I'm jealous of my sister's marriage…so I tried to find dirt on her husband! - r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP1984 - ok storytime

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm jealous of my sister's marriage, so I tried to

(00:02):
find dirt on her husband.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
That's the only way to get back at her.

Speaker 1 (00:07):
Yep, my sister and her husband always seemed to have
a good marriage. They've been together for around a decade,
but you never really know, right.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
She's like, they seem to be.

Speaker 1 (00:19):
Happy, but you never know, they could be really unhappy.
I should look into it. And tbh, I thought they
were just pretending since I've never had a relationship that
was super good in private.

Speaker 2 (00:28):
Oh no, oh.

Speaker 1 (00:30):
No, she was like, I've never been in love with anyone,
so no one else can be.

Speaker 2 (00:36):
I don't like where this is going.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
Well now I do know. I've been living with them
for three months. They took me in when my ex
cheated on me.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
They do nice things for each other all the time,
and it's like they don't even think about it.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
This is so sad. It's just natural.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
By the way, this comes from damn the hallway on
the Okay, storytime severed it. So they're always bring each
other a little presence. My ex called me shallow what
I wanted him to give me even a cheap present
for my birthday. Their eyes light up when they look
at each other. My ex looked at me like I
was a potato.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh gos so depressing.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
They hug each other as though they haven't seen each
other in months whenever one of them gets home. My
ex ignored me when I got home, wanted me to
leave him the f alone to effing relax whenever he
got home. They encouraged each other's hobbies and outside friendships.
My ex hated my friends and thought my hobbies were stupid.
Worst yet, I can tell they're holding back when it

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comes to being affectionate around me. I'm afraid.

Speaker 2 (01:35):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (01:35):
I arrived home early from an event one day and
saw her sitting in his effing lap while they watched
TV and he played with her hair. The stuff I
see is apparently just the tip of the iceberg when
it comes to how much they like each other.

Speaker 2 (01:48):
You need to go to therapy, Yeah, you therapy, real badist,
something else.

Speaker 1 (01:55):
This is unhealthy. They've even been through some of the
tough craft up deaths, a merit sorry deaths, a miscarriage,
job losses that can tear couples apart, but they made
it through just fine. I guess. I honestly didn't think
relationships like this were real. I thought it was Hallmark
BS and that all relationships were miserable, hard work once

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you get past the honeymoon stage.

Speaker 2 (02:21):
Dude, I can feel the green oh in this story.

Speaker 1 (02:25):
Oh my goodness, the ivy, ivy green jealousy. I couldn't
believe it. So I snooped on her husband Max. It
turns out his private communications are fine. He had conversations
with female friends, but they were only platonic, and he
even talked about how much he loves my sister Sandra. Anyway,

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I felt extremely guilty about snooping that I confessed they
forgave me You're you're just living with saints.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
Yes, Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (02:57):
My sister took me out for the day without Max
and told me she'd been in crappy relationships before Max,
which I already knew, and that she thinks they helped
her learn how to spot red flags so that she'd
be available when the right person for her finally came along.
She's also gone to therapy for a long time, and
she says it helped her learn how to make healthy
relationship choices. Slash be a.

Speaker 2 (03:17):
Good partner nice.

Speaker 1 (03:19):
Max and Sandra offered to pay for me to get therapy.
My insurance isn't great, so that's nice. I just want
to find something like what they have. There is a
silver lining, though, I guess now that I know this
kind of relationship isn't a childish fantasy. I don't think
I'll ever be able to put up with somebody like
my ex again, and that's what good being around, good
relationships is all about.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
I really don't want to read this update.

Speaker 1 (03:43):
I hope the update's better.

Speaker 2 (03:45):
I'm honestly kind of terrified.

Speaker 1 (03:47):
I'm really scared. But in my perfect world, the the
Opie's sister and her fiance or whatever, they're like happily married,
and Opie fine to someone and.

Speaker 2 (04:01):
The well double dates together.

Speaker 1 (04:03):
That's what I'm hoping for here.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
But there is an update.

Speaker 1 (04:07):
I'm not sure exactly where to start, so I'm going
to use a list format and just write stuff in
whatever order it comes to mind. Oh no, I've started
therapy very soon after my post. Okay, okay, my first
therapist wasn't great, so my sister Sandra encouraged me to
find another, and my second one was awesome. I'm still
seeing him once every two weeks. He's helped me a

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lot with healing from the trauma of my last relationships
and also learning how to relate to others in a
more healthy way in every part of my life. He
also really helped me learn how to manage bitterness and jealousy,
finding the underlying causes and working on those. I moved
out of my sister and brother in law's house after
a couple of months. Okay, literally saints.

Speaker 2 (04:47):
Okay, they were literally saints.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
It turns out that my sister and brother in law
were secretly livid about the snooping.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
That makes sense. Oh yeah, but.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
They appreciated that I confessed on my own and decided
to be kind and help me legitimately saints.

Speaker 2 (05:03):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 (05:05):
They decided that if I took advantage of the help
they offered and put effort into being it better, they
would forgive me. Okay, I didn't realize how close I
was to making my sister go low contact with me.
Thankfully I did take their help. I'm not upset seeing
how loving my brother in law is to my sister anymore.
I'm happy for her. They became foster parents after I

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moved out and are now in the process of adopting
the little girl they've been fostering. They are literally the
perfect people to be nurturing a traumatized child. They're doing
so great, and the little girl, Maddie is doing so
much better than when she was first placed with them angels.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 (05:42):
She's an amazing girl. And she and my sister and
brother in law are so lucky they've all found each other.
We're so lucky that you found us. And you can
join us live every weekday at three PMPSD on YouTube.

Speaker 2 (05:53):
Just tap her profile.

Speaker 1 (05:54):
What a beautiful story and there's a little bit left.
This is amazing, beautiful story. Everyone's so great.

Speaker 2 (06:01):
I didn't know this existed on Reddit.

Speaker 1 (06:02):
I didn't know either, but you know, freaking positive positivity
is in the air.

Speaker 2 (06:07):
I literally thought she was gonna update that the brother
in law was cheating all wrong, but.

Speaker 1 (06:13):
No, no, we're safe. We're all good safe. I've been
single the whole time. That was on purpose. A few
months ago, though I determined that i'd be open to
dating again. I didn't want to actively do anything, no
dating sites, but I decided I wouldn't purposely avoid dating anymore.
A week ago, a guy I became friends with at
an animal shelter at an animal shelter I started volunteering

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at about six months ago. Asked me out nice, I said, yes.
Our first date was great. He's very kind. He's the
kind of guy you go to if you need to
calm down a traumatize terrified animal. He cleans poop coated
animal carriers without any complaint. My sister approves of him.
He's very funny too. So that's the update.

Speaker 2 (06:56):
That was beautiful.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
It was the best story we've ever read.

Speaker 2 (06:58):
Really, honestly, what.

Speaker 1 (07:01):
I don't even have any thoughts on that. That's great.

Speaker 2 (07:04):
You figured it out.

Speaker 1 (07:05):
Man.

Speaker 2 (07:05):
I'm so proud of you right now. I love you,
and don't you forget it. Yeah, you made a mistake
and you cleaned up today and then you went to therapy and.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
Then you found a new guy who loves you.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
Wow.

Speaker 1 (07:18):
Perfect story.

Speaker 2 (07:21):
Put that in a book. But that's the end of.

Speaker 1 (07:23):
That perfect story. So we'll see you next time.

Speaker 2 (07:25):
Read another one. My fiance's X is now my sister
in law, but she's still trying to sabotage my relationship.

Speaker 1 (07:32):
You already got a brother.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
Why do you need another one? I don't need a
My twenty seven female fiance's X is now my older
brother's wife, so my sister in law. To make it
less confusing, my fiance is George, my brother is David,
and my sister in law is Ella. George thirty eight male,
briefly dated Ella thirty four female, four years ago. Ella

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wanted to get married and have kids, but George did
not want this with her. He was also having a
lot of issues back then, partying, doing drugs, and not
being the most reliable person. They dated for six months
and everything ended in drama because Ella was not able
to make George want to settle with her. Soon.

Speaker 1 (08:16):
Oh, I was just to say that I like, I
don't like her. But that is hard when you are
in a relationship with someone and they refuse to you know,
they're like, oh, I don't want to do that with you,
and then they do it with someone else.

Speaker 2 (08:29):
You know. Yeah, that's tough. That is really tough. Soon
after the breakup, she met my brother and they got
married six to seven months after.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Damn. She was like, I really wanted it.

Speaker 2 (08:42):
I really wanted it. I really want someone that looks
like you, and I'm gonna get it. Yeah holy cow.
So yeah, they moved really fast and basically Ella dated
her ex, broke up with him, met my brother, and
got married to him everything and only one year and
a couple months.

