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August 7, 2024 15 mins

He is the senior pastor of the Lighthouse Church and Ministries in Houston, Texas and a best selling author.  He is here to talk about his latest book Lazy Love: Recognizing and Reversing the 4 Threats to any Successful Relationship.

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Ladies and gentlemen. As promised, we got a special guest
this morning for the first time.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
Now.

Speaker 1 (00:08):
I met him for the first time this year my
golf tournament. But I felt like I knew him because
I had been following him on Instagram and I just,
I'm always was amazed at a lot of his messaging
and I was just a fan of his. Little did
I know. And he was a fan of mine, which

(00:30):
I didn't know. And so when he came to the
golf tournament we met. Now, what made our meeting unique
the first time we met was after the golf tournament
was over. We went out on the golf cart on
the golf course and we sat and we talked for
about an hour. I have never ever talked to anybody
on a golf course for an hour in my life ever,

(00:51):
and we wasn't playing. We've been in touch with each
other ever since. It's been beneficial to the both of us.
This morning, he is a special guest of the show.

Speaker 3 (01:01):
UH.

Speaker 4 (01:01):
This is UH.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
Pastor key On. He's a best selling author. He is
the senior pastor of the Lighthouse Church and Ministries in Houston, Texas. UH,
and he's he's got a new book out. And this
book just came out, everybody. The book is called Lazy Love,
and he's joining us this morning to talk about this book.
I think it's impactful. It's gonna be able to help

(01:23):
a lot of people. So please welcome to the show
for the first time, my dude, my man, pastor key
On Henderson, and welcome.

Speaker 2 (01:34):
Thank y'all for having me. That introduction coming from the
man himself. I'm literally watching family sees now, so thank you,
thank you.

Speaker 4 (01:44):
Continue to need you to watch it for at least
two more years.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
I got a couple of things I'm working on, and
just two more years and then y'all can do what
you want to do with family few kee, how you.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
Feeling man, I'm doing great, sir.

Speaker 4 (01:57):
How are you doing well?

Speaker 2 (01:58):
Hey?

Speaker 4 (01:59):
Listen, man, you got this new book out. The book
is called Lazy.

Speaker 1 (02:02):
Love, and uh the underlying uh I guess the subtitle
of it is recognizing and reversing the four threats to
any successful relationship.

Speaker 4 (02:15):
The four threats to any successful relationship.

Speaker 1 (02:18):
And this book is a god for strengthening just all
types of relationships, whatever you in, whether it's family, job, uh,
you know, love, whatever it is. Uh, So talk to
us about this book. Bro, What what?

Speaker 4 (02:30):
What? What is the takeaway for us here?

Speaker 2 (02:34):
So so again, thank you for having me so recognizing
and reversing the four threats to any successful relationship. You know,
when I when I was writing this, it really didn't
start off as a book. It started off as a
sermon on a Sunday that just so happens to fall
on or near Valentine's Day. And I thought, well, let

(02:54):
me just preach something about love. And I was. I
was reading the script, sure, and the Bible said in
Hebrew six it said he will not forget your works
and the love you have shown. And then the last
part of the verse said he does not want you
to become lazy. And that concept just hit me. Is like,

(03:15):
you know, you know, you think about lazy when it
comes to work, you think about lazy when it comes
to your dreams. But I've never heard anybody talk about
being lazy as related to love. And one of the
translations said for lazy, it said sluggish. And then I
looked up sluggish it said sloth. This is when the
idea popped off in my head. I looked up a

(03:37):
slow found out that the sloth doesn't move slow because
it's a slow animal. It moves slow because of the
diet it has. So the sloth is almost drunk when
he eats his leaf. And that's the concept I thought.
Is it possible that we could be addicted to the
thing that makes us love improperly? You know? Is it

(03:59):
possible that we have traumas that have been passed down
to us, Things that we've digested are ingested but not
yet digested. If you were loved imperfectly by a parent,
then they passed that love on to you. And only
thing you know how to do is you know how
to love the way you were loved. And so we're
all in this imperfect love cycle trying to get it right.

(04:19):
We either withhold our hearts because we're afraid of it.
We become frustrated because we're not loved the way we
want to. We struggle to accept affection because we didn't
have it growing up, and we confuse sex with intimacy.
And those really are the four threats that keep all

(04:41):
of us from experience of love on a high level.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
I have all the board. My father raised me this way.
What I found was my sons actually needed something else.
But I was just duplicating what was done to me.
So I could see that as a form of lazy love,
you see.

