Today, I sit down with Ed Mylett to talk about the value of forming positive habits. Ed and I discuss how changing our mindset into doing one more thing daily can lead to achieving more goals, finding every opportunity as a growth ladder, and learning how to appreciate the talent you have in you to help improve your life.
Ed Mylett is an entrepreneur, speaker, author, and high-performance coach. He is known for his motivational speaking and coaching on leadership, personal development, and peak performance. He has a large following on social media and hosts a podcast called "The Ed Mylett Show," where he interviews successful people and shares insights on how to achieve success and fulfillment in life. His latest book, The Power of One More is an indispensable roadmap to realizing and exceeding your personal and professional goals by tapping into the superpowers and gifts you already have inside you.
You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.
What We Discuss:
- 00:00 Intro
- 04:14 When you’re one step away from changing the trajectory of your life
- 06:37 The difference of stacking one more day to completely change yourself
- 10:34 If you can survive the temporary, there’s growth at the end of every phase
- 12:04 Separate yourself from the outcome and just be present in the moment
- 16:49 “You only understand the power of one day when you’re threatened with never having another one.”
- 20:47 What’s your ‘one more’ that you’re working on right now?
- 23:11 “Just don’t quit for one more day and see how it goes.”
- 27:05 Why should you start doing one more thing to achieve what you think you truly deserve?
- 30:54 Make it a habit to always ask yourself, “What matters to me now?”
- 34:08 Don’t discount your own greatness because we all are born to do something great
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Episode Transcript
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You know, I think most people think Jay, everyone else
is going to die. I'll get around to be unhappy.
I'll get around my drink, and then it's another day
and another day, and they keep it in the distance.
You only understand the power of one day when you're
threatened with never having another. One the best selling author
and post the number one healthy wellness podcast. Hey everyone,
(00:22):
welcome back to Unpurposed, the number one health podcast in
the world. Thanks to each and every one of you
that come back every week to become happier, healthier and
more healed. And actually I need to start saying every
day because I know so many of you listen to
episodes every single day. So thank you so much for
our daily, weekly, monthly, yearly listeners. And I am so
excited to be talking to you today. I can't believe it.
(00:45):
My new book Eight Rules of Love is out and
I cannot wait to share it with you. I am
so so excited for you to read this book, for
you to listen to this book. I read the audiobook.
If you haven't got it already, make sure you go
to eight Rules of Love dot com. It's dedicated to
anyone who's trying to find keep or let go of love.
(01:07):
So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up,
or struggling with love, make sure you grab this book.
And I'd love to invite you to come and see
me for my global tour Love Rules. Go to Ja
shettytour dot com to learn more information about tickets, VIP experiences,
and more. I can't wait to see you this year
and today. I am so excited for this because last
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time he was on the show, you Guys went nuts,
like the response was unbelievable and I had so much
phenomenal feedback from this conversation. And today I'm going to
be talking to you about his new book, which I
want you to go and grab. It's already sold a
million copies, so it's tried and tested. This book is
called The Power of One More, The Ultimate Guide to
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Happiness and Success by the one Only Ed my Let,
the host of Max Out. Make sure you go and
read that book as well if you haven't already and
listened to the podcast. And before we dive in, I
just want to say about Ed that Ed is one
of the strongest, toughest and kindest people I know, and
(02:12):
I think that balance is just so unique. If you
saw him, you'd be like, this guy's gonna like beat
me up. But then you get to know his heart
and you're just like, wow, I didn't know you could
have both, and you have both. So I'm so you
have a strong heart too. But I appreciate and I'm
so excited to talk about this, and I'll tell you why,
because as I was looking through this, this resonates so
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deeply with someone who's always had to do the power
of one more and I don't I don't know many
people who know this. So when I first started, I
had a video series idea that I was pitching to
lots of top execs and top companies and they all
said no one cares about meditation mindfulness based content, so rejected.
(03:02):
Then I ended up pitching to editors in chief and
I started miss meeting all these people and networking at events,
trying to get them to notice me and see what
I could do. And they all said you're too old,
or you're too young, you're too overqualified, or you're too underqualified.
There were all of these statements, So then I was
out there that didn't work. I then ended up at
(03:23):
an ethnic minority TV training day in the UK and
they were training. I walked into this room were just
six brown and black people and they were teaching us
how to be TV presenters. And I went there to
just check whether I even had good skills to present,
because I was starting to doubt myself at the end
of it. At the end of it, they were like, Jay,
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you've got some many good skills. I was like, awesome,
Like give me a job, Like, give me anything. I'll
start like fifteen thousand pounds a year. Like I don't care.
They said, Jay, there's no jobs in media. And so
I was like, well, what do you want me to do?
And they would like start a YouTube channel and I
was like, well that works for Justin Lee, but like
that's like for one billion people, It's not going to
work for me. And it's really interesting. I read it
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Thomas Edison quote, and this is why this book is
just this book is this quote I'm about to share
with you. But with every tactic, with every skill, with
every tip, quotes are beautiful, books are life changing. Right,
This quote by Thomas Edison said, when you feel you've
exhausted all options, remember this you haven't that that's the
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power of one more. And so I have lived this
book in my life like I have lived this mindset
and it has changed my life because I've always been
just one step away, one habit away, one mindset away
from this amazing life that I'm grateful and blessed to live. Well,
that's the truth, right, You're right, And I think the
great lie in life is that I you know, some
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scriptures say, well, where there's no vision, the people will perish.
Whatever your scriptures are, really, do you have no vision?
If you ask the average person you want to be
happy or sad, what's your vision? They'd say I want
to be happy. You want to be rich or poor?
Most people say I'd like to be rich. Do you
want to contr tribute or make no difference in the world.
I want to contribute. Do you want beautiful memories or
no memories? I want memories. So there's a vision. Our
issue is depth perception. We think it's further away than
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it is. And because we think it's so far away, Jay,
we create patterns and behaviors in our life that perpetually
keep it there. Oh, and that's what we do in
our life. But what if that's the great lie of life?
And what if the truth is that you're one relationship away,
one meeting away, one conversation, one podcast, one interview, one
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new thought, one new emotion, one new tactic or strategy
away from completely changing the trajectory of your life. And
everyone that you and I know that we both work
with it were blessed to work with in our lives.
The truth is it was one decision, one meeting, one
extra rep, one more phone call, one thing they did
that change their trajectory, and then the question then becomes
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how do I do it? And so the strategies are
in the book, but conceptually that's one hundred percent how
you change your life. Yeah, and you're you're so right.
I was thinking about this this morning. Last year, I
had a double honeya surgery on the front, so I
couldn't walk for about a month. And when I second walk,
I mean like I literally couldn't move. It was like
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I was like I felt like I was teaching myself
to walk again. Like that's how it felt. It's really
interesting what you just said about how we perpetually push
it far away. I would wake up every morning and
my mind, or my initial mindset was like it will
be gone today. It must have gone today, Like today,
it will be fully healed. I'll be fine today. And
I would wake up and I wouldn't be and I
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would feel like healing was so far away. Yes, it
would be like eighty percent away. That I was missing
out on the one percent change since yesterday. You got it,
Since yesterday I made one percent change I was. I
wasn't feeling the same pain in my nerves. I was
able to be flexible by one percent more, and I
was missing out on all of that because I'm so
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obsessed with how far I was. That's the journey, and
what happens is when you live with an expectation that
these one mores exist, the reticular activating system in your
mind filters them into your awareness. I call it the
matrix in the second chapter of the book. When you
wake up believing, hey, I'm one decision away, I'm one
meeting away, one relationship away, that's not hokey. Your mind
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begins to filter the people, places, and things into your awareness.
You've developed something called sensory acuity. You hear conversations you
weren't hearing. We've all had that experience. Work. We're on
on your point. I can't stop hearing these people over here,
or you walk in a loud room, but you can
hear your own name auditorially over all the other names
in the room. That's because it's important to you, and
it matters you see things. And so when something becomes
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important to you and you believe it to be true,
the RAS goes to proving it for you. And where
I learned this ironical I talk about in the book
is my father was an alcoholic and had tried to
get sober many many times, and I'll never forget it. Jay,
we are driving to baseball game of mine or my
dad started crying. I'd never seen my dad cry before.
(08:05):
And he pulls the car over and he still isn't
looking at me, but he's crying, and he says, Eddie,
and then he turns to me and he goes, I'm
gonna try to get sober, and I'll never forget this. Brother.
He goes one more time, and I said, really, Daddy.
He goes, I'm gonna give it one more try. And
I said to him, I said, why would this be
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any different this time? And he said, never said this
to me before he goes. Because I love you and
you deserve it. Father, You can be proud of and
you can't be proud of me right now. And I
think every great thing we do in life is one away,
but it's also born from love. To talk about your book.
When you love people or you love something so deeply,
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if that love is greater than what the obstacles might be,
now you've got a shot to do it. Then my
dad gets sober, he comes home from rehab. I say, Daddy,
are you never gonna drink again? And he said, I
can't promise you that. I can promise you I'm not
going to drink for one more day at a time.
