March 6, 2023 • 52 mins
Gizelle and Robyn talk about college tours, caviar, “rising” penis sizes, Traitors finale, Brittney Griner, dating approaches, Gizelle’s surgery, Greek life and more AMA questions!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Welcome to another episode of Reasonably Shady.
I am Jell Bryant. What's up? What's up y'all? This
Robin Dixon? Thank you again for being here. Yes, yes,
(00:24):
so good to see you. Robin. Yes, you too, I
mean you just you know, a bright ball of sunshine. Really, yes,
you don't feel that, you don't feel your your bright
ball of sunshiness? Is it because I'm pale? Because I
didn't say that. I think that's I'm just I was
referring to your energy, okay, is very sunshiny and bright
(00:48):
and you know, just uplifts people. You're welcome. Hallelujah. Thank you.
Wait a minute, speaking of this is so off the cuff.
So I took my kids to twins to Hampton University,
which I went. I grab. I'm a graduate of Hampton University.
It's an HBC. You get into it. It's one of
(01:09):
the best, Thank you very much. Anyway, I went to
Hampton at a private tour for them. Nice. I guess
the dean of admissions did her research and figured out
who their father is. So our tour guide was the
kid on campus who's a minister and training so and literally,
(01:30):
oh my god, was like once he figured I mean, yeah,
he knew who we were, but like seven minutes into
the tour, yeah, he was like, um, you know, Pastor
Brian is my favorite pastor and oh my gosh. At
some point, you know, can I talk to him? I said,
I just immediately faced time Jamal. I was like, Jamal,
(01:52):
this is your number one fan right here. And the
boy did a shout, like a holy girld shout. He
was like kicking his legs kicking, like are going I
don't promise you. He made me screenshot the FaceTime of
him talking to Jamal, Oh my god and send it
to him. Okay, last, but not least, so towards the
(02:15):
end of the day, where this kid all day and
by the way, this kid is phenomenal, Like he is
hands down gonna change the world one day. Okay, okay.
So I had stepped out of the room at some
point and he was showing my kids that he has
an app. He has a preaching app. So if you
press a button, it'll give you the background music. It's like, dumb,
he can just start preaching. And so he was like
(02:38):
he made fun of Jamal's preaching. I was on the
floor laughing. Okay, so, oh my god. Then he was like,
all right, I want to show y'all video I preached
my Applebee's order. He was like, can I get the
twelve we with the side out of ice tea? Oh
(03:02):
my god? Okay, okay, does he want to be a
preacher or an actor? Listen that close? But it was,
it was he was amazing. Anyway, how do we start
talking about that? Because you said, well, would he do
it for some because you said I was a ball
of sunshine? I don't know. Okay, wait, so I so
since you were saying that, how do your kids feel
(03:22):
about like when people instantly want to start talking about
like church or preaching or like you know what I'm saying,
when they treat them like they think they want to like, um, okay,
so my kids will very much smile on your face
and entertain you. But because they are preachers children, yeah,
they don't want to hear that, right, Yeah, Like their
father doesn't even talk to them that way. Right. So
(03:45):
I don't want to say it's a turn off, but
it's like nothing that they're entertained about, like that they
want to discuss. But they'll still be nice about it. Yeah,
they'll they'll still be very nice. But um, the twins
will Grace might tell you stop talking. Okay, but they
but this guy, you know, you overlooked it because this
guy was just so dynamic on so many levels. So anyway, um,
(04:09):
reasonably shady moment, do you have one of the week? Okay.
So so the other day, I'm driving in the car
with my kids and my father calls me, and I
have my phone connected to the bluetooth, the speakers and
all that type of stuff. I hate that. That makes
me so nervous, I know, right, you never know what
(04:30):
they're gonna say, yeah, or like I might be on
a dating that somebody else calls. Oh, I don't do
that anymore, but yeah if yeah, back in the dead.
Definitely got to disconnect the bluetooth. Anyway. So so my
father calls and he's like, oh, Robin, I'm watching the news.
I'm listening to them talk about China and Russia and
(04:52):
what in Ukraine and you know, North Korea, and I
just want to tell you, you you know, to tell the
kids to make sure that they're doing their school work,
make sure that they are, you know, getting good grades
and you know, doing well in school, because if they
gotta if there's gonna be a World War three and
they gotta draft, the military has to draft people. You know,
(05:14):
they want to be doing good in school. So because
they're they're going to draft to people that aren't doing
the arts, they got to draft the D students, not
the A students. Okay, I don't think it works that way,
but I'm pretty sure this is not working that way.
He's like, you know what I mean, if they just
stay in school and you know, go, you don't get
their education. But you know, if they're not in school
(05:36):
they're not doing well, then you know, I just you know,
I just I just just just tell them, just tell
them just to do good in school, am I. They're
like in the car listening to this, like they're like,
what is he talking about? Like, because they have no
concept of the draft, right, they're like, pop, Pap is turban.
So after that, we get home the next few days,
(06:00):
like anytime Biden is on the news talking about Ukraine,
they are like, Okay, well, what does that mean they're
gonna be? Are we gonna be? What do you mean?
China said that they're like literally watching every headline on
the team. Listen, those kids, they're about to be drafted.
And I'm like, are you scared that we're going to
(06:21):
go to war? He's like yeah. I'm like, oh my god,
but are they a students? Be students? I mean they're
a and B Okay, Carter, maybe you see. I don't know,
but like I'm sure first of all, you can explain
to them we have a military. Well, but my father
seems to think if our military has to go up
against Russia, we need every miner in North Korea at
(06:43):
the same time that we are in trouble, and they
we have to go back to the draft. Okay, because
he was drafted, he said, you know he oh he was, Yeah,
I know what he said. But my father he wasn't
like was that an embellishment? Your father's not drafted? I
think he was. He said he did something he wasn't
(07:04):
like on the you know, on the field, shooting people. Yeah,
he was like a medical person. Oh, but but they did.
He had to go. He had to go. Okay, Okay, Well,
so that is so he has PTSD from the draft.
I got that is he does not what his grandkids
at least he has a good memory. Okay, he does,
you know, but I want you to tell him he
has nothing to do with what their grades are. As dude,
(07:26):
who gets drafted. Okay, I'm like, you a whole doctor
and you got drafted. Hey, So so honestly, I think
they should actually probably become like the d students. They
gonna leave these students out because they don't know how
to follow instructions or something. I don't know. I'm hilarious. Yes, well,
my reasonably shady moment of the week is not that
(07:49):
horrific or tragic and anyway, uh and yeah, and I
hope that never happens. I celebrated Valentine's Day, yes, and
I guess I didn't get a Teddy Bear, but I
was kind of wishing I did. Teddy bears are so cute. Anyway,
I got caviar. One of the things I got was caviar, like,
(08:11):
because you know, we've been going to some restaurants and
they've been offering caviar. Like one of the old places
that we went to, the Guesthouse um in New York,
they have avocado with like caviar on time. It's the
best thing ever. So and he cooks. So anyway, we
tore us caviar up. Oh my god, like I was
(08:32):
like in heaven. I was like, this is everything. Oh
my gosh, this is amazing that it did. So when
I got home, I've been on a caviar search. I'm like,
I'm just gonna get something whole fuck. So I literally
took a because so there is caviar offered that Whole
food Okay, there's a there's a section. Took a picture
of the section. I don't know what I'm doing, and
(08:53):
I send it to him and I was like, oh,
who is him? Jason? And I was because he cooks,
so he knows, he's got knowledge. And I was like,
which one should I buy? And he's like, none of those?
And then I was like, what you, Lyne, You don't
know what you're talking about. So I go back to
Whole Foods. This is leading up to recently. Okay, I
(09:15):
go back to Whole Foods and I asked the man
in the seafood section about the caviar. I was like,
which one is good? Because there's a range. There's something
that are fourteen dollars and there's something that are ninety
five dollars. But it's all the same size. Okay. He
was like, you might as well just get the fourteen
dollars one because I mean, it ain't no sense. It's
spending all that money. If you don't happy, I said, sir.
(09:37):
Sir said, sir, take money out of this conversation. Forget
they all at the same price. Which one is better
than the rest? He was like, I don't know, I
don't know. I don't buy those other ones. I said,
kill me. So moving on. So I'm like, okay, Jason,
can you do some research? Can you like figure it out?
(09:57):
He was like, Giselle, we can't get caviar in this
country legally. And I was like what. He was like,
it's sold in Russia and it's illegal. Bluga caviar is
illegal in the United States. Okay. So I was like,
but you bought me the biggest ten I've ever seen,
like the huge one. Yeah. He's like, yeah, I got people.
(10:18):
So I was like, maybe I shouldn't tell say that
it was Jason. It was not Jason, because I don't
want to get him in trouble. This was a guy
that I'm dating and his name is he so Leroy
slash Henry on Valatiz's day gave me a huge thing
of caviar. So, okay, wait, did you sit there's caviar
at the restaurant. Oh yes, I don't know how they
(10:39):
get it. Nobody talks about how they get it. Okay,
So the shady part is the freaking whole foods. Like
what the hell are y'all selling? So it's not so,
that's not so it's not real cavear. It's so, then
it's not. But it looks, it looks. I don't what.
I need to research it. So it's only a certain
type of caviar. You can't get here. You can't get
(10:59):
you can't don't get like the real good Cathy good
here in this country, supposedly according to Leroy. So and
I'm wanting the so actually the shady people of the Russians. Yeah,
we did not have to go into this fight with
Ukraine and the United States that got damn Putin. He's
messing up everything because I want my caviar. Is that
(11:22):
why it's illegal Putin? I'm gonna if it's Russia, we
just gotta blame Putin. Really, yeah, Russian is equal to Putin.
I need more information on this cavear. Well, that's just crazy.
And I am now like I told him, I told
Henry slash Leroy, he has created a monster because I
am the caviar queen. Really, yes, I'm loving it. What
(11:44):
does it taste like? M It's like okay, so we've
done it several ways, okay, and I'm talking about Cathy.
I'm like, so like you can have it like on
a cracker, just plane, or you can put butter on
the cracker and then put that on top. Oh so good.
It's like kind of salty, but like fishy. Yeah, the butter,
it like exacerbates the taste. I was being adventurous, so
(12:09):
we had sushi too, so I was like putting it
on top of the sushika. Oh my god, so good.
Like it's so good, Like what can I get a
it's close to what it's close to, like smoked salmon,
I don't know, maybe, but way better the consistencies like
baldly like we're moving on. But I'm a cavall, So
(12:33):
if anybody can give us so caviar information as to
where you all can ship some to me sneakedly the
good kind, feel free? Yeah, contact um carly Okay, yes,
the end. I know, I know we're gonna talk about traders,
(12:54):
but I do want to talk about one thing in
particular because I got kind of that was what is?
So what I cleared myself it's a problem. Yes, why
like what it's about to come out to own That's
what I want to know. Okay. So there was a
headline a couple of weeks ago and it said male
fertility specialists are concerned, huh that the average erect penis
(13:19):
length has increased, oh by twenty and scientists don't know why.