Speaker 2 (04:59):
Yeah, because you can't give somebody what you don't have.
My father's God arrest his soul. My father had me
when he was forty two years old, and my mom
gave me permission to ship. My father was still married.
You know, he had me. It was a situation. It

(05:20):
is what it is. My mom's the greatest mom in
the world. I love it a life, and anybody say
anything about it, I forget. I'm a pastor and choke.
That's another story. But I know, I know he won't
he So I've got this thing where I was so
mad mister Harvey at my father all my life because

(05:42):
the dude wasn't there for me. And it wasn't until
I got to be forty two years old and became
a married man and got in my own relationships and
found out, No, you can't judge nobody when you twenty
and they was fifty. You got to wait until you
get in the situation and circumstance to find out that

(06:02):
twenty year olds don't make the same decisions that forty
year olds make. You're not under the same kind of
pressure and so here we are hating somebody, but we
don't have the experience. The experience will show you that
you got to have more love and grace for people.
And sometimes you gotta wait until you arrive at their
mile market before you get judge them for the decision
they made on the journal.

Speaker 4 (06:24):
Right there, that's what we all need.

Speaker 1 (06:26):
That Hey, Pastor key hang on one second, man, We're
gonna come back with more with Pastor key On.

Speaker 4 (06:31):
And the book is called Lazy Love.

Speaker 1 (06:32):
Everybody is available on Amazon, you can download it anywhere
that they sell books. We'll be back to talk to
Pastor key On Henderson from Lighthouse Church over in Houston
right after this.

Speaker 4 (06:43):
You're listening morning showing a hight everybody.

Speaker 1 (06:47):
We're back and we have our special guests this morning
as the senior pastor of the Lighthouse Church and Ministries
in Houston. Pastor key On Henderson, he's got a book
out called Lazy Love and what is lazy love and
how we all may suffer from it? Unknowingly I know
I have, and so he's back with it. So uh,
let me come out up here for a second. Firstball,

(07:08):
This is my friend. Though, then if you'll just steal
my friend. You ain't.

Speaker 3 (07:11):
Don't. Don't jump in here and steal in my friend.
Man that if my friend I just sat on and
talk with him. My eye on the card too, So
I'm don't do that. Don't come in here and steal
in my friend.

Speaker 1 (07:22):
Y'all's one hour conversation on the golf course didn't amount
to nothing. But listen, This book, Lazy Love is available
for download now, or you could purchase it anywhere that
books are so Amazon, bonds and Noble targets out there.

(07:42):
We're back with ke On, Hey Keith, So let me
ask you something, man, have you found that to you?

Speaker 4 (07:50):
I say, pastor Keo.

Speaker 2 (07:54):
That is my name?

Speaker 1 (07:56):
Any of those I'm not to get on here and
play what y'all this?

Speaker 4 (08:03):
Hey man, let me ask you something.

Speaker 1 (08:04):
Do you find that most people in some form of
fashion suffer from lazy love?

Speaker 2 (08:10):
Absolutely? And you know what I would venture to say,
all at some point in time, I mean, we all
get it right sometimes, but we're all imperfect. And so
anybody who thinks that they get it right every time
is lying to the person they're talking to and themselves.
And here's the thing about love. Most people only know
how to love people the way they want to be

(08:31):
loved themselves. But the problem is, you can't love somebody
the way you want to be loved. You have to
love the person the way they need to be loved.
For example, imagine walking inside a restaurant and the chef says, today,
I'm only serving fish, doing shrimp cocktail. He says that

(08:54):
to me, I got to raise my hand and say, sir,
I'm allergic to seafood. So you're getting ready to feed
me something. It may be convenient for you, but it's
gonna kill me. So we're all we're chefs who don't
seek the approval of the person who is getting ready
to eat. What's the diet that's good for you? You know,

(09:17):
what's the love? So I could buy you a gift,
but maybe your father was rich, so gifts don't mean
anything to you. I could give you physical touch, but
you might not want to be touched. You may need
words of affirmation. So a good chef doesn't just make
you eat whatever they cook. So a person who loves
you has to find out what are your allergies? Because

(09:41):
I've got to love you in the way that won't
make you sick. I gotta love you in the way
that won't make you fearful. I have to love you
in a way that won't make you resentful. My mother
always told me, she said, son, you can give without loving,
but you cannot love without giving.

Speaker 1 (09:58):
I know that's right. Hey, Pastor key hang on one second.
We're gonna come back with more break. We'll be right.

Speaker 4 (10:08):
You're listening Morning Show.