And he lasted the rest of his life stacking those
one more days up. And so I know the power
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of one more and jay the other thing. I also
know humans can change. I watched my hero do it.
I watched my dad live my first fifteen years. I
saw him in a lot of fights, a lot of
line a lot of difficult times, and then I saw
this man transform. And in life, we're most qualified to
help the person we used to be. And we think
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in life, and I hope everybody gets this, we think
that things were most ashamed of, embarrassed by our divorce,
our bankruptcy, or maybe We've just always been average in
ordinary this disqualifies me from being successful and happy. If
that's not true, What if the hardest things of your
life are the very things that qualify you. I'll give
you an example. You know, my dad got sober. Somebody
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helped him. My dad was going to take his life
or lose his family, and I didn't know who it
was till months ago, some precious human being whom I
didn't know, and my dad's darkest hour of his life,
Jay said, I'll help you. I'll help you. Little to
that person know, I'd be his son and I'd help
millions of people, and I'd be on Jay Setty Show,
and we both helped millions of people. And the more
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ironic thing that this person helped my dad is what
qualified them to help my dad. They were a drunk,
they were an alcoholic. They at one time, we're a
drug addict. They at one time, we're lying and stealing
and living in the shadows. The very thing that person
probably figured that disqualifies me from having a successful life
was the one thing that did qualify them to help
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my dad. So if you're listening to this and you've
had something you're ashamed of or a failure or a setback,
you're most qualified to help the people you used to be.
And that person that alcoholism they suffered with their drug
addiction helped my dad live those one more days forever.
That is the best explanation I've heard of how pain
tends into purpose. Right, the thing that brought you down,
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that broke you down, that made you feel like you
are losing everything that's right gave you back everything when
you use that to save the people that we're struggling
with it, and then then there's a purpose. And you know,
if you can survive the temporary pain in your life,
and all pain is temporary. I watch my father pass
away last year. He was in tremendous pain. Even our
bodies are only our souls are permanent. If you can
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survive the temporary. On the other side of temporary pain,
you meet another version of yourself, another insight about yourself.
And that's why it's so important to grow as a person,
because the more we grow and become a new person,
we can help those that used to be like us.
And that's why you and I are so addicted to
growing and learning, and we're curious because if you used
to be a broken person, and you no longer are
quite as broken. You can help broken people. If you
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used to be broke financially and you no longer are,
you can help people. Whatever you do for a living,
at one time you didn't know about it, and now
you do, you can help those who need to know
about it. And so you're immensely qualified if you understand
the power of doing one more. Oh, I love it,
I love it. Tell me about so let's say, and
you probably come up against this all the time. A
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lot of the people say, Okay, I'm going to practice that.
I'm with you, Ed, I love you, Jay, I'm listening,
and I go, yes, I'm going to practice the power
of one more. Now what I find And this is
why you're so great at teaching this, because you're not
teaching it as a gimmicker glitch. You're like a little
a little affirmation. This is like real, it makes sense,
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like it works. People get so tied to the result
that when they try it the next day and the
sales meeting doesn't go their way or the pitch doesn't
go their way, they go, oh, it doesn't work, it
doesn't work. Why didn't it work? And how should we
respond when we fail or get rejected them, well, it
didn't work because you're so attached to the outcome. I
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coach a lot of athletes. I know you do as well.
And one of the things that's a really nuanced thing
in life. It's great to have goals. You should have goals.
I want to do this or that, But in the
moment of execution, you have to separate from outcome in
the moment that you're executing and just be present and exist.
I talk about this in the book. Here's what I
would say if you're gonna win long term. Ninety five
percent of people have an operating system in their mind.
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They operate out of history and memory. Oh I like that,
And about five percent of humans operate out of vision
and imagination. So the reason we're so much happier, I
believe when we're children is we have no history in memory,
so we operate of imagination, in dreams and vision. But
at some age, some people it's five years old, Sum
it's eight, s it's eighteen, Sum it's twenty eight. They
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create a history and that history then becomes the operating system.
So even if they take on a new behavior or tactic,
they're operating out of a pattern of thought and belief
that's historic and memory based. And so the number one
thing I would say is begin to operate out of
your imagination again, out of your vision again, create from
that place. If you create from that place, now you're
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not tied to the result in that moment. You're giving
yourself space to imagine and create something new in your
life that I've never heard that in that language. Man,
that is so powerful. I you're so right about his kids.
That we don't have any memory or history, so we
don't have any blocks, we don't have any min and
begin to listen to the people around you. People say, hey,
you're the product of who you hang around. How do
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I know if they serve me or not? Here's way
one way to just deduce this, because they could be
beautiful people who care about you, and they might even
support you. But when you're with them, what are you
either of those friends you're with them, you're like you
remember when you remember you remember, remember that party, remember
that thing. And if your friends are constantly bringing you
to the filtration system of memory and history all the time,
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think this through. How often are those friends saying, hey,
what are you working? On now, where are you going?
What's your vision? What do you want to create? And
maybe that sounds hokey, but you and I have some
of the some of our both our friends have the
most amazing histories, and you can't get them to talk
about them. You have to work because what are they
still doing. They're talking about now and where they're going.
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Their viewpoint in their life is being present and having
a vision for the future. A formula for misery, a
formula for lack of creativity. Lack of productivity is constantly
being history and memory. Even if it's good, it doesn't
serve us and for most of but it's is not good,
and we keep living from it or trying to move
away from it. Create a new future. Don't move away
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from the past. Create a brilliant, imaginative, curious, vibrant vision
for your life. Oh I love that. Yeah, we're always
trying to create the same past, yes, as opposed to
a new future future. And I find that what's really
interesting about that. All the studies show that nostalgia makes
us believe that the past was more phenomenal than it
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actually was. If you remember that party you went to
a college, it's better in your memory than it actually was.
If you actually could have gone back and remembered how
you felt hungover and what you broke a bone or
whatever happened. But now in your memory, it's beautiful, beauty. Right,
So our memory also is slightly warped of the past,
no question. You can make things feel much better or
much worse sometimes, no question. But what's really coming out
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for me right now is this idea that it's something
you said a couple of moments ago, and it's a
thought for me. I remember the story that Vanessa Brian
told about Kobe Bryant after he passed away. I was
fortunate enough to interview him about three months before it,
before his tragic passing, and she told this story, and
she said that Kobe would play through every injury, He
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would play through every pain, He would play through everything,
even when the doctors and his coaches would say stop playing.
And she asked him, she said, once, why he still plays?
Right again, going back to our curiosity, it's not assuming
you know your partner, She asked him, why do you
still play? And this is just her and him, there's
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no cameras, there's no she's telling this story. But at
the time it was just them too. He said, it's
because there's someone who's paid for a ticket today. They
saved up and this is the only time they're ever
going to be able to calm. Maybe a son's boy,
maybe a dad's brought his kid, maybe someone's come to
the game. They're a lifelong fan, and day came today,
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and today is the only day they're gonna get to
see me. And if I say I'm injured, they won't
get to see me. So I'm gonna play that one
person he gets to see me play. And then he
goes and wins yes. And it's like, that's love. That's
that's what you were saying. Love for something is in
the present moment also, right, Love is not just for
the past. And it's funny how important one day is. Man,
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When my dad got sick, my dad got cancer. When
he first got sick, he goes, hey, my dad was
a dude. He goes, look, I'll fight this one time. Okay,
I'll do your little chemo and your surgery, but I'm
not gonna pour poison into my body. I'm not gonna
lose my hair, I'm not going to deteriorate. I'll give
this thing a shot once. If it doesn't work, I'm out.
That led to eight years have been fighting it wow, chemo, radiation,
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proton therapy, surgery, surgery, chemo, experimental chemo. And he did
lose his hair and he was in pain. And I'd
say to my dad. I say, Dad, you're suffering so much.
He said, you wouldn't suffer. He said, no, Eddie, I'm
in pain, but I'm not suffering. I choose not to suffer.
And I'm not suffering because I get to see my
grandkids again. And I am. I just said, Dad, why
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are you doing this? And he said, you only understand
the power of one day when you're threatened with never
having another one. I'll do anything for one more day.
Get to be with you one more time, give your
mom a kiss, one more time. Maybe I'll see one
of my granddaughters get married. And he goes, I'll do
anything for one more day. The beautiful thing is I
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was actually with Kobe a week before he passed away.
We're in the same gym our daughters played volleyball, and ironically,
that day I watched Kobe walk out of the gym.
