June 5, 2024 • 45 mins
It is a common complicated conundrum for couples… where to live?
Chris is doing his best to solve this exact problem for Bachelor couple, Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.
Chris Harrison coming to you from the home office in Austin,
Texas today. I am so excited for this particular episode
of the most dramatic podcast ever. Two very good friends
are coming on the show, Ashley Ikenetti and Jared Habn.
(00:22):
Obviously they are married, but we got to know them
first of all separately because ash was on Chris Soul's
season of The Bachelor, and then Jared was on the
next season of The Batcherette with Caitlin and Britt it
turned out to be Caitlin Bristow season. And then they
went on a couple of seasons of Paradise where we
fell in love with these two as they attempted to
(00:43):
fall in love, although it seemed like love was going
to elude them, especially Ashley I who was more known
for tears, more known for being in love with Jared,
but Jared was never going to reciprocate that. It just
seemed like this romantic comedy that was never going to
have that happy end, and yet it did, and it has.
(01:04):
They are married, they have a beautiful baby boy, Dawson.
They are expecting their second child in July, which is
unbelievably exciting. They're now living their lives, hosting podcasts and
running the coffee shop and lounge Audrey's up there in
Rhode Island, so a lot to catch up to today
with Ashley I and Jared. Ashley, Jared, good to see
(01:28):
you guys. And Ashley, you look beautiful. You're glowing, so
let's just get that out of the way. But Jared,
I caught a glimpse and you've lost some weight. You're
looking swelt, you're looking fit. Are you just trying to
piss your wife off?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Obviously it's annoying that I lose weight when she gains
it during pregnancy, even though it's not your fault. You're
growing another human being. If I put weight on, it's
nobody's fault of my own. You can blame number two
on this one.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
There's the sympathy weight. Usually, usually that's what dads do,
is they go sympathy weight. It's like an extin to
eat you would. So when she was pregnant with Awesome,
you gain weight?
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Yes, yeah for how Nick even said like, hey dude, yeah,
of course I.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
I won't freaking Nick. So we go to see him
in La and this was right after Dawson was born
or whatever she was pregnant. And then Nick like literally
the third thing he says to me, he's like, huh
pull the wait on. Huh. I was like, dude, I
good to see you too. Go straight to hell. And
(02:27):
then he's like smiling and he's like no, no, no, you
look good. You look good, and it's Nick Way, I'm like, bro,
get out of my face. Why am I here? Why
am I here?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Tanner's like, welcome to the Zadbod life.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
I know.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
So honestly it was comments like that. I was like,
I gotta get out of here. I got I gotta
get it.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
How much of zempic are you taking? What's going on?
Speaker 2 (02:44):
No zempic?
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
So I downloaded like four months ago, I was, you know,
going to the gym, and it's just like, tired of
just doing the same old thing, was to do something.
So then I signed up for a half marathon because
I was like, all right, I'm going to train for something.
I want to train for something, okay, And then I
decided I didn't like running, and so then I downloaded
(03:07):
this app called Fitbod, and I really I freaking love
this thing. Because it just gives me different routines. And
also it brings out the competitive side because it gives
you goals to hit, and if you don't hit those goals,
it alerts you.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
This sounds like an ad but it's not.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
That's why Lauren loves orange theory because it's competitive. She
says she's not competitive, but she is. It's a total lie.
Don't ever let Lauren's ema get away with saying she's
not competitive. By the way, you guys, you do. You
both look great and congratulations. Baby number two is imminent.
Where where are we in the grand scale of things?
What's our due date?
Speaker 2 (03:42):
So he's cooking at three seventy five right now, said
about thirty five minutes, So we're about twenty seven minutes
in now.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
I guess I think it's like exactly two months away
right now, Like if you were to look at the date, yeah,
it's like I would.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
So we're going to have an early or of July. Baby,
Is that right?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
It's late. It's a late late mid July.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Maybe like around July twenty sixth?
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Is that is that somebody's birthday?
Speaker 1 (04:07):
That's that's my birthday?
Speaker 3 (04:09):
And then uh, everybody wants me to have a baby
on their birthday.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
But also, you know Trista had her first baby on
my birthday.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Well that is too saw.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Wild is that the first Bachelor baby was born on
my birth It was really wild. So baby Brady we're
calling it.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
That's already Dawson's middle name.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
But we can do baby Brady, Dawson Brady. Do we
know it's a boy. Yeah, obviously Dawson. Dawson came from Titanic.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Yeah, thank you for not thinking it's from Dawson's Creed.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
No, no, but by the way, nothing's not by the way,
nothing wrong with James Vanderbeek also living in Austin right now.
Great guy.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Oh he seems super cool. I love following him.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
He has forty seven kids.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
I went to a soccer game recently and he was
there and we were in the same suite and he
and his wife his kids, by the way, are lovely,
but there it's like a circus. But he's in town.
I just saw him, his daughter actually saying at this
event we were at Okay, not from Dawson's Creek. It
was from obviously Titanic, one of the greatest movies that
Ashley thinks she ever saw and baby number two is
(05:11):
also going to be a boy Do we have a
name already?
Speaker 3 (05:17):
We think we do? Okay, Yeah, we think so, but
we're not saying is it okay?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yeah? But is it derived from sports? Or is it
derived from a movie? Or is it derived from a
boy band? Just give us that much.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Nothing for the first name, but the middle name will
have an ode to pop culture of course.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, so it's a family name. It's the first name
is a family name. Ashley loves this name. It took
a while for me to come around, but.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yeah, it's it's no, but it's bizarre. The naming thing
was interesting when I went through it twice. The pressure
of that, Yeah that's what you think? Okay, what going
to yell on the playground? What are they gonna yell
on the ball field? What are they gonna yell in
the theater?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know?
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Like, what are the different iterations of this name that
will turn into what?
Speaker 2 (06:09):
You know?
Speaker 1 (06:10):
It's funny the pressure. Did y'all think about that?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Oh? Yeah, I've thought about like what name would get
my kids ass kicked?
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Like I don't want to name it that right, you know?
Like what what name was bullied when I was a kid,
the poor thing, because it's you don't think about that,
because I'm like, all right, I want to name my
kids something cool and unique and different, and I'm like,
but kids are cruel. I also don't want to be
made fun of for the first twelve years of his life.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
I think our generation is naming their kids weird things,
so it's like not even the thing anymore to make
fun of names.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Like, We're not going to get on The Bachelor in
like thirty years and it won't be like you know,
the Lorens we went through, you know, the nine different Laurens,
Lauren M, Lauren L, Lauren Z. So what will that
will be the interesting thing to see, like what the
names are twenty years from now and all the reality
shows when the Chiron pops up Dawson's two Did he
(07:02):
just turned two? Right?
Speaker 3 (07:03):
He turned to in January?
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Okay? Wow, so he's walking talking. I've seen and heard
his singing and dancing routine. The guy is killing it.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Yeah, we don't know. Well, I think he has rhythm
from Jared. Jared's really good at choreography. Jared's club dancing
skills will make meke Frinch as every girl will cringe
at her husband club.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Then I don't think I have good choreography, but Ashley's
just so bad that any rhythm that this kid has
he definitely got for me absolutely did not get it back.
A possible boy band future, one can only hope, honestly
up Like, dude, if he I mean, I just want
obviously I want him to love sports. I won't force
him to do it. But that was a way that
(07:44):
my dad and I bonded. Yeah, And I like, he'll
appreciate this. So I was going through like an accidential
crisis the other night and just like thinking about fatherhood
and other night or just like like generally in my life,
he's going.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Through a mid life crisis right now, dude.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I youtubed the end of Field of Dreams while I
was given Dawson a bath and was watching.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
It, Dad, do you want to have a catch?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
You want to have a catch, And it was just like,
so I start crying by myself thinking about this moment
with Dawson many years from now, and then of course
thinking about this moment with my dad and just like
having this moment to myself in the bath for while
Dawson's in the bath and I'm in the bath room
giving him a bath. And then it was funny because
on the YouTube algorithm, it obviously gives you suggested next video.
(08:29):
And the next video was an interview with Kevin Costner
when he was on Conan O'Brien, and it said Kevin
Costner asked why grown men cry at the end of
field of dreams? While I'm crying at the endfield dreams.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
That gets me every time, and flashed forward. By the way, God,
what would that be eighteen years from now? Well, I
guess twenty years from now when Joshua is twenty two
years old now and just graduated from TCU, just graduated college.
And obviously you guys met Joshua back in twenty fifth teens.
That was ten years ago. You guys met josh my
(09:03):
son oldest when he was twelve years old. So he
just graduated. Him finishing his last game, walking off the
field and going up to give him a hug. That
was that was my field of dreams moment. I cried
like a baby. It just gave crushed me. Those last
going to tournaments in high school, the last college game.
(09:23):
Lauren and I are moving him into his apartment. I'm
telling you. It will fly by.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
It flew by for us, for you. I remember when
you moved him into his first year of college. It
feels like yesterday, right.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Dude, I remember you. This was we were in Ireland
with Caitlin. Yeah, it might have been Clarney or something
like that. But he was there, and then you were
You're kicking the soccer ball with him, and then us
guys were there too. But I remember all of us
were like, well, no, we're not. We're not disturbing Chris
(09:58):
with his son right now like you were. We're all
very scared to like, oh no, no, no, no, no, he
needs like you know, he's with his son right now.
Nobody go near nobody go near you.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
That's funny. Those are what I do. I relish those
moments as I think back now, and I'm glad they
traveled with me so much, and and you know, they
met so many of you guys during your time on
the show, which is wild. You know, Andrew Firestone and
I because we were very similar in age. We have
these pictures and same thing with Bob Guiney, some of
our older bachelors that they met him when they were
(10:27):
born or just born, and it's crazy to me to
think how that because I had two sets of lives
going bachelor life and then my family and my kids
growing up, and those intersected a lot, which is and
they're kind of crossing over with all of you guys
as well.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
It was pretty wild, so sweet, yeah, and must to
you almost feel like you were living two lives.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Well, when people say what's your favorite season, what's your
favorite thing, and I'm like, it's going to be boring,
You're not going to like it. It's when my was
swinging on the Eiffel Tower when we were in France,
and it's when my son kept asking for chocolate tacos
which were crapes, you know, when we were looking at
the Eiffel Tower, and you know, eating gelato on the
steps in Italy, and you know, those are the moments
(11:15):
I remember. It's I mean, obviously, if you want to
talk about the show, you know it's Ashley crying. But
if it's and then they would say which time?