Speaker 1 (10:11):
All right, everybody, we're back in our special guest. This
morning's Pastor key On Henderson. Uh who is the senior
pastor at the Lighthouse Church of Ministries in Houston, Texas.

Speaker 4 (10:21):
His book is out now. It's called Lazy Love.

Speaker 1 (10:23):
We've been talking about it and it's available on Amazon.
It's available on all download platforms. You can get it
in Bonds and Nobles targets called Lazy Love. We're gonna
put this Steve Harvey Nation behind it and get this
thing on the best seller list. Uh So, but I
wanted to talk to you, Pastor Keyon, because you got
the Lighthouse. Uh the church in Houston that you passed him.

(10:48):
It's suffered. I was because I was following it online.
You know, you suffered a huge hit with that storm man.
So what what what? How's how's the church coming? Is
that chance to rebuild it?

Speaker 4 (10:59):
What? What? What's going on with the church itself?

Speaker 2 (11:02):
Yeah, we be honest with you as art we're going
through it. I mean, you know, the building is hit
pretty bad and we haven't been in it since July eighth.
We have no floors, no carpet, The drywall had to
because there's no ceilings. It was water in one hundred
percent of that building. Every square into that building was

(11:24):
covered in water. And so right now we're renting Lakewood Church,
thank God for them. We're renting that church every Sunday
night in the month of August, and we got to
find out where we're going to go in September. So
we just kind of we're going along as we can.
One thing I can say, our church is resilient. And

(11:44):
I've been telling the people. You know, the building is closed,
but the church is low. You know, we didn't we didn't.
We didn't rely on that building to get here, and
I'm not going to rely on it to go forward.
And then our church is fifteen years old. It's took
us five years to get a building. We were shut
down two years during COVID, so half of our years.

(12:05):
We didn't have a building anyway. So if that's what
we need to grow, then we're not doing you know,
the Great Commission. All we need is God and we
need these people to stay together. We still are open,
we're still clothing and naked. Actually save feet in the
hungry we got. You know this coming Friday, we're going
to give away backpacks and school supplies to seven hundred kids.

(12:30):
I refuse to let a building define the work we've
done over the last fifteen years. So the building is
in bad shape, but the church is still in good shape.

Speaker 1 (12:39):
He owned the land and the building before it was
a church. He gave the land and the building to
his ministry to make it a church. He owned the
building and the land before. It's an amazing story.

Speaker 2 (12:54):
Man.

Speaker 1 (12:54):
He's not gonna tell you that because he's not gonna
brag about it. But I just want you all know
the type of person this cat is right here. And
I learned a lot talking to him, and also passed.
When you thought you had made a mistake when you
said you had fed the naked a minute ago, don't
worry about that.

Speaker 4 (13:09):
That's actually not a mistake because I have done that too.
And jeez, that that ain't in the book. Right there?
They was great. Can we say hip just till Shawn

(13:29):
hell for at sleep her first lady?

Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yes, beautiful. I want you all to go online today
to Amazon. I want you to get out to Target.
I want you to get out the Bonds and Nobles,
and I want you to buy a copy of this
book called Lazy Love. People judging you from from a
decision you made in your twenties, and you don't know
until you get in your fifties what that decision was

(13:54):
based on, because I get caught up like that all
the time. And of course I did some things in
my twenties that I would not do now. But you
can only make your decisions based on the knowledge that
you got at that particular time you got to grow.
I think this book will go a long way in
helping a lot of people that's going through a lot,
So everybody.

Speaker 4 (14:10):
The book is called Lazy Love.

Speaker 1 (14:13):
You can get a copy of it on Amazon, Bonds
and Noble, and Target. Hey, key, one last thing, man,
is that anyway, if people want to make a donation
they help your church out, where could they go?

Speaker 2 (14:24):
They can just go to LA's Houston Dot Church. You'll
see the giving tab on there and be quite frank,
I thank you for even saying that I would never add,
but anything that anyone could give in this recovery effort
would definitely help us to stay afloat.

Speaker 1 (14:39):
Well, we put it on the website and make it available. So, hey, brother,
thank you for joining us this morning. Steve Harvey Nation,
you're gonna do what we do. Let's get online today,
y'all and get a copy of the book. It's called
Lazy Love by Pastor key On Henderson Keith. Thank you
for joining us this morning.

Speaker 2 (14:55):
Man, Thank y'all so much. Tommy love you man. I
appreciate you all much. Love.

Speaker 3 (14:59):
Brother tried to take another friend of mine.

Speaker 4 (15:04):
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Speaker 2 (15:09):
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