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A 64 year old widow is feeling the buzzards at her church and it includes the married pastor.  Is being deeply in love really required for marriage?  A young luxury companion needs help!  Someone's Jane is also in a position of possible blackmail.  Gahhhdog!!!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right. Time now to ask the CLO Chief Love Officer,
Seve Harvey. This one is from Orlanda, Orlanda, Orlanda and Queens.
Olanda writes, I'm a sixty four year old widow and
I've been going to the same church for thirty seven years.
My husband died in January, and now I'm uncomfortable going

(00:20):
to church because the buzzards are circling around me every
Sunday asking if I need anything. I told them I'm fine,
and my children look after me. I told Pastor what
has been going on, and he even said that if
I'm ever lonely, just call on him. He's married. Am
I going to have to leave my church?

Speaker 2 (00:41):
Probably sound like it to me, But I don't know
what you expect, Oh ma'am. I mean, really, you've always
you've probably always always been a stellar member, always kept
yourself looking nice and everything. And now I hit them
buzzards is and they ain't buzzards. Someone might really won't
you for the real reasons, you know, And eventually you

(01:03):
gonna want somebody. So I would stay in and let
them circle until you get ready in and you could
pick the one out this scut that you like circling
and tell them to swoop on in. It can't be pastor.

Speaker 1 (01:15):
No, he's married past the shout out though, Yeah, all right,
moving on. Sky in Nashville says, I'm a twenty eight
year old nurse and I just found out that I'm
pregnant with my second child. I've been messing with my
dad's friend because he pays my bills and treats me
better than men my age. He and my dad fell

(01:36):
out years ago, so he's ready to go public with
our relationship and get married. He's forty two and this
will be his first child. If I tell my parents,
I think it will hurt less, hurt them less if
I say we're getting married. I don't love him, but
I think it would be a great dad. My dad
thinks like you. So what should I expect if.

Speaker 2 (01:57):
You are not in love deeply and mandlie in love
with the person, don't get married. I don't give I
don't give a damn. How good a daddy he can be.
Let him be a good daddy, but that don't mean
he gonna be a great hus Now. He may treat
you better than all the rest, but then what you're
comparing it to see you don't treat you. Don't get
a man because he treats you better rest. You get

(02:18):
a man because you because he treats you the way
you want to. Don't just cause the best of the
you know, you just gonna get the best of the worst.
That don't make no sense, And you're not in love
with him, What in the world are you doing? Just
keep doing what you're doing and getting your bills paid,
and that's gonna wear out because eventually you don't want
somebody but it's not him. Don't marry nobody you're not

(02:40):
in love with. Marriage is too hard, all right?

Speaker 1 (02:46):
Thank you. See A old logan in San Diego says,
I'm a forty four year old married woman and I'm
in a situation with a guy that I work with.
It's nothing sexual, at least not yet. We sext each
other during the day and he sent me a picture
of his g I Joe, and I've sent him pictures
of my Jane. He wants a lunchtime rendezvous, but I

(03:07):
would never cheat on my husband, so that's out. He
sent a message that it's time for us to be
adults and be reminded, and he reminded me that he
has photos of me and his phone. What has happened here?
Do you think he'll actually blackmail me?

Speaker 2 (03:22):
Well, that's what it's called. It's called extortion. Black Man
Highway ros.

Speaker 1 (03:27):
Send Jane though, why she send Jane? If she did,
she sent g I Joe.

Speaker 2 (03:33):
Well that's stupid.

Speaker 1 (03:36):
Is this what lauron coming on?

Speaker 2 (03:39):
Well? I mean you know, here's what you could do,
and you know very very easily. Well, no, you can't
do that. I take that back, you can't.

Speaker 1 (03:50):
But what about Junior's question?

Speaker 2 (03:52):
What is that.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
That?

Speaker 2 (03:55):
Jane? Well, if you married somebody gonna know what you
James just tales to low with the James. You know
you can know my ja Jane, look like I can
tell you right now I known't here. Well, I know
Jane many times. I've been tars I've been everybody in

(04:17):
this movie. I've been tars In and I don't goodn't here.

Speaker 1 (04:20):
Well, I'm James.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
I'm telling you right now. You show me my jam
then I know my Joe. I've been everybody in the movie.
I've been the man and the monkey.

Speaker 1 (04:41):
Man.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
I'm eminem man and monkey.

Speaker 1 (04:46):
So the answer to Junior's question is no, lying will not.

Speaker 2 (04:50):
Come in no hell no, I'm talking about that ain't true.
Got that moved right there? All right, They ain't gonna
do Yeah you're Oh, but I'll tell you what you
need to stop all this. Uh, don't don't fall for
the blackmail because the black male go both ways now

(05:12):
because you know if you try to blackmail you, you
know what I'm saying, We're gonna both lose this job
right here, and.

Speaker 1 (05:18):
He's gonna get his ass.

Speaker 2 (05:19):
Well man, yeah, I'm gonna tell I'm gonna tell my
husband what you did. Now. He gonna have something for you.
You might have something for me too, but you're gonna
get a whole nother something. Oh man, this is too much.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
Yeah, that's a little lot right there. That's a lot.
Seem too much. You're doing that for what.

Speaker 2 (05:42):
I'm talking about. Yeah, you're saying you can't take it.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
Back and it lives forever, all right. Downtawan, Columbia, South Carolina, says,
I'm a twenty eight year old single man and I
work for my girlfriend's mom. I met my girlfriend through
her mother, so her mother knows that I've served time
and I'm on probation now. She doesn't want her daughter
to see me, and I understand that. I also understand
that her daughter is twenty nine and can decide who

(06:12):
she wants to date. I want to shot at real
love with my girlfriend, but her mom's blocking it. Is
there any way to get my boss to trust me?

Speaker 2 (06:21):
Well, you can get the girl. You just ain't gonna
have no job. You can get the girl. You just
ain't gonna had no job. And it's hard to get
a job once you're a convicted felon. So this job
is important to you. Yeah, but I think you all
are going to have to find a way to talk
to the lady and get her to understand. But like
you say, you understand. But bro, you know you can

(06:42):
straighten yourself up. You're in good shape. You're doing the
right thing. Y'all just trying to put yourself together. Man,
Eventually she may have to understand if her daughter go
to her, you know, and y'all go to him the
right way and sit down, or you can sit down
and just you know, find out you ain't working.

Speaker 1 (07:00):
All right, Clo, Thank you, great advice. As usual, you're
listening to The Hardy Morning Show.