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Too many times she's still everybody asked me that, Like
the amount of times I get asked, does Ashley cry
that much?
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I'm like, who do you think cries more? Now? I mean,
obviously you have a lot of hormones kicking, so you're emotional.
But I could see Jarrett almost crying more now, as
have the roles reversed with this midlife crisis you're going through.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
No, I just internalized every time a few times through
the midlife crisis. Yeah, definitely. Oh dude, she cries.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
I literally can't have a serious conversation without crying, which
really sucks.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
What we were watching the other day was it The
Land before Time? We were showing done.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Oh, it was Home We're Abound, And I wasn't actually
about to cry during that.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
There was a different movie than then you started crying out.
I can't remember. But we're showing Oh, we're watching.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
That full House episode for Uncle Jesse's.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, we're showing Dawson full House and there's an episode
where there's a grandfather that dies in the episode, and Ashley,
I look over as Dawson's watching, and oh, please, you
always say that. He always says that, like, oh, I'm
not crying, even though there is water in her eyes.
That is crying.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Speaking of crying, Ashley and I were texting the other
day and I said, did Jared watch the Tom Brady
Roast on Netflix? It was the funniest thing that I
have ever seen. It was genius. And I'm not the
biggest Tom Brady fan. I know you are, but I said,
tom Brady isn't the hero we asked for, but he's
(12:55):
the hero we needed right now to step up and
to allow himself to be roasted. It's something that the
whole world just needed to rally around of, like, okay,
we can laugh again. And so I was texting with
Ash and I said, Hey, what did Jared think? Knowing
full well you watched it and we're obsessed with this.
I couldn't believe her answer when she said, Jared has
(13:16):
not and maybe will not watch the Roast of Tom Brady.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
It's not that I will not, it's the fact that
it's three hours long. So I watched. I also have
never enjoyed roast because I just like, I get it right.
It's like bit after bit after bit, new comedian, bit
after bit afterbit, new comedian. And so I watched clips
of it and then, like, you know, so many of
my friends are like, can you believe Belichick said this?
(13:40):
Or Belichick said that? And it's just like like I
saw the clips of Belichick and it's very clear that
a comedian wrote those jokes and he's saying them now.
Don't get me wrong, I'll give him props for saying it,
but it's like.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Well, of course Belichick didn't write a comedy bit. But
the point I mean, but to hear to hear Drew
Blood and Gronk and those guys just do it and
allow and Brady to sit there and take it was brilliant.
And the fact that they got they got Robert Kraft
and Belichick and Brady on the same stage and they
did a shot together. I told Lauren, I go, you
(14:15):
don't understand how crazy this is, and like, what a
big sports moment this is. It was wild to see.
And I will say, if you're if you don't want
to watch the whole thing fast forward, uh watch Jeff
Ross because he kicked the whole thing off. But go
to Nicky Glazier.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
I saw the Nicky Glazer.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
I will say, the Gronk jok wher is like I
know that fake.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Money even I know that, and then kill Tony crushed
it towards the end. Those are the two. But it
was I I was like, Jared's got to be dying
loving this because it was maybe the best performance Tom
Brady ever gave. It's the performance we needed from him.
This world needed to be brought together to laugh at ourselves.
(14:57):
So you should relish in the fact that your hero
rose once again to save the world.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh trust me, I relished in every second where people.
I can't believe it became the pop culture phenomenon that
it is. Like I was like always doing a roastar
you know, people will like it, and then it just
became the topic of every every podcast, every talk show,
Like everywhere I had looked, they'd be talking about the
Tom Brady roast and like, I cannot believe how big
(15:24):
this thing was.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Well, it was the first time we could all, honestly,
the first time comedians really let loose in a public
forum without locking up our phones. And you know, because
it was live on Netflix, they let it loose. And
it was the first time we all just laughed in
unison because there was someone Because there was someone so big.
It took Tom Brady. It took someone so untouchable, unapproachable,
(15:46):
so big that he was above reproach. That's what you needed.
You needed that mount rushmore of a human to go
bring it on. I'll be the guy. If it was
anybody else, it would have fallen on deaf ears.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
And it's good that it's Brady that you know, he
was just so successful and good looking and he's got
it all. And it's like it's there's people that like
they're like, we need we don't mind tearing that guy
down because we know he's fine.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Well, it's like when I host an event, you know,
it's easy. It's like I just did an event the
other day and Tim Tebow was in the audience, and
I'm like, yeah, you just picked the biggest, most famous,
safe guy. You make fun of him because we can
all laugh at that because there's nothing to laugh at
with Tebo. The guy's perfect and he's this like wonderful
human being, and so you make fun of it, and
that's like everyone can rally around that. It's like you
(16:37):
don't want to pick on the smallest guy. You pick
on the biggest guy.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
But yeah, what I didn't like was after that. I'm
sure you saw the headlines were Brady, because obviously I
love Brady, but it's like when he said that he
regretted doing it, don't say.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Well that was Look, my guess is that it was
just one off com and I didn't. I never even
saw where the comment came from. He said, yeah, my
kids didn't love it.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Me.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Look Gizelleizell.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
She'll got angry text afterward and was like, what are
you doing?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
There's no pun intended when I say Gizelle really took
it on the chin there, but she really did. And
her jiu jitsu teacher. I mean it was the jokes
did right themselves. They were pretty good, but I was
shocked to hear and I just I think it'll be
cathartic for you man, sit down and watch the show.
(17:38):
I was looking back over the both of you and
going over because it's funny. How when I become friends
with somebody, and I've been friends with you guys for
ten years now, as I think ash you started twenty
twenty fifteen.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
Right September is when I met.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Our ten year anniversary is coming up? Is that diamond anniversary?
What do I get you? Is that?
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Right?
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (18:03):
Yes, that's the ring upgrade.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
But so I've known you guys for the better part
of ten years, which is wild to me, and so
I kind of forget sometimes where y'all came from. I mean,
I know you're on the show, but I'm like, I
kind of lose the specific site. I went back and
I'm like, okay, so Ash was on Chris Soul's season,
and now I started looking about who else came off
that season, and a lot, a lot, a lot of
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stars came off that season. Whitney won it, so to speak.
They didn't stay together, but there was Becca who was
runner up, who was a huge star. Didn't Jade wasn't
Jade on that season?
Speaker 3 (18:40):
Yep, Jade was fourth, and then Caitlyn was there.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Yeah, and Britt, by the way, I forgot Britt was
even on that season. And that's where Caitlyn and Brett
came from, which is wild to me as well. And
what I never put the two and two together of
you and Jade were on the season together and then
Jared and Tanner were on Caitlyn and brit season together.
Speaker 3 (19:01):
Right, Yes, I'm thinking about my season. You definitely got
probably the most engagement from the girls on my season collectively,
because I'm thinking about Caitlyn twice.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Chasler.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Within Bachelor Nation, we had Caitlyn's engagement, Jade's engagement, Carly's engagement.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
What are you talking about Instagram, like what going.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Yeah, Carly out of Paradise as well? I forgot about Yeah,
Carly Wedell was on that season.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
Chris and then yeah yeah and you and then you
forget Jane Tanner are really the only success stories.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
To make it out well ten years ten years, uh,
and Tanner did.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
Tanner made it on Kaitlyn season. He was like eighth
or ninth or something like that, and it was so
funny because he was very self aware and he's like, honestly,
I'm just not screwing up. I'm just coasting, like I
want to see how far I can get without I
don't really have a good connection with Kaitlyn. And then
we were just joking about how he was going to be.
It was gonna be like him and shot in the
final two and Andrew shows up all disheveled, hasn't showered,
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shaved or anything like that, being like, Kaitlyn, please send
me home, and then she gives him her final rose
and he's like, you gotta be.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Kidding men, you guys. So in your season started with
the debacle of the two bachelorettes that we were voting on,
and then we swore we would never do that again.
And they did.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
And then fast forward.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
Yeah, it was a lot different the second.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Not any better, but just different. And then so did
you did you remember did you vote for Kaitlin or Britt?
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Dude? Vote? I voted for Britta and Caitlyn still to
this day will never let me live it down, which
I can't blame.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
I mean, the fix was in. We were never going
to let Britt win. The other producers had the fix in,
the scales of justice were not even in that vote,
and Caitlyn became the best. I didn't. So you you
voted for Britt.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
That's funny, Yeah, but I I also it was terrible
because I had this two incredibly good looking women who
were funny, personable, way out of my league, and I'm like, oh,
I have to choose which one I want to date.
This is the stupidest night of my life.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Yeah. But Britt was so your original type. Yeah, I agree,
And then Caitlin was the type that you became to
you started to like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Yeah, once you went to your boy band phase. And
but that season was good because we traveled, Like you said,
we ended up in Ireland. We had different travel planned,
but things were so good in Ireland. We decided to
stay because we were gonna leave. I think we were
going somewhere in Asia. Maybe I forget where we were deaf.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
Yeah, is that your theory? Is that how it happened
in your memory, Chris, because Jared has a different memory.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Oh, what's the memory?
Speaker 2 (21:50):
I got screwed out of a hometown? That's my memory
because I was fourth and we were supposed to go
from From what I'm understanding, we're supposed to go from
Ireland to back to hometowns and then go I don't
know the location, but like somewhere for fantasy suites, yes,
and then fancy suites. Something happened.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
The Nick sex happened.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
No, that's the story they gave us.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
No, that's that's true. Though, that's true.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
You're telling me that I got screwed out of a
hotel hometown because Nick and Caitlyn had sex.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Essentially, Yes, that's the Nick just.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
Talking. I was like two months ago.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Oh I thought it was actually know, I don't like
the sex.
Speaker 3 (22:31):
We had to like kind of change up the storyline.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Yeah, who told you that? Yeah, No, it's true. Well me,
Caitlyn didn't have anything to do with it. Well, I
guess she kind of did. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
I hope she's aware of everything was.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Going according to plan. And then obviously Nick and Caitlin
the infamous uh sex in the hotel there in Ireland,
and then we didn't want it because when we leave
you stop filming, right because you know, we have dark
days with the with the crew and we had to
shut down for a day then we all travel and
so we were just going to let the steam out
of the balloon there and and it was just going
(23:05):
to lose the storyline and lose the momentum of what
was going on, because really what it came down to
was obviously Sean and Nick and the craziness that was
going on, and we just didn't want to lose that,
so we kept it going and so we kind of
just blew up the rest of it and then we
ended up going That's why we went from like Doublin Trellie,
but then we just went up north to locker Urn
up in northern Ireland to that resort, which is a
(23:26):
good golf course as well, by the way, which is
really what I cared.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
About obviously the most important.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, but that's that's what happened. Your season was blown
up because of that.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
I can't imagine. I would actually love to see Caitlin
and meet your family Warwick, Rhode Island. That would be hilarious.