There's only a couple of dads left. It was late
at night, he stayed and I stayed, and he had
his youngest daughter in his arm, and he was rubbing
his other daughter's back, and I remember taking note of
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it because I was with Belle at the other end
of the gym, and I remember thinking, I don't hug
Bella enough. I need to hug No joke, bro, it's
in the book. I went, I gotta hug Bella one
more time every day, not just once a day, plus
one more time every day. My daughter's gonna get extra
hugs because Kobe does that. What if I could have
said to Kobe when he got in his car, Kobe,
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you have one more week, brother. Tell those to you
love you, love him, get it right. Whoever matters to you,
make it right. Call your dad, make it right, Call
your mom, call your family. What if the day before
you could have said, Kobe, have one day left, and
my dad same thing. I was with my dad when
he had one day left. I was with my dad
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when he had one hour left. I was with my
dad when he had one breath left. And when we
begin to think of our life that way, the power
of right now and having one more moment and one
more minute is so beautiful. It's so blessed, it's so big,
it's so amazing. Why would we spend that minute in history?
Why would we spend that minute in the past when
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we could be fully present in creating a future. And so,
you know, I think most people think Jay everyone else
is going to die. I think they just I'm never
I'm not gonna die, or they go, I'll get around
to being happy, I'll get around to making my masterpiece
of my life. I'll get around to my dreams. I'm
gonna get around to fixing this relationship that's broken. I'm
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gonna get around to feeling those emotions. And then it's
another day and another day, and they keep it in
the distance until there are no more days. And I
don't care if you're eighteen years old listening to this,
twenty eight or forty eight. We don't know if we
have one more day, or one hundred more days, or
a thousand more days. But we know this, they'll eventually
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be a time where we don't have any more days,
And so why would we spend the ones that are
coming looking at the past. And so my dad really
taught me those lessons and watching and pass away, And
that's why I have, So I have a whole thing
in there of how to get twenty one days a week.
Run many days I get twenty one days a week.
We still measure time, bro, like it's nineteen Think about
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nineteen hundred. If I want to get you a note,
I have to write a letter out, stick it on
the back of a versus button. Eighteen fifty thirty days
later you get it. That was a twenty four hour day.
Now I can text you in two seconds. We measure
time the same way. So I teach you how to
change your time so that you can make that day.
It's maximum bliss, it's maximum productivity. What's one more that
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you're working on right now? Right now? I'm actually it's
an interesting season of my life. I have a TV
show that you know that I did with NBC that's
called Change that I think is you know, has a
chance of getting picked up. But my one more that
I'm working on right now for me and my life
is my peace. And so there's this guy, Ja Shetty
that's a friend of mine that introduced me and my
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family to meditation. And I'm giving myself the gift. I
don't just do it in the morning now, I've given
myself the gift of one more time. Every single day
I'm just emptying my mind and trying to be fully present,
and it's been worked for me. I've got that busy
type of a mind, but I have found that my
peace in my life. Most of us JA have all
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these goals of things we want to do, and they're wonderful,
and I believe in doing that. I think standards are
more important than goals because and I teach you in
this the book, how to set the standards that'll get
those goals. But we really don't. But we really don't
want the jet, we don't want the hit song. We
don't want the amazing relationship. We don't want the million dollars.
We don't want them. We want how we think it'll
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make us feel. And what if we begin to become
more intentional and outcome rated about the things we feel
in our life. And it took me a while, but
now that I'm older, when I feel strong, when I
feel blissful, when I feel peaceful is when I produce
the physical things that I want, not the other way around.
And so my one more's are more emotional focus most
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of us, then I'll come up for areer have an
emotional home. There's three or four or five emotions we
experience on a regular basis. I write about it in
the book, and no matter what happens, we find a way,
even if they don't serve us to get those emotions.
If your emotional home is fear, anxiety, worry, depression, anger,
you find a way every week to get that emotion.
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But what if that emotional home could become bliss and
peace and joy and creativity and ecstasy. And so I'm
working on one more beautiful emotion for my emotional home,
and for me, it's peace. I love that. I love
that answer, man, It's it's good to hear about what
you've been saying. That we're not living in the past
and you're like in the present. But to have you
answered that question that peace is your presence, like that's
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what you're looking for, Like that's that's the present. And
it shows that you're using this like it works. You're
doing it time and time again. And I love what
you said. It moves from the physical things into the subtle,
into the emotional, into the deeper. I think that's so profound.
What was that one more that if you didn't do it,
you wouldn't be here today. What was what was one
of those ones that like, ah, like that was the
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one that convinced me, apart from obviously your father that
you were like ah, If I didn't do that, wouldn't
be at my let today, I wouldn't be maxed out life. First,
the first business I belt was a financial business, and
I had had some success, Jay, like a lot of
people do in life. And then backwards and sometimes when
you get up the flagpole just a little bit and
you come back down, that's an emotional difficulty. It could
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be a relationship that was good that's gone, or maybe
it's saved some money it's gone. Maybe I lost a
bunch of weight and got fit and you gained it back.
For me, it was my business, and I called my dad.
It was a pretty wise guy now that he was sober.
And because I could tell you, man, I'd do one
more rep in the gym. I haven't done ten reps
on a bench press in thirty years. I've done ten
plus one more a lot though I haven't done forty
five minutes on a treadmill, but I've done forty five
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plus one more minute, ten contacts a day, never ten
plus one more. But the biggest one more was actually
something else. I called my dad and I said, hey, Dad,
it's not gone. It's the business is crashing and I'm
running out of money. Our power was turned off, our
water was turned off. Jay I had to take my
wife every morning. We'd lost our house. We're living in
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an apartment now. Then the water got turned off. You
can't cook, you can't bathe. There was an apartment building.
We had an outdoor shower at the swimming pool, and
I'd have to wear newlyweds and I'd have to get
up every morning, walk down there, and I'd hold a
towel up. Well. My wife took her shower every day
outdoors and brush your teeth, and then she'd switch and
hold the towel up for me, and I'd walk back
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up to the apartment. And I was so emasculated, so ashamed,
so embarrassed, and I was living a nightmare, selling a
dream to everybody. Every day. We can do this, A
lot of entrepreneurs or people can relate in their life.
And anyway, I called my dad that night and I said,
I think I need to pack it in. I need
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to go get a job and just I'm this success
thing is it's not for people like us. And my
dad goes, Eddie, you don't have to decide you're never
gonna quit, he goes, Just don't quit for one more day.
See how you feel tomorrow. I go, Dad, he goes,
just don't do it for one more day. And I
got the next day and I still wanted to quit,
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but not quite as much. And then I went one
more day and one more day, and I found myself
about thirty days late, I didn't want to quit anymore.
And thank god, the one more I did was I
went one more day without quitting, and I'm so grateful
I didn't quit on my dream. Oh wow, that is like,
oh my gosh, man, like you just everything you're just
dropping right now. I'm just like, I hope everyone is
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taking notes if you haven't been taking notes. And when
you take a screen shot right now of where we're
at right now, because that's what you're gonna have to
listen to again to take a screenshot share it. Tell
everyone to go to this segment, listen to that over again,
because I think what I'm hearing you know, is that
this is this is a lifestyle like This is a mindset.
It's a lifestyle. Let's every day, every moment way to live.
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This isn't just in the big business you're building. This
is me telling my wife I love her one more time.
This is me making sure I message my mom one
more time. It's me making sure that when I'm sitting
here with you, I'm always gonna have to ask you
one more question. You keep giving so much, No, but
you keep giving. Well, that's what you just said, it
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would never end. I think people feel like they try
to lot and then they start building up resentment and
like pain and bitterness towards that path. And a lot
of people also that I know, they just think that
there are some people that are meant to be. I
agree with this, and then there are some people that
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are not meant to be, and they carried that with
them and it comes from this like oh, yeah, you
were meant to be this or that person was meant
to have it. But for me, this is where and
I heard that kind of come up in what you
were saying to your dad, like it doesn't happen to
people like us. How does this rule? How does this
principle apply to someone who's in the best question. Ever,
because I grew up with no we have an alcoholic
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dad or a drug addict, or maybe you come from divorce,
or maybe your parents just didn't love you enough. Whatever
it was, didn't tell you they loved you enough. It's
hard to have self confidence. I was a little guy.
I got bullied in school and I just and even
at this age now, bro, I, if I'm being completely honest,
self confidence. We all teach that it's part of keeping
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the promises you make to yourself. But if you raise
the standard a little higher, you keep the promises you
make to yourself plus one more. Because for me, self
confidence didn't come easy. I think in life ultimately going
to get what you believe you deserve, and if you're
wound up wired like me, I didn't think I deserved
a lot. I didn't even have a dad who could
stop drinking, right. I wasn't six foot four, I don't
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have an incredibly high IQ. There's nothing really that impressive
about me, nor were people very impressed with me most
of my life. So that was my pattern, that was
my history, that was my memory. And so the only
I could wait around until I developed tremendous self confidence,
or I could begin to do things every day that
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we're small, they're not major. And over time, when I
did those one more calls, that one more meeting, that
one more book, I read that one more podcast. Not
only am I doing more reps, so the likelihood of
me being successful is bigger. But I started to convince
myself I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do.
Maybe I deserve things other people aren't going to get.
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And slowly, but surely, I started to convince myself I
did deserve it based on what I was doing, not
necessarily the caliber of my talent. Yeah, yeah, that was
the difference. Yeah. You just there's a thought I've been
having recently, and it's that comfort creates self care, but
discomfort creates self respect, right Like, it's what you're saying,
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that the one more discomfort every day, that's where self
respect comes from. Yes you don't great terms, Yeah you don't.
