The Journey of Summer Reign

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It gets no better than this.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
You are now in June to Perspectives with Big Bang Bang.

Speaker 1 (00:10):
Let's get straight to it. It's never too late, You're
never too old. Stop being an idiot. Do it today. Hey,
welcome to perspective with Bank Today.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
I got my friend, my dog, Summer lane a k
A a perfect summer.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
What's up? How you feeling? I'm feeling good. Thanks for
having me. You nerves? No, okay? I know?

Speaker 3 (00:33):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (00:33):
We family.

Speaker 1 (00:34):
Yeah now, but you know these lights and ship.

Speaker 2 (00:37):
You're good.

Speaker 1 (00:38):
You born, You're born for this ship. Bright Yeah, made
for this ship. Smer for people, no person. Why you're mental?

Speaker 2 (00:47):
The mental's good, it's good. I'm at ease, I'm at peas.
I'm out the way. Is that where I need to be?

Speaker 1 (00:53):
How your your fans going?

Speaker 2 (00:55):
My fans?

Speaker 1 (00:56):
You're fast?

Speaker 2 (00:57):
My fat?

Speaker 4 (00:57):
Oh, my fast is going good. I'm not drinking, eating
from twelve to eight.

Speaker 2 (01:02):
I'm feeling good. My body feels good, rejuvenated.

Speaker 1 (01:05):
Look good.

Speaker 2 (01:05):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (01:06):
Hey.

Speaker 3 (01:07):
For people that might not know who summer rain is,
tell them whose summer is?

Speaker 4 (01:11):
Okay, summer is A beauty professional, I own a Salona
mess By here in Atlanta. We specialize in permanent makeup,
I last, extensions, everything beauty. I've served about eight thousand
clients Atlanta, have clients coming from out of town, and yeah,
that's what I'm doing right now. I'm in nursing school,
so gonna be a aesthetics nurse so I can do filler, botox,

(01:34):
all of the things. So it's been going well so far.

Speaker 1 (01:37):
How long you been doing that?

Speaker 2 (01:38):
Ten years?

Speaker 1 (01:38):
Okay?

Speaker 2 (01:39):
Ten years? Yeah, long time?

Speaker 1 (01:41):
So you're still over there the place you had.

Speaker 2 (01:43):
No, I'm no longer a far road. I'm in Roswell,
Sandy Springs.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
Rozel ro And what you're doing? You doing mainly teaching
or which one? Are you doing?

Speaker 4 (01:52):
No service clients more than anything I do train, So
I trained about It depends in pandemic.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
I was training about twenty five people in full.

Speaker 4 (02:00):
Classes a month, but now it's like one on one
maybe two people.

Speaker 2 (02:04):
So out a month, I probably do ten.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
What's the ups and downs and the trial and tribulations of.

Speaker 2 (02:09):
That, you know what?

Speaker 4 (02:11):
It's more of a trust thing with my service, says,
I do permanent makeup, So it's a permanent thing.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
It's gonna last a year or two.

Speaker 1 (02:18):
Makeup.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yeah, so it's brown.

Speaker 4 (02:19):
My brows are done, So it's like a tattoo. Basically,
it's a form of a tattoo.

Speaker 1 (02:24):
Hold on, right, what you didn't know?

Speaker 2 (02:26):
My bros were done?

Speaker 1 (02:27):
No, I'm saying, you saying when you're doing that, they
just they stuck.

Speaker 2 (02:30):
They stay, Yes, and how much they call seven hundred.

Speaker 1 (02:33):
Dollars and you don't got to just keep getting gotta
shake them up nothing.

Speaker 4 (02:37):
Now you still have to clean around them because your
hair is gonna grow, right, but as far as the
shape itself and the color is gonna stay in your skin.

Speaker 1 (02:44):
Wow, So a lot of people do that. It is huge.

Speaker 2 (02:48):
Beauty period is a billion dollar industry, but this is huge.
I never thought that I would see the money that
I've seen.

Speaker 4 (02:55):
And I have a degree in everything and didn't see
nowhere near or close to what I make now?

Speaker 1 (03:00):
So did it kind of like fall into your lep?

Speaker 2 (03:02):
What thing is? I was already a license hear stylist
to start.

Speaker 4 (03:05):
Then I transitioned to lash extensions and one day I
went to the nail shop and seeing the young lady.

Speaker 2 (03:09):
Beautiful girl, beautiful eyebrows, I was like, ya, all right,
so pretty?

Speaker 4 (03:12):
She was like, oh, they're tattooed on and I'm like,
what this is, I've been doing that for nine years.

Speaker 2 (03:18):
I was like what. She was like, yeah, my aunt
did them. She introduced me to her aunt. She was
Vienna Mee.

Speaker 4 (03:22):
She didn't speak good English, so I couldn't really train
with her, but she told me about the technique.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
I googled it and I found a company out of London.

Speaker 4 (03:29):
They introduced the method. They came into the States. I
flew out of town, did a three day class models
and it took off.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
Damn I believe it. Yeah, so you was like one
of the first people doing it.

Speaker 2 (03:42):
Yeah black, Yeah, one of the black artists.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
So let me ask you some so but niggas will
be dead that wrong. You go get a hairline.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
Tattooedirlines, Yes, I promise you. I promise you. So.

Speaker 4 (03:57):
So basically with the hairline restoration, what I'm doing is
the same exact thing. I'm tattooing a line, right, but
you have to keep your hair low like a buzz cut,
because if your hair start wrong, but you're gonna see
the ink that's in your skin. So it has to
be super super low. And you know how people their
barbers actually push they line back. I make sure their

(04:17):
line is nice and Chris perfect.

Speaker 2 (04:19):
They can shower you not it's no Beijing on a pillow,
you looking crazy. It's none of that. And a fifteen
dollars for.

Speaker 1 (04:28):
How long on that last.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
For two years? And you have to come back and
get the touched up.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
Damn it works. That shit looks beautiful. I didn't even
know where to were. Yeah, you know you know that
I said. I ain't never heard of just tattooing y
ey bruh.

Speaker 4 (04:43):
It's called microblading and on bray brows, so it gives
you more of a full makeup look.

Speaker 1 (04:49):
That's how women got enough. I ain't gonna get chaining.

Speaker 3 (04:52):
Something's got to understand that niggas don't pay attention to
the ship that y'all think.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
Niggas pay attention to.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
You don't think so.

Speaker 3 (04:57):
I don't if a nigga knowing that unless his girl
come home and tell him, you know what it is. Yeah,
you know what I'm saying that that's different. But you
just knowing about micro blade and broh, it's something else up.

Speaker 4 (05:09):
You come home and ask you to pay for work, like, babe,
want to get my eyeprows done?

Speaker 2 (05:12):
It's seven hundred dobs?

Speaker 1 (05:13):
What would you say, oh, yeah, whatever whatever you want.
But I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (05:19):
About but I wouldn't know about that because chant don't
get no get that, so I would never knew.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
She probably ain't know about that ship.

Speaker 2 (05:26):
I'm sure she does make up no sometimes you know
what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (05:31):
Sometimes I got her all right, gonna get my hairlines.

Speaker 2 (05:35):
You're not now.

Speaker 4 (05:37):
Look, this is the one thing I always said about
man that wants to do that. It's costcout microplementation. You
can't go back, right, So if you're bald now you
do this, it has to stay like that my ship grow.

Speaker 1 (05:48):
I just don't like how my faue head look with
the hell.

Speaker 2 (05:50):
I don't I like you all need you should do it.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
Yeah, I ain't gonna be need to do that ship anyways.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
I don't even try. Absolutely absolutely, you know how many
like street guys.

Speaker 3 (06:02):
I've done, get what I do want, I do want
They got now that she's just gonna be too low.

Speaker 1 (06:10):
Absolutely not, absolutely not.

Speaker 2 (06:12):
Well it's absolutely not on your face, baby, that ain't it.
He can't clean long out the way, don't do that.

Speaker 1 (06:22):
He gets up so uh so so you be very
busy there, right, very business.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
So how is it trying to, you know, maintain a
relationship and being a boss at.

Speaker 1 (06:34):
The same time.

Speaker 4 (06:34):
You Know, the funny thing is, when I was doing
men's services, like on a regular basis, my ex at
the time.

Speaker 2 (06:40):
Told me to cut it. I had to cut it
because he would be upset. He will pull up at
my shop and see me doing a console with the
man and be hot.

Speaker 1 (06:48):
Wow. I don't know.

Speaker 4 (06:49):
I don't know if it's he's thinking they're coming to
me to try to talk to me or date me.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
It was only business.

Speaker 4 (06:55):
So with that part, I kind of slowed my business
down with the men's services, and now it's just women.

Speaker 2 (07:00):
I'm just still extremely busy.

Speaker 4 (07:01):
But I can like finesse my schedule a little bit.
So I mean, someone that's like very understanding that this
is what I'm doing. This is the money that's paying
my bills, that's having me have the lifestyle that I have,
and they have to deal with it.

Speaker 1 (07:14):
Okay, they gotta deal with that.

Speaker 4 (07:15):
Right, they gotta do unless they're gonna take me out
of it and and my income.

Speaker 2 (07:20):
They're not gonna do that. How you know some of
the money, it's possible.

Speaker 3 (07:26):
Yeah, but all right, so so so you knowing ouf
the rip you come insoide relationship.

Speaker 1 (07:32):
They're gonna have to be willing to compromise certain things
because you already walk into your purpose.

Speaker 2 (07:36):
Right, I'm already walking on purpose.

Speaker 1 (07:38):
Right.

Speaker 4 (07:38):
I can see if they came into me and I'm
still trying to figure it out and I really don't
already have a base together, then they say, Okay, I
don't really want you doing that. That's one thing, but
one I'm already established in my career and have been
for a long time.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
You can't just come.

Speaker 4 (07:51):
And swipe me out of it and not expect to
replace what I'm making.

Speaker 3 (07:58):
So all right, this on the flip side, so you
need to do he already established on how he is.

Speaker 1 (08:03):
Okay, do you expect him to compromise his shit?

Speaker 2 (08:07):
I wouldn't expect him to compromise his stuff. I wouldn't
expect it so.

Speaker 4 (08:12):
Meani, I wouldn't come in and say you gotta stop.
This is another and I know that's what's bringing his
money in.

Speaker 1 (08:17):
I ain't talking about the mone' saying whatever it is
about him.

Speaker 2 (08:21):
Tell me an example of any.

Speaker 1 (08:22):
Example of I don't want to live together. I want
to stay in my own shit.

Speaker 3 (08:26):
But we'll item, whatever, whatever, sing his own, whatever, his
boundary is, whatever, whatever, you know, because women want you
to accept them as is some women, and then you
have to compromise everything.

Speaker 1 (08:38):
That's what I've been saying lately.

Speaker 4 (08:40):
If he said that as far as living together, he
just say, no, we're not gonna do that, I'm okay
with that until, like we're talking about marriage up until then,
because I'm not big on living with anybody anyway.

Speaker 2 (08:53):
Like that's not my my thing.

Speaker 3 (08:55):
Anything, anything, anything. If he just need to hang out
in the strip club every day.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
Oh no, you're not doing that.

Speaker 1 (09:02):
Why we're not doing that? This is how I get
my money. That's my office.

Speaker 2 (09:05):
The strip club is never your office. It work. You
own the strip club. That's the only way that you'll
say that. How is that?

Speaker 3 (09:12):
Because at the end of the day, my clients could
be in him, my class could be ball pless, I
could be anything.

Speaker 1 (09:16):
My clients are in here. This is my office. This
is how I get my money.

Speaker 4 (09:19):
In the mix, and you telling me you can't go
to a lounge or to dinner. You have to be
at a strip club where other women are, where you
know you're gonna succumb to some type of temptation. You're
telling me you can't do.

Speaker 2 (09:31):
That because your your business is coming from the strip club.
That's not where your business is coming from. That's maybe
where you want to hang out, but that's not a necessity.

Speaker 3 (09:42):
But what I'm saying, how you gonna put some on
this man ship where he can't put that on yours.

Speaker 1 (09:46):
You just said that's it.

Speaker 2 (09:48):
I'm doing a legitimate business. What I'm doing has nothing.
It's not gonna make him feel any kind of way.

Speaker 1 (09:53):
It's just an environment. How you know it's gonna make
you you Why should that make you feel some kind
of way? If I'm coming you so, I know it's.

Speaker 2 (09:59):
Going to be a tempt seeing situation around for the man.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
How some nigga don't even see them women around.

Speaker 2 (10:06):
Beautiful exotic naked women. You're telling me not one time
he got eyes? He ain't blind, is he?

Speaker 3 (10:14):
I could see that shit, but don't see it. You
got some niggas like that in strip clubs.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
See that ship and no shit, I don't know nothing.

Speaker 2 (10:20):
I know plenty and they just go in there just
having good time.

Speaker 1 (10:23):
To aboudy, you better be out there causing another waitress.

Speaker 3 (10:28):
That's the main thing that nigga trying to get He said,
I ain't even looking at the death. They're looking at the
women with.

Speaker 1 (10:32):
The clothes off for real.

Speaker 2 (10:33):
Okay, that's fair most of the time.

Speaker 4 (10:35):
If that's the case, and we have to come to
some type of compromise.

Speaker 1 (10:40):
On his part, but no compromise on your part.

Speaker 2 (10:43):
Oh, I'll compromise.

Speaker 3 (10:45):
I just don't want you doing Michael Blade on dudes
and shit or whatever whatever it is.

Speaker 2 (10:49):
Done that before and I completely stopped.

Speaker 4 (10:51):
I completely stopped that aspect of my business with men completely.
So I can understand a man saying that I stopped that.
If my business hundred percent women. Now you can say, okay,
I don't really necessarily like the hours you work, then
what and okay, okay, I will cut my hours if
that makes you.

Speaker 3 (11:08):
Uncomfortable out, well, ain't you cut your hour to me?

Speaker 1 (11:11):
You cut your money? Okay, So that's gonna bring it.
That's gonna bring a problem. I want to be a
problem unless no, I ain't. No, I just want you
to cut your eyes. I ain't gotten nothing on that
got on that. I ain't gotten inhing on that.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
If you hasn't to cut my hours, are you willing
to not go to the strip pluff for business.

Speaker 3 (11:27):
What I'm saying, we weren't compromising. No, I wouldn't. I
wouldn't go to what I'm saying it.

Speaker 1 (11:31):
Would that's the case.

Speaker 2 (11:32):
And okay, with this we could work.

