Ask The CLO - 04.23.25

Our Chief Love Officer, Steve Harvey has advice for:

Naya in Decatur – "I dated a guy for almost 3 years and he told me that he didn’t want to get married. We broke up. Now he’s getting married to someone else this fall. He wants to smooth things over with me. Should I meet with him or wish him well and block him?"

 

Jericho in Toledo – "I’ve been arguing with my wife over a text that she got from our son’s barber. He knows how to get in touch with me if he needs anything, but he texted my wife instead, to tell her our son left his glasses. Fellas, should I go have a talk with him?"

 

Karl in Hackensack – "I’m dating a female that drinks socially and loves to hang out. If we go to dinner, she wants to go to a lounge afterward, then to an after-hours spot and then invite people back to her house. This is almost every weekend. Is this a red flag?"

 

Paula in Anniston – "My boyfriend invited my dad to my birthday party after I told him my parents don’t mix well. My dad brought his wife. My mom said she’ll never forgive us for inviting my dad and she stormed out. Why can’t my mom move on with her life?"

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time for us to ask the clo. This
runs from NYA Indicators Colo. Nya writes, I dated a
guy for almost three years and he told me that
he didn't want to get married. We broke up. Now
he's getting married to someone else this fall. He wants
to smooth things over with me. So should I meet

(00:20):
with him or wish him well and block him?

Speaker 2 (00:23):
What you want to meet with him?

Speaker 1 (00:24):
For?

Speaker 3 (00:25):
H He told you he didn't want to get married,
then he married somebody else. What you didn't hear was
the clear message that I don't want to marry you. See,
when a man tells you listen to me, ladies. A
man will try not to hurt you directly, so he'll
say I don't want to get married. But what he's
really saying to you is I don't want to marry you,

(00:47):
because why else would he say that. He's just telling
you he don't want to marry you. Did he went
off and married somebody else. Now he want to smooth
it over, but you ain't. Why would you entertain this
right because all you're gonna do now is be.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
Off with the role of mistress. That's what's going to happen.

Speaker 1 (01:07):
Wow, that's step two.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
Huh yeah, if you can take this. He worried too.

Speaker 3 (01:13):
Yeah, that's that's all this is. So, I mean block
him and going about your business. He married somebody else.
What he gonna explain you? Do you think a man? Yeah?
I'm really sorry I wasted your time. You know, will
man don't do that that?

Speaker 2 (01:29):
Okay? He just doesn't want to be the bad guy.
Is that what it is? Hello? He doesn't want to
hurt you directly.

Speaker 3 (01:36):
I'm trying to cry so you know, right, so you
know that's the good side of us.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
Moving on to uh Jericho and Toledo, Jericho writes, I've
been arguing with my wife over a text that she
got from our son's barber. He knows how to get
in touch with me if he anything, but he texted
my wife instead to tell her our son left his glasses. Fellas,
should I go have a talk with him? Okay, let's

(02:12):
hear this one.

Speaker 3 (02:14):
Well, Jericho, it's a couple.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
Come, that's bothering you.

Speaker 3 (02:21):
I was thinking he was at least eighty Your son
left his glasses down at the barber shop. I'm assuming
he's a teenager or something, mister j Yeah, but now
let me say this though. Here is the thing. How

(02:42):
does the barber have your wife's number? I don't understand that. Unyes,
y'all son is young. Unless y'all son is young, and
you drop him off to the barber shop and you say,
if anything happens, called either one of us.

Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, that makes sense.

Speaker 3 (02:59):
Along with that, Now I'm assuming that's how he has
a number. No, he just text her. Now you know
he got your number, but he text her. Now you
can run up Jericho, listened to me. Don't run up
on this man down at his shop. A lot of

(03:20):
stuff be under them capes. You not run up on
this man down at his shop accusing him of something
he didn't do.

Speaker 2 (03:29):
Now, listen to me.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
If the text were anything other than hey, your son
left his glasses, then I understand.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
But that's all you got.

Speaker 3 (03:40):
Don't run up on this man because he said, Hey,
what you asking her about the glasses?

Speaker 2 (03:46):
Boy? You gave me both the numbers, and you.

Speaker 3 (03:50):
Know what, he could have just text the number, not
realizing it was her or you and just said, hey,
your son left his glasses.

Speaker 2 (03:56):
It ain't worth it, bro it ain't worth.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
Notice, he addressed the fellows shouldn't go have a talk
with him because you guys are always talking about run
ride down there dot com.

Speaker 3 (04:06):
And you, but this ain't a ride down that dot
Com moment moment. I ain't fighting nobody, ain't Jericho.

Speaker 1 (04:13):
Why why?

Speaker 4 (04:20):
Right?

Speaker 1 (04:22):
All right? Moving on to Carl and Hackensack. Carl says,
I'm dating a female that drinks socially and loves to
hang out. If we go to dinner, she wants to
go to a lounge afterwards, then to an after hour spot,
and then invite people back to her house. This is
almost every weekend. Is this a red flag?

Speaker 2 (04:43):
What you think, bro? What you think if you gotta.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
Ask go to dinner, go to a club out today,
then go to an after spot and you have people
come over.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
Is that a red flag? It ain't. You're standing in
the middle of the flame some fire. Yeah, bro, I
mean waving it.

Speaker 3 (05:10):
Bro. She got too much going on, man, She got
to get some of this out of her system. She's
not ready. She ain't ready to settle down. She likes activity.
She's one of them people that's always seeking fun. She
needs she needs to be stimulated to have fun.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
And doesn't want to be alone.

Speaker 2 (05:28):
Yeah, okay, activity already. I'll go here gonna wear her down. Boy,
she gonna look all way for her time. Wow.

Speaker 1 (05:40):
After party, after party, after the party, after the after party.
Yeah yeah, speak easy, all right. Last one, Steve, This
is from Paula and Anniston. Paula writes, my boyfriend invited
my dad to my birthday party. After I told him
my parents don't make well. My dad brought his wife.

(06:02):
My mom said she'll never forgive us for inviting my dad,
and she stormed out, Why can't my mom move on
with her life?

Speaker 4 (06:10):
Why did your husband invite boyfriend boyfriend? Why your boyfriend
invite to daddy and he bought his wife?

Speaker 2 (06:21):
Man, you know, listen got mad and.

Speaker 3 (06:23):
The mom got mad, probably probably because the reason for
the divorce could be his ways. Now he gonna bring
one of his ways to the who is now his wife.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
Yeah. Now, the mother says she's not gonna forgive.

Speaker 1 (06:41):
Who them her daughter and her boyfriend. She said she'll
never give us for inviting my dad, and she stormed out.

Speaker 3 (06:51):
I think your boyfriend should go over to your mom
and apologize and said and just say, hey, look, it's
my bad. I did it, not not not your daughter.
I did it because I didn't know the gravity of
the situation, and I had no idea he'd bring his wife.
I was just trying to bring both of her parents
over for my girl's birthday. It was an honest mistake.

(07:14):
I'm really, really sorry. Please forgive us. I didn't do
it to hurt you. You got to the boyfriend gotta
go over there and lay that pology down, because you
do owe the woman an apology.

Speaker 1 (07:25):
If she lets him in, because she says she'll never
forgive me.

Speaker 2 (07:30):
Well, but she got to open up though. Mama, come on,
now you're old. What if they get married? What Mama
not gonna go to the wedd and the daddy can't.

Speaker 3 (07:35):
Go to the That's what I'm saying, Mamma, you need
to let this bo You're getting old. You don't need
to carry this already. Ain't got no husband now, you
ain't gonna have no kids.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
You're listening hard Morning show.