Speaker 1 (08:58):
Oh yeah, yeah, I like Ope doesn't feel super healthy?

Speaker 2 (09:05):
Yeah, I don't like this timeline here. By the way,
this comes from top Sound thirty seven to sixty two
on the art slash Okay, story Times, how about it?

Speaker 3 (09:11):
So?

Speaker 2 (09:15):
I met George two years ago, and at that time
Ella was already married to my bro Back then, I
had no idea that George was Ella's ex. When George
started to feel attracted to me, he changed completely. He
quit drinking and doing rugs. He was he has been
sober ever since. Okay, he started going to therapy and

(09:36):
overall became a new person. This wo, I've seen a
quote that a man, uh a woman. I don't know
what the quote was.

Speaker 1 (09:46):
A man and a woman.

Speaker 3 (09:47):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (09:48):
I stopped because I don't think you'd like it, So
I stopped saying it. Uh. He did this because he
wanted to change, and I have been with him during
this entire healing journey. I'm very out of him, and
we have been healthy in an amazing relationship.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
Do they just live in like a small town or
are they in the same circle. How did that happen?

Speaker 2 (10:07):
Got to be a small town has to be. It's crazy,
has to be, even if Ella was already married to
my brother. She was furious when she found out I
was dating George and that that she was that I
was dating George and that he was serious with me.
She was so cruel and said a lot of nasty lies.

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She used to tell everyone that George was grooming me.
I was twenty five when we became a thing and
he was thirty six. Yeah, it's not really, this is
not grooming ffs. She lied that George was being mean
to me, trying to become an a a What do

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we say for that? Uh, trying to become a Coca
Cola head like him, and many other things. This ruined
my relationship with my brother because he he never did
anything to make her stock. Yeah, what the heck?

Speaker 1 (11:03):
Like, why is an he stepping in?

Speaker 2 (11:04):
And I don't like this. I like what Ella's doing
because she still seems like she has feelings for George.

Speaker 1 (11:09):
Well, she clearly was never over with it like George.
She just moved on because she wanted to have a marriage.

Speaker 2 (11:15):
Oh that's so tough, George, and I announced our engagement
to my family last week during my dad's birthday. My
parents were happy for us, but Ella said it must
be nice to be the one to get the ring
after someone else struggled to fix him. I get no
reaction from my brother as usual. My parents told her

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to stop, but I just snapped and told her something
along the lines he fixed himself, you pos and yes
it is nice. I will be married to the man
I love more than anything and who loves me the same.
Put your foot down good. But now, but how is
it for you knowing that no one else except my
idiot brother ever wanted to marry you? Does it feel nice?

Speaker 3 (11:58):
Damn?

Speaker 1 (11:58):
Hope, he said, mouth, don't stop talking.

Speaker 2 (12:02):
It's weird. The brother is just like he's like, yep,
that's true. No one will love you, Like yep, he's
just a yes man. Yeah, that's really what.

Speaker 3 (12:14):
Like.

Speaker 1 (12:15):
The sister in law is like, you're you know, he
only fixed himself because he wanted like whatever, blah blah blah,
and he's like, yep, that's true. And he's like, no
one's gonna love.

Speaker 2 (12:24):
You, and he's like yep, that's true. Whatever.

Speaker 1 (12:29):
Oh man.

Speaker 2 (12:30):
My parents kicked them out after this. They told her
that everybody had enough of her bs. She is insane because,
along being married, she still felt bitter over the fact
that her ex did not want her. She is officially
banned from every family event, and my brother is now
blaming me because he's definitely getting the ear fool. He's like, girl, oh,

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she keeps yelling at me, and this is all your fault.
If you just would agree like me, none of this
would have happened. Yeah, that's why I just say yes
to everything that she says. So, am I the a
hole in this situation? I don't think I am, honestly,
but I want also to hear some unbiased perspective update.
Do you think she went too far calling the brother

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an idiot?

Speaker 1 (13:15):
I don't know. The brother seems like he's on her
nerves as well. He's like, I can't handle either of you.
Shut up. And the fact that the parents were on
her side too. I feel like everyone's just sick of
this girl.

Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah. I think the only thing you could have slightly
be a with is calling the brother idiot. Yeah, because
he has to live with this.

Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yeah, that's his own punishment.

Speaker 2 (13:36):
Yeah, you do deserve you, Like, He's like, I'm just
catching strays on all sides here. Oh man, oh, Angie's back.
Say hello, Angie, if you're here for sure feel better?
Oh yeah, are you feeling better after? Because you're you
were sick?

Speaker 1 (13:55):
Right?

Speaker 3 (13:55):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (13:56):
She was actively actively kind of ish. Fortunately, I'm just
who's at the game. Someone sick on my team. Every
time someone says they're sick, I do a flu game.
The Michael Jordan flu game thing. Do you know about that? No? No,
I so Michael Jordan he got sick during the game,
but he still played and he scored like eighteen points
and it was a flu game. But in the documentary

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that they released on Netflix, turns out he just ate
a lot of pizza the night before and it may
have been compromised by because they were in Detroit, and
Detroit the Pistons and the Bulls are like rivals someone, Yeah,
so they're probably that, But it was basically he got
sick off of pizza the night before. Yay, Hello, dying

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she's here. All right, we're reading tel ol dr babe
real quick. So fiance uh OPI is dating George and
George oh she says she's feel a little bit better. Yay,
I'm glad she's still got a little bit of a cough.
But Op dates George and George used to day Ello,

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which is Op's sister in law, and sister in law
is jealous that OP is dating George and he is
talking a lot of crap, and OP finally said, shut up,
you're an idiot and he loves me, not you. Yeah,
and the family kicked her out. Now we have an
update update. Yesterday, I contacted my brother and asked him
to meet me for coffee. It was only the two

(15:21):
of us, and I think it was the first time
I've opened my heart like this in front of him.
I started off by apologizing for him being caught in
the middle, and I told him I will never apologize
or be sorry for loving George. I'm down, OPI you
were no longer slightly the a hole in my opinion.

Speaker 3 (15:36):
No.

Speaker 1 (15:37):
Oh, He's like, you know what, I'm freaking. I'm standing
by my man.

Speaker 2 (15:40):
Yeah yeah, and he and apologized to George or.

Speaker 1 (15:44):
Oh porges the brother I thought George was the.

Speaker 2 (15:46):
Uh no, no, no, sorry to the brother, She's like, sorry,
that's sweet, that's sweet. Yeah, Uh, you're welcome. I was
honest and I told him how much this situation has
been affecting me. My brother is the same age as
my fiance, so he is eleven years older than me.
During our childhood, he was my protector, the person I

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looked up to.

Speaker 1 (16:09):
And she's like, now you're not doing that. I'm not
having that any Like you're letting your wife walk all
over me.

Speaker 2 (16:14):
Now I'm having to protect my sales. Ah.

Speaker 1 (16:16):
I'm glad that it seemed because it seems like there
was a lot of resentment and not a lot of conversations.
So I'm glad we have that conversation.

Speaker 2 (16:22):
Yeah. Yeah, facts facts. Due to our age difference, we
never really had many activities in common, and I could
not wait for the moment I grew up so I
get to share more with my brother as adults. Ah,
that's sweet. I can't wait for my kid brothers. My
kid brothers are getting there. They're play basketball.

Speaker 3 (16:38):
Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (16:39):
I feel like Sam said that I developed a personality
around like sixteen.

Speaker 2 (16:44):
Was he starting to drive you around everywhere?

Speaker 1 (16:46):
No?

Speaker 2 (16:47):
You no, you know what? Maybe he was twelve, No,
it's probably sixteen. He and my brother started having a
relationship once I started driving.

Speaker 1 (16:54):
I think when I was like maybe fourteen to sixteen,
he had just gone to college or he was about
to go to college, and he was like, that's when
I had developed a personality and I was fun to
hang out with.

Speaker 2 (17:03):
Hmm. Probably both took each other for granted, Yeah, and
that's why. Okay, but I did not get the chance
to do this because of Ella. David would always teach
me to value myself, to jewice people who treat me right,
and to make me happy. However, I am not able
to share my happiness with him anymore. I understand why

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he would wit, understand why he would wish I never
met George, but it still hurts knowing that your brother
somehow resents the source of your happiness. David would always
defend me when I was younger, even in front of
her parents. When I was fifteen, I was experiencing with
makeup and looked bad, really bad. During a family function.

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One of our uncles got wasted and told me to
stop using makeup because I was too young and I
looked like a hooker.

Speaker 1 (17:50):
What the frick? I I hate that. Oh.

Speaker 2 (17:55):
David got mad and kicked him out for offending his sister.
This was the kind of brother he used to be,
And now see how he stays aside and allows his
wife to be offensive and cruel. It's really hurtful. Yeah,
going from one thing to another.