You don't start to trust yourself or build self esteem
or believe in yourself because you just say it to yourself,
it's coming. What you just said you got, Then take
one more meeting and see what you learn. You got.
Don't take one more risk, one more discomfort, and I
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guarantee you if you have a successful or happy friend, whichever,
how you would determine that, and you ask them this,
they'd tell you that that we're right. Yeah, they would
tell you, gosh, that's right, it's right. And the difference
between winning and losing, happiness and sadness is so small
it's almost it's almost scary to talk about. But the
good news is, I think I kind of know what
it is, and it's this one more. Absolutely, the people
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that I know that are the most successful and happy
have more uncomfortable conversations, They have more uncomfortable days, they
have more discomfort in their lives, but selected discomfort. But
one of the other things that I'm asking from now,
I'm like going into like the people that I know
that I'm thinking about and see their faces, and I
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want them to know that I'm asking for them. A
lot of the time, one more in the wrong direction.
It's right, can also be really misguiding sometimes people. And
I know you're a person of faith too, and so
so we can touch on this. Sometimes we're climbing the
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mountain and we keep doing one more, but we're actually
going further away from who we are, who we want
to be our faith partners. Right, We've we know people
who've built multi billion dollar companies but lost their kids
it's right. Or they've become famous and rich, but they've
they've partner cheated on them, you know, like reading a
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lot of those stuff, and you know people who didn't
do all of that. That's happened too. It's it's both ways.
How does one use one more and make sure it's
in the right direction. That's a great question. I'm doing
this now regularly because I've made some of those mistakes
of just and what I do is I check in
with myself one more time, Meaning it's important to ask
yourself what matters to me now. See if you we
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had this conversation twenty years ago, the things that mattered
to me then are so different than what mattered to
me now. But a lot of us keep operating out
of what used to Maybe you've achieved or pursuing a dream,
and it's really truly no longer your dream. It's no
longer your dream. It's when I was young listening, We're
gonna do a podcast, you say, hey, I need you
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on the show. People are gonna love you. You're gonna
get recognition, you're gonna get, You're gonna get all this acknowledgement.
And that would have been my hot button, my need.
You know, I believe in the six human needs. My
need was significance and recognition. And there's nothing wrong with that.
It's wonderful. And so that's the button to get me
to move, would be significance recognition. Well, I've been blessed
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the last thirty years or so of my life to
have a beautiful abundance of significance and recognition. It's no
longer what fills me. Now you get me to do
an interview, you go, hey, I really think we could
help some people. My big button in my life now
is contribution. There was another stage in my life. It's
still there, but hey, if you go there, you'll grow.
I still want to grow, but I know me now
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right now, I'm in a season of my life that's contribution.
It's giving, it's what fills my heart. And I think
it's checking in with yourself one more time. What matters
to me? Now? What do I want? Now? What's important
to me? Now? What season? Maybe you're in a season
where you need to rest. Maybe your spirit and everything
about you's telling you, Hey, it's time to feed you again,
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it's time to recharge. If that's the season, then answer
that call. Don't play out of a past playbook. And
so for me, that's the season I'm in now. And
I'm sure that in five or eight more years, you know,
there'll be something else. But I regularly on a monthly basis.
You recommend it in your book so beautifully about your
relationship checking in. You have these strategies you teach about
weekly and monthly and quarterly and yearly with your partner
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of checking in with them. I also recommend you check
in with yourself and what matters to you now. And
so for me, it's a matter of checking in now
so that I don't lose my family in the pursuit
of my business or lose mey lose me? Who am
I anymore? And I've had times or I'm like, this
doesn't feel like me anymore. Yeah, And I had to
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at least the ability to at least acknowledge that make
a change. Yeah. And I love that you've brought up
seasons because I feel like no one and on planet
Earth we don't have the power to change the season.
But you have the power to live this season. Well,
that's right. You can either be in the right now.
It's been raining right wherever we are, it's been like
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pouring down with rain. There's all this effort. You could
carry an umbrella. Whether you can tell how I'm dressed,
I'm definitely not dressed in my usual gear because I'm
dressed with the rain. I'm prepared because that's all I
can do. I can't make the rain switch off. I
can't stop it right like, I can't do that. And
so I love hearing that you're just learning how to
thrive in the season. And so if your season's telling
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you to rest, you can't force the season, and you
have to live it through. You have to experience you do.
I think you have to remember one thing, man. I
think it's as easy as a person to forget this.
And I just would love to say this, because you
have such an amazing reach, each of you, you and
I included. We were born to do something great with
our life. We were born to do something great with
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our life. And it's important to check in from time
to time of what the current great thing is and
me and sometimes we think it's the big things. It's
the people that are on both their shows they've made
this big movie, they've got this big song, they're this
big thing. What you know, who's greater the man who
helped my dad gets sober, or the fact that maybe
I've helped some people because my dad got sober, that
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one act was greatness in his life, that kind moment
with another person that says I can help you, let
me connect with you. And so don't discount your own greatness,
your own call to do something great. And it doesn't
have to be a script or a play or a
book or a speech or on social media. It's just
doing something great. And you matter. I don't mean this hokey.
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I'm telling you the truth about you. You matter. You
were born to do something awesome with your life. Your
family is supposed to do something great as a family.
And maybe it's just checking in and reminding yourself of
that and then asking yourself, what is that thing right
now in my life? And so I just think that
reminder is so important that you know, it's great to
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voyeuristically look in on successful people or what we think
or people. It's also important of the camera turn back
on you and go you matter. You matter, and that's
probably the most important thing we'd say today, Oh gosh, man. Yeah.
And you know one thing you just clarified beautifully is
that great doesn't have to be big, and big doesn't
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mean great, right, And I think we're so obsessed today
we are in that to do something great, it has
to be big, it has to be bold. You know,
when I think about myself honestly, and I can say
this to you because I think I think in these
sessions and when we spend time together, you've heard my heart.
I was one of those people who actually never believed
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I could do any of this stuff I've done. I
never set out when I started and I was like, oh,
one day I'm gonna be I didn't have any of that.
That's not how I'm wired. I was wired in like,
I want to serve. I'm want to serve whoever comes,
whether it's five people, ten people, I'm happy, I'll serve them.
And as I started to do that, I got more confidence. Okay,
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now I want to serve larger groups. Okay, let me
serve them. And then it was like, and I never
believed to any point that there were these arbitrary abstract
goals of like number one, this, like those one. How
I set out. And so when I'm listening to you speak,
I hope someone's out there thinking Jay, I'm like jan Ed,
I'm like you guys where it's like I don't vibe
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with all that like like motivation this, Like I just
vibe with the fact that I want to have a
great impact, like the person that helped your father. Yeah,
and you know what we've both found in our life too.
Just to give you insight from someone called me seasoned today,
you know this is that you know, the universe or
God really prepares you to step into the next room
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when you step in with some faith. And so maybe
it does start with five or six people, and maybe
that's enough. But perhaps in that space you're in, there'll
be a little door open and if you step into
that one, you'll you'll find I think we think I
have to have it all figured out. Wosni acts a
good buddy. I'm mine who started Apple. They didn't they
were a board company, they didn't really be doing this.
Someday they stepped into the next space. And one thing
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I think we also want is an immediate result. And
I talked about this in the book. Maybe be the
last little thing I'll share with you. But I went
to a birthday party as I was writing the book,
and it was for a young boy and they had
a pinata. They've all been to, especially Louie, California, you
have the pinata. And so what they did is they
took each of these little guys and they blindfolded him
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and spun them around. And they're all dizzy and they're
swinging and they're not even near the pinata. That's life.
A lot of times you feel like, man, I'm blinking,
I don't even know where I'm swinging right now, but
I'm swinging. And so each kid hit the pinata and
the candy didn't come out, and so they take the
blindfold off. That kid got tired. The next little boy
came up, spun him around, So like seven of them
hit this pinada. No candy came out. The last boy,
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the smallest boy, the youngest boy there, they filled the
blindfold on him. They spent him around. He swinging too.
That's life, you just sort of swinging, right. They finally
pointed him at the pinada. He hits the panada just once. Bam,
all the candy comes and all the kids jump on
and celebrate, and I'm watching that, and I'm going now,
who broke the pinyada? Was it the last shot or
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was it the cumulative blows of each of the shots
on the pinyada? Well we all know the answer. It
was the cumulative shots. Life's a lot like that, man,
that we're taking shots, but we don't see any physical progress.
But everyone more we're doing is calm pound pounding progress.