But I'm just glad you didn't go to Fantasy.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
And then so both and then Ash came on Winter Games,
which was an absolute blast. I had the I had
the best. So it was funny because Bachelor Winter Games
is something it was an experiment we tried because the
Winter Olympics were going on and they obviously they weren't
on ABC, and ABC's like we got to counter program
(24:09):
something against the Olympics because no one's going to watch
ABC and no one cares, so just we just just
create something. So we were like, oh, we'll go to
Vermont and we'll shoot Bachelor Winter Games, our own Winter Olympics.
And we were so burnt out. I forget whose season
we came off, but we just we had just come
off a bender of a season. We most of us
didn't even go home. I went home, changed suitcases and
(24:31):
went to Vermont for like three weeks and lived in
this snowy house and it was so we were all
a little fried, but it turned out to be really fun.
Did you remember it as fun ash or was it
just a disaster for you?
Speaker 3 (24:45):
It wasn't It was fun. Yeah. It was definitely like
the easiest of all these.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
Yeah, the pressure was yeah, it was. I mean, u
key was there for.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
Jared feels awkward? I love thee an Okay, yeah, no,
it was definitely easy breezy.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
And then we went to Winter Games and then we
went to Paradise twice.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
Right, well, yeah, we went to Paradise twice before Winter Games, before.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
The cap Okay, so that was so we went. Yeah,
Winter Games was like fifteen sixteen, and then.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
It was Winter Games was seventeen.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Fifteen sixteen, and then yeah, yeah win Winter Games.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Yeah, like the end of sixteen seventeen.
Speaker 2 (25:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Yeah, you and I got together in the winter of eighteen.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
And then I went to Bachelor in Paradise, Australia. Yeah,
which was stupid. I made it, okay.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
You also was easy breezy.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
I don't remember you doing that. You went to Bachelor
of Paradise Australia.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
Because I was on the phone with I won't say
producers names, but I was on the phone with the
producer who was inquiring about Winter Games, and then they
were like, hey, listen, you're not gonna be on Winter Games.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
We have to choose Ashley over it.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Obviously, it was probably like they were like, we don't
want Ashley Jared to be on the same season again, and.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Then America can't take this.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Yeah, it's just like, guys, we're bored. So then they
were like, would you want to do Bachelor in paradish Australia.
They're doing Americans and Grant was down there and Daniel
McGuire the Canadian. Yeah, And so I was like, yeah,
I'll do it. And then I made it through five
Row ceremonies didn't kiss anybody while I was there.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
They didn't kiss anyone. It was also came home befoorrid
that back to me and I was like, cool, well,
I'm leaving in two days for my show. I'll probably
kiss someone. And it all worked out well for you.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
It's so funny man, that. Yeah. Anyway, different life is it?
Speaker 1 (26:34):
I mean, it really is. When you guys think about it.
Now you're about to be a parent of two, and
when you think of all the the hijinks and shenanigans
and the craziness that went on it, it's it's got
to kind of blow you away and in a good way, though.
Speaker 3 (26:48):
Oh yeah, totally. It's so crazy when people come up
to us still and they're like, I'm so glad it
happened for you, and I'm like, we have been together
twice as long now as we were ever not together.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Yeah, but the show kind of got I mean, people
got to know you guys so well, or at least
they feel like they did obviously going through these journeys
with you. I'm sure that you still get if there's
a couple like even like you run into Shawn and
Catherine or Ryan and Trista, easy to root for, easy
to like. But I don't know if anybody went on
a journey like we went on with the two of you,
(27:21):
like together, are they not? Are they together? We want
them together? So it really was this rom com between
the two of you, unlike any of our other seasons
and couples.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
Yes, thank you, my dream come true.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Rom com like Jayde and Tanner are boring is like
come on, we Yeah, they went off and had their
own show and like just they came back. It was
like the couple that like showed up day one of
school and then you didn't see him again. They showed
up a graduation. We're like, have y' all been here
the whole time?
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Yeah? With three kids at graduation?
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Yeah? Oh wow yeah nice and don't happy quick?
Speaker 2 (27:56):
No getting flying.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Through that, y'all. S y'all are living in Rhode Island,
right know?
Speaker 2 (28:00):
Yeah, Ashley hates it.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
I do.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Well.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Her biggest argument will know how to settle it, to
be honest, I.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Will figure it out. Yeah. She wants to be home
closer to fam, which makes sense. I love Rhode Island,
So just kind of figuring it out right now.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Like, well, you're you're having babies in Virginia. Is that
like a home turf thing?
Speaker 3 (28:22):
I know. Well, so my dad's a doctor. My dad's annologist,
So I like to be at the hospital in which
my dad is ancycologist.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
I like home field advantage.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
Field advantages the exact way of putting it, like, you
could not have it, couldn't have a better.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
Yeah, the hospital. Everybody knows who she is, not only
because like a little princess, Yeah, because of her dad
and she's very much taken care of and Fairfax is
such an incredible hospital. It's just a no brain.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Also, not sponsoring the show.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
If they want to.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
Okay, So of all the things you guys fight about,
you do fight about where you're going to live. That's
a big thing.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Yeah, yeah, it's a big thing.
Speaker 3 (29:10):
We don't like fight about it. Like it's not like
an we don't fight about it, but like it's like
a constant like always there. Where will you know if
you talk about the future and you're like, oh, is
that where we will be in the future, will he
be playing softball on this field?
Speaker 2 (29:25):
Yeah? When I like, that's funny you think Dawson's going
to play baseball there because he'd been playing baseball about oh,
at least a thousand miles away.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
It's not a thousand.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Here's the thing. I just I find it interesting because
that's something that couples like Lauren and I went through
it and when we started dating, and I said, Hey,
this train is going to end up in Texas, so
don't get on. Don't get on this train at all
if you don't want to go on this trip with me.
Because I'm I knew I was going to boomerang back.
I was already even towards the end of the Batchel
I was already looking at homes here in Austin, I
(30:07):
knew I wanted to move back here between here in Dallas,
and when Lauren and I really fell in love and decided,
you know, to do life together, I was like, look,
you know we're going to work. I'm taking off to Austin.
Let's do this. And we chose Austin because neither one
of us have ever lived here. We could build a
life together and do it together and do something kind
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of different. Like I grew up in Dallas, he was
in Chicago. Let's do something where we are kind of
on neutral ground and we can kind of build it together.
Have y'all, where would that be for you? Guys? Where's
the dream for you?
Speaker 3 (30:43):
Maybe?
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Cranston?
Speaker 3 (30:48):
I think like just for me, I would just want
to be back in Virginia, which is like something I
never expected myself wanting until we had a kid. I
always was the girl that was like, I'm happy to
move back to Rorde Island. I don't care I'm anywhere.
I'm gonna be happy. I love the ocean. I love Newport.
I do love the ocean. Yeah, I do love Newport.
But it's like that's not going to suffice when it's
(31:10):
just so nice to like sit around just with Dawson
in like a playroom with my mom and my sister.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
And yeah, yeah, it's definitely like the I think the
biggest I don't want to say issue, but it's more
it's just like there, it's always there because I can
see it. You know that she's very clearly much happier
anytime she's in Virginia. And not that you're sad here,
but you're just you're always with your mom, You're always
with your sister. Yeah, you know that's where you want
(31:36):
to be, which totally makes sense, you love because then
when you're there with Dawson, it's like Dawson is not
just hanging out with you, Yeah, it's like a he's
hanging out with three or four people at once. So
and then I'm like, you, Chris, when we first got together,
this this train is going to Rhode Island. And then
she was totally fine with that and there's no issues.
(31:58):
But obviously, you.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Know, things have changed, kids changed that you can change that.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
You know, So, I mean, we'll figure it out. I'm
not concerned about it. It's not like she's.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
I'm not like every day I'm like, I can't believe
I'm here. I'm so sad. You know, it's just like
it's kind of more.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Of like a and it's not la a place across
the country, you know, yeah, literally an hour flight.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
Yeah, it sounds like y'all are about to have two places.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
I say that I would like to have, you know,
I said, And in the dream world, we'd have like
the beach house here.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Yeah you know, I mean it's place place.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
Yeah exactly, and you can like AIRBNBA or college students
live in the beach town and.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
So yeah, the Escape Patch just really need to figure
out a way to get more free flights. That's what's
I can just buy.
Speaker 3 (32:43):
I am such a huge Southwest pand here's another shout
out or something I'm not paid for. But their companion
pass is the most brilliant.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
So you guys will determine this later. But this is crazy,
But Jared, I didn't know you owned a lounge in
coffee shop.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
Yeah you didn't know.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
I swear to god, I didn't know. I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
I had no.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
I don't know why I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
Well, you're not supposed to know. It's like it's not
that's not true.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
I think I should know. That's that's information I should know,
I felt really bad.
Speaker 3 (33:14):
We should definitely have shared that.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Yeah, it's probably because Ben Higgins is too busy talking
about his crappy coffee all the time.
Speaker 2 (33:21):
I know it's very good coffee.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
No, I'm just kidding. Shout out to Ben Higgins and
his coffee company.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
Yeah, it was funny. When I first opened, Ben reached
out was like, you know, would you want to carry
generous and I was going to reach out anyway. I think,
you know, it's a perfect fit. So yeah, we opened
Audrey's Coffee House in Lounge. It's in South Kingston, Rhode Island,
in December of twenty twenty one. Audrey is her mom,
So you know, I wanted to name it a family name,
(33:50):
something meaningful to us because it was a family business.
I love the name Audrey reminds me of Audrey's half Burnt,
Audrey Halfburn, and so I just always felt like, oh,
let's get a coffee at Audrey's. It's gotta drink at Audrey's.
It felt right. And so it actually used to be
a different coffee shop that I went to when I
was in college, and so I was very familiar with
the area and just working restaurants all my life. I
always wanted to own and operate my own place and
(34:11):
felt like I could. It's obviously so stressful, the margins
are so small, but I love I do love owning
the place. Like as much as I bitch about it
and complain and it tires me out and it takes
up so much of my time and effort. There is
this feeling of pride that I get from from being
there and being in the midst of the chaos with
(34:35):
you know, other employees that work there, and you know,
they're an attachment of my family now, and it's it's nice.