Speaker 1 (18:10):
It's really it's really sad because you know what it
was like yeah, and you're like, I want that back again.

Speaker 2 (18:15):
And just like, for example, Steve Martin in only Murders
of the Building, yeah, every other movie he's very confident
in and it feels so wrong to see him as
not a confident person.

Speaker 1 (18:27):
Yes, yes, I agree, No, because I think that I
watching that show, like I I love Steve varn and
I love what's his face, but it just like it feels.

Speaker 2 (18:38):
It feels so off see Steve Martin like that.

Speaker 1 (18:40):
And I think it also feels a little bit off
with Selena go going is because she's always been also
very like confident, boisterous, and she's a little bit like
softer spoken and like you know yeah, so I'm like, ah,
just yeah, yeah, no, No, the Steve Martin one really
bothers me. I do not care that she is like
that towards me. I don't like Ella at all and

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I could easily ignore her. But what gets to me
the most is that she's constantly trying to be little
and humiliate my future husband. I have lived with this
man for two years. I have also shared so many
things with him during this time, and I am certain
I know better what kind of and I am. And
I am certain I know better what kind of man
he is. I know how hard.

Speaker 2 (19:23):
It was for him to heal all this trauma. I
know how hard he has worked day by day to
become the best version of himself. I know how much
he loves me, protects me, supports me, and I simply
lose it when I hear her crap, and I know
she is constantly trying to bring him down. Yes, I
go bear mode when he is involved, as someone told

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me in the comments, but I don't care. I will
not allow any of my family members to abuse the
person I love. I have tolerated things for my brother's sake,
but I will never be quiet in front of this
be of a wife.

Speaker 1 (19:58):
Hmmm, put your foot down.

Speaker 2 (20:00):
I love this, I absolutely love this. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (20:03):
I want you to have a good relationship with your brother,
and I want him to divorce this lady.

Speaker 2 (20:07):
Oh yeah, oh yeah. I told my brother I love
him and I will always cherish the moments I have
with him. But we can no longer go on like this.
I understand he is a victim, and I'm ready to
do anything for him if he's willing to accept that
his marriage is not good and that Ella is not
a good woman and is abusing him. I cannot force
him to divorce her because this has to be a choice,

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but I told him I will accept his decision no
matter what it is. So it looks say she's going
no contact with him.

Speaker 1 (20:35):
Yeah, if he stays with her.

Speaker 2 (20:37):
Yeah, he will always be my brother. But George is
my family now. We plan on having kids in the
near future, and there is no way in heck I
will ever allow this lunatic of a wife to be
near my kids. I also refuse to subject George to
the abuse. We tried. We thought that was we thought
that was the We thought that was this rough period

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will eventually pass, but that's everything, and that everything will
be okay. But unfortunately Ella became more and more bitter
and disgusting. We will still see my parents, but I'm
standing my ground and will not go to their house
if she is present. David and I cried a lot
for the first time in many years, and I felt

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like I had my brother back. He apologized over and
over again and explained a lot of things to me,
which gave me the chance to understand him brother. But
at the same time, I'm so angry that I had
no idea what was happening to my brother. Some of
the people said I was a rebound for el oh,
some people said David was a rebound for Ella. But

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it seemed they were both a rebound for each other.
What made them marry so that cancels out?

Speaker 1 (21:53):
You want to explain a little bit more so, if
you're rebounding and then with another person who's rebonding, cancels out.

Speaker 2 (21:59):
Cancel yees, So it's not a rebound. So it's not
a rebound.

Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (22:02):
Yeah, So actually they're in a super healthy relationship. Okay,
this is Sophia's golden advice.

Speaker 1 (22:08):
It's cold and.

Speaker 2 (22:12):
Oh my god. What made them merry so fast was
the age pressure. My brother was feeling like it was
very hard to connect with someone, and the prospect of
being able to have a family of his own seemed
very far away until Ella came along and offered him
the possibility to have exactly what he wanted without too
much struggle. So yeah, in the end, I guess we're

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all some sort of messed up people in a way
or another.

Speaker 1 (22:38):
That's the moral of the story.

Speaker 2 (22:39):
And if you're a messed up person, you can join
his love every weekday at three pm PSD. Just tap
our profile, Just tap. I don't know what's going to happen.
David said he plans to take some time to go
away alone for a couple of days and to think
about what he wants to do. But he said that
when he'll be back, he wants to have a chat
with George to apologize to him as well for everything

(23:00):
that has happened. That's awesome, oka my brother knows that
everything Ellis says is false. He said. Everyone is able
to see how much George loves me and that we
make a great couple, and there's there are times when
he wished to also have something like this in his life.
All he told me he's proud of the woman I
have become, and that is no matter what happens, I

(23:20):
will always be his little sister. David said that.

Speaker 1 (23:24):
This is so sad.

Speaker 2 (23:25):
After this, I went home and cried some more with
George beside me. I've never tried to play strong and
deny myself to hurt to feel hurt for so long
that day. I've tried to play strong and denied to
feel hurt for so long that day yesterday, that I
have finally exploded.

Speaker 1 (23:43):
I think it is I've tried so long to deny
feeling hurt that yesterday I felt like I exploded.

Speaker 2 (23:49):
I've tried to play strong and deny myself to feel
hurt for so long that yesterday I have finally exploded.
But it was good because I now feel better. Oh wow, Yeah,
I would like to see an update after David comes
through his freaking census.

Speaker 1 (24:05):
And Dan gets rid of Ella.

Speaker 2 (24:07):
Yeah, dude, that yeah, Oh wow.

Speaker 1 (24:10):
This is so sad because it seems like he actually
really does love his sister.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
Yeah, and he just can't he can't. He can't shake Ella,
can't shake Ella. That's good luck, Good luck, David. But
that's the end of this story, so we'll see you
next time.

Speaker 1 (24:24):
My sister told me her husband called me a horrible name,
but she was lying. Why was she trying to make
her husband look bad?

Speaker 2 (24:31):
Hmmmm? Some snake in going around here.

Speaker 1 (24:34):
I twenty six, female, live in a small town with
a lot of family, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, basically everyone
related to me lives here lovely. My sister Lilia twenty
eight female, married her husband Sean, thirty one male, last year.
I don't know him very well, but I don't have
a problem with him either.

Speaker 2 (24:54):
Sounds like you're about to it's problem.

Speaker 1 (24:56):
By the way, this comes from throw my sister sucks
on the okay story to I'm subpured it. So every
other weekend, my mom will host a party type thing
for the whole family.

Speaker 2 (25:07):
That's so fun. That is fun.

Speaker 1 (25:08):
I love that there's food, decorations, music, et cetera. Everyone
has a blast every other weekend.

Speaker 2 (25:15):
That's crazy. I love that my family does a little
get together every week on Sunday after church.

Speaker 1 (25:20):
Love that man. My parents do it with my grandparents.
A few months ago, my sister started acting kind of
strange at these parties. Her husband isn't a very social
person from what I can tell. He usually stands off
to the side, sometimes without food. Lilia starts making comments,
usually to our immediate family, but sometimes to anyone who
will listen, about how Sean thinks the decorations look tacking,

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or Sean thinks the music's too loud.

Speaker 2 (25:47):
Seun doesn't care it's like she was like, that's just
vibe and dude.

Speaker 1 (25:53):
At first, it was basically harmless, but the comments got
worse and worse.

Speaker 2 (25:57):
Oh no, she's just looking to get a rise.

Speaker 1 (25:59):
Yeah, she's like, what can I blame Sewna. She started
saying things like that outside of family parties too. The
weekend before last, she made small talk for a while
before saying, hmm, Sean doesn't look like he's having a
good time. I don't think he likes the food very much.
I can't really blame him. We usually don't eat at
low class restaurants like yours.

Speaker 2 (26:19):
Sehn's just eating. Sean's like, it's pretty good. I think
Sean's just the most quiet guy.

Speaker 1 (26:23):
Yeah, he just doesn't talk.

Speaker 2 (26:24):
Yeah, that's it.

Speaker 1 (26:25):
Her comments always pissed me off, but this pushed me
pretty hard. My mom works really hard to make delicious
food for these parties. She's a chef at Olive Garden.
Oh she's she's freaking amazing. Dude, quick, quick, okay, story Tom.
I know a guy that goes to my church back
in Tennessee. He is a chef at Olive Garden, and
whenever they opened up a new Olive Garden, they send

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him damn opening weekend. Yeah, just to make people really
love Olive Garden. I've never been to an olive garden.

Speaker 2 (26:54):
You've never been to an olive garden? What?

Speaker 1 (26:57):
Nope? Never been to a Chili's.

Speaker 2 (26:59):
Okay, I'm missing out there, dude. Olive Burn's kind of
a move. Okay, let's do it.