This is so intriguing to me. So all of these years,
penises have been whatever they've been, right, ranging from the
(13:40):
different people, right, and we have we have dispelled size
is equal to why? I know? Why tell me penis
sizes have grown? Right? Yes? Okay, so you know typically
they say, what black men have larger penises than white men,
right right, that's that's that's the word, or you know,
(14:00):
white men Asian man. Period. So as time goes on,
we have more interracial couples, okay, more by racial children,
by racial people, we have you know, more black people
kind of just the hour, I think if we look
at the population of our country, yes, and I wonder
if it's just a US study or is this like
(14:22):
a worldwide let me say, let's say, let's just keep
it to the US. Okay, So as we look at
the population of the US, it has changed, right, like
the demographics the numbers of you know, white people versus
you know, black people and in Latino people or whatever
people of color. All right, okay, so that number has
you know, shifted, shifted. So as the as we have
(14:43):
more people of color, yes, that equals big pleas have bigger, more,
bigger penises. Why haven't I promish you that's not it?
I didn't. It makes sense to me. That doesn't make sense. Okay,
but let's let's even let's even know what makes sense?
No kind of but not really. So who's measuring the
(15:03):
penis is the scientists. It's just like you signed up
for Okay, they had a study, all right, Three three
thousand men signed up for this study over the course
of a year to measure penis sizes. That's what the
study is for. Or did they get this from like urologists.
But when you go to a neurologist, your penis is
not hard. One's never told me that the urologist has
(15:25):
measured his erect penis never Okay, so he goes because
his biological father had um, what's the cancer, prostate cancers?
So like he's like one is like on top of it.
So he visits his urologists. Okay, they've never measured, never
erect penis. Well this, this particular article said that they
(15:46):
believe it's caused by early puberty. So people are hitting
puberty early. Boys are hitting puberty earlier, they have more
time for their penis to grow. Maybe, okay, maybe, but
why is there early puberty because of the food, Because
of the hormones in the food. I think. So I
was gonna say that too, you were not. I was
(16:07):
Why don't you think I asked you that? Because I
was going to say, because it all hormones in the food. Well, listen,
all I can say is our children's children, the daughters,
they'll be happy every happy campers. Okay, I ain't at listen.
Twenty four percent that's like that's that's a quarter large.
So if you had a penis, that was like oh
(16:30):
oh wait wait wait In this article they said the
average penis size was like five inches. Wait erect that's
what they said, average erect penis sizes five inches, they said,
drastically increased over the past twenty years by twenty four percent. YadA, YadA, YadA. Okay.
It says, according to the study, the average length of
(16:50):
the erect penis across all areas and decades was roughly
five point five inches. Don't nobody want that five point
This is before the increase, or this is before the
increase after it might be I don't know ten point
seven Okay. I have a question for all of our
male listeners. I don't know if this is inappropriate or
(17:11):
well probably can you a message us and let us
know if you have measured your penis? All? Oh, is
that a thing? I feel like a boy like I
feel like sometime in their life all males have measured
their penis. I don't think so what really, you don't
like a teenage boy like? Okay, So imagine how they
would do that. They have to go get a ruler.
(17:32):
H huh, step one and then then it's erect and
then they're like putting a ruler next to it. Just
let us know, okay, if you all you know, if
you feel comfortable letting us know if at some point
in your life whether you were twelve or twenty two
or forty two? What you're working with? Have you measured
your penis? Yeah? Let us know what do you do
periodic penis checks? Like are you like, oh, it's my
(17:55):
penis the same size? Like, oh, is it getting bigger?
It's getting bigger? It has it gotten smaller? Older? And
if it is because of hormones? Are you do you
want to eat more McDonald's so you can have a
bigger petis? I need to know the answer to these questions. Okay, anyway,
let's we gotta talk about Traders because a couple of
months ago or a couple of weeks ago, I told
you about Traders. Yeah, you had not hit on the
(18:17):
one episode, right, Yeah? I saw one episode? Yes, okay,
so Traders Guys is on Peacock, the streaming service Peacock
ten episode you've you've now finished? I watched it, okay,
the whole thing. Yes? Were you dying on the last episode?
I was like, put me in coach like I would. Yes, Yes,
so you definitely want you want to be all season two? Yes?
You know it would be really cool if we both
(18:38):
did it. Yes, but I would know if you're lying, Robin, No,
you wouldn't Okay, maybe not No, Okay, do you know
how how crazy that would be cool? They would kick
us off so we get banished the first episode because
they'd be like these two all grow up to no good,
get them out of here, right, Okay? So this was,
(18:59):
this was and I don't want to spoil it for anybody,
but sorry, we're gonna spoil it. So the person at
the end that one, yeah, gangster, she played that game
gangster you know a DM turn. No, sure didn't, because
like I love when I see people do things in
there and I just want to give them like their
their cribs. Okay, DM, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you
(19:20):
what I said. And she responded, Okay, um, it's it's
not like exciting, but like I gotta find it. Yeah, Okay.
When she kicked off the curly head guy, uh huh?
Were you like? I see you? I see you. You're
a bad bitch. Honestly, she did what I would have done, right,
(19:42):
She did what I would have done. Really, yes, because
I'm like, you're a liability. You gotta go. You're in
such a liability, yeah, like you gotta go. She did
what I would have done. The whole time. She did
that last episode though, h that was that was I mean,
(20:03):
she had to do she had to listen that, but
it was so Gangstar like she was a goat. I know,
I don't want to spoil it for people, but like
now I feel like we have spoiled it because we've okay,
I see, Okay. The one thing that would kind of
irritate me though, were the people who would be like
they were talking about some other person and they were like,
she said, it's just a game. She's got to be
(20:24):
a trader, right, And I'm like, you have you guys, Okay.
I had a couple of questions. One is everyone get
paid for just being on the show. I assume so, right,
So then that leads me to ask, do you get
paid the longer that you're there? A I assume so?
And like the guy at the end who was like,
I'm blessed, I'm good, I'll back out right, he was
(20:47):
basically saying I didn't I've made enough money on this show, right,
I'm good, but you still want that extra twenty five
hundred thousand dollars right twenty five? That's what I meant
to say. So I DM this person at because I
was like, I can't take it. I reach out to you.
So I DM John. I was like, just watched the
(21:08):
last episode of Traders. Exclamation point exclamation point unbelievably gangster,
is what I said to her. And then I said
I have to say this far goodbye Ari, and I
said you're the goat and all caps. She was like,
thank you, lady. Exclamation point, exclamation point exclamation point with
like ten hearts. Um her whole y'all have got to
(21:34):
see it, but her whole like demeanor, Yeah, so unassuming. Yeah,
So I feel like I can't go on there and
win because everybody's gonna know, just by the nature of
the fact that I'm like super shady individual that I'm
up to something, They're gonna they're just like they assumed
was like, um like resident Brandy and Kate the whole time.
(21:57):
You know what I'm saying, They're gonna Kate won by default,
like she was winning by default. Like, so I saw,
but they might do a thing where well, wait, well
we we knowed it just Zella Trader, but let's keep
her around, yeah, like Kate, Yeah, so that we don't
get voted off, you know. So I saw Kyle in
New York and I and the first thing I said
to him, I was like, y'all, I was watching Traders.
I was like, you figured it out. He was like, hell, yeah,
(22:19):
I figured it out, he said, but I couldn't figure
out how to how to make it work and how
to like tell people without it backfiring. So I couldn't
figure that part out, right because it's like the first seat,
first season, so you can't you just kind of just
you're winging it right. So but he yeah, he definitely
could tell. He's he was ready. Yeah, but you know
(22:40):
what I said. Okay, So watching the finale and how
they revealed, like how they how they would do their reveals,
they have to do them different the next episode, like
the next seasons, because you're gonna expect the last person
that goes to be the Trader, do you know what
I'm saying? Like, yes, so it yes, you know what
I mean. I'm like, they can't do it the same
way that they did it because you're going to expect
(23:02):
that they're gaving the Trader for last, right, you know
what I mean? Speaking of who's not a Trader, can
we talk about Britney Griner? Yeah, I was so excited
to see, like is she on the team? She signed
a one year deal with UM the Phoenix Mercury, so
she's back on the basketball court. Yeah, that is so
exciting her story. Can you imagine, like I want the
(23:23):
made for TV movie. I want like like what she
experienced and like, I mean, I just think about, like gosh,
what like thank God that she's home. Can you imagine
like she was there for a long time? Ten months, right, Yeah,
I thought it was a year. Okay, now whatever it
was was like way too long. But I wonder if
she we talked about this before, if she has made
(23:45):
a deal with the government that she's not going to
talk about I know, Yeah, I wonder that too. Yeah,
and probably so knowing Russia because she hasn't done an interview, true, yeah,
probably no Russia. Knowing the United States, Oh yeah, she
probably the Biden was probably like this part deal right
that we're getting high today, but she it's too controversial
(24:07):
to really talk about. Yeah, she can't talk about her experience,
like none of that. Yeah, yeah, that's too much. It
feels so good to be here, especially with my beautiful,
amazing wife and with all of y'all here today. I
want to thank everyone, and let's keep fighting the brain
home every American still detained overseas. Hopefully she can at
(24:29):
least just talk about her mental like how she's doing
and stuff like that. I would love to know how
she's doing and just just like and you know, just
obviously grateful that that situation is over, but you know,
the like the PTSD of it, like it's got to
be just right. But I'm I was really happy to
see that she's back on the basketball court because just
I know, you know, being around athletes all my life,
(24:49):
like I know that that sport is their life and
so and that is their way of coping with what
they've dealt with with life. You know, like Wam when
he was in high school, he lost his two parents
to AIDS and the basketball court was like he literally
like I can't remember his mom or his dad one
of them passed, and he literally played in a basketball
(25:10):
game like that night or the next day. Yeah, like
that's like their way of coping. And so for her, yes,
this is great that she can get back on the court,
take her mind off of it, do something that she loves.
But it's also important that she's getting that therapy yes,
because once the ball, you know, once the game is
over and she's not playing anymore or she is downtime,
(25:32):
then all that coming back. Yeah, all that negative stuff
just comes back. And I'm happy she's she's got her
wife yea, so hopefully she can be a great support system. Yeah, okay,
I have a question. Yeah, so you know about a
new car kind of I don't know, four months ago,
four five months ago. And the guy that sold me
the car, older white gentleman. This is what he's doing
(25:56):
in his retirement. He's like made his millions. He's he
loves cars. He's selling cars in his retirement. Ok So
he texts me the other day and he was like,
and he's a cool he's a cool guy. He texts
me he was like, yo, I gotta Matt Black, Gwagon,
Red and Terrior. If you know any of your friends
Ronin that wants to it's here. So I was like,
(26:19):
I was like, okay, I'll tell my friends. And then
he says, you know, how have you been. I was like, oh,
I'm good. This is all via text. He's like how
the girls. I was like, the girls are great. So
then he says, yeah, So right after I bought my car.
