Comes from knowing where I came from and who I
came from.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Now, give me an example in your life in the
secular world. Give me a piece of adversity in your
life where you turned immediately to that to if you like,
seal the wood to stop the floor. You know what
I mean? Is that something?
Speaker 2 (26:31):
There's so many. I have a lifetime of it, a
lifetime of history of That's what keeps me going. I
still have tough things that happened to me on a
daily basis. But as I said earlier, I cling tighter
to the one I know has never betrayed me, never
let me down, never lied to me. My rock, the
rock of my salvation. And so I'll finish the little
(26:53):
story about finding Frank an hour later, and he's gone.
He's gone. At first, I tried to resuscitate him and
I can't. Cody, my son, is home. He hears me
calling for him, He comes down, he gives the compressions,
and I am sobbing by that time, because I know
that code and Cody's still trying, and I'm crying, but
(27:15):
they were not tears of anything, not fear. No, there
was total peace in me. There was no anxiety in me.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Were you aware of this at the time, Yes.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Of course. And the Bible says it's called the peace
that passes all understanding. You don't understand what that means
until you're in a position where you know. I shouldn't
be feeling joyful right now. I was sobbing tears of
joy because the look on his face was this, and
you can't see me over the airwaves, but I'm showing you, Craig.
It was like wonder, wonder, And even Cody stopped doing
(27:51):
the compressions and he says, Mom, look he's smiling, and
I said, I know, honey, he's with Jesus. And Jesus
took his breath away. And that's exactly what happened. And
so we instead of people talking about this tragedy of
Frank dying. No, Frank had been to Israel with me
by that time. He'd found out that he did that
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having a religion all of his life was worthless. He
found out by studying the word of God, that he
had a relationship with the living God, and that is
the difference between night and day.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Are you a believer in the continuation of a form
of consciousness of life after death? Oh of course, yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Yeah, Well, nobody exemplified that more than Jesus. They thought
he was dead, a big surprise three days later, a resurrected.
And you know what I love about that resurrection. It's
one of my favorite stories in the Bible. If you
don't know it, that basically Jesus it's morning time, it's
Sunday morning, and nobody could come. The women in Jesus's
life were the most unafraid, They were the most loved
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because they were basically considered useless in that society. Back then.
You were there for sex, you were there to have
to prove to you know, to give babies to the
powerful full. But for the most part, women were considered
less than chattel, you know they were. They weren't even
even Mosaic law considered a full human being. We have
so much of that still in our world today. Jesus
(29:15):
came along and said, no, you are equal. You are
equal in God's kingdom. You are daughters of Abraham. You
are daughters of the king. You are going to be
a co heir with me to God's kingdom. This is
why the women were there at the cross, only one man,
the apostle John, the only one man. And at the
at the grave on Sunday morning when the sun came up, Uh,
(29:37):
the women were there. And the first person that that
that Jesus appeared to was Mary Magdalene, whom Jesus had
cast seven demons out of. We would call that today
mental illness.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Yeah, the demons thing is that's going to talk to
you saying about yes, the demons are the again when
I've told you about the Desert Fathers, origin of Alexandria,
Evagrius of Pontus. These are early Christian theologians and mystics,
and they talked about demons in the way that we
today talk about character defects. Right, And it seems to
(30:11):
me sometimes in early Church thing and perhaps later Church think.
I don't know much about Church, but it seems to
me that a law of almost psychotherapy comes from from
that kind of thing. Is like trying to get rid
of the negative aspects of your own consciousness, your own yeah, yeah,
(30:35):
unfortunately do that who put them there in the first place.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Well, that's why I'm so glad you asked, because I
just got an answer to that. I've been studying all
my life basically with the world's greatest biblical scholars in Israel,
and it's always in Genesis. It talks about at the
dawn of creation, how God there was an assembly, there
was a council of the heavenly realms. That means it
wasn't just Jesus and the Holy Spirit and God there
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and the Father there were there were other entities.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Are you and you believe like like like a big
kind of like game of Thronings Lord of the Rings thing?
Do you think?
Speaker 2 (31:08):
Or you know, maybe this is why I haven't read
so many of these other things that people say, have
you read? Have you read of your head? Right, I've
been studying this my entire life, and I don't, and
I've barely scratched the surface. You know, if somebody says,
go read this, somebody I would respect, and now I would,
because you have said it. I would read the Book
of Enoch. I would read some of the town some
(31:29):
of the the deeper Kabbalah stuff which comes from a
good place of early Judeo Judaic mysticism. And but but
I for now it takes everything that with the brain cells,
I still have left to study what it really. I've
learned it the wrong way for so many years, Craig
(31:49):
that I'm going to spend the rest of my life
trying to unlearn what wasn't true. Like Jesus was not
a carpenter. That's a bad translation of the world did
and he cursed the what the tree represented. But the
Bible talks about Jehovah Elohim creator, talks about the lesser
Eloheim gods. In the scripture, it says, and the lesser gods, Well,
(32:12):
what's that? How's that work? He said, you shall have
no other god before me. He meant, the ultimate epitome
of the God has So there you think that it
all started back then.
Speaker 1 (32:24):
So it's there's a God, yes, but there's also like
a bunch of other slightly lesser, naughty gods.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Well, they all started out as God's creation, and some
of them rebelled as a story and Satan who is
the you know, he's the god of chaos. If God,
my god, Jehovah Eloheim is the god of shalom. People
think shalom just means peace. It does not. Peace is
one of the parts of shalom. And it's almost like mahallo.
(32:52):
It's just becomes sort of, hey, shalom shalom. You know, no, God,
God is shalom. That's every attribute of God that makes
him God, faithfulness, justice, peace, joy, your joy, miracles, glory, righteousness,
all those things. That's shaloon.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Okay, So let me ask you this then, because I'm
going to steer you back around to what we talked
a little bit about earlier, which was the idea of
a life after death, because I think a lot of people,
particularly in the more naive agnostic, atheistic community communities is
(33:31):
the wrong word, but realm, realm the idea that religion
is all about life after death. It's all about you know,
And so because it's an unprovable situation while you're alive,
I would ask you do you have a conception of it?
Do you have and are you certain of if it exists?
(33:54):
And if it does exist, what it looks like.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
You know, you're so smart to say that it's in
the suite, bye and bye. That's what so many people
live their life. If I can just get this through
this life. It's gonna be perfect one day. You know
well that what Jesus came to show us is yes,
there will be a new a new heaven and a
new Earth, and it will be perfect and every tear
(34:18):
will be dried. And know there will be no pain,
and there will be the perfection that God had originally
placed us, and he put us in a garden. Whether
you believe in that as a as a as a
real place or as a metaphor, it was perfect. That's
what He always always meant for us, is the garden
where he Why did he need us to be born?
Did he need to create us? Why did he create
(34:41):
us with free will? You know, he could have created
a bunch of robots and we would have done everything
he wants. No, I know, because they they want they'd
want to they want they want to be they want
to be God. Sorry, Ultimately, these robots are good. There's
gonna be so much smarter than us. And that's what
happened in the original story. Suffice to say, nothing is
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new under the sun, and the things that we battle
with today, like Mary Magdalen at the Cross, I was
going to finish that story Jesus. She doesn't recognize him
in the morning because it's early morning.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
It's dawn.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
She's come. She believes he's died. She saw him die.
She was at the cross, watched him, watch them throw
the spear in his and the blood and the water
gush shout. She saw his suffering that They never left
the cross and he was there from nine in the
morning till three in the afternoon when they pronounced him dead, which,
interestingly enough, greg at three o'clock. They call it the
(35:31):
ninth hour. That is when all of the animal sacrifices
at the temple take place at three o'clock in the afternoon.
So Jesus was the ultimate sacrificial lamb while they were
actually sacrificing a lamb in the inner court, this Holy
of Holies on the temple. Jesus naked. He was not
(35:52):
You've always seen him on the cross with the loincloth
and all of that vest Society though that was the
ultimate for them. They wanted to crucifer by you naked
and as as vulnerable as anybody could be, and that
was anybody that Christian naked.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
I think that also the ida, I mean the historical
aspects of crucifixion, you know, the idea Spartacus and like
I think like ten. I don't know what the number was.
It was thousands of slaves were crucified on the Appian Way.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
That was their warning, you you mess with Rome, this
is going.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
To be a d I mean that was I think
Pompy that did that, which was run about the same
time as or crisis. Maybe who did it run at
the same time as Jesus of Nazareth.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
It was, it was It's one of the worst, they say,
the worst death that's ever been contrived by.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
A human being. What crucifixion.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
Well, it's been some bad ones since.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
So listen. We we talked a lot about religion and
clearly that is at the core of of who you are.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
Not religion, sorry, relationship, I do. It's a hard habit.
You're a hard habit to break.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
This is another habit you've got. You will sing directly
at people, which record, No, I don't think that's true.
I also find that, I quind I find it quite
alarming and very endearing at the same time, A little
bit like you. You are very much who you are and
I and I love that, and I appreciate that about you,
And I wonder do you ever when you when you
(37:21):
get because you say things about Jesus Christ and a
lot of people are very touchy about that.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Oh yeah, yes, do you ever It's not popular in
all circles.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
Right, and not even that, I mean people who who
are you know, followers of Jesus Christ or people who
are Christians. You will have doctrinal differences differences with them,
and people get very you know, heated about that. Do
you ever do you ever feel like maybe you don't
want to bring it up?
Speaker 2 (37:52):
You know, it goes back to that boldness that.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
I have from the Brownies.
Speaker 2 (37:57):
I was going to tell you that when I went
to the movie. I went to the BILLI Gram movie
and it was over, and I remember literally hearing the
voice of Jesus again in my heart and he said, Kathy,
I love you, and if you trust me, I will
make something beautiful out of your life. That was it,
you said, was the defining moment. I walked forward, literally
(38:21):
gave my heart, even though my heart was already his.
I just made sort of the public statement, yes, I
am going to follow you. And that was the single
greatest decision of my entire life.
Speaker 1 (38:33):
And that you feel that all adversity is coped because
I'm fascinated by people of faith. I am fascinated you
always happen, Yeah, and of all doctrines, all faiths. So
I'm fascinated by it. I think it's an interesting thing.
And I'm fascinated by yours because it is unshakable, which
(38:54):
I suppose that's what faith is. Have you ever thought
because faith is a.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
Gift, it's not because I have it innately, right, But
the Scripture is very clear that faith, even even faith,
I have to get from Him. So when I'm running
out of it, I just cry out. The scripture is
full of cry out to the Lord. He knows you,
he created you, He knows you needed cry out and
ask and you will receive.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
Let me ask you that because we're talking about joy.
Were at some point the idea of running out of faith? Yes,
describe describe for me a moment in your life where
you had to You had to do that because you
talked about Frank passing and that was clearly I thought, huge,
Yes moment.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
Yes, almost thirty years of marriage, right?