Speaker 1 (27:05):
I guess my mom could tell I was getting upset,
so she pulled me aside and told me not to
say anything to Lila, that it wasn't a big deal.
Stuff like that.

Speaker 2 (27:13):
I'm just saying this place is probably somewhere in the South.
You don't make fun of other people spoking. No, that's
the last thing you do.

Speaker 1 (27:22):
Keep your mouth shut. I respected her wishes, even though
I really wanted to stand up for her. Last week,
Lilia called and said, Sean's best friend is getting married.
I'm a wedding planner and she wants me to plan
the wedding.

Speaker 2 (27:35):
I said, sure, let's go.

Speaker 1 (27:37):
This weekend, Sewn's best friend and his fiance had a
joint bachelor and bachelorette party. Lilia is a bridesmaid. She
invited me to come along so I could meet the
bride and groom and probably officially become their wedding pan. Okay,
when I arrived at the club, Lily immediate Lilia immediately
grabbed my wrist and pulled me to the bathroom. She said,

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Sean isn't happy. No one will take you seriously as
a planner. If you dressed like a.

Speaker 2 (28:03):
Slute.

Speaker 1 (28:04):
You embarrassed him, and now the groom will blame him
for recommending a crappy planner. What you're at a club,
Come on, at a bachelorette party.

Speaker 2 (28:14):
Like, what else she's supposed to do? You're supposed to
wear a suit? Yeah? Pants suit?

Speaker 1 (28:17):
I had enough of her at that point. It felt
like she was just using Sean as an excuse to
voice her own opinions. Literally, it's like a ventral question.

Speaker 2 (28:27):
Sean hates this.

Speaker 1 (28:30):
If Sean thinks I'm a crappy wedding planner for dressing
normally for a dang club, hope he says he can
get the groom a new wedding part planner. I'm gonna
do that, I said. If Sean thinks I'm a crappy
wedding planner for dressing normally for a dang club, he
can get the groom a new wedding planner, and I
walked out and went home.

Speaker 2 (28:48):
Am I the a hole?

Speaker 1 (28:49):
And there is an update? You're not the a hole?

Speaker 2 (28:53):
A doubt.

Speaker 1 (28:54):
I don't think Sean said any of that.

Speaker 2 (28:56):
I don't think he has opinion about nothing.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
I don't think he even exists. I think he sits
in a corner and he just nods his head.

Speaker 2 (29:02):
Yeah, dude.

Speaker 1 (29:03):
I think he's one of those guys, like you know,
those blow up guys at a car dealership. They're just like, whoo,
that's Sean.

Speaker 2 (29:08):
That's Sean. He's having a great time. He doesn't even
know you're, like what you're wearing?

Speaker 1 (29:13):
No, he's blind probably probably Yeah, oh man, your sister
sucks golly. Before we left, oh wait, update, I ended
up inviting Sean and Lilia out to lunch nice. Lilia
was still a little upset that I had dressed like
a salute at the club, but mostly things weren't fine.
What was she dressed like? Was she in a fold pansy?

Speaker 2 (29:34):
She probably wasn't as hot as Obie Loser.

Speaker 1 (29:38):
Before we left, I asked Sean if he thought my
outfit at the club was inappropriate. He said no. I
asked if he thought my mother's cooking was bad. He said, no, again,
he's doing it. She's freaking doing It's fun your advice.

Speaker 2 (29:50):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 (29:51):
This time he looked more confused. Before I could ask
him about another comment, Lilia grabbed his arm and pulled
him up.

Speaker 2 (29:56):
She said they had to go. Dude, you did the
same reaction that he would have done.

Speaker 1 (30:02):
Sean looked even more confused and told Lilia he wanted
to hear what I was going to say next.

Speaker 2 (30:07):
Uh oh.

Speaker 1 (30:08):
She looked visibly angry, and after I asked him if
he thought the decorations were tacky, Lilia said, if you're
not coming, I'm leaving without you. She ran to the
car before either of us could stop her.

Speaker 2 (30:18):
Oh no. Sean was really.

Speaker 1 (30:20):
Confused and asked why I thought he didn't like the food,
et cetera. I told him the whole story of how
Lilia was telling me. In my immediate family, he was
saying rude things. He looked completely shocked. Now he said
he never said any of those things, and that he
thinks the parties are wonderful. He explained he's just a

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little antisocial and gets nervous around people he doesn't know well,
which I totally get we freaking call this. He apologized
if anything he did was offensive, but I said.

Speaker 2 (30:51):
There was no need for an apology. I was like,
I just don't talk. I'm just so shy. I didn't know.
I didn't know he was to be something wrong. Poush
on man, just enjoying the party.

Speaker 1 (31:04):
People probably hate him, and he's like, I thought we
were all getting along.

Speaker 2 (31:10):
I really liked your mom's breadsticks. Man.

Speaker 1 (31:14):
This is like when you're at like a you're gonna
sleepover and you really want something from your parents. You're like, oh,
my friend, my friend wants ice cream. Yeah, I gave
him a ride home. Lilia took off with her car.
When we got there, my sister's car wasn't in the driveway.
I went to my mom's house next to drop off

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some stuff I had for her in the car. When
I got there, Lilia's car was parked outside. She was
sitting at the dining table crying, and my mom was
doing her best to comfort her.

Speaker 2 (31:44):
Ooh, she probably spread some lines.

Speaker 1 (31:46):
Yeah, we all know she's a liar. When my sister
saw me, she started crying even harder. I sat down
and waited until she could calm down. When she finally did.
I gently asked why she was saying all those things.
Lila said, I don't know, to.

Speaker 2 (32:03):
Make you hate him.

Speaker 1 (32:03):
I guess My mom asked why she wanted us to
hate him. She'd kept replying to our questions with I
don't knows before admitting the truth. Uh.

Speaker 2 (32:13):
Oh uh, oh, oh, okay, okay, okay, you just read it,
dang it. What do you think though, Uh, she's cheating
on him? No?

Speaker 3 (32:22):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (32:22):
She said she'd been feeling jealous since our brother Eric
got married. Oh, she said, like he was getting all
the attention, especially when his wife announced her pregnancy. She
also said Eric was always the golden child growing up,
and she wanted people to notice her just this once.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (32:37):
I never thought he was the golden child. In fact,
Lilya seemed to be favored over him, but maybe I
was too wrapped up in my own stuff to notice.
My sister decided to stir up some drama to get
the attention back on her. She used Sean because no
one in the family knew him very well, and it
was easy because he didn't interact with a lot of people.
She claims she wanted the attention so badly, even if

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it was negative, Wow, no such thing as bad press.
I guess apparently I will be a star, no matter
the cost, no.

Speaker 2 (33:07):
Matter if it brings down Sean's name or not.

Speaker 1 (33:10):
I don't care if I have to throw Sean under
the bus. She wanted to see how far we'd let
her go before one of us snapped. But you can
go far with us live every weekday a three pm
PSD on YouTube.

Speaker 2 (33:23):
Just have her profile. This is crazy how siblings get
jealous of one another for things happening in their lives.
I'm just trying to think, if my brother is getting
married and I'm not getting married, I can only feel.

Speaker 1 (33:38):
Happy for I cannot imagine being like.

Speaker 2 (33:41):
Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly, really weird.

Speaker 1 (33:46):
But also like, what does Sean do here? I think
because I feel like if I was Sean, I'd be like,
it's time to break up. Maybe yeah, just poison me
against her whole family.

Speaker 2 (33:55):
But I feel like Sean's just like I feel like
she's gonna she's gonna Lilya's going to.

Speaker 1 (34:00):
Come back to him and she's like, I'm so.

Speaker 2 (34:01):
Sorry, and he's like, okay, yeah, that's exactly what Sean's
gonna do. I would get rid of lily and keep Sean. Yeah, family,
I think so that's my move.

Speaker 1 (34:11):
H there you go, that's our advice. After a long talk,
she promised never to do anything like this again and
admitted she mostly did all of this out of resentment
towards Eric for always stealing the spotlight. My mom promised
to pay more attention to her, and she apologized if
she ever made Lilia feel like Eric was better than her.
We all hugged it out. Earlier tonight, Lilya called me

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and said she and Sean were going to couples therapy
and she was going to get individual therapy for herself.
I said, I was happy for her, and she can
come to me if she ever needs anything. I guess
that's it. I'll update again if anything else happens. Damn
that positive ending. She just admitted to being jealous and
everything was perfect.

Speaker 2 (34:53):
Okay, all right then, all right, that was an easy fix.

Speaker 1 (34:58):
Yeah, a lot of easy fixes in this EPISO said, wait, no, yeah,
in this episode. Yeah, but that's the end of this story.
So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

Speaker 2 (35:09):
We love you and see it tomorrow.