Maybe a couple of weeks later, I was in the
sushi spot and with the kids. He walks in with
(26:42):
his son, and well, I was like all excited to
see him. He comes over, he says, how to the girls,
by the way, when I bought the car. Of course,
at some point in time in the whole process, the
girls are in the dealership. They're like, let us see
what's going on. They're saying how to everybody. It was
just like they were having a meet and greet in
a freaking dealership, so everybody is like asking about the girls.
He was with his son. I said how to his son,
(27:04):
And then like when I went to go pay the bill,
they were like, oh no, the guy crossed the way
paid for y'all's foods. I was like, oh, you bought
food for me and my kids. I wish I would
have known. I would have ordered everything, right, But anyway,
I thought that was really nice. Right. So then at
the end of the text message, he's like, so you know,
we gotta go back to that sushi restaurant. Oh, he's
trying to take your date. So I said, oh, okay,
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and he was like, let me know when you have time.
I'm sure, you're very busy. Oh my god. I was like, okay,
so it was it was a very soft yeah, ask
of is it a date? Yes, that's a date that yes?
Does that? So that's my question. A is it a date? B?
Because you know, white guys come at you and I
(27:49):
think and done, nobody come after me. Men approached women
culturally different. This is my experience. Black guys are like,
what up, hey, Aby, what you're doing? My friends go
with your shake like it's like you know, you get
all kinds of nonsense. And then this white man approach
(28:09):
very subtle, very subtle, Yeah, to the point where you
don't even know if it's a goddamn date, right, So um,
it was kind of slick. It wasn't slick, kind of
it sounded kind of slick. Well, when he when he
paid for our food that day, I was like, that
was a car from him. I bought a car from him, right,
So I'm like, it's a little bit of like your commission, right,
(28:31):
no big deal, but just being nice. Yeah, Okay, so
now that I know it's a date, that hope that
changes everything. So no, but see that would be really
you said he's older, Like how older is he? Because
then you have the whole spectrum. You got the older man,
the younger man. Um, he's I don't know. If I
had to get he has grown kids, like out of college, okay,
(28:53):
if I had to guess, I thought he was married.
I don't know. I'm going to totally put that on
Pauls because I don't even know what it is. But
I see him occasionally, because you know, I'm always in downtown,
but there's a he's fishing. He's fishing. If you say, okay, yes,
let's go to dinner or whatever, let's go get to she,
then that's like, oh okay, she's interested, oh wows. Or
(29:17):
maybe it was just like he just wants to like
chit chat with me because he thinks I'm cool. No,
he's I'm not really cool. Well, he thinks you're cool
and you're beautiful, okay, and he wants to get to
know you better her. Okay. I asked my kids and
they were like, I don't know. I was like, is
this a date? And they were like, I don't know.
You said he made his millions on me. Yeah, listen, listen,
(29:39):
we're gonna move on. I meant to talk to you
about that. I had something to say about traders to traders. Okay, sorry,
we got an email about traders. Yes, okay, please read
an email. Okay, so this is from Yvette Um. She said, hello,
I have some tea. After listening to last podcast episode,
(30:01):
I started to watch the show The Traders. Boy was
I surprised instantly after seeing my coworker on the show
and she was the winner. No way, yes, yeah, okay,
we're not gonna say her name. Yes, yes, talk about
someone living a double life. I would have never imagined
in a million years that she would be on a
show like this. And to sweeten the pot, I learned
(30:23):
she was also on Survivor in two thousand and eight.
I recently saw her at the airport looking incognito, and
she called me over and we learned we were both
going to the same destination. I walked away thinking, why
does she look so undercover? Now, I'm assuming she probably
didn't want to be recognized at the airport. Yes, none
of us do. But that's amazing. That's so cool though,
Like you turn it on, like, oh, let me see
(30:45):
the show that Robin and just I was talking about it,
and you see your co worker that's playing a whole game,
game game, and and go getting back to traders really
quickly there, um have you have you seen it? Carly?
So there? Just what do you call those things that
they do? The competitions, the challenges, the challenges, the hell
(31:05):
oh okay, remember you said about the one that you
would be like absolutely not. Yeah, with the um the rodents, yes,
and the bugs fall on their head and like I
watching it gave me the ebb of scratching. Yeah, that
I would have quit. Yeah, I would have said I've
had enough. But how about Kate with her one challenge
and she was kicking up sabotage the challenge and she's
(31:28):
still listen, Kate said, Kate, she's she originally is from
below Jack. She's a Bravo lab. She said, send me home,
y'all right, you please Spanish me kill me in the
middle of the night. She wanted to go home. She
was like, please kill me in the middle of the night.
And they were like, no, we're gonna keep it. We're
gonna keep you. Okay. Did you think so the curly
(31:53):
hair guy, Yeah, I thought. I really felt like the
producers told him to do that dumb that he did.
See I don't want Yeah, we gotta talk offline, but
you know what I'm talking about. Yeah, I know exactly
what you're talking about. It seemed like it was. It
was probably a producers discussion. But you know, anytime you
have a conversation with a producer, it's always on you
as to whether or not you want to fulfill the
(32:15):
producer requests, right, And I just want to let y'all
know half the time I tell them producers, no, I'm lyine.
I just go ahead on and do it. We're gonna
answer a couple more questions that y'all asked us on
ask us anything because I felt like they were good,
(32:35):
and I've been meaning to talk about this, so I
just so we're gonna do it now. It says, hi, ladies,
please talk in detail about your journey with fibroids. So
I'm gonna give you all the short version, because I
don't think we've talked about it right. We were saving it. No,
I don't think we've talked about it now. Okay, So
if you watch Potomac, I talk about the fact that
(32:57):
I have to have a hysterect to me. So about
two years ago, my doctors were monitoring me because my
five boards were I had like two or three five
boards and they were kind of like big, but not
really that big. And then, now, how did they know
that you have five words? Because they could when you
went for your annual, they could feel that they were
there or did you have some sort of complaint and
they both did a sonogram and all that type of
(33:18):
both they kind of could feel that something was going on,
and then sex was uncomfortable. Stuff was it was just weird.
So I had a sonogram and then and my doctor
was like they're there. They were like maybe two inches
or something like. She was like, they're gonna go away
or we're just gonna leave it alone. So after time
goes by, they had like blown up. They were like
(33:39):
nine ten inches or centimeters centimeters or centimeters. Yeah, yeah,
they were like I had a baby in my stuff, okay.
And they were in the uterine lining, so it's nowhere
you could get them out without tearing up my uterus.
So made the decision or not we The doctor said
you gonna have to get you uterus taken out and
I was like, what what you mean? And I was
(34:03):
very traumatized just because that I equate that to being
a woman, as most women do. But my doctor was like,
you have three kids, now you're gonna have more. No,
so it's gonna go right, and we're gonna keep your
ovaries so that you don't like go into full blown menopause.
Oh so the day came, you don't still get a period? No, no,
(34:28):
you can't get a period. No, okay, right, because that's
period free. Okay, yay, nice, Okay, that's over. I threw
my um tampons and pads at my kids. I said,
have fun. No, I didn't do that rude anyway. So
that day they told us gonna be like a three
and a half hour surgery. My sister was with me.
(34:50):
She was contacting Robin and a couple other friends of
mine to make sure because you know, when you have
a friend that's going in a surgery, it's always like,
what's going on? What's going on? And there? What can
I do? Well, not that, but it's like, you know,
it could be touch and gold because they're like knocked out.
And anyway, my doctors got in there and it was
a disaster. They didn't know what the hell they were seeing.
My uterus was connected to my bladder via scar tissue
(35:16):
because of my C section when I had the twins
sixteen years ago. So scar tissue just kind of like
grows in your body any kind of way, and it
and I had been peeing weird for like years and
didn't put and didn't know what do you mean weird?
I had to like pee all the time, like only
in the morning, okay, And then I was p free,
(35:36):
like I don't I mean, it was just something was
going on my bladder and I just thought it was normal.
That was just how I am. So surgery ended up
being like eight and a half hours. It scared everybody
to death. Robin, who doesn't get concerned about anything, was
concerned about me. And thank god she you know, she
(35:56):
is a human guys. And but long story short, is
the best thing that I've ever could have done. Yeah,
because I feel I'm not blow I was feeling bloated.
Yeah for two years you never looked bloated, but I
mean I felt that, yeah, it's gone. It's And I
know there's other ways of handling five boys. There's like
(36:17):
ablasion and all these other ways. I feel like, if
if you're at a place where you don't want any
more children, and the ablazing works, but I think they
can come back and you just don't want that. I
just want to get rid of it. I'm very happy
with my decision. And so what else differences in like
how you feel are there? I feel like a little
(36:40):
sexually it's great. Um, And I don't know why. Okay,
first of all, after you have it done the way
that they have to sell you back up, you cannot
have anything in the vagina, they say for so I
think it was like my doctor said, like six weeks
or eight weeks. Maybe it was six weeks okay, like
(37:01):
a baby, right. So I went to my six week
checkup and she like felt and did a bunch of
stuff and she was like, yep, six more weeks. Oh.
I was like, what are you talking about? So she
was like, yeah, you're not really healed up. So I said,
oh god. And she said, and when you do decide
puts something up in there, you have to be very gentle. Yeah.
(37:22):
And I was like, that's not what I'm gonna do.
I'm gonna get rick rickety row anyway, So long story short,
it's just I don't know. I just feel comfortable with everything.
I feel lighter. I feel like I shouldn't. I had
like I felt like I had toxins in my body
and they're they're gone, so I feel better. Did it
(37:45):
affect I mean you always had like it, you always
seem to have like high energy. But did it affect anything,
you know, as far as your energy or your you know,
your mood or anything. No, No, not my energy. But
but it was like working out, my stomach wouldn't go down. Okay,
so that's that's been removed. Yeah, So mentally I just
was like pissed off because I'm doing all this working
(38:07):
out stomach still big. So yes, to answer all the questions,
I'm happy that I did it. Um, you know, I
am over fifty the age of fifty, so for me,
it was the right move. I know that some women
who are younger are still trying to have children it
might not be right. But if if you're over fifty, yeah,
get that thing taken out and throw that thing straight
(38:29):
in the trash can. Yeah. And just I mean I
assume you know everyone is going to their regular checkups
and stuff, but like if you're not pleased, do so,
because you know your doctor can pretty much detect that
type of stuff. You know, how how they changed, like
getting a PAP smear from like every one year to
every three years two or is it two or three?
(38:51):
They'd be changed check three every year, right, so it's
paps every three years. But which makes people think you
don't need to go to your doctor. You only have
to go to your doctor every three years. My doctor's like,
I'm it's so frustrated at that advice because she's like, no,
you still need to come every year and get examined
and get checked out. So you know, if you're not
(39:12):
going to your doctor every year, please go yes, and
and thank god nothing was cancerous because they do check
for everything to make sure it's not so robin. This
is for me and you will you discourage your children
from pledging a fraternity of sorority. So you know, it's
funny when um my father's a Kappa, he's in a fraternity.