Speaker 1 (39:39):
But is there is there a time like I'm trying
to think of something more, No, something more mundane, sure
something more.
Speaker 2 (39:48):
The times that my faith was most tried, Yes is
the way I can answer it, and took me to
my knee, my knees more often than a normal day would.
When I was accused of sweatshot violations, when I was
accused of abusing children.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
And scratch, that was one of the most.
Speaker 2 (40:02):
Yes, it was one of the most. I couldn't really,
Lord really, Frank and I had just opened up a
fourteen million dollar home for aids and crack babies in
New York during the pandemic. Every bit of the money
from my Walmart clothing line went towards building that home
where nobody would even hold an aid's baby. Only Princess
(40:22):
Diana was doing that. And then and so I'm now
we've built a home from scratch. It was used to
be the old Ronald McDonald house. It was before that,
it was a woman's convent. And we just bought it,
tried for two with two million dollars to renovate it
for these babies. Couldn't because of the laws. Anytime you
kept dealing with diseases and babies, and you know, tried to.
(40:45):
We had to tear it down and start from scratch.
And it cost fourteen million dollars. And that's where my
Walmart money went. You know, I was taking you know,
money that I earned honestly and put it giving it away.
They never the people came against me, never visited Cassidy's
place or Cody House once. They just stood up like
(41:06):
they're doing in culture, the culture now cancel culture, and
accused me of something so that they would. The guy
that did it said he was a human rights activist. No,
he was an attorney who worked for Unite the Apparel right. Yes,
and you know what he said to me later. Now
I'm not going to say that privately, I'll tell you. Okay,
nobody knows this, but it's it's interesting. But anyway, we
(41:28):
got laws passed, we got we got I got legislation passed.
I was suing the State of New York to a
blind HIV testing because babies were being born who shouldn't
be born with the AIDS virus or just with the
full blown AIDS. We found out with all of our
studying that if if a baby got a certain no,
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if a mother got cocktail of certain drugs while she
was pregnant, it would go from lessen forty percent down
to it less an eight percent chance the child would
be born with the disease. Wow, And I said then,
and they had c d C, the wonderful CDC had
blinded all HIV testing in the clinics so they could
(42:12):
track it, not do anything about it, just track it.
And we knew that that there was there was hope.
Speaker 1 (42:18):
There was hope, there was a treatment for y for
women who were had HIV and were pregnant.
Speaker 2 (42:24):
Yes, And I said, it was being with held. And
there are all kinds of different privacy issues that were involved,
especially with gay men who were legitimately were worried about
if it's if their status was known, they might you know,
And and I respected that, but at that time, you know,
this was about dying babies. To me, I said, you
(42:45):
guys can do with your you can march, you can
do and you can fight your battles in court. But
this is of great urgency. There's a way we can
save lives. You guys, not just the men. Don't mean that.
I'm at the world. And so I sat, and I
one night with the Governor George Pataki at a swanky
party in the Hampton's at the home of the Revlon
(43:08):
Ronald Ronald Proman's not widow, but divorced. She was a
friend of mine, Claudia Colen, beautiful woman. She said, Kathy,
I know what you're doing. I'm sitting here next to
the Governor. I said, Oh, the poor governor.
Speaker 1 (43:19):
He was gonna stuck with.
Speaker 2 (43:20):
Me for two I'm now I'm suing the governor.
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Understand, I'm sitting next to him apartment Yes, yes, okay,
that's good, Yes.
Speaker 2 (43:27):
Yes, yes, that you know what. He's such a good
decent man. I'd met him before. And when I say
I was suing him, the organization that I worked with,
the Association and Benefit Children, had sued the State of
New York two other times and won both times too,
So we're an adversary to be dealt with. But I
told him everything, and back then I knew everything about this.
(43:48):
I knew every statistic. I don't anymore. This was a
long time ago, but I remember it. Boys, I remember
sitting in that and he sat and listened to me
with such respect and so quiet. Asked a couple of
different questions. I had the answers, and he said to
me at the end of the evening, three things he said,
I never knew this.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Really, A politician said that.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
He said, yes, that's what I thought. I never knew this.
Number two, sometime we're on the wrong side of this issue.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
A politicians said that. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
Third one, I'm going to do something about that.
Speaker 1 (44:23):
No, no, you're crazy.
Speaker 2 (44:24):
Now, Frank was sitting at a different table, and I
remember driving home with him and I said, I think
he heard me. He was, I think so, honey. I
don't know if that if he's going to have the guts,
the balls, whatever it takes to do the right thing,
but I know he heard me. And within one month,
Governor Pattaki stood in the garden of the Cody House
(44:45):
on ninety first Street in New York City and announced
the unblinding of HIV testing for the state of New York.
Long story short, For the first time in history since
the HIV AIDS start, it was the first time the
death rate went down because the birth rate, it was,
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you know, because the babies were living right, they were surviving.
And within one year after that, every state unblinded HIV testing.
Not because I did the brave thing, but because Governor
Prattaki did. There there are still people in this world
who are there for the right reasons. And when we
fight a good fight and we back it up with science,
(45:26):
and we back it up with good will and prayer,
miracles still happen every day.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
There's an interest in word you use. You use the
word science, and a lot of people on maybe I'm
I'm not going to say my say to the fence
because that's not true. I don't have a sight of
the fancy on the defenseless. I'm kind of wondering.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
So your defense.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Again, yeah, endsless, it's best. But a lot of people
think that science and faith are in conflict. They are
things that are in conflict. Do you don't see it
that way?
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Well, science lives exactly alongside faith when you know what
the faith is based on what it really says there
is it's perfect. The world as what was created was
mathematically perfect. I'm sorry, but that's not random. That's a
that's a mind and a being that we can never
(46:32):
ever comprehend. But we can, we can bow to it,
and we can in our own ways be humble before
it and say, Lord, I know I'm I'm not perfect.
I know you created me for good things. You created
me for something better than what I'm settling for. I
need your help. All God wants, you know, he says
(46:52):
in scripture, somebody says, I don't want your sacrifices. I
want you to know me.
Speaker 1 (46:58):
And you think mathilation and science is the knowledge of God.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
Well, God says in the Old Testimony, he said, look
at the heavens they have they have all knowledge and
all wisdom is there. But but but religion came along
and said, can't can't worship the stars. Can't worship the stars?
You know, I'm not. He didn't say worship them, said
study them, study them, seek, seek, And it's just so exciting.
(47:24):
That's what makes my faith more real every day. A
couple of years ago, the Lord gave me something that
I've tried to live as my mantra mantra ever since.
And it said, Kathy, there's a scripture that says the
joy of the Lord is your strength. Well, okay, that's
(47:45):
in uh what is it Angie's uh Neamiah eight ten.
Speaker 1 (47:50):
I was going to say that, but I didn't want
to get it wrong.
Speaker 2 (47:53):
I eight ten. The joy of the Lord is your strength. Okay,
I believe that. But later in life, maybe maybe when
I was going through the really really rough times of
Frank's infidelity came a year later, after the all the
terrible stuff with these sweatshops.
Speaker 1 (48:10):
It was it was a very embarrassing time, I would imagine.
Speaker 2 (48:13):
Mostly for him.
Speaker 1 (48:14):
Yeah, listen, I look, I know this. I know that.
I remember seeing that at the time. I was working
on the Drew Carrey s. I remember talking to Drew
and we saw it in the newspaper and he said
to me, would like to be Frank Gifford this morning? Yeah,
that's it.
Speaker 2 (48:28):
No, non men came up to him all the time.
It's better you than me, Frank. I mean. It was disgusting. Yeah,
and he was a good man who did a stupid thing.
It happens, It happens, It happens, and women or after
my husband, he was Kevin Costner of his day. You know,
he was the Brad Pitt of his day, and they
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all and it was blatant right in front of me,
and you know, I lived with that, but I really
believed that he was he was stronger than that. And
it was also sick these six years old when that happened.
It wasn't like he was, you know, twenty two, and
he knew better. He knew better, but he was you
know what. We can go into that another time as well.
But I remember the Lord saying to me, Kathy, this
(49:12):
is what I want you to think all the time.
My joy is non negotiable. Oh boy, okay, I'll know.
You know when you and I were doing our movie together,
then came you available on Netflix.
Speaker 1 (49:26):
Left.
Speaker 2 (49:29):
We had to go through a negotiation with you for
the price that would be fair. You gave a little.
Speaker 1 (49:33):
It's a negotiation.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
That's our business.
Speaker 1 (49:34):
Yea.
Speaker 2 (49:35):
And time off you wanted to, you know, time to
go back to your the most beautiful home in Scotland
and visit your family. Don't like the wife, but that's
another story and it's the process. So do you understand negotiation?
But he said your joy? Don't let anybody mess with
your joy, Kathy. And my joy comes from knowing every
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morning when I wake up that I am a child
of the living God.
Speaker 1 (50:03):
Were you so you? Were you able to forget? Is
that how you were able to forgive Frank the way.
Speaker 2 (50:07):
I was able to forgive Frank, Howard Stern, you, everybody
else has broken my heart.
Speaker 1 (50:11):
Oh come on, you're in good company. I's gonna say
these guys make a lot.
Speaker 2 (50:17):
More money than me, Hey, wait till this podcast takes
off anyway, Yeah, what was your question?
Speaker 1 (50:25):
That was? Was that how you were able to forgive Frank.
Speaker 2 (50:28):
The way I was able to forgive Frank was at
the minute I knew it was true because I believed
him and he said it didn't happen. I had no
reason not to because my husband stood by me through
the sweatshop stuff. He stood by me through the uh.
Speaker 1 (50:41):
People people live when they're panicked. Yes, that's exactly right.
Speaker 2 (50:46):
And he realized he was caught. He had no idea
that they had tape, you know, audio tape. He just
knew that that until he found and he said, no,
it wasn't. You know, the people were always trying to
set us up, always trying to just draw us. First
of all, that goes back to the ones who were
fallen from grace. You know, God's grace is forever, but
they choose, they chose to walk away from God Almighty
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and try to be God. That's never going to work
out in anybody's life. You know, you've seen and I
have seen a parade of people who who started to
believe that they were God Almighty boy, and then where
are they there?
Speaker 1 (51:21):
Happens in show business from time to.
Speaker 2 (51:24):
You know, Jesus said, you know, what does it profit
a person if they gain the whole world and lose
their very soul. Jesus didn't want them to lose their souls.
That's why he came.
Speaker 1 (51:34):
And so, and I'm going to push you on this
because the forgiving of infidelity for a person like you,
who I know what you stand for, and I know
what you're like, and I know how much you value
loyalty and truth and friendship. Yes, that that kind of
betrayal would be horrendous and so for you that must
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have been a mountain to climb to get.