Speaker 3 (35:12):
My sister is a bully, so I threatened to throw
her stuff away to the streets where the bullies belong. Hi,
this is a long one and it's full of family drama,
so get ready. Oh boy, I'll try to make it
shorter by simplifying some of the events. I'm currently stuck
in a crappy situation that somehow affects almost everyone in
my family instead of the one person responsible for it.

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For you to get a full picture of what exactly
is happening, I have to explain the family dynamic. And
by the way, this comes from user a freight Requirement
thirty one on the r slash Okay storytime subreadit. When
I was about nine, my oldest sister, Amy fourteen at
the time, suddenly fell ill. She got bit by a
tick and the transferred lime disease revealed several others that

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were hidden until that point. Oh shout out the tick
that bit you and gave you live disease. U saved
your life. Yeah, she found your other diseases. This caused
her to stay in the hospital for several months. As
you can imagine, this made her the dainty saint who
could do no wrong in my parents' eyes and would
always get what she wanted. When she came back home
and was forced to be homeschooled. Most of her friends

(36:16):
had lost interest in her. Oh that sucks. This made
her so upset that she would take all her anger
out on the rest of us. While she was mean before,
this made her straight up abusive. First she took it
out on my older sister Alex. But after Amy locked
her fresh out of the shower in nothing but a
towel on the balcony in the middle of the winter,
Alex started.

Speaker 2 (36:35):
Avoiding going home.

Speaker 3 (36:36):
She went as far as signing up for random free
classes just to stay away. I mean, look, getting locked
out in the winter cold, right out of a shower
not good. How do you let that happen to you?
I'm sorry? How do you put yourself in a position
to be locked out of the house in the winter,
right after you get out of the shower.

Speaker 2 (36:53):
On a balcony. This sounds like Alex's fault? Yeah, I mean,
not her fault. It was Alex's fault.

Speaker 3 (36:57):
Not to victim blame, but how did you find yourself
in that situation? I'll tell you that that is that
is evil. We do not condone it. After that, it
was time for me and the youngest of us, Mia,
Amy would relentlessly belittle us, force us to do her
house chores, cook for her, et cetera, and.

Speaker 2 (37:15):
If she didn't, she would beat us up.

Speaker 3 (37:17):
At the time, I was about ten or eleven and
Mia was seven or eight. Oh wow, this sounds really bad.
If you're wondering where our parents were as it was
all happening. They were busy. Our mom was running her
own shop while being the counselor of our commune, wow,
and dealing with my grandma's hospitalization. Our dad, on top
of helping our mom, was overworking himself to the bones

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so he wouldn't get replaced due to her illness. Amy
was the apple of their eye and they would always
believe what she told them, no questions, no consequences, no nothing.
Even years later, after my father finally switched jobs and
the inheritance issues after my grandma's passing were solved, they
just turned a blind eye. During that time, Amy found
a new way of relieving her anger by drinking, which

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my parents also ignored. He has some l These are
some l per easy. These parents are not, you know,
intentive enough.

Speaker 2 (38:09):
Do you have an uncle or like a grandpa that
like spent a bunch of money on like restoring her car.
In a way, Yes, I feel like Amy is that
in a way because she probably like spent a lot
of time in the hospital, which is probably expensive, and
her parents are like, she almost died, we have to
make sure that she's okay, so they'll kind of like
turn their eye to her and not really like condone

(38:30):
any behavior that she's doing.

Speaker 3 (38:31):
Interesting, so even though she's uh, they're in a commune.
They're they're like, we need to get a return on
our investment in our daughter. I guess, well, get at
the roi of our daughter after getting super lime disease.
We're gonna need some more profit incentive coming out of
our daughter.

Speaker 2 (38:45):
Hey, this is the only way I can make sense
of this. Let me know the comments w you think
is the actual reason they're doing this.

Speaker 3 (38:51):
But I mean, I think you're pretty on point where
it's like the child goes to hospital, gets violently ill, Yeah,
makes it out, and now they're the golden child who
can't do anything wrong because you remember, I almost died in
the hospital, relieving her anger by drinking, which.

Speaker 2 (39:03):
My parents also ignored.

Speaker 3 (39:04):
When Amy was finishing high school, our parents bought an
apartment that was meant to serve as a stepping stone
for all of us. The plan was that each of
us would live there for a little after we reached
seventeen or eighteen, so we could have a better understanding
of how it feels to live on your own and
have a better start.

Speaker 2 (39:19):
Oh wow, that's a great plan.

Speaker 3 (39:20):
Yeah, that's actually well, so much for the absentee parenting.
They're like, we're gonna get you all an apartment so
you can figure out what the real world feels like.
That's pretty cool. Amy and Alex were the first ones
to move in. After a few months, Alex started complaining
to our parents about Amy until it finally reached a
boiling point and Alex moved away. After that, Amy's boyfriend
moved in with her. They were dating for five years

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and brought out the worst in each other. After they
finally broke up, it was time for me to move in.
I had to literally beg my parents because they wanted
to give the apartment to Amy since she's been living
there for so long. I had to remind them why
they bought it in the first place. When I moved in,
the once pristine apartment was a mess. Amy didn't take
care of her cats, she didn't clean, and when she

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got angry, she would smash plates and cups on the floor.
I soon learned that Amy was not only abusing alcohol,
but she had also become a drug and spices sleep addicts.

Speaker 2 (40:12):
Oh no, oh man Amy is.

Speaker 3 (40:15):
Sometimes she would be invading my personal space to the
point that I had to lock my door almost twenty
four to seven. Sometimes she would be gone for days
without saying a word. After stealing some of my money.
I kept asking my parents for help or any action
to no avail. I finally snapped when I woke up
one day to a naked man in our kitchen for
the third time in.

Speaker 2 (40:35):
A row naked man. Not only was he.

Speaker 3 (40:38):
A naked man, he was the third naked man in
a row.

Speaker 2 (40:44):
That's like you one naked man, tic tech toe, it's
four in a row. So yeah, mom, dad, help.

Speaker 3 (40:49):
I told my parents that they either do something or
they're losing another daughter. They finally sent her to rehab
for four months and forced her to move in with them.
So that was about a year ago. While Amy took
most of her stuff, a lot of it is still here.
The obvious ones I packed and put in the basement,
but the things I wasn't sure about I left in
the apartment. There are so many boxes in the basement
that you can barely squeeze in between them. I've been

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reminding her to take it away for months, but she
keeps shrugging it off, and so.

Speaker 2 (41:15):
Do my parents.

Speaker 3 (41:15):
Now that my partner has moved in, we really need
that space, and she still keeps waving it off. We
finally got fed up, and last week we typed up
a message to Amy, informing her once again of the
situation and asking her to take her things. Gotta take
your stuff, take it and get out.

Speaker 2 (41:31):
We give her a deadline of two months.

Speaker 3 (41:34):
We of course discussed it with my parents earlier and
got their approval as predicted. She threw a temper tantrum
about us being horrible and childish. When that didn't work
on us, she brought it up with my parents, who
called me to appease her. They tried to convince me
to give them more time, and we kept going back
and forth until Amy butted in and started screaming at me.
Our parents tried to calm her down, to no effect,

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as she kept yelling over them that I don't respect her.
I snapped when she sarcastically asked, what will you do
if I don't take them throw them out? And I said, yes, ooh,
you gave her an idea. Yeah, you gave OPI an idea.

Speaker 2 (42:08):
Amy.

Speaker 3 (42:08):
I mean, that's what happens when you leave your stuff
in a place that you don't live at anymore and
someone else moves in. If this person wasn't your sister,
your stuff would have been on the curb months ago. Months,
I said, yes. She became quiet long enough for my
parents to ask me if I was serious, and I
told them that it's not my stuff, so it's not
my problem what happens to it, and if Amy cared
about it, she would have taken it a long time ago.

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I told them, after the time is up, I'm leaving
all of it near the dumpster, and then I hung up.
After three days of silence, I got a call yesterday
from my mom that one comment turned our house into
a hell hole. Amy has been whining NonStop, yelling, crying,
and making it everyone's problem. My mom said that while
she understood my anger, she disapproved of my idea and

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asked me if I couldn't just leave Amy's boxes in
a safe house or somewhere else safe. I firmly stood
by my decision, saying that she's been living easy for
so long, but she got too comfortable with everyone doing
whatever she wants. Now that I've cooled off, I'm wondering
if throwing all her things out would be too much?
Would I be the a hole if I threw out

(43:10):
my sister's stuff out of the basement. Thanks for reading.
English is not my first language, so forgive me for
any mistakes you are.

Speaker 2 (43:16):
Forgive it.