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I'm in a sorority. I'm a Delta. And when woman's
at Maryland. He played basketball Maryland and he wanted to
pledge Kappa, like he actually that thought came into his
head and I was like, no, do not do it
because he's on the basketball team. There's like anyone. First
of all, it's hard enough being a student period, right,
(39:56):
it's super hard being a student athlete. It's hard being
a student who's pledging a fraternity or sorority. The thought
of him being a student athlete who's pledging a fraternity.
All at the same time, I was like, no, you're
going to ruin. Like I knew, because I know what
goes into it. I said that time, um, you know,
I knew it would go into it. How much time
(40:19):
it would take, How he would be up all night?
He maybe, And I said no, absolutely not like what
but Robin, they would have they would have his older brothers, yeah,
big brothers, whatever. They would have allowed him to, like
go to practice, go to his games, do everything he's
supposed to do. No, I mean yes, I mean yeah, yeah,
they would have allowed him go to practice. But he
would have been extremely tired. His grades would have suffered.
(40:42):
Like he would have been. He would have been a kappa.
He would have been stepping. Yeah. I wouldn't say yo
fa no yo baby Ye, he'd have been baby yo.
He had his cane, he'd be trawing it around, he'd
be thrawing it right here. How he really wouldn't but
he wouldn't know. But I was like, no, no, I'm sorry.
There's that you stepped on his dreams. I wasn't a dream.
(41:04):
It was just like a thought, like okay, I say,
like he really wanted to do it really bad, but
I was just like, no. So anyway, if my children
are UM college athletes, then absolutely not, they're not. What
so listen, no, you gotta you need to keep your scholarship,
your your athletic scholarship. These coaches they're they're they're not
(41:27):
going to allow They're not gonna be pledging them to
the point where they're gonna lose their scholarship. Come on, now, okay,
this is twenty twenty three, those days over, well, I
don't know. I'm sorry. I want them to focus on
keeping their scholarship. So what about your girls? Yeah? Absolutely,
okay AKA if they even utter adele or a tough,
it's a no. The end. It's so funny because I
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told I talked the other day about UM. I took
Angel on the door to Hampton and of course I'm
like looking for my little sore wroars, I'm looking for
a pink in a green and no I didn't see
not nare one. And I was so towards the end
of the tour I told them the dean of emissions,
I was like, I was hoping to see my little
(42:11):
sore Wars. She was like, oh, you pledge, what are you?
I was like, uh, because she's she was a Delta,
I was like, m whatever, I said, I'm an aka,
like I want to see my little pinky green people.
And so by the end of it they found somebody
come and say hi to me. Okay, that was so funny.
So you know it. Now, since we're on the topic
of Sobrits, we've got another question. Ashley asked, I'd love
(42:32):
to hear what y'all have to say about belonging to
a black sority. Seems like black soritis are so different
than white sorities. So Ashley's white. Also more about Jessy
as a mom because their girls are so amazing. So yes,
the experience. So I went to a predominantly white institution.
I went to University of Maryland, So when you know,
you can, I can definitely see the difference between the
(42:53):
black sororities and the white sorities. Yes, one of the
main differences, honestly is more so going into like adulthood,
where you know, I pledged, Delta Sigma Data sorority, and
I am a delta for life, and so I can
continue in my you know, participating in my sorority, in
my graduate chapter and my alumni chapter as we call
(43:15):
it um, for the rest of my life. Like you know,
So like where the white sororities, it's like they go
to college a pledge of sority and then it's over.
It's over. Like it's not that they're you know, no
longer a member of that sority, but they don't continue
like their membership kind of in that sority. It's just
kind of like a temporary thing. Um. I mean, that's
(43:36):
like one of the big differences. And then you know,
our sororities are rooted in like community service, social you know, activism,
and you know we have we have like purposes for
we do what we do. We're not just like a
social club. Yes, you know, we're not just there to party.
We're there to serve the community. We're there to like
(43:59):
you know, trying to create change. And um, I know,
my sorority was really big in the women's suffrage movement
and you know back whatever years years ago to help
get women the right to vote. So it's like stuff
like that like, we actually have more of a purpose
I will say, outside of just being social and my sorority,
(44:21):
the Aks, we get people into the White House. So um, yeah,
there's that. Kamala Harris is a member of my sorority, yes,
the VP. Anyway, moving on to okay, so this is
interesting not Robin's sorority. So Robin this lady Jean Jean
Pierre wants to know what keeps our friendships so solid?
(44:43):
Oh that's a gen. Jen Jim was on the podcast
with us. Oh why is she asking a stupid question?
Wait a minute, Not okay, because she knows us right right,
But I think, you know, I think that's a good
question because as we you know, as you might see
on a you know, TV show, or as you just
(45:04):
ventured through your adulthood, like you see, you see that
keeping friends is not easy. Oh so that's true. Yeah,
I think we're honest with each other. Yeah. I think
I get on your nerves and you just deal with
it the end. Yeah, Um, you know, I don't know.
(45:26):
I think I don't know. I think I'm a good
friend to like my friends. I guess, yes, it's I
think you just have to know, like who your friends
are and the type of friendship you are going to
get out of them. So, like I saw this really
good post did I save it? It was like you
should have seven different types of friends. Maybe we should.
I don't know. We could say that for another podcast,
but it was like, you know, a friend to hang
(45:46):
out with, A friend that makes you laugh, a friend
you know that you tell your secrets to, You tell
your secrets to a friend that you ask for advice
a friend, you know what I mean. And so I
just feel like when you know the type of friend
that that friend is, then when they aren't doing the
other things that they aren't, you're not upset about it,
you know what I mean. It's like managing your expectations
(46:07):
between your friends that Yeah, I like that, okay, And
not all friends are created equal exactly, yesh. Yeah, but
I just think our friendship, like we have a similar
sense of humor. Yeah, we don't take ourselves too seriously.
Now we have kind of been on the receiving end,
you know, not just from the show, but just throughout
our life of the same type of scrutiny, yes, and
(46:29):
so we kind of have developed the same type of
like hard shell um where like we just look at
life a little bit differently than other people might. Yeah.
And that's so like where I could probably like say
something to you, I could probably say something to you
that's not going to hurt your feelings, And I might
say that the same thing to Carly and it might
(46:50):
hurt her feelings. Do you know what I mean? So
it's like I mean, but we pay Carly the big bucks,
so she doesn't have feelings. Okay, there's that. I that
I've ever heard carle Fro. Maybe I haven't yet, Yeah
I heard, so I we play with the big bart.
But you know what I say, I don't know. I
just I don't know. I just think. You know, when
(47:12):
you have friends that you click with, your click with them? Yeah, no,
I agree, I agree. All right, So we were gonna
do a reason? Is it reasonable or is it shady?
Do we have time for one? We have a whole bunch.
I want to do this one. I thought, Okay, pretty interesting.
Um it was actually um sent to me and day
oh yes, I liked the dms. So the question is
(47:34):
it reasonable or is it shady for a This is
from a guy from a female close friend to consistently
vocalize their disdain for male gay people when her male
best friend is also gay. Why am I the exception?
Wait a minute, he gay? He's gay, Okay, everybody's gay here.
He's gaya, she's not. That's like one of his like
(47:56):
female best friends. Okay um, And she vocalized, is her
disdain for male gay people? Why she do that? That's shady? Right?
So I was like, I got questions. Okay, okay, okay,
what's the question. I'm like, how long have y'all been friends?
And can you tell me an example of something? She
would say, oh, you asked, Yeah, okay. I was like this,
(48:16):
I'm like what that is? I mean, why are we friends? Here? Right? Right?
This is from Will. So he said, we've been friends
for roughly eleven years. She loves to tell me, I
love you as a person, but I don't agree or
support that lifestyle. He married a man in November, and
she made up an excuse not to attend the wedding,
which was she gave birth in September and wasn't sure
(48:38):
how her healing process was going to be. After the wedding,
her father came in town to visit her and saw
his saved the date on her refrigerator, and that made
him upset, and she couldn't wait to tell him what
her father said. He said, I heard the first disparaging
comment and immediately told her to stop. I said, I
respect you, I respect your father's opinion, but I don't
need to hear it. And then she brings it up
(49:00):
again and stuff like that. So then I was like, Okay,
were you openly gay when you two first met and
became friends? And he said he was not. He said
she actually she actually flirted with me a lot when
we met through mutual friends. I was uncomfortable side to
tell her, so she was sad. So she's mad that
he's gay because she wants to date them. Right, So
I'm like, is there a jealousy there? Because I mean,
but if they've been friends for eleven years, I think
(49:23):
you know I'm the majority of their friendship. He was
openly gay, right, I'm just like, they're not friends there,
that's not your friend. A friend supports you, right, A
friend would show up at your wedding even if she
didn't feel like that's what she believes. Right, you still
show up when you support you and you keep your
mouth shut, yes, like you wouldn't right, even if that
(49:43):
doesn't like I think as a friend, if that's something
that she doesn't believe or whatever, I think as a friend,
it's on her to try to get to a place
of understanding, right, Right, And so maybe that's a different
type of conversation with him, you know what I'm saying.
If it's something that she's just stuck on and she's
really appreciates his friendship doesn't approve of the lifestyle, well,
(50:06):
let me learn, let me figure out, let me learn
how to accept. Can you like teach me? Help me?
But like, as a friend, you don't sit there and
continuously tell him I don't respect your lifestyle. My father
don't respect it. And that's ridiculous, right, he needs the curb.
That's not your friend. She's shady. Yeah, and don't look back, right.
I feel like I still need more. I'm like, okay, so,
(50:28):
how how does this friendship fulfill him? Like? I need
more information? You know, I'm right? How are you even
still friends? How? Like? What else is there going on
in the friendship that makes you even want to be father? Yeah?
And I'm sure whoever he's marrying can't standa right, So
that's friction, right, And I'm sure she was jealous with that.
I mean, it's just this, but if she's pregnant having
(50:50):
a baby, she has her own life, she's got her
own relationship clearly. But yeah, I don't know. I'm just
I've rather I said, what's a big anything that makes
zero sense? Yeah, I mean that would be the same, Like,
I don't know, It's like that'd be like if I
was mad that Cow doesn't like me, and then he's
got a boo and I don't like his boo because
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Cow's then acting gay or whatever. I don't know. I
don't know, Like I just can't see in any world
where a friend feels it's okay to tell someone that
they don't approve of their lifestyle. When this it's not
like it's not like he's like robbing a bank, like
he's a bank robber, or you know, even he's you know,
he's doing drugs or he's drinking alcohol. Like this is
(51:33):
nothing that he can change, you know what I'm saying.
It's not like so I'm just like, what is the
point here? I don't know. I don't like it. He
needs to run run. Yeah, yes, and that is our episode, guys.