Speaker 3 (11:33):
But most of the time, and we've seen this. You've
seen this and your sister, your fellow sister. Women they
want a lot of compromising, but they don't want to compromise.

Speaker 1 (11:42):
Have you ever seen that. I've seen that me too.

Speaker 2 (11:44):
But I really feel like women compromise.

Speaker 1 (11:46):
A lot more than men would.

Speaker 4 (11:48):
How because we want we want the head of a household, right,
We want you to be a leader.

Speaker 2 (11:54):
We want you to be the head.

Speaker 4 (11:55):
So when a man comes to you and say, babe, listen,
I don't really like the way you're doing this is
another we change that aspect of the relationship. Okay, cool,
you don't like that, you don't like when I come
home at this certain time, you don't like our work
the time.

Speaker 2 (12:06):
But we kind of compromise with me and a lot
of me and say, look, I'm stuck on my way.
I'm doing what I'm gonna do. That either you like
it or not. That says, that's sensy to me, I
ain't because it could be put a lot easier.

Speaker 3 (12:20):
So basically, what you're saying is, and we had this
conversation with our cameras, what you're saying is a dude
should always think of your feelings when they speak to you.

Speaker 2 (12:34):
Basically, absolutely absolutely.

Speaker 1 (12:37):
I can. I can see that, I can see most
women feel.

Speaker 4 (12:40):
I can absolutely feel because I know men that say, listen,
I don't care what we're going through, don't curse me,
don't cuss like I ain't because they feel like that's
a form of disrespect.

Speaker 1 (12:50):
Right.

Speaker 2 (12:51):
If you tell me that, then I'm gonna.

Speaker 4 (12:53):
Be mindful of how I speak to you because I
know I would try not to, but it may happen,
And I'm like, you know what, I'm sorry. I didn't
mean to do that, right, But I want you to
feel the exact same one. I don't want you to
give me the same respect that I give you.

Speaker 1 (13:10):
But do you think it's Do you think it's possible
for a person to be one to take care of
your feelings, all the feelings in any emotion that are
going to.

Speaker 2 (13:27):
Have No, I definitely don't think. I don't think that's
that's possible. We're human, so you're not.

Speaker 4 (13:33):
My feelings are always going to be an afterthought, right,
So I don't expect.

Speaker 2 (13:38):
All the time. Would I like it? Absolutely? Is it
possible for it to happen and you consider me all
the time? No? I don't think that's possible.

Speaker 4 (13:48):
Do you When you're in a relationship, do you want
your wife to talk to you a certain type of way,
to treat you, a certain type of way, to.

Speaker 2 (13:57):
Be catering to you all the time? Do you expect
that all the time? Hell?

Speaker 1 (14:02):
Yeah, what you mean? Do I spent for her to
be nice and kind and catering out.

Speaker 4 (14:06):
Nice and high but catering. Maybe she's not in a
good mood, she don't feel.

Speaker 2 (14:10):
Like ok Is that okay with you?

Speaker 1 (14:13):
You understand what I'm saying is you're gonna have to
be tolerated.

Speaker 3 (14:18):
Even if you don't understand, Okay, you're gonna have to
tolerat it, right, because what you're gonna do?

Speaker 1 (14:23):
You say something, then what you're controlling on sasses one
or the other. It ain't no middle no more. It's
life for really. Either if you speak your mind on things,
you're controlling.

Speaker 3 (14:36):
If you speak your mind back and forth way, you're sass.

Speaker 1 (14:41):
How does this work.

Speaker 2 (14:42):
It's the delivery of it all. It's how you're speaking
to me.

Speaker 4 (14:45):
You can say something to me and tell me how
you feel without it being like I'm arguing with a woman.

Speaker 2 (14:51):
I'm not arguing with you, right when when we thought
we're arguing going back and forth. Now I'm like, you
real sass, you got.

Speaker 1 (14:56):
A lot of no.

Speaker 3 (14:58):
Okay, if the niggas say, all right, look, I don't
want to hear that ship what that is.

Speaker 1 (15:04):
I don't want to talk about this shit because it's
gonna take me out of character. Cool that. Don't that
go like that?

Speaker 4 (15:10):
It will when when I don't feel like talking about
it either, when well, we've been arguing so much and
I'm like, you.

Speaker 1 (15:16):
Know what, we ain't even arguing. This is how you
this is this is the nature of my character.

Speaker 2 (15:21):
You want to tell you something you said I don't
want to hear that ship.

Speaker 3 (15:23):
I say, fine, solution to it, because at the end
of the day, I ain't gonna be to convince you
how you feel.

Speaker 1 (15:27):
I ain't gonna I ain't gonna be to unconvince you
how you feel.

Speaker 2 (15:30):
I can get with that delivery because you're not screaming
at me you're not being super aggressive. I would be
okay with it now if you say, man, fuck, just
don't want it, I don't want to don't.

Speaker 1 (15:38):
Talk to me, but they call lefter you continue to
force your issue. You know what I'm saying. You know
that that's true when you first come to a nigga something,
Niggas become like, Babe, this ain't time for that or
or or whatever, or I apologize or whatever he's saying.

Speaker 3 (15:50):
It don't never be left at that right. Yeah, that's
because it's like and I'm not.

Speaker 1 (15:56):
Saying there's nothing wrong with that. I'm just trying to.

Speaker 3 (15:59):
Help the people listening understand women, help help the women
understand men. That's all Like, it's just it's just in
your nature to push the issue to you.

Speaker 1 (16:07):
You be to I be as mad as you are.

Speaker 4 (16:09):
Well, it's more about we feel like you're neglecting my feelings?

Speaker 3 (16:14):
How because about it? If I speak how I feel,
I'm gonna hurt them. If I keep going back and forth,
I'm going to be sassins. So how am I neglecting
your feeling about a voiding company?

Speaker 4 (16:22):
Feel like you're like pushing whatever I say that I'm
feeling a certain way about, you're pushing it to the
side and just neglecting my feelings completely.

Speaker 2 (16:29):
Like all, I want to talk about it right now.

Speaker 4 (16:30):
If you say, listen, get to the point, this is
how I feel, and let it go. That's one thing.
But you're just not addressing it at all. That's you
neglecting my feelings.

Speaker 1 (16:39):
No, I said, I said. I said that at first,
but then I changed.

Speaker 3 (16:43):
I said, what if you bring something to me and
I say, hey, uh, whatever it is, I apologize and
find solution to it.

Speaker 1 (16:49):
But I don't want to keep I don't want to
carry on a long conversation.

Speaker 2 (16:52):
About this that's there. I think along the camp and
respect it absolutely.

Speaker 1 (16:56):
In what way do you think she's gonna respect with attitude?
That's different?

Speaker 2 (17:02):
Huh No, I.

Speaker 4 (17:02):
Don't think she's gonna respect with it with attitude. I
think she's gonna respect it. Say you know what, maybe
tonight or right now, it's not the time for this.

Speaker 1 (17:09):
You're not gonna feel like But but are you gonna
bring it back up? I ain't saying right now. I'm saying,
I all want to talk about the ship period.

Speaker 4 (17:15):
It depends on what this topic of the conversation is.
If it's something with infidelity. Anyway, I'm feeling sertay type
of worry about another woman, the way you moving, if
you're out all night, anything like that.

Speaker 2 (17:26):
We're gonna talk about that again.

Speaker 1 (17:27):
What's to talk about though?

Speaker 2 (17:29):
My feelings?

Speaker 1 (17:30):
Okay?

Speaker 2 (17:31):
And how I feel like I don't feel like you
should be moving that way?

Speaker 1 (17:34):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (17:34):
But but are you gonna change that? And do you
think I'm gonna change that? You think I'm gonna be
more sneakier.

Speaker 2 (17:39):
I think you're probably gonna be more so what is so? So?

Speaker 1 (17:42):
So? What? That's a wasting.

Speaker 2 (17:44):
Maybe we just want to get it off.

Speaker 3 (17:45):
Yeah, that's that's a waste of conversation though, really though.

Speaker 1 (17:49):
Right, well that's the case.

Speaker 2 (17:49):
You're gonna feel like everything is a waste of conversation.

Speaker 1 (17:51):
That really is, because it's no end.

Speaker 3 (17:54):
Go Okay, if you're trying to hold up, if you're
trying to just get me to understand your feelings, I
get what you're saying, but I'm just telling you the
real you're trying to get me to understand your feelings.

Speaker 1 (18:02):
I never will. So this is a never ending story.

Speaker 2 (18:06):
But it's all about more about change behavior.

Speaker 1 (18:09):
Niggas ain't gonna change, you know, he ain't.

Speaker 2 (18:11):
I think a man can change.

Speaker 1 (18:13):
When he want to not, because yeah, that's what I'm saying,
that he want to not not.

Speaker 2 (18:17):
But I'm like, on your.

Speaker 1 (18:20):
Guess what you're gonna You're gonna get me to see it.

Speaker 3 (18:22):
But I'm gonna be that for another woman, not you,
because I'm gonna feel like I already scared you too
bad to even be nice.

Speaker 2 (18:30):
But why wouldn't you want to change? Why would you
you know what she feels this way?

Speaker 4 (18:34):
She's told me about what I don't fucked up on. Okay, cool,
let me go back and figure this out. How I
could be a better man, sir?

Speaker 3 (18:40):
I supposed to change, So I supposed to live my
life to be a better man for.

Speaker 2 (18:43):
You, to be a man for you.

Speaker 1 (18:47):
How am I? I may be the perfect man to me?
This is what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (18:51):
I may be relationship with me.

Speaker 1 (18:54):
Okay. That means we have to compromise. I can't and
that means you ain't my person.

Speaker 2 (18:59):
So I just want to accept.

Speaker 5 (19:01):
You go to say nothing.

Speaker 1 (19:02):
You just ain't my person.

Speaker 4 (19:04):
How is that not being your person? Because I'm not
accepting what you bring in. That's disrespectful. It's no discipline,
give it.

Speaker 3 (19:13):
That's too you don't. But that's maybe that person that
may not be disrespect to somebody else. That's fair, that's
that's just so that means you ain't my person because
somebody else this may not even.

Speaker 1 (19:22):
Be disrespectful to them.

Speaker 2 (19:23):
They just cool with it. Okay, give me an example.
Give me an example.

Speaker 1 (19:28):
What type of example.

Speaker 4 (19:30):
Let's just say we're talking about infidelity. What about Okay,
So if I say.

Speaker 2 (19:38):
If I feel that you've been doing something I don't like.

Speaker 1 (19:43):
Whether it's no proof, you just feel this.

Speaker 4 (19:47):
I've seen your DMS, I've seen your DM, i' sen
your text message.

Speaker 1 (19:50):
You see them.

Speaker 2 (19:51):
I went through your phone.

Speaker 1 (19:52):
Okay, if you went through my phone, deal with that.

Speaker 3 (19:55):
Don't come talk to me about something that you are
invade my privacy of.

Speaker 2 (20:00):
So you don't feel like So you would never go
through your wife phone. You would never go through her
d N. You would never care.

Speaker 3 (20:06):
Never because because because at the end of the day,
if I if I did that, that means I'm looking
for a way out and it ain't gonna be nothing to.

Speaker 5 (20:12):
Talk to me.

Speaker 1 (20:14):
To me, if I'm looking through your phone, I'm looking
for an exit. So when I find it. Hey, bitch,
you already know what it ain't even talking to you.
You just know it's over with.

Speaker 2 (20:23):
We're doing it not for an exit, No, we're doing
it because the way you moving what you are?

Speaker 6 (20:28):
Right?

Speaker 1 (20:29):
But when you find out, aha you got it? Now? What?

Speaker 2 (20:31):
No? No out let me let me explain this with me.
And you all have a routine right when your routine
now changes and now I'm like, oh no, something's off.
He coming in late, he coming in and taking a
shower as soon as you get home, just all type
of wild ship. We're gonna be like, what it got
going on? Okay, You're not gonna tell me I'm cheating.
You're not gonna say that. So guess what I'm gonna do.

(20:52):
I'm gonna go and.

Speaker 1 (20:53):
Do my dealer yo. Okay, but when you find out
what's the end? Go? What do you get?

Speaker 2 (20:58):
I don't get anything. But I'm telling you.

Speaker 3 (21:00):
Caple, when you tell me, and I don't give a
fuck because you found out.

Speaker 1 (21:02):
Now, what's the problem.

Speaker 2 (21:04):
Why wouldn't you care about my feelings?

Speaker 1 (21:05):
Why wouldn't you care to because you hurt your feelings?
I didn't. I ain't get caught.

Speaker 2 (21:11):
How you didn't get caught out went to your phone.
That's because I went through.

Speaker 3 (21:14):
That's invaded in a privacy than come on now, I'm
just being one hundred with you the truth.

Speaker 1 (21:20):
I'm just telling the truth. It sound harsh, but it's
the truth. It's harsh at the end of the day.

Speaker 3 (21:23):
Hey, it's something wrong with you baby that you feel
like you gotta go through my phone.

Speaker 2 (21:27):
Man, know it's something wrong, but you in the way
you're moving a reason why I have.

Speaker 1 (21:31):
Okay, So if I'm moving wrong, guess where you feel that? Cool?
So you need to just leave me alone I find out.

Speaker 2 (21:38):
You not gonna change you cool with me? Just up
and leaving you cool with that? Bye, It's no way
you feel that way. How can I not eat some
way you feel it with someone that you've invested your.

Speaker 1 (21:50):
Y'all give a fuck. She wanted to leave me, bro,
she went and found her Ever this and else. I
can't hold on to something that don't want to me.

Speaker 2 (21:57):
You did, It's not like you didn't do it.

Speaker 1 (22:00):
Hey, Hey, baby, at the end of the day's gone.
I'm not like gone. I'm gonna be hurt, are you?

Speaker 2 (22:08):
No?

Speaker 1 (22:08):
I am. I am gonna be hurt.

Speaker 3 (22:09):
But I'm gonna be more mad at you that you
win and found something instead of living in the moment
that we're living in.

Speaker 2 (22:15):
So I just be happy to be here. I'm gonna say,
if you move, do what you want to do.

Speaker 1 (22:20):
Ain't moving or doing over you. I ain't doing all
that discipline, know what your out of it. I ain't
doing all that until you win in my phone.

Speaker 2 (22:28):
You were doing it before.

Speaker 1 (22:29):
If you want to win in my phone, how would
you know I were doing it?

Speaker 2 (22:32):
I just told you the way you were moving.

Speaker 1 (22:34):
Every nigga you meet move funny.

Speaker 3 (22:37):
If you meet a nigga tomorrow, he moved funny to you.
That's just who it is. Be from past relationships.