Speaker 2 (51:58):
No, it was an instant really, yep. The minute I
knew it was true, God showed me almost like a scrawl.
I don't do a computer, but now that I've seen it,
it was like a scrowl of everything that God had
already forgiven me for. He said, Kathy, every time you
asked for forgiveness, I forgave you. You cannot ask for
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forgiveness if you're not willing to give it. It was instantaneous.
Speaker 1 (52:22):
That's amazing. It's amazing.
Speaker 2 (52:25):
And that the exact opposite with Howard Stern the story.
He started saying the most horrendous things about me. I'd
never met the man, never listened to his show, who
never watched it, never met him, nothing, And he started
just just I would. People would tell me, Gosh, I
can't believe what Howard Stern, I said, don't tell me.
I don't want to know. But the minute I heard
that he was doing that kind of thing, I started
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praying for him. I said, Lord, he must be so
hurt inside to hurt people he doesn't even know, to
be so cruel to people that are you know, don't
live cruel lives. I you know, I'm not perfect, but
I wasn't out there hurting people. You know, I don't
understand it, Lord, But you know why he doesn't hurt people,
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hurt people. So I said, Lord, I'm just going to
pray for him. I'm afraid that one day he'll come
to know, you, come to know how precious.
Speaker 1 (53:13):
He is to you, and you two became friends, right.
Speaker 2 (53:15):
Well, you're my friend, right he became. Thirty years later
he asked me to forgive him, and he said yes,
and he said, will you forgive me? And I said,
I said, Howard.
Speaker 1 (53:27):
Of course he's a remarkable.
Speaker 2 (53:30):
I don't know him still to this day, but.
Speaker 1 (53:32):
He's a I think he's fascinating man.
Speaker 2 (53:34):
Oh he is, and is brilliant, and he's used his
communication skills, I think for in a dark way, when
God always intended for that brilliant mind and that brilliant
sense of humor and all those things to be used
for his glory, not his own, not his God's glory.
And so anyway, what I just would, I would pray
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for him every day. I just did. And so I
sent him a note when he got divorced front from
his wife, and I hand delivered it because he lived
across the street, so he lived in Regis's building, and
I said, I'll just take it over. I didn't trust
it getting to him otherwise, you know, And I left it.
And the next day he's talking on the air about
you know what, I got a note from you know.
And I didn't hear this either, but I was told,
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and he goes the nicest note, just the nicest note
from of all people. And he says and then they all, oh,
she's just doing it so you'll like her. Just no,
that's bullshit. She's the phone of you. I'm so whatever,
And so he said, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're right.
So that was years and years years later. Now I
won't go through the whole story unless you want to hear.
But I look up one day at the studio. I'm
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at the Today Show now, and I look up and
downstairs there's a monitor. But downstairs, one floor beneath me
is where you've been there, Craig, where you walk in
and you go to the studio. I'd never seen anyone
with an entourage as big as this, because he was
there to announce that he was going to be a
judge on America's Carta. So he's making that announcement and
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it was going to be on NBC and all that.
So I, oh, there's Howard.
Speaker 1 (55:04):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (55:04):
I didn't think anything of it, just said another prayer
for him. Probably, I don't know. I'm getting hair. I
just come in from from Greenwich, so my makeup's not done,
my hair is wet. I'm in my little schlap shows.
But like when we're on setee, you've seen me like that,
and I'm hot, aren't I?
Speaker 1 (55:19):
Absolutely? It's an amazing thing to see.
Speaker 2 (55:23):
Anyway, So the Lord says, Cathy, I want you to
go downstairs, right, now and say hello to Howard and
welcome them and tell and wish him well with the show.
And I went, okay, Lord, Now that they had made
huge effort at NBC to make sure that I didn't
run to him and he didn't run into me, because
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there was a lot at stake, and they and my
hair and makeup people have been don't don't let Kathy
out of your sight. All of a sudden, I get
up and I say to my hair and makeup people,
I'm gonna I'll be right back.
Speaker 1 (55:56):
She's walking, she's walking, she's walking. It was just like.
Speaker 2 (56:01):
And so Sarah I started singing again, and anyway, I
would just go downstairs. Nobody tries to stop me. I
walk in and I walked right up to Howard, who's
six six. I was five six at the time. I've
shrunk a little and I and I'm flat footed, and
I look up and I'm going Howard, Howard, and he's
looking around because he's got a good foot taller than
I am. And all of a sudden he looks down
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and sees his little elf in front of him, and
he goes, WHOA. He just I remember him just sort
of physically backing up and going rarely is the man speechless.
He was speechless, and I put my hand out to him, said, Hi,
Kathy Lee. I think it's about time we meet, don't
you think And he put his hand out and I said,
I just want to wish you well and with the
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show and with your life, and you just take care
of yourself. That was it. I turned and walked away.
He was one thing he did said. I said, yeah, crazy, right,
the show is crazy. I said, it's crazy, and I
just laughed and went upstairs. They go, what did you do?
Speaker 1 (56:58):
I said?
Speaker 2 (56:58):
I said, I wish him well with the show. Let's
get my hair and makeup do. I'm a little behind.
And I left that day for La because the Cody
was graduating from a usc film school that the next day.
So it's flying into to be a family for a while.
I land and turned my phone on and there's a message.
My friend Jill Martin had given him my number because
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she knew it was important, and and it was him saying,
can I say bad words on your podcast?
Speaker 1 (57:25):
Thank?
Speaker 2 (57:25):
Yeah. I mean obviously I raised it, but it was
it was a million fuck words. It was like, I'm
so fucked. This is Howard Stern I'm just I'm such
a fucking It's just I can't tell you exactly what
he said, but there I could tell the man was
in great pain and he said, I'm so, I'm so sorry.
I need you to forgive me. I need to talk
to you. He was so nice to me today and
(57:47):
I've just been wrong and I'm just he was so contrite,
he was so he broke my heart. But there was
no number. I couldn't call him. It was just a
you know, call her idea unknown. So I said, well, Lord,
it's in your hands. I thanked God. I said, wow, incredible.
Thirty years later, Lord, you're answering. This man is seeking people.
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He has hurt to say, I'm sorry, forgive me. Every
person needs to do that in their life. All of
us do to have peace. Shalom, God shaloon. So anyway,
that night, we're at dinner at the Beverly Hills Hotel
and I see no caller idea and I'm going, oh,
it's him. He's trying again. I got up. My husband
was not happy, and either was Cody. You're not going
(58:29):
to talk to him, mom, I said, oh, yes, i am.
I'll be back. You guys continue at dinner. I went
into a private room there and I guess for about
a half an hour, maybe not that much, maybe twenty minutes.
I don't know. Those things are surreal anyway, you don't
really know. I don't check my phone if I knew
how to. And he was so incredibly contrite. He said,
(58:50):
I cannot believe how kind you were to me. And
I said, well, of course I was, you were, And
I said, and so do you forgive me? He said, Kathy,
I've just I've been I've fucked up my entire life,
my whole life, and I'm getting cat counseling. You know,
I'm trying to be a better person, trying to go
to everybody that i've heard, and I know what, I've
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been horrible to you, and I keep hearing wonderful things
about you, and I just kept doing it. And I said, why, Howard,
why did you He goes because I hated you? And
I said, but why we had never even met. He said,
you were everything I wasn't. You're Jewish, but you believe
in Jesus. How's that you're a musician, but you just
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sing old songs like that your father likes you. Just
I just found a million things to make fun of you.
For I didn't. I thought you were a complete fun
The only way I could deal with somebody leader like
he was to write you off as a phony. And
he had a group of minions, of course, and yes,
people who just fed into that. That's okay anyway, I said,
do you forgive me? I said, Howard, of course I do.
But I just need you to know that I forgave
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you thirty years ago, and I've been praying for you
every day since. And and he goes, what I said, Yeah,
I knew this day would come. I didn't know when.
You've certainly taken your time. We said a little lad,
and I said, would you like to come to dinner
at my house? He goes, you'd have me for dinner?
I said, of course, I'm not sure Frank will, but
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I will. You know that kind of thing. And we
never did do that, but I've run into him several
times since and it's very warm between us, and there's
no tension, there's no none of that. It's forgiven. It's
not forgotten. It was a huge thing. But the how
you forgive is immediately because you realize that that's what
Jesus did. He said, you're not supposed to forgive once
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you forgive seven times seventy times, which is in the Bible,
the perfection everything.
Speaker 1 (01:00:43):
It's all all the Mathema.
Speaker 2 (01:00:45):
Every if Jesus turned six pots of water into wine,
there's a reason that's six pots. I've written a book
called The Rock, The Road, and the Rabbi with one
of the great Biblical rabbinic scholars, and every single number
he knows the meaning of, because the rabbis do. And
when you find out what it means, it is so
mind boggling, and it just confirms and affirms your faith.
(01:01:09):
This is not a random thing. This is sovereign God
being sovereign God in spite of whatever else happens in
the in whatever realm. And I believe there's many realms,
you know, who the hell do we think we are
to think that there's just us in this world? You know,
I don't believe that. I don't know what else is there.
But I'm not going to put God in a box
and say he only created us. You know, No, no,
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I don't believe that. And I think that's what eternity
is all about. Once the next step comes and you
asked about that, earlier. It's we're going to be learning,
we're going to be growing. We're not going to be
sitting around on clouds playing the harp. I don't want
to go there, you know. I get tired of the
harp in about five minutes. Yeah, it's there's a hotel
(01:01:54):
lollby vibe about a harp. I'm going to be honest.
I love that you're talking about time because we are
out of it. Well, I really hope not.
Speaker 1 (01:02:02):
But what I means, but what I mean giving me
the hook, I'm giving you the hook for no nan,
I'm going to take care and we're going to get
something to you.
Speaker 2 (01:02:10):
Okay, my darling.
Speaker 1 (01:02:11):
That sounds great, but nobody else can come to that.
Now you can tell me the stories that you weren't
going to sell.
Speaker 2 (01:02:16):
I've told you lots of stuff that will never, you know,
never be said publicly because I trust you. That's right,
that's right. I trust you, and I love you, and
you've let You've always let me be me. And I
do adore your wife. And she's the one who said
I sent her give you the script. You gave it
to her. And she does have a beautiful name. Her
name is me. Yeah, and she's a beautiful woman from
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New Hampshire originally. But anyway, I know all of this.
Speaker 1 (01:02:39):
I know.
Speaker 2 (01:02:39):
I'm telling you. You're your listeners who may not know.
And she she did not. Didn't she turn to you
and say you've got to do this.
Speaker 1 (01:02:45):
She said that. She said, you got to do this movie.
She also said, and I'm going to cuss a little here,
but you're going to like this. She said, that is
Kathy Lee Gifford. She's a goddamn American treasure, and you're
going to do this movie. She did, She did.
Speaker 2 (01:03:00):
She never told me that.