I'm sorry. Yes, that's our episode, so don't ever get
to live your life either reasonable hit or about thy
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Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Welcome to another episode of Reasonably Shady.
I am Jell Bryant. What's up? What's up y'all? This
Robin Dixon? Thank you again for being here. Yes, yes,
(00:24):
so good to see you. Robin. Yes, you too, I
mean you just you know, a bright ball of sunshine. Really, yes,
you don't feel that, you don't feel your your bright
ball of sunshiness? Is it because I'm pale? Because I
didn't say that. I think that's I'm just I was
referring to your energy, okay, is very sunshiny and bright
(00:48):
and you know, just uplifts people. You're welcome. Hallelujah. Thank you.
Wait a minute, speaking of this is so off the cuff.
So I took my kids to twins to Hampton University,
which I went. I grab. I'm a graduate of Hampton University.
It's an HBC. You get into it. It's one of
(01:09):
the best, Thank you very much. Anyway, I went to
Hampton at a private tour for them. Nice. I guess
the dean of admissions did her research and figured out
who their father is. So our tour guide was the
kid on campus who's a minister and training so and literally,
(01:30):
oh my god, was like once he figured I mean, yeah,
he knew who we were, but like seven minutes into
the tour, yeah, he was like, um, you know, Pastor
Brian is my favorite pastor and oh my gosh. At
some point, you know, can I talk to him? I said,
I just immediately faced time Jamal. I was like, Jamal,
(01:52):
this is your number one fan right here. And the
boy did a shout, like a holy girld shout. He
was like kicking his legs kicking, like are going I
don't promise you. He made me screenshot the FaceTime of
him talking to Jamal, Oh my god and send it
to him. Okay, last, but not least, so towards the
(02:15):
end of the day, where this kid all day and
by the way, this kid is phenomenal, Like he is
hands down gonna change the world one day. Okay, okay.
So I had stepped out of the room at some
point and he was showing my kids that he has
an app. He has a preaching app. So if you
press a button, it'll give you the background music. It's like, dumb,
he can just start preaching. And so he was like
(02:38):
he made fun of Jamal's preaching. I was on the
floor laughing. Okay, so, oh my god. Then he was like,
all right, I want to show y'all video I preached
my Applebee's order. He was like, can I get the
twelve we with the side out of ice tea? Oh
(03:02):
my god? Okay, okay, does he want to be a
preacher or an actor? Listen that close? But it was,
it was he was amazing. Anyway, how do we start
talking about that? Because you said, well, would he do
it for some because you said I was a ball
of sunshine? I don't know. Okay, wait, so I so
since you were saying that, how do your kids feel
(03:22):
about like when people instantly want to start talking about
like church or preaching or like you know what I'm saying,
when they treat them like they think they want to like, um, okay,
so my kids will very much smile on your face
and entertain you. But because they are preachers children, yeah,
they don't want to hear that, right, Yeah, Like their
father doesn't even talk to them that way. Right. So
(03:45):
I don't want to say it's a turn off, but
it's like nothing that they're entertained about, like that they
want to discuss. But they'll still be nice about it. Yeah,
they'll they'll still be very nice. But um, the twins
will Grace might tell you stop talking. Okay, but they
but this guy, you know, you overlooked it because this
guy was just so dynamic on so many levels. So anyway, um,
(04:09):
reasonably shady moment, do you have one of the week? Okay.
So so the other day, I'm driving in the car
with my kids and my father calls me, and I
have my phone connected to the bluetooth, the speakers and
all that type of stuff. I hate that. That makes
me so nervous, I know, right, you never know what
(04:30):
they're gonna say, yeah, or like I might be on
a dating that somebody else calls. Oh, I don't do
that anymore, but yeah if yeah, back in the dead.
Definitely got to disconnect the bluetooth. Anyway. So so my
father calls and he's like, oh, Robin, I'm watching the news.
I'm listening to them talk about China and Russia and
(04:52):
what in Ukraine and you know, North Korea, and I
just want to tell you, you you know, to tell the
kids to make sure that they're doing their school work,
make sure that they are, you know, getting good grades
and you know, doing well in school, because if they
gotta if there's gonna be a World War three and
they gotta draft, the military has to draft people. You know,
(05:14):
they want to be doing good in school. So because
they're they're going to draft to people that aren't doing
the arts, they got to draft the D students, not
the A students. Okay, I don't think it works that way,
but I'm pretty sure this is not working that way.
He's like, you know what I mean, if they just
stay in school and you know, go, you don't get
their education. But you know, if they're not in school
(05:36):
they're not doing well, then you know, I just you know,
I just I just just just tell them, just tell
them just to do good in school, am I. They're
like in the car listening to this, like they're like,
what is he talking about? Like, because they have no
concept of the draft, right, they're like, pop, Pap is turban.
So after that, we get home the next few days,
(06:00):
like anytime Biden is on the news talking about Ukraine,
they are like, Okay, well, what does that mean they're
gonna be? Are we gonna be? What do you mean?
China said that they're like literally watching every headline on
the team. Listen, those kids, they're about to be drafted.
And I'm like, are you scared that we're going to
(06:21):
go to war? He's like yeah. I'm like, oh my god,
but are they a students? Be students? I mean they're
a and B Okay, Carter, maybe you see. I don't know,
but like I'm sure first of all, you can explain
to them we have a military. Well, but my father
seems to think if our military has to go up
against Russia, we need every miner in North Korea at
(06:43):
the same time that we are in trouble, and they
we have to go back to the draft. Okay, because
he was drafted, he said, you know he oh he was, Yeah,
I know what he said. But my father he wasn't
like was that an embellishment? Your father's not drafted? I
think he was. He said he did something he wasn't
(07:04):
like on the you know, on the field, shooting people. Yeah,
he was like a medical person. Oh, but but they did.
He had to go. He had to go. Okay, Okay, Well,
so that is so he has PTSD from the draft.
I got that is he does not what his grandkids
at least he has a good memory. Okay, he does,
you know, but I want you to tell him he
has nothing to do with what their grades are. As dude,
(07:26):
who gets drafted. Okay, I'm like, you a whole doctor
and you got drafted. Hey, So so honestly, I think
they should actually probably become like the d students. They
gonna leave these students out because they don't know how
to follow instructions or something. I don't know. I'm hilarious. Yes, well,
my reasonably shady moment of the week is not that
(07:49):
horrific or tragic and anyway, uh and yeah, and I
hope that never happens. I celebrated Valentine's Day, yes, and
I guess I didn't get a Teddy Bear, but I
was kind of wishing I did. Teddy bears are so cute. Anyway,
I got caviar. One of the things I got was caviar, like,
(08:11):
because you know, we've been going to some restaurants and
they've been offering caviar. Like one of the old places
that we went to, the Guesthouse um in New York,
they have avocado with like caviar on time. It's the
best thing ever. So and he cooks. So anyway, we
tore us caviar up. Oh my god, like I was
(08:32):
like in heaven. I was like, this is everything. Oh
my gosh, this is amazing that it did. So when
I got home, I've been on a caviar search. I'm like,
I'm just gonna get something whole fuck. So I literally
took a because so there is caviar offered that Whole
food Okay, there's a there's a section. Took a picture
of the section. I don't know what I'm doing, and
(08:53):
I send it to him and I was like, oh,
who is him? Jason? And I was because he cooks,
so he knows, he's got knowledge. And I was like,
which one should I buy? And he's like, none of those?
And then I was like, what you, Lyne, You don't
know what you're talking about. So I go back to
Whole Foods. This is leading up to recently. Okay, I
(09:15):
go back to Whole Foods and I asked the man
in the seafood section about the caviar. I was like,
which one is good? Because there's a range. There's something
that are fourteen dollars and there's something that are ninety
five dollars. But it's all the same size. Okay. He
was like, you might as well just get the fourteen
dollars one because I mean, it ain't no sense. It's
spending all that money. If you don't happy, I said, sir.
(09:37):
Sir said, sir, take money out of this conversation. Forget
they all at the same price. Which one is better
than the rest? He was like, I don't know, I
don't know. I don't buy those other ones. I said,
kill me. So moving on. So I'm like, okay, Jason,
can you do some research? Can you like figure it out?
(09:57):
He was like, Giselle, we can't get caviar in this
country legally. And I was like what. He was like,
it's sold in Russia and it's illegal. Bluga caviar is
illegal in the United States. Okay. So I was like,
but you bought me the biggest ten I've ever seen,
like the huge one. Yeah. He's like, yeah, I got people.
(10:18):
So I was like, maybe I shouldn't tell say that
it was Jason. It was not Jason, because I don't
want to get him in trouble. This was a guy
that I'm dating and his name is he so Leroy
slash Henry on Valatiz's day gave me a huge thing
of caviar. So, okay, wait, did you sit there's caviar
at the restaurant. Oh yes, I don't know how they
(10:39):
get it. Nobody talks about how they get it. Okay,
So the shady part is the freaking whole foods. Like
what the hell are y'all selling? So it's not so,
that's not so it's not real cavear. It's so, then
it's not. But it looks, it looks. I don't what.
I need to research it. So it's only a certain
type of caviar. You can't get here. You can't get
(10:59):
you can't don't get like the real good Cathy good
here in this country, supposedly according to Leroy. So and
I'm wanting the so actually the shady people of the Russians. Yeah,
we did not have to go into this fight with
Ukraine and the United States that got damn Putin. He's
messing up everything because I want my caviar. Is that
(11:22):
why it's illegal Putin? I'm gonna if it's Russia, we
just gotta blame Putin. Really, yeah, Russian is equal to Putin.
I need more information on this cavear. Well, that's just crazy.
And I am now like I told him, I told
Henry slash Leroy, he has created a monster because I
am the caviar queen. Really, yes, I'm loving it. What
(11:44):
does it taste like? M It's like okay, so we've
done it several ways, okay, and I'm talking about Cathy.
I'm like, so like you can have it like on
a cracker, just plane, or you can put butter on
the cracker and then put that on top. Oh so good.
It's like kind of salty, but like fishy. Yeah, the butter,
it like exacerbates the taste. I was being adventurous, so
(12:09):
we had sushi too, so I was like putting it
on top of the sushika. Oh my god, so good.
Like it's so good, Like what can I get a
it's close to what it's close to, like smoked salmon,
I don't know, maybe, but way better the consistencies like
baldly like we're moving on. But I'm a cavall, So
(12:33):
if anybody can give us so caviar information as to
where you all can ship some to me sneakedly the
good kind, feel free? Yeah, contact um carly Okay, yes,
the end. I know, I know we're gonna talk about traders,
(12:54):
but I do want to talk about one thing in
particular because I got kind of that was what is?
So what I cleared myself it's a problem. Yes, why
like what it's about to come out to own That's
what I want to know. Okay. So there was a
headline a couple of weeks ago and it said male
fertility specialists are concerned, huh that the average erect penis
(13:19):
length has increased, oh by twenty and scientists don't know why.