And in life you have to be willing to buy
into what is invisible progress. Most people quit on their dream,
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quit on their vision before the candy comes out. And
what you and I didn't do was quit. We just
kept swinging and eventually the candy comes out. The candy
could be your bliss, your joy, your financial success, your notoriety,
your contribution. But most people are hitting the pinyada of
their life and there's no evidence that's working. But the
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truth is there's a calm pound pounding of effect in
life that if you keep hitting your life's pinata, if
you'll stick around, there'll be some candy come out. The
power of one more everyone ed my Let go and
grab this book if you haven't already, it's going to
be a life change. I mean, I mean, you can
just feel the energy coming off this human being. Honestly,
(40:18):
I wanted to go read this book. I want to
go listen to the podcast if you don't already. The
first book was called max Out Your Life as well.
The max Out podcast ed you are just I mean,
your energy is infectious. I don't know how anyone can't
listen to you, read from you, hear from you, and
not feel like they need to change their life. Like
You've just given me a list of number ones that
I'm going to do one more. I hope that you
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keep coming back on the show. I hope that we
keep getting to connect offline. I hope that we get
to you know, keep spending one more day, one more
phone call, one more time together. Because so grateful for
your love. Really grateful man. Thank you so much. Thank you.
Everyone grabbed the copy of the book. I'll put it
in the link. I'll put it in the comment section
in the caption the Power of One More. This is
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the book was good. That was good. If you love
this episode, you'll love my interview with Kobe Bryant on
how to be strategic and obsessive to find your purpose
You know, I think most people think Jay, everyone else
is going to die. I'll get around to be unhappy.
I'll get around my drink, and then it's another day
and another day, and they keep it in the distance.
You only understand the power of one day when you're
threatened with never having another. One the best selling author
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My new book Eight Rules of Love is out and
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and today. I am so excited for this because last
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time he was on the show, you Guys went nuts,
like the response was unbelievable and I had so much
phenomenal feedback from this conversation. And today I'm going to
be talking to you about his new book, which I
want you to go and grab. It's already sold a
million copies, so it's tried and tested. This book is
called The Power of One More, The Ultimate Guide to
(01:52):
Happiness and Success by the one Only Ed my Let,
the host of Max Out. Make sure you go and
read that book as well if you haven't already and
listened to the podcast. And before we dive in, I
just want to say about Ed that Ed is one
of the strongest, toughest and kindest people I know, and
(02:12):
I think that balance is just so unique. If you
saw him, you'd be like, this guy's gonna like beat
me up. But then you get to know his heart
and you're just like, wow, I didn't know you could
have both, and you have both. So I'm so you
have a strong heart too. But I appreciate and I'm
so excited to talk about this, and I'll tell you why,
because as I was looking through this, this resonates so
(02:37):
deeply with someone who's always had to do the power
of one more and I don't I don't know many
people who know this. So when I first started, I
had a video series idea that I was pitching to
lots of top execs and top companies and they all
said no one cares about meditation mindfulness based content, so rejected.
(03:02):
Then I ended up pitching to editors in chief and
I started miss meeting all these people and networking at events,
trying to get them to notice me and see what
I could do. And they all said you're too old,
or you're too young, you're too overqualified, or you're too underqualified.
There were all of these statements, So then I was
out there that didn't work. I then ended up at
(03:23):
an ethnic minority TV training day in the UK and
they were training. I walked into this room were just
six brown and black people and they were teaching us
how to be TV presenters. And I went there to
just check whether I even had good skills to present,
because I was starting to doubt myself at the end
of it. At the end of it, they were like, Jay,
(03:43):
you've got some many good skills. I was like, awesome,
Like give me a job, Like, give me anything. I'll
start like fifteen thousand pounds a year. Like I don't care.
They said, Jay, there's no jobs in media. And so
I was like, well, what do you want me to do?
And they would like start a YouTube channel and I
was like, well that works for Justin Lee, but like
that's like for one billion people, It's not going to
work for me. And it's really interesting. I read it
(04:04):
Thomas Edison quote, and this is why this book is
just this book is this quote I'm about to share
with you. But with every tactic, with every skill, with
every tip, quotes are beautiful, books are life changing. Right,
This quote by Thomas Edison said, when you feel you've
exhausted all options, remember this you haven't that that's the
(04:25):
power of one more. And so I have lived this
book in my life like I have lived this mindset
and it has changed my life because I've always been
just one step away, one habit away, one mindset away
from this amazing life that I'm grateful and blessed to live. Well,
that's the truth, right, You're right, And I think the
great lie in life is that I you know, some
(04:47):
scriptures say, well, where there's no vision, the people will perish.
Whatever your scriptures are, really, do you have no vision?
If you ask the average person you want to be
happy or sad, what's your vision? They'd say I want
to be happy. You want to be rich or poor?
Most people say I'd like to be rich. Do you
want to contr tribute or make no difference in the world.
I want to contribute. Do you want beautiful memories or
no memories? I want memories. So there's a vision. Our
issue is depth perception. We think it's further away than
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it is. And because we think it's so far away, Jay,
we create patterns and behaviors in our life that perpetually
keep it there. Oh, and that's what we do in
our life. But what if that's the great lie of life?
And what if the truth is that you're one relationship away,
one meeting away, one conversation, one podcast, one interview, one
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new thought, one new emotion, one new tactic or strategy
away from completely changing the trajectory of your life. And
everyone that you and I know that we both work
with it were blessed to work with in our lives.
The truth is it was one decision, one meeting, one
extra rep, one more phone call, one thing they did
that change their trajectory, and then the question then becomes
(05:53):
how do I do it? And so the strategies are
in the book, but conceptually that's one hundred percent how
you change your life. Yeah, and you're you're so right.
I was thinking about this this morning. Last year, I
had a double honeya surgery on the front, so I
couldn't walk for about a month. And when I second walk,
I mean like I literally couldn't move. It was like
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I was like I felt like I was teaching myself
to walk again. Like that's how it felt. It's really
interesting what you just said about how we perpetually push
it far away. I would wake up every morning and
my mind, or my initial mindset was like it will
be gone today. It must have gone today, Like today,
it will be fully healed. I'll be fine today. And
I would wake up and I wouldn't be and I
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would feel like healing was so far away. Yes, it
would be like eighty percent away. That I was missing
out on the one percent change since yesterday. You got it,
Since yesterday I made one percent change I was. I
wasn't feeling the same pain in my nerves. I was
able to be flexible by one percent more, and I
was missing out on all of that because I'm so
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obsessed with how far I was. That's the journey, and
what happens is when you live with an expectation that
these one mores exist, the reticular activating system in your
mind filters them into your awareness. I call it the
matrix in the second chapter of the book. When you
wake up believing, hey, I'm one decision away, I'm one
meeting away, one relationship away, that's not hokey. Your mind
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begins to filter the people, places, and things into your awareness.
You've developed something called sensory acuity. You hear conversations you
weren't hearing. We've all had that experience. Work. We're on
on your point. I can't stop hearing these people over here,
or you walk in a loud room, but you can
hear your own name auditorially over all the other names
in the room. That's because it's important to you, and
it matters you see things. And so when something becomes
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important to you and you believe it to be true,
the RAS goes to proving it for you. And where
I learned this ironical I talk about in the book
is my father was an alcoholic and had tried to
get sober many many times, and I'll never forget it. Jay,
we are driving to baseball game of mine or my
dad started crying. I'd never seen my dad cry before.
(08:05):
And he pulls the car over and he still isn't
looking at me, but he's crying, and he says, Eddie,
and then he turns to me and he goes, I'm
gonna try to get sober, and I'll never forget this. Brother.
He goes one more time, and I said, really, Daddy.
He goes, I'm gonna give it one more try. And
I said to him, I said, why would this be
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any different this time? And he said, never said this
to me before he goes. Because I love you and
you deserve it. Father, You can be proud of and
you can't be proud of me right now. And I
think every great thing we do in life is one away,
but it's also born from love. To talk about your book.
When you love people or you love something so deeply,
(08:45):
if that love is greater than what the obstacles might be,
now you've got a shot to do it. Then my
dad gets sober, he comes home from rehab. I say, Daddy,
are you never gonna drink again? And he said, I
can't promise you that. I can promise you I'm not
going to drink for one more day at a time.
And he lasted the rest of his life stacking those
one more days up. And so I know the power
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of one more and jay the other thing. I also
know humans can change. I watched my hero do it.
I watched my dad live my first fifteen years. I
saw him in a lot of fights, a lot of
line a lot of difficult times, and then I saw
this man transform. And in life, we're most qualified to
help the person we used to be. And we think
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in life, and I hope everybody gets this, we think
that things were most ashamed of, embarrassed by our divorce,
our bankruptcy, or maybe We've just always been average in
ordinary this disqualifies me from being successful and happy. If
that's not true, What if the hardest things of your
life are the very things that qualify you. I'll give
you an example. You know, my dad got sober. Somebody
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helped him. My dad was going to take his life
or lose his family, and I didn't know who it
was till months ago, some precious human being whom I
didn't know, and my dad's darkest hour of his life,
Jay said, I'll help you. I'll help you. Little to
that person know, I'd be his son and I'd help
millions of people, and I'd be on Jay Setty Show,
and we both helped millions of people. And the more
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ironic thing that this person helped my dad is what
qualified them to help my dad. They were a drunk,
they were an alcoholic. They at one time, we're a
drug addict. They at one time, we're lying and stealing
and living in the shadows. The very thing that person
probably figured that disqualifies me from having a successful life
was the one thing that did qualify them to help
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my dad. So if you're listening to this and you've
had something you're ashamed of or a failure or a setback,
you're most qualified to help the people you used to be.