Speaker 1 (22:43):
Man. So any nigga is moving funny. Even if a
nigga is like girls, it somebody. This nigga he too nice.
Everything add up to the nigga. He it's somebody. You're
still checking him. He ain't did nothing wrong, He ain't
moving fun his ship on point. It's two old.

Speaker 2 (22:57):
Point you like, I don't know or where we're saying.

Speaker 3 (23:00):
We know it's something bout this nigga girl and this
man is God Damn Santa Claus.

Speaker 1 (23:06):
Okay, So it ain't the nigga moving funny.

Speaker 5 (23:09):
It's just women.

Speaker 3 (23:11):
Some women have these pestimistic thoughts that no man can't
really love them for real.

Speaker 2 (23:17):
Maybe it's a trauma response.

Speaker 3 (23:19):
It is so at the end of the day, you
can't get in a relationship with me, and I ain't
speaking from a spirit, I'm just speaking for the people.
You can't get a relationship with me and show me
how you see me, then I might will join the
party because niggas already want to do it.

Speaker 1 (23:32):
So if you if you down my back bout holes
and I ain't got nothing, abould get something. It's the
same shit.

Speaker 2 (23:36):
That's fair, that's fair.

Speaker 3 (23:38):
I'm I already going through the ship. I'm I already
going through imady. I'm getting the same punishment, So you like,
may as well do it.

Speaker 1 (23:45):
Might as well.

Speaker 3 (23:45):
Bro, you you showed me you don't trust me, soy
the fuck I'm gonna trust you?

Speaker 2 (23:49):
What about my fair?

Speaker 1 (23:51):
Gotta do me what you mean?

Speaker 3 (23:52):
If you listen, you see the world how you are. Okay,
that's how niggas feel, That's how I feel.

Speaker 1 (23:59):
I can't sleep.

Speaker 3 (24:01):
Because I'm saying if I first meet you and you
feel like I'm a nigga that's outside. Either that's from
some past ship you hon'd on too, or that's what
you on, that's what you see, that's your world.

Speaker 2 (24:11):
I don't feel like that's what they're on. It could
be from past, it could be from past situations, or
it could be this is who you are the man
that I now know, or I can keep it moving.

Speaker 3 (24:24):
But why do women continually date niggas that they feel
as if though they have to go through that with.

Speaker 2 (24:31):
I just think we're at a point now. It's not
too much changing that we can do. The man has
to change because he wants to, right, it's all about him.
It's not I don't care how.

Speaker 4 (24:41):
Beautiful you are, how much money you make, how good
the sex is, it does not matter.

Speaker 2 (24:46):
He has to be disciplined because that's what he wants. Yes,
I can't make him do it right, but I feel
like just meeting and dating, I don't necessarily think we
know what we're getting into, and ten percent we kind
of feel like once he come in, maybe he would
change a few adjustments.

Speaker 1 (25:07):
When has that happened?

Speaker 2 (25:08):
When has it happened? I've seen man that was worse
prior to I mean, came.

Speaker 1 (25:14):
Got they just got respectful. They just got more respectful.

Speaker 2 (25:17):
They just got more respectful. I'm saying that they may
not be cheating, but it's a lot more respectful.

Speaker 3 (25:22):
But let me let me ask you some Okay, all right,
if you got a dude, right, if you had a
dude and he did he checked all the boxes off
for you everything, heed that nigga, He take care of you,
he love on you, everything you want him, and he
started moving Funny, you finished find something to let him
go and he respectus.

Speaker 2 (25:43):
I'm not gonna let him go if he's checking off
all those boxes.

Speaker 1 (25:46):
Hold, let me let me tell you something. But you're
gonna still go through his phone though, right.

Speaker 4 (25:49):
No, I'll come to him tell him like, baby, I
don't like I'm feeling like this. I feel like the
way you move in whatever situation is making me feel
a certain what's going on?

Speaker 1 (25:59):
You tripping? And then what you're gonna do? You're gonna
dig all so what you did and you found what
you found? Who's caused turmoil in our relationship?

Speaker 2 (26:12):
You're gonna think I cast it?

Speaker 3 (26:14):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (26:14):
Asking you who calls the turmoil?

Speaker 4 (26:17):
I will probably say me because I went to look
for but I would not have gone to look for
if you weren't.

Speaker 3 (26:23):
Hold on God's work though, I just you just said there,
said I checking all the boxes, except your intuition is
telling you something.

Speaker 2 (26:30):
And my intuition was obviously right from whatever I found.

Speaker 1 (26:33):
Wish your intuition could be clean from the devil.

Speaker 2 (26:36):
You just told me I found what I found, so
that means you was actually doing it.

Speaker 1 (26:40):
I did. I've done all my services over here though.

Speaker 4 (26:44):
Oh so you think because John is complete on the
relationship side with my main girl, then I can go
out and do whatever to help.

Speaker 1 (26:51):
Saying is why can't a woman just live happy? What
she's happy? You're happy? Pray that all God, Please get
these feelings off me. Whatever you're doing there and stop
doing that. Let him stop doing that. Let my man says,
and let him know I love him, love him more
because once you bring that to me, so.

Speaker 4 (27:06):
You want me to give you more of what you
already don't want, what you already don't respect.

Speaker 3 (27:13):
How you see I neglecting and if you get everything,
I'm saying, you have everything, baby. Every box is checking,
But your intuition told you that I was doing something and.

Speaker 2 (27:21):
You were doing it correct, Okay, get correct.

Speaker 1 (27:23):
But I'm saying. But what I'm saying is hold this.

Speaker 3 (27:25):
I'm saying I ain't trying to justify non and now
I'm just trying to put up put it, put something
out there. Okay, you you us invested all this time.
Do you think I'm gonna give you two scenario? Which
one would you think best? If you tell him? Babe,
I just feel like we're slipping somewhere. Everything's fine, but
I feel like we stem somewhere. We just need to
pray and love on each other more. Now I'm gonna

(27:47):
do my part even though you feel that way. Before
I go in the man fall off and rebuke this in.

Speaker 2 (27:51):
The name of Jesus because.

Speaker 1 (27:57):
Or you it's okay, please depth a playing wife.

Speaker 2 (28:02):
You know what I'm saying that I'm here for that.

Speaker 3 (28:04):
But at the end of the day, because meigs are
gonna fuck up if I'm if I'm perfect over here
in this sing hey, I'm gonna be fucking up somewhere.

Speaker 1 (28:10):
That's just what it is. Okay, cool, Some niggas ain't
gonna speak their n Okay cool fan for Nah.

Speaker 3 (28:16):
You don't take that ride, you take the summer. You
go through my phone and bring it to me. The
relationship will never be the same.

Speaker 1 (28:23):
Baby. I can't trust you. You can't trust you to
how you get in the phone. You're too sneaky. Basically,
I can't hurt your sneakers. You'll do it.

Speaker 5 (28:31):
I tell you why.

Speaker 1 (28:31):
I nigga sweep the fuck off. I'm just giving a
rid with you.

Speaker 2 (28:35):
Y'all, as is being sneaky on a buck kend dealing
with other women. I'm sneaky because I went through your phone.

Speaker 1 (28:41):
How was that that?

Speaker 3 (28:41):
That's country But that's country dickening though, because you said
women's will say, as long as my man doing everything right,
I ain't questioning.

Speaker 1 (28:50):
I'm standing out of business.

Speaker 4 (28:52):
I'm sitting on his business because they're not feeling it
at home. They're not feeling that.

Speaker 2 (28:56):
You don't feel you just say it. I feel you
needing my intuition, and it's telling me something. Women that
feel that way, they're not feeling that.

Speaker 4 (29:03):
They're not feeling like he's moving funny, they're not feeling
like he's coming home late at night.

Speaker 2 (29:07):
They just feeling like holes texting coffee phone. I don't
think so. I mean, I think it's possible. I'll get
me wrong, But in that regard. I don't feel like
they feel that, so that's not making them come to
their man and say, listen, we slipping. I need to
talk to you what's going on.

Speaker 3 (29:22):
But what I'm saying is why, Well, I take the
most drastic measure first.

Speaker 2 (29:29):
That's all I gotta work on.

Speaker 1 (29:31):
That's all I'm asked.

Speaker 3 (29:32):
Like that's communicating because what am I doing wrong that
you feel like you need somebody else?

Speaker 1 (29:36):
And I could be tripping, but I just want to
have this conversation with you. This is what I'm saying.
This is what you tell dude, Like I could be tripping.
It could just be, you know what I'm saying. Whatever
y'all blaming.

Speaker 2 (29:44):
On it could be that's fair.

Speaker 1 (29:46):
You know what I'm saying. I just want to know, bro,
because I want to be the one for you.

Speaker 3 (29:49):
Instead of me blowing it up, you blow up the
spot everyallyin no coming back from it.

Speaker 2 (29:54):
And now you are all she on to me, Yes,
she know what time it is? Now now now I
gotta move even more to me.

Speaker 1 (30:00):
Now I gotta try to cut off.

Speaker 2 (30:02):
Now you say you can't trust me because I'm went
through your phone.

Speaker 1 (30:05):
Yes, you crazy, I ain't crazy. I'm just telling you lie.

Speaker 2 (30:08):
I understand what you're saying.

Speaker 3 (30:10):
That's just like if that's just like if you this
is like if you was a thief and you stole
something from somebody, you ain't finna let them steal in
the back.

Speaker 1 (30:20):
No, I stole you even never put nothing around you.

Speaker 2 (30:23):
Right, that's fair. You found that I can't trust you
lay so now okay, so we know that us as
women have to come into it in another softer approach.

Speaker 3 (30:32):
No, if you want to keep the guy flying out
a way to kid him, Hey, we don't plan on leaving.

Speaker 1 (30:37):
If you don't plan on leaving, come to the man
with a way that's gonna keep him.

Speaker 2 (30:41):
That's fair. That's fair to say.

Speaker 1 (30:42):
Because if you come to me with that gott you
might well go.

Speaker 2 (30:45):
We do go through a tel hundred me definitely. So
that's that's something we have to work on. That's fair
to say. I ain't at that at all.

Speaker 1 (30:57):
No, for real though, that makes sense though, for real.

Speaker 3 (30:59):
Oh, because at the end of the day, if you
want to stay in this shit, because anytime you you
you could just be tired from work or tired because
you worked out there, I'm gonna feel like she's thinking
about what was in my phone?

Speaker 2 (31:10):
You woun't really think that.

Speaker 3 (31:11):
I'm just saying like anytime anything is off and the
puss ain way as it usually be, it could be anything.

Speaker 1 (31:16):
I'm like, Oh that bitch the first because now your guilt,
your guilt weighing on you.

Speaker 2 (31:22):
Okay, so let me ask you something.

Speaker 4 (31:25):
If we're in a great relationship, right, I'm loving on you,
I'm being supportive, I got your back. You know, if
anything far, I got you one hundred and six for six,
sex is great.

Speaker 2 (31:35):
I'm not being neglectful with that. I'm loving.

Speaker 4 (31:38):
Why would you steal with all that love, support, admiration
still go and deal with someone else.

Speaker 1 (31:49):
Who? He said?

Speaker 2 (31:50):
Wow? What you could hear?

Speaker 1 (31:51):
You said? Why would somebody still?

Speaker 3 (31:53):
He said, basically if a nigga, if a nigga happily
in a happy relationship, why would he step out out.

Speaker 1 (31:58):
Just greed ego? Really, just because he can?

Speaker 3 (32:03):
You got anything to do with the bitch, ain't got
to do with you. Just what niggas do? Some niggas do?

Speaker 2 (32:09):
Do you think most men do?

Speaker 7 (32:10):
Yes?

Speaker 4 (32:12):
Do you feel like it's by chance of how they are,
if they're successful or not.

Speaker 3 (32:17):
They ain't got any name broke nigga the one killing
me on they and everything hit. Nigga got at the roar,
fully up, black packed ready, Yeah, they got all.

Speaker 1 (32:28):
The time in the road, got damn too much.

Speaker 4 (32:31):
What the thing is you sound that's greed, But you
will be six of your summy chest hurting sliding down.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
I'm off like a wall. If your girl go out
and step out and she talking on the phone to me,
if a mena's texting her something that you feel to
be inappropriate, she could not have called this man.

Speaker 1 (32:49):
I think thankful some niggas different. For some niggas is different. Bro.

Speaker 3 (32:52):
Because I look at it like this, I wouldn't be
sick because at the end of the day, I'm putting
that past. No woman, you could be doing it a bitch,
be hard about it. Mm hmmm, because son ship was
certain niggas just a deal breaker. So I can't be
sick about what it is.

Speaker 1 (33:08):
This is what it is.

Speaker 5 (33:09):
You did that.

Speaker 3 (33:09):
And one thing about a woman, if you find out
she cheating on you, she just lost respect for you.

Speaker 1 (33:14):
Absolutely, they too sneaky.

Speaker 2 (33:16):
Absolutely, I agree.

Speaker 1 (33:18):
You don't know how sneaking woman is to you till
you've been aside.

Speaker 4 (33:20):
And now I feel like if we cheat, period, we've
already checked out the situation.

Speaker 1 (33:26):
I said, you don't know how sneaker a woman is
until you done been aside. Nigga, that's true. Like you
was like do this bitch?

Speaker 3 (33:39):
Goddamn had her friend meet her at my spot?

Speaker 1 (33:44):
Not my spot?

Speaker 3 (33:45):
Brother saying ed a spot with the whole grocery list
this before. Goddamn, uh that's the cart.

Speaker 1 (33:53):
Okay, So she's.

Speaker 3 (33:54):
In the grocery store, but her friends are shotting for her.
But she over there sucking dick at somebody's Well, she
done got the grocery there that she put it back
up with the grocery.

Speaker 2 (34:07):
But she was at the gross store. She was, her
friend was.

Speaker 3 (34:11):
But I'm just saying in your mind, like but yeah, yeah,
that I know. Women playing out.

Speaker 1 (34:17):
It's too It's it's January twenty five.

Speaker 2 (34:21):
We've checked out already.

Speaker 1 (34:23):
It's January.

Speaker 3 (34:23):
You know what I'm saying, the one but the one
that's checked them. Okay, it's January twenty twenty five. I
have an off date, May twenty six. I'm gonna come
down there to.

Speaker 1 (34:38):
Year getting caught Elbo. My friend they part they gonna
be partied out of we cousin be ready ready to go,
you crazy.

Speaker 2 (34:51):
Yeah, y'all, just don't think your things out, y'all, just go.