This is so intriguing to me. So all of these years,
penises have been whatever they've been, right, ranging from the
(13:40):
different people, right, and we have we have dispelled size
is equal to why? I know? Why tell me penis
sizes have grown? Right? Yes? Okay, so you know typically
they say, what black men have larger penises than white men,
right right, that's that's that's the word, or you know,
(14:00):
white men Asian man. Period. So as time goes on,
we have more interracial couples, okay, more by racial children,
by racial people, we have you know, more black people
kind of just the hour, I think if we look
at the population of our country, yes, and I wonder
if it's just a US study or is this like
(14:22):
a worldwide let me say, let's say, let's just keep
it to the US. Okay, So as we look at
the population of the US, it has changed, right, like
the demographics the numbers of you know, white people versus
you know, black people and in Latino people or whatever
people of color. All right, okay, so that number has
you know, shifted, shifted. So as the as we have
(14:43):
more people of color, yes, that equals big pleas have bigger, more,
bigger penises. Why haven't I promish you that's not it?
I didn't. It makes sense to me. That doesn't make sense. Okay,
but let's let's even let's even know what makes sense?
No kind of but not really. So who's measuring the
(15:03):
penis is the scientists. It's just like you signed up
for Okay, they had a study, all right, Three three
thousand men signed up for this study over the course
of a year to measure penis sizes. That's what the
study is for. Or did they get this from like urologists.
But when you go to a neurologist, your penis is
not hard. One's never told me that the urologist has
(15:25):
measured his erect penis never Okay, so he goes because
his biological father had um, what's the cancer, prostate cancers?
So like he's like one is like on top of it.
So he visits his urologists. Okay, they've never measured, never
erect penis. Well this, this particular article said that they
(15:46):
believe it's caused by early puberty. So people are hitting
puberty early. Boys are hitting puberty earlier, they have more
time for their penis to grow. Maybe, okay, maybe, but
why is there early puberty because of the food, Because
of the hormones in the food. I think. So I
was gonna say that too, you were not. I was
(16:07):
Why don't you think I asked you that? Because I
was going to say, because it all hormones in the food. Well, listen,
all I can say is our children's children, the daughters,
they'll be happy every happy campers. Okay, I ain't at listen.
Twenty four percent that's like that's that's a quarter large.
So if you had a penis, that was like oh
(16:30):
oh wait wait wait In this article they said the
average penis size was like five inches. Wait erect that's
what they said, average erect penis sizes five inches, they said,
drastically increased over the past twenty years by twenty four percent. YadA, YadA, YadA. Okay.
It says, according to the study, the average length of
(16:50):
the erect penis across all areas and decades was roughly
five point five inches. Don't nobody want that five point
This is before the increase, or this is before the
increase after it might be I don't know ten point
seven Okay. I have a question for all of our
male listeners. I don't know if this is inappropriate or
(17:11):
well probably can you a message us and let us
know if you have measured your penis? All? Oh, is
that a thing? I feel like a boy like I
feel like sometime in their life all males have measured
their penis. I don't think so what really, you don't
like a teenage boy like? Okay, So imagine how they
would do that. They have to go get a ruler.
(17:32):
H huh, step one and then then it's erect and
then they're like putting a ruler next to it. Just
let us know, okay, if you all you know, if
you feel comfortable letting us know if at some point
in your life whether you were twelve or twenty two
or forty two? What you're working with? Have you measured
your penis? Yeah? Let us know what do you do
periodic penis checks? Like are you like, oh, it's my
(17:55):
penis the same size? Like, oh, is it getting bigger?
It's getting bigger? It has it gotten smaller? Older? And
if it is because of hormones? Are you do you
want to eat more McDonald's so you can have a
bigger petis? I need to know the answer to these questions. Okay, anyway,
let's we gotta talk about Traders because a couple of
months ago or a couple of weeks ago, I told
you about Traders. Yeah, you had not hit on the
(18:17):
one episode, right, Yeah? I saw one episode? Yes, okay,
so Traders Guys is on Peacock, the streaming service Peacock
ten episode you've you've now finished? I watched it, okay,
the whole thing. Yes? Were you dying on the last episode?
I was like, put me in coach like I would. Yes, Yes,
so you definitely want you want to be all season two? Yes?
You know it would be really cool if we both
(18:38):
did it. Yes, but I would know if you're lying, Robin, No,
you wouldn't Okay, maybe not No, Okay, do you know
how how crazy that would be cool? They would kick
us off so we get banished the first episode because
they'd be like these two all grow up to no good,
get them out of here, right, Okay? So this was,
(18:59):
this was and I don't want to spoil it for anybody,
but sorry, we're gonna spoil it. So the person at
the end that one, yeah, gangster, she played that game
gangster you know a DM turn. No, sure didn't, because
like I love when I see people do things in
there and I just want to give them like their
their cribs. Okay, DM, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you
(19:20):
what I said. And she responded, Okay, um, it's it's
not like exciting, but like I gotta find it. Yeah, Okay.
When she kicked off the curly head guy, uh huh?
Were you like? I see you? I see you. You're
a bad bitch. Honestly, she did what I would have done, right,
(19:42):
She did what I would have done. Really, yes, because
I'm like, you're a liability. You gotta go. You're in
such a liability, yeah, like you gotta go. She did
what I would have done. The whole time. She did
that last episode though, h that was that was I mean,
(20:03):
she had to do she had to listen that, but
it was so Gangstar like she was a goat. I know,
I don't want to spoil it for people, but like
now I feel like we have spoiled it because we've okay,
I see, Okay. The one thing that would kind of
irritate me though, were the people who would be like
they were talking about some other person and they were like,
she said, it's just a game. She's got to be
(20:24):
a trader, right, And I'm like, you have you guys, Okay.
I had a couple of questions. One is everyone get
paid for just being on the show. I assume so, right,
So then that leads me to ask, do you get
paid the longer that you're there? A I assume so?
And like the guy at the end who was like,
I'm blessed, I'm good, I'll back out right, he was
(20:47):
basically saying I didn't I've made enough money on this show, right,
I'm good, but you still want that extra twenty five
hundred thousand dollars right twenty five? That's what I meant
to say. So I DM this person at because I
was like, I can't take it. I reach out to you.
So I DM John. I was like, just watched the
(21:08):
last episode of Traders. Exclamation point exclamation point unbelievably gangster,
is what I said to her. And then I said
I have to say this far goodbye Ari, and I
said you're the goat and all caps. She was like,
thank you, lady. Exclamation point, exclamation point exclamation point with
like ten hearts. Um her whole y'all have got to
(21:34):
see it, but her whole like demeanor, Yeah, so unassuming. Yeah,
So I feel like I can't go on there and
win because everybody's gonna know, just by the nature of
the fact that I'm like super shady individual that I'm
up to something, They're gonna they're just like they assumed
was like, um like resident Brandy and Kate the whole time.
(21:57):
You know what I'm saying, They're gonna Kate won by default,
like she was winning by default. Like, so I saw,
but they might do a thing where well, wait, well
we we knowed it just Zella Trader, but let's keep
her around, yeah, like Kate, Yeah, so that we don't
get voted off, you know. So I saw Kyle in
New York and I and the first thing I said
to him, I was like, y'all, I was watching Traders.
I was like, you figured it out. He was like, hell, yeah,
(22:19):
I figured it out, he said, but I couldn't figure
out how to how to make it work and how
to like tell people without it backfiring. So I couldn't
figure that part out, right because it's like the first seat,
first season, so you can't you just kind of just
you're winging it right. So but he yeah, he definitely
could tell. He's he was ready. Yeah, but you know
(22:40):
what I said. Okay, So watching the finale and how
they revealed, like how they how they would do their reveals,
they have to do them different the next episode, like
the next seasons, because you're gonna expect the last person
that goes to be the Trader, do you know what
I'm saying? Like, yes, so it yes, you know what
I mean. I'm like, they can't do it the same
way that they did it because you're going to expect
(23:02):
that they're gaving the Trader for last, right, you know
what I mean? Speaking of who's not a Trader, can
we talk about Britney Griner? Yeah, I was so excited
to see, like is she on the team? She signed
a one year deal with UM the Phoenix Mercury, so
she's back on the basketball court. Yeah, that is so
exciting her story. Can you imagine, like I want the
(23:23):
made for TV movie. I want like like what she
experienced and like, I mean, I just think about, like gosh,
what like thank God that she's home. Can you imagine
like she was there for a long time? Ten months, right, Yeah,
I thought it was a year. Okay, now whatever it
was was like way too long. But I wonder if
she we talked about this before, if she has made
(23:45):
a deal with the government that she's not going to
talk about I know, Yeah, I wonder that too. Yeah,
and probably so knowing Russia because she hasn't done an interview, true, yeah,
probably no Russia. Knowing the United States, Oh yeah, she
probably the Biden was probably like this part deal right
that we're getting high today, but she it's too controversial
(24:07):
to really talk about. Yeah, she can't talk about her experience,
like none of that. Yeah, yeah, that's too much. It
feels so good to be here, especially with my beautiful,
amazing wife and with all of y'all here today. I
want to thank everyone, and let's keep fighting the brain
home every American still detained overseas. Hopefully she can at
(24:29):
least just talk about her mental like how she's doing
and stuff like that. I would love to know how
she's doing and just just like and you know, just
obviously grateful that that situation is over, but you know,
the like the PTSD of it, like it's got to
be just right. But I'm I was really happy to
see that she's back on the basketball court because just
I know, you know, being around athletes all my life,
(24:49):
like I know that that sport is their life and
so and that is their way of coping with what
they've dealt with with life. You know, like Wam when
he was in high school, he lost his two parents
to AIDS and the basketball court was like he literally
like I can't remember his mom or his dad one
of them passed, and he literally played in a basketball
(25:10):
game like that night or the next day. Yeah, like
that's like their way of coping. And so for her, yes,
this is great that she can get back on the court,
take her mind off of it, do something that she loves.
But it's also important that she's getting that therapy yes,
because once the ball, you know, once the game is
over and she's not playing anymore or she is downtime,
(25:32):
then all that coming back. Yeah, all that negative stuff
just comes back. And I'm happy she's she's got her
wife yea, so hopefully she can be a great support system. Yeah, okay,
I have a question. Yeah, so you know about a
new car kind of I don't know, four months ago,
four five months ago. And the guy that sold me
the car, older white gentleman. This is what he's doing
(25:56):
in his retirement. He's like made his millions. He's he
loves cars. He's selling cars in his retirement. Ok So
he texts me the other day and he was like,
and he's a cool he's a cool guy. He texts
me he was like, yo, I gotta Matt Black, Gwagon,
Red and Terrior. If you know any of your friends
Ronin that wants to it's here. So I was like,
(26:19):
I was like, okay, I'll tell my friends. And then
he says, you know, how have you been. I was like, oh,
I'm good. This is all via text. He's like how
the girls. I was like, the girls are great. So
then he says, yeah, So right after I bought my car.