Speaker 1 (01:03:02):
You told me that.
Speaker 2 (01:03:03):
I'm serious. I'm not doubting it, but I'm that's so nice.
But you told me she said she had. Boy, does
she have you down?
Speaker 1 (01:03:11):
That we gotta go? I love you.
Speaker 2 (01:03:15):
Believe what you've heard about this man. He's awesome.
Speaker 1 (01:03:19):
My baby,
Hello, mydeas. The Joy podcast will be taking the holidays off.
I hope you can too and have a lovely time
however you like to spend it, and with whomever you
like to spend it with. We'll be back on January
the fourteenth with the lovely Lisa Lobe. That's more alliteration
than I thought I was going to have when I
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started talking today. But there you are, the lovely Lisa
Lobe on the fourteenth of January, and have a lovely
holiday time, my friends. Be careful, stay safe, see you soon.
My name is Craig Ferguson. This podcast is called Joy.
It's not Rocket Science. I talk to people I like
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about their pursuit of happiness. Here's Kathy Lee Gifford, an
American legend. She loves Jesus' TV country music Enjoy.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
I'm so happy less I with the biggest smaller said,
I can just see my my Howard.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yeah tomorrow. Yeah we're ready to go. Yeah, Yeah, we
will just go. Can I be a little more, a
little louder in here because I'm going it was a
little more of himself. I want a little more of
you too. Yeah. I like to you know, only you
did it.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Just because of that slot. So this is called joy.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
It's called joy.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Lord, please bless this time together with Craig can help
us not to be too naughty. And Jesus name man.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Okay, I don't look, I am not want to scoff
about prayer. No, no, I am not. I am not
a I wouldn't describe myself as a person of faith,
but I am a person of doubt, which is on
the way to faith. Right.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Yes, and some people's journeys are quite long, yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
Taking a while. But I I feel like that prayer
you sent up there about Lord help us not be naughty.
I think that in a hurtful way.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Yeah, I just think I I'd love to be naughty
with you anytime you're ready and you get rid of
that you know woman, that's why is she still there?
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Wait? Wait a minute. You know sometimes I think she
asked herself the same question. So listen.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
She's a type of woman you want to hate because
she's so beautiful, she's so smart, she's so everything, and
then you meet her and she's you. You love her.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
You're talking about my wife, no, the.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Other one you have.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
But listen, I know I know that you're very private
and I respect and listen. You know what, Let me
just say at the start of this because because this
this is an unusual set of conversations for me. Yes,
that we are going to talk about joy and we
are going to talk about that, and I wanted to
talk to you about it because you and I have
a friendship, yes, which I love you, I adore you,
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and I don't agree.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
With you in a lot of things, and I think
that the most important things.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah, I think that's true. But but I think that
I see so much of like people can't be friends
unless they all think along.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Yeah, the cancel the cancel thing.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, that seems a little I don't know, that's stupid.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yeah, we can learn from everybody we sit down and
have a conversation with Why would we want to block off?
First of all, it's the antithesis of my faith, which
is I don't say that my Christian faith because I'm
I was born to a Jewish father and a shicks
some mother, you know, which is a gentile mother, and
we didn't grow up with any organized religion in my
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life at all until all of us came to an
understanding of faith in the person of Jesus who in
the in the Hebrew is called Yeshua, and all of
my family did. And so when they say, what do
you believe, I said, I'm a I'm a follower of Jesus.
And even you and I have conversations quite a bit
(03:53):
when we are on set for our movie Than Came You,
which is available on Netflix now if you want to know.
But but you talked. I said, you said that to me,
And I've told this story on a couple of occasions
because we had a break in shooting, as you always
do in a movie. Sure, and you said, and I
can't do you without doing you. But because I have
(04:16):
your head, I used to be in my head, I
had you down perfectly. So I won't do it today.
I will avoid it.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Can I give you permission? It's really all right now.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Because I just you know, I'm sitting across from you,
and it's been a couple of years and I've just
been too long. It's and they put you too far
away from me. I can't even reach you under the table.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I think, well, then somebody's reached me.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
You got you got your channel change and stick down there.
Something's happening.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Yeah, you said basically to me, Kathy, why do you
love me and Ricky meaning ger vas right, we were
not great guys? Is the way you said it? And
I thought, that's so not true.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Well, Ricky's a great guy, you think that, I think.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
No, you continue to say, we don't believe like you,
We don't believe in your faith, we don't probably don't
vote the way you do. But why do you love
us so much? Because you knew I did? And I said, well,
first of all, you're unbelievably lovable, and you're aging like
a fine wine that you no longer drink. But anyway,
you are created in the image of God, both you
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and Ricky. And plus you're the funniest, smartest, dearest people.
There's so many good things to love about you. Why
wouldn't I love you? To which here's the thing. Yeah,
you said, no person of faith has ever told us
before that they love us, And I said to you, well,
then you've never met one before.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Yeah, but I don't to be fair, I don't know
about Ricky. I mean, he probably gets told people love
them all the time. But when I was well, I mean,
we're going to see people of faith. That was what
that was about. He gets told he's what's not to
love about him?
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Except maybe I can't think of something right, But you
know you love what your love.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
But let but let me just say, let me let
me talk to you a little bit about joy. We
will talk to you about your about your faith and
about Jesus. Yeah, all right, good, all right, So we're
done with that. Now. I want to talk to you
a little bit about joy because the reason why I
wanted to do to have discussions with people about it
is because you, to me, are an example of someone
(06:23):
who has gone through, particularly recently with Frank and all
that that You've gone through a lot of stuff. And
I saw you. I remember seeing you. I think the
Today Show wasn't long after Frank had passed, and you
had that kind of quite speedy vibe of someone who
was in grief and in shock, which is but but
(06:47):
you also had something else, which is I suppose is
your faith. And you'll tell me, but you are someone
to me who seems to be an adversity able to
learn to a joy of some kind or maybe maybe
it's wrong to say, but manufacture it in yourself or
procure or find it from somewhere. Would that be accurate.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
No, I'm sure it seems like that to some people.
It was actually a week after Frank had passed. Now
I had found just for people who don't know the story,
and it's been almost eight years now since he passed. Wow,
he had been sick. He had a lot of CTE,
chronic traumatic and cephalop I can't say the last word,
and cephalopathy, which is brain damage concussion after concussion after.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
From the football.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
It was a Sunday morning, a beautiful Sunday morning. It
was hod Hiss birthday, August ninth, and I remember it's
the things you remember crazy. But this is why, this
is in answer to why I was the way I
was during this quite would have been traumatic experience for
somebody that didn't already cling to God the way I have.
(07:59):
For so many years. I've always said, you know, there's
no bad time to find God, but the worst times,
you're grateful you already cling to him. He just cling
tighter at a time like that. And so I heard
him get on his scale. The man was one week
shy of eighty five, and he naked. He looked from
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the back. The man was thirty. You know, he worked
out still he's he exercised his brain. What was left
of it, We didn't know, because you don't know about
CTE until you do an autopsy, and we weren't going
to do that on him. Before he was gone.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I thought that would have been It's just not people
fring on it. It might even be legal in some states.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I don't know, not anymore. Eugenics. Baby, bye bye. You're
breathing air and leaving a carbon footprint. Bye bye. No
more so anyway, No, he was. He was an extraordinary
man to the day that he did pass. But I
heard him get on his scale, which he did every day,
and it said your weight is one hundred and seventy
(09:06):
eight pounds, and I remember thinking, oh, it's going to
be a good day. That was his playing weight for
all those years, and that was his favorite weight. So
he was extremely disciplined in lots of week now. He
enjoyed life like crazy, and God knows he made mistakes.
Nobody knows that like I do. But he was a good, good,
(09:28):
solid man of a different era, cramp, a different generation.
He grew up during the Depression, ate dog food as
a child and was grateful to have it. His father
was an itinerant oil worker. I mean they lived. I
think I don't even remember thirty different places while he
was growing up. So he never was able to put
down roots anywhere. But the one thing that could he
(09:50):
could stand out at every time he moved to a
different place was his athleticism, and so that came to
be the thing. He was a terrible student. Later when
he when he got a scholarship to USC to play football,
he became their their finest scholar athlete. He was so
grateful to have an education.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I was going to ask you about that one was
fran Was Frank a grateful man? Was he a joyful man?
Speaker 2 (10:13):
You know, that's such a great question, because you would
think he was grateful. And that's why we didn't bring
a class action suit once we got the results of
his brain scans. You know a lot of people who
had whose loved ones had worked in the NFL joined
this class action suit because the NFL knew about this.
They did and and and Frank was was He said,
(10:35):
no matter what you find out, Kathy, you know, when
I'm gone, I don't want to be a part of that.
I don't want our family to be He said, I
am so grateful for the life that I have had
that the NFL afforded me. He would have. He was
when he wasn't playing for the Giants, and he went
back to California and sold for fertilizer in Bakersfield. That's
(10:57):
what the NFL was at that time. No, but he
was a full time football player. They only played it
till the you know, for the season. Everybody else had
jobs other ways. You know, a lot of them came
back from World War Two with half of their life
shot up. You know Connorley, Connerley, who was his best
friend there and was the quarterback, and they became dear,
(11:19):
dear friends. And he had just just come back from
World War Two, so you know, it's a different world.
I'm twenty three years younger than Frank was to the day,
so I would hear the stories he would tell, and
I would have such respect an admiration for the for
the the kind of human beings that existed. Then we
hear so much today about the entitlement, about the cancel culture,
(11:42):
all of that stuff which just demeans and diminishes the
human spirit. Everything Frank talked to me about celebrated it.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Yeah, I want to I want to talk to you
a little bit about the council culture thing, because I
I do have a knee jerk reaction a little bit
out of myself. But at the same time, I think,
you know, I look at my you know, my my
oldest boy is twenty two, so he's kind of in
that in that world, that world, and and you you know,
(12:14):
and I want to I want to have an open
mind about the youth, you know, like you have an
open mind about people who are not Messianic, Jewish Christian.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Which is most of the world, right, which is I
don't want to cut off most of the world because
they don't agree with me.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Right, and I don't want to. I don't want to
cut off the I'm not sure with cancel culture if
it's if it's really like that for most of them,
you know, I think for the kids. I mean when
I say them, I mean I'm talking about young people.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I think, what do you call it? Gen X or
Z g Z. Now what do you do now we've
run out of that, We're going to pick up the
Greek alphabet.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
I don't know. I think that my youngest boy, Liam
is twelve, so he's he's just coming into a generation.
I don't know. What the generation is called. But I think
they're going to be different.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
He's twelve, you know what, can we just say he's twelve.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
He's twelve, and he's adorable, gorgeous.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah, he reminds me of Stewie and family guy.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Yeah. I don't think he would be he would be
insulted by that.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
I think he'd be proud. Word is a badge of honor.