Speaker 1 (34:54):
Because it don't mean that to a woman. That means
some you catch your woman up and some with a nigga.

Speaker 3 (34:58):
Right that she got a nigga She me looking in
at both y'all likes you don't know who nigga throw
a bit about the brook leg get out of here,
your hands out, and she had to dope bitch, Oh
that way.

Speaker 1 (35:12):
The spite the bitch.

Speaker 2 (35:13):
Yeah, that's that's true because we've checked out and we
almost demming in love with the other person. If a
woman is doing that, that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (35:21):
So it's already over with. It's alreaight always. So why
are you finna be boohooing? What is it they hold gone?

Speaker 4 (35:27):
So you're a man's uh, sex is not connected to
their brain, the heart and on that that it is
what it is.

Speaker 2 (35:33):
They can not come off and keep them moving and
be okay with it.

Speaker 1 (35:36):
Some nigga like all their visits are.

Speaker 3 (35:41):
You got some nigga like all their chicks the same,
not the same, for different reasons.

Speaker 2 (35:47):
They have a favorite.

Speaker 1 (35:47):
Yeah, Now would.

Speaker 2 (35:50):
You be upset. Okay, so say you say you like
all your chicks, right, your favorite one. She started dating
somebody else. She kicked it with somebody else on the
love You're fine out.

Speaker 1 (36:00):
No, it ain't gonna be on the low.

Speaker 2 (36:02):
Okay, she started somebody else, and she lets you know, like,
you know, you not doing what you need.

Speaker 1 (36:07):
To say that she really gonna say it. She ain't
gonna say that.

Speaker 3 (36:09):
She's just gonna be like, I gotta do what I
need to do for me. I'm be like, yeah, baby,
I already showed you you're worth. Make sure he treats
you how it did.

Speaker 1 (36:18):
Here's your wings, fly pelicant. What else I vant to do?
That's a hater.

Speaker 4 (36:26):
It's a hater knowing you already got situations already in
the background.

Speaker 1 (36:30):
I'm saying that's a hater.

Speaker 3 (36:31):
If I no matter what, if a woman tells you,
if shan say, wake up to mine, tell me I
found another man, I'll be hating on her happiness if
she if she was honest enough to tell me that,
I gotta respect that.

Speaker 2 (36:40):
But can you respect it?

Speaker 4 (36:41):
If she did say that, you you're gonna say, damn,
I donna did some ship in the back a long
time ago.

Speaker 1 (36:48):
It ain't got nothing to do it. I respect it anyway, regardless.
I respect it because.

Speaker 3 (36:52):
Bro, the worst thing you can do is try to
force a person to stay when they don't want to be.
Then you gotta respect anything they do. Then, like a woman,
can't tell me I don't want to be no more.
That's the worst thing you can tell me. Don't say
that because some eight months down line, I catch you
up as a ship and you the first thing is
gonna say, well, I told you then I.

Speaker 1 (37:13):
Ain't want to be together. So you like just just
gone about your way. You know what I'm saying. That's it.
That's friendship, that's family member, that's anybody like I can
see that I don't want but don't want me business
even my GoGG balls. If I hear the god ball
them over, keep going to that ball or run me lin.
I ain't even don't look for it. Yeah, like niggas
be in the bushes looking for their ball. Man, ain't

(37:34):
even look for that ship. Ship. Don't want to fuck me,
I don't wanna fuck. Yeah, pull a little ball out.

Speaker 2 (37:39):
The tone question, when do you feel like enough is enough?

Speaker 1 (37:42):
What's enough of women?

Speaker 2 (37:43):
Okay? For a man, they have enough sex enough.

Speaker 1 (37:48):
It don't. Sometimes niggas don't even be fucking fucking know
with d women. Some niggas don't. I don't know. Some
niggas don't.

Speaker 2 (37:57):
What man, you know is not having sex with multiple
h I know some niggas you don't know, not one. Yes,
I do that, not having sex with anybody. But there, Yes,
I know a lot of niggas.

Speaker 1 (38:09):
Bro Really, I ain't even like I usually say three,
But I know a lot of niggas.

Speaker 2 (38:13):
First, I am blessed to hear that.

Speaker 1 (38:15):
No, I do. But them niggas already they they rare there.

Speaker 3 (38:20):
They already went throughout it, and they got somebody probably
already went.

Speaker 1 (38:24):
Through out it.

Speaker 2 (38:24):
Like we both let me just let me just stop.

Speaker 1 (38:27):
We let try the y'all. We tired, We both tied.

Speaker 2 (38:29):
Okay, But does have to come to that, and does
they have to come to he's tired?

Speaker 4 (38:33):
They both she too, She tired, okay, But I'm sure
she wasn't person stepping.

Speaker 3 (38:36):
Out though you know what I'm saying. No, No, you're
not get what I'm saying. She could have been out
in the streets. He could have been out in the
street and you met them y'all just met each other,
and y'all just tired of the bullshit. So y'all gonna
try this together, Like I know you with some bullshit,
you know how some bullshit. Let's just try to be something.
You know what I'm saying. Okay, that's what you're gonna
have to get. You can't go see women be thinking that.

(38:58):
Niggas don't know that they some more shit.

Speaker 2 (39:03):
Okay, up under all.

Speaker 3 (39:05):
That shit, beauty, fame, fortune, niggas know all women like
the same you'd.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
Be fucked out.

Speaker 2 (39:12):
Everyone is not like that.

Speaker 3 (39:13):
Every woman want to I'm saying by they nigga, they
want to be fucked out. I wouldn't give it down
what you say. And they got the same.

Speaker 1 (39:19):
Urges that we got. Okay, I agree with that, but
they try to act like no.

Speaker 4 (39:22):
No, we have the same urgentes. But we can be
with one person for sure, But you don't want to
people have the problem with doing so.

Speaker 1 (39:29):
Yeah, but yeah, I'm making a different pump though something.
I give what you saying. What I'm saying, little time
say other time to say, uh men, we women don't
know that. Men do know all women like the same shit.

Speaker 2 (39:50):
Okay, I agree with that.

Speaker 3 (39:51):
You know what I'm saying, Like all women, all women
are different for sure, but I'm just saying like when
it comes down to it, where they want from a man,
they want a man, it's gonna listen to him on,
love on on, show them off this mind. Yes, you
know what I'm saying, and fuck them oct She don't
want to be no regular ship.

Speaker 1 (40:10):
She want to get fucked out. Try shit. She want
to be schleuded. So these niggas that be just laying on.

Speaker 3 (40:15):
Top of these ladies and she fucking gotcha like cause
I hear a nigga be like, Bro, I just ain't
gonna got that. I can't do my girl like that,
but I could do another like I just out, I
slept beside cheek out.

Speaker 1 (40:28):
But then I bro, you gotta slet them all out?

Speaker 2 (40:31):
Does she walked that too?

Speaker 1 (40:32):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (40:32):
Okay, are.

Speaker 1 (40:35):
But they come in like I'd never done that. I
can't believe you got me doing things I never like.

Speaker 3 (40:45):
You get better like you do it the first time,
kind of like all right by two three days, two
three weeks sying whatever.

Speaker 1 (40:56):
You've been drinking this ship now you you're a profession right,
oh you with the y YouTube No that's really what
they wanted.

Speaker 3 (41:04):
Yes, that's really who you are. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
It's just like a coffert level. But I don't know, man,
we haven't women. Most women have a mask on and
men and you get mad when a nigga put one
on tighter.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
That's what I hate.

Speaker 3 (41:19):
Women come in with the same mask on as a
nigga and get mad at the nigga because he's work.

Speaker 2 (41:25):
Really, so what masks you think that we come in with.
We're just acting like we're perfect. We ain't done nothing.

Speaker 3 (41:32):
We don't have no bodies that three dudes, three dudes
in my whole life. You know, if it ain't a
serious relationship, didn't even fuck me.

Speaker 1 (41:39):
I know that right. You rether fucked one hundred nigga.

Speaker 3 (41:41):
But we ain't had no baby about this nigga, or
it wasn't serious like everybody knew.

Speaker 2 (41:46):
He don't count Okay, Okay.

Speaker 1 (41:50):
Niggas know that multipply man, are you like? Okay?

Speaker 5 (41:54):
Cool?

Speaker 1 (41:54):
Niggas don't even care the things that that women think
me an care about. They don't care here now, No,
don't want you to beat on your damn like I
go out.

Speaker 3 (42:03):
You said, blow yaw bad everybody like, Nah, I don't
want that, but got nigga, I want your season.

Speaker 2 (42:09):
So question, uh, your dating somebody y'all are out?

Speaker 4 (42:13):
Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Or do you act
ahead of time? You're going to a spot that kind
of mixy?

Speaker 1 (42:18):
Right?

Speaker 2 (42:18):
Do you want to know who she's dealt with that
you may know initially? Initially?

Speaker 1 (42:22):
Nah? Because if I got to ask you that, then
you don't respect me.

Speaker 2 (42:26):
So you want me to offer the information?

Speaker 1 (42:27):
I want you to do the motherfucker that.

Speaker 2 (42:28):
I'm just the fact that I offer the information.

Speaker 3 (42:32):
I would respect that to the t, like, hey, I've
been outside, I know people, right, I respect it?

Speaker 2 (42:38):
But does she have to specifically name the person? Like listen,
I'm telling you.

Speaker 1 (42:41):
This if you know'd right?

Speaker 2 (42:44):
Okay?

Speaker 1 (42:44):
Like you know this is my man? Like if we
follow Joe, You're like.

Speaker 2 (42:49):
Go, I tell you don your ma.

Speaker 1 (42:54):
I'm gonna tell women man the day man the word
thing you can be Like, who are gonna be that? Nigga?
Know you.

Speaker 2 (43:01):
Are you coming to clothe hugging everything?

Speaker 1 (43:02):
You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 3 (43:03):
Like if I be like, hey baby, let's go out,
like what we're gonna ship we're gonna go to copper cold.

Speaker 1 (43:06):
Who are you be? Too many people up there?

Speaker 5 (43:13):
You gord, nigga got you, but you got your one.

Speaker 2 (43:24):
Fine.

Speaker 1 (43:25):
You know, niggas ain't ship by at you. But that's
a good good bye. The not to damn. It'll really
make you feel it's a way yeah.

Speaker 3 (43:33):
Man like, but you know niggas do that though you
no niggas when niggas start hollering at you, like just
say vings a box started dating summer right now, just hypothesis.

Speaker 1 (43:43):
I would send your d M sing, d M you
to all the niggas. Who this, Who this is? Who this?
Who this is? Oh that's such selling bit. Oh who
is who is? Who is? Who is? That's how it goes.

Speaker 2 (43:56):
Get your report, free report and see what they say.
It's okay, so you you do that. You see what
they say? Do you handle me accordingly? Do It's something
if someone.

Speaker 1 (44:07):
Saying it depends on what niggas like a whole way.

Speaker 3 (44:09):
Niggas who always come back and be like what I
ain't that you'll hate them, but you know, like a
credible nigga be like, oh nah nah.

Speaker 1 (44:16):
She cool, but she fucks us up back in the day.
But this shit.

Speaker 3 (44:18):
She ain't, but she about have been. You know what
I'm saying, nigga, tell the truth. The nigga noring what
you asking?

Speaker 5 (44:23):
Who is it?

Speaker 1 (44:24):
It's just some of that or some of that, gotcha?

Speaker 4 (44:26):
So do you think initially meaning say we're dating, you
just met me, right, do you already put me in
a certain category like okay, cool Di's somebody I really
want to get snow boom, I just want to knock
out for real quick?

Speaker 1 (44:38):
Or do men do that initially?

Speaker 3 (44:41):
It's just attraction is physical, it's sex. They're just additionally okay,
like because I don't think.

Speaker 1 (44:48):
Prior to us too many niggas, the niggas that's dating,
the marriage y'all don't want them.

Speaker 2 (44:55):
Okay, possible.

Speaker 1 (44:58):
I'm telling you the nigga coming in in two by
the book. Hey, you know's ain nigga too dorky.

Speaker 2 (45:06):
But you know what, at this point in my life,
I'm okay with it. I swear I am.

Speaker 1 (45:11):
See dad beat them in the fucking on them niggas.
I'm telling them, like you to do it, deal with
that ship lulls you can and then bro, I'm telling
you no.

Speaker 2 (45:19):
Because we're tired.

Speaker 4 (45:21):
So I'm gonna keep going with the street dude, the athlete,
the entrepreneur that's super popuinal Instagram.

Speaker 2 (45:28):
I'm gonna keep doing that and getting drug right, Why
can't I go with someone that's a little bit more
corporate out the way? He's not doing the same thing
that y'all.

Speaker 1 (45:36):
Niggas is doing. Who hell are y'all? I'm in the house.
Men in this.

Speaker 2 (45:40):
Outside then it's outside. He's not. He's not doing the
exact same thing, and he seems like he's a little
bit more family oriented. He wants a different type of structure.

Speaker 1 (45:50):
He turned out to be gay.

Speaker 2 (45:51):
Ooh, that's possible. Let me tell you something that is
a thing right now? What A lot of men are bisexual.

Speaker 1 (46:00):
Niggas gay ain't But will Kins can we say that
on him?

Speaker 2 (46:04):
Said?

Speaker 1 (46:05):
Yeah, no, they just like men. They not buy They
just like men and fighting fighting within them demons, Yeah,
fighting to them. I gotta get to deal with a
woman to make it seem like it. But if you're
dealing with a man, you like men.

Speaker 2 (46:18):
I agree, you like both. Let me tell you this.
I have a lot of friends. I'm in a beauty space,
so I have a lot of.

Speaker 4 (46:24):
Friends that are gay, men, lesbian women, trans women, and
I have no problem with a man like a man,
do you right? My issue is once you start trying
to date me knowing that is your sexual urge, and.

Speaker 2 (46:37):
I'm never gonna be able to fulfill. Why you just
can't be like you know what I'm gonna ask you, like,
you know what are you into? Have you ever had
in it any same sex relations? Why you just can't
just tell.

Speaker 1 (46:49):
Me you know what.

Speaker 4 (46:50):
I'm not gonna lie, or maybe I had a porn
addiction or whatever your your advice is, but don't try
to date me knowing that your preference is a man.

Speaker 1 (46:58):
No. See, y'all, women gotta do it in reversity.

Speaker 3 (47:01):
I gotta start sending these dudes picture to the other
guys them we do to the girl what y'all call
them to the girls, to our girls, not the girl
girl to the yeah boy grey and see what because
they know, Look, you ain't even gotta be a dealt
with them part they know what not not what to
see them.