There's something to be said about the camaradity that a
brick and mortar business brings, especially a small one.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
It's something that's lost today, isn't it. I Mean, there's
so many businesses and things that just are generated and
you're not really getting your you know, your hands dirty,
so to speak. And yeah, I think this generation and
I feel bad that they will miss out on that
brick and mortar experience of what it's like to go
to a building and to have to keep it clean
and to work on it and to stock it and
(35:09):
to grind there and it becomes this place that means
a lot to you.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Oh, one hundred percent. It means so much to me
because Ashley and I another you know point.
Speaker 3 (35:20):
Of these are the two points of contention that.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
You have Pien on is how much time it takes
me there.
Speaker 3 (35:28):
But he likes it, like he doesn't really want to
change that.
Speaker 1 (35:31):
It's a passion.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
It is a passion. And because so many times I've
told her I will change, I will change, I will change,
and I've I've tried, and I've definitely gotten so much better.
Speaker 3 (35:40):
You know, the first six months, you couldn't get worse.
He was there for like we counted one hundred hours
one week, but it was when we didn't have.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
A kid, and we did have a kid. Oh, Dawson
was born in January, a month after reopened.
Speaker 3 (35:55):
Yeah, so it was like a he's watch TV all
day with him.
Speaker 1 (36:03):
He's a throw rug at that point.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Yeah, he's fine, but yeah, it's just I it is
another kid to me, Like I care about it so
much and just like being there, there's nothing, there's not
a better feeling than when someone comes in and sees
me like washing dishes or whatever.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
I need literally unplugged, unclogging toilets.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Unclogging toilets, but most of the time that's very rare. Yeah,
thank god. Yes, but obviously washing dishes, making drinks, making food,
doing whatever I need to do. And it's always nice
when someone who's a fan of the show comes in.
They're like, I can't believe you actually work.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
If there's any fans listening, you're in Rhode Island, go
to Audrey's. Yeah, stop by and order a nice piping
hot cup of generous coffee compliments of Bin.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
Yeah, that coffee is so expensive.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
It goes to a good cause, Yes, nonprofit, which is great.
I wanted to thank you for coming on. But before
we go, there is something that seems to be happening
every time I have someone from the show on. It
may not it may not be the case with you too,
But I just had bread Walmeck on it happened, and
I had Jason Tartick on and it happened. I'm like, Okay,
I'm just gonna make this a thing when I have
(37:17):
Bacheler's and Bacheorettes on. What is the one thing you
wanted to ask me? What's that question? You're like, I
want to know the truth about this. Is there anything
that's a good question?
Speaker 2 (37:31):
Because we've become so much more comfortable with you over
the past few years.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
Say we're intimidated as we're on the show, I would
be so scared. I was so scared to talk to.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
You, which is so funny because I really tried so
hard to ingratiate myself to the cast and to get
to know most of it, but not everybody. But like
I try, you You're so.
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Nice and like so social around us and like open
and welcoming. But I was still like that as a
celebrity in the room, like I can't.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
Oh yeah, yeah. I remember one night at Paradise, we
were waiting for something like Rosa mourn or whatever, and
we were just talking sports, and I remember you said
something like you were busting my balls, and I was like, dude,
Chris Harrison's bust my balls? Do I bust his balls back?
Are you gonna get offended if I say something.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
We're probably talking about the Patriots.
Speaker 2 (38:15):
Oh, you were talking about the Cowboys. It's gonna make
like a Cowboys.
Speaker 1 (38:20):
It's easy to make fun.
Speaker 2 (38:21):
Of Quincy Carter joke or something.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
You could just make a Dak Prescott joke.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
Yeah, I know, man, what something I've always wanted to
ask you. So, how about this at Rose ceremonies, Right,
you show up at like, I don't know, two in
the morning sometimes like that's the first time, like we
see you when you intro and then you come back
at two in the morning. What do you do in between?
Do you sleep?
Speaker 1 (38:44):
I used to so back in the day, I would
stay up, you know, because I was young and you know,
vibrant and could do that. It would be nothing. I'd
get there like probably run ten thirty or eleven or whatever,
have dinner, and I'd sit in the control room because
I needed to listen to what was going on and
see the storylines that were being pushed and to talk,
you know with the producers and all that. So I'd
come hang and then you know we would do uh
(39:06):
tink tank and then you know, break for Rose ceremony.
Then it got to the point where you know, I
had so Chris Sole season still they was probably still
I was sleeping in the closet, you know, and the
so in the Bachler in the bachelor mansion, in the
master bedroom and master bathroom, there's that walk in closet
(39:28):
and that's where Carrie Fetman, my stylist and the stylist
for the show. We would keep all the clothes, and
so they that's the one place in the house there
was no cameras, no lights, no nothing. We would go
in there and that's I would make a makeshift little
bed and we would just sit in there and I
would lay down and go to sleep in the closet.
Speaker 3 (39:47):
If we walked into the closet and just like Chris
Harrison's sleeping dur a cocktail party, amaze.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
And then they got me finally because it wasn't because
they were nice, because lord knows that's not the case.
But they got me at trailer and down by production
and I would come in, make sure I knew what
was going on, get dressed, and you know, sometimes you
stay awake through tink tink, but there was it just
went so long. I would go to sleep and then
Paullie would come wake me up. Big Polly if you
(40:16):
guys don't remember who Polly was, the guy who the
big guy that usually would either kick people out, not
you guys, but people listening, would you know, come get
the suitcases. And that was Polly. And so he would
come wake me up and they drag me back up
for the road ceremony at four, five, six in the morning.
And you know, because I did, I didn't have the
union issues. So what would happen is if your camera, audio, whatever,
(40:39):
you would shoot all night. You shoot your eight hours,
ten hours, whatever it was. We always went into overtime.
But then that crew would go home at six or
seven in the morning, Me and Gina and Carrie make
up wardrobe and myself. We would then turn around and
have to do the date card like two hours. You know,
as y'all remember, we'd get to bed at six thirty
seven in the morning, and then at nine o'clock in
(41:01):
the morning we had to do a date card to
set up the dates for that day. And so I
was the only one that had to turn around and
do that because all the rest of the crews would
change over. And so I would go home for like
an hour. Sometimes it was really depressing. I'd come home
and the kids would be leaving for school, and I
would like hug the kids. I would go lay down
in bed for an hour, shower, shave, and go back
(41:23):
up to the mansion.
Speaker 3 (41:24):
It was really wild, and then could you sleep after that?
Speaker 1 (41:27):
And then I would sleep that afternoon. Usually I wasn't
on that date. I'd make sure I wasn't on that
date that day, so I would sleep that day so
I had to pick the kids up from school at
like two thirty. But you're just a zombie.
Speaker 3 (41:37):
Now.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
I have a question.
Speaker 3 (41:38):
Yeah, what is tink tink?
Speaker 2 (41:41):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (41:41):
That's where I would come in. And that's what we
called the tink tink, like the call the tink tink.
Sorry to break this up, but it's time for the
roads ceremony.
Speaker 2 (41:51):
I have one more question.
Speaker 1 (41:52):
There's even a little glass. We would set it on
the washer and dryer, and you know Pollie would fill
it up because you know, Polly was the floor director
and he's in charge of everything going on on the floor,
so he would like, have my little butter knife, and
then it would say, do not touch tink tink.
Speaker 2 (42:07):
It was I they I know. I don't even know
if you can answer this. If you if they ever
asked you to be a part of the franchise again
in any capacity, would you be open to it.
Speaker 1 (42:22):
I would never say never, you know, I like my
mom taught me well enough to say never say never.
I can't see a world in which I would want that,
or which in which I would think it would be
healthy or good for me. We have the project going
at Merritt Street Media now with Doctor Phil, which is
going to be awesome, and you know, that ship is sailed.
(42:42):
In my life, it was so wonderful and I'm so
grateful for it. It brought me so many blessings. Two of
them are right here in front of me, like the
friends I never thought I was going to meet and
have in my life. So I always look at it
as a blessing. But I think things happen in your
life for a reason, but also for a season, and
that season of my life I think has passed and
(43:03):
I'm excited for the next one. So but it's not
because of like any bitterness of like screw those guys
or whatever.
Speaker 3 (43:10):
What's your relationship with Like with doctor Phil.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
Really bizarrely close now he is.
Speaker 3 (43:15):
He want to know, like what you guys look like
if you're having a beer at the bar.
Speaker 1 (43:18):
Yeah, he's it's more of an I It's it's more
of an iced teeth thing. He's a big iced tea guy.
Speaker 2 (43:22):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
When you go into his office after his show, he
always has iced tea.
Speaker 2 (43:26):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
He does have a sweet tooth and you know, the
first one of our first meetings, we sat there and
we almost emptied out a box of Girl Scout cookies.
But he is such a thoughtful, smart human being. And
he's one of those guys I always say, you run
into a text and he can, you know, because he
has that slow drawl. People like that can be easily
underestimated in life because oh he's he's a redneck, or
(43:49):
he's I dare you to underestimate someone like that. He
is unbelievably smart, brilliant, gets the gets the business, which
is really fun. It's it's been really fun to get
to know him and become friends with him and Robin
and the family, and he's really taken Lauren and I
under his wing and just a sweetheart of a guy.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
That's so great.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
We're so happy for you, guys.
Speaker 3 (44:10):
We're seriously so excited for you.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
Will find your way on. I'm sure we would love
that you and you said, Dawson and Little Brady, Little
Brady Tom Tom Yeah.
Speaker 2 (44:20):
Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom Karate Kid three
Ninches John John John John, Yeah, there we go.
Speaker 3 (44:32):
That would make sense.
Speaker 2 (44:33):
You want to mention John Paul Jones to me today
because his name is John Paul. Yeah, John Paul Jones
is my favorite because my name is John Paul. I
was like, cool, bro, that's a throwback.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Christopher, Chris, Chris. Maybe you know Harrison. Those are good
middle names, those are strong, those are strong presidential names.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
Yeah, Harrison is a very.
Speaker 3 (44:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:54):
I know you guys have to go, but I just
wanted to say thank you for the support the Friends show.
You guys have always been so wonderful. Lauren and I
love you guys to death, and if we don't talk
for some reason between now and two months from now,
I wish you guys all the blessings in the world.
On a healthy, beautiful baby boy.