I want to call Dad, call me Snewie.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Yeah. Although I think I'm a little like Peter Griffin
as well, which is a little si. I'm like that.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I'm Brian the Dog.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
You're well, yeah, a little bit. Yeah with the wine.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Hey, this is a this is a latte. I'm about
to graduate though, are you listen?
Speaker 1 (13:40):
There's another thing that I admire about you. You can drink.
I can't drink.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
I know you can't.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
But have you ever had a problem? Do you ever
feel like oh boy?
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Yeah? Times definitely.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Yeah. That makes me feel oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Yeah. Here's the thing. If Jesus is my model and
we go back to Yeshua Jesus, right, people have no
idea you because they don't study rabbinically. The Western Christian
world has no idea of our roots. They don't. I've
had people even say to me through the years, now
Jesus was, Jesus is Catholic. Right, I'll go, do you
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know what year the Catholic Church came to be? I
forget now, it's like five ninety a d or something
like that. Yeah, I said, Jesus had long since died, resurrected,
ascended to heaven. And no, he was not Catholic. He
was a Jew, a rabbinic. It was a rabbi, and
he was a Jew and a perfect Jew.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Was there a moment that kicked this off for you?
Speaker 2 (14:38):
I remember it as I'm going to be seventy years
old this year. I can't even that's not true?
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Good? Do I know? I need to know which moisturizer
you use, because.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
You if only it was more just moisturizer. You know
what it's it's that that's for that's for our lunch afterwards,
where you're not usually talking. Yeah, yeah, no, I do.
I'm actually developing a skin line. And all of the
botanicals they are in the skin line come from the Bible.
What yes, Who was the greatest seductress of all time?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Salomi?
Speaker 2 (15:11):
No? Even before that, Cleopatra Cleopatra. Cleopatra was used all
these things that well, there was no CVS or of
you know, Lord Lord and Taylors. She could go to
Everything came from the earth, and so what never changes truths.
The scriptures are built on truth. So we started looking
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at the Bible and the and the and the botanicals
that existed at the time. Some have have gone.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
You really genuinely are telling me you have a skincare
line based on the reading of the Bible. Yes, I
am both appalled and delighted.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
To hear that. Well, if it weren't two thousand years
ago for the greatest seductress of all time, Cleopatra, why
would it not work for for me and for you.
It's then the beauty of it is. It's called Nila.
It's not out yet. I mean, we've been in a
trust tests, you know, tiles for and my skin has
never been better than it's been in my entire life.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You know, you do it well, I have to say,
but listen now what you say tracked me talking about
the skin, Caroline, I want to talk to you about.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Yeah, that's not even that yet.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
I want to talk about it.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
No interest in.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Talking about that. Your epiphany, your your moment, your your
literal come to Jesus moment.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Okay, the beginning, This is not the moment I'm thinking of.
But I fell asleep. I was a little girl living
in Annapolis, Maryland. I looked up and it was fall,
and my daddy and I were raking leaves. And I
looked up and there was Jesus sitting on a cloud.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
And you actually saw yes in my dream and your
dream in my dream.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
And he looked down at me, Jesus or growing up,
growing up Jesus, and he looked down at me and
he smiled, and I knew it was Jesus.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
That was it, That was the dream.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Years later, now I'm twelve years old, I believe, and
I go to a moon. Not unlike the new movie
Jesus Revolution, which is out right now, that's the time
period that I was growing up in in the early
in the seventies. Okay, I graduated in nineteen seventy one.
That was when the Jesus Revolution was really starting and
I was already a part of it. But when I
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was twelve before that, there was a movie called The
Restless Ones, first movie that the Billy Graham Organization ever
put out, and if you watch it today, it's one
of the most dreadful wrek you know, you just even
my kids looked at it. They looked at it, and
they looked at my mom. This is awful, I said.
At the time, it wasn't. Billy Graham was so so
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criticized for it. You can't make a movie the devil
lives in the movie theaters, The devil lives in the
bass drum, the devil lives in the nightclubs.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
I can't argue that what always attracted me to all
of that stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
I know it, and left to your own devices, it
still would. But here's the thing. Billy Graham knew something
that something deeper because he didn't have a religion. He
had relationship with the living God. You know how anti
religion I am.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Yeah, That's why I'm kind of fascinated by because you're
your faith is unshakable, but but you're it's almost like
a contempt for religion.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Not the contempt I have for religion is not that
people love their churches and love to go and hear
the word of God. All of that is wonderful. I
have contempt, just like Jesus did for the leaders of
the church, that do not feed the flock, that abuse
the privilege of power, that misuse it. So I'm talking
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about organized religion that has gotten so big and so powerful,
not unlike our government, that it thinks that it is God.
Instead of teaching the people, you know, to follow their
their their their good shepherd, they said, no, no, you're
our flock.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
To me, it sounds like you're a little bit Did
you ever in kind or the writings of the Desert Fathers?
Have you ever come across that evagras of Pontus or
origin of this but no? Origin of Alexandria was was
an early Christian theologian from Alexandria in Egypt. I think
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it was like his father was a Christian martyr. He
was origin was I think around two hundred AD, so
pre church.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Well not really pre Catholic Church, yes, quay pre Catholic,
but the original Church with Jesus.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
Yes, so he's pre Catholic Church. And he he got
excommunicated five hundred years after he died. They got very
angry at him because he said God can exist only
in the mind. There can be no physical.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
Manifestation.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Manifestation in the sense of which is not what you
want to hear if you're selling chach because I guess
and can you.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Say it right? It is basically means crap.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Yeah, But I think that I think that to me,
it sounds it sounds to me like you you're Christianity
for want of a bad word, that that you're following
of Jesus has a very early early Christian feel about it,
like first one hundred years after after.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
The Yes, that's actually when when people who don't just
just it's not that they're ignorant people, they just don't know.
There's different kinds of ignorance in the world. There's I
just didn't know that, and then there's willful ignorance. And
I find so much so many Western Christians are are
ignorant about their early history, ignorant about what the Word
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of God actually says, only because they've never been taught.
And that's what I get angry about that that we
we have people graduating from from seminaries all over the
world right now who don't even know that Jesus wasn't
a carpenter. That's a bad trans lady. No, see, there
you go. This is the kind of stuff from studying
rabbinically like I have now for a long time. You
(21:07):
find out what the word tecton in the New Testament
is the original word for builder slash architect, for what
Joseph and his and Jesus did to make a living
before Jesus became a rabbi. And so when and it
all goes back, always to bad translations of the Word
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of God. The Old Testament was written in Hebrew, ancient Hebrew,
which is still the same Hebrew. Yah, I don't, but
I studied the reading, you know, I study it, But
I don't. I can't sit down and read backwards and
all that stuff. No. I study with the world's greatest
biblical scholars. Many of them are Messianic and otherwise they
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are rabbis, and rabbis are the most learned people in
the world according to scriptures. I mean, they just are.
They go ten layers.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
They don't always agree, Rabbi.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
No, that's the whole point of being a rabbi. They
fight all the time. Because it's not fight. They argue,
and they argue, and by arguing, this is what's wrong
with culture. They learn and they start to ponder another
person's opinion and their take on something. And that's what
good honest discussion should be like respectful disagreement.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I think we could talk about religion for a long time,
and in our friendship we have talked about religion for
a long time. Yes, But there's another part of you.
There's another area of you which I think most people
are aware of. But even if they don't know, you are.
You're a very earthy person. You're funny, you have a
little body, You're a deliciously body sense of humor. You're
(22:51):
thank you and you are you're funny, and you're naughty,
and you're earthy. And I think, and I mean all
of these things things as compliments because you know, I
love you and and I find that fascinating with the
what I understand of uh trinal holiness.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Yeah, you know what holy actually means set apart for
sacred use. Okay, it doesn't mean perfect, it doesn't mean
you got a halo over your head. It means set
apart for sacred use in the in Hebrew. And that's
what I am. And I think every human being is
wired to be set apart for sacred use. I'm not
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going to stop having the sense of humor I have.
I was woven in my mother's womb before the dawn
of time. So is my mother, so is your mother,
so is Liam and Milo. They just it's that's that's God,
that's Jehovah, God Elohim, the creator of all things. And
so that's not going to change. And the world in
quotes does that it tries to take change us and
(23:57):
make us cookie cutter Christians or cookie cutter Jews or
Mormon Are you know it's all the same.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
Have you run a conflict? Oh?
Speaker 2 (24:04):
All my life. I was kicked out of the Brownies.
I was kicked when I was I was kicked out
a few years later. I was kicked out of Sunday School.
A few years later, I was kicked out at the
age of seventeen the America's Junior Miss pageant. Why because
I questioned things that were stupid and I knew innately
that that's not true. I'll tell you a perfect example
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of religion and relationship. In Jesus's day, when he walked
on the earth, which he did for thirty three years,
the people who followed Jesus would understand, because they'd grown
up this way, that the trees and there were no
big trees then there was just sort of glorified bushes.
Back then, Israel was a desert. Those trees, the trees
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that you go to Israel and you see now have
been planted since it became a nation in nineteen forty eight.
It was, Oh, my gosh, you and I are going
to go one day and it's going to it'll continue
to blow mine and it's going to your years ago,
flying off your okay, and so it's so so interesting.
So back then, in Jesus's day, certain trees represented certain
(25:08):
groups of people within the Jewish culture, the Jewish people.
Just one that everybody would know is the olive tree
represented God's people.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
The Jews.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
To them, what what the sycamore fig tree represented? Back
then were the religious leaders of the day, the Pharisees
and the Sadducees. Jesus was cursing them for not caring,
not feeding the people, lying to them, cheating from them,
(25:38):
misrepresenting themselves, abusing their power. That any of that sounds
just familiar. Y, nothing's changed, because human nature doesn't. That's
why we need the Holy Spirit to to live within us.
That's the only thing that changes are innate nature.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
All right, So you you live with the Holy Spirit.
So that I'm going to say that I.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Think you do too, But that's another discussion.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
We're not talking about me. So the idea of joy
within you, yes, is from that, I think. I think
it's fair to say it.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Comes from knowing where I came from and who I
came from.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Now, give me an example in your life in the
secular world. Give me a piece of adversity in your
life where you turned immediately to that to if you like,
seal the wood to stop the floor. You know what
I mean? Is that something?
Speaker 2 (26:31):
There's so many. I have a lifetime of it, a
lifetime of history of That's what keeps me going. I
still have tough things that happened to me on a
daily basis. But as I said earlier, I cling tighter
to the one I know has never betrayed me, never
let me down, never lied to me. My rock, the
rock of my salvation. And so I'll finish the little
(26:53):
story about finding Frank an hour later, and he's gone.