Speaker 1 (47:18):
Sorry, beat the you ain't gotta be a depth one
on but they know if you that, they absolutely they
know they can.

Speaker 4 (47:25):
And the funny thing is two of my best friends
are gay men. So at any time I meet somebody
and it's kind of questionable, I'm like, what what you got?

Speaker 2 (47:32):
What you think of bad? But now tell me, like
I don't know his mannerisms ain't right? If you're a mannerism,
I'm already out the dog. I'm cool, I'm cool.

Speaker 1 (47:41):
No, thank you, y'all call it anything.

Speaker 2 (47:44):
It's not even about fast. It's your mannerisms. The way
you moved, where your hand is broken, all of that shows.

Speaker 1 (47:51):
It shows this little something of them.

Speaker 3 (47:53):
Nigga helped too real ship like like it kind of
sticked that way a little bit like bruh.

Speaker 2 (47:59):
It's something some But you know what's really gonna tell it?

Speaker 4 (48:02):
They friends, We get around their friends say, say I
meet a guy, right, And I asked my gay best friend.

Speaker 2 (48:09):
You know what do you think? You know?

Speaker 1 (48:10):
You think he with it?

Speaker 2 (48:12):
He was like, oh, friend, I think he may be.
He may mess around women, right, just saying I said, ikay, cool,
and say I've met his friends. Them friends are gonna
tell it. Them, friends are gonna their matterisms can't be hidden.

Speaker 1 (48:25):
They super out this world.

Speaker 4 (48:28):
And I'm like, I'm cool, I'm cool because you you're
not even respecting the fact that that's what you're into.

Speaker 2 (48:36):
One you would then now have sex with me and
God knows what health thing can.

Speaker 4 (48:43):
Come to me, or you just leaving me to wide
open for anything. If that's what you like to like it,
I'm okay with that. But don't try to date meet
and you know your preference is something else.

Speaker 2 (48:54):
That's all that's fair.

Speaker 1 (48:55):
And I think I think though women.

Speaker 4 (48:58):
Though we absolutely know the intuition is serious. We know
we feel it like this don't feel right. It doesn't
feel it doesn't feel like his presence in my life.
He doesn't feel safe.

Speaker 2 (49:10):
We know, but still it's actually what the things that
they into we know too.

Speaker 4 (49:17):
One hundred and ten percent were like this ain't right.
You like the leg put up that I can't do
it strike I'm straight.

Speaker 1 (49:24):
It's a thing man at the end of the day,
like who you like, love love love who you love.

Speaker 3 (49:31):
I agree, But so that narrows it down, okay. H
A lot of man's incontrated, absolutely, Mary. A lot of
man's are merrit A lot of man's on the other side.
And then you got the corporate man that's not corporate,
just a guy with values that you all feel like

(49:53):
is corny.

Speaker 2 (49:55):
I'm okay with it. I'm okay with Corney.

Speaker 1 (49:58):
I'm gonna call it you date Carney.

Speaker 2 (50:01):
Yeah, what happened didn't work out, obviously, but it had
nothing to do with him being corny.

Speaker 4 (50:07):
It was more about I know this sounds bad, but
I just wasn't. I wasn't having fun like I want
someone I can.

Speaker 1 (50:15):
You wasn't having fun because of what you think.

Speaker 2 (50:19):
It's because he was corny. So okay, So then I'm
gonna go out with the guy that I'm having a
ball with and he a whore. That's what you prefer
me to do.

Speaker 1 (50:29):
But what I'm saying, why can't you if you know
you can't tolerate the guy that's fun, why don't you
try to find some fun about Corney? Johnny?

Speaker 2 (50:43):
Well, it was only once.

Speaker 1 (50:44):
You're right what I'm saying. So you left that man
because he won't fun, and God could have sent him
to you.

Speaker 2 (50:49):
I prayed about it. He didn't say him. He just
send him to me.

Speaker 4 (50:55):
Long term, Maybe I learned a lesson why I was
with him, but he didn't send me to hell. Long
term Jatience, patience, not to fly off at the mouth.

Speaker 1 (51:06):
You were doing that sometimes what you were saying.

Speaker 2 (51:10):
It just as it depends on the situation.

Speaker 1 (51:13):
But yeah, what what was you saying? What's the ship?
You said? What you think the most disrespectful thing is
you said.

Speaker 2 (51:22):
The most disrespectful thing I've said to you. Well, he
felt like.

Speaker 4 (51:27):
Me saying he was sassy was disrespectful. But I'm not
ever gonna call you out your name. It's not I'm
never gonna do that. If I gotta do that, I'm
walking away. I'm never gonna, you know, call you a
b I'm not.

Speaker 2 (51:38):
I'm owing it. That's disrespect to a whole another level.

Speaker 1 (51:42):
But I'm gonna keep going with you. Just like how
y'all have.

Speaker 3 (51:45):
Y'all could see certain things telepactic, telorp whatever it is.
Niggas know when you want to call him a bitch.

Speaker 2 (51:52):
Absolutely, So the thing just saying.

Speaker 1 (51:55):
It, just don't even think it.

Speaker 3 (51:59):
Really brocause because y'all mannoralism shows.

Speaker 2 (52:02):
That it's because we losing respect.

Speaker 4 (52:06):
If we gotten to that point that we want to
call you out your name, the respect is gone. And
we know that you all value respect more than anything
you value respecting for you do love you, rather be
respect you than we love you.

Speaker 1 (52:20):
I think these days.

Speaker 3 (52:21):
Let me ask you, so, what do you think the
differences in between a woman wanting to be a wife
and a woman that just want to be married.

Speaker 2 (52:29):
I think a woman that wants to be married more
looks at the lifestyle part of as far as the
financial benefits of it, just being more comfortable.

Speaker 4 (52:39):
It's more about and stability. Now, mind you, every woman
wants stability. We don't want to be you know, second
guessing our husband or financial status in a relationship. But
that just wanting to be married, he just wants that stability.
A woman that wants to be wife know that this
is somebody that you are now having to cover right,
cover for him, pray for him, be supportive.

Speaker 2 (53:01):
I think that person wants to be a wife.

Speaker 1 (53:04):
What presenters of a single woman do you think want
to be a wife? And what percenta do you think
just want to be married?

Speaker 2 (53:09):
I think sixty forty sixty women want sixty percent of
women want to be a wife. Nah, you don't think,
so what do you think?

Speaker 1 (53:19):
I think most of the women just want to be married.
That's it. You only think because it's always being a dream,
not even just find that it's always been a dream
to be married. I want to be married.

Speaker 3 (53:28):
I want to Yeah, I got married girl, and that'd
be cool, even as this ship just last year.

Speaker 1 (53:32):
Fuck him, I'm back singer. It happens all the time.

Speaker 2 (53:36):
So you think they just looking at the aspect of
saying that I've been.

Speaker 3 (53:39):
Married to accomplish something. It's accomplishment that most women.

Speaker 2 (53:43):
I can see that.

Speaker 1 (53:44):
I can see that.

Speaker 2 (53:45):
It's like, Okay, I don't think it's as low as
you say.

Speaker 1 (53:48):
I think it's like twenty percent of women want to
be a wife.

Speaker 4 (53:52):
No way, all right, So question if you're dating someone
and what qualities do you You say, Okay, she really
wants to.

Speaker 2 (54:02):
Be a wife when I know I don't have to think,
so I think before you.

Speaker 3 (54:07):
I'm saying, I don't even gotta think about what I
need or what I want, because yeah, I don't even
got to think about it all. I got to think
about it, handling my business. I ain't got to think
about little ship, got it, I gotta think about in
ain't gotta think about nothing.

Speaker 2 (54:21):
And you say, okay, this this person, But does that
make you then say I want her to be my wife?
These are the qualities that I like about her.

Speaker 4 (54:29):
She's catered around, I don't have to think about anything.
She thinks and does anything before I even need or
say it. Do you say you know what I want
to I want to wife her.

Speaker 1 (54:38):
I'm considering. I would reconsidering it.

Speaker 3 (54:41):
Okay, you know what I'm saying, because at the end
of the day, that could be a part of the mask.

Speaker 2 (54:46):
You can't keep it on for so long.

Speaker 1 (54:48):
I know that's what I'm saying. So I'm considering. So
what's it.

Speaker 2 (54:50):
What's the time period?

Speaker 3 (54:51):
I don't know when I when I let you hant
if I let you down, and if you go through
my phone instead of coming to me and expressing what's
going on baby with us. We've been doing too good
for this. I'm feeling having bad feelings. Let's stick it out.

Speaker 1 (55:04):
Let's go to church.

Speaker 2 (55:05):
Let's go to church.

Speaker 3 (55:06):
Let's let's hear you from this, Let's heal you from this,
because I can't lose you. Instead of you going through
my phone callsing issues, calling chaos.

Speaker 1 (55:13):
And I already have abandonment issues. So you you talk
about so you said you go leave me up scared
You're like, trust you.

Speaker 2 (55:26):
I'm telling you, Oh my gosh, I've done with you.
You're crazy, all right? So that's your go to. So
you got abandonment issues.

Speaker 3 (55:33):
I have all types of issues and you're the healer.
So this so if you feeling something off, that means
something off with us. I mean something's off with me.

Speaker 1 (55:42):
Help fix me, queen, fix me. This is what a
wife do. Fix me wife. If you're not gonna leave anyway,
why cause chaos? And instead of you can, I'm still
gonna be there because one thing you can do bro
to a nigga, you give me almo. When I know
you're mad or you're mad, be you allway mad. But
if you just like I did her like that, you're

(56:04):
gonna think different.

Speaker 2 (56:05):
Do you really think different? You will? As a man,
you will, yes, So you ain't gonna want to do
that no more so you would say, you know what,
I shouldn't did that.

Speaker 1 (56:13):
Yes, in that way way I did that.

Speaker 2 (56:14):
I shouldn't do that.

Speaker 1 (56:15):
Yeah, in that way.

Speaker 3 (56:16):
If she comes, yeah exactly, if she come like that,
you're gonna feel bad because you.

Speaker 2 (56:22):
Just like, damn, Are you gonna apologize? Are you gonna
be apologet? Yeah? Yeah, genuinely.

Speaker 1 (56:28):
If that happens. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. That happens.
If something like that happened here is.

Speaker 2 (56:32):
It's gonna be changed. Behavior I would, I wouldn't do
that again, okay in that way, maybe something else, not
in that phone.

Speaker 1 (56:41):
I'm just saying that fair. I'm just saying I would.
I wouldn't know, like, nah, you can't let her down
like that.

Speaker 3 (56:47):
That's fair, you know what I'm saying, because the way
she came, but you coming me like you know what
I'm saying with all the extra.

Speaker 1 (56:53):
Ship, hey ship we had wh Now I don't even
care what I want to do.

Speaker 3 (56:58):
I don't care because once you showed me you lost respect,
I'm gonna lose our respect even though I slipped up
and lost respect, even though you feel like I would
be in disrespectful for something that you found.

Speaker 2 (57:09):
So can you okay, so can you ever real it
in really in any of your actions what you mean?

Speaker 5 (57:15):
Right?

Speaker 4 (57:15):
Say say she feel away or whatever, and she say, okay,
I feel this way. The way you move, I don't
like they can we talk about it? Can be prayer
bout it, cause that's what you said. The wife does
say let's pray about let's go to church.

Speaker 2 (57:28):
Can't you then say, you know what, I don't want
to hurt her let me cut off everything else I
had going on for sure. Everything.

Speaker 3 (57:36):
Oh man, it ain't gonna be a process, you know,
said niggas gonna be niggas said like a nigga.

Speaker 1 (57:43):
What I'm saying is the first thing is to get
the mother fuckers to your.

Speaker 3 (57:46):
Knowledge that there it's there wrong, yes, and to be
to be able to make I can't speak for all men,
and some of you niggas gonna be like that nigga
is stupid. I'm just speaking for the niggas that most
women go for. Okay, if you if a nigga feel
is if though he wrong, if you make me feel
like I'm wrong, then I'm gonna try to change.

Speaker 2 (58:06):
It's okay.

Speaker 3 (58:07):
But if I don't feel wrong and I feel like
you like whatever, I'm gonna. I'm gonna because that's how
I wanna feel. So I can't justify your actions.

Speaker 1 (58:15):
Okay, you went through my motherfucking phone. You know what
I'm saying. I went through your Yeah.

Speaker 5 (58:20):
Now I'm finna turn it.

Speaker 1 (58:21):
You know what I'm saying. Whether they call it narco shit,
I'm finna turn on you because you're winning my ship, yes,
and you bring it. You're not finna bring it to
me call.

Speaker 2 (58:30):
Okay, So it's just about the delivery of me talking
to you, and.

Speaker 3 (58:33):
It's it's just about your debating, uh yeah, instead of
just telling me straight up what it is you feel
and then let's try to work on that.

Speaker 1 (58:41):
And then while we're working on it. You can't. You can't,
you can't, you can't, you can't already be done found
me guilty of my next action?

Speaker 2 (58:51):
Why does it have to be a next action?

Speaker 3 (58:53):
I'm saying, I ain't done it. I'm saying of my
next action, I ain't done it. I'm saying like you
can't predict my next action, and I'm already get you
some ship, do something else, all right, that's got to say.

Speaker 1 (59:04):
Man, it's kind of hard to I'm telling you, y'all.
Make it easy. Women, Make it easy. Once you let
me know that you don't trust me, I'm not holding
myself to a standard.

Speaker 2 (59:14):
No more. So don't let you know, and you do
what you want to do.

Speaker 3 (59:18):
What no, No, I said, Listen, Okay, once you let
me know that I've broken our trust, Yes, And the
way you see me as if though I would do anything,
I'm gonna do something.

Speaker 1 (59:35):
I might not do anything, but I'm gonna do.

Speaker 3 (59:37):
Something something because I'm already I'm already that, because I'm
already accusing you of that.

Speaker 1 (59:42):
I'm already that, because you already in your mind is
already already done. Yeah, it's already you already feel how
you feel about me. No matter what I do, I'm
already be on a tight leash forever. So I'm like,
let me just go and do it. I'm already guilty.

Speaker 2 (59:55):
So you're like, let me just go.

Speaker 1 (59:56):
Yeah, because I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:00:00):
I think that's great.

Speaker 3 (01:00:01):
It is, but it's true, though. We gotta work on people,
gotta work on it. But I'm just telling you how
the mind of a fool thing, and most niggas is fools.
But if you made me feel like I said, if
you could make me feel that feel you, I ain't
gonna want you to feel like that, no more.