Speaker 2 (45:12):
Oh, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Our ten year anniversary coming up.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
Ash, I can't wait to see the diamond.
Speaker 1 (45:20):
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Chris Harrison coming to you from the home office in Austin,
Texas today. I am so excited for this particular episode
of the most dramatic podcast ever. Two very good friends
are coming on the show, Ashley Ikenetti and Jared Habn.
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Obviously they are married, but we got to know them
first of all separately because ash was on Chris Soul's
season of The Bachelor, and then Jared was on the
next season of The Batcherette with Caitlin and Britt it
turned out to be Caitlin Bristow season. And then they
went on a couple of seasons of Paradise where we
fell in love with these two as they attempted to
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fall in love, although it seemed like love was going
to elude them, especially Ashley I who was more known
for tears, more known for being in love with Jared,
but Jared was never going to reciprocate that. It just
seemed like this romantic comedy that was never going to
have that happy end, and yet it did, and it has.
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They are married, they have a beautiful baby boy, Dawson.
They are expecting their second child in July, which is
unbelievably exciting. They're now living their lives, hosting podcasts and
running the coffee shop and lounge Audrey's up there in
Rhode Island, so a lot to catch up to today
with Ashley I and Jared. Ashley, Jared, good to see
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you guys. And Ashley, you look beautiful. You're glowing, so
let's just get that out of the way. But Jared,
I caught a glimpse and you've lost some weight. You're
looking swelt, you're looking fit. Are you just trying to
piss your wife off?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Obviously it's annoying that I lose weight when she gains
it during pregnancy, even though it's not your fault. You're
growing another human being. If I put weight on, it's
nobody's fault of my own. You can blame number two
on this one.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
There's the sympathy weight. Usually, usually that's what dads do,
is they go sympathy weight. It's like an extin to
eat you would. So when she was pregnant with Awesome,
you gain weight?
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Yes, yeah for how Nick even said like, hey dude, yeah,
of course I.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
I won't freaking Nick. So we go to see him
in La and this was right after Dawson was born
or whatever she was pregnant. And then Nick like literally
the third thing he says to me, he's like, huh
pull the wait on. Huh. I was like, dude, I
good to see you too. Go straight to hell. And
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then he's like smiling and he's like no, no, no, you
look good. You look good, and it's Nick Way, I'm like, bro,
get out of my face. Why am I here? Why
am I here?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Tanner's like, welcome to the Zadbod life.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
I know.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
So honestly it was comments like that. I was like,
I gotta get out of here. I got I gotta
get it.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
How much of zempic are you taking? What's going on?
Speaker 2 (02:44):
No zempic?
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
So I downloaded like four months ago, I was, you know,
going to the gym, and it's just like, tired of
just doing the same old thing, was to do something.
So then I signed up for a half marathon because
I was like, all right, I'm going to train for something.
I want to train for something, okay, And then I
decided I didn't like running, and so then I downloaded
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this app called Fitbod, and I really I freaking love
this thing. Because it just gives me different routines. And
also it brings out the competitive side because it gives
you goals to hit, and if you don't hit those goals,
it alerts you.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
This sounds like an ad but it's not.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
That's why Lauren loves orange theory because it's competitive. She
says she's not competitive, but she is. It's a total lie.
Don't ever let Lauren's ema get away with saying she's
not competitive. By the way, you guys, you do. You
both look great and congratulations. Baby number two is imminent.
Where where are we in the grand scale of things?
What's our due date?
Speaker 2 (03:42):
So he's cooking at three seventy five right now, said
about thirty five minutes, So we're about twenty seven minutes
in now.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
I guess I think it's like exactly two months away
right now, Like if you were to look at the date, yeah,
it's like I would.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
So we're going to have an early or of July. Baby,
Is that right?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
It's late. It's a late late mid July.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Maybe like around July twenty sixth?
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Is that is that somebody's birthday?
Speaker 1 (04:07):
That's that's my birthday?
Speaker 3 (04:09):
And then uh, everybody wants me to have a baby
on their birthday.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
But also, you know Trista had her first baby on
my birthday.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Well that is too saw.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Wild is that the first Bachelor baby was born on
my birth It was really wild. So baby Brady we're
calling it.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
That's already Dawson's middle name.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
But we can do baby Brady, Dawson Brady. Do we
know it's a boy. Yeah, obviously Dawson. Dawson came from Titanic.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Yeah, thank you for not thinking it's from Dawson's Creed.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
No, no, but by the way, nothing's not by the way,
nothing wrong with James Vanderbeek also living in Austin right now.
Great guy.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Oh he seems super cool. I love following him.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
He has forty seven kids.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
I went to a soccer game recently and he was
there and we were in the same suite and he
and his wife his kids, by the way, are lovely,
but there it's like a circus. But he's in town.
I just saw him, his daughter actually saying at this
event we were at Okay, not from Dawson's Creek. It
was from obviously Titanic, one of the greatest movies that
Ashley thinks she ever saw and baby number two is
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also going to be a boy Do we have a
name already?
Speaker 3 (05:17):
We think we do? Okay, Yeah, we think so, but
we're not saying is it okay?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yeah? But is it derived from sports? Or is it
derived from a movie? Or is it derived from a
boy band? Just give us that much.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Nothing for the first name, but the middle name will
have an ode to pop culture of course.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, so it's a family name. It's the first name
is a family name. Ashley loves this name. It took
a while for me to come around, but.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yeah, it's it's no, but it's bizarre. The naming thing
was interesting when I went through it twice. The pressure
of that, Yeah that's what you think? Okay, what going
to yell on the playground? What are they gonna yell
on the ball field? What are they gonna yell in
the theater?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know?
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Like, what are the different iterations of this name that
will turn into what?
Speaker 2 (06:09):
You know?
Speaker 1 (06:10):
It's funny the pressure. Did y'all think about that?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Oh? Yeah, I've thought about like what name would get
my kids ass kicked?
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Like I don't want to name it that right, you know?
Like what what name was bullied when I was a kid,
the poor thing, because it's you don't think about that,
because I'm like, all right, I want to name my
kids something cool and unique and different, and I'm like,
but kids are cruel. I also don't want to be
made fun of for the first twelve years of his life.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
I think our generation is naming their kids weird things,
so it's like not even the thing anymore to make
fun of names.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Like, We're not going to get on The Bachelor in
like thirty years and it won't be like you know,
the Lorens we went through, you know, the nine different Laurens,
Lauren M, Lauren L, Lauren Z. So what will that
will be the interesting thing to see, like what the
names are twenty years from now and all the reality
shows when the Chiron pops up Dawson's two Did he
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just turned two? Right?
Speaker 3 (07:03):
He turned to in January?
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Okay? Wow, so he's walking talking. I've seen and heard
his singing and dancing routine. The guy is killing it.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Yeah, we don't know. Well, I think he has rhythm
from Jared. Jared's really good at choreography. Jared's club dancing
skills will make meke Frinch as every girl will cringe
at her husband club.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Then I don't think I have good choreography, but Ashley's
just so bad that any rhythm that this kid has
he definitely got for me absolutely did not get it back.
A possible boy band future, one can only hope, honestly
up Like, dude, if he I mean, I just want
obviously I want him to love sports. I won't force
him to do it. But that was a way that
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my dad and I bonded. Yeah, And I like, he'll
appreciate this. So I was going through like an accidential
crisis the other night and just like thinking about fatherhood
and other night or just like like generally in my life,
he's going.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Through a mid life crisis right now, dude.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I youtubed the end of Field of Dreams while I
was given Dawson a bath and was watching.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
It, Dad, do you want to have a catch?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
You want to have a catch, And it was just like,
so I start crying by myself thinking about this moment
with Dawson many years from now, and then of course
thinking about this moment with my dad and just like
having this moment to myself in the bath for while
Dawson's in the bath and I'm in the bath room
giving him a bath. And then it was funny because
on the YouTube algorithm, it obviously gives you suggested next video.
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And the next video was an interview with Kevin Costner
when he was on Conan O'Brien, and it said Kevin
Costner asked why grown men cry at the end of
field of dreams? While I'm crying at the endfield dreams.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
That gets me every time, and flashed forward. By the way, God,
what would that be eighteen years from now? Well, I
guess twenty years from now when Joshua is twenty two
years old now and just graduated from TCU, just graduated college.
And obviously you guys met Joshua back in twenty fifth teens.
That was ten years ago. You guys met josh my
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son oldest when he was twelve years old. So he
just graduated. Him finishing his last game, walking off the
field and going up to give him a hug. That
was that was my field of dreams moment. I cried
like a baby. It just gave crushed me. Those last
going to tournaments in high school, the last college game.
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Lauren and I are moving him into his apartment. I'm
telling you. It will fly by.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
It flew by for us, for you. I remember when
you moved him into his first year of college. It
feels like yesterday, right.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Dude, I remember you. This was we were in Ireland
with Caitlin. Yeah, it might have been Clarney or something
like that. But he was there, and then you were
You're kicking the soccer ball with him, and then us
guys were there too. But I remember all of us
were like, well, no, we're not. We're not disturbing Chris
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with his son right now like you were. We're all
very scared to like, oh no, no, no, no, no, he
needs like you know, he's with his son right now.
Nobody go near nobody go near you.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
That's funny. Those are what I do. I relish those
moments as I think back now, and I'm glad they
traveled with me so much, and and you know, they
met so many of you guys during your time on
the show, which is wild. You know, Andrew Firestone and
I because we were very similar in age. We have
these pictures and same thing with Bob Guiney, some of
our older bachelors that they met him when they were
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born or just born, and it's crazy to me to
think how that because I had two sets of lives
going bachelor life and then my family and my kids
growing up, and those intersected a lot, which is and
they're kind of crossing over with all of you guys
as well.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
It was pretty wild, so sweet, yeah, and must to
you almost feel like you were living two lives.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Well, when people say what's your favorite season, what's your
favorite thing, and I'm like, it's going to be boring,
You're not going to like it. It's when my was
swinging on the Eiffel Tower when we were in France,
and it's when my son kept asking for chocolate tacos
which were crapes, you know, when we were looking at
the Eiffel Tower, and you know, eating gelato on the
steps in Italy, and you know, those are the moments
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I remember. It's I mean, obviously, if you want to
talk about the show, you know it's Ashley crying. But
if it's and then they would say which time?
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Too many times she's still everybody asked me that, Like
the amount of times I get asked, does Ashley cry
that much?
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I'm like, who do you think cries more? Now? I mean,
obviously you have a lot of hormones kicking, so you're emotional.