He's gone. At first, I tried to resuscitate him and
I can't. Cody, my son, is home. He hears me
calling for him, He comes down, he gives the compressions,
and I am sobbing by that time, because I know
that code and Cody's still trying, and I'm crying, but
(27:15):
they were not tears of anything, not fear. No, there
was total peace in me. There was no anxiety in me.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Were you aware of this at the time, Yes.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Of course. And the Bible says it's called the peace
that passes all understanding. You don't understand what that means
until you're in a position where you know. I shouldn't
be feeling joyful right now. I was sobbing tears of
joy because the look on his face was this, and
you can't see me over the airwaves, but I'm showing you, Craig.
It was like wonder, wonder, And even Cody stopped doing
(27:51):
the compressions and he says, Mom, look he's smiling, and
I said, I know, honey, he's with Jesus. And Jesus
took his breath away. And that's exactly what happened. And
so we instead of people talking about this tragedy of
Frank dying. No, Frank had been to Israel with me
by that time. He'd found out that he did that
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having a religion all of his life was worthless. He
found out by studying the word of God, that he
had a relationship with the living God, and that is
the difference between night and day.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Are you a believer in the continuation of a form
of consciousness of life after death? Oh of course, yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Yeah, Well, nobody exemplified that more than Jesus. They thought
he was dead, a big surprise three days later, a resurrected.
And you know what I love about that resurrection. It's
one of my favorite stories in the Bible. If you
don't know it, that basically Jesus it's morning time, it's
Sunday morning, and nobody could come. The women in Jesus's
life were the most unafraid, They were the most loved
(28:54):
because they were basically considered useless in that society. Back then.
You were there for sex, you were there to have
to prove to you know, to give babies to the
powerful full. But for the most part, women were considered
less than chattel, you know they were. They weren't even
even Mosaic law considered a full human being. We have
so much of that still in our world today. Jesus
(29:15):
came along and said, no, you are equal. You are
equal in God's kingdom. You are daughters of Abraham. You
are daughters of the king. You are going to be
a co heir with me to God's kingdom. This is
why the women were there at the cross, only one man,
the apostle John, the only one man. And at the
at the grave on Sunday morning when the sun came up, Uh,
(29:37):
the women were there. And the first person that that
that Jesus appeared to was Mary Magdalene, whom Jesus had
cast seven demons out of. We would call that today
mental illness.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Yeah, the demons thing is that's going to talk to
you saying about yes, the demons are the again when
I've told you about the Desert Fathers, origin of Alexandria,
Evagrius of Pontus. These are early Christian theologians and mystics,
and they talked about demons in the way that we
today talk about character defects. Right, And it seems to
(30:11):
me sometimes in early Church thing and perhaps later Church think.
I don't know much about Church, but it seems to
me that a law of almost psychotherapy comes from from
that kind of thing. Is like trying to get rid
of the negative aspects of your own consciousness, your own yeah, yeah,
(30:35):
unfortunately do that who put them there in the first place.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Well, that's why I'm so glad you asked, because I
just got an answer to that. I've been studying all
my life basically with the world's greatest biblical scholars in Israel,
and it's always in Genesis. It talks about at the
dawn of creation, how God there was an assembly, there
was a council of the heavenly realms. That means it
wasn't just Jesus and the Holy Spirit and God there
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and the Father there were there were other entities.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Are you and you believe like like like a big
kind of like game of Thronings Lord of the Rings thing?
Do you think?
Speaker 2 (31:08):
Or you know, maybe this is why I haven't read
so many of these other things that people say, have
you read? Have you read of your head? Right, I've
been studying this my entire life, and I don't, and
I've barely scratched the surface. You know, if somebody says,
go read this, somebody I would respect, and now I would,
because you have said it. I would read the Book
of Enoch. I would read some of the town some
(31:29):
of the the deeper Kabbalah stuff which comes from a
good place of early Judeo Judaic mysticism. And but but
I for now it takes everything that with the brain cells,
I still have left to study what it really. I've
learned it the wrong way for so many years, Craig
(31:49):
that I'm going to spend the rest of my life
trying to unlearn what wasn't true. Like Jesus was not
a carpenter. That's a bad translation of the world did
and he cursed the what the tree represented. But the
Bible talks about Jehovah Elohim creator, talks about the lesser
Eloheim gods. In the scripture, it says, and the lesser gods, Well,
(32:12):
what's that? How's that work? He said, you shall have
no other god before me. He meant, the ultimate epitome
of the God has So there you think that it
all started back then.
Speaker 1 (32:24):
So it's there's a God, yes, but there's also like
a bunch of other slightly lesser, naughty gods.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Well, they all started out as God's creation, and some
of them rebelled as a story and Satan who is
the you know, he's the god of chaos. If God,
my god, Jehovah Eloheim is the god of shalom. People
think shalom just means peace. It does not. Peace is
one of the parts of shalom. And it's almost like mahallo.
(32:52):
It's just becomes sort of, hey, shalom shalom. You know, no, God,
God is shalom. That's every attribute of God that makes
him God, faithfulness, justice, peace, joy, your joy, miracles, glory, righteousness,
all those things. That's shaloon.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Okay, So let me ask you this then, because I'm
going to steer you back around to what we talked
a little bit about earlier, which was the idea of
a life after death, because I think a lot of people,
particularly in the more naive agnostic, atheistic community communities is
(33:31):
the wrong word, but realm, realm the idea that religion
is all about life after death. It's all about you know,
And so because it's an unprovable situation while you're alive,
I would ask you do you have a conception of it?
Do you have and are you certain of if it exists?
(33:54):
And if it does exist, what it looks like.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
You know, you're so smart to say that it's in
the suite, bye and bye. That's what so many people
live their life. If I can just get this through
this life. It's gonna be perfect one day. You know
well that what Jesus came to show us is yes,
there will be a new a new heaven and a
new Earth, and it will be perfect and every tear
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will be dried. And know there will be no pain,
and there will be the perfection that God had originally
placed us, and he put us in a garden. Whether
you believe in that as a as a as a
real place or as a metaphor, it was perfect. That's
what He always always meant for us, is the garden
where he Why did he need us to be born?
Did he need to create us? Why did he create
(34:41):
us with free will? You know, he could have created
a bunch of robots and we would have done everything
he wants. No, I know, because they they want they'd
want to they want they want to be they want
to be God. Sorry, Ultimately, these robots are good. There's
gonna be so much smarter than us. And that's what
happened in the original story. Suffice to say, nothing is
(35:01):
new under the sun, and the things that we battle
with today, like Mary Magdalen at the Cross, I was
going to finish that story Jesus. She doesn't recognize him
in the morning because it's early morning.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
It's dawn.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
She's come. She believes he's died. She saw him die.
She was at the cross, watched him, watch them throw
the spear in his and the blood and the water
gush shout. She saw his suffering that They never left
the cross and he was there from nine in the
morning till three in the afternoon when they pronounced him dead, which,
interestingly enough, greg at three o'clock. They call it the
(35:31):
ninth hour. That is when all of the animal sacrifices
at the temple take place at three o'clock in the afternoon.
So Jesus was the ultimate sacrificial lamb while they were
actually sacrificing a lamb in the inner court, this Holy
of Holies on the temple. Jesus naked. He was not
(35:52):
You've always seen him on the cross with the loincloth
and all of that vest Society though that was the
ultimate for them. They wanted to crucifer by you naked
and as as vulnerable as anybody could be, and that
was anybody that Christian naked.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
I think that also the ida, I mean the historical
aspects of crucifixion, you know, the idea Spartacus and like
I think like ten. I don't know what the number was.
It was thousands of slaves were crucified on the Appian Way.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
That was their warning, you you mess with Rome, this
is going.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
To be a d I mean that was I think
Pompy that did that, which was run about the same
time as or crisis. Maybe who did it run at
the same time as Jesus of Nazareth.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
It was, it was It's one of the worst, they say,
the worst death that's ever been contrived by.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
A human being. What crucifixion.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
Well, it's been some bad ones since.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
So listen. We we talked a lot about religion and
clearly that is at the core of of who you are.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
Not religion, sorry, relationship, I do. It's a hard habit.
You're a hard habit to break.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
This is another habit you've got. You will sing directly
at people, which record, No, I don't think that's true.
I also find that, I quind I find it quite
alarming and very endearing at the same time, A little
bit like you. You are very much who you are and
I and I love that, and I appreciate that about you,
And I wonder do you ever when you when you
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get because you say things about Jesus Christ and a
lot of people are very touchy about that.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Oh yeah, yes, do you ever It's not popular in
all circles.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
Right, and not even that, I mean people who who
are you know, followers of Jesus Christ or people who
are Christians. You will have doctrinal differences differences with them,
and people get very you know, heated about that. Do
you ever do you ever feel like maybe you don't
want to bring it up?
Speaker 2 (37:52):
You know, it goes back to that boldness that.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
I have from the Brownies.
Speaker 2 (37:57):
I was going to tell you that when I went
to the movie. I went to the BILLI Gram movie
and it was over, and I remember literally hearing the
voice of Jesus again in my heart and he said, Kathy,
I love you, and if you trust me, I will
make something beautiful out of your life. That was it,
you said, was the defining moment. I walked forward, literally
(38:21):
gave my heart, even though my heart was already his.
I just made sort of the public statement, yes, I
am going to follow you. And that was the single
greatest decision of my entire life.
Speaker 1 (38:33):
And that you feel that all adversity is coped because
I'm fascinated by people of faith. I am fascinated you
always happen, Yeah, and of all doctrines, all faiths. So
I'm fascinated by it. I think it's an interesting thing.
And I'm fascinated by yours because it is unshakable, which
(38:54):
I suppose that's what faith is. Have you ever thought
because faith is a.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
Gift, it's not because I have it innately, right, But
the Scripture is very clear that faith, even even faith,
I have to get from Him. So when I'm running
out of it, I just cry out. The scripture is
full of cry out to the Lord. He knows you,
he created you, He knows you needed cry out and
ask and you will receive.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
Let me ask you that because we're talking about joy.
Were at some point the idea of running out of faith? Yes,
describe describe for me a moment in your life where
you had to You had to do that because you
talked about Frank passing and that was clearly I thought, huge,
Yes moment.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
Yes, almost thirty years of marriage, right?
Speaker 1 (39:39):
But is there is there a time like I'm trying
to think of something more, No, something more mundane, sure
something more.
Speaker 2 (39:48):
The times that my faith was most tried, Yes is
the way I can answer it, and took me to
my knee, my knees more often than a normal day would.
When I was accused of sweatshot violations, when I was
accused of abusing children.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
And scratch, that was one of the most.
