Social Media Advice - 04.22.25

Cecil on Steve Harvey FM writes… "I got divorced from my wife of 11 years about six months ago, and I finally feel like I’m ready to move on and meet new people. Last week, I met a woman who seems to be extremely cool. I’m not interested in getting married again. Anyway, I’m just now learning about all the toxic stuff that can go with social media. I have 11 years of memories stored in my profile pages, and I have zero interest in going through it all and deleting every picture of my ex-wife. However, that’s exactly what mutual friends of this new woman that I’m dating, think I should be doing. I’m still friends with my ex…I just have no interest in being with her anymore. None. Zero… I have even less interest in going through 11 years of pictures and individually deleting ones that might make someone else feel insecure. Is this really necessary? It feels beyond petty to me, and I have better things to do with my time."

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Cecil On Steve Harvey FM Wrights. I got divorced from
my wife of eleven years about six months ago, and
I finally feel like I'm ready to move on and
meet new people. Last week, I've met a woman who
seems to be extremely cool. I'm not interested in getting
married again anyway. I'm just now learning about all the
toxic stuff that can go with social media. I have

(00:23):
eleven years of memory stored in my profile pages, and
I have zero interest in going through it all and
deleting every picture of my ex wife. However, that's exactly
what mutual friends of this new woman that I'm dating
think I should be doing. I'm still friends with my ex.
I just have no interest in being with her anymore.

Speaker 2 (00:42):
None. Zero.

Speaker 1 (00:44):
I have even less interest in going through eleven years
of pictures and individually deleting ones that might make someone
else feel insecure. Is this really necessary? It feels beyond
petty to me, and I have better things to do
with my time.

Speaker 3 (00:58):
Wow are they your photo section of your phone?

Speaker 1 (01:03):
How the social media pages?

Speaker 2 (01:07):
He's saying there on his Oh.

Speaker 3 (01:09):
I thought was on the phone? Oh yeah, yeah, oh yeah,
you guys should go delete that?

Speaker 2 (01:15):
Oh you think you're kidding, right, you're kidding.

Speaker 3 (01:21):
Yeah, okay, surely, let me ask you a question. Do
you think I have any pictures of my ex on
my social media?

Speaker 2 (01:28):
Oh no, absolutely not. Let me ask you a question,
should you have any pictures?

Speaker 3 (01:35):
Okay? Now, why that's such a crazy idea that I said,
you need to delete these pictures. I'm trying to understand
why that's crazy.

Speaker 1 (01:44):
Well, you know what, because of the reason they're asking
him to do it.

Speaker 2 (01:48):
I mean, he just met this woman.

Speaker 1 (01:49):
He's got to delete all these pictures. Yeah, they're friends
of her, and he and his ex wife are still friends.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Bruh, bruh.

Speaker 3 (02:03):
Don't let your pass mess up a shot at your future.
What you mean y'all still friends? What y'all get a
divorce for? Maybe they got a kid.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
Yeah he didn't say that, But.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
So they just can't be cool, So he can't keep
keep those pictures up.

Speaker 2 (02:24):
Pictures.

Speaker 3 (02:24):
Listen to me, Nobody, nobody wants to get into a
relationship with somebody with obvious baggage. We still friends. I'm
not gonna take her out of my life. That right
there is a red flag for a woman. And then
he said he's not interested in getting married right now.
I appreciate the honesty, but ladies, you gotta stop collecting

(02:47):
red flags. When you see a red flag, leave it
in the ground and move around it. If the man
tells you I'm not interested in marriage right now. If
a man tells you I'm still friends with my ex.
If a man tell you he don't feel like erasing
all those pictures, you don't think that's a red flag.

(03:08):
Now you want to get in that relationship when clearly
he ain't over the old relationship.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Well, he just says it seems beyond petty to him,
and he has better things to do with this time.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
That's all he said. No, he don't. He's not busy.
You ain't that busy, dumb, He's just not. Oh wow, okay,
yeah you're not.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
You listen to me. Men make time for what they want.
Ladies that, oh I don't have time for that. He
don't want to make time for that. Men make time
for everything they want. That's a factor about men.

Speaker 2 (03:44):
It's the very true statement right there. Yeah, I agree
with that. Here you go, let me tell you something.

Speaker 3 (03:49):
If this chick was fine and he thought he had
a future with it, he be in there racing all
that here.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
He's just been completely wipe it all out. Time we'd
on a.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
Whole new panem or instant, no more face Snapchat.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
You ain't got no blue check on Instagram or nothing.
Just don't cut out all the little pictures.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
All right? Okay, answer surprisingly, Steve. But okay, I see
your parent. He's dropping knowledge this morning.

Speaker 3 (04:20):
Got it, got it.

Speaker 2 (04:22):
I didn't think he was gonna say that either yours.

Speaker 3 (04:25):
I mean, really, man, if you, why would you allow
your past to mess up a shot at your future?

Speaker 2 (04:30):
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