Speaker 3 (43:17):
Some of you asked if I live rent free. No,
I pay rent and all the expenses. That's been the
deal since day one of my living there. My rent
is not very high in this part of the city,
which is why my boyfriend moved in. He used to
pay almost twice as much as we do now. Surprisingly,
my parents were the ones urging him to do so.
Oh wow, they're encouraging this spirits. I've always wanted this
to be the boyfriend bachelor, the boyfriend apartment. Uh uh,

(43:40):
when it comes to me, who's the younger sister. She
doesn't want to live here. As Amy was moving out,
I tried to convince Mia to live with me, but
she declined. She said that all her friends were living
back home and she wanted to spend time with them
before she went to college. Okay, she's currently preparing to
move to university. By the way, you can hang out
with your friends, which are us, live on YouTube everyone
weekday at three PMPST.

Speaker 2 (44:01):
Just tap our profile. It's crazy. OPI is the only
person in her family to stand up to Amy. Yeah,
she's she is standing her ground.

Speaker 3 (44:09):
She's just trying to on principle, I'm saying that if
you really aren't gonna come get this stuff, I'm just
gonna throw it away because it's garbage. If you don't
give her the ultimatum, She's not gonna come. And she
might not even come with the ultimatum, which I think
is why the mom is like, can you maybe just
not throw it in the dumpster? Just put it somewhere else?
And it's like, what do you mean? It's like, so,
am I gonna have to pay for that? I have
to now pay for Amy's junk to be moved somewhere else. Yeah.

(44:33):
I think a lot of this is coming from like
the Golden Child dynamic of feeling like, you know, Amy's
gotten away with everything and always gets what she wants.
So op's just being like, I'm not I'm not gonna
bend to this now. I'm setting a rule. If you
don't get this stuff, it is gone forever. My partner
and I are looking for a new apartment. With the
current situation in our country, it's very difficult, so we're

(44:55):
saving up now. He just got a raise and I
found a new, better paying job, so with some we
might be able to move within a year or less.
We don't plan on or want to live here forever.
Thanks for all your comments. We went through them and
decided to go with your idea of leaving amy stuff
on the front porch after the deadline. We don't have
a car, so we'll have to either rent one, pay
for a moving company, or ask one of our friends

(45:16):
to do us a solid. Anyway, if anything interesting happens,
i'll update you once more.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
Thanks for reading. Thanks for all your comments. Oh wow,
so they decided, so.

Speaker 3 (45:24):
It looks like they didn't drop it all off at
the dumpster. My sister is upset I didn't make her
a bridesmaid. Now she keeps talking behind my back.

Speaker 1 (45:32):
That's so rude.

Speaker 3 (45:33):
That is not very sisterly of her. Apologies for the
length of this, but please strap in and bear with
me on my background info, because there's a lot that's happened.
I twenty eight female, am getting married to my fiance,
twenty five male, in April of twenty twenty five. My
fiance and I were good friends for four years before
we started dating, and well before we got engaged, I
knew I was going to marry this man, and in

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the last several months beforehand, I knew the proposal was
coming soon.

Speaker 2 (45:58):
That's so cute.

Speaker 3 (45:58):
Yeah, that's always nice when you have a Yeah. By
the way, this comes from user lady z thirty three
on the r slash Okay Storytime Supper. So I had
already predetermined who would be my bridal party and had
picked my closest friend as my maid of honor, another friend,
a beloved coworker, and one of my soon to be
sister in laws as bridesmaids to start. I never anticipated

(46:19):
I would actually get married one day, let alone have
an entire wedding. Growing up, I was the black sheep
in my family and had insecurities, as most people do.
I had a few family members who would hone in
on those insecurities to bring me down further. And degrade
me all well before I had even reached high school.

Speaker 1 (46:36):
I'm guessing it was your sister.

Speaker 3 (46:37):
Though my older sister currently thirty female, did not start this,
she would chime in and further these experiences. I don't
mean normal sibling banter, but things that were outright cruel
in which I'd rather not repeat for the internet. Our
relationship got better as adults, but I moved a few
hours away to a new city.

Speaker 2 (46:56):
Long story short.

Speaker 3 (46:57):
She eventually had two kids and a life just as
I did, but we weren't close anymore. Sibling banter, family drama,
but not close enough for me to call her the
moment I got engaged or the second I had tea
to spill. Occasionally she would be mean or just immature,
to the point that I didn't want to talk to her.

Speaker 2 (47:14):
As an adult.

Speaker 3 (47:15):
I voiced things that hurt my feelings or didn't make
me feel good, but she either never took it seriously
or blew me off. Classic behavior for people who don't
respect you.

Speaker 2 (47:24):
They just blow you off.

Speaker 1 (47:26):
You don't need them in your life.

Speaker 3 (47:27):
Be like, hey, I kind of felt like this when
you said this to me, and they'll just be like,
shut up, loser, you suck.

Speaker 1 (47:34):
I wanted you to feel that way.

Speaker 2 (47:35):
To this point.

Speaker 3 (47:36):
Right now, I've only conversed with her through texts and
I haven't even seen her in person in a year.
My mom lives in the same city and I've seen
her countless times. After my fiance proposed, we ultimately decided
on each having eight people in our wedding party, and
at no point did I consider my older sister. For
relevant's sake, I will only mention a couple of key people.
My younger sister, sixteen female, and a couple of my

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fiance's sisters were included in my bridal party, in addition
to the women I mentioned earlier.

Speaker 2 (48:02):
I had asked each of them.

Speaker 3 (48:03):
To be bride'smaids within the week of my engagement so
I could start planning immediately. A couple weeks after my engagement,
my older sister and I were messaging about the wedding itself,
dates and details of the venue I found, and at
one point she said, it's okay. I wasn't invited in
the bridal party.

Speaker 1 (48:17):
By the way, Yeah, because her bringing it up is
definitely her being totally She's like, it's fun, totally fine, I'm.

Speaker 3 (48:22):
Glad you're okay with that thing that you have no
control over whatsoever.

Speaker 1 (48:25):
We haven't talked in a year, but it's fun.

Speaker 3 (48:28):
Even if you weren't okay with it, nothing with James stilln't.

Speaker 1 (48:31):
You still wouldn't be in the party.

Speaker 3 (48:32):
I was caught off guard by the audacity. I felt,
but truly didn't think that she expected to be a bridesmaid.
Rather than being honest and telling her she's selfish and
self centered, or even saying she's not in the bridal
party because those are the people whom you love dearly
and will undeniably be there to support you, I was
half honest and told her I didn't think she wanted
to be a bridesmaid. I didn't think there was a

(48:53):
way I could politely explain that last bit about bride'smaids
to her, because before planning a wedding, I didn't even know, well, that's.

Speaker 2 (49:00):
Why you picked those people.

Speaker 3 (49:01):
While asking for wedding details like the venue, the date,
and the time, she mentioned that she'd be there if
her managers let her off. I told her it would
be ridiculous to not get approval for a sibling's wedding
eight months in advance.

Speaker 2 (49:14):
Her response to.

Speaker 1 (49:15):
This was, well, they're petty, so sounds like you're petty.

Speaker 3 (49:19):
It's like, are they petty or are you just like
not good at scheduling time off at work?

Speaker 1 (49:24):
Yeah, it's like the day before she's like, hey, I
would like to schedule this the tomorrow off, and.

Speaker 3 (49:28):
They're like like, we can't, can't do that. And then
she's just like, wow, well they're parent petty, so petty
over here.

Speaker 1 (49:34):
They wouldn't let me come to my sister's wedding.

Speaker 3 (49:36):
Yeah, what do you guys see Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers?

Speaker 2 (49:39):
Because you're soups, you're just all petty. Your soup's petty.

Speaker 3 (49:43):
I knew immediately she was going to use an excuse
to not come to my wedding, which is fine, Yeah,
you don't have to come, but.

Speaker 2 (49:50):
I'd rather be told that directly.

Speaker 3 (49:51):
A few weeks after this, I was planning a small
weekend trip back to my home city for my bridal
dress fitting. I wanted my mom to be present for
that and decided I would love to have the extra
support of a few bridesmaids and my fiance's mom, just
the girlies, all of which I speak with and I
see regularly. I was excited to have my mom meet
and spend time with my soon to be mother in
law and sister in laws.

Speaker 2 (50:12):
It all went great.

Speaker 3 (50:13):
Yeah, well, I love that, and I found my dress
surrounded by care and support. During the trip, both my sisters,
my mom, my fiance, and I had plans to go
to dinner for my mom's birthday. Expensive restaurants aren't my
mom's style, so nothing crazy, just dinner and a hangout.
My older sister had said she couldn't afford to go
and pay for dinner for herself and her kids, which
I understood completely. If I wasn't paying for wedding costs

(50:36):
and had the money, I would have paid for instead.
I asked if she'd like to come to our b
and B to hang out together for her birthday, meet
my fiance, and so I could meet my month old niece.
I even offered to cover her gas. She said she
had to work door dash to feed her family, and
I left it alone. But the day after these plans,
on a weekend night, mind you, she was a couple

(50:58):
hours away driving in a whole different seat for her.