Speaker 2 (40:02):
Yes, it was one of the most. I couldn't really,
Lord really, Frank and I had just opened up a
fourteen million dollar home for aids and crack babies in
New York during the pandemic. Every bit of the money
from my Walmart clothing line went towards building that home
where nobody would even hold an aid's baby. Only Princess
(40:22):
Diana was doing that. And then and so I'm now
we've built a home from scratch. It was used to
be the old Ronald McDonald house. It was before that,
it was a woman's convent. And we just bought it,
tried for two with two million dollars to renovate it
for these babies. Couldn't because of the laws. Anytime you
kept dealing with diseases and babies, and you know, tried to.
(40:45):
We had to tear it down and start from scratch.
And it cost fourteen million dollars. And that's where my
Walmart money went. You know, I was taking you know,
money that I earned honestly and put it giving it away.
They never the people came against me, never visited Cassidy's
place or Cody House once. They just stood up like
(41:06):
they're doing in culture, the culture now cancel culture, and
accused me of something so that they would. The guy
that did it said he was a human rights activist. No,
he was an attorney who worked for Unite the Apparel right. Yes,
and you know what he said to me later. Now
I'm not going to say that privately, I'll tell you. Okay,
nobody knows this, but it's it's interesting. But anyway, we
(41:28):
got laws passed, we got we got I got legislation passed.
I was suing the State of New York to a
blind HIV testing because babies were being born who shouldn't
be born with the AIDS virus or just with the
full blown AIDS. We found out with all of our
studying that if if a baby got a certain no,
(41:52):
if a mother got cocktail of certain drugs while she
was pregnant, it would go from lessen forty percent down
to it less an eight percent chance the child would
be born with the disease. Wow, And I said then,
and they had c d C, the wonderful CDC had
blinded all HIV testing in the clinics so they could
(42:12):
track it, not do anything about it, just track it.
And we knew that that there was there was hope.
Speaker 1 (42:18):
There was hope, there was a treatment for y for
women who were had HIV and were pregnant.
Speaker 2 (42:24):
Yes, And I said, it was being with held. And
there are all kinds of different privacy issues that were involved,
especially with gay men who were legitimately were worried about
if it's if their status was known, they might you know,
And and I respected that, but at that time, you know,
this was about dying babies. To me, I said, you
(42:45):
guys can do with your you can march, you can
do and you can fight your battles in court. But
this is of great urgency. There's a way we can
save lives. You guys, not just the men. Don't mean that.
I'm at the world. And so I sat, and I
one night with the Governor George Pataki at a swanky
party in the Hampton's at the home of the Revlon
(43:08):
Ronald Ronald Proman's not widow, but divorced. She was a
friend of mine, Claudia Colen, beautiful woman. She said, Kathy,
I know what you're doing. I'm sitting here next to
the Governor. I said, Oh, the poor governor.
Speaker 1 (43:19):
He was gonna stuck with.
Speaker 2 (43:20):
Me for two I'm now I'm suing the governor.
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Understand, I'm sitting next to him apartment Yes, yes, okay,
that's good, Yes.
Speaker 2 (43:27):
Yes, yes, that you know what. He's such a good
decent man. I'd met him before. And when I say
I was suing him, the organization that I worked with,
the Association and Benefit Children, had sued the State of
New York two other times and won both times too,
So we're an adversary to be dealt with. But I
told him everything, and back then I knew everything about this.
(43:48):
I knew every statistic. I don't anymore. This was a
long time ago, but I remember it. Boys, I remember
sitting in that and he sat and listened to me
with such respect and so quiet. Asked a couple of
different questions. I had the answers, and he said to
me at the end of the evening, three things he said,
I never knew this.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Really, A politician said that.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
He said, yes, that's what I thought. I never knew this.
Number two, sometime we're on the wrong side of this issue.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
A politicians said that. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
Third one, I'm going to do something about that.
Speaker 1 (44:23):
No, no, you're crazy.
Speaker 2 (44:24):
Now, Frank was sitting at a different table, and I
remember driving home with him and I said, I think
he heard me. He was, I think so, honey. I
don't know if that if he's going to have the guts,
the balls, whatever it takes to do the right thing,
but I know he heard me. And within one month,
Governor Pattaki stood in the garden of the Cody House
(44:45):
on ninety first Street in New York City and announced
the unblinding of HIV testing for the state of New York.
Long story short, For the first time in history since
the HIV AIDS start, it was the first time the
death rate went down because the birth rate, it was,
(45:05):
you know, because the babies were living right, they were surviving.
And within one year after that, every state unblinded HIV testing.
Not because I did the brave thing, but because Governor
Prattaki did. There there are still people in this world
who are there for the right reasons. And when we
fight a good fight and we back it up with science,
(45:26):
and we back it up with good will and prayer,
miracles still happen every day.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
There's an interest in word you use. You use the
word science, and a lot of people on maybe I'm
I'm not going to say my say to the fence
because that's not true. I don't have a sight of
the fancy on the defenseless. I'm kind of wondering.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
So your defense.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Again, yeah, endsless, it's best. But a lot of people
think that science and faith are in conflict. They are
things that are in conflict. Do you don't see it
that way?
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Well, science lives exactly alongside faith when you know what
the faith is based on what it really says there
is it's perfect. The world as what was created was
mathematically perfect. I'm sorry, but that's not random. That's a
that's a mind and a being that we can never
(46:32):
ever comprehend. But we can, we can bow to it,
and we can in our own ways be humble before
it and say, Lord, I know I'm I'm not perfect.
I know you created me for good things. You created
me for something better than what I'm settling for. I
need your help. All God wants, you know, he says
(46:52):
in scripture, somebody says, I don't want your sacrifices. I
want you to know me.
Speaker 1 (46:58):
And you think mathilation and science is the knowledge of God.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
Well, God says in the Old Testimony, he said, look
at the heavens they have they have all knowledge and
all wisdom is there. But but but religion came along
and said, can't can't worship the stars. Can't worship the stars?
You know, I'm not. He didn't say worship them, said
study them, study them, seek, seek, And it's just so exciting.
(47:24):
That's what makes my faith more real every day. A
couple of years ago, the Lord gave me something that
I've tried to live as my mantra mantra ever since.
And it said, Kathy, there's a scripture that says the
joy of the Lord is your strength. Well, okay, that's
(47:45):
in uh what is it Angie's uh Neamiah eight ten.
Speaker 1 (47:50):
I was going to say that, but I didn't want
to get it wrong.
Speaker 2 (47:53):
I eight ten. The joy of the Lord is your strength. Okay,
I believe that. But later in life, maybe maybe when
I was going through the really really rough times of
Frank's infidelity came a year later, after the all the
terrible stuff with these sweatshops.
Speaker 1 (48:10):
It was it was a very embarrassing time, I would imagine.
Speaker 2 (48:13):
Mostly for him.
Speaker 1 (48:14):
Yeah, listen, I look, I know this. I know that.
I remember seeing that at the time. I was working
on the Drew Carrey s. I remember talking to Drew
and we saw it in the newspaper and he said
to me, would like to be Frank Gifford this morning? Yeah,
that's it.
Speaker 2 (48:28):
No, non men came up to him all the time.
It's better you than me, Frank. I mean. It was disgusting. Yeah,
and he was a good man who did a stupid thing.
It happens, It happens, It happens, and women or after
my husband, he was Kevin Costner of his day. You know,
he was the Brad Pitt of his day, and they
(48:49):
all and it was blatant right in front of me,
and you know, I lived with that, but I really
believed that he was he was stronger than that. And
it was also sick these six years old when that happened.
It wasn't like he was, you know, twenty two, and
he knew better. He knew better, but he was you
know what. We can go into that another time as well.
But I remember the Lord saying to me, Kathy, this
(49:12):
is what I want you to think all the time.
My joy is non negotiable. Oh boy, okay, I'll know.
You know when you and I were doing our movie together,
then came you available on Netflix.
Speaker 1 (49:26):
Left.
Speaker 2 (49:29):
We had to go through a negotiation with you for
the price that would be fair. You gave a little.
Speaker 1 (49:33):
It's a negotiation.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
That's our business.
Speaker 1 (49:34):
Yea.
Speaker 2 (49:35):
And time off you wanted to, you know, time to
go back to your the most beautiful home in Scotland
and visit your family. Don't like the wife, but that's
another story and it's the process. So do you understand negotiation?
But he said your joy? Don't let anybody mess with
your joy, Kathy. And my joy comes from knowing every
(49:57):
morning when I wake up that I am a child
of the living God.
Speaker 1 (50:03):
Were you so you? Were you able to forget? Is
that how you were able to forgive Frank the way.
Speaker 2 (50:07):
I was able to forgive Frank, Howard Stern, you, everybody
else has broken my heart.
Speaker 1 (50:11):
Oh come on, you're in good company. I's gonna say
these guys make a lot.
Speaker 2 (50:17):
More money than me, Hey, wait till this podcast takes
off anyway, Yeah, what was your question?
Speaker 1 (50:25):
That was? Was that how you were able to forgive Frank.
Speaker 2 (50:28):
The way I was able to forgive Frank was at
the minute I knew it was true because I believed
him and he said it didn't happen. I had no
reason not to because my husband stood by me through
the sweatshop stuff. He stood by me through the uh.
Speaker 1 (50:41):
People people live when they're panicked. Yes, that's exactly right.
Speaker 2 (50:46):
And he realized he was caught. He had no idea
that they had tape, you know, audio tape. He just
knew that that until he found and he said, no,
it wasn't. You know, the people were always trying to
set us up, always trying to just draw us. First
of all, that goes back to the ones who were
fallen from grace. You know, God's grace is forever, but
they choose, they chose to walk away from God Almighty
(51:09):
and try to be God. That's never going to work
out in anybody's life. You know, you've seen and I
have seen a parade of people who who started to
believe that they were God Almighty boy, and then where
are they there?
Speaker 1 (51:21):
Happens in show business from time to.
Speaker 2 (51:24):
You know, Jesus said, you know, what does it profit
a person if they gain the whole world and lose
their very soul. Jesus didn't want them to lose their souls.
That's why he came.
Speaker 1 (51:34):
And so, and I'm going to push you on this
because the forgiving of infidelity for a person like you,
who I know what you stand for, and I know
what you're like, and I know how much you value
loyalty and truth and friendship. Yes, that that kind of
betrayal would be horrendous and so for you that must
(51:57):
have been a mountain to climb to get.
Speaker 2 (51:58):
No, it was an instant really, yep. The minute I
knew it was true, God showed me almost like a scrawl.
I don't do a computer, but now that I've seen it,
it was like a scrowl of everything that God had
already forgiven me for. He said, Kathy, every time you
asked for forgiveness, I forgave you. You cannot ask for
(52:19):
forgiveness if you're not willing to give it. It was instantaneous.
Speaker 1 (52:22):
That's amazing. It's amazing.
Speaker 2 (52:25):
And that the exact opposite with Howard Stern the story.
He started saying the most horrendous things about me. I'd
never met the man, never listened to his show, who
never watched it, never met him, nothing, And he started
just just I would. People would tell me, Gosh, I
can't believe what Howard Stern, I said, don't tell me.