Speaker 2 (01:00:16):
You can't.

Speaker 1 (01:00:17):
Yeah, I can't do that. Yeah, not like that because
I feel because I got impathy, I have infacy.

Speaker 2 (01:00:24):
Your action and I appreciate that.

Speaker 1 (01:00:26):
Go against my they go against everything.

Speaker 3 (01:00:28):
But if it if it's okay, if this is some
toxy ship, that's what this is, right, But is this
some ship that's coming in peace?

Speaker 1 (01:00:37):
I gotta come in peace. I gotta match your energy.

Speaker 2 (01:00:39):
That's fair. That's a fool fair.

Speaker 3 (01:00:42):
So that's why I advise women. If you know, if
a nigga hurts you and you ain't gonna bring him, no,
if you just gonna beat you.

Speaker 1 (01:00:48):
Might well just leave if we're not gonna if you
know you're not gonna Because.

Speaker 3 (01:00:56):
Just saying, if me and you was in a relationship, right,
and I hurt your feelers, and you know your feelings
are so valuable to you that this ship that you
may take you a year or two three years to
get recover from, Okay, And if it's gonna take you
that long, you like.

Speaker 2 (01:01:09):
Just leave, just leave because of it drag you into
it all the time.

Speaker 3 (01:01:12):
Yes, and then you're gonna I'm gonna be You're gonna
make me worse for both of us, got it? And
then that's gonna knock me down because my mental hell
thinking about you, because I do care about you. So
now I'm thinking about this ship and I can't even
focus on what's what's really important.

Speaker 2 (01:01:25):
That you're thinking about. Everything I already know about you
is as you've done, my feelings you hurt.

Speaker 3 (01:01:31):
So you might always just leave if you can't pray
with this man. Take this man and kneel in front
of God and y'all figure this ship out.

Speaker 2 (01:01:39):
Okay, so you're gonna go before God about your relationship.

Speaker 3 (01:01:42):
I'm saying, I'm gonna do whatever it takes to save it,
to save it if you if in the way you can't,
I'm gonna do whatever it takes to say it everything.

Speaker 2 (01:01:49):
Cutting off everything. Yes, okay, that's fair. I ain't not
at that. The fact that you're holding yourself accountable. You're
saying if.

Speaker 1 (01:01:58):
You say human, I can't saying here, I can't say him.
So I can't say. I can't say what I might do.
But what I'm saying, I ain't gonna do that to
you no more.

Speaker 3 (01:02:09):
You ain't gonna have to rry about going through my phone,
ain't finna move funny, You ain't might to worry about none.

Speaker 2 (01:02:13):
Of that no more, gotcha?

Speaker 1 (01:02:15):
Because I see how that made you feel. Don't like
and you don't like it, you know what I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:02:18):
Saying, And that makes me the bad guy being considerate.

Speaker 1 (01:02:21):
Yeah, but I can't say what I'm gonna do for
my pleasure.

Speaker 3 (01:02:24):
What I can't say that it needs to be a
damn just see him be a liar, say because you
not and this shit be. I know it should be
sounding crazy, but I'll be saying it anyway. I don't
give a fun and hate me. Nigga, don't give a
fuck about how you uh what they did. They just
don't give a poe about how you feel.

Speaker 2 (01:02:42):
So it's really not about the action of what they did.

Speaker 4 (01:02:44):
You are more men are more concerned about them getting
caught us feeling away at mess.

Speaker 2 (01:02:49):
So you don't even care about doing it. You don't
care nothing about cheating.

Speaker 1 (01:02:53):
No, no, nigga, do it. If you did, you want
to did it, but you when you're doing it, you
still counter feel a way. But you don't really give
a fuck because if she don't find out, you're gonna
tell her that's true.

Speaker 2 (01:03:07):
But at what point do you hold yourself to how
you standard?

Speaker 1 (01:03:11):
What standard?

Speaker 2 (01:03:12):
It's a Saturday saying. I don't want to be that man.
I'm married, I'm engaged, I have a girlfriend, I have
something to stayble. It's someone that loves me.

Speaker 3 (01:03:21):
People are just not built to be in relationships and
are in them, and you shouldn't be in them and
are in them.

Speaker 1 (01:03:25):
They're in them. But they just some people just not
built to be in a relationship. How people say relationship
is supposed to go monogamous. You see what I'm saying.
So some people are not for that, and some people
are because some people got people that.

Speaker 3 (01:03:35):
Know that ennigang shit, but he loved me or whatever,
however they got it or vice versas right, because I.

Speaker 1 (01:03:42):
Know, dudes that that girl she don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:03:44):
That's crazy.

Speaker 3 (01:03:45):
I'm just saying, like, real ship, and they be like, man,
do she do? I'm just saying, like this it's a
whole it's a whole lot of It's a.

Speaker 1 (01:03:53):
Whole different world we live in in any day.

Speaker 2 (01:03:55):
Man, I just feel like, at the end of the day,
you said, I gotta come to guy.

Speaker 1 (01:04:02):
A relationship has to be we got done to be
best friends.

Speaker 2 (01:04:07):
Man, I agree with that.

Speaker 1 (01:04:08):
When best friends it ain't nothing.

Speaker 4 (01:04:10):
I feel like, if we're best friends, you will think
twice about hurting me to the extent.

Speaker 1 (01:04:14):
But at the end of the day, a woman could
be donna hurt a man in a way she don't
even know, but he just don't have the balls to
express it because he don't want to look weak and
he can already gonna check out but I love you.
That happens. Shit, that happens, nigga.

Speaker 3 (01:04:30):
You could be gonna say some shit or this and
shit or anything, nigga, because one thing about some dudes,
smart dudes. They know I ain't gonna be able to
change her no matter what, because you're gonna hint at
certain shit. Stop all that motherfucking line. Yeah, but you
tell one more life, it's.

Speaker 1 (01:04:46):
Just a life. And then I ain't gonna say it
no more. You know what I'm saying. I ain't finna
say that, no mom, just nothing adjusted this line, ass bitch.
I ain't finna kills. I ain't finna ancident. Yeah, you
know what I'm saying. I ain't trying to catch you
no more. Lives origin categorize you.

Speaker 3 (01:05:01):
Women always see the sometimes try to see the light
at the end of the tunnel instead of.

Speaker 1 (01:05:06):
Saying this is who this nigga is.

Speaker 2 (01:05:11):
That's that's hard to do, though, because we can say, Okay,
this is who he is. But at some point he
may want to do better by himself and say, you
know what, I ain't gonna do this, Let's let me
switch it up. But right amount of standard, until he
changed discipline.

Speaker 3 (01:05:27):
Until he changed discipline for who he may not feel
like he's not disciplined though, so the man.

Speaker 2 (01:05:32):
Sleeping with different women he gonna fill in his head
he's not disciplined.

Speaker 1 (01:05:37):
I don't know. Some niggas don't feel like that. That's
obvious because some women don't feel like that.

Speaker 2 (01:05:44):
That's obvious because they do it.

Speaker 1 (01:05:45):
That's what I'm saying. Some people don't feel like that.
Some people got their own way of thinking.

Speaker 2 (01:05:48):
I just want a man of morals and character.

Speaker 3 (01:05:51):
But the morals that you that you care because they
could have their own more than their own sexual discipline.

Speaker 1 (01:05:56):
He says.

Speaker 3 (01:05:57):
This could be I'm just gonna wear kunnels have their own.
Don't say everybody had their own morals.

Speaker 2 (01:06:05):
I can't deal. I'm just gonna be single for me.

Speaker 3 (01:06:07):
Yeah, But what I'm saying, like, Okay, out of all
the how many dudes have you say you dated in
your adult life?

Speaker 2 (01:06:14):
Serious dating seriously day in my adult life? Maybe five?

Speaker 1 (01:06:21):
Okay, and none of it just got serious serious to
the point of proposal.

Speaker 2 (01:06:28):
No why why got to the point that we went
to look at rings.

Speaker 4 (01:06:32):
We lived together, we built a house together, we did
all of that, But it didn't get to the point
that he actually proposed.

Speaker 1 (01:06:39):
So what part in that do you play the part of.

Speaker 2 (01:06:44):
You want me to take account of building for what
part of in that situation? I feel like in all situations,
we're gonna say that situation, but that that's the only
person that was close to I lived with the whole thing.

Speaker 4 (01:06:58):
Well, I will hold myself acout before is during arguments,
One I fly off at the mouth. I felt like
I was being very disrespectful. And two because I knew
he had abandoned issues. Like you said, I'm a runner,
So it's like we getting tool, We're gonna scream, yell,
I'm leaving. I'm not saying under the same roof and
we keep arguing back and forth. I just don't want

(01:07:20):
that chaos. So I would leave, and that would be
an issue for him, like why don't.

Speaker 2 (01:07:24):
You just stay in and we work it out?

Speaker 4 (01:07:26):
But I can't say under a roof that we scream
and yell and calling out each other's name and it
won't stop.

Speaker 2 (01:07:32):
This is for hours. I'm like, I'm cooling that I'm gone.

Speaker 1 (01:07:35):
So do you feel like he was?

Speaker 3 (01:07:37):
Like, so you feel like you ain't never met your
person that you just to take anything. That's why that's
why I guess I think that's.

Speaker 1 (01:07:43):
What it be. Man with most women, they they picking
him in.

Speaker 2 (01:07:51):
Mm instead of letting the man.

Speaker 3 (01:07:54):
Yeah, they picking, they picking, trying to pick. So when
you pick a nig up, somebody else just said it
on him. When you pick a nigga, you basically gotta
deal with whatever he put out.

Speaker 2 (01:08:05):
That's true. But when he chooses you, I think he
will make adjustments for you because that's what you actually want.

Speaker 3 (01:08:11):
I agree, But the dude that choose you, guys, okay,
like that's somewhere like that's somewhere like some trauma. Because
if somebody come to you and actually genuinely try to
love you, you will find flawing it. That's crazy to
me what you're saying.

Speaker 1 (01:08:30):
That's what you want. That's what women are praying for,
somebody to love, cherries and this and that.

Speaker 3 (01:08:34):
But that can be right hand in your face and
you cannot recognize it because of what you already uh pre.

Speaker 2 (01:08:42):
I don't even think it's that necessarily.

Speaker 4 (01:08:44):
I kind of think it's. Yes, that's what we pray
for with some ponds. It doesn't come in a package.

Speaker 1 (01:08:49):
That's what I'm saying, sir.

Speaker 3 (01:08:50):
You already have seen the person like, if he don't
sound like who you thought he was gonna sound like,
if he don't schmel or whatever, the nigga might not
smell or sound, you could you could teach the nigga
how that she meant what he needed to smell, like, Oh,
real ship because most women, like bro, it's so many
niggas get with certain women and just turn up like
look at Steve.

Speaker 1 (01:09:09):
Steve had a big country and suit song, real ship
like it was just two cutries. Soon as he got
with old Marjorie.

Speaker 2 (01:09:17):
She turned him up. He turned Yes, I agree.

Speaker 1 (01:09:20):
You get what I'm saying. It's just like and he
could have she he could have. She could she could
have not been his type. I mean she couldn't have.

Speaker 3 (01:09:29):
Yeah, exactly because she said I seen one of the
interviews like Steve been trying to get other naughty.

Speaker 1 (01:09:35):
You know what I'm saying. Steve, when they got his
ship together, came and chose that woman and changed for
that woman.

Speaker 3 (01:09:40):
I'm pretty sure Steve was outside, absolutely you get what
I'm saying. But he chose this woman, This the one
I want with your fuck what they say about it?

Speaker 2 (01:09:48):
What woo woo did the one and I'm gonna make
it happen with this one.

Speaker 1 (01:09:51):
That's how it go.

Speaker 3 (01:09:52):
Like a lot of women be thinking. And this ain't
no direct shot to no woman out there, please, but
a lot of women be in their mind in it.
There's something that they're not to another person.

Speaker 1 (01:10:02):
You could be that to.

Speaker 4 (01:10:03):
Yourself as far as what's what characteristics? Do you feel
like a woman thinks that she is that you, as
a man, say, you know you're not that what I'm
saying perfect, I'm not perfect what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:10:15):
But that's how they come off, Okay, Like anything anything
I bring up.

Speaker 3 (01:10:19):
To you as a woman or as a man, you
be like if I did something to you, you could
justify because of you just fory your action because of
what I did.

Speaker 1 (01:10:29):
Like sayings if if I didn't.

Speaker 3 (01:10:31):
Take out the trash last night and the trash man
and shit just in enable home association, their trip or whatever,
but you didn't wash the dishes the next day, and
I'll be like, man, why all we.

Speaker 1 (01:10:43):
Gotta come in here and eat Dishwise you like, well,
I say that ain't that bad? Yeah, just trash thinking.
So it's basically I'm just using. I'm just using.

Speaker 3 (01:10:52):
There is a example, not something serious, but it's just
as long as I feel like the relationship these days
are competition.

Speaker 1 (01:10:59):
I hate it's a competition.

Speaker 5 (01:11:01):
It's like.

Speaker 3 (01:11:03):
Like yo yeah yo yo yo yo yo yo. Made
it your op, Like I'm looking for your flower, you
look for my flowers instead of trying to make it
y other better.

Speaker 1 (01:11:10):
It makes it work, you know what I'm saying, Like
like if I cease or flawing you, it's a way.
It's a way you could tell me. That's a way
I can tell you for you to receive it. You
know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:11:19):
But it's the way my delivery is to you to say.

Speaker 3 (01:11:23):
But we wait until we upset and say what we meant,
and then a person gonna take that shit in for
that no matter how good, y'all fucked have better that
shit don't go away Like damn, she said this to me, yep,
because you already knew it.

Speaker 1 (01:11:34):
But you could have been told me this bitch. You
had to get mad to say that ald of that head. Yeah,
you know what I'm saying, right, So Nah, I just
feel like, man, this shit could be also simple.

Speaker 2 (01:11:44):
Man, it could be. Unfortunately it's not. So That's why
so many single women right now.

Speaker 4 (01:11:51):
It's beautiful, successful single but I think a lot of them,
including myself, and I know people say you have to
settle down with someone, but we don't necessarily want to settle.

Speaker 1 (01:12:04):
And you think I don't think that. I think. I think.
I think.

Speaker 3 (01:12:08):
I think your person is your person, no matter what
what package they come in. That's just how I feel
about it. You keep trying to search for a motherfucker
that's in your head that she ain't gonna never happen,
or your fuck who you are. You're gonna be what
we said, say Tom Johnna crue crab dingo. Yeah, that
where he's gonna be with the girls.