But I could see Jarrett almost crying more now, as
have the roles reversed with this midlife crisis you're going through.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
No, I just internalized every time a few times through
the midlife crisis. Yeah, definitely. Oh dude, she cries.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
I literally can't have a serious conversation without crying, which
really sucks.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
What we were watching the other day was it The
Land before Time? We were showing done.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Oh, it was Home We're Abound, And I wasn't actually
about to cry during that.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
There was a different movie than then you started crying out.
I can't remember. But we're showing Oh, we're watching.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
That full House episode for Uncle Jesse's.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, we're showing Dawson full House and there's an episode
where there's a grandfather that dies in the episode, and Ashley,
I look over as Dawson's watching, and oh, please, you
always say that. He always says that, like, oh, I'm
not crying, even though there is water in her eyes.
That is crying.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Speaking of crying, Ashley and I were texting the other
day and I said, did Jared watch the Tom Brady
Roast on Netflix? It was the funniest thing that I
have ever seen. It was genius. And I'm not the
biggest Tom Brady fan. I know you are, but I said,
tom Brady isn't the hero we asked for, but he's
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the hero we needed right now to step up and
to allow himself to be roasted. It's something that the
whole world just needed to rally around of, like, okay,
we can laugh again. And so I was texting with
Ash and I said, Hey, what did Jared think? Knowing
full well you watched it and we're obsessed with this.
I couldn't believe her answer when she said, Jared has
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not and maybe will not watch the Roast of Tom Brady.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
It's not that I will not, it's the fact that
it's three hours long. So I watched. I also have
never enjoyed roast because I just like, I get it right.
It's like bit after bit after bit, new comedian, bit
after bit afterbit, new comedian. And so I watched clips
of it and then, like, you know, so many of
my friends are like, can you believe Belichick said this?
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Or Belichick said that? And it's just like like I
saw the clips of Belichick and it's very clear that
a comedian wrote those jokes and he's saying them now.
Don't get me wrong, I'll give him props for saying it,
but it's like.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Well, of course Belichick didn't write a comedy bit. But
the point I mean, but to hear to hear Drew
Blood and Gronk and those guys just do it and
allow and Brady to sit there and take it was brilliant.
And the fact that they got they got Robert Kraft
and Belichick and Brady on the same stage and they
did a shot together. I told Lauren, I go, you
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don't understand how crazy this is, and like, what a
big sports moment this is. It was wild to see.
And I will say, if you're if you don't want
to watch the whole thing fast forward, uh watch Jeff
Ross because he kicked the whole thing off. But go
to Nicky Glazier.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
I saw the Nicky Glazer.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
I will say, the Gronk jok wher is like I
know that fake.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Money even I know that, and then kill Tony crushed
it towards the end. Those are the two. But it
was I I was like, Jared's got to be dying
loving this because it was maybe the best performance Tom
Brady ever gave. It's the performance we needed from him.
This world needed to be brought together to laugh at ourselves.
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So you should relish in the fact that your hero
rose once again to save the world.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh trust me, I relished in every second where people.
I can't believe it became the pop culture phenomenon that
it is. Like I was like always doing a roastar
you know, people will like it, and then it just
became the topic of every every podcast, every talk show,
Like everywhere I had looked, they'd be talking about the
Tom Brady roast and like, I cannot believe how big
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this thing was.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Well, it was the first time we could all, honestly,
the first time comedians really let loose in a public
forum without locking up our phones. And you know, because
it was live on Netflix, they let it loose. And
it was the first time we all just laughed in
unison because there was someone Because there was someone so big.
It took Tom Brady. It took someone so untouchable, unapproachable,
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so big that he was above reproach. That's what you needed.
You needed that mount rushmore of a human to go
bring it on. I'll be the guy. If it was
anybody else, it would have fallen on deaf ears.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
And it's good that it's Brady that you know, he
was just so successful and good looking and he's got
it all. And it's like it's there's people that like
they're like, we need we don't mind tearing that guy
down because we know he's fine.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Well, it's like when I host an event, you know,
it's easy. It's like I just did an event the
other day and Tim Tebow was in the audience, and
I'm like, yeah, you just picked the biggest, most famous,
safe guy. You make fun of him because we can
all laugh at that because there's nothing to laugh at
with Tebo. The guy's perfect and he's this like wonderful
human being, and so you make fun of it, and
that's like everyone can rally around that. It's like you
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don't want to pick on the smallest guy. You pick
on the biggest guy.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
But yeah, what I didn't like was after that. I'm
sure you saw the headlines were Brady, because obviously I
love Brady, but it's like when he said that he
regretted doing it, don't say.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Well that was Look, my guess is that it was
just one off com and I didn't. I never even
saw where the comment came from. He said, yeah, my
kids didn't love it.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Me.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Look Gizelleizell.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
She'll got angry text afterward and was like, what are
you doing?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
There's no pun intended when I say Gizelle really took
it on the chin there, but she really did. And
her jiu jitsu teacher. I mean it was the jokes
did right themselves. They were pretty good, but I was
shocked to hear and I just I think it'll be
cathartic for you man, sit down and watch the show.
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I was looking back over the both of you and
going over because it's funny. How when I become friends
with somebody, and I've been friends with you guys for
ten years now, as I think ash you started twenty
twenty fifteen.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
Right September is when I met.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Our ten year anniversary is coming up? Is that diamond anniversary?
What do I get you? Is that?
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Right?
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (18:03):
Yes, that's the ring upgrade.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
But so I've known you guys for the better part
of ten years, which is wild to me, and so
I kind of forget sometimes where y'all came from. I mean,
I know you're on the show, but I'm like, I
kind of lose the specific site. I went back and
I'm like, okay, so Ash was on Chris Soul's season,
and now I started looking about who else came off
that season, and a lot, a lot, a lot of
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stars came off that season. Whitney won it, so to speak.
They didn't stay together, but there was Becca who was
runner up, who was a huge star. Didn't Jade wasn't
Jade on that season?
Speaker 3 (18:40):
Yep, Jade was fourth, and then Caitlyn was there.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Yeah, and Britt, by the way, I forgot Britt was
even on that season. And that's where Caitlyn and Brett
came from, which is wild to me as well. And
what I never put the two and two together of
you and Jade were on the season together and then
Jared and Tanner were on Caitlyn and brit season together.
Speaker 3 (19:01):
Right, Yes, I'm thinking about my season. You definitely got
probably the most engagement from the girls on my season collectively,
because I'm thinking about Caitlyn twice.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Chasler.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Within Bachelor Nation, we had Caitlyn's engagement, Jade's engagement, Carly's engagement.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
What are you talking about Instagram, like what going.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Yeah, Carly out of Paradise as well? I forgot about Yeah,
Carly Wedell was on that season.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
Chris and then yeah yeah and you and then you
forget Jane Tanner are really the only success stories.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
To make it out well ten years ten years, uh,
and Tanner did.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
Tanner made it on Kaitlyn season. He was like eighth
or ninth or something like that, and it was so
funny because he was very self aware and he's like, honestly,
I'm just not screwing up. I'm just coasting, like I
want to see how far I can get without I
don't really have a good connection with Kaitlyn. And then
we were just joking about how he was going to be.
It was gonna be like him and shot in the
final two and Andrew shows up all disheveled, hasn't showered,
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shaved or anything like that, being like, Kaitlyn, please send
me home, and then she gives him her final rose
and he's like, you gotta be.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Kidding men, you guys. So in your season started with
the debacle of the two bachelorettes that we were voting on,
and then we swore we would never do that again.
And they did.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
And then fast forward.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
Yeah, it was a lot different the second.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Not any better, but just different. And then so did
you did you remember did you vote for Kaitlin or Britt?
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Dude? Vote? I voted for Britta and Caitlyn still to
this day will never let me live it down, which
I can't blame.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
I mean, the fix was in. We were never going
to let Britt win. The other producers had the fix in,
the scales of justice were not even in that vote,
and Caitlyn became the best. I didn't. So you you
voted for Britt.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
That's funny, Yeah, but I I also it was terrible
because I had this two incredibly good looking women who
were funny, personable, way out of my league, and I'm like, oh,
I have to choose which one I want to date.
This is the stupidest night of my life.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Yeah. But Britt was so your original type. Yeah, I agree,
And then Caitlin was the type that you became to
you started to like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Yeah, once you went to your boy band phase. And
but that season was good because we traveled, Like you said,
we ended up in Ireland. We had different travel planned,
but things were so good in Ireland. We decided to
stay because we were gonna leave. I think we were
going somewhere in Asia. Maybe I forget where we were deaf.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
Yeah, is that your theory? Is that how it happened
in your memory, Chris, because Jared has a different memory.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Oh, what's the memory?
Speaker 2 (21:50):
I got screwed out of a hometown? That's my memory
because I was fourth and we were supposed to go
from From what I'm understanding, we're supposed to go from
Ireland to back to hometowns and then go I don't
know the location, but like somewhere for fantasy suites, yes,
and then fancy suites. Something happened.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
The Nick sex happened.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
No, that's the story they gave us.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
No, that's that's true. Though, that's true.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
You're telling me that I got screwed out of a
hotel hometown because Nick and Caitlyn had sex.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Essentially, Yes, that's the Nick just.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
Talking. I was like two months ago.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Oh I thought it was actually know, I don't like
the sex.
Speaker 3 (22:31):
We had to like kind of change up the storyline.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Yeah, who told you that? Yeah, No, it's true. Well me,
Caitlyn didn't have anything to do with it. Well, I
guess she kind of did. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
I hope she's aware of everything was.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Going according to plan. And then obviously Nick and Caitlin
the infamous uh sex in the hotel there in Ireland,
and then we didn't want it because when we leave
you stop filming, right because you know, we have dark
days with the with the crew and we had to
shut down for a day then we all travel and
so we were just going to let the steam out
of the balloon there and and it was just going
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to lose the storyline and lose the momentum of what
was going on, because really what it came down to
was obviously Sean and Nick and the craziness that was
going on, and we just didn't want to lose that,
so we kept it going and so we kind of
just blew up the rest of it and then we
ended up going That's why we went from like Doublin Trellie,
but then we just went up north to locker Urn
up in northern Ireland to that resort, which is a
(23:26):
good golf course as well, by the way, which is
really what I cared.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
About obviously the most important.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, but that's that's what happened. Your season was blown
up because of that.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
I can't imagine. I would actually love to see Caitlin
and meet your family Warwick, Rhode Island. That would be hilarious.