I don't want to know. But the minute I heard
that he was doing that kind of thing, I started
(52:47):
praying for him. I said, Lord, he must be so
hurt inside to hurt people he doesn't even know, to
be so cruel to people that are you know, don't
live cruel lives. I you know, I'm not perfect, but
I wasn't out there hurting people. You know, I don't
understand it, Lord, But you know why he doesn't hurt people,
(53:07):
hurt people. So I said, Lord, I'm just going to
pray for him. I'm afraid that one day he'll come
to know, you, come to know how precious.
Speaker 1 (53:13):
He is to you, and you two became friends, right.
Speaker 2 (53:15):
Well, you're my friend, right he became. Thirty years later
he asked me to forgive him, and he said yes,
and he said, will you forgive me? And I said,
I said, Howard.
Speaker 1 (53:27):
Of course he's a remarkable.
Speaker 2 (53:30):
I don't know him still to this day, but.
Speaker 1 (53:32):
He's a I think he's fascinating man.
Speaker 2 (53:34):
Oh he is, and is brilliant, and he's used his
communication skills, I think for in a dark way, when
God always intended for that brilliant mind and that brilliant
sense of humor and all those things to be used
for his glory, not his own, not his God's glory.
And so anyway, what I just would, I would pray
(53:55):
for him every day. I just did. And so I
sent him a note when he got divorced front from
his wife, and I hand delivered it because he lived
across the street, so he lived in Regis's building, and
I said, I'll just take it over. I didn't trust
it getting to him otherwise, you know, And I left it.
And the next day he's talking on the air about
you know what, I got a note from you know.
And I didn't hear this either, but I was told,
(54:17):
and he goes the nicest note, just the nicest note
from of all people. And he says and then they all, oh,
she's just doing it so you'll like her. Just no,
that's bullshit. She's the phone of you. I'm so whatever,
And so he said, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're right.
So that was years and years years later. Now I
won't go through the whole story unless you want to hear.
But I look up one day at the studio. I'm
(54:39):
at the Today Show now, and I look up and
downstairs there's a monitor. But downstairs, one floor beneath me
is where you've been there, Craig, where you walk in
and you go to the studio. I'd never seen anyone
with an entourage as big as this, because he was
there to announce that he was going to be a
judge on America's Carta. So he's making that announcement and
(55:01):
it was going to be on NBC and all that.
So I, oh, there's Howard.
Speaker 1 (55:04):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (55:04):
I didn't think anything of it, just said another prayer
for him. Probably, I don't know. I'm getting hair. I
just come in from from Greenwich, so my makeup's not done,
my hair is wet. I'm in my little schlap shows.
But like when we're on setee, you've seen me like that,
and I'm hot, aren't I?
Speaker 1 (55:19):
Absolutely? It's an amazing thing to see.
Speaker 2 (55:23):
Anyway, So the Lord says, Cathy, I want you to
go downstairs, right, now and say hello to Howard and
welcome them and tell and wish him well with the show.
And I went, okay, Lord, Now that they had made
huge effort at NBC to make sure that I didn't
run to him and he didn't run into me, because
(55:44):
there was a lot at stake, and they and my
hair and makeup people have been don't don't let Kathy
out of your sight. All of a sudden, I get
up and I say to my hair and makeup people,
I'm gonna I'll be right back.
Speaker 1 (55:56):
She's walking, she's walking, she's walking. It was just like.
Speaker 2 (56:01):
And so Sarah I started singing again, and anyway, I
would just go downstairs. Nobody tries to stop me. I
walk in and I walked right up to Howard, who's
six six. I was five six at the time. I've
shrunk a little and I and I'm flat footed, and
I look up and I'm going Howard, Howard, and he's
looking around because he's got a good foot taller than
I am. And all of a sudden he looks down
(56:21):
and sees his little elf in front of him, and
he goes, WHOA. He just I remember him just sort
of physically backing up and going rarely is the man speechless.
He was speechless, and I put my hand out to him, said, Hi,
Kathy Lee. I think it's about time we meet, don't
you think And he put his hand out and I said,
I just want to wish you well and with the
(56:42):
show and with your life, and you just take care
of yourself. That was it. I turned and walked away.
He was one thing he did said. I said, yeah, crazy, right,
the show is crazy. I said, it's crazy, and I
just laughed and went upstairs. They go, what did you do?
Speaker 1 (56:58):
I said?
Speaker 2 (56:58):
I said, I wish him well with the show. Let's
get my hair and makeup do. I'm a little behind.
And I left that day for La because the Cody
was graduating from a usc film school that the next day.
So it's flying into to be a family for a while.
I land and turned my phone on and there's a message.
My friend Jill Martin had given him my number because
(57:18):
she knew it was important, and and it was him saying,
can I say bad words on your podcast?
Speaker 1 (57:25):
Thank?
Speaker 2 (57:25):
Yeah. I mean obviously I raised it, but it was
it was a million fuck words. It was like, I'm
so fucked. This is Howard Stern I'm just I'm such
a fucking It's just I can't tell you exactly what
he said, but there I could tell the man was
in great pain and he said, I'm so, I'm so sorry.
I need you to forgive me. I need to talk
to you. He was so nice to me today and
(57:47):
I've just been wrong and I'm just he was so contrite,
he was so he broke my heart. But there was
no number. I couldn't call him. It was just a
you know, call her idea unknown. So I said, well, Lord,
it's in your hands. I thanked God. I said, wow, incredible.
Thirty years later, Lord, you're answering. This man is seeking people.
(58:08):
He has hurt to say, I'm sorry, forgive me. Every
person needs to do that in their life. All of
us do to have peace. Shalom, God shaloon. So anyway,
that night, we're at dinner at the Beverly Hills Hotel
and I see no caller idea and I'm going, oh,
it's him. He's trying again. I got up. My husband
was not happy, and either was Cody. You're not going
(58:29):
to talk to him, mom, I said, oh, yes, i am.
I'll be back. You guys continue at dinner. I went
into a private room there and I guess for about
a half an hour, maybe not that much, maybe twenty minutes.
I don't know. Those things are surreal anyway, you don't
really know. I don't check my phone if I knew
how to. And he was so incredibly contrite. He said,
(58:50):
I cannot believe how kind you were to me. And
I said, well, of course I was, you were, And
I said, and so do you forgive me? He said, Kathy,
I've just I've been I've fucked up my entire life,
my whole life, and I'm getting cat counseling. You know,
I'm trying to be a better person, trying to go
to everybody that i've heard, and I know what, I've
(59:11):
been horrible to you, and I keep hearing wonderful things
about you, and I just kept doing it. And I said, why, Howard,
why did you He goes because I hated you? And
I said, but why we had never even met. He said,
you were everything I wasn't. You're Jewish, but you believe
in Jesus. How's that you're a musician, but you just
(59:31):
sing old songs like that your father likes you. Just
I just found a million things to make fun of you.
For I didn't. I thought you were a complete fun
The only way I could deal with somebody leader like
he was to write you off as a phony. And
he had a group of minions, of course, and yes,
people who just fed into that. That's okay anyway, I said,
do you forgive me? I said, Howard, of course I do.
But I just need you to know that I forgave
(59:53):
you thirty years ago, and I've been praying for you
every day since. And and he goes, what I said, Yeah,
I knew this day would come. I didn't know when.
You've certainly taken your time. We said a little lad,
and I said, would you like to come to dinner
at my house? He goes, you'd have me for dinner?
I said, of course, I'm not sure Frank will, but
(01:00:14):
I will. You know that kind of thing. And we
never did do that, but I've run into him several
times since and it's very warm between us, and there's
no tension, there's no none of that. It's forgiven. It's
not forgotten. It was a huge thing. But the how
you forgive is immediately because you realize that that's what
Jesus did. He said, you're not supposed to forgive once
(01:00:37):
you forgive seven times seventy times, which is in the Bible,
the perfection everything.
Speaker 1 (01:00:43):
It's all all the Mathema.
Speaker 2 (01:00:45):
Every if Jesus turned six pots of water into wine,
there's a reason that's six pots. I've written a book
called The Rock, The Road, and the Rabbi with one
of the great Biblical rabbinic scholars, and every single number
he knows the meaning of, because the rabbis do. And
when you find out what it means, it is so
mind boggling, and it just confirms and affirms your faith.
(01:01:09):
This is not a random thing. This is sovereign God
being sovereign God in spite of whatever else happens in
the in whatever realm. And I believe there's many realms,
you know, who the hell do we think we are
to think that there's just us in this world? You know,
I don't believe that. I don't know what else is there.
But I'm not going to put God in a box
and say he only created us. You know, No, no,
(01:01:33):
I don't believe that. And I think that's what eternity
is all about. Once the next step comes and you
asked about that, earlier. It's we're going to be learning,
we're going to be growing. We're not going to be
sitting around on clouds playing the harp. I don't want
to go there, you know. I get tired of the
harp in about five minutes. Yeah, it's there's a hotel
(01:01:54):
lollby vibe about a harp. I'm going to be honest.
I love that you're talking about time because we are
out of it. Well, I really hope not.
Speaker 1 (01:02:02):
But what I means, but what I mean giving me
the hook, I'm giving you the hook for no nan,
I'm going to take care and we're going to get
something to you.
Speaker 2 (01:02:10):
Okay, my darling.
Speaker 1 (01:02:11):
That sounds great, but nobody else can come to that.
Now you can tell me the stories that you weren't
going to sell.
Speaker 2 (01:02:16):
I've told you lots of stuff that will never, you know,
never be said publicly because I trust you. That's right,
that's right. I trust you, and I love you, and
you've let You've always let me be me. And I
do adore your wife. And she's the one who said
I sent her give you the script. You gave it
to her. And she does have a beautiful name. Her
name is me. Yeah, and she's a beautiful woman from
(01:02:36):
New Hampshire originally. But anyway, I know all of this.
Speaker 1 (01:02:39):
I know.
Speaker 2 (01:02:39):
I'm telling you. You're your listeners who may not know.
And she she did not. Didn't she turn to you
and say you've got to do this.
Speaker 1 (01:02:45):
She said that. She said, you got to do this movie.
She also said, and I'm going to cuss a little here,
but you're going to like this. She said, that is
Kathy Lee Gifford. She's a goddamn American treasure, and you're
going to do this movie. She did, She did.
Speaker 2 (01:03:00):
She never told me that.
Speaker 1 (01:03:02):
You told me that.
Speaker 2 (01:03:03):
I'm serious. I'm not doubting it, but I'm that's so nice.
But you told me she said she had. Boy, does
she have you down?
Speaker 1 (01:03:11):
That we gotta go? I love you.
Speaker 2 (01:03:15):
Believe what you've heard about this man. He's awesome.
Speaker 1 (01:03:19):
My baby,
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