Speaker 2 (01:12:27):
With the girls, and we saw tied the girls trips.

Speaker 3 (01:12:29):
Tell you that because I'm telling and most women, most
women really wouldn't even.

Speaker 1 (01:12:37):
Give a fuck what they nigga do. If nobody didn't know,
I could believe that that's the truth. I could believe that,
like I don't give a fuck what he did with
somebody knows. Somebody else know now.

Speaker 2 (01:12:50):
Because it may not be to the standard of what
someone thinks.

Speaker 1 (01:12:53):
Like friends and all that then didn't see the problem
is women talk.

Speaker 3 (01:12:58):
Women talk to their friends to much because at the
end of the day about they ben you don't feel
you feel like this today, but your friend love you.

Speaker 1 (01:13:06):
She love you, so she gonna treat me.

Speaker 3 (01:13:08):
Talk what you said off what I said, And now
you gotta come around and try to be faking the mimber.

Speaker 1 (01:13:13):
You know you've been talking to this bitch about me.
Now you're right here trying to make us be friends.
She don't like me, Yeah, well we don't made up.

Speaker 4 (01:13:19):
Already we made made up, and then my friend like,
I don't like them because she judge off what I've
already told her.

Speaker 1 (01:13:27):
About you, or you gotta act a certain way towards
me when she's around, because you already and told her.
Fuck this nigga. You know what I'm saying, So now
you gotta kind of act like fuck this nigga, Kinada.
That shit just fake, bro, that shit fake.

Speaker 2 (01:13:42):
It is fake.

Speaker 1 (01:13:42):
I can see that because it is.

Speaker 2 (01:13:44):
But I'm like that. I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 1 (01:13:45):
I am like that.

Speaker 4 (01:13:46):
So when my friends told me something that their partner
have done, that's very hurtful.

Speaker 2 (01:13:50):
And this is my friend, this is ten twenty years in.

Speaker 4 (01:13:53):
I'm gonna hold on to that, whether they've made up
or not. I'm sure they have made up, hash sex
all of that. I know when he's done and I'm
gonna hold on and I shouldn't, but I definitely feel
that way, So I get it.

Speaker 1 (01:14:04):
I just fucked up though.

Speaker 3 (01:14:06):
So but what that's like divide, that's like dividing comfort.
If you're not gonna leave now, If you leave now,
everything goes back to if you done, you can say
whatever you want to say about it. Well, if you know,
you're finna be back in this nigga phase, and y'all
finna be default going to be back around now, you
cause and chao, Now, when I started saying.

Speaker 1 (01:14:20):
I don't like that bit such and such, Yeah, I'm
bringing home my house, but I don't like him, don't
bring around me. Now you got a pick.

Speaker 2 (01:14:26):
Yeah, ship you started between my man and my best friend.
That's true, that's the little hard picked.

Speaker 1 (01:14:34):
Yeah, that's a hard thing.

Speaker 3 (01:14:35):
Hard because at the end of the day, you feel
like she got your back, then you feel like I
got your back.

Speaker 1 (01:14:38):
Either way, you act the funnel. So why divide them? Folks?

Speaker 2 (01:14:41):
So just leave your relationship. See you and your partner, and.

Speaker 1 (01:14:44):
Now you got a friend that's gonna be like, Well,
what you do, friend, that's true. You know what I'm saying,
Like what you do?

Speaker 2 (01:14:49):
Because I know you do a hold us accountable for sure?
What do you do?

Speaker 3 (01:14:56):
You feel like what you get mad at one of
your friends they take take a dude's side, and you
felt like you was all the way in the right,
that's what happened before, and you got mad at her.

Speaker 4 (01:15:04):
I was upset in the conversation at first. Yeah, and
she was like, listen, not the way the way you
handle that wasn't right. So you need to call back
and apologize. And she's older, my girlfriend, Stephanie, she's older
than me, so she has more of an insight of
relationships and how I should you know, act for a
time man at the time.

Speaker 2 (01:15:23):
So I was upset.

Speaker 4 (01:15:23):
I'm like, no, he did this, and then she was like,
calm down, explain the situation. Once I explained it, she's like, no,
you're wrong, you're wrong. And then when she put it
that way, said you're right. Let me go back and apologize.

Speaker 2 (01:15:36):
It hurt like hell to do it, but she was right.

Speaker 3 (01:15:39):
But why do women try to be still like you
get in a relationship with you still trying to live
a single life with your single friends.

Speaker 1 (01:15:50):
You can't do that.

Speaker 2 (01:15:52):
We can't do it, but we want a happy what's
the happening. I'm not saying that you're gonna be with your.

Speaker 4 (01:15:56):
Single friends all the time, but we do need that
space to see our friends, spend time.

Speaker 1 (01:16:03):
Every week.

Speaker 2 (01:16:04):
Thing it could be once some money, you know, we
can hang out, have drinks, go to dinner. I'm not
a club girl anyway.

Speaker 1 (01:16:08):
But I ain't to my club. I'm just saying like,
I don't, I don't, I don't do what I'm in
a relationship.

Speaker 2 (01:16:13):
We're not doing a whole lot of girls trips either.

Speaker 1 (01:16:15):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying. We girlfriend or boyfriend.
You're trying to be my wife? Right? Which one you're
trying to be? You trying to be my girl?

Speaker 3 (01:16:20):
You can hang with them every day wife you need
to be. You need to go in here and start practicing,
right if you want me to put this ring?

Speaker 1 (01:16:26):
So you want to got them hang out with all
these singles girls, their their their mindset is not like yours.
You try to be a wife. So they're single, right, so.

Speaker 2 (01:16:35):
They turn up having a good time.

Speaker 1 (01:16:36):
That just what it is. I agree with that that
I agree with. So you have to have a you
need to get some fun some women that's been married
and shit, because this is life. You're trying to like,
how you gonna.

Speaker 3 (01:16:48):
Hang around the same ship that you ain't no more?
That's true, but niggas pick up on that. But women
thinking nigga don't pick up on that.

Speaker 1 (01:16:53):
Listen ship.

Speaker 2 (01:16:54):
So if you felt that way, what you tell your
girl like listen you can't.

Speaker 1 (01:16:57):
Get how I do? That's controlling.

Speaker 2 (01:16:59):
I don't think that's just giving your opinion on But
it's your bestie. Would you not say it? Don't hang
with her at all?

Speaker 1 (01:17:06):
Right? No, I might just say where are your married
friends at? Where your friends that were dudes? That's what
I say? What are your friends that who got dudes?

Speaker 2 (01:17:15):
So?

Speaker 1 (01:17:15):
Allowed to share stories?

Speaker 2 (01:17:16):
Y'all?

Speaker 1 (01:17:16):
How y'all at parents story? Yeah? What kind of stories
are y'all sharing?

Speaker 2 (01:17:19):
Not de serving controlling though, I don't consider that controlling.
That's just giving your opinion or.

Speaker 1 (01:17:25):
You want your white sax niggas to be.

Speaker 2 (01:17:30):
I don't feel like it's sassy.

Speaker 1 (01:17:31):
It is because now you're trying to come between me
and my friends. But you're not saying that's like a
nigga trying to start a coach. You are unlocked and
our general want friends. No, baby, I just want yeah
those like but you're not in that be my friend.

Speaker 4 (01:17:46):
You're saying, just limit the access you all have. You
hanging out with your single girlfriends. You need to hang
out with someone that's more of what you're trying to
go towards, which is a wife. I don't feel like
that's anything wrong with that. I don't think that's controlling
or sassy about it. That's to say, yeah, just like
if I tell you, why don't you hang out with
some of your married friends.

Speaker 2 (01:18:06):
And not your homeboys that's in the strip club every night.

Speaker 1 (01:18:13):
Yep, they don't really matter who nigga. You didn't gonna
do it.

Speaker 3 (01:18:23):
You can't say you're ready to be a wife you've
never been one. That shit takes practice it. You can't
just like think you're a wife because you've never been one.
I'm just saying, if you're a single, if you're a singer,
you could be a good girlfriend.

Speaker 2 (01:18:36):
We may just feel like we have equalities of a wife. Okay,
that we feel like a man will want to be
a wife.

Speaker 1 (01:18:42):
Okay, and what's that? Let's break it out the qualities
I feel.

Speaker 2 (01:18:45):
Like a woman that is one god fearing can pray
for you, very supportive.

Speaker 4 (01:18:53):
Just there, every there, every day, like someone that you
know has your back one hundred brand.

Speaker 2 (01:18:59):
Right, God for being you lose your job or whatever
your money is coming from.

Speaker 4 (01:19:03):
I shouldpposed to be able to help you. I'm gonna
help me, right, and you are the head of our household.
I'm behind you. That's what a wife does.

Speaker 1 (01:19:13):
I feel like.

Speaker 3 (01:19:14):
But d day, what I'm saying, what's what's the typical
stigma of a woman these days?

Speaker 2 (01:19:22):
Gold did not just go Yeah, But that's the first thing.

Speaker 1 (01:19:27):
All right.

Speaker 3 (01:19:27):
So so all right, let me ask you a question,
another question. The first quality in a man for you
is what the number one quality.

Speaker 2 (01:19:40):
A god fearing man?

Speaker 1 (01:19:41):
That's number one. That's number one, okay, Number two.

Speaker 2 (01:19:46):
Gold driven. Number three financially stable.

Speaker 1 (01:19:51):
Okay, let's get to that, all right.

Speaker 2 (01:19:55):
But if he's gold driven, he's going to be financially saved.

Speaker 1 (01:19:58):
Okay, that's what I'm saying. So the top three is
it's not love. It's not on her all the vile ship,
it's not none of that, right. The first ship is
he's of.

Speaker 4 (01:20:08):
A man, not of the person I'm marrying. You said
of a man, a man when you first meet a man,
so you can't listen, Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's what
I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:20:17):
So when you when you he yeah, he ain't gonna
find a little He ain't got them first three.

Speaker 1 (01:20:22):
So we blessed it. So the first thing I meet you,
you want to know, it's those first three and all.

Speaker 3 (01:20:28):
The first right and niggas know that right right when
by niggas knowing that this took me hear me out, y'all.

Speaker 1 (01:20:34):
By niggas knowing that they playing to that. You know
what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:20:40):
It's like niggas ain't gonna play until niggas gonna play
until the point where BRA ain't fuck with the whole
like that. Bro, It's gonna have to be magic for
me to lock in with them, because I know what
the whole. Won't you wanna fuck me if I ain't
have it? And a lot of niggas ain't have it.
A lot of nigga all went through that.

Speaker 1 (01:20:57):
I wanted the same bitch, when I ain't have it,
I want to look just like this, the nain't have it.

Speaker 2 (01:21:04):
So you cleaning into that with me? What what purpose
does that serve for you.

Speaker 1 (01:21:07):
It don't. It don't serve no purpose. I'm saying, not
playing to it.

Speaker 3 (01:21:10):
They take heed I'm a change, They take heed to that. Like, bro,
you can't like if I ain't got no door, I
can't get no chick. So with that bend said, when
I get some dough, I ain't just gonna just be
getting no anything.

Speaker 1 (01:21:24):
That's fair.

Speaker 2 (01:21:25):
Get what you want as you should.

Speaker 3 (01:21:29):
But I feel like most niggas feel like, broh, it's
better just to get you some get you something you
can build up.

Speaker 2 (01:21:35):
You think so yeah, as a man, you feel like
it's better for you to get someone that you can
build up. It's some potential, okay, other than what's the
other option I'm.

Speaker 1 (01:21:46):
Saying, Other than you know, somebody just want to be married.

Speaker 2 (01:21:51):
Because with potential you feel like you are building with somebody.

Speaker 3 (01:21:55):
Huh No, Because with potentially, I feel like you feel
like we can learn some from each other.

Speaker 1 (01:22:00):
Some people can't. You just can't teach them nothing. They
are already what they is.

Speaker 3 (01:22:04):
You can't teach them nothing, you know what I'm saying.
Just like anybody that itself made you, it's really rare
hard to teach them.

Speaker 4 (01:22:12):
Some But why don't you feel like you can meet
a partner that also has herself together, you have yourself
together and build from there.

Speaker 1 (01:22:19):
Why why does it have to be because they already
got a list. They got a list, but what is
wrong with it? I'm saying, I ain't who on off
a list. I ain't on no list. They ain't got
no list for me on it.

Speaker 3 (01:22:30):
I was just keeping a rib. They ain't got no
list for nobody on it. That list don't exist. That
shit is delusional.

Speaker 2 (01:22:36):
I think it's more of the qualities that's on the
list that we want.

Speaker 1 (01:22:39):
This shit delusion on man and niggas try to match
you up to it. How they need to go crazy
and schnap You got these niggas who bro these need
to be going crazy. But all the niggas who I
seen You ever seen a nigga just like a dry
stale Look it ain't happen.

Speaker 3 (01:22:52):
Yes, it's because he's trying to be what a woman
want him to be instead of what he want to be.

Speaker 2 (01:22:56):
Well, he should want better for himself. It shouldn't even
have nothing to do with them.

Speaker 1 (01:23:00):
I'm saying, better for myself may not be the same thing.
What better for yourself? Is what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:23:04):
Ain't talking about fails. I'm saying like, if you can
fix everything about you that a woman wants you, fish,
you stead to find something else.

Speaker 1 (01:23:10):
To need fixing. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:23:12):
Perfect that should have run a nigga crazy. You're right,
Like if you try to live for anybody, you try
to live for it. Like if my wife tried to
live for me, I would run her crazy because I
can always find.

Speaker 1 (01:23:24):
Something else for you to do.

Speaker 2 (01:23:25):
The gold coast always moves.

Speaker 1 (01:23:27):
Yeah, So it's like all the time. It's like you
gotta get with somebody that you can accept for what
they are, who they is, no matter what you see, and.

Speaker 2 (01:23:35):
Build from there.

Speaker 4 (01:23:36):
Yeah, I can do that, That's possible, but you got
to have some of the qualities that I need in
you those people.

Speaker 2 (01:23:44):
If you're not gold driven, I can't make do that.

Speaker 1 (01:23:46):
But a nigga can already be gold driven, be straight.
It can be straight for his own little shit, got
his own little shit, moving some little shit, but it's
some big ship to him, to him. But to limit
that ain't shit.

Speaker 4 (01:23:57):
Like like you said, always to have partnership with someone else,
you should want more for yourself, like.

Speaker 1 (01:24:03):
You're saying, all right, you are already straight. We know
you're handing your business.