Maybe a couple of weeks later, I was in the
sushi spot and with the kids. He walks in with
(26:42):
his son, and well, I was like all excited to
see him. He comes over, he says, how to the girls,
by the way, when I bought the car. Of course,
at some point in time in the whole process, the
girls are in the dealership. They're like, let us see
what's going on. They're saying how to everybody. It was
just like they were having a meet and greet in
a freaking dealership, so everybody is like asking about the girls.
He was with his son. I said how to his son,
(27:04):
And then like when I went to go pay the bill,
they were like, oh no, the guy crossed the way
paid for y'all's foods. I was like, oh, you bought
food for me and my kids. I wish I would
have known. I would have ordered everything, right, But anyway,
I thought that was really nice. Right. So then at
the end of the text message, he's like, so you know,
we gotta go back to that sushi restaurant. Oh, he's
trying to take your date. So I said, oh, okay,
(27:28):
and he was like, let me know when you have time.
I'm sure, you're very busy. Oh my god. I was like, okay,
so it was it was a very soft yeah, ask
of is it a date? Yes, that's a date that yes?
Does that? So that's my question. A is it a date? B?
Because you know, white guys come at you and I
(27:49):
think and done, nobody come after me. Men approached women
culturally different. This is my experience. Black guys are like,
what up, hey, Aby, what you're doing? My friends go
with your shake like it's like you know, you get
all kinds of nonsense. And then this white man approach
(28:09):
very subtle, very subtle, Yeah, to the point where you
don't even know if it's a goddamn date, right, So um,
it was kind of slick. It wasn't slick, kind of
it sounded kind of slick. Well, when he when he
paid for our food that day, I was like, that
was a car from him. I bought a car from him, right,
So I'm like, it's a little bit of like your commission, right,
(28:31):
no big deal, but just being nice. Yeah, Okay, so
now that I know it's a date, that hope that
changes everything. So no, but see that would be really
you said he's older, Like how older is he? Because
then you have the whole spectrum. You got the older man,
the younger man. Um, he's I don't know. If I
had to get he has grown kids, like out of college, okay,
(28:53):
if I had to guess, I thought he was married.
I don't know. I'm going to totally put that on
Pauls because I don't even know what it is. But
I see him occasionally, because you know, I'm always in downtown,
but there's a he's fishing. He's fishing. If you say, okay, yes,
let's go to dinner or whatever, let's go get to she,
then that's like, oh okay, she's interested, oh wows. Or
(29:17):
maybe it was just like he just wants to like
chit chat with me because he thinks I'm cool. No,
he's I'm not really cool. Well, he thinks you're cool
and you're beautiful, okay, and he wants to get to
know you better her. Okay. I asked my kids and
they were like, I don't know. I was like, is
this a date? And they were like, I don't know.
You said he made his millions on me. Yeah, listen, listen,
(29:39):
we're gonna move on. I meant to talk to you
about that. I had something to say about traders to traders. Okay, sorry,
we got an email about traders. Yes, okay, please read
an email. Okay, so this is from Yvette Um. She said, hello,
I have some tea. After listening to last podcast episode,
(30:01):
I started to watch the show The Traders. Boy was
I surprised instantly after seeing my coworker on the show
and she was the winner. No way, yes, yeah, okay,
we're not gonna say her name. Yes, yes, talk about
someone living a double life. I would have never imagined
in a million years that she would be on a
show like this. And to sweeten the pot, I learned
(30:23):
she was also on Survivor in two thousand and eight.
I recently saw her at the airport looking incognito, and
she called me over and we learned we were both
going to the same destination. I walked away thinking, why
does she look so undercover? Now, I'm assuming she probably
didn't want to be recognized at the airport. Yes, none
of us do. But that's amazing. That's so cool though,
Like you turn it on, like, oh, let me see
(30:45):
the show that Robin and just I was talking about it,
and you see your co worker that's playing a whole game,
game game, and and go getting back to traders really
quickly there, um have you have you seen it? Carly?
So there? Just what do you call those things that
they do? The competitions, the challenges, the challenges, the hell
(31:05):
oh okay, remember you said about the one that you
would be like absolutely not. Yeah, with the um the rodents, yes,
and the bugs fall on their head and like I
watching it gave me the ebb of scratching. Yeah, that
I would have quit. Yeah, I would have said I've
had enough. But how about Kate with her one challenge
and she was kicking up sabotage the challenge and she's
(31:28):
still listen, Kate said, Kate, she's she originally is from
below Jack. She's a Bravo lab. She said, send me home,
y'all right, you please Spanish me kill me in the
middle of the night. She wanted to go home. She
was like, please kill me in the middle of the night.
And they were like, no, we're gonna keep it. We're
gonna keep you. Okay. Did you think so the curly
(31:53):
hair guy, Yeah, I thought. I really felt like the
producers told him to do that dumb that he did.
See I don't want Yeah, we gotta talk offline, but
you know what I'm talking about. Yeah, I know exactly
what you're talking about. It seemed like it was. It
was probably a producers discussion. But you know, anytime you
have a conversation with a producer, it's always on you
as to whether or not you want to fulfill the
(32:15):
producer requests, right, And I just want to let y'all
know half the time I tell them producers, no, I'm lyine.
I just go ahead on and do it. We're gonna
answer a couple more questions that y'all asked us on
ask us anything because I felt like they were good,
(32:35):
and I've been meaning to talk about this, so I
just so we're gonna do it now. It says, hi, ladies,
please talk in detail about your journey with fibroids. So
I'm gonna give you all the short version, because I
don't think we've talked about it right. We were saving it. No,
I don't think we've talked about it now. Okay, So
if you watch Potomac, I talk about the fact that
(32:57):
I have to have a hysterect to me. So about
two years ago, my doctors were monitoring me because my
five boards were I had like two or three five
boards and they were kind of like big, but not
really that big. And then, now, how did they know
that you have five words? Because they could when you
went for your annual, they could feel that they were
there or did you have some sort of complaint and
they both did a sonogram and all that type of
(33:18):
both they kind of could feel that something was going on,
and then sex was uncomfortable. Stuff was it was just weird.
So I had a sonogram and then and my doctor
was like they're there. They were like maybe two inches
or something like. She was like, they're gonna go away
or we're just gonna leave it alone. So after time
goes by, they had like blown up. They were like
(33:39):
nine ten inches or centimeters centimeters or centimeters. Yeah, yeah,
they were like I had a baby in my stuff, okay.
And they were in the uterine lining, so it's nowhere
you could get them out without tearing up my uterus.
So made the decision or not we The doctor said
you gonna have to get you uterus taken out and
I was like, what what you mean? And I was
(34:03):
very traumatized just because that I equate that to being
a woman, as most women do. But my doctor was like,
you have three kids, now you're gonna have more. No,
so it's gonna go right, and we're gonna keep your
ovaries so that you don't like go into full blown menopause.
Oh so the day came, you don't still get a period? No, no,
(34:28):
you can't get a period. No, okay, right, because that's
period free. Okay, yay, nice, Okay, that's over. I threw
my um tampons and pads at my kids. I said,
have fun. No, I didn't do that rude anyway. So
that day they told us gonna be like a three
and a half hour surgery. My sister was with me.
(34:50):
She was contacting Robin and a couple other friends of
mine to make sure because you know, when you have
a friend that's going in a surgery, it's always like,
what's going on? What's going on? And there? What can
I do? Well, not that, but it's like, you know,
it could be touch and gold because they're like knocked out.
And anyway, my doctors got in there and it was
a disaster. They didn't know what the hell they were seeing.
My uterus was connected to my bladder via scar tissue
(35:16):
because of my C section when I had the twins
sixteen years ago. So scar tissue just kind of like
grows in your body any kind of way, and it
and I had been peeing weird for like years and
didn't put and didn't know what do you mean weird?
I had to like pee all the time, like only
in the morning, okay, And then I was p free,
(35:36):
like I don't I mean, it was just something was
going on my bladder and I just thought it was normal.
That was just how I am. So surgery ended up
being like eight and a half hours. It scared everybody
to death. Robin, who doesn't get concerned about anything, was
concerned about me. And thank god she you know, she
(35:56):
is a human guys. And but long story short, is
the best thing that I've ever could have done. Yeah,
because I feel I'm not blow I was feeling bloated.
Yeah for two years you never looked bloated, but I
mean I felt that, yeah, it's gone. It's And I
know there's other ways of handling five boys. There's like
(36:17):
ablasion and all these other ways. I feel like, if
if you're at a place where you don't want any
more children, and the ablazing works, but I think they
can come back and you just don't want that. I
just want to get rid of it. I'm very happy
with my decision. And so what else differences in like
how you feel are there? I feel like a little
(36:40):
sexually it's great. Um, And I don't know why. Okay,
first of all, after you have it done the way
that they have to sell you back up, you cannot
have anything in the vagina, they say for so I
think it was like my doctor said, like six weeks
or eight weeks. Maybe it was six weeks okay, like
(37:01):
a baby, right. So I went to my six week
checkup and she like felt and did a bunch of
stuff and she was like, yep, six more weeks. Oh.
I was like, what are you talking about? So she
was like, yeah, you're not really healed up. So I said,
oh god. And she said, and when you do decide
puts something up in there, you have to be very gentle. Yeah.
(37:22):
And I was like, that's not what I'm gonna do.
I'm gonna get rick rickety row anyway, So long story short,
it's just I don't know. I just feel comfortable with everything.
I feel lighter. I feel like I shouldn't. I had
like I felt like I had toxins in my body
and they're they're gone, so I feel better. Did it
(37:45):
affect I mean you always had like it, you always
seem to have like high energy. But did it affect anything,
you know, as far as your energy or your you know,
your mood or anything. No, No, not my energy. But
but it was like working out, my stomach wouldn't go down. Okay,
so that's that's been removed. Yeah, So mentally I just
was like pissed off because I'm doing all this working
(38:07):
out stomach still big. So yes, to answer all the questions,
I'm happy that I did it. Um, you know, I
am over fifty the age of fifty, so for me,
it was the right move. I know that some women
who are younger are still trying to have children it
might not be right. But if if you're over fifty, yeah,
get that thing taken out and throw that thing straight
(38:29):
in the trash can. Yeah. And just I mean I
assume you know everyone is going to their regular checkups
and stuff, but like if you're not pleased, do so,
because you know your doctor can pretty much detect that
type of stuff. You know, how how they changed, like
getting a PAP smear from like every one year to
every three years two or is it two or three?
(38:51):
They'd be changed check three every year, right, so it's
paps every three years. But which makes people think you
don't need to go to your doctor. You only have
to go to your doctor every three years. My doctor's like,
I'm it's so frustrated at that advice because she's like, no,
you still need to come every year and get examined
and get checked out. So you know, if you're not
(39:12):
going to your doctor every year, please go yes, and
and thank god nothing was cancerous because they do check
for everything to make sure it's not so robin. This
is for me and you will you discourage your children
from pledging a fraternity of sorority. So you know, it's
funny when um my father's a Kappa, he's in a fraternity.
