Fix Your Relationships with Dr. Tiff | Dating, Self-Sabotage, Red Flags, People Pleasing, Love Bombing

A lot of us feel like we only have two options in love:

• Be soft, loving, and walked all over,

OR

• Be strong, guarded, and low-key shut down.

But what if God is actually inviting you into something else: A soft heart and a strong backbone.

If you’re tired of being either “too soft” or “too hard,” then this episode is sure to hi...

Setting boundaries can be difficult. Especially if you tend to love extra-hard. Compound that with all you've learned about love as a 'Christian woman' and it may feel like you've gotten conflicting messages about love and relationships for your entire adult life. If you’ve ever thought, “If I really loved them, I’d stay no matter what,” while also thinking, "I can't keep doing this," this episode is for you.

This week, I'm breakin...

We’ve all heard about the Five Love Languages—Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. But what if there’s a missing piece that your heart has been begging for?

In this episode, Dr. Tiff explores the idea of adding a sixth love language — Emotional Safety — arguing that true love requires a sense of calm, trust, and the freedom to be vulnerable. Using vivid metaphors and personal stories, she...

Does your “chemistry” usually come with anxiety, overthinking, and emotional whiplash? This week, Dr.Tiff breaks down the difference between real chemistry and chaotic familiarity—and why highly driven women are sometimes drawn to what hurts. Turn the volume up and learn the 3 simple questions to ask yourself in order to know for certain.

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Ever wonder how smart, ambitious women end up in some of the messiest relationships? In this fun, light, and a little-bit-messy episode, Dr. Tiff chats with actress/writer/director Tiffany Yvonne Cox about her new vertical series “Unexpected Company”—and the very real patterns it reflects in our love lives. Listen via podcast of WATCH the full episode on YouTube.

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Do you call yourself “low-maintenance,” “chill,” or “easygoing” in relationships—but secretly feel unseen and under-nurtured? In this episode, Dr. Tiff unpacks how the “cool girl” identity is often a survival strategy, not a personality trait, and how it keeps you hustling for love by needing less instead of doing more.

You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of why you’ve been proud of needing less—and how that pride may be q...

A lot of women hear “More Love, Less Hustle” and think, “That’s for people struggling in their romantic relationships. I’m good there.”

But what about the places where you’re not good?

• The parent who never calls unless they need something
• The sibling or cousin who always needs money
• The friend who disappears until they want a favor
• The coworkers or church folks who treat you like the unpaid project manager of everyone’s life
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In Part 2, I'm diving even deeper into how we can stop arguing with red flags. In this episode, I'm breaking down three of the most common red flags high-achieving women explain away—and giving you five powerful questions to ask yourself before you excuse another red flag away. Grab a pen and some paper, because this is episode is where you start interrupting the pattern for real.

Did you miss Part 1? Check out Stop Arguing With Re...

Ever look back and think, “I knew better," or, "why didn’t I leave sooner? The signs were right there.” In Part 1 of this two-part series, I'm breaking down what red flags actually are, what it means to “argue” with them, and why smart, successful women keep debating away the evidence right in front of them.

Don't Miss Part 2: The Red Flags You Debate Away + 5 Questions To Stop The Cycle

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Ever wondered how you can be this smart, this successful, this fine—and still end up with partners who won’t commit, won’t get vulnerable, won’t let you all the way in— And an even bigger question, why do you seem to be drawn to them?

This week on the podcast, Dr.Tiff unpacks the real, deeper reasons high-achieving women get hooked on emotionally unavailable partners and gives you three powerful question...

Are you a high-achieving, hyper-independent woman who is exhausted from working harder for love than you do at your job? If you can crush a presentation, manage multiple teams, and hit every deadline—but your romantic life feels like a never-ending performance review—you're gonna want to lean in for this one.

In this episode, Dr.Tiff breaks down the 8 crystal-clear signs you’re outsourcing love to perfor...

Want to add some whimsy to your goals for 2026 but feeling unmotivated and uninspired? Then this episode is for you.

In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain and letting you in on some of the fun things I have planned for 2026. I'm convinced that having something to look forward to, big or small, can do wonders for your overall outlook, motivation and attitude. This, coupled with your ongoing inner work, is a foundational elem...

Vision boards are cool for some but for others (like me), they're just not enough. I need structure. I need a plan. I need an actual strategy to ensure that I'll actually follow through and CRUSH the goals I set for myself. And let's be honest . . . 2026 is the year for getting our 💩 together and the way to do that, is to ditch the vision boards.

In this week's episode, I'm sharing 6 simple steps to obliterate your goals for 2026 ...

Ever feel like you’re always the one holding it all together—at work, at home, in your friendships, and in your relationship? You’re the dependable one. The responsible one. The “I’ve got it” one. But somewhere underneath all that strength… you’re tired. Perhaps, resentful. Burnt out. And maybe even a little lonely.

This week on Fix Your Relationships, we’re unpacking the cost of being "the strong one"—especially for high-achieving...

Do you ever catch yourself replaying an argument or betrayal in your mind, waiting for the day they finally say, “I’m sorry”? Are you hoping that once they own what they did, you’ll finally feel seen, validated, and free?

If you’ve ever felt like your peace is on pause until someone else apologizes, you’re not alone. On this week's episode of Fix Your Relationships, we’re talking about what it really means to find peace when the ap...

Do you ever feel like saying no is just…impossible? Like your heart wants to help, to nurture, to be there for everyone—so much so that your own needs quietly slip to the bottom of the list?

If “yes” is your default, you’re not alone! This week on Fix Your Relationships with Dr. Tiff, we dive into the challenges women face when it comes to saying no and breaking free from people-pleasing habits. Dr. Tiff unpacks why so many of us f...

Are you ready to break the cycle of anger and build deeper, more fulfilling connections? In this episode of Fix Your Relationships, I'm unpacking the hidden roots anger in relationships and sharing practical strategies to help ambitious women like you transform your frustration into growth and love. Lean all the way in, babes. Your next-level relationship is waiting!!

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Have you ever thought about how you learned to love? Or what it means to be in a loving relationship? How do you know if you're doing it right? How should it feel? And what does love look like?

A lot of what we've learned about love and relationships is established early on, by our parents, or those who took care of us as a child. Those relationships modeled what love "should" look like. But what if what it looked like was toxic? B...

Forget Ciara’s prayer. In this week’s episode of Fix Your Relationships, we’ll confront the mindset that could be blocking you from experiencing better relationships.

If you’ve ever wondered if you’re getting what you’re getting in relationships because of the prayers you’ve been praying, this episode will give you the confidence to pray bold, audacious prayers for the amazing relationship God wants you ...