And that person that alcoholism they suffered with their drug
addiction helped my dad live those one more days forever.
That is the best explanation I've heard of how pain
tends into purpose. Right, the thing that brought you down,
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that broke you down, that made you feel like you
are losing everything that's right gave you back everything when
you use that to save the people that we're struggling
with it, and then then there's a purpose. And you know,
if you can survive the temporary pain in your life,
and all pain is temporary. I watch my father pass
away last year. He was in tremendous pain. Even our
bodies are only our souls are permanent. If you can
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survive the temporary. On the other side of temporary pain,
you meet another version of yourself, another insight about yourself.
And that's why it's so important to grow as a person,
because the more we grow and become a new person,
we can help those that used to be like us.
And that's why you and I are so addicted to
growing and learning, and we're curious because if you used
to be a broken person, and you no longer are
quite as broken. You can help broken people. If you
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used to be broke financially and you no longer are,
you can help people. Whatever you do for a living,
at one time you didn't know about it, and now
you do, you can help those who need to know
about it. And so you're immensely qualified if you understand
the power of doing one more. Oh, I love it,
I love it. Tell me about so let's say, and
you probably come up against this all the time. A
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lot of the people say, Okay, I'm going to practice that.
I'm with you, Ed, I love you, Jay, I'm listening,
and I go, yes, I'm going to practice the power
of one more. Now what I find And this is
why you're so great at teaching this, because you're not
teaching it as a gimmicker glitch. You're like a little
a little affirmation. This is like real, it makes sense,
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like it works. People get so tied to the result
that when they try it the next day and the
sales meeting doesn't go their way or the pitch doesn't
go their way, they go, oh, it doesn't work, it
doesn't work. Why didn't it work? And how should we
respond when we fail or get rejected them, well, it
didn't work because you're so attached to the outcome. I
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coach a lot of athletes. I know you do as well.
And one of the things that's a really nuanced thing
in life. It's great to have goals. You should have goals.
I want to do this or that, But in the
moment of execution, you have to separate from outcome in
the moment that you're executing and just be present and exist.
I talk about this in the book. Here's what I
would say if you're gonna win long term. Ninety five
percent of people have an operating system in their mind.
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They operate out of history and memory. Oh I like that,
And about five percent of humans operate out of vision
and imagination. So the reason we're so much happier, I
believe when we're children is we have no history in memory,
so we operate of imagination, in dreams and vision. But
at some age, some people it's five years old, Sum
it's eight, s it's eighteen, Sum it's twenty eight. They
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create a history and that history then becomes the operating system.
So even if they take on a new behavior or tactic,
they're operating out of a pattern of thought and belief
that's historic and memory based. And so the number one
thing I would say is begin to operate out of
your imagination again, out of your vision again, create from
that place. If you create from that place, now you're
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not tied to the result in that moment. You're giving
yourself space to imagine and create something new in your
life that I've never heard that in that language. Man,
that is so powerful. I you're so right about his kids.
That we don't have any memory or history, so we
don't have any blocks, we don't have any min and
begin to listen to the people around you. People say, hey,
you're the product of who you hang around. How do
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I know if they serve me or not? Here's way
one way to just deduce this, because they could be
beautiful people who care about you, and they might even
support you. But when you're with them, what are you
either of those friends you're with them, you're like you
remember when you remember you remember, remember that party, remember
that thing. And if your friends are constantly bringing you
to the filtration system of memory and history all the time,
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think this through. How often are those friends saying, hey,
what are you working? On now, where are you going?
What's your vision? What do you want to create? And
maybe that sounds hokey, but you and I have some
of the some of our both our friends have the
most amazing histories, and you can't get them to talk
about them. You have to work because what are they
still doing. They're talking about now and where they're going.
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Their viewpoint in their life is being present and having
a vision for the future. A formula for misery, a
formula for lack of creativity. Lack of productivity is constantly
being history and memory. Even if it's good, it doesn't
serve us and for most of but it's is not good,
and we keep living from it or trying to move
away from it. Create a new future. Don't move away
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from the past. Create a brilliant, imaginative, curious, vibrant vision
for your life. Oh I love that. Yeah, we're always
trying to create the same past, yes, as opposed to
a new future future. And I find that what's really
interesting about that. All the studies show that nostalgia makes
us believe that the past was more phenomenal than it
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actually was. If you remember that party you went to
a college, it's better in your memory than it actually was.
If you actually could have gone back and remembered how
you felt hungover and what you broke a bone or
whatever happened. But now in your memory, it's beautiful, beauty. Right,
So our memory also is slightly warped of the past,
no question. You can make things feel much better or
much worse sometimes, no question. But what's really coming out
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for me right now is this idea that it's something
you said a couple of moments ago, and it's a
thought for me. I remember the story that Vanessa Brian
told about Kobe Bryant after he passed away. I was
fortunate enough to interview him about three months before it,
before his tragic passing, and she told this story, and
she said that Kobe would play through every injury, He
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would play through every pain, He would play through everything,
even when the doctors and his coaches would say stop playing.
And she asked him, she said, once, why he still plays?
Right again, going back to our curiosity, it's not assuming
you know your partner, She asked him, why do you
still play? And this is just her and him, there's
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no cameras, there's no she's telling this story. But at
the time it was just them too. He said, it's
because there's someone who's paid for a ticket today. They
saved up and this is the only time they're ever
going to be able to calm. Maybe a son's boy,
maybe a dad's brought his kid, maybe someone's come to
the game. They're a lifelong fan, and day came today,
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and today is the only day they're gonna get to
see me. And if I say I'm injured, they won't
get to see me. So I'm gonna play that one
person he gets to see me play. And then he
goes and wins yes. And it's like, that's love. That's
that's what you were saying. Love for something is in
the present moment also, right, Love is not just for
the past. And it's funny how important one day is. Man,
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When my dad got sick, my dad got cancer. When
he first got sick, he goes, hey, my dad was
a dude. He goes, look, I'll fight this one time. Okay,
I'll do your little chemo and your surgery, but I'm
not gonna pour poison into my body. I'm not gonna
lose my hair, I'm not going to deteriorate. I'll give
this thing a shot once. If it doesn't work, I'm out.
That led to eight years have been fighting it wow, chemo, radiation,
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proton therapy, surgery, surgery, chemo, experimental chemo. And he did
lose his hair and he was in pain. And I'd
say to my dad. I say, Dad, you're suffering so much.
He said, you wouldn't suffer. He said, no, Eddie, I'm
in pain, but I'm not suffering. I choose not to suffer.
And I'm not suffering because I get to see my
grandkids again. And I am. I just said, Dad, why
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are you doing this? And he said, you only understand
the power of one day when you're threatened with never
having another one. I'll do anything for one more day.
Get to be with you one more time, give your
mom a kiss, one more time. Maybe I'll see one
of my granddaughters get married. And he goes, I'll do
anything for one more day. The beautiful thing is I
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was actually with Kobe a week before he passed away.
We're in the same gym our daughters played volleyball, and ironically,
that day I watched Kobe walk out of the gym.
There's only a couple of dads left. It was late
at night, he stayed and I stayed, and he had
his youngest daughter in his arm, and he was rubbing
his other daughter's back, and I remember taking note of
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it because I was with Belle at the other end
of the gym, and I remember thinking, I don't hug
Bella enough. I need to hug No joke, bro, it's
in the book. I went, I gotta hug Bella one
more time every day, not just once a day, plus
one more time every day. My daughter's gonna get extra
hugs because Kobe does that. What if I could have
said to Kobe when he got in his car, Kobe,
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you have one more week, brother. Tell those to you
love you, love him, get it right. Whoever matters to you,
make it right. Call your dad, make it right, Call
your mom, call your family. What if the day before
you could have said, Kobe, have one day left, and
my dad same thing. I was with my dad when
he had one day left. I was with my dad
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when he had one hour left. I was with my
dad when he had one breath left. And when we
begin to think of our life that way, the power
of right now and having one more moment and one
more minute is so beautiful. It's so blessed, it's so big,
it's so amazing. Why would we spend that minute in history?
Why would we spend that minute in the past when
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we could be fully present in creating a future. And so,
you know, I think most people think Jay everyone else
is going to die. I think they just I'm never
I'm not gonna die, or they go, I'll get around
to being happy, I'll get around to making my masterpiece
of my life. I'll get around to my dreams. I'm
gonna get around to fixing this relationship that's broken. I'm
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gonna get around to feeling those emotions. And then it's
another day and another day, and they keep it in
the distance until there are no more days. And I
don't care if you're eighteen years old listening to this,
twenty eight or forty eight. We don't know if we
have one more day, or one hundred more days, or
a thousand more days. But we know this, they'll eventually
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be a time where we don't have any more days,
And so why would we spend the ones that are
coming looking at the past. And so my dad really
taught me those lessons and watching and pass away, And
that's why I have, So I have a whole thing
in there of how to get twenty one days a week.