Speaker 3 (01:24:07):
You could be up we say five ten million, and
I can just only have one to you. That ain't
nothing you like, man, that's how this shit goes.

Speaker 2 (01:24:16):
But I don't feel like she'll feel like that's nothing.

Speaker 1 (01:24:19):
I'm telling you.

Speaker 4 (01:24:19):
I feel like she she may feel like, okay, I
would want him at this other place and if she
loves him, build with him.

Speaker 2 (01:24:26):
I don't think it's anything.

Speaker 1 (01:24:26):
Who doing that? Where you seeing that going on?

Speaker 2 (01:24:30):
That? I think it's possibly.

Speaker 1 (01:24:32):
No, they won't, Okay, that's what I'm saying. If I
done hustled up on my own five ten million dollars,
I gotta get a nigga with a humbug. But you
know how they moving the gold. I'm telling you that
shitt Listen, both women go get they bad truth, they
go get it, and then you put yourself out of.

Speaker 2 (01:24:52):
Range of someone that's making a lot less than you.

Speaker 1 (01:24:57):
No, yeah, it's that's but what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:24:59):
But you put yourself, you put yourself in a one
percent bracket, correct? You know what I'm saying to what
somebody will have to come along and be that all
them niggas somebody they already just like, come on, man, like,
now you so far gone that you bid her? Now,
these niggas ain't shit. The nigga got mass on. These
niggas tricked me and he pulled up in there and
uncle rolls ross the nigga trick. You know what I'm saying, right,

(01:25:22):
I can see that because you're too.

Speaker 1 (01:25:24):
Far gone, baby.

Speaker 2 (01:25:26):
But a woman being financially well off, financially successful and okay,
meet is someone that has less than her, You don't
think that will push in Like damn, I gotta I
gotta give it because she she ain't playing.

Speaker 1 (01:25:39):
No, if he had the chance, if he got the chance, Okay,
he's not gonna get the chance. Well, it's rare. I
ain't gonna say he's not. It's rare. I ain't gonna
say it's not.

Speaker 4 (01:25:49):
Do you know how many women are successful and build
a man up like they really like come in and
turn them up.

Speaker 5 (01:25:54):
But it's rare.

Speaker 2 (01:25:55):
It is rare, but it happens.

Speaker 1 (01:25:57):
It's rare. But it's more women that's not aim doing that.
They gotta come package. That's gonna turkey.

Speaker 2 (01:26:06):
Situation.

Speaker 1 (01:26:07):
I get that. But at the end of the day. Man,
I think people just gotta recognize their person. And you
have you just looked over?

Speaker 2 (01:26:19):
No, I don't think I met him.

Speaker 1 (01:26:20):
She you finally have you just looked over?

Speaker 2 (01:26:23):
Okay? What he need to spend the block one more time?

Speaker 1 (01:26:26):
She just looked. He ain't listen.

Speaker 3 (01:26:28):
Blessed the always blessings always come in disguise. Man, Some
blessed don't never be what you thought.

Speaker 1 (01:26:35):
It shouldn't and it.

Speaker 2 (01:26:37):
Has to be a perfect package. But give me something,
give me a little ball, something on it.

Speaker 3 (01:26:43):
You could be overlooking everything he's saying. Give you something
by be how it look. But you could be overlooked
it looking everything you want.

Speaker 4 (01:26:49):
Bro, If it's not physically, I can't. I can't change that.
If it's physically I'm not into it.

Speaker 2 (01:26:54):
You can't. I can't grow into physically liking you, physically
being attracted to you sexually.

Speaker 1 (01:27:00):
Well, yeah, you can't do that. No, you're right about that.

Speaker 2 (01:27:04):
Right, So it has to be packaged somewhat of the characteristics.

Speaker 1 (01:27:07):
That I weren't a person like them niggas that you did.

Speaker 3 (01:27:10):
The type that you like usually don't be shit though, right, usually,
So you he need to pray for God to change
your attraction.

Speaker 2 (01:27:19):
I need to pray for a discernment.

Speaker 1 (01:27:21):
What's the disasn what fun that he could tell.

Speaker 4 (01:27:23):
Me this is really not for me as soon as
they approach, like this is this is not but you
already you already got that. Not really because my pickers
off not you felt some now I'm thinking my pickures
off right now.

Speaker 2 (01:27:35):
I'm just taking a minute.

Speaker 1 (01:27:37):
Oh they make you think that.

Speaker 4 (01:27:38):
I just feel like when I was younger and really
didn't have myself together. Honestly, I got better quality men
than what i've had now because they look at Okay, she's.

Speaker 2 (01:27:48):
Doing well, she lives well. I'm doing all of this
on my own. So they come in and see this
is where I enjoy dining, I like travel, and they
feel a way about it. I was doing this on
my own. I was doing this before you even walked
in the door. So but now they feel a way
about this.

Speaker 3 (01:28:05):
So now, but but you're putting pressure on me to
do it. You're gonna just keep doing the baby, Go ahead,
you got it.

Speaker 1 (01:28:10):
I'm grinding. I'm grind. I ain't trying to go on trips.
I'm grind. I fut which we suld go ahead? If
you nigga, I gotta m you gots in. I'm grinding.
I ain't try to go on no trip.

Speaker 2 (01:28:21):
But you got a M and I got seen A
trip is not gonna hurt either one of us.

Speaker 1 (01:28:25):
I don't want to go. Why I'm focused, You.

Speaker 2 (01:28:29):
Could see focusing. You can still enjoy me.

Speaker 1 (01:28:32):
Yeah, I can enjoy you an that limba, I enjoy
an lemma you tripping. I'm just keeping it real pain
to me. They for us to go where you want
to go?

Speaker 2 (01:28:39):
Baby, let go?

Speaker 1 (01:28:41):
Oh this shit accounted for it, but I can't. I
just said, but that that sounds crazy, right? You won't
let that nigga.

Speaker 2 (01:28:48):
Done it before.

Speaker 4 (01:28:48):
I've taken a man on vacation only because he's done.

Speaker 2 (01:28:52):
So much for me. He deserved it.

Speaker 3 (01:28:55):
But a woman a woman to know she got more
money than you, and watch you fuck your whole bag
up on her.

Speaker 1 (01:29:01):
I can see that. You know the man that got
but one M.

Speaker 3 (01:29:04):
You let the man buy you a lamb truck for
your birthday, then for krim and he want to buy
you a watch. That shit just knocked by four hundred
like that by money out his money. Well, he trying
to keep up with you because you already bossed.

Speaker 2 (01:29:16):
Up, right, Well, that's what he needs if he feeling
like he wants to he wanting to do that, and
nobody putting a gun in his head to do that.

Speaker 1 (01:29:23):
No, he really are, how because you already telling him
even if.

Speaker 2 (01:29:28):
He feels that way. Okay, let's let's take the millions
out of it, right, let's just take the ms out.

Speaker 4 (01:29:33):
Say I don't have ten and you have one. Let's
be a realistic number right now. Say I make five, right,
I make half a ticket?

Speaker 5 (01:29:44):
You make what.

Speaker 2 (01:29:46):
One hundred thousand?

Speaker 4 (01:29:47):
Okay, I'm already where I'm at, I have my house,
I have everything. You decide to buy me your car
with if you get it.

Speaker 1 (01:29:54):
On your own, gonna never decided that though, I wouldn't
ever decide that. Look, who shit you got the money?

Speaker 2 (01:30:05):
Come on, then I make five hundred, you made two fifty.

Speaker 3 (01:30:07):
I still ain't spending no comment on the bits when
I just making two hundred and fifty thousand?

Speaker 1 (01:30:11):
Who doing that? Then? It's crazy?

Speaker 2 (01:30:12):
So say say we live together.

Speaker 1 (01:30:14):
I still make five, but I gotta pay all the
bills because I make trippy?

Speaker 2 (01:30:18):
Who pays?

Speaker 1 (01:30:19):
I'm asking you if I if you make more money
than me, I sta still pay all the bill out
my money.

Speaker 2 (01:30:24):
I feel like you should pay the mortgage for sure.

Speaker 1 (01:30:26):
Oh yeah, I can agree with that. You're you gonna
take you the rest of the Yeah, that ain't bad. No,
that's p it's pee and I ain't no fifty fit
a niggas I pay volma do.

Speaker 4 (01:30:35):
I prefer you would have take care of But I
know I make more money. So if you take the heavyweight,
which is the mortgage and the colonels are the highest.

Speaker 2 (01:30:43):
Bills, you can take care of that. I can take
care of everything else. I ain't mad at that.

Speaker 1 (01:30:48):
See, but I'm just a different type of nigga though. Okay,
because if you made five hundred, I made two fifty,
then I got some fitted.

Speaker 2 (01:30:58):
So you're thinking of us collective?

Speaker 1 (01:31:00):
Did my money?

Speaker 2 (01:31:01):
How did that not necessarily your money?

Speaker 6 (01:31:03):
When I'm married, I'm just saying, okay, if you my
bitch's mark, I don't know it, like I'm not controlling,
but this hour's baby, what we do with it, I
gotta feel so it's not ship.

Speaker 1 (01:31:18):
Didn't know how I'm the leader. This ain't my mother.
I can't leave the money, baby, I can't trust you
at all. I can't trust you, you'll believe it be
a keep put the dog down, saying, baby, how you're
gonna tell you love it? You believe in me, you
trust your owner respect me.

Speaker 2 (01:31:40):
That That's how I call it a game. That is
exactly what it sounds like.

Speaker 1 (01:31:43):
No, bro, putt this ship together, then we ain't saying
who's spending what? So we locked in?

Speaker 2 (01:31:48):
Are you ever gonna feel a place that you feel like? Okay, cool?
I need to make some more because I know she's
already doing her thing for sure.

Speaker 3 (01:31:54):
Okay, good, Why wouldn't that nigga would't make some more
with throw without you, I may feel comfortable.

Speaker 4 (01:32:00):
That's the problem that you're comfortable in that space. That's
not gonna work because our lifetile is always gonna be different.

Speaker 3 (01:32:05):
Oh yeah, for sure, there's a lot of people be
comfortable too, though there's a lot of people coming.

Speaker 2 (01:32:10):
As long as you're not comfortable court she's doing her thing.
I need to make some more money then we can work.

Speaker 1 (01:32:15):
I ain't mad at it, but okay, back to a
hand before we get out of there.

Speaker 3 (01:32:20):
Okay, Like I was saying, basically, if a nigga know
that he couldn't give a woman without having some money.

Speaker 1 (01:32:28):
When he gets some money, why do you blame him
for being skeptical of women.

Speaker 2 (01:32:33):
I don't blame him for that, that's understanding.

Speaker 3 (01:32:35):
But most women feel though, likeggas ain't shit, the nigga
ain't shit?

Speaker 1 (01:32:39):
Is they not shipped by default?

Speaker 4 (01:32:40):
Though I can see them not being like that by default.
But the fact is, you already know what what playground
are you playing in? So you know a lot of
women require a certain not a lot. I'm not gonna
say that, cause it's women that have requirements that have
not a pot to piss in, but women of standard
and substance.

Speaker 2 (01:33:01):
You know, I need this certain a minds.

Speaker 4 (01:33:03):
It doesn't have to be a number to it, but
I need this type of stability to have this type
of woman.

Speaker 2 (01:33:09):
Why don't you just go and get it?

Speaker 1 (01:33:11):
Man? I get that.

Speaker 4 (01:33:12):
But because you already know what time it is from
the beginning, you know, it's not like you're playing a background.

Speaker 2 (01:33:18):
You don't know where you at.

Speaker 1 (01:33:19):
But I understand that.

Speaker 3 (01:33:20):
But how But but that's to me and I could
be wrong, but it's like that ain't built on nothing,
that's built on fake shit.

Speaker 1 (01:33:28):
Okay, So I say striped strip strip.

Speaker 3 (01:33:31):
Her down strip me down to the bare minimum. I
don't know what you got, you don't know what I got.
Let's see what we fuck with each other first.

Speaker 2 (01:33:37):
That's fair, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:33:39):
And then it could come out. You can have five dollars,
I can have ten cents.

Speaker 3 (01:33:43):
But we if we connect in a way that we're
gonna connect, we gonna figure out a way to get
some money.

Speaker 1 (01:33:47):
That's how I look at it. Other than that, I
don't feel like you can trust that shit.

Speaker 4 (01:33:50):
Really, I can see that if you're willing to do that,
but don't also have me coming in and I'm up,
I'm financially successful.

Speaker 1 (01:33:59):
You on the come up, and then we bon't get some.

Speaker 2 (01:34:03):
Money together, and then you're gonna run off with somebody
else and be a whole innother life with something that
I technically had a structure for.

Speaker 1 (01:34:11):
You ain't have nothing when you came in. I just
had an on here and just said he just did that,
but he told out on him. But at the end
of the day, sometimes but you could be.

Speaker 7 (01:34:20):
Built you up if you money got for you a bit,
just did shit to the school, pay for some patch artists,
and then you go after we don't build something together
and run off when you already came in the picture
not having nothing.

Speaker 1 (01:34:31):
But ask you something.

Speaker 3 (01:34:34):
But while we were building that, did you become op
in the process. You have to recognize that. Let me
let me ask you some if you did, you go
through my phone and find something we got past that.
You're my ot because you're fucking up my mental baper.
I need my medsal and you fucking you stuck it
up by viltin. You you my op Anything that makes

(01:34:55):
you worse than what you are is your opposition.

Speaker 2 (01:34:57):
Now I think you're feeling a way because of the
fact you got called no no, you.

Speaker 8 (01:35:02):
Know I'm saying saying, but if you and my wife,
if you were that wife, if you were that wife
or that girl that always came to me with a
positive spirit, no matter when I know you're supposed to
be upset.

Speaker 1 (01:35:14):
You haven't seen a lady like that. Though I've seen
ladies like that, Yeah, like why not?

Speaker 2 (01:35:21):
I just can't believe that's the demeanor all the time.

Speaker 1 (01:35:23):
But what I'm saying, you got some women that's like that.
You know how to be like Man, I'm not gonna argue.
I'm not opinion. I'm not Yeah, I'm gonna tell you
what it is and because this is pushing me towards
feeling the way them type of women like that be
serious about leaving or that that's niggas knowing. Okay, he
saying him do noth but yeah, but do for a
couple of months.

Speaker 2 (01:35:45):
Unfortunately, I ain't saying that nigga.

Speaker 3 (01:35:47):
I'm saying, but he he becomes he he becomes a
better man before the other man. I'm gonna just keep
it rid that guy because he because especially if he
have empathy and respect for that woman, he would eventually
turn into that man.

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