Speaker 2 (51:00):
Husband bought a school.

Speaker 3 (51:02):
I'm confused they didn't elope or anything, but she refers
to him as her husband. Arguably, she could be making
more money than the previous night, but she couldn't stop
by and visit. I'll take this moment to note that
it's extremely rare for even my mom.

Speaker 2 (51:15):
To be able to go to her house to visit.

Speaker 3 (51:17):
There's always a reason no one can come by and
see my nieces or my sister. Knowing that, it didn't
cross my mind to go to her house to visit
because it seemed like she just didn't want to see me.

Speaker 1 (51:25):
Yeah, I feel like she would have said come over
if she wanted to see it.

Speaker 3 (51:29):
Yeah, and it's what it's the boy who cried wolf
or whatever.

Speaker 2 (51:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (51:33):
About a week ago, I confronted my older sister because
she refused to talk to me, but was pretty open
with my family about how displeased she was with everything. Now,
my sister has a tendency to twist words around and
play the victims. So I made sure of two things.
The first thing is I told my mom I was
going to confront her, knowing that she would likely hear
everything from my sister. And the second thing is that

(51:55):
I made sure everything was done through text as proof
that I was trying to fix things. I asked her
what was going on between us, because I hadn't heard
from her essentially since she said she would not be
coming to the B and B, which was a few
weeks ago, and I've been hearing things from other family members.
I specifically said numerous times during our entire exchange that
I'm not trying to be nasty or malicious, that I

(52:15):
was just trying to clear the air and talk to
her to fix the problem. She sent a long couple
of messages, but I'll touch on the important parts. Well,
let me ask you this, and maybe it's just me,
but how would you feel if one of your little
sisters you grew up with and protected didn't ask you
to be in her wedding right away?

Speaker 2 (52:31):
Would you be hurt?

Speaker 1 (52:32):
I don't recall a lot of protection going on at
the beginning of that story.

Speaker 3 (52:36):
Yeah, I don't recall a very tight bond going down. Y'all.

Speaker 2 (52:41):
Weren't toys more.

Speaker 3 (52:42):
Things about how my fiance sisters and my little sister
are in the bridal party, And then she talked about
more things about how my fiance sister and my little
sister in the bridal party. I had told her that
I would be completely open and honest with her, so
long as she gave me the courtesy of listening before
jumping to conclusions. I told her that I wanted her
to understand my thoughts on things. I was honest about
what I should have said the first time, but again

(53:04):
not nasty or rude. I told her how she didn't
make me feel protected. She didn't really have my back.
She piled on top of the bullying and degrading comments
that I got from older family members. I know siblings
joke and tease, but that didn't make me hurt any less.
I then told her the real reason, how she makes
fun of me and says hurtful things even as an adult.

Speaker 2 (53:22):
I told her she always brought.

Speaker 3 (53:23):
Herself to be the center of attention, but I also
told her that when it came down to it, she
wouldn't be there to love and support me. She only
teases and makes fun of me when my wedding is
not about her or anyone else except my fiance and I.
She admitted to me that she was going to lie
and say that her manager denied her time off request,
which I already knew, but continue to tell me that

(53:44):
she just didn't want to come.

Speaker 2 (53:46):
Wow.

Speaker 1 (53:46):
So She's like, I'm gonna I'm telling you now, I'm
gonna lie later and say that I have work that
I don't want. You know, know it's because I don't
want to come.

Speaker 3 (53:54):
Yeah, she's she's just so messed up in the spirit
of being honest. Yeah, I was totally going to lot, totally.

Speaker 2 (54:01):
Going to lie. But I am.

Speaker 1 (54:03):
Extremely upset that I'm not your bride's man.

Speaker 3 (54:05):
Doesn't count because I'm telling you about it now. Yeah,
I'm telling you it would have happened. It's transparency, so
now it's not. Now, I'm just not gonna come. I
guess I had told her that her and her family
were still invited and welcome to come, but if she
didn't want to, I wouldn't even hold it against her.
I really just wanted her to be honest with me
and have a mature conversation about how she feels. But
instead I got responses like, Okay, okay, it is what
it is. Okay, glad we cleared the air. You know

(54:27):
it's really okay? Is it? You? Joy Time us on Okay,
story Time live on YouTube every weekday at three pm.

Speaker 2 (54:35):
Just tap on our profile.

Speaker 1 (54:37):
I think you your sister doesn't want to be there,
So let her not be there. Yeah, you don't have
to fight for her to stay. She's not supportive you
and an't want her to be your bridesmaid. She doesn't
want to come to the wedding. Yeah, let sleeping dogs lie.

Speaker 3 (54:51):
At the end, I told her that I loved her
and I hope things between us will change, but I
don't expect to ever have a response to that. We
currently are not on speaking terms, and she told my
mom she was done with everyone. My close family and
friends have told me that they think she's jealous by
the years of her pulling acts like this, with holding
my family from seeing her on her or her kids,

(55:11):
trash talking me left and right about how I'm the
favorite child because I make the most money, and the
constant backhanded comments. She's told my mom that we talked
about being in each other's weddings since we were kids,
but I think we said that once when I was
maybe six years old.

Speaker 1 (55:24):
She's like, I remember I recorded you.

Speaker 2 (55:26):
That was my core memory. I remember we were gonna
have our wedding.

Speaker 1 (55:29):
It was legally binding.

Speaker 3 (55:31):
She's like, my core memory is you bullying me my
entire childhood.

Speaker 1 (55:35):
It's like I wasn't. I was six years old. I
couldn't sign anything.

Speaker 2 (55:39):
I didn't even know how to write.

Speaker 3 (55:41):
I thought I was getting married to a cartoon when
I was six years old. If you made it all
the way here, thank you for your time and dedication.

Speaker 2 (55:48):
Am I the a hole? If anything?

Speaker 3 (55:50):
You sound like a fully matured and fully formed adult.

Speaker 2 (55:53):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (55:53):
We tried to have a sure conversation will your sister yeah,
which was not reciprocated because she is a child in
an adoor dasher's body.

Speaker 2 (56:04):
Body.

Speaker 1 (56:04):
But that's the end of that story.

Speaker 3 (56:05):
So that is we'll see you next time, see you
next time.

Speaker 1 (56:08):
My selfish brother always starts a fight, so I decided
to go no contact with him. Cut off, cut him off. I,
thirty five year female, am near the finish line of
a difficult and high risk pregnancy. While my fiance and
I were surprised I got pregnant due to my pre
existing medical conditions, we were nonetheless very excited.

Speaker 2 (56:26):
Congrass.

Speaker 1 (56:27):
By the way, this comes from Pink Lululemons on the
Okay storytime subvered it, so we learned early on that
we were expecting twins. I was referred to a high
risk o BE due to multiple gestation, my age, and
early near miscarriage symptoms. Unfortunately, at my follow up twelve
week appointment, we learned one of the babies didn't make it.

(56:47):
Oh after months of anxiety, genetic testing, being sent to
an even higher risk specialty university obgyn, we finally got
a clear that it seemed everything's okay with her baby,
but I need to take it easy. I shared these
experiences and fears with my family all along the way,
so they know it's been a difficult journey so far.
My brother, Mark, twenty five year male, has had a

(57:09):
long history of always starting fights with me and my
other brother over almost anything. If we don't acknowledge his
point of view is the correct one, he beerates us
until we give in and agree. Fast forward to this week.
My dog has been staying with my parents since the
beginning of my pregnancy because I found out I'm allergic
to him. Since I stopped taking all my daily medications
except prenatal supplements, I was breaking out in rashes. The

(57:31):
allergy medication I need to take that works against my
pet allergies is not approved by my doctor.

Speaker 3 (57:37):
No Oh, so ic she was already taking the anti
acty medicine, probably for other reasons. Yeah, and then realize
I'm also allergic to my dog.

Speaker 2 (57:46):
That really sucks, thinks.

Speaker 1 (57:48):
My parents agreed to house my dog until after the
pregnancy and two to three months after the baby is born.
My dog is not fixed, and I told my dad
I can get him fixed before moving in with him,
because they have an unfixed female dog. My dad adamantly
refused because he said he always wanted to try being
a doggie grandparent at least once before fixing his dog.
He's like, cool, Oh, you can't fix your dog because

(58:10):
I want puppies.

Speaker 2 (58:12):
I'm trying to make babies. Dog the babies. He's like,
you're pregnant, I want more babies. I'm the matchmaker.