Run many days I get twenty one days a week.
We still measure time, bro, like it's nineteen Think about
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nineteen hundred. If I want to get you a note,
I have to write a letter out, stick it on
the back of a versus button. Eighteen fifty thirty days
later you get it. That was a twenty four hour day.
Now I can text you in two seconds. We measure
time the same way. So I teach you how to
change your time so that you can make that day.
It's maximum bliss, it's maximum productivity. What's one more that
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you're working on right now? Right now? I'm actually it's
an interesting season of my life. I have a TV
show that you know that I did with NBC that's
called Change that I think is you know, has a
chance of getting picked up. But my one more that
I'm working on right now for me and my life
is my peace. And so there's this guy, Ja Shetty
that's a friend of mine that introduced me and my
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family to meditation. And I'm giving myself the gift. I
don't just do it in the morning now, I've given
myself the gift of one more time. Every single day
I'm just emptying my mind and trying to be fully present,
and it's been worked for me. I've got that busy
type of a mind, but I have found that my
peace in my life. Most of us JA have all
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these goals of things we want to do, and they're wonderful,
and I believe in doing that. I think standards are
more important than goals because and I teach you in
this the book, how to set the standards that'll get
those goals. But we really don't. But we really don't
want the jet, we don't want the hit song. We
don't want the amazing relationship. We don't want the million dollars.
We don't want them. We want how we think it'll
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make us feel. And what if we begin to become
more intentional and outcome rated about the things we feel
in our life. And it took me a while, but
now that I'm older, when I feel strong, when I
feel blissful, when I feel peaceful is when I produce
the physical things that I want, not the other way around.
And so my one more's are more emotional focus most
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of us, then I'll come up for areer have an
emotional home. There's three or four or five emotions we
experience on a regular basis. I write about it in
the book, and no matter what happens, we find a way,
even if they don't serve us to get those emotions.
If your emotional home is fear, anxiety, worry, depression, anger,
you find a way every week to get that emotion.
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But what if that emotional home could become bliss and
peace and joy and creativity and ecstasy. And so I'm
working on one more beautiful emotion for my emotional home,
and for me, it's peace. I love that. I love
that answer, man, It's it's good to hear about what
you've been saying. That we're not living in the past
and you're like in the present. But to have you
answered that question that peace is your presence, like that's
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what you're looking for, Like that's that's the present. And
it shows that you're using this like it works. You're
doing it time and time again. And I love what
you said. It moves from the physical things into the subtle,
into the emotional, into the deeper. I think that's so profound.
What was that one more that if you didn't do it,
you wouldn't be here today. What was what was one
of those ones that like, ah, like that was the
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one that convinced me, apart from obviously your father that
you were like ah, If I didn't do that, wouldn't
be at my let today, I wouldn't be maxed out life. First,
the first business I belt was a financial business, and
I had had some success, Jay, like a lot of
people do in life. And then backwards and sometimes when
you get up the flagpole just a little bit and
you come back down, that's an emotional difficulty. It could
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be a relationship that was good that's gone, or maybe
it's saved some money it's gone. Maybe I lost a
bunch of weight and got fit and you gained it back.
For me, it was my business, and I called my dad.
It was a pretty wise guy now that he was sober.
And because I could tell you, man, I'd do one
more rep in the gym. I haven't done ten reps
on a bench press in thirty years. I've done ten
plus one more a lot though I haven't done forty
five minutes on a treadmill, but I've done forty five
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plus one more minute, ten contacts a day, never ten
plus one more. But the biggest one more was actually
something else. I called my dad and I said, hey, Dad,
it's not gone. It's the business is crashing and I'm
running out of money. Our power was turned off, our
water was turned off. Jay I had to take my
wife every morning. We'd lost our house. We're living in
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an apartment now. Then the water got turned off. You
can't cook, you can't bathe. There was an apartment building.
We had an outdoor shower at the swimming pool, and
I'd have to wear newlyweds and I'd have to get
up every morning, walk down there, and I'd hold a
towel up. Well. My wife took her shower every day
outdoors and brush your teeth, and then she'd switch and
hold the towel up for me, and I'd walk back
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up to the apartment. And I was so emasculated, so ashamed,
so embarrassed, and I was living a nightmare, selling a
dream to everybody. Every day. We can do this, A
lot of entrepreneurs or people can relate in their life.
And anyway, I called my dad that night and I said,
I think I need to pack it in. I need
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to go get a job and just I'm this success
thing is it's not for people like us. And my
dad goes, Eddie, you don't have to decide you're never
gonna quit, he goes, Just don't quit for one more day.
See how you feel tomorrow. I go, Dad, he goes,
just don't do it for one more day. And I
got the next day and I still wanted to quit,
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but not quite as much. And then I went one
more day and one more day, and I found myself
about thirty days late, I didn't want to quit anymore.
And thank god, the one more I did was I
went one more day without quitting, and I'm so grateful
I didn't quit on my dream. Oh wow, that is like,
oh my gosh, man, like you just everything you're just
dropping right now. I'm just like, I hope everyone is
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taking notes if you haven't been taking notes. And when
you take a screen shot right now of where we're
at right now, because that's what you're gonna have to
listen to again to take a screenshot share it. Tell
everyone to go to this segment, listen to that over again,
because I think what I'm hearing you know, is that
this is this is a lifestyle like This is a mindset.
It's a lifestyle. Let's every day, every moment way to live.
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This isn't just in the big business you're building. This
is me telling my wife I love her one more time.
This is me making sure I message my mom one
more time. It's me making sure that when I'm sitting
here with you, I'm always gonna have to ask you
one more question. You keep giving so much, No, but
you keep giving. Well, that's what you just said, it
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would never end. I think people feel like they try
to lot and then they start building up resentment and
like pain and bitterness towards that path. And a lot
of people also that I know, they just think that
there are some people that are meant to be. I
agree with this, and then there are some people that
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are not meant to be, and they carried that with
them and it comes from this like oh, yeah, you
were meant to be this or that person was meant
to have it. But for me, this is where and
I heard that kind of come up in what you
were saying to your dad, like it doesn't happen to
people like us. How does this rule? How does this
principle apply to someone who's in the best question. Ever,
because I grew up with no we have an alcoholic
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dad or a drug addict, or maybe you come from divorce,
or maybe your parents just didn't love you enough. Whatever
it was, didn't tell you they loved you enough. It's
hard to have self confidence. I was a little guy.
I got bullied in school and I just and even
at this age now, bro, I, if I'm being completely honest,
self confidence. We all teach that it's part of keeping
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the promises you make to yourself. But if you raise
the standard a little higher, you keep the promises you
make to yourself plus one more. Because for me, self
confidence didn't come easy. I think in life ultimately going
to get what you believe you deserve, and if you're
wound up wired like me, I didn't think I deserved
a lot. I didn't even have a dad who could
stop drinking, right. I wasn't six foot four, I don't
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have an incredibly high IQ. There's nothing really that impressive
about me, nor were people very impressed with me most
of my life. So that was my pattern, that was
my history, that was my memory. And so the only
I could wait around until I developed tremendous self confidence,
or I could begin to do things every day that
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we're small, they're not major. And over time, when I
did those one more calls, that one more meeting, that
one more book, I read that one more podcast. Not
only am I doing more reps, so the likelihood of
me being successful is bigger. But I started to convince
myself I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do.
Maybe I deserve things other people aren't going to get.
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And slowly, but surely, I started to convince myself I
did deserve it based on what I was doing, not
necessarily the caliber of my talent. Yeah, yeah, that was
the difference. Yeah. You just there's a thought I've been
having recently, and it's that comfort creates self care, but
discomfort creates self respect, right Like, it's what you're saying,
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that the one more discomfort every day, that's where self
respect comes from. Yes you don't great terms, Yeah you don't.
You don't start to trust yourself or build self esteem
or believe in yourself because you just say it to yourself,
it's coming. What you just said you got, Then take
one more meeting and see what you learn. You got.
Don't take one more risk, one more discomfort, and I
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guarantee you if you have a successful or happy friend, whichever,
how you would determine that, and you ask them this,
they'd tell you that that we're right. Yeah, they would
tell you, gosh, that's right, it's right. And the difference
between winning and losing, happiness and sadness is so small
it's almost it's almost scary to talk about. But the
good news is, I think I kind of know what
it is, and it's this one more. Absolutely, the people
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that I know that are the most successful and happy
have more uncomfortable conversations, They have more uncomfortable days, they
have more discomfort in their lives, but selected discomfort. But
one of the other things that I'm asking from now,
I'm like going into like the people that I know
that I'm thinking about and see their faces, and I
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want them to know that I'm asking for them. A
lot of the time, one more in the wrong direction.
