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What exactly is "husband material" for real?  How does an unhealed woman in romance get a second chance?  There is some lying going on in The Yay Area and here comes The CLO.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time for ask the CLO Chief Love Officer Steve Harvey
in the building, ready for your questions. Courtney and iHeart
A listener says, I'm thirty and dating a man that's
thirty one, and he tells me all the time that
I'm his soulmate. He's all into me in every way.
He gives me baths and pedicures, and he even will

(00:23):
polish my toenails if I ask him to. He irons
my clothes for me daily, and he cleans up the
kitchen if I cook. We never argue, and if we
ever disagree, we settle it quickly.

Speaker 2 (00:35):
Well, it's just letterful.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
Listen, He's so different than any other guy I've dated.
My daddy says he's soft and won't make a good husband.
How can my daddy make such a negative assumption.

Speaker 2 (00:48):
Yeah, it's better to be soft and feel soft. Well,
none says that the man is soft, just soft to
his daddy.

Speaker 3 (00:55):
Maybe her father's hard and made may and he's a
good husband. So he thinking, because this dude a hard,
he must be soft. I got lady, If you have
no complaints, don't let your father create one.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
This guy's a dream.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
There you go, ash, Well, I can't say that, all right?
What I can't say.

Speaker 3 (01:20):
That because somebody I was gonna say, maybe you should
ask your mom how happy she's been with and how
she would feel with some treatment like that.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
Because your daddy he ain't gonna do none of that.
He owes to that.

Speaker 1 (01:35):
Yeah, all right? Moving on Kenetra in Memphis Rights. I'm
a forty two year old divorced woman and I fell
in love with the perfect guy, but I ran him
away by being paranoid. I had a rough marriage and
my husband cheated, so I developed bad habits, like checking
his phone and popping up at places he was hanging out.
I carried this behavior into my new relationship and was

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always accusing my new guy of messing around. I want
a second chance with him, and I want him to
know that I changed. How do I start the conversation
with him?

Speaker 2 (02:07):
Luggage? You know what? You know what?

Speaker 3 (02:10):
What? Boy?

Speaker 2 (02:13):
I was tripping?

Speaker 3 (02:15):
You know, you know it's so crazy, cause you know,
I know you're a good man, but I'm so stupid.
I'd be just checking your phone and you know you
ain't even know. I'd be outside the bar waiting on you.
I'll be in your house that crazy and I just
you know, I've just been you know, but it was
my ex.

Speaker 2 (02:31):
He just made me his way.

Speaker 3 (02:33):
But and you know what, I'm not gonna do that
anymore because I think I found what I'm looking for.
You know.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
Yeah, yeah, it might work, but I doubt it all right, So,
Tony in the Bay Area says, I'm a thirty three
year old married man raising my two daughters while my
wife is in jail for sixteen months. She committed credit
card fraud, and I was clue list when she got arrested.

(03:02):
The problem I'm having now is that she only calls
us once a week if then she calls her mom daily,
and it ticks me off. Her mom said, she's still
ashamed to talk to me. But I don't believe that
she had a whole side hustle that I didn't know about.
So do you think she has a side due too?
Am I being a fool for waiting for her? Wow?

Speaker 2 (03:24):
Whoa a side?

Speaker 4 (03:25):
Do?

Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (03:27):
He wants to know.

Speaker 3 (03:27):
Yeah, well you don't know what. Yeah, but bruh, listen
to me. Credit card There ain't got nothing to do
with a side, dude. She might be, you know, honestly,
just embarrassed. The mom could be right. I don't know
where you got the other.

Speaker 1 (03:48):
Dude from because she kept that from him, you know,
she she more, she keeps secrets.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
So he's okay, Well, well, well okay, okay, Then go
with that theory, you know, go with that theory and
see how that work out for you. Sometimes being paranoid
about stuff that you have no facts on it, it's
a waste of time. It's like, why are you're tripping
yourself out about something that you don't even have the facts.

Speaker 4 (04:15):
But uncle, if she lied about that, what he thinking
is she probably has some most skeletons, That's what it is.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
Well, excuse me, but nephew, turning.

Speaker 3 (04:24):
Because you lie about one thing, don't mean that you
lie about everything.

Speaker 2 (04:28):
Well nothing when I lie, well, nor when I lie? No,
surely no, because.

Speaker 1 (04:36):
This you usually have, you know, when you tell one
tell another line another life.

Speaker 2 (04:41):
But you I mean, I'm just saying this.

Speaker 3 (04:44):
Because you lie about one thing, don't mean you'll lie
about all things.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
Now.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
If you want to accept the paranoialal and act on it,
then go ahead. But the woman might not have nothing
to do with no other dude. She called once a week,
she and bad she called her mama daily. How close
once y'all before she went in Wady, not as close
as he thought they were. Why was you doing all

(05:10):
this anyway? I mean, why was she doing all this anyway?
Something else is going on, bro, And now you're thinking
it's another dude in the picture. When she went to
jail for credit card fraud, she didn't go to jail
with an accomplish.

Speaker 4 (05:26):
That was a dude. She went by herself. Maybe we
need to see what she was buying with the credit card.
I mean we got hotels on it and a whole
bunch of other stuff.

Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah see, you know, why don't we just letting mister
negativity here?

Speaker 1 (05:40):
He's a person's raised raising daughters.

Speaker 2 (05:44):
I'm talking about. I don't know how I became negativity.
I'm negativity.

Speaker 3 (05:50):
She just letting him ask all the little negative asked
questions so he can break up this family.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
All right, we're moving We're moving on. I know you
agree with him, Jay, because you you ignorant, So stands me.

Speaker 1 (06:06):
Let's get to this one. Ken and Huntsville says, I'm
fifty two and I recently met a fifty five year
old man on an online dating site. He has never
been married and he is one adult child. I am
divorced and I have one child in college. I bought
a small house after my divorce, and he's living in
a one bedroom apartment. We both are teachers, and we're
both Baptists. Other than that, we don't seem to be

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on the same page. To be honest, I had hoped
to meet a man that didn't still live in an apartment.
Am I focused on the wrong thing? Should I get
to know him anyway?

Speaker 2 (06:36):
CLO?

Speaker 3 (06:36):
I mean, you got every right to focus on what
you want to focus day your priorities. If you want
a man that's a home owner fifty two, then maybe
that's one of your qualifications.

Speaker 2 (06:47):
And you can pass up on a good man. If
he ain't never been married, maybe he ain't never had
a reason by the house. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (06:54):
Oh he couldn't live with somebody. He just said he
ain't been married. You know, he ain't living with nobody.

Speaker 1 (06:59):
You know, mh All right, well, thank you, so allon
once again.

Speaker 3 (07:03):
You can ask mister negativity what he wanted to do
about it. Let everybody off, you know, let everybody just
break up.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
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