Speaker 1 (58:19):
Well, my dad's dog was expecting, but she needed to
have an emergency sea section and the puppies didn't make it. No,
this is so sad. I was visiting my parents when
this happened. My dad wasn't back yet from the vet,
and I received a call from my brother Mark. He
tells me that my dad called him to tell him
the bad news and that he not my dad, feels
like it would be better if I take my dog

(58:41):
home as my dad's dog will be recovering from her surgery.
I found this odd because my parents have a large house,
large yard, and kennels for the dogs to keep them separate.
I asked him if this was my dad's request. He
said no, but that he feels it would be better
if I took him home for my dad's dog's sake.

Speaker 3 (58:58):
I want the dog that open he's allergic to while
she's pregnant. Yeah, to be back in O piece.

Speaker 1 (59:03):
It's weird that it seems like they're prioritizing the dog's
pregnancy over O piece.

Speaker 3 (59:08):
Even though it does suck, and I feel for the dog, Glarus.
Maybe prioritize the maybe yeah, maybe human human baby pregnancy priority.

Speaker 1 (59:18):
Yeah, maybe that's just me. So this is coming from
the brother. Okay, for reference, my brother lives with my
parents rent free and only has to pay for his
car and phone bill. He has a part time job
and helps around the house minimally. According to my parents
or are you kidding me?

Speaker 2 (59:31):
This is because he doesn't want to have to take
care of the dog.

Speaker 1 (59:34):
Dogs.

Speaker 2 (59:35):
There's too much dogs in the house. Yeah, you gotta
get rid of one. Can you please take your dog back?
I don't care that you pregnant. I don't want to
deal with them. They're making me walk him.

Speaker 1 (59:45):
He has a part time job and helps around the
house minimally, according to my parents. I was feeling conflicted
because I felt really sad for my dad and his dog,
but also now I can't take my dog home while
thirty eight weeks pregnant, and my fiance is also focused
on helping me out and the postpartum. I'm scheduled for
a c section next week and feel like i'll be
recovering from that as well. I asked my mom about it,

(01:00:06):
relate my brother's concerns to her and asked her if
she thinks I should take my dog home.

Speaker 3 (01:00:10):
She said absolutely that yeah, because she's sane, because she
understands person that you're pregnant and that's a.

Speaker 1 (01:00:17):
Little bit more important than your dog's pregnancy.

Speaker 3 (01:00:20):
You don't need to take care of the dog right now, she.

Speaker 1 (01:00:22):
Said, absolutely not. That they have plenty of room to
keep the dogs separated, and I should not risk my
health or baby's health by risking having allergies to my
dog or taking on extra care for him. So near
my delivery date, my dad arrived home and hearing his
sadness was utterly heartbreaking. He came home holding his dog
and was very teary, and I just hugged him while

(01:00:44):
he vented. His dog was alive and recovering. She was
just a little sedated and got fixed so she can't
get pregnant again. It was her puppies that didn't survive
three total. I received a text from my brother a
little few minutes later, and he stated that he would
feel better if my dog wasn't around.

Speaker 2 (01:01:02):
Who cares what you think do? You're rendfree? You live
there for free.

Speaker 1 (01:01:08):
You got you have no one living rent free in
your body, and you're living rent free in your parents' house,
so you don't have.

Speaker 2 (01:01:14):
A say I'm gonna hit you with the John Shut
up is.

Speaker 1 (01:01:18):
Shut up exactly. He had a feeling my dad didn't
know how to handle the possibility of something bad happening
to the puppies, and he didn't want my dad's dog
to go through a difficult surgery recovery. I go outside
and call my brother and tell him. I talked about
taking my dog home with my mom, and she said
it was not necessary for me to take my dog.
They would just keep them in separate kennels and that

(01:01:39):
I can't take him anyways because I'm allergic dim and
I'm thirty eight weeks pregnant and not sure I can
care for him right now anyways. He just reiterated that
he feels like, right now, my dad's dog needs space
and it's not okay for my dog to be there.
Why don't you shut up?

Speaker 3 (01:01:56):
I'm I'm so I want to throw this guy into
the sun, into the sun. He's like, I really think
the dog.

Speaker 1 (01:02:05):
Yeah, deserves a little bit more care for the dog.
You know, the dog's going through really hard time. Might
know you're just feeling a little sad.

Speaker 3 (01:02:13):
I'm just feeling a lot of empathy for this dog
because I'm kind of an EmPATH because because I hate
my sister.

Speaker 1 (01:02:20):
I hate my sister, and I love this dog. So
I was honestly pissed off at this point and told
him that again, I'm thirty eight weeks pregnant and I
don't want to do anything extra to risk my health
and that it feels like he cares more about a
dog's health than his own sister. As soon as those
words left my mouth, he started cussing. He told me, Ef, you,

(01:02:43):
how dare I say that about him. I retaliated and
also yelled at him on the phone. If you you
are an entitled brat and a complete and utterly selfish idiot.

Speaker 2 (01:02:53):
Yeah, and up on him.

Speaker 3 (01:02:55):
I mean that.

Speaker 2 (01:02:55):
Yeah, you don't want to be like having to yell
at people who are screaming at you. But he literally
just proved that you're right.

Speaker 3 (01:03:03):
Like he's clearly prioritizing care you over the dog over you.

Speaker 1 (01:03:08):
I started crying in the backyard and started having very
strong Braxton Hicks contractions.

Speaker 2 (01:03:13):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
My parents asked me what happened. I told them about
my brother's text and our phone conversation and us cussing
each other out. My dad said, my brother acted out
of line and that my dog is staying. You know
what they should do, keep the dog, get rid of
the brother.

Speaker 2 (01:03:27):
Yeah, get rid of the brother.

Speaker 3 (01:03:29):
Send the brother to get fixed, because this guy shouldn't
be reproducing.

Speaker 2 (01:03:32):
Nope.

Speaker 1 (01:03:32):
My dad starts crying, stating he hates seeing his children fight.
I felt horrible about making my dad cry. I apologize
to my dad for fighting. But you know what would
make me cry if you didn't join us live every
week to three pm PST on YouTube. You just have
to tap our profile.

Speaker 2 (01:03:48):
Just happen. Don't make her cry, don't make me, don't
make me cry. Please.

Speaker 1 (01:03:52):
Well, what's your advice for o P.

Speaker 3 (01:03:54):
I mean I think that you've basically you know, you
need to be taking it easy anyway. Yeah, and your
brother is definitely not mature enough to even have the
conversation with you about it.

Speaker 2 (01:04:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:04:06):
I honestly think at least until after your you give birth,
maybe we just put him on do not disturb, yeah,
or block him just stop let him.

Speaker 2 (01:04:15):
Talk to you.

Speaker 3 (01:04:15):
Yeah, block the brother, don't don't let him get involved,
and give you these contracts. I don't know what those
contractions are, but they don't sound good. Painful, painful Braxton
Higgs contractions. All because your brother is too selfish to
even take care of a dog that he probably wouldn't
have to take care.

Speaker 1 (01:04:28):
Of me, not even doing anything.

Speaker 3 (01:04:30):
The parents will take care of the dog just like
they take care of him. Cut him off because he's
affecting too much, too much stress. You're uterine area. He
should not be influencing that.

Speaker 1 (01:04:40):
Nope, it's been a few days since the fight and
my brother still hasn't apologized to me or my parents.
My other brother and parents are telling me that I
just need to ignore him for now, and that he'll
never change, so just focus on my baby, and that
eventually he'll start talking to me again. My parents said
that whenever they disagree with him or question him on anything,
he throws these fits and eventually talks to them again.

(01:05:03):
There are numerous examples over the years of Mark just
not caring about anyone other than himself. And I'm seriously
considering going no contact with him for a while.

Speaker 2 (01:05:12):
I think you should.

Speaker 3 (01:05:12):
You one hundred percent should, because he's prioritizing a dog
over you.

Speaker 1 (01:05:16):
My family said I'd be going overboard if I do
cut him off, and that he's family and we should
always stick together. Am I the ale for going load
and no contact with my brother over this? No, you're
not the ale. I think you should.

Speaker 2 (01:05:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:05:28):
And also the fact that your parents and your other
brother don't seem to be taking this as seriously.

Speaker 2 (01:05:34):
They really should.

Speaker 3 (01:05:35):
They really are kind of treating this like it's like,
especially with your brother being You're like, yeah, don't worry
if you just ignore him, he kind of comes.

Speaker 2 (01:05:43):
Around like he's a mellow out.

Speaker 1 (01:05:45):
Yeah, Like you know, it's like when we have we
introduce Ava to people, I'm just just ignore her.

Speaker 2 (01:05:51):
She's gonna bark at you. She's got a bark, but
we promised.

Speaker 3 (01:05:56):
Just give her some time to feel you're not pregnant
and he'll really okay.

Speaker 1 (01:06:00):
Like, why is he still living with Why are you
condoning his actions? The fact that they let him live
rent free while he's behaving like this. He's not a child,
but that is the end of that story. We'll see
you next time.

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