It's right, can also be really misguiding sometimes people. And
I know you're a person of faith too, and so
so we can touch on this. Sometimes we're climbing the
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mountain and we keep doing one more, but we're actually
going further away from who we are, who we want
to be our faith partners. Right, We've we know people
who've built multi billion dollar companies but lost their kids
it's right. Or they've become famous and rich, but they've
they've partner cheated on them, you know, like reading a
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lot of those stuff, and you know people who didn't
do all of that. That's happened too. It's it's both ways.
How does one use one more and make sure it's
in the right direction. That's a great question. I'm doing
this now regularly because I've made some of those mistakes
of just and what I do is I check in
with myself one more time, Meaning it's important to ask
yourself what matters to me now. See if you we
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had this conversation twenty years ago, the things that mattered
to me then are so different than what mattered to
me now. But a lot of us keep operating out
of what used to Maybe you've achieved or pursuing a dream,
and it's really truly no longer your dream. It's no
longer your dream. It's when I was young listening, We're
gonna do a podcast, you say, hey, I need you
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on the show. People are gonna love you. You're gonna
get recognition, you're gonna get, You're gonna get all this acknowledgement.
And that would have been my hot button, my need.
You know, I believe in the six human needs. My
need was significance and recognition. And there's nothing wrong with that.
It's wonderful. And so that's the button to get me
to move, would be significance recognition. Well, I've been blessed
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the last thirty years or so of my life to
have a beautiful abundance of significance and recognition. It's no
longer what fills me. Now you get me to do
an interview, you go, hey, I really think we could
help some people. My big button in my life now
is contribution. There was another stage in my life. It's
still there, but hey, if you go there, you'll grow.
I still want to grow, but I know me now
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right now, I'm in a season of my life that's contribution.
It's giving, it's what fills my heart. And I think
it's checking in with yourself one more time. What matters
to me? Now? What do I want? Now? What's important
to me? Now? What season? Maybe you're in a season
where you need to rest. Maybe your spirit and everything
about you's telling you, Hey, it's time to feed you again,
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it's time to recharge. If that's the season, then answer
that call. Don't play out of a past playbook. And
so for me, that's the season I'm in now. And
I'm sure that in five or eight more years, you know,
there'll be something else. But I regularly on a monthly basis.
You recommend it in your book so beautifully about your
relationship checking in. You have these strategies you teach about
weekly and monthly and quarterly and yearly with your partner
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of checking in with them. I also recommend you check
in with yourself and what matters to you now. And
so for me, it's a matter of checking in now
so that I don't lose my family in the pursuit
of my business or lose mey lose me? Who am
I anymore? And I've had times or I'm like, this
doesn't feel like me anymore. Yeah, And I had to
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at least the ability to at least acknowledge that make
a change. Yeah. And I love that you've brought up
seasons because I feel like no one and on planet
Earth we don't have the power to change the season.
But you have the power to live this season. Well,
that's right. You can either be in the right now.
It's been raining right wherever we are, it's been like
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pouring down with rain. There's all this effort. You could
carry an umbrella. Whether you can tell how I'm dressed,
I'm definitely not dressed in my usual gear because I'm
dressed with the rain. I'm prepared because that's all I
can do. I can't make the rain switch off. I
can't stop it right like, I can't do that. And
so I love hearing that you're just learning how to
thrive in the season. And so if your season's telling
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you to rest, you can't force the season, and you
have to live it through. You have to experience you do.
I think you have to remember one thing, man. I
think it's as easy as a person to forget this.
And I just would love to say this, because you
have such an amazing reach, each of you, you and
I included. We were born to do something great with
our life. We were born to do something great with
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our life. And it's important to check in from time
to time of what the current great thing is and
me and sometimes we think it's the big things. It's
the people that are on both their shows they've made
this big movie, they've got this big song, they're this
big thing. What you know, who's greater the man who
helped my dad gets sober, or the fact that maybe
I've helped some people because my dad got sober, that
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one act was greatness in his life, that kind moment
with another person that says I can help you, let
me connect with you. And so don't discount your own greatness,
your own call to do something great. And it doesn't
have to be a script or a play or a
book or a speech or on social media. It's just
doing something great. And you matter. I don't mean this hokey.
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I'm telling you the truth about you. You matter. You
were born to do something awesome with your life. Your
family is supposed to do something great as a family.
And maybe it's just checking in and reminding yourself of
that and then asking yourself, what is that thing right
now in my life? And so I just think that
reminder is so important that you know, it's great to
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voyeuristically look in on successful people or what we think
or people. It's also important of the camera turn back
on you and go you matter. You matter, and that's
probably the most important thing we'd say today, Oh gosh, man. Yeah.
And you know one thing you just clarified beautifully is
that great doesn't have to be big, and big doesn't
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mean great, right, And I think we're so obsessed today
we are in that to do something great, it has
to be big, it has to be bold. You know,
when I think about myself honestly, and I can say
this to you because I think I think in these
sessions and when we spend time together, you've heard my heart.
I was one of those people who actually never believed
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I could do any of this stuff I've done. I
never set out when I started and I was like, oh,
one day I'm gonna be I didn't have any of that.
That's not how I'm wired. I was wired in like,
I want to serve. I'm want to serve whoever comes,
whether it's five people, ten people, I'm happy, I'll serve them.
And as I started to do that, I got more confidence. Okay,
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now I want to serve larger groups. Okay, let me
serve them. And then it was like, and I never
believed to any point that there were these arbitrary abstract
goals of like number one, this, like those one. How
I set out. And so when I'm listening to you speak,
I hope someone's out there thinking Jay, I'm like jan Ed,
I'm like you guys where it's like I don't vibe
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with all that like like motivation this, Like I just
vibe with the fact that I want to have a
great impact, like the person that helped your father. Yeah,
and you know what we've both found in our life too.
Just to give you insight from someone called me seasoned today,
you know this is that you know, the universe or
God really prepares you to step into the next room
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when you step in with some faith. And so maybe
it does start with five or six people, and maybe
that's enough. But perhaps in that space you're in, there'll
be a little door open and if you step into
that one, you'll you'll find I think we think I
have to have it all figured out. Wosni acts a
good buddy. I'm mine who started Apple. They didn't they
were a board company, they didn't really be doing this.
Someday they stepped into the next space. And one thing
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I think we also want is an immediate result. And
I talked about this in the book. Maybe be the
last little thing I'll share with you. But I went
to a birthday party as I was writing the book,
and it was for a young boy and they had
a pinata. They've all been to, especially Louie, California, you
have the pinata. And so what they did is they
took each of these little guys and they blindfolded him
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and spun them around. And they're all dizzy and they're
swinging and they're not even near the pinata. That's life.
A lot of times you feel like, man, I'm blinking,
I don't even know where I'm swinging right now, but
I'm swinging. And so each kid hit the pinata and
the candy didn't come out, and so they take the
blindfold off. That kid got tired. The next little boy
came up, spun him around, So like seven of them
hit this pinada. No candy came out. The last boy,
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the smallest boy, the youngest boy there, they filled the
blindfold on him. They spent him around. He swinging too.
That's life, you just sort of swinging, right. They finally
pointed him at the pinada. He hits the panada just once. Bam,
all the candy comes and all the kids jump on
and celebrate, and I'm watching that, and I'm going now,
who broke the pinyada? Was it the last shot or
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was it the cumulative blows of each of the shots
on the pinyada? Well we all know the answer. It
was the cumulative shots. Life's a lot like that, man,
that we're taking shots, but we don't see any physical progress.
But everyone more we're doing is calm pound pounding progress.
And in life you have to be willing to buy
into what is invisible progress. Most people quit on their dream,
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quit on their vision before the candy comes out. And
what you and I didn't do was quit. We just
kept swinging and eventually the candy comes out. The candy
could be your bliss, your joy, your financial success, your notoriety,
your contribution. But most people are hitting the pinyada of
their life and there's no evidence that's working. But the
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truth is there's a calm pound pounding of effect in
life that if you keep hitting your life's pinata, if
you'll stick around, there'll be some candy come out. The
power of one more everyone ed my Let go and
grab this book if you haven't already, it's going to
be a life change. I mean, I mean, you can
just feel the energy coming off this human being. Honestly,
(40:18):
I wanted to go read this book. I want to
go listen to the podcast if you don't already. The
first book was called max Out Your Life as well.
The max Out podcast ed you are just I mean,
your energy is infectious. I don't know how anyone can't
listen to you, read from you, hear from you, and
not feel like they need to change their life. Like
You've just given me a list of number ones that
I'm going to do one more. I hope that you
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keep coming back on the show. I hope that we
keep getting to connect offline. I hope that we get
to you know, keep spending one more day, one more
phone call, one more time together. Because so grateful for
your love. Really grateful man. Thank you so much. Thank you.
Everyone grabbed the copy of the book. I'll put it
in the link. I'll put it in the comment section
in the caption the Power of One More. This is
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the book was good. That was good. If you love
this episode, you'll love my interview with Kobe Bryant on
how to be strategic and obsessive to find your purpose
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