(39:33):
I'm in a sorority. I'm a Delta. And when woman's
at Maryland. He played basketball Maryland and he wanted to
pledge Kappa, like he actually that thought came into his
head and I was like, no, do not do it
because he's on the basketball team. There's like anyone. First
of all, it's hard enough being a student period, right,
(39:56):
it's super hard being a student athlete. It's hard being
a student who's pledging a fraternity or sorority. The thought
of him being a student athlete who's pledging a fraternity.
All at the same time, I was like, no, you're
going to ruin. Like I knew, because I know what
goes into it. I said that time, um, you know,
I knew it would go into it. How much time
(40:19):
it would take, How he would be up all night?
He maybe, And I said no, absolutely not like what
but Robin, they would have they would have his older brothers, yeah,
big brothers, whatever. They would have allowed him to, like
go to practice, go to his games, do everything he's
supposed to do. No, I mean yes, I mean yeah, yeah,
they would have allowed him go to practice. But he
would have been extremely tired. His grades would have suffered.
(40:42):
Like he would have been. He would have been a kappa.
He would have been stepping. Yeah. I wouldn't say yo
fa no yo baby Ye, he'd have been baby yo.
He had his cane, he'd be trawing it around, he'd
be thrawing it right here. How he really wouldn't but
he wouldn't know. But I was like, no, no, I'm sorry.
There's that you stepped on his dreams. I wasn't a dream.
(41:04):
It was just like a thought, like okay, I say,
like he really wanted to do it really bad, but
I was just like, no. So anyway, if my children
are UM college athletes, then absolutely not, they're not. What
so listen, no, you gotta you need to keep your scholarship,
your your athletic scholarship. These coaches they're they're they're not
(41:27):
going to allow They're not gonna be pledging them to
the point where they're gonna lose their scholarship. Come on, now, okay,
this is twenty twenty three, those days over, well, I
don't know. I'm sorry. I want them to focus on
keeping their scholarship. So what about your girls? Yeah? Absolutely,
okay AKA if they even utter adele or a tough,
it's a no. The end. It's so funny because I
(41:50):
told I talked the other day about UM. I took
Angel on the door to Hampton and of course I'm
like looking for my little sore wroars, I'm looking for
a pink in a green and no I didn't see
not nare one. And I was so towards the end
of the tour I told them the dean of emissions,
I was like, I was hoping to see my little
(42:11):
sore Wars. She was like, oh, you pledge, what are you?
I was like, uh, because she's she was a Delta,
I was like, m whatever, I said, I'm an aka,
like I want to see my little pinky green people.
And so by the end of it they found somebody
come and say hi to me. Okay, that was so funny.
So you know it. Now, since we're on the topic
of Sobrits, we've got another question. Ashley asked, I'd love
(42:32):
to hear what y'all have to say about belonging to
a black sority. Seems like black soritis are so different
than white sorities. So Ashley's white. Also more about Jessy
as a mom because their girls are so amazing. So yes,
the experience. So I went to a predominantly white institution.
I went to University of Maryland, So when you know,
you can, I can definitely see the difference between the
(42:53):
black sororities and the white sorities. Yes, one of the
main differences, honestly is more so going into like adulthood,
where you know, I pledged, Delta Sigma Data sorority, and
I am a delta for life, and so I can
continue in my you know, participating in my sorority, in
my graduate chapter and my alumni chapter as we call
(43:15):
it um, for the rest of my life. Like you know,
So like where the white sororities, it's like they go
to college a pledge of sority and then it's over.
It's over. Like it's not that they're you know, no
longer a member of that sority, but they don't continue
like their membership kind of in that sority. It's just
kind of like a temporary thing. Um. I mean, that's
(43:36):
like one of the big differences. And then you know,
our sororities are rooted in like community service, social you know, activism,
and you know we have we have like purposes for
we do what we do. We're not just like a
social club. Yes, you know, we're not just there to party.
We're there to serve the community. We're there to like
(43:59):
you know, trying to create change. And um, I know,
my sorority was really big in the women's suffrage movement
and you know back whatever years years ago to help
get women the right to vote. So it's like stuff
like that like, we actually have more of a purpose
I will say, outside of just being social and my sorority,
(44:21):
the Aks, we get people into the White House. So um, yeah,
there's that. Kamala Harris is a member of my sorority, yes,
the VP. Anyway, moving on to okay, so this is
interesting not Robin's sorority. So Robin this lady Jean Jean
Pierre wants to know what keeps our friendships so solid?
(44:43):
Oh that's a gen. Jen Jim was on the podcast
with us. Oh why is she asking a stupid question?
Wait a minute, Not okay, because she knows us right right,
But I think, you know, I think that's a good
question because as we you know, as you might see
on a you know, TV show, or as you just
(45:04):
ventured through your adulthood, like you see, you see that
keeping friends is not easy. Oh so that's true. Yeah,
I think we're honest with each other. Yeah. I think
I get on your nerves and you just deal with
it the end. Yeah, Um, you know, I don't know.
(45:26):
I think I don't know. I think I'm a good
friend to like my friends. I guess, yes, it's I
think you just have to know, like who your friends
are and the type of friendship you are going to
get out of them. So, like I saw this really
good post did I save it? It was like you
should have seven different types of friends. Maybe we should.
I don't know. We could say that for another podcast,
but it was like, you know, a friend to hang
(45:46):
out with, A friend that makes you laugh, a friend
you know that you tell your secrets to, You tell
your secrets to a friend that you ask for advice
a friend, you know what I mean. And so I
just feel like when you know the type of friend
that that friend is, then when they aren't doing the
other things that they aren't, you're not upset about it,
you know what I mean. It's like managing your expectations
(46:07):
between your friends that Yeah, I like that, okay, And
not all friends are created equal exactly, yesh. Yeah, but
I just think our friendship, like we have a similar
sense of humor. Yeah, we don't take ourselves too seriously.
Now we have kind of been on the receiving end,
you know, not just from the show, but just throughout
our life of the same type of scrutiny, yes, and
(46:29):
so we kind of have developed the same type of
like hard shell um where like we just look at
life a little bit differently than other people might. Yeah.
And that's so like where I could probably like say
something to you, I could probably say something to you
that's not going to hurt your feelings, And I might
say that the same thing to Carly and it might
(46:50):
hurt her feelings. Do you know what I mean? So
it's like I mean, but we pay Carly the big bucks,
so she doesn't have feelings. Okay, there's that. I that
I've ever heard carle Fro. Maybe I haven't yet, Yeah
I heard, so I we play with the big bart.
But you know what I say, I don't know. I
just I don't know. I just think. You know, when
(47:12):
you have friends that you click with, your click with them? Yeah, no,
I agree, I agree. All right, So we were gonna
do a reason? Is it reasonable or is it shady?
Do we have time for one? We have a whole bunch.
I want to do this one. I thought, Okay, pretty interesting.
Um it was actually um sent to me and day
oh yes, I liked the dms. So the question is
(47:34):
it reasonable or is it shady for a This is
from a guy from a female close friend to consistently
vocalize their disdain for male gay people when her male
best friend is also gay. Why am I the exception?
Wait a minute, he gay? He's gay, Okay, everybody's gay here.
He's gaya, she's not. That's like one of his like
(47:56):
female best friends. Okay um, And she vocalized, is her
disdain for male gay people? Why she do that? That's shady? Right?
So I was like, I got questions. Okay, okay, okay,
what's the question. I'm like, how long have y'all been friends?
And can you tell me an example of something? She
would say, oh, you asked, Yeah, okay. I was like this,
(48:16):
I'm like what that is? I mean, why are we friends? Here? Right? Right?
This is from Will. So he said, we've been friends
for roughly eleven years. She loves to tell me, I
love you as a person, but I don't agree or
support that lifestyle. He married a man in November, and
she made up an excuse not to attend the wedding,
which was she gave birth in September and wasn't sure
(48:38):
how her healing process was going to be. After the wedding,
her father came in town to visit her and saw
his saved the date on her refrigerator, and that made
him upset, and she couldn't wait to tell him what
her father said. He said, I heard the first disparaging
comment and immediately told her to stop. I said, I
respect you, I respect your father's opinion, but I don't
need to hear it. And then she brings it up
(49:00):
again and stuff like that. So then I was like, Okay,
were you openly gay when you two first met and
became friends? And he said he was not. He said
she actually she actually flirted with me a lot when
we met through mutual friends. I was uncomfortable side to
tell her, so she was sad. So she's mad that
he's gay because she wants to date them. Right, So
I'm like, is there a jealousy there? Because I mean,
but if they've been friends for eleven years, I think
(49:23):
you know I'm the majority of their friendship. He was
openly gay, right, I'm just like, they're not friends there,
that's not your friend. A friend supports you, right, A
friend would show up at your wedding even if she
didn't feel like that's what she believes. Right, you still
show up when you support you and you keep your
mouth shut, yes, like you wouldn't right, even if that
(49:43):
doesn't like I think as a friend, if that's something
that she doesn't believe or whatever, I think as a friend,
it's on her to try to get to a place
of understanding, right, Right, And so maybe that's a different
type of conversation with him, you know what I'm saying.
If it's something that she's just stuck on and she's
really appreciates his friendship doesn't approve of the lifestyle, well,
(50:06):
let me learn, let me figure out, let me learn
how to accept. Can you like teach me? Help me?
But like, as a friend, you don't sit there and
continuously tell him I don't respect your lifestyle. My father
don't respect it. And that's ridiculous, right, he needs the curb.
That's not your friend. She's shady. Yeah, and don't look back, right.
I feel like I still need more. I'm like, okay, so,
(50:28):
how how does this friendship fulfill him? Like? I need
more information? You know, I'm right? How are you even
still friends? How? Like? What else is there going on
in the friendship that makes you even want to be father? Yeah?
And I'm sure whoever he's marrying can't standa right, So
that's friction, right, And I'm sure she was jealous with that.
I mean, it's just this, but if she's pregnant having
(50:50):
a baby, she has her own life, she's got her
own relationship clearly. But yeah, I don't know. I'm just
I've rather I said, what's a big anything that makes
zero sense? Yeah, I mean that would be the same, Like,
I don't know, It's like that'd be like if I
was mad that Cow doesn't like me, and then he's
got a boo and I don't like his boo because
(51:12):
Cow's then acting gay or whatever. I don't know. I
don't know, Like I just can't see in any world
where a friend feels it's okay to tell someone that
they don't approve of their lifestyle. When this it's not
like it's not like he's like robbing a bank, like
he's a bank robber, or you know, even he's you know,
he's doing drugs or he's drinking alcohol. Like this is
(51:33):
nothing that he can change, you know what I'm saying.
It's not like so I'm just like, what is the
point here? I don't know. I don't like it. He
needs to run run. Yeah, yes, and that is our episode, guys.
I'm sorry. Yes, that's our episode, so don't ever get
to live your life either reasonable hit or about thy
(51:58):
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