But I'm just glad you didn't go to Fantasy.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
And then so both and then Ash came on Winter Games,
which was an absolute blast. I had the I had
the best. So it was funny because Bachelor Winter Games
is something it was an experiment we tried because the
Winter Olympics were going on and they obviously they weren't
on ABC, and ABC's like we got to counter program
(24:09):
something against the Olympics because no one's going to watch
ABC and no one cares, so just we just just
create something. So we were like, oh, we'll go to
Vermont and we'll shoot Bachelor Winter Games, our own Winter Olympics.
And we were so burnt out. I forget whose season
we came off, but we just we had just come
off a bender of a season. We most of us
didn't even go home. I went home, changed suitcases and
(24:31):
went to Vermont for like three weeks and lived in
this snowy house and it was so we were all
a little fried, but it turned out to be really fun.
Did you remember it as fun ash or was it
just a disaster for you?
Speaker 3 (24:45):
It wasn't It was fun. Yeah. It was definitely like
the easiest of all these.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
Yeah, the pressure was yeah, it was. I mean, u
key was there for.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
Jared feels awkward? I love thee an Okay, yeah, no,
it was definitely easy breezy.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
And then we went to Winter Games and then we
went to Paradise twice.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
Right, well, yeah, we went to Paradise twice before Winter Games, before.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
The cap Okay, so that was so we went. Yeah,
Winter Games was like fifteen sixteen, and then.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
It was Winter Games was seventeen.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Fifteen sixteen, and then yeah, yeah win Winter Games.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Yeah, like the end of sixteen seventeen.
Speaker 2 (25:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Yeah, you and I got together in the winter of eighteen.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
And then I went to Bachelor in Paradise, Australia. Yeah,
which was stupid. I made it, okay.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
You also was easy breezy.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
I don't remember you doing that. You went to Bachelor
of Paradise Australia.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
Because I was on the phone with I won't say
producers names, but I was on the phone with the
producer who was inquiring about Winter Games, and then they
were like, hey, listen, you're not gonna be on Winter Games.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
We have to choose Ashley over it.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Obviously, it was probably like they were like, we don't
want Ashley Jared to be on the same season again, and.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Then America can't take this.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Yeah, it's just like, guys, we're bored. So then they
were like, would you want to do Bachelor in paradish Australia.
They're doing Americans and Grant was down there and Daniel
McGuire the Canadian. Yeah, And so I was like, yeah,
I'll do it. And then I made it through five
Row ceremonies didn't kiss anybody while I was there.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
They didn't kiss anyone. It was also came home befoorrid
that back to me and I was like, cool, well,
I'm leaving in two days for my show. I'll probably
kiss someone. And it all worked out well for you.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
It's so funny man, that. Yeah. Anyway, different life is it?
Speaker 1 (26:34):
I mean, it really is. When you guys think about it.
Now you're about to be a parent of two, and
when you think of all the the hijinks and shenanigans
and the craziness that went on it, it's it's got
to kind of blow you away and in a good way, though.
Speaker 3 (26:48):
Oh yeah, totally. It's so crazy when people come up
to us still and they're like, I'm so glad it
happened for you, and I'm like, we have been together
twice as long now as we were ever not together.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Yeah, but the show kind of got I mean, people
got to know you guys so well, or at least
they feel like they did obviously going through these journeys
with you. I'm sure that you still get if there's
a couple like even like you run into Shawn and
Catherine or Ryan and Trista, easy to root for, easy
to like. But I don't know if anybody went on
a journey like we went on with the two of you,
(27:21):
like together, are they not? Are they together? We want
them together? So it really was this rom com between
the two of you, unlike any of our other seasons
and couples.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
Yes, thank you, my dream come true.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Rom com like Jayde and Tanner are boring is like
come on, we Yeah, they went off and had their
own show and like just they came back. It was
like the couple that like showed up day one of
school and then you didn't see him again. They showed
up a graduation. We're like, have y' all been here
the whole time?
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Yeah? With three kids at graduation?
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Yeah? Oh wow yeah nice and don't happy quick?
Speaker 2 (27:56):
No getting flying.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Through that, y'all. S y'all are living in Rhode Island,
right know?
Speaker 2 (28:00):
Yeah, Ashley hates it.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
I do.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Well.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Her biggest argument will know how to settle it, to
be honest, I.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Will figure it out. Yeah. She wants to be home
closer to fam, which makes sense. I love Rhode Island,
So just kind of figuring it out right now.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Like, well, you're you're having babies in Virginia. Is that
like a home turf thing?
Speaker 3 (28:22):
I know. Well, so my dad's a doctor. My dad's annologist,
So I like to be at the hospital in which
my dad is ancycologist.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
I like home field advantage.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
Field advantages the exact way of putting it, like, you
could not have it, couldn't have a better.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
Yeah, the hospital. Everybody knows who she is, not only
because like a little princess, Yeah, because of her dad
and she's very much taken care of and Fairfax is
such an incredible hospital. It's just a no brain.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Also, not sponsoring the show.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
If they want to.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
Okay, So of all the things you guys fight about,
you do fight about where you're going to live. That's
a big thing.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Yeah, yeah, it's a big thing.
Speaker 3 (29:10):
We don't like fight about it. Like it's not like
an we don't fight about it, but like it's like
a constant like always there. Where will you know if
you talk about the future and you're like, oh, is
that where we will be in the future, will he
be playing softball on this field?
Speaker 2 (29:25):
Yeah? When I like, that's funny you think Dawson's going
to play baseball there because he'd been playing baseball about oh,
at least a thousand miles away.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
It's not a thousand.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Here's the thing. I just I find it interesting because
that's something that couples like Lauren and I went through
it and when we started dating, and I said, Hey,
this train is going to end up in Texas, so
don't get on. Don't get on this train at all
if you don't want to go on this trip with me.
Because I'm I knew I was going to boomerang back.
I was already even towards the end of the Batchel
I was already looking at homes here in Austin, I
(30:07):
knew I wanted to move back here between here in Dallas,
and when Lauren and I really fell in love and decided,
you know, to do life together, I was like, look,
you know we're going to work. I'm taking off to Austin.
Let's do this. And we chose Austin because neither one
of us have ever lived here. We could build a
life together and do it together and do something kind
(30:29):
of different. Like I grew up in Dallas, he was
in Chicago. Let's do something where we are kind of
on neutral ground and we can kind of build it together.
Have y'all, where would that be for you? Guys? Where's
the dream for you?
Speaker 3 (30:43):
Maybe?
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Cranston?
Speaker 3 (30:48):
I think like just for me, I would just want
to be back in Virginia, which is like something I
never expected myself wanting until we had a kid. I
always was the girl that was like, I'm happy to
move back to Rorde Island. I don't care I'm anywhere.
I'm gonna be happy. I love the ocean. I love Newport.
I do love the ocean. Yeah, I do love Newport.
But it's like that's not going to suffice when it's
(31:10):
just so nice to like sit around just with Dawson
in like a playroom with my mom and my sister.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
And yeah, yeah, it's definitely like the I think the
biggest I don't want to say issue, but it's more
it's just like there, it's always there because I can
see it. You know that she's very clearly much happier
anytime she's in Virginia. And not that you're sad here,
but you're just you're always with your mom, You're always
with your sister. Yeah, you know that's where you want
(31:36):
to be, which totally makes sense, you love because then
when you're there with Dawson, it's like Dawson is not
just hanging out with you, Yeah, it's like a he's
hanging out with three or four people at once. So
and then I'm like, you, Chris, when we first got together,
this this train is going to Rhode Island. And then
she was totally fine with that and there's no issues.
(31:58):
But obviously, you.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Know, things have changed, kids changed that you can change that.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
You know, So, I mean, we'll figure it out. I'm
not concerned about it. It's not like she's.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
I'm not like every day I'm like, I can't believe
I'm here. I'm so sad. You know, it's just like
it's kind of more.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Of like a and it's not la a place across
the country, you know, yeah, literally an hour flight.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
Yeah, it sounds like y'all are about to have two places.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
I say that I would like to have, you know,
I said, And in the dream world, we'd have like
the beach house here.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Yeah you know, I mean it's place place.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
Yeah exactly, and you can like AIRBNBA or college students
live in the beach town and.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
So yeah, the Escape Patch just really need to figure
out a way to get more free flights. That's what's
I can just buy.
Speaker 3 (32:43):
I am such a huge Southwest pand here's another shout
out or something I'm not paid for. But their companion
pass is the most brilliant.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
So you guys will determine this later. But this is crazy,
But Jared, I didn't know you owned a lounge in
coffee shop.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
Yeah you didn't know.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
I swear to god, I didn't know. I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
I had no.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
I don't know why I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
Well, you're not supposed to know. It's like it's not
that's not true.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
I think I should know. That's that's information I should know,
I felt really bad.
Speaker 3 (33:14):
We should definitely have shared that.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Yeah, it's probably because Ben Higgins is too busy talking
about his crappy coffee all the time.
Speaker 2 (33:21):
I know it's very good coffee.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
No, I'm just kidding. Shout out to Ben Higgins and
his coffee company.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
Yeah, it was funny. When I first opened, Ben reached
out was like, you know, would you want to carry
generous and I was going to reach out anyway. I think,
you know, it's a perfect fit. So yeah, we opened
Audrey's Coffee House in Lounge. It's in South Kingston, Rhode Island,
in December of twenty twenty one. Audrey is her mom,
So you know, I wanted to name it a family name,
(33:50):
something meaningful to us because it was a family business.
I love the name Audrey reminds me of Audrey's half Burnt,
Audrey Halfburn, and so I just always felt like, oh,
let's get a coffee at Audrey's. It's gotta drink at Audrey's.
It felt right. And so it actually used to be
a different coffee shop that I went to when I
was in college, and so I was very familiar with
the area and just working restaurants all my life. I
always wanted to own and operate my own place and
(34:11):
felt like I could. It's obviously so stressful, the margins
are so small, but I love I do love owning
the place. Like as much as I bitch about it
and complain and it tires me out and it takes
up so much of my time and effort. There is
this feeling of pride that I get from from being
there and being in the midst of the chaos with
(34:35):
you know, other employees that work there, and you know,
they're an attachment of my family now, and it's it's nice.
There's something to be said about the camaradity that a
brick and mortar business brings, especially a small one.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
It's something that's lost today, isn't it. I Mean, there's
so many businesses and things that just are generated and
you're not really getting your you know, your hands dirty,
so to speak. And yeah, I think this generation and
I feel bad that they will miss out on that
brick and mortar experience of what it's like to go
to a building and to have to keep it clean
and to work on it and to stock it and
(35:09):
to grind there and it becomes this place that means
a lot to you.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Oh, one hundred percent. It means so much to me
because Ashley and I another you know point.
Speaker 3 (35:20):
Of these are the two points of contention that.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
You have Pien on is how much time it takes
me there.
Speaker 3 (35:28):
But he likes it, like he doesn't really want to
change that.
Speaker 1 (35:31):
It's a passion.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
It is a passion. And because so many times I've
told her I will change, I will change, I will change,
and I've I've tried, and I've definitely gotten so much better.
Speaker 3 (35:40):
You know, the first six months, you couldn't get worse.
He was there for like we counted one hundred hours
one week, but it was when we didn't have.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
A kid, and we did have a kid. Oh, Dawson
was born in January, a month after reopened.
Speaker 3 (35:55):
Yeah, so it was like a he's watch TV all
day with him.
Speaker 1 (36:03):
He's a throw rug at that point.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Yeah, he's fine, but yeah, it's just I it is
another kid to me, Like I care about it so
much and just like being there, there's nothing, there's not
a better feeling than when someone comes in and sees
me like washing dishes or whatever.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
I need literally unplugged, unclogging toilets.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Unclogging toilets, but most of the time that's very rare. Yeah,
thank god. Yes, but obviously washing dishes, making drinks, making food,
doing whatever I need to do. And it's always nice
when someone who's a fan of the show comes in.
They're like, I can't believe you actually work.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
If there's any fans listening, you're in Rhode Island, go
to Audrey's. Yeah, stop by and order a nice piping
hot cup of generous coffee compliments of Bin.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
Yeah, that coffee is so expensive.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
It goes to a good cause, Yes, nonprofit, which is great.
I wanted to thank you for coming on. But before
we go, there is something that seems to be happening
every time I have someone from the show on. It
may not it may not be the case with you too,
But I just had bread Walmeck on it happened, and
I had Jason Tartick on and it happened. I'm like, Okay,
I'm just gonna make this a thing when I have
(37:17):
Bacheler's and Bacheorettes on. What is the one thing you
wanted to ask me? What's that question? You're like, I
want to know the truth about this. Is there anything
that's a good question?
Speaker 2 (37:31):
Because we've become so much more comfortable with you over
the past few years.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
Say we're intimidated as we're on the show, I would
be so scared. I was so scared to talk to.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
You, which is so funny because I really tried so
hard to ingratiate myself to the cast and to get
to know most of it, but not everybody. But like
I try, you You're so.
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Nice and like so social around us and like open
and welcoming. But I was still like that as a
celebrity in the room, like I can't.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
Oh yeah, yeah. I remember one night at Paradise, we
were waiting for something like Rosa mourn or whatever, and
we were just talking sports, and I remember you said
something like you were busting my balls, and I was like, dude,
Chris Harrison's bust my balls? Do I bust his balls back?
Are you gonna get offended if I say something.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
We're probably talking about the Patriots.
Speaker 2 (38:15):
Oh, you were talking about the Cowboys. It's gonna make
like a Cowboys.
Speaker 1 (38:20):
It's easy to make fun.
Speaker 2 (38:21):
Of Quincy Carter joke or something.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
You could just make a Dak Prescott joke.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
Yeah, I know, man, what something I've always wanted to
ask you. So, how about this at Rose ceremonies, Right,
you show up at like, I don't know, two in
the morning sometimes like that's the first time, like we
see you when you intro and then you come back
at two in the morning. What do you do in between?
Do you sleep?
Speaker 1 (38:44):
I used to so back in the day, I would
stay up, you know, because I was young and you know,
vibrant and could do that. It would be nothing. I'd
get there like probably run ten thirty or eleven or whatever,
have dinner, and I'd sit in the control room because
I needed to listen to what was going on and
see the storylines that were being pushed and to talk,
you know with the producers and all that. So I'd
come hang and then you know we would do uh
(39:06):
tink tank and then you know, break for Rose ceremony.
Then it got to the point where you know, I
had so Chris Sole season still they was probably still
I was sleeping in the closet, you know, and the
so in the Bachler in the bachelor mansion, in the
master bedroom and master bathroom, there's that walk in closet
(39:28):
and that's where Carrie Fetman, my stylist and the stylist
for the show. We would keep all the clothes, and
so they that's the one place in the house there
was no cameras, no lights, no nothing. We would go
in there and that's I would make a makeshift little
bed and we would just sit in there and I
would lay down and go to sleep in the closet.
Speaker 3 (39:47):
If we walked into the closet and just like Chris
Harrison's sleeping dur a cocktail party, amaze.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
And then they got me finally because it wasn't because
they were nice, because lord knows that's not the case.
But they got me at trailer and down by production
and I would come in, make sure I knew what
was going on, get dressed, and you know, sometimes you
stay awake through tink tink, but there was it just
went so long. I would go to sleep and then
Paullie would come wake me up. Big Polly if you
(40:16):
guys don't remember who Polly was, the guy who the
big guy that usually would either kick people out, not
you guys, but people listening, would you know, come get
the suitcases. And that was Polly. And so he would
come wake me up and they drag me back up
for the road ceremony at four, five, six in the morning.
And you know, because I did, I didn't have the
union issues. So what would happen is if your camera, audio, whatever,
(40:39):
you would shoot all night. You shoot your eight hours,
ten hours, whatever it was. We always went into overtime.
But then that crew would go home at six or
seven in the morning, Me and Gina and Carrie make
up wardrobe and myself. We would then turn around and
have to do the date card like two hours. You know,
as y'all remember, we'd get to bed at six thirty
seven in the morning, and then at nine o'clock in
(41:01):
the morning we had to do a date card to
set up the dates for that day. And so I
was the only one that had to turn around and
do that because all the rest of the crews would
change over. And so I would go home for like
an hour. Sometimes it was really depressing. I'd come home
and the kids would be leaving for school, and I
would like hug the kids. I would go lay down
in bed for an hour, shower, shave, and go back
(41:23):
up to the mansion.
Speaker 3 (41:24):
It was really wild, and then could you sleep after that?
Speaker 1 (41:27):
And then I would sleep that afternoon. Usually I wasn't
on that date. I'd make sure I wasn't on that
date that day, so I would sleep that day so
I had to pick the kids up from school at
like two thirty. But you're just a zombie.
Speaker 3 (41:37):
Now.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
I have a question.
Speaker 3 (41:38):
Yeah, what is tink tink?
Speaker 2 (41:41):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (41:41):
That's where I would come in. And that's what we
called the tink tink, like the call the tink tink.
Sorry to break this up, but it's time for the
roads ceremony.
Speaker 2 (41:51):
I have one more question.
Speaker 1 (41:52):
There's even a little glass. We would set it on
the washer and dryer, and you know Pollie would fill
it up because you know, Polly was the floor director
and he's in charge of everything going on on the floor,
so he would like, have my little butter knife, and
then it would say, do not touch tink tink.
Speaker 2 (42:07):
It was I they I know. I don't even know
if you can answer this. If you if they ever
asked you to be a part of the franchise again
in any capacity, would you be open to it.
Speaker 1 (42:22):
I would never say never, you know, I like my
mom taught me well enough to say never say never.
I can't see a world in which I would want that,
or which in which I would think it would be
healthy or good for me. We have the project going
at Merritt Street Media now with Doctor Phil, which is
going to be awesome, and you know, that ship is sailed.
(42:42):
In my life, it was so wonderful and I'm so
grateful for it. It brought me so many blessings. Two of
them are right here in front of me, like the
friends I never thought I was going to meet and
have in my life. So I always look at it
as a blessing. But I think things happen in your
life for a reason, but also for a season, and
that season of my life I think has passed and
(43:03):
I'm excited for the next one. So but it's not
because of like any bitterness of like screw those guys
or whatever.
Speaker 3 (43:10):
What's your relationship with Like with doctor Phil.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
Really bizarrely close now he is.
Speaker 3 (43:15):
He want to know, like what you guys look like
if you're having a beer at the bar.
Speaker 1 (43:18):
Yeah, he's it's more of an I It's it's more
of an iced teeth thing. He's a big iced tea guy.
Speaker 2 (43:22):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
When you go into his office after his show, he
always has iced tea.
Speaker 2 (43:26):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
He does have a sweet tooth and you know, the
first one of our first meetings, we sat there and
we almost emptied out a box of Girl Scout cookies.
But he is such a thoughtful, smart human being. And
he's one of those guys I always say, you run
into a text and he can, you know, because he
has that slow drawl. People like that can be easily
underestimated in life because oh he's he's a redneck, or
(43:49):
he's I dare you to underestimate someone like that. He
is unbelievably smart, brilliant, gets the gets the business, which
is really fun. It's it's been really fun to get
to know him and become friends with him and Robin
and the family, and he's really taken Lauren and I
under his wing and just a sweetheart of a guy.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
That's so great.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
We're so happy for you, guys.
Speaker 3 (44:10):
We're seriously so excited for you.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
Will find your way on. I'm sure we would love
that you and you said, Dawson and Little Brady, Little
Brady Tom Tom Yeah.
Speaker 2 (44:20):
Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom Karate Kid three
Ninches John John John John, Yeah, there we go.
Speaker 3 (44:32):
That would make sense.
Speaker 2 (44:33):
You want to mention John Paul Jones to me today
because his name is John Paul. Yeah, John Paul Jones
is my favorite because my name is John Paul. I
was like, cool, bro, that's a throwback.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Christopher, Chris, Chris. Maybe you know Harrison. Those are good
middle names, those are strong, those are strong presidential names.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
Yeah, Harrison is a very.
Speaker 3 (44:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:54):
I know you guys have to go, but I just
wanted to say thank you for the support the Friends show.
You guys have always been so wonderful. Lauren and I
love you guys to death, and if we don't talk
for some reason between now and two months from now,
I wish you guys all the blessings in the world.
On a healthy, beautiful baby boy.
Speaker 2 (45:12):
Oh, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Our ten year anniversary coming up.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
Ash, I can't wait to see the diamond.
Speaker 1 (45:20):
Bye, guys, thanks for listening. Follow us on Instagram at
the most dramatic pod ever, and make sure to write
us a review and leave us five stars. I'll talk
to you next time.
Hosts And Creators
Lauren Zima